I love my own company, I don't lie to me , I don't ramble on about meaningless, materialistic crap, I don't insult me, I don't use me, I don't take advantage of me, I allow me to be me without judgement. I love me, I love peace.
I started dating someone after 6 years of celibacy, it didn't last too long because thats exactly how that person made me feel.. but i will not let that affect me in changing for the better and quit isolating myself
No drama, just peace. I love my Boston terriers, my art, my guitar, my cooking, my plants, my bike and nature. I do what I want, when I want, how I want.
One can admire the art of tugging the one eyed monster in comparison to say a hooker or a girl that would mostly enjoy using me anyways for financial purposes and rewarding me with sex and an emptiness I didn’t even want with the fusion of our bodies. One could even say a reliable hooker is far more enjoyable than a fake girlfriend that will undoubtedly break my heart because I’m stupid and gullible enough to still be a hopeless romantic. We’re such a sex obsessed society, I feel that popping one off is far more important than finding the wrong significant other. Kudos to everyone that enjoys a good and healthy tug. 😅
Growing up I noticed I preferred to be alone. It's not due to trauma it's pure choice. My teachers and school staff would force me and put me in groups. I hated group work I preferred to work alone but everyone around me told me I needed to make friends and that it wasn't normal to isolate myself. After some years I started feeling terrible for not craving social interaction. People also assumed I was mute. I tried but it's not in my nature. Just spending time with family is more than enough for social interaction. With the time I spend alone I usually sketch,paint or do something along those lines. I enjoy comics too. I only enjoy the company of my dog and after some years of been forced to socialize I decided to embrace who I am and not let a group of people make me feel bad for my choices.
I've been alone for 73 years - by choice! Never, ever regretted my choice. So relieved I don't have horrible family burdens or chaos. If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't change a thing..... VERY happy 😊
@@Robert10075 There's actually people who are much more happier on their own for very long periods of time... small interactions, in between. It's called introversion, yet an introvert's brain doesn't run off dopamine but more dependant by acetylcholine.
Growing up as an abused and neglected child, my happiest times were alone with my doggie. I grew up and tried to be a social being, but I didn't know anything about real bonding. I failed. I finally realized it was not just that most people are very self-centered and motivated by their own wants and needs, but I found that I was not willing to be a scapegoat just to be with people. I am not happy alone, but I am content alone - with my doggie.
What a weird way to live, for some reason I feel alone, although I'm not, but nobody really reaches out to me, I'm 36, I'm not a bad looking guy, but I've been turned down so many times, at least 70 times, I wonder why that happens, if most of the time I just wanna take a lady on a date, I gave up on dating, and friends..! 😢
"very self-centered and motivated by their own wants and needs..." and didn't' want to entertain you and accommodate for your baggage? Sure, so selfish of them! Probably it is just the way you worded it, but feels like while being neglected as a child - you got an idea somebody owes you something. " a scapegoat just to be with people.." So, being less than self-centered on yourself makes you a scapegoat? :D There is absolutely no logic in your words. Get your head look at.
@@DanielHernandez-ij4gy Stop doing that. Stop asking ladies that reject you on a date. It is you who chose them. Choose different ladies. Choose the ones that are open for a date, to begin with. Don't cry me your river. Go and figure out what it is that makes you choose ones that reject you.
Yes, I'm the same. Most of my life, particularly later life (I'm nearly 64), has been a solitary one, avoiding people. Never married, no children and romances far and few between, I find that most people are emotionally draining. I don't fit into this world...... and I'm living a pretty fine life, quietly.
I'm almost half your half and I wonder if that'll be me because that is me so far. I go out and hang out with friends every now and then but just spending the night out with my friends but at times it seems mentally demanding.
@@sethnaugle984 As long as you're comfortable with where you are in life is probably the main thing. It took me a long time to feel comfortable that my outlook and approach to life. All the best.
@@ambientalholocaust It's not a bad way to go, as long as you're comfortable with your situation and not worried about what other think or conforming with social norms. All the best.
As an introvert, I'm not anti social, I'm selectivity social. But life has taught me I can only rely on myself. Hey, the sun is alone and it still shines. The "lows" of social interaction pulled down the "highs" of social interaction. I'm better and less hurt being alone. No one can hurt me.
I can be very introverted but I still try to interact as much as possible so that I can stand up for myself in a better presentable way. Even though I hate interacting with new people and I can get awkward if I'm meeting someone new alone.
I don't mind solitude at all. I travel alone, dine alone in restaurants, cinema, theater... I've done it all. Over time, however, I've learned, that the memories from the solo experiences are far weaker, then memories created with people I like or love. The vast amount of time in solitude, has given me plenty of time to self reflect and get to know myself. Now I will never turn down the company of someone I like or love, but I will (almost) never attend social interaction just to socialize...
