I walked away from a career in medicine. 13 years, gone in an instant. People thought I was insane. But it was the best thing I've ever done in my life.
@@ameanstoanend12It'd be hard to pinpoint but in general an MD has more options than an RN. But RN's I've seen become nursing home or care home owners(incl temp post-op residents), staffing agency, teach. MD's I've seen do the same above but also own the allied health schools they teach in or have other RN's or MLS's teach. edit: forgot about owning the medical offices they rent out to fellow MD's
Time is the only resource. Spend it wisely. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
I've been trying to figure that out for the past 10 years... Bouncing around between a variety of things. All I know is I was miserable before, despite supposedly "having direction". @@ameanstoanend12
Walking away from people doesn’t mean you don’t love them, it simply means that relationships doesn’t bring you happiness anymore, only chaos. You can love them and still walk away!
@@Averysadprincess you have to weigh things out then. if what your getting outweighs the amount of bs a narc dumps on you, so be it. your life, your misery.
@@afreen5058I don’t think that’s what it means. More like once you become accustomed to having nice things (expensive$$) you are trapped maintaining that difficult standard. It works with jobs, relationships too. That insta model wife is a full-time job to keep. Also, having possessions weighs you down and stresses you out, you have an inventory in your brain to care about.
If you walk away from a marriage without trying to work it out...youre a scumbag. Dont get married if you feel its not going to work out. You do more harm to the child if you have kids. Women if you do walk away...do not ask for alimony.
You seem to omit the fact that forcing yourself to stay in a failing relationship will be even more damaging than letting it fall apart controllably, both for you and for the others....
I have one life. I will not stay in a bad situation that is resilient to any attempts of changing it. That energy, I will rather use it for something else more worthwhile. The only attachment I have is the love of my indipendence and freedom.
Exactly. Reflection is key. Time is limited. And so, when one is about to cross beyond the void veil... one should Reflect carefully. "Before I start, I must see my end. Destination known, my mind's journey now begins. Upon my chariot, heart and soul's fate revealed. In time, all points converge, hope's strength resteeled. But to earn final peace at the universe's endless refrain, we must see all in nothingness... before we start again." --Diamond Dragons (Armageddon's Ballad) 🐲✨🐲✨🐲✨
@@aavon2316i had a very successful business, and walked away from it due to circumstances, just like that. you state that its "hard to do so", you have come to the conclusion its not time to walk away yet.
YES! I had so much self doubt since December of 2023 until today. I realized it is the messed up, dysfunctional way the company I work in is run. Planning the escape now.
Me neither. I have never understood how people don’t walk away instantly from toxic environments (friendships, workplaces, intimate relationships). Time is the greatest asset in our lives, what are some extra thousands of bucks worth if you contract cancer or some other terrible mental/physical disease soon. Only cowards don’t have the courage of walking away from these places.
@@davidleon4052 its something you mention cowards. out present day society is full of them, narc, and non narcs alike. was with my narc gf for 8yrs off, and on. i would never tolerate her bs, but took her back 4x because i loved her. her last f up was it, all done. i could have lived the rest of my days w the good aspects of her, but those bad ones eventually overruled the good.
I dont agree you need someone who will hold you accountable for your actions, not everyone, is a hater, some people should question you you need them people
Let's say I see my friend doing something I know is not good for him I will definitely question him and get him to justify himself so he understands the error without people like this you will have alot of troubles in life your friends should of got you out of. By walking away your looking for trouble, this sounds like a comment by someone young and not responsible 🤔
30th January 2024. Walked away from the business I founded. The relief was indescribable. I had no idea I would feel that relief until after the event. Sometimes the right thing to do is not blindingly obvious, yet withthe benefit of hindsight, we wonder why we continued in that environment.
I begged my husband for years to walk away from our small business that he hated. When he finally did a decade later, he was so relieved, he got physically healthier, noticeably happier, and we actually became more financially well-off.
Was your business still profitable? I'm thinking of walking away from my business, but it is still profitable and the time:money ratio is very good compared to any job I qualify for
I walked away (more than once), but life unfortunately has not been great. The older I get, the harder it is to start again, I am tired and far less hopeful. Money gives you choices and power to escape and be more comfortable and successful. I'd like you to do a video about how to cope with feeling that you have messed up in life, whether through our own fault or no fault of our own. Thank you for a wonderful channel and always very professional and on-point videos/presentation.
