Thank you for sharing your story. You were blessed because you choose to be a victor and not a victime. And have chosen hope than fear, doubt and worry. I learn a lot from your story. How inspiring it was.
Wow! Thank you for your strength faith, courage, hope and listening to your wonderful Mother and becoming the victor you are! But most of all! Thanks be to the God of Heaven for the gift of His Son Jesus Christ the King of Kings, Savior, Mediator, Deliverer and Mighty God of Miracles!!!
I'm just like you brother, children where afraid of me. I'm a giant man, I been feared almost all my life, until I joined the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. Found that Jesus Christ loved me, that's all that counts.
What a wonderful story! You can't help but be touched by the enormous faith this man has! Congratulations to his family! I'm trying so hard to be a victor and stop being a victim. This story profoundly affected me!
I love your radiance! It's hope out of faith, a perfect manifestation of choosing to be a victor always, not a victim, of victory and power, not helplessness and defeat.
I was blessed with two boys four years apart. I wanted more and I wanted them closer but I listen to the doctors advice. Later we adopted two girls who have been a joy to my heart. I went on to teach preschool and foster kids for 17 years. You never know how the Lord will bless you.
Powerful! Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. I believe we all have struggles, maybe even a little broken. I love your message of being the VICTOR nd not the victim.
This was sooooooo powerful! Best enlightening and encouraging clip that I think I have ever watched and needed! Thank you for sharing your story and hope! God bless you and your beautiful family! 🤗🙏💕
What an amazing and inspiring talk that brought me to tears ! I so appreciate you sharing a part of your life. I too have a son by adoption. It was a long 9 years until we finally were able to become parents. I was not sure my son would ever get married, so when he did it certainly surprised me. Of course I wanted to be a grandmother but that proved a challenge for my son and his beautiful wife. They went through some of the same things you and your wife did. But finally a baby was born to them. A boy born Feb. 2019, now 20 months old and the light of my life. Imagine my delight when I learned they were to have another baby, due in October. This little girl needed no help in making herself at home in her mothers womb and was born on her own terms almost in the car on the way to the hospital. She was born Oct. 2020. I first thought I never would get married, I did, then I never thought I would have a baby, I did through adoption and grandchildren was what my friends had lots of. I am so very blessed to have 2 grandchildren a boy and a girl. I couldn't ask for more and my Father in Heaven knows the desires of my heart and in the right time (His time and not mine) those desires have been given to me.
What a beautiful message! Thank you for sharing your inspiring story Ben! It has given me more hope and strength to keep moving forward despite life's stuggles. 😍😍😍
This message is what I needed at this exact time of my life. I chose to read and listen to some messages that may help me be calm and comforted after suddenly waking up at midnight with the great feeling that my life was over because my wonderful wife of almost 51 years was in the process of returning to our Father in heaven. Details are not important, but my heart is so empty and in need of help. The words and feelings of this message is so important to me at this time. Thank you so much for sharing your life's experience and encouragement. Ben, you are indeed a child and son of God. You have always had this mission and purpose that was foreordained, and you had the wisdom to recognize and develop this gift. Thanks so much for sharing.
Thank you for your testimony. Heavenly Father bless your family. The children are so beautiful. I can see and hear how full your heart is. Isn't He a wonder in our lives everyday? During these turbulent times we all need reminding of Christ's great love for us.
Congratulations Ben! I was in school with Ben and I echo the sentiments of others that Ben has always been a vivacious, enthusiastic, friendly, determined and well-liked person. I definitely looked up to him and I can testify that his facial disorder was never even a thought in my mind, I just saw a fighter (victor), a go-getter, and someone to admire. Several of my friends and I had crushes on him in school. So happy to see blessings coming along in such an abundant way.