Love this comment. So true. I just made one myself saying basically the same things! Solo traveling or going to the restaurant are way better than meaningless moments/company. But experiences with people we love, aligned with our values give so much more!
@lostinature I've traveled alone many times myself and have gone to plays and restaurants and movies and Disneyland by myself and have enjoyed every minute of it. Two perks of not being with another are: 1. No one to question my choices. 2. I'm free to interact with strangers if I choose. 😊 Thanks for sharing.
This hit home so hard. I prefer to be alone because it’s where I feel most authentic. I don’t have to partake in meaningless conversations and the same matrix scenes. It’s hard to connect deeper with people who are extremely attached to the world. There is more than just this character we play. I want to connect with myself. My soul. I’m never alone if I have my cats anyway. 😊 they’re the best company.
Being alone takes me away from people's drama and spitefulness. I spent a lifetime, from childhood, being told I'm broken, useless and not part of the world. I grew up as a loner and an outsider and I've used that to my advantage now. The past 10 years has shown us that people are not going to change for the better so I'm keeping out of the way. I still travel, which I love, and go to gigs but on my own. Bliss.
Remember, whether you like it or you don't like it, but within your body, you are ALWAYS alone. And being alone is a true Superpower, if you learn to embrace it. 😊😊
Remember, you're a group organism that came out of someone's vagina. Also this is a corporate-backed channel that wants you to blame yourself for things that are overwhelmingly the government's fault and have gotten worse in the last 20 years. He covers literally no other aspects of "philosophy".
I often find social interactions exhausting. Most of the time I just end up listening to their rant or they'll vent and I'll just pretend I'm interested but secretly can't wait to get away.
Alone is actually a good thing. No toxic relationship, no useless words and conversations. Also, social with people have similar ideals and goals. Minimize social interaction is good for mental and spirital health like you are meditating during alone without socializing.
I disagree. Personally I need social interaction to do stuff. Im pretty outgoing and enthousiastic for basically anything. People don’t like me thought so fuck em.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... Before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I love nothing more than being alone. When I'm forced to be around people either at work or even running errands, I'm absolutely completely drained. Plus im an introvert so yea. I'm not going out unless I have no choice
But wait! When us "hermits" go out in public to do marketing and other errands it is A GREAT OPPORTUNITY to sneak in some much needed SOCIALIZATION. Choosing to strike up a friendly brief conversation with a stranger can be PLEASANT and FUN. Give it a try. Be brave for once. It is a safe way to briefly connect with another human being. It takes courage at first but once you get the hang of it you will be surprised at how much better you feel going home to once again be alone. You may find out that you are actually quite a charming and chatty person. SURPRISE 😊 !!! Give it a try...I dare you. ❤
I enjoy being with those people I love and care about, but after spending that social time, I feel scattered and drained. I then scurry back to the other things I enjoy doing alone, which are many. I am never bored. For my entire life, I have always found enjoyable and productive activities to fill my time. Many times, those activities can result in being beneficial to others, as well.
I’ve been a loner with a book since childhood and people have ALWAYS given me grief for it, but solitude is my happy place and I refuse to be bullied into socializing when it doesn’t suit me. Friendly People give me their telephone numbers almost every day, but for some reason I never call and although I occasionally feel guilty for not reaching out, I am happy on my own with my dog for company. People exhaust me with their superficial chatter, but a good book never disappoints. Cheers!
I am with you I find it very easy to meet/connect with people/ network but when it comes down to it I like that the interactions are in passing because having to invest fully in the relationships means taking away from precious alone time 👀 Time that we can never get back to cultivate ourselves in some way. Most people are very offended by this.
@@juliamichelle6212well said. I just don't feel like investing the time and energy. Not sure if that's being selfish, or as some people say about me, being snobby when I just have nothing really to say in superficial conversations. But I hear you,👍
@@billeagle51 Incredibly ironic that it's seen as snobby to not want to participate in superficial conversations. go figure! To be in this world but not of this world. Many people just want to bitch about their first world problems and need to check themselves. Whaat can we do 🙄
The first thing that women ask is do you have any kids. Then do you have any grandchildren. Then to be polite, you ask them back and then they start...
People don’t like that I can be alone. To be honest it was a choice for me. I usually explain to others that “I’m a loner by choice, not by force.” I enjoy being on my own. Finally I found a video that explains what I’m trynna say. And to that I say thank you 🙏🏽 💯
I’ve always been an introvert, when I started going bald as a young man I suddenly saw how differently I was being treated and how society is very shallow. I could see that some people had lost respect for me because I didn’t look like others my age. Everything is just about getting rich, climbing the social ladder, and gossip. I really hate all of that I just want to live a simple peaceful life with a few people that I can really trust.
