Not necessarily true I can sense the burden he has since he used to think he was straight he probably did want to marry her because they’re perfect for each other but his burden of being gay and not being able to have a sexual connection with her he’s not into females sexually speaks for itself since they both kept staring his they would’ve already married each other had she not married her husband regardless if it was a joke or not it has a meaning no one really just says that you know p.s speaking from experience
This is bc society has created this false notion that a "soulmate" is someone you're sexually intimate with, when the meaning has always been deeper than that. Two souls connecting goes beyond platonic or non-platonic relationships.
A lot of people that are attractive don't necessarily know it or feel it; especially if they were "ugly ducklings" growing up or grew up in not so great family situations and/or were bullied. Plus people figure that if you're attractive there's no reason to tell you because it's "obvious" and you must know or they assume you're stuck up and don't need anymore compliments. Some people will actually try to tear you down because they assume you need to be brought back down to earth.
Did you guys see his smile slightly frowned when she said this? He almost broke it...but managed to make light of things by proceeding with a joke afterwards. They made me cried, what a beautiful union
*You know why!* It’s not a coincidence people praise his appearance but don’t mention her appearance. In mainstream media we are taught white, blonde, blue eyes and a fit body is the ultimate beauty standard. And how many Asian actors/actresses that are highly successful can you name in comparison to all the white actors/actresses you know the name of (you probably even know the name of at least of one of all these white celebs’ dog/s). *They are both very beautiful and seem to be lovely people based on how they interact with each-other.
Jalen L. TRUE THAT. I’m 17 also and I have friends but I don’t think I have the ones to have this kinda of relationship. Especially with my male friends. I’ve opened up to a few so I guess I’m working on it.
Once you find that friend, it's amazing. I'm 23 and me and my best friend have been besties since we were 12 and it was, quite honestly, love at first conversation. We were telling each other I deepest secrets as we were walking home from school the same day we officially met. It is weirdly like true love. When you know, you know.
They are adorable, he tried so hard not to cry. You can see that they have an honest friendship and that they care about each other very deeply. This is just beautiful❤
I could not hold my tears, in seeing this soul mates. "You complete me" and they're just friends, not husband and wife. This is true affection and deep level of love called agape
As someone who recently found out that someone I thought was my close friend didn't see me as their close friend, I am jealous of this friendship. It really is a privilege to find your person. I have given up.
Don’t give up. There are good people like us still out there. One day someone will return our love and not take advantage of us. We’re just too kind hearted.
I'm gay as well and have a female asian best best friend whom I've been friends with for a decade, as well and when I tell you that I was crying the entire video because it reminded me so much of our friendship, good lorrrrdtt
I want a soul mate that I touch, feel, smell, and sleep next to and do your best to make them feel good, happy, loved. This gay dude could have all that with her. What an idiot.
I feel like she is the type of bestfriend who always give her 101% . Like she would drop everything she’s doing to help people close to her without hesitation, and that you can call her for help at 3am and she will be there by your side to comfort you even if she has to go to work at 8am in the morning. I feel like she’s that person who is so smart yet very humble about all her achievements. I feel like she will never make any excuse not to hang out with you even if she’s very busy. I feel like she is a great listener, mediator, and supporter. Damn it, now i wanna steal her from Barrett Pall! 😭
This hits home, my soul mate was my best friend who sadly passed away when I was 12. I’m 22 now, and seeing this made me think “this would’ve been us if he was still here.” This was exactly how we were when I was younger, he made my soul feel at ease.
I can appreciate the romantic relationship-focused “The And” videos, but this one was, by far, one of my favorite ones. This relationship is what I aspire to have with someone. She’s seen some of his most vulnerable moments, and he literally pocketed her used tissues. That kind of friendship is so rare.
The one uncanny time in lifetime when you become friend with a singular woman that you love so much that you wish to be straight. . . And then one day you become the uncle of her children not because of blood ties, but because of true love.
That was clearly, one of the sweetest moments, that I’ve ever seen, from this video series! It takes a lot...for me to get emotional! This almost broke me!! I loved this video! These two bffs truly love each other! It’s rare nowadays to have such an amazing, genuine, unconditional love for your friends! When you have a friendship like that... you hang on to them, appreciate them, cherish them, with everything you have!! Those are the ties that bind!!! 🥰❤️❤️
So nice to see that it is possible to have a deeply loving and intimate relationship outside of the confines of a romantic and/or sexual relationship. It can be just as fulfilling, if not more fulfilling. Thanks for sharing your story, Barrett & Bianca!
Honestly this level of commitment to a friendship is so rare. Having a best friend is a choice you have to keep on making, through all the new friends you make and relationships you enter, all the fights you get into and the hard parts of life. It's so easy to walk away these days. I'm glad they never chose to.
This is the friendship I want with a woman. Of course I've had amazing friendships and I still do. Sometimes we as gay men get so caught up in our world that we almost lose touch of women. Luckily women are so loving and nurturing towards us. Its nice to have a girl to talk to 😍.
