Grooming is grooming. Doesnt matter the gender. Doesnt matter if ur buddies say "thats cool bro". Kids should be protected from adults who take advantage of the fact that kids are still developing their minds so they dont know what's happening until it's too late.
Forreal. When I was 16 my friends and I hung out with 21-23+ year olds. My friend even dated one of them. We hung out, partied, and slept over at their house ALL THE TIME. We thought it was so cool and completely normal at the time. Thinking back as a 20 year old, then 24, now 27, I would never want to hang out with 16 year olds let alone even 18 year olds. Honestly even really anyone under 24 I probably wouldn’t want to hang out with. It would just feel weird to me. But ESPECIALLY under 21 would be extra weird. So the fact that they were okay with partying and sleeping with minors is wild to me. I’d never even hang out with one that wasn’t my family (niece/nephew, brother sister etc) let alone DATE ONE.
Dude this is coping because if he was 32 when they met and she was 16 you wouldn't even question it you would 100% call it what it is grooming. People need to stop allowing women to get away with this crap.
It doesn’t matter if the minor consented or they start dating openly after 18. It’s still grooming and akiko should’ve lost custody of the baby the second she gave birth. She groomed the father and the kid is having their child hood ruined as well.
@@nicknamess232it's a underage boy. This is no different than a girl under the legal age of consent being in love with a older guy. It's still the same thing: Pedophilia
Not necessarily. A lot of "older man - literal teenager/much younger woman" """relationships""" got glossed over in their time, and are often still defended to this day despite how obviously fucked it was.
And no mention that she would technically be a sex offender. I can't stand how in today's society when you get a younger man with an older woman he's patted on the back whereas when it's reversed not everybody gets to pitchforks out in the Torches lit we need to do better folks
Or maybe she wasn’t and this was just a normal relationship? I mean they already separated without any drama. Do you have proof of these accusations or is this another “boogeyman” case?
@@SillyLittlePookie They were bandmates, that's how they got to know each other. He had a son when he was 20. They have since separated. End of the story. As far as relationships, it's not that strange. It'd be stranger if he said anything bad had happen but nothing did. Now, for that evidence of why their relationship was bad. Unless you want to keep point at their age over and over again.
@@handmade64 Grooming is when someone builds a relationship, trust and emotional connection with a child or young person so they can manipulate, exploit and abuse them. Children and young people who are groomed can be sexually abused, exploited or trafficked. Anybody can be a groomer, no matter their age, gender or race. Thanks to google for proper definition 🥰🥰
@@reincarnated.furutajunko Your denoting of "grooming" in adult-minor relationships is heavily based on the assumption the relationship is a means to an end (to manipulate, abuse, exploit). This is an *active* action dependant on the intentions of individual, it's not something which passively exists. By claiming building a bond with a younger person is grooming, you'll have to prove the presence of malicious intent-otherwise I'll see it as it is: simple love
@@reincarnated.furutajunko I assumed you think the same thing across all adult-minor relationships. I was just curious why you think it's grooming by default.
Unfortunately in a lot of states, it's completely legal if age of consent is 16, and purely based on the age it doesn't matter how old the adult is, it's considered a legal consensual relationship
@@comradekenobi6908 no?? Where I live and what I've seen from Americans and online stuff, it's more commonly younger women with older men, most of the time teenage girls prefer to date adults over 25, that's just from what I've seen and read and experienced. Most likely it's different for you. Either way the age gap is insane and both parties are fucked.
@@SKIBIDITOILETISHAMAKyour brain fully develops at age 25. You don't magically become an adult at 18 your still a teen it's in the name eighTEEN. Governments only mandate that 18 is the legal age to become an adult to get drafted into wars more easily
@@awesomepossum4375 I advise you to really use that noggin before typing something so stupid again. This whole thing is just a rumor and there's no solid evidence or proof those ages are true. He was just bringing it up, which is why he said "allegedly" every sentence. But even a child can pick up on context clues like that lmao.
@@SKIBIDITOILETISHAMAKjudging by your username I don't think anyone will take you seriously and for good reason. Also why do you like your own comments?
@@SKIBIDITOILETISHAMAK You are legally considered a child until you reach whatever age your country has made the “adult age” for lack of a better term. So, yes… A 16 year old’s brain is 9 years away from being fully developed, and a 32 year old’s brain has already been fully developed for 7 years. It is biologically impossible for anyone under the age of 25 to make 100% fully responsible decisions because the last part of the brain that develops is the part that controls your decision making.
@@blah914But publicly? If it came to public and they were both big people online, then there would certainly be backlash. Again, a lot of men do get away with dating minors or having relations with them, and that's one if my biggest fears as a girl; but it's still double standards because people *defend* women over 25 who date teenagers/minors in general because they're women, when grooming is just not acceptable no matter the gender. So yeah, from my point of view, that's how it's a double standard.