Yes dont want any of that though i kiddded myself for years i did (helped by drink and substance abuse🤣) Theres nothing good about Normal life just pure enslavement 😂
Good thing your not trapped in a huge major city. It's ALL ABOUT making money!! Truth be told AS SOON AS I make enough money I'm leaving the u.s to a Latin country for better weather and to live in the woods! Once I started traveling it AMAZED me how poor people on other countries are so happy and welcoming! I NEVER experienced that in the u.s! Now my goal is to at least make enough build a house in another country and leave!
i came home from the military to have no friends, or family. everyone had moved on, passed away, or died in combat. its very difficult to make new friends when you've spent 20 years in the army to get out and have nobody to even talk to. you go from a brotherhood, to friendless. i've accepted loneliness as a way of life at this point. i have been solo with no friends going on 12 years now. people look at you like you're fucking crazy when you try to make friends as a 47-year-old adult. i have completely given up.
I like the way you say this. Can empathise with where you’re at. Instead of the army it’s been a disabling illness. Folks move, die, etc and making decent friends at 67 is like chewing nails. Hang in there buddy 🤞
@@galway45@Aeternum_Gaming I'm sorry for your feelings of isolation...I can understand it to a degree. I had become very distant from anyone & everyone after depression from a bad breakup compounded into first alcohol, then full-blown drug addiction which lead to many selfish, shameful choices & ultimately separating myself from the pressures & expectations involved with being a part of the human race. I was in fact so surrendered to the idea that I was a lost cause that I wore a wedding ring around my finger to signify my commitment to my addiction...just in case anyone got the idea that I was in any way "on the market". I did this in part to protect others from me, knowing that they were certainly better off keeping thier distance. Honestly, it's crazy to me to think back & talk about this period in my life when I consider where I'm at today. I went to treatment and it took a few times but I actually fell in love. We now have a daughter and a reasonably happy existence. It's far from perfect and I still fail all the time, but I can say I'm really glad I don't have to do it all alone. God bless.
Being alone after years of constantly being with (toxic) people, allowed me to feel better about myself and helped me stand up for myself even more. You can be far more honest with others and yourself when you don't fear isolation or exclusion. I've always tried too hard for others' sake and have been far too patient and giving people too many chances. In the end i've come to the conclusion that i am my own best friend. Now without the influence of others, there is peace and quiet in my life that at first was hard to deal with but with willpower and time it'll become a comfort, and even a preference. If people want to enter my life, it is they who will have to prove themselves to me instead of always the other way around. It's done wonders to my self esteem and mental health. It's not for everybody and i don't recommend it to everyone, but there is always value in learning to be by yourself as you'll have to be alone eventually. Couple of friends, barely any family, mostly alone in the dark. But happy. Very much so in fact.
😂I don't even have social media. no family, secondary, just 2 children and occasionally my husband, twice a week. Sometimes I feel like their presence changes me for the worse. being ALONE was a PERFECT way in which I found myself.
There’s nothing wrong with being alone especially in these times…And it’s not a mental illness, but a choice. I feel good being lone, and finding peace with myself.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... Before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I'm an introvert, but isolation hasn't always been a choice. Ever since childhood, I was made to feel like an outsider by others around me for no reason at all Countless times, I've been made to feel like an unwelcome freak by the so-called 'enlightrened' populace
@@SamuelBlack84 that's how society acts towards those that don't fit in their program. It's a shame that people don't slow down and get to know each other.
As a card carrying alcoholic in recovery, I was always taught that social isolation was the worst thing for me and that it would lead to relapse. 6 years sober and I can count friends and those I interact with on one hand. I never feel lonely or that my sobriety is at risk from isolation. It is very possible that one of my main reasons for drinking was to tolerate people for any length of time. 😆 I'm fine if I'm just left the hell alone.☮&❤ y'all.
When I stopped drinking, and stopped using social media like Facebook, and stopped being the first one to reach out to people.... I lost literally ALL my friends . Lol but then I'm like well . Were they ever really friends ? Were they quality people? Answer is no. I'm actually happier and less stressed without fake friends weighing down my life.
Very similar story here. I used to drink in order to pretend to be sociable. After quitting, I've found it much harder to pretend to enjoy social interactions. Frankly, they wear me out. I've been sober and largely socially isolated for nearly 15 years now. At work, I prefer to be like a fly on the wall; quiet and barely noticeable. But I try to at least be pleasant to people when I'm forced to interact. Reading Marcus Aurelius has helped me quite a bit in dealing with people. Maybe I'll have a change of mindset someday, but I don't think so; I enjoy my own company too much.
You know am laughing, because Enzelganger is finally opening up about himself. I personally want to see Einzel happy, whichever way he chooses . Then I will follow in his footsteps. Love you Einzel, and everything you post.