This is a great idea. I have some very good, deep connections with several male friends. Some I’ve known over 30 years, through break ups and divorces. Totally platonic. The only difficult thing is if they’re GF, or wives feel threatened at all (which unfortunately tends to happen). If I had a friendship like that with a gay man, it would be amazing. I get it. I just love the energy of men, of all ages...and much prefer having them around.
@@angelaramseyrobinson4407 that's awful for girlfriends or wives to be threaten by you. Especially if you've known these men for 30 years.. they're basically your brother at that point 🤦 lol
@@plantecsmiths1622 what does that have to do with anything? The voice tone has nothing to do with sexual orientation. And a deep voice does not make someone instantly attractive lol Just let her be.
I haven't teared this much since my own wedding.... This type of love, from them both.. It's the answer to so many question of life and existence... Ughk I could go on, but.... I loved this!
I have a friendship exactly like this. My family is his family. Been through many life events. We understand each other and it's just that simple. No paving, explaining, just being. We are going on 9 years!
The greatest blessing is a friendship like this. Love beyond words,always having each others back and feeling the pain that your person is feeling. This friendship is something...magical.
Random person On RU-vid great, thank you! We FaceTimed for 7 hours lol and we will be hanging out once the quarantine is over. We’ve been texting non stop also ❤️❤️ he truly does complete me in a way no one else does.
I have no idea who this girl is-but she is golden!!!!! Kind-genuine, beautiful, caring, loving. The kind of human being I wish everyone was!!!!!!!!!!!!!
It's weird how a lot of peoples closest relationship can often be with a friend yet they don't get the same social weight as a spouse or immediate family member.
Barrett....you are so damn STUNNINGLY HANDSOME!!! It’s really hard for an old, average-looking guy like me to imagine how someone so gorgeous like yourself doesn’t even see how beautiful you are in reality. Just based on your guys’ conversation, I’m sure the fact that I had an amazing family life growing up with two parents who were exceptionally loving and accepting, that helped to give me a lot of self worth even though I’m almost 50 and have never been good looking. When I say accepting...when I came out to my mom, she was happy that I had a boyfriend, and she asked me who’s top and who’s bottom, and if being a bottom hurts. LOL. My dad just asked me if I was happy with my boyfriend...and when I said yes, he said that’s all that matters. So I’m glad that you’re getting to experience Bianca’s family ‘cause Asian family’s have VERY STRONG familial bonds, and it’s clear that YOU deserve that...and I’m so glad that you guys have each other as best friends!!! 😍🏳️🌈🤙🏽
I'm 29. Career is what most of people around me goes after including me and yet what I tell myself every day is when I leave my current job, I want to have made one or two great friends. Now having watching this video, I think my goal can be taken up a notch
She’s such a good person, I️ am overwhelmed but what a wonderful soul and empathetic person she is. Not to minimize him or his experiences, but she loves him so much that it’s overwhelming.
I used to have a friendship like this when I was in middle school, where we were such close friends and we spent so much time together. Since she was African American, her mother wasn’t that fond of me, but we got through it! Eventually, she moved away and I haven’t heard from her since, I have never met anyone like her nor made as good a friend as her. The day she moved away I was crying so badly it hurt but I never told anyone because I didn’t think they’d understand. I’m over it now, but it hurts having a best friend and losing them. I feel weird talking about this now and I feel like I should shut up 😅
My God😭 her skin, his skin , her face, his face, her teeth, his teeth. Their energy 😭😍 Omg how can two people be so beautiful 😭 God's creation gosh 😭😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍
So sweet and so poignant: the perennial dilemma of a straight and gay person who become deep friends; one wishing against all hope to consummate a partnership, the other simply thrilling at being accepted and loved. So many of us gay people can identify with this situation. It is a blessed union, but at the same time feels at once so blissful and sad. Thank you for all the loving straight friends I have had who have loved me for who I am (without value judgement,) instead of what society too often would demand they fearfully believe of me.
This lady is so brave to be there, she still loves him. It's painful to see her suffer like that. 😫 She deserves that hug at the end. Hopefully, she'll find the right one for her.
I was in tears the entire time from the energy, love and transparency these two beautiful beings share together. I love the way both of you love each other ♥️
Vuyolwethu Mtyapa you absolutely can meet a "best friend" or soulmate at any age, and it also does not have to last, or stay the same forever. (If it does, wonderful!) People evolve, and so do you. Just enjoy and cherish the time you have when you feel you can truly connect with someone... you can, and probably will have multiple 'best' friends in your life. 💜 But it's also always good to put effort into already existing friendships, as long as it feels right.
If the ones you have now weren’t ever able to be “strong enough” for one of them to become your absolute best friend then you should go out there & find someone you’ll instantly click with and have a connection with rather than having to try and force one with an existing friendship ❤️
She is lighting in a bottle. I love people like her, empathetic, kind and one who thinks that someone else's problems are bigger than mine. I totally love her!!! The world is a better place for people like her.