@St4rGirl.. Seinfeld, Jimmy Paige, Elvis, Valderrama, Connor Kennedy, joel madden, Kobe Bryant, Tyga, Milo Venti-something, David Bowie.... just off the top of my head, of guys who never faced any repercussions. Also, statistically, the majority of fathers to underage teenage pregnancies are men 20-35. men dating minors is so common people barely blink.
@@blah914 Oh well that's a lot. I didn't know about those. Still, people normalize women dating minors, the thing about the double standard is that people tell male teenagers that it's "mainly" to date adults. Also, sorry if my first comment seemed a little dry, it usually happens that I'm rude accidentally.
@St4rGirl.. no, people don't normalise it, mainly because it's not normal, and it's not common. it is statistically very uncommon for women to date younger men at all, even if those men are over 18, and even less common if they are minors. the vast majority of women date same age or older. the vast majority of men date same age or younger.
@@Catpuke14 lol, y'all make hypotheticals about wild bears being safer than men, quiet down pumpkin. Y'all want nothing to be said anytime a pattern of horrible women behavior is identified but want to make up imaginary scenarios where men in your mind are bad and attach that to reality.
@@RyuuO_ouh what did women say when men said not all men? YesAllWomen. There is NOTHING women hate more than equality. Let them experience the same shame, accountability, and consequences they want men to experience and they lose their minds.
@@MrColdwilliam 1. That's a tiktok trend, no one outside of tiktok even knows of it (I had to Google it), plus there are tons of people making fun of it. 2. Please don't say y'all, I'm a guy 3. Don't call me pumpkin I'm not your kid and I'm not your partner
As someone who meet their girlfriend when I was 17 and she was 35 I can say....the moment I turned 18 I was not an adult, and certainly not an adult with the life experience that would have counted up to her being 36. You can not tell me you, dear Sterling, go and look at an 18 year old and think, yeah that sure is an adult and I can apply the same standards I apply to myself. That sure is an absolut mature person. Now, if he was 28 and she was 45, the age gap would still be a big gap, but he would have had some adult years and experiences under his belt and would have had the chance to experience relationships with people more similiar to his age...they would be both adults with adult experiences. This here, him 18 and her being 34, this is icky. I myself did not see it that way when I was 18 and my GF was 36, I only realised years later how fricked up that was and how much damage it has done me
Yeah like being in your 30’s is massive. How does someone live that long? Let alone, live so much life and still have the nerve to look at a child and think it’s okay to date them. It’s like dating a baby 😂 I once dated an older woman as a teen too, and now I realize she was probably just desperate since she was a widow with 2 kids
but that’s still grooming??.. age and gender doesn’t determine a victims trauma - SA of any sort (especially CSA) can literally cause the brain to stunt development and growth.
I find it especially bizarre for women to find young boys attractive. For thousands of years women have been attracted to men who can protect and provide. To look at a child as a dating option is creepy.
If you look up any statistic that's not true. Womena re attracted to young men just like men are to young women. "Attracted to status" or "men glow up in their 30s" is a myth made by men to make themselves feel better about themselves. Even in the past big age gaps WEREN'T the norm and most people married to people similar in age, like it has always been
Like I do understand older men being attracted to younger women biologically because of fertility.. but I never understood the urge for a female that is not in breeding age or women with a boy who hasn't hit puberty.. what is it? Alot of questions should be asked of the wokies who are trying to make M.A.P. a thing.
society changed alot we are not hunter gatherer anymore and we live in cities I control of government and police making a living is now based on how well someone uses their brain and social skills so strong men are no longer are at the top of mating choices for women
@@Jayzel617 26 year age gap is wrong. And 16 may not be "adult" And they also "started openly dating when he turned 18" so that means 18 was the proper age of consent Yes, she is disgusting
No shit it’s not. They’re both adults, people who think that an age gap between adults is weird need to go outside and stop with the high school age gap mentality
Holy crap. I am 32, and a mother of a 5 year old. I see anyone like 22 and younger as kids imho. I cannot imagine doing that kind of thing with a teenager!! Something very very wrong with her.
@@ShadowRatandCat Men get away with it a lot less. Women are literally allowed to be creepy by societal standards. It's not anywhere close to the same thing
what evidence? exactly where does it say that he’s not happy with his relationship? all you see is him not smiling in the fucking photos. Unless you are an actual relative of his - stfu and mind your own business.
I agree basing a whole argument on two pictures is pretty stupid especially if you want to check for any ill will, just two pictures will not be enough evidence to support any claims let alone such a serious one like this.