Ben, You are an amazing individual with a divine gift of positivity and optimism in difficult circumstances. You are a bright light in the darkest of night. You radiate and exemplify all that is good, regardless of difference. I want you to know that at UVU in the few times we met, I never cared about your appearance. I always saw the person you are, and always have been which is a man of light, happiness, joy, and just pure goodness. You have always had a great appearance that just draws people to you. I never saw you as being different, only normal and full of talent. Today, that remains the same. I am so glad I met you, and I am so inspired by and proud to have met such a giant among men. Keep on keeping on my friend! Hope is alive! The Gospel of Jesus Christ is real! Heaven is for real! Keep on keeping on :-)
Thank you so very much for sharing your story. I really needed to hear that about choosing to be a victor and gave me hope that God has something in mind for us as we have been struggling with infertility for many years.
Thanks for sharing your story, I was diagnosed with a nerve disease at 18, I had everything from kids teasing me to teaching me how to run, it didn't help much but they were sure trying. I also have people ask me if my legs were made out of rubber? I have had to learn to laugh a LOT thru the years. Kids are great, I feel bad when parents teachers don't take the time to stop the kid while they are freaking out and take them over to the person so they can see for themselves that they are just another person. I had to retire at the age of 46 and today I am 52. God gave me the best job anyone could have for close to 20 years. Always be a Victor not a Victom.
One of the best talks EVER given. SO needed for right now, and part of your journey through those trials, was to be able to share them!!! THANK YOU Brother.
Recently, as part of an ice breaker activity I was asked what attracts me to a person. My reply was "confidence". You, my friends are beautiful! Knowing that each individual is loved and important to God is one of the most attractive features a person can have. Thank you for your testimony.
I can relate to this video due to my disability that I live with. I work full-time and part time all in one job. I live with RA meaning painful joints. My hands are deformed.
Am I the only one that cannot see anything wrong with his face? I mean, I look at him and would have never known of his syndrome until he mentioned it. I think people miss the amazing diversity God gives. I love your face, it has character, interest, uniqueness (like every person has) and not the same magazine page autonomy. It is really cool! The story about your journey about trying to have kids, is a hard one. Too emotional for words. I felt some of the pain as you spoke. Such courage! Amazing ending. For a second I thought this was an Islamic channel, because of the messages about having faith and God, then I realized at the end it was not! Sounds like a speech Mufti Menk would give. Well, I guess I should not be surprised, it's the same Jesus Crist and same message.
I am not part of the LDS Church ( I hope I said that right and apologies if I did not) and I'm not sure how this popped up on my home page but this is the most beautiful and uplifting story. I really needed this today. Thank you for sharing this. ♥
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Jessica, just remember to think for yourself and don't listen to negative people. Life is full of all sorts of beauty and it's not all appearance. So many beautiful people are just good humble people who don't realize they are beautifully created by a loving Heavenly Father. God bless you on your journey in life.
I just came across this video...and was shocked as I recalled last fall when I met Ben, and his sweet wife on an airport shuttle bus. We began a conversation, and, as he was traveling with a young child we discussed the challenges of traveling with a toddler, and he shared with me that he had TWINS at home. He was so positive, and engaging to visit with! I left feeling edified for having had the experience to visit with them, and was so happy to hear of others- that feel like I do, that it is a astounding privilege to be parents. I had NO IDEA of his full story... what a remarkable family! *Honestly! There are so many GOOD people in the world! What a privilege that our paths crossed... #miracleshapppeneveryday
When you started talking and sharing your story I honestly didn't see with my eyes your physical deformity. Even as I listened because sometimes things like that are not so obvious at first sight. I have things happen in my life that I just wish that people who I think truly love me end up using me and leaving me. And I'm left feeling like there's something outwardly about me that says "use me". When all I wish for is to know a complete love.
I've had similar experiences in my life. I was in an accident 30 year's ago that left me paralyzed from the waist down. It's hard to explain pain I first experienced when people stare or little children ask their parents what's wrong with him? I've since learned to smile at them and tell them I broke my back, if I get a chance. I've learned that if you treat the children and people with respect next time they see someone else who is in a wheelchair they will think about the person who took a minute to talk to them and realize we are all God's children.
I was so proud to know Ben and cheer him on when he was our star wrestler at UVU. I am even prouder of him for his faith, testimony and moral character. He is a remarkable man and a great personal hero.