I totally feel you. At some point, for me, I feel I'd rather just have an end to things and suck in as much smoke as possible rather than go through all the pain and struggle to start over, once more.
I agree. The video makes out like there are lots of houses out there....pick one (you got the money?) Same with opportunities. Lots of opportunities..just pick one (without the recent experience or particular degree?) I am now 65, divorced 7 years ago from a toxic marriage. Starting over again has been really, really tough and then to top it off, I was bullied out of my last 2 jobs (too old, I guess). I look at my life and think this is nothing like how I planned it to be and because of other people's actions, I had a choice of toxicity...or the hand-to-mouth uncertainty I now have. It is a fairy tale that the whole world is out there with houses and jobs and friends there for the taking.
I'm in the same spot. 59 and so many toxic jobs, people, family...starting over and over and over. I think I've moved 57 times!!!! I don't think I can start over again, but thankfully I finally have a safe place to live at least. I'm resting and I've pretty much walked away from everyone and everything. Like the t-shirt says, "I like my dog and MAYBE one other person'...if that.
Best thing I ever heard on this (I've done it myself) is the wake doesn't drive the boat. Leave the past in the past. Some of the stuff that at the time was terrible turned out to have huge positive effects on my life. ❤
Nobody messes up, you have been indoctrinated into an individualistic mind set, the answer is far more collective. You are capable, useful and valuable. If society is failing in providing you the opportunity to be happy or worse exploiting you, then its society that has failed you. The individual doesn’t fail the collective, the collective fails the individual.
Walking away becomes considerably easier when, even if you don't know what will happen, you know you can count on your own mind and your resilience. This mental resilience is what I'm trying to build 🙏
I walked away from an abusive marriage. It was difficult. Years of emotional pain. Yet………. My life is so much better for that choice. Stand your inner knowing. Walk the difficult path. Your only cost will be growth, independence, self respect, and opportunity. I highly recommend the walk of bravery.
Same. I should have never married. And even the next gal whom I thought might actually be a true teammate was yet another psychotic, toxic narcissist. After 30+ years of solid, heartfelt, intelligent attempts to find a legitimately awesome partner, there's just been too much jank, junk, and garbage. But now, tranquility and fulfillment are mine--via solitude. 💪😎✌️ I actually love it, too.
I really love the message of this video. Think of it this way, life’s like a closet. Sometimes, you’ve gotta clear out the old stuff to make space for the cool new finds. Walking away? It’s kinda like decluttering. You're just making room for the awesome new experiences and friendships that are waiting to pop into your life. So don’t sweat saying bye to the old, it’s your hello to the exciting and new :) Thanks for the video!
Walked away from my toxic family situation (mom, dad and sister) and never been more 'at peace'. The stillness, sense of calm, and contentment I feel without them is indescribable. A dysfunctional family environment is just not worth staying in. It took me 3 years and saving up a lot of money to 'escape'. I am so proud of myself for eventually mustering the courage to leave. I left a life of material luxuries (7 Bedroom McMansion with Pool and In-House staff). But all those material comforts meant nothing when they came with constant insults, misbehaviour, emotional abuse, manipulation, etc. at the hands of so-called family...
Toxic "friends", family members, associates, and acquaintances in general are definitely the worst things about existence. Avoid wherever and whenever possible.
If something is not worth fighting for then it's time to walk away. But when someone you know is going through a rough moment, don't walk away. Be supportive and help them get over it. I love your videos.
Every single ex that didnt give a shit when I had a rough time... just one sad mood and they're gone even if you supported them 20times. Losing hope in this world
3 months ago i walked away from my former best friend and lover. she was the closest relationship i’d had in my life so far in life and taught me a lot about myself and the world and other people. After a while we stopped being compatible with one another and we tried to fight for so long but eventually the smoke in our house became too suffocating. I felt so guilty for so long about leaving her because she wanted to stay for me, but i know now i made the right decision. I still have love for her but in order to become who we are meant to be we can’t be with each other anymore. It’s been one of hardest journeys i’ve had to face in life, the pain has been great and i’m still mourning, but I know i loved her enough to save both of us from the smoke before it got worse.