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regardless if he doesn't show "ill will" towards her, whenever someone 'starts' dating someone AS SOON AS they turn 18, they are a creep. i feel like Charlie either knows that it was wrong and keeps it quiet so his son can live a good life, or he is too brainwashed by her to even think its wrong
@@SKIBIDITOILETISHAMAK My GF was 36 and I was 18, I am now over 40 and looking back I can have a different look at that relationship, and just because I turned 18 does not mean I was an adult the same way she was. Looking back decades later it was really effed up and did some damage. You can not tell me that just because someone turns 18 they have the same experiences and standards that someone with over 30 has. Sure, the law sees you as an adult, but you do not have the experiences that someone over 20 or 30 has. When I was 36 and looked at 18 years old I was simply thinking "Wow, they are like..kids, what did my GF think at that time?" It is not a healthy relationship. Friendships, okay..but having a sexual relationship at that age and age gap...toxic.
You compared his looks to Leon Kennedy if you look at the fanbase its women thirsting for that character if he looked like this before he turned 18 that means this girl found him attractive when he was 16 even 14 thats def predatory tbh
@ShadowRatandCat Depends, a lot of famous and rich people get away with it like on the island that shall not be named. But most of the time the female victims get justice.
I’m sorry to distract from the main topic which I believe is disgusting as well but doesn’t he look like he could play a live action Leon from Resident Evil?🔥🔥
“There doesn’t seem to be any ill will from either parties here.” 😅 It’s nice to know double standards for people being judgmental for statutory still exist.
Nothing is okay with this. Its like Bobby Brown and Drake. You might wanna think again about what you say. Of course your not gonna get the facts online or any public made evidence. Grooming is disgusting. What if it was your son or daughter?
Yah. If my son was hanging out w a 30 yr old lady when he was in high school I'd be shutting that TF down...Hollywood is weird tho so Idk what happened
Even if they started dating when he was 18, she WAITED for him to be legal. Doesn't mean it was ok. He was a literal teenager and she was a grown ass woman😬 she definitely groomed him
Someone actually raised a really good point: I don’t know anything about this actor but holy shit WHERE WAS HIS PARENTS? Did they seriously have no problem with their son being groomed by a 32 year old? And don’t tell me he managed to hide it because I don’t believe that for a second, kids can barely hide anything from their parents let alone this guy being as famous as he is.
@@chimpwimp9407 The movie about the guy with daydreams n shit and he ages backwards like he'd be old and the size of a baby. Apparently a real condition
@@neonthunder3261 You're getting two movies mixed up. Secret Life of Walter Mitty was about Ben Stiller daydreaming. The movie about aging backwards starred Brad Pitt as the main character. Curious Case of Benjamin Button was the name.
Even if its not grooming i dont think people more than 10 years apart should date at all, it kind of creeps me out like imagine someone saying "i was a teenager when my boyfriend was born" thats just weird
Even people 10 years apart is weird. A 26 year old with a 36 year old, you have nothing in common. People in their 20s in this day and age are still children.
@@Avi_studios ten and eleven make literally not much difference at all… in the general scope of things… someone ten or eleven years apart from you still have waaaaaay less life experience than you… so
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@@gojirarex5138 actually it does kinda matter, if a they started dating when thr mom was 15 that would mean he was 25, my parents are also 10 years about but they met each other when tehy were BOTH adults, i hate that as soon as you turn 18 bam youre an adult now
@@needless974 did you, not read the part "fully mature adult" Once you're in your mid 20s (when the human brain fully matures) You can date anyone, doesn't matter the age gap anymore, since you're mature and know what you're doing and getting into.
Basicly that woman was lying to him about her age and pretty much everything tricking him into having a kid at a early age, later on he finds out about it and they break up. he is still in contact with his baby son and he is happy at the time. unbelevebale how the woman can be so low to do such thing..
Here in Philippines there's an actor who married a Child star back in the day and their age gap was 40 years I think. That guy actor has many wives and they're alive. About a year I guess he divorced his 3rd wife and married another woman and that be the child star won in the 90's there's a picture of them back that he carries his future wife winning the pageant 😂
@@ZariainYT Back in the 90's there's no age restriction in doing corn here in the Philippines even 16 can apply being an actor for any kinds of stuff there's no child protection back in the day. Some of the movies that are categorized as explicit some of those are not 18.
@@LilXancheX when she won the pageant for kids there's a photo that the man who is currently his husband now carries her in the photo. Just search for Vic Sotto and Paulene Luna
If there's no evil being done or none are harmed then what they did is perfectly fine regardless of what anyone thinks, this framing makes it seem like she destroyed/ruined him when there is no evidence leading to that, man some people are strange indeed, like why lie??
Look at Russia where it is 16 the age of consent and there is such popular tv show “pregnant at 16”, where dude leaves single mom in 99% cases for a more fresh cat
Speculation?!?!? She was 32, and he was 16! Protect our young girls AND boys from groomers! Everything about their interactions and "relationship" was the height of unacceptable. It is not okay to ignore these issues because he's a man and they are "amicable." It's f*cking weird!
32 year old man meeting up with 16 year old girl: EWW, GROSS, WTF?! GET THIS MAN ARRESTED ASAP! 32 year old woman meeting up with 16 year old boy: "I don't see nothing wrong~"