Me too. I just told him in my original comment that, after he shared so much personal info, I now love him too. Always respected his intelligence but now I love him. Swoon, sigh, gulp. 😊 I can say this cheerfully 'cause I'm old enough to be his Grandma (Nana in Dutch)😊
I don't really fit in with others. I've always felt different and misunderstood. But when I'm alone, I can express myself in creative ways. I enjoy writing, painting, or playing music. These are the moments when I feel happy and free. I don't need anyone else to validate me or my work. I just do it for myself.
You should do a personality test at 16 personalities. Google it. its free....you sound like an INFJ. It might blow your mind. I did it and It explained a lot
To each his own. What makes one person happy and content doesn't necessarily work for anyone else. For that matter what works for a person during one period of their life doesn't always work their entire life either because we grow and change. Be happy with who you are and what makes sense for you at that time in your life. Don't worry if no one else understands or likes it. Most people don't like themselves. You do you and where you find joy. Peace and love to all.
I agree, when your "being" alone one's content with just being by themselves, but when you "feel" alone you feel as if your facing it by yourself, with sadness as well as needing a certain connection/relationship.
I am disabled which is a good way to end up watching people bail on you when they realize you have no choice but to ask for help once in a while. Suddenly everyone is "busy" all the time. Most people are not worth the drama. My dog is worth it.
I have been a social person my whole, but for the last 4 years I've been living mostly alone and got addicted to it. The lack of drama is just so healthy.
Ever since I decided to quit drinking about 4 months ago, I went out less and less. I realized that the person I became while intoxicated wasn't someone I wanted to be. So I took this time to reevaluate who I am and what my goals really are. It seems to me that the best time of self-discovery is when you close your doors and embrace the silence. Eventually your inner voice becomes more clear.
congratulations on your sobriety. I am a recluse except for my weekly AA meeting where others help me understand alcoholism. one year sober now, my brain recovered! very worth the effort
This video stirred up a lot of emotions. I have been a hermit for over 16 years now. Previously very social. Tormented everyday by the crippling loneliness. The thing that finally helped me was practicing gratitude. It sounds stupid but it really helps. Focusing on the positives, what i gain being alone, helps me so much to avoid the pitfalls of negative thinking. Self-improvement as well, no matter how small, makes me feel better. I’m now determined to have a good time despite my circumstances and to find the positives in every day, no matter how hard they are to see. Still, every day is a struggle. There is no magic fix. It’s just about slowly changing your perspective and through that, guiding your thinking to a more positive place. It is work. It takes time - and patience with yourself. But it is worth it. Still a hermit here, but a happier one.
Sometimes people couldn’t understand the concept of ‘feeling lonely surrounded by people’ so I came up with this analogy: recently I’ve been swimming in the pool, it was hot and my bottle of water was already empty. I thought it’s ok, the pool is cool so I won’t overheat. However, no matter how cool the water in the pool was, it couldn’t save me from thirst and dehydration. I was surrounded by water yet it wasn’t drinkable! The same often happens to me with people. Many people just don’t meet my needs for connection and meaningful interactions. I need ‘befriendable’ people, not the ones who are self-absorbed.
Very nice analogy. As I have learned more about myself I am refocusing to explore more of what I am learning. This isn't in line with what I allowed in my head before so relationships built around those dynamics no longer work for either of us. I feel them slip away like the water dripping from my body as I get out and have a sense of melancholy about them. I will dry.
When Covid hit, it was good for those of us who choose solitude to have an “excuse”. It’s nice to hear that other people have similar experience with this alone/social dilemma. Your videos were such a great resource during that isolation time and continue to be today. Thank you.
@@GenX1969 I know exactly what you mean by shame , it is sad though that somebody should feel ashamed for something so simple. I think people who spend time alone are cooler and more intelligent , the crowd blenders are mostly desperate and dependent people (I am one of them maybe but I try hard to cut myself out and not fear my own company )
"become your best partner and you will never be alone" not having to deal with other people's problems (and having yours solved) improves your life 100%, celibacy and social isolation, They are my flags of freedom
Being alone is something I value, especially in a world where a significant portion of society has become toxic and filled with hate. It allows me to keep those who are unhappy and unlucky at a distance, preventing their negativity from affecting me.
I would argue that not all people who are unhappy or unlucky would be negative to others just for the sake of it.. Everyone is different and some have more of a moral compass than others do...🤔 I've been unhappy quite alot but I've never felt the need to inflict that misery onto others.
U don't need to feel the need , negatively / misery / depression spreads like the flu in winter, always surround yourself with the right people and your half way there before you get started 😊
In my experience most people are not full of hate, but the more people in a group, the lower the level of thinking. They talk about soccer, beer and bobs. It's just boring.