"Faith means trusting God in good times and bad, even if that includes some suffering until we see His arm revealed in our behalf." Elder Jeffrey R. Holland October 2020
"...and she wasn't fast enough, I caught her!" That made me laugh! I also chuckled and was very happy for your family when you rather suddenly got three children, like God was saying, "You wanted children, CATCH!" Stay strong and help others to stay strong. It can be so hard for all of us sometimes to see through the tears, but we have to remember they will be wiped away.
My wife an I, have 2 little boys and the second was born with Crouson Syndrom and we feel eternaly grateful with the Savior, His Church, His Gospel and His attonement for such great blessings as this. Watching the man in the vídeo talking about his experiences with this different kind of life felt more hope, faith, love and gratitude, I felt the tender mercys of the Lord.
Leonardo Matias Trejo : Make this hidden comment as a new, main comment...so it is more visible. I’m sure he’d love to meet you guys, he has such a pure spirit.
I grew up being best friends with two of Ben's cousins and having the opportunity to watch Ben and look up to him. As a wrestler, he was one of the best the world has ever seen, but as a cousin, a man, a brother I have always been impressed by him. Watching this, however, my admiration, love, and respect for Ben have grown even more. Thank you Ben for your testimony, and the strength, which you have never lacked, in sharing this message with the world. The gospel brings such hope and peace.
The struggles I had as a young woman prepared me for the struggles I’d face in adulthood. And yes, when the Lord comes through for you, he comes with his arms full. ❤️
He went to my high school. He was a great guy then and sounds like he's still doing great things with his life. Thanks for being an inspiration and reminding us we have a choice, victim or a victor.
Ben came to my school! He talked to us, and boy, it was one of the best guest speakers. His talk wasn't just about our church. But the spirit, was there. With a great presense. I was having a horrible day. And so I was closed off. Quiet. But afterword I felt better. I wasn't all of the sudden perfectly fine and dandy. But it's because of him that that wasn't the worst day of my life. Thank you, because I know it's hard to put yourself out there. Especially when you have chraniam facial condition. I thought that Ben was a member of the church. And when he showed the beuatiful picture of him and his wonderful wife I knew that he was member of this church. And I knew he had a strong connection with the holy ghost. Thank you
Honestly when I first saw your picture at the beginning of your video I thought "What a handsome man". You are beautiful not only inside but outside too. When I was four years old I was in a car accident that left my chin scared. Then as an adult I was in another car accident that not only left my right temple and halfway back the top of my head with scars. Lost a portion of my hair not knowing if it'd come back. That was one of three times I lost my hair. I cried and said " not my face again". I felt attitude was what was needed. A hospital nurse told me attitude makes the difference. You Sir have the right attitude. You are amazing & so is your lovely family.
So beautiful & so true! Thank you for sharing! I’m victorious when I choose to be Victorious when our daughter was hit by a neighbor & passed away! They were in active and heavenly father filled our hearts with love for them and the gift 🎁 of choosing hope, peace, Comfort and love through this sweet/pain! Our hearts were filled with compassion for this man and their family came back into the church and were sealed in the temple. Through all this, I’ve learned to know my father in heaven knowing He was & is always beside me and that my Savior through His atonement brought hope beyond my understanding! We knew we would see her and have her again and learned lessons of our saviors love and all that, that has meant to us! Thank you for choosing victory and thank you to your mother for teaching you to stay in truth😌
I can’t tell you how many time I’ve watched this- currently struggling with infertility and this video comforts me every time I lose hope. Thank you Ben (and your wife!) for sharing your story. 🤍
This is pure food for the soul! Thanks Ben for sharing your inspiring perspective and experience. My gratitude is full just hearing your story. This is what the world needs today.
Beautiful story. You are quite attractive. Interesting, perceptions. Gratitude and love push away fear. Learning to trust God and Jesus and let go of attaching to other people's opinions and fears
@@benkjar2609 Your inspiring story helped me today through a trial I’m going through in my life....I’ll always remember “victim” or “victor”...thank you so much for sharing
Not gonna lie, I didn't want to listen to this one. But it put a smile on my face - something that doesn't happen often these days - and I'm going to try and keep up hope by making a daily effort.