I was classed as anti-social by toxic co-workers because I refused to socialize with them. I enjoy my own company and it really is disappointingly nosey to judge me when your own life is sooo toxic and twisted. I wish people would look at themselves and see why they are so awful to be around. BEING ALONE IS GENUINE.
@@CliffSedge-nu5fv Yes but that isnt a good answer is it ! You should work on improving yourself because people have to work with you .. imagine the internal pain you have caused them.
I think as we grow older, we find solitude in the silence and peace. I'm turning 29 and I reaaaaally left the life where I love gatherings and loud noises. I think I'm fulfilled on what I wanted to do as a dream of mine. Now, I rarely see my friends and when they asked me to meetup, the anxiety starts to click in my head because I really doesn't want to be out with too many people. I love the peaceful life I have in my own home with my family, pets and lover. I no longer want interactions outside of my family and loved ones. I just love taking pictures of nature, taking care of the household, taking care of our pets and even doing things I love doing when I am alone like arts and watching documentaries. Some people criticized when I don't talk in a group but I don't think I need to explain why I wanted to be shut down from their company. Maybe I just wanted to hear my own thoughts and the thoughts of the people who I know are very genuine to me.
Sometimes I wish I had not experienced lockdown, it felt great, I felt free. No fixed wake up time, no stupid small talk, no need to greet anyone, barely need to see anyone... Alas back in the grind
This video feels like it was custom made for me. It perfectly described who I am especially the part where you said that "I don't hate people, I just feel better without them."
Yeah but sadly at some point i still wanna share experiences, thoughts and emotions, have someone when i need an ear, a shoulder or two strong hands to help me out. I had my year of isolatiin i remember getting drunk and joining random groups of friends. They got angry mostly cuz i was clingy and they wanted me to go away. Only in some days it worked to be with random strangers and have cool conversations. So that really sucks, that i still need people. But most of people won't put up with me, only reaching out once in a ehile. I rather work or i lose the friend. I hate this so much. Please help me
I feel like I'm at the stage of my life where I'm realising this truth......I actually do feel good without people around me. When they are around I feel emotionally and mentally exhausted
I enjoy being alone due to increased thought quality. I have time to think, study grow, and as you have mentioned I avoid the toxic nature of others. I have realized that everyone is capable of being toxic including myself, less interaction is not always a bad thing 🤓
The choice to be alone is honestly the greatest power I have over my own life. The feeling when I value me and my solitude over any sort of social situation is one of the greatest feelings ever. I view it as the highest form of self love and I urge anyone reading this to try it out. Spend some time in solitude as a treat to yourself. See it as going to the spa. You deserve it, some time alone perfectly tailored to your likes. Solitude is strength.
Sartre got it right - hell is real; hell is other people. Once one realises that these other people, and oneself, are just f*d up egos in their own bubbles of bs, a little interaction is fine; just don't take it seriously.
Thanks for this miraculous and comprehensive look at social isolation. I’m sending this to the people who think I’m becoming demented because I prefer to be alone.
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... Before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I don’t see it as isolation. I see it as solitude. And I wouldn’t worry about what people think about your lifestyle, the people who truly matter will take the time to understand.
It may be a very healthy choice. My therapist said that I so had a very precious opportunity to live together with myself and thus to know myself. Besides, Sartre said that if you’re not well when alone, you’re in a bad company…
Being alone is the best thing that I have experienced in life. Full of peace, less toxic and lots time to self introspect and fulfill the greater calling in life. Thanks mate that it's possible to be happy while being alone and I decide to self-impose it. Cheers. Subscribed. :)
I have been living alone by the forest and a wild river for many years and very satisfied. At first I started alone for a few months, but the result is so satisfying that now it is more than a decade that I am alone without my ex-boyfriend and free from my family relationships / loneliness. I celebrate .i love my life style..... In nature you are never alone if you are at peace with yourself ....
"Reflect upon the Past. Embrace your Present. Orchestrate our Futures." --Artemis (DD3) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind’s journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul’s fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope’s strength re-steeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, We must see all in nothingness... Before we start again." 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨ --Diamond Dragons (series)
I’ve been spending more than 3 years in solitude, completely independent on my own far away from my hometown. I enjoyed it for real, because through solitude I had chance to discover the inner-work, working on the projects and passions I’ve found during solitude seasons. From my point of view, isolation isn’t that bad, as long as you have something you interested about or the shit to put into the work day in and day out, then isolation is a bless from the universe. To be a loner is to know thyself, to be able to return to the oneness, listen to the voices and find out the reason of one’s existence.
"Hey there! I wanted to remind you that being alone is a choice, and sometimes it's necessary to focus on yourself. Also, remember that investing in the financial market can be a great way to secure your future. Take the time to learn and make informed decisions - it's worth it!"
I agree with you and I believe that the secret to financial stability is having the right investment ideas to enable you earn more money, I don’t know who agrees with me but either way I recommend either real estate or bitcoin and stocks.
@@face2lune Understanding your financial needs and making effective decisions is very essential. If I could advise you, you should seek the help of a financial advisor. For the record, working with one has been the best for my finances.
This video perfectly describes me and I’m sure a lot of others. What bothers me is that some people really don’t understand wanting to be alone. There are times where I do crave socialization. But it’s not as often and my social battery drains quickly. I have a couple of friends who ask me why I don’t hang out as often or why I don’t talk a lot. When I tell them they say they understand but then ask me the same question all the time, meaning they really don’t understand.
Yes! Actually, I sometimes become too much of a chatter box when I'm occasionally with good friends, and I actually detest that. And I may end up saying or revealing things about my life that I never intended. I enjoy being quieter.
I spent my life believing that I was alone in this regard until my mid-twenties until I discovered the book The Power of Quiet by Susan Cain For the first time in my life, I didn't feel like a stranger in the world. I was part of a wider community
It’s always a treat seeing a video that makes me go, “Hey, I’m doing that right now too!” Or similar. Makes me feel like I’m doing something right to better my mental state and being.
Have you noticed this guy never makes an argument that would be to the detriment of any authority? I wonder who the view "everything is my fault" serves most? Is it you? Are you real sure?
When you learn to stop feeling pitty for yourself, start to value your time and get to do stuff you actually like, it's amazing. I fell for the "marriage and kids" lie. I miss my time alone.
Kinda wish i had that tho. I have no more friends, used to have a gf(that went pretty south, if anything i learned that it’s a bad idea to get in a relationship if you re in a bad place especially if the other is too) never had much family. Tbh I don’t know why im still here except curiosity and lack of courage. I feel like i would have fared better if i hadn’t been lied to about retirement and being able to do whatever i want during my childhood. And before i hear the « move your lazy ass » I would if i had a good reason, which i don’t feel like i have
I have always found happiness being alone. During the past few years, I have been going through a dark night of the soul and am now 100% comfortable being alone, never feeling lonely. I enjoy talking to waiters, cashiers and colleagues, but don't need them specifically to feel happy.
By default, I’m a loner. I do however enjoy social interactions sometimes. But mostly I feel, in our times and our decaying society, solitude is my preferred state. The sheer amount of idiocy, nonsense, gossip, aggression, narcissism, noise, meaninglessness, superficiality, imposed norms, herd-behavior, collective social trends adhering to fallacies, the disappearance of philosophical depth, knowledge, reasoning, the decline in ethical and scientific education, the most absurd societal developments,… all of it I feel is draining my energy and zest for life. The opposite is the case when I’m alone or in “good” company, in nature, and free to dedicate my time to the many things I like to explore and pursue, undisturbed, without distractions and free of social pressures, free of interpersonal drama and incessant uninteresting chatter, small-talk and meaninglessness. …. I crave and miss love and affection, physical touch and intimacy. But I am at peace. And I can find happiness and energy in solitude…. free.
You said it best the sheer amount of narcissism in society is shocking the fact that men view women as inferior is devastating the amount of hate thrown in my face everyday shakes me to my core I never knew human beings would be this evil
Thank you, bro. I've been following you for a few years now, and it's really good to know that there's a tribe of us out here, scattered in different places. Yet, you have no idea how much in common I share with you. Many of your life stories and experiences are incredibly accurate to my life. As a loner with a history of alcohol use in the past, there are many similarities between your experiences and mine. It feels comforting to know that people like us exist. You give me hope. Thank you.
I love being alone ❤🎉 solitude is something I crave deeply 🫂 I also love social time! I balance the two as needed. However, primarily prefer solitude the most. Connecting with yourself is the most beautiful thing you can do. Spirit is always there (even when you socialize in the 3D), tarot, you tube, nature, etc…it’s just so nice, calm, and peaceful. 🍃 ❤️
Im autistic. I hate being around people. need to live alone. i cant be around other people. cant share living spaces with other people. No wife or GF. Dont care i just want too be left alone!
Exactly what’s happening to me right now. Thought I was just depressed (I am), but more than that, I just wanted some time to myself, I can’t be bothered with other people’s bs anymore.
I've been following you for about 3 years. Being now into my mid 40's, I recognize myself in this story very much. Thank you, sir, for the good you brought to me through your videos.
The first 6 months of the pandemic were the happiest I’ve had in a long time. The relief from keeping up with social obligations, and the peace of being able to just stay at home, with no guilt or shame was a godsend.
I'm agree. My job, I worked was pretty long hours in heavy equipment industry. I generally only had to engage with a few people a few hours a day for awhile. I was like this is incredible. But did long to see my true loved ones.
I found it amusing just how many people became unstable due to experiencing isolation for the first time in their lives The media became a magnet for empty platitudes of support and comfort I never received the same support when I was most alone, and it wasn't welcome The world only cares when it affects the majority
@@urbinblytte429I know alot of people died during the pandemic. But for me mentally it was healing, my ex cheated at the same time. I am glad work day is just like 2 to 3 days in the pandemic. Otherwise I won't survive.
i'm in my pre 30yo and i'm experiencing the joy of being alone and enjoy my personal journey. Been watching your channel a while and it's the pleasure to listen to. I love the "thanks for watching" at the end of every videos.
I absolutely fall under this category and I will try to keep this short. After dealing with numerous toxic relationships once I pushed all the BS aside and started focusing on myself. All of a sudden I'm able to get a good job, then comes the new car, then getting a house all to myself. I have a few people I have known most of my life that I trust with my life. I'm not socially awkward I love socializing with acquaintances and people I'm pretty cool with at work. However there is at least four hours in the day where I like to just be alone and reflect. I did all the crazy stuff in my younger days and it almost cost me everything. Sometimes I do get lonely now that I have something to offer a potential significant other, so that thought comes to mind more often now. Beyond that I do get annoyed with people always asking me if I'm okay, why haven't I found a girlfriend yet, and I need to meet somebody. They are totally baffled by the fact I am legitimately happy.
Take the time to do what makes you internally and mentally happy. Being independent and in solitude while learning and taking action about anything in life that matters to you is far more enriching than being associated to the chaos and distractions around you. Strong minds love solitude :)
Keeping to myself during the pandemic has been a revelation, that I unexpectedly enjoyed. Looking within has been difficult at times, and really fruitful. I’m intentionally re-engaging with life in a greater way slowly. I’m happy to tolerate some feelings of loneliness to protect my own energy and serenity. Thanks for making this video 🫶🏼
Being alone is a golden moment of peace if you are a introvert and live in a country that don't know the meaning of a peaceful silence. For me it's not just a choice, it's a necessity. I like social interactions but too many people around makes impossible for me to truly appreciate people's uniqueness.
Coming from a totally dysfunctional family has made social adaptation one of the most challenging areas of life. I longed so much to be accepted and loved by my family but never really was. That translated into all kinds of problems in my younger life such as trying to work family issues out with coworkers. The torrent of my life is over with and in many ways I am thankful. I value being alone and have never been married and never wanted to be. I have hurt people and I do have some uneasy feelings about that. It seems that for me close relationships never stand the test of time much in part due to my wounded psyche. I spend a lot of time alone and usually don't feel loneliness. I am so tired of the noise and chatter that doesn't mean anything.
I love being alone. I play guitar in a band so that’s what I live and love to do. I love practicing. Being an introvert is perfect for me. I get enough socializing at work. I have my family, guitars and puppies. Good enough for me!
Love the synchronicity of this video. Recently decided to cut my connection with my "friends" after giving them so many chances to change their toxic behavior. Sad at first but liberating in the end. 😊
Cut out my ‘friends’ too and although painful, it’s been liberating to have time to focus on and enjoy ME! I think we all need to be careful not to attract ‘better than nothing friends’.. no matter how isolated we become initially👌
After several traumas with narcisistics relationships I ended up alone but for my surprise, I was absolutely happy been with myself. I discovered live and spirit while in my solitude and I had realized that most of humanity want to socialize not because they want to share with others but because they don´t want to be alone, it sounds almost the same but is not. Because wanting to run away from yourself and using others for that is a very selfish act, thats why social media is so succesfull, most of the people just want to have attention and get distracted from their empty lives. I defenetly believe everyone should go through a period of solitude so they can realize what it really means to be. And after a while you can socialize but dinamics change because you are not using anyone, you don´t really care if you have to be alone it would be totaly fine so you don´t get to be manipulated or manipulate anyone neither, all interactions become totally genuine and you are able to chose peace everytime because you are not scare anymore
Going into isolation 2 years ago was one of the greatest decisions ever self-exploration you get to explore your mind question the universe I've listened to so many lectures such as Rudolf Steiner and you just get a sit around and figure it out not once have I felt any moment of loneliness and I find myself just consistently happy and at peace
As you said, loneliness can be a way to protect yourself. I used to be quiet open about myself at my early age, easy going, energetic, etc... Let's just said that this "quiet open" turn out to be "too open" with some poeple. Those "some poeple" had a keen eye to spot my vunerability and took advantage of it at my own demise, some even took pride in it. Long story short, it send me down into a spiral that taugh me how easily you can misplace your love even against a sense of your own rationality, even in yourself... Life seems to be a story of attachements and limits, symbolise though love but mostly the value that we give to that love thought the limit of our existence.
I just want to say that you have literally been my inspiration to be better and do better. The way you describe your own experiences I feel the same way. Thank you for your channel. I appreciate you.
As someone who was a shut-in for most of his life, it recently clicked in my head that I can no longer keep the type of life where I just spend days ignoring people and staying at home playing video games in a dark room. Im currently 26 and I hate how I sometimes feel like I've been missing out in my 20s despite enjoying the time I spent alone.. dwelling on the past does no good so I've been working on this change a lot by doing more IRL activities, gym & improving my diet which was a decent start to help my mental.
FOMO is something you make up in your mind bc you compare with others. This won't help you. Who cares about others (Family and real friends excluded). Everyone has his own lifestory to write.
I feel like im heading your direction because of negative impact of social anxiety and the conventions of people in need of meaningless chatter, social validation and social media which makes me also uninterested, but still i will try to keep socializing to an extent that which benefits me
@@Vytius I would say my case is kinda similar to Einzelgänger's, but yeah to each his own experiences and in my humble opinion this drastic life change should not be forceful but instead something we actually desire
Thank you for creating this video, and sharing some of your story. It resonates with me very much. I’ve lived alone, with cats - by choice - for most of my adult life. When I was younger, I was more social, and it involved a lot of alcohol. I’ve been married and divorced. I enjoy being alone because I can do what works for me without judgement, and because I feel most lonely when I’m with other people who don’t understand me. I connect deeply and easily with Nature and animals. I love learning, creating, and deepening spirituality. Recently I’ve been consciously engaging in shadow work, to transmute these disowned aspects of myself into allies. Ultimately, this makes it easier to be alone, and to spend some time with other people. As a natural introvert, social interaction is very draining, though. The statement that best sums it up for me is, “I feel most like myself when I’m alone”.
Solitude can be a glorious thing. The hard part is not struggling alone or being sad alone or whatever. The hard part is finding happiness, and not being able to share it with anybody.
Amazing content my friend. I love "meeting" people that share so many of the same values and thoughts on life as me. Thanks for pouring out your inner self and keeping the balance.
I am a loner since ever. I dont fit into society. It can be VERY VERY hard, painfull and sad. But trying to engage in any type of relationship with "humans" is worse, degrading and always ends bad. So it is both a choice and a fatality: I didnt choose to have no family, or being poor and homosexual; this three facts can make anyone a lonely person, the people just reject you, cause loneliness and poverty seems to be contagious to them. So before, I would had give ANYTHING to have a family, friends and a lover, I was desperate, and full of shame of being always alone, especially during week ends and holidays, while seeing normal people around me having fun together. I thought I was wrong, unlovable and too weird/too poor/etc, wich is somehow true. I can not change this about me, I ll never be rich, or having a family or be married, I ll never have friends( I have tried 36 years!!). So I am renouncing, I have learn the lesson: humans are social animals but our society is not humane, and always have created parias, and some people always had hard, lonely existence, so why not me? It is a sick world, most people are stupid, selfish and dangerous, wich I am not. I am spending this life by myself, trying to evict sad/guilty thoughts out of my mind, trying to survive anyway in this hell. I am not planning to stay long on earth, I see how society treats elder, poor people without family: garbage. So I am not gonna endure this.
Solitude can be addictive. Ever since covid I’ve been very resistant to seeing people besides my girlfriend who lives with me. This has nothing to do with a concern of sickness. This weekend I was a best man in my best friends wedding. It was the first time in a while that I had to socialize. When we got home, I collapsed to the floor when I walked through the door with my girlfriend and cat by me. It’s been 1 week and I still feel extremely socially drained from the wedding.
You're lucky to have your girlfriend and cat. I have absolutely no one. I did once have a fiancee, but this cruel and cold world forced me to give her up After losing her, I have no desire to connect with that same world
I went into isolation in 2020 when covid started,I thrived in isolation my health improved the quality of my life went up.I became so happy I decided to never come back. The only time I deal with people is when I absolutely have too mostly services doctor dentist bank etc that kind of thing .I have a helper that will get groceries for me . I have never been happier
@@shirleyrankin-zf6nv Someone after my own shadowy heart 🖤 The only thing missing is to live in obscene luxury and have access to great physical pleasures Otherwise, it's just stagnating waiting for death
This resonnated SO hard (feel like we have had similar lives in a way). For me things really shifted 'seasons' after enduring the slow demise of my previous relationship during the COVID lockdowns (a proximity that I as an introvert struggled with... particularly as my partner was an extrovert), after we split up I have revelled in my solitude. Its been 2 years since then, but I've embraced so many more creative projects, and I feel so much more empowered to pursue my own inspirations without having to factor in opinions of others. Its immensely liberating (and I would not trade it), but I do concede that from time to time its necessary that I socialise with others to maintain a 100% level of emotional equilibrium. Love all your stuff, but this was an especially fantastic video, thanks so much for sharing!