I really felt what you said here. Sometimes, we walk away and take a hard choice for benefit of both yourself and her, since the smoke is continuing to rise.
It's a corny saying but true. It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all, and stay away from country music! Throw all their stuff out.
I can feel ur pain as I am walking away from a similar relationship after 6 years of dating and one year of marriage my life took another turn and put too much strain and responsibilities on me and I could no longer be happy or see eye to eye with my best friend and husband. I decided to walk away since our lifestyles and values have changed and made us no longer compatible. We had no conflicts or fights but we both suffered in silence. It is really painful when you are the one who make that decision it takes a lot of courage and responsibility as u will always have that guilt!
Yes, I can relate. Especially when they try to convince you they are "Christians" yet there is no love or support, only finger-wagging, criticism, and shame. I don't think they read the same New Testament as I did.
I am walking away from people that called themselves my friends, but are always put me down with little deprecating comments. Even if it is in a form of a joke it is not. Walk away!
Walking away is great advise to people who are in desperate situations. Both emotionally and physically. The downside is minimal I would think. What have they got to lose really? The reality is that most people do not fall into this situation. They are not desperate but rather discontent with life. The job pays the bills but stressed and bored with it. Family adds a whole differnent dynamic to not walking away. For most people, it's too risky to walk away at some point. We settle. Even at the cost of our contentment. People live lives of quiet desperation not matter how good it looks for them from the outside. Suffering and insecurities seems to be a default to living. All the gold in the world will not solve this. Hopefully most of us can find enough positive and pleasure to make life tolerable. Dont beat yourself up. It's not your fault.
I lived comfortably in a job/work environment that took my mental health and zest for life slowly over more than a decade. It was incremental, to the point I didn't notice how far I slipped into apathy. One has responsibilities, but they should never be at the cost of mental and physical wellbeing. It is hard to escape the trap of familiar comfort while ignoring what it's costing you. When you no longer enjoy life, feel trapped, or are too tired to do things you enjoy in your free time, it really is time to reevaluate where you are in life. It's never easy starting fresh, but that said, you likely will find the desire to chase it successfully once you change paths and break the cycle you were once in.
Most of walking away has to do with people. I don’t like them very much anyway. I like living alone. Humans have fantasy expectations about life because we believe in lies.
The unknown IS better than an openly toxic/harmful environment, and the unknown is the potential to wander upon something greater~ Better than being stuck in a cesspool.
Many people do not walk away when they should because of peer pressure. Family and friends encouraging and even pushing you to stay in a certain job you don't even like because your peers do not understand that your inner world is up in flames, slowly burning away into sadness and depression as you waste your life somewhere, in some situation where you know you don't belong. I walked away from my first ever job this year because I felt mistreated, I wasn't given the full payment, I was made to work every single day of the week a few times (that would be 63 hours a week) doing hard physical labor inside the cold of a fridge, being pulled 10 different ways at once by different managers working at the place, I got sick to the point of having to take 5 types of medicine. It was my decision to walk away, and I still think it was a damn good decision. Everyone gave me the side eye which made me feel bad, but I decided I'm not gonna let other people's opinions stop me, even if these are people that care about me and do the things they do for love.
Walking away is much more powerful and destructive than fighting. It is the definite and irrepairable breach of loyalty. People will forgive an argument but for walking out on them they will resent you for the rest of their lives. And it is amazing how few will try to make amends once you're gone. As if nothing mattered anyway.
The burning house is a wicked metaphor for all this. Main reason why so many people likely don't walk away from such soul sucking relationships or jobs, is because they may have rushed into something like a mortgage for a house or they have kids, or both, so they feel like they're stuck. But even if they wanted to walk away, it might feel too risky from a money standpoint. A sort of rock and a hard place situation. We're all burdened with ideals from young, "Get a job - a mortgage - a house - a partner - kids", With the way things are nowadays, I'm glad I learned quite early to not rush straight into all that crap...
I walked away from a VERY toxic work environment of 9.5 years in September 2017. It was one of the BEST decisions of my life. In August 2018 I ended up finding the BEST work environment I have ever experienced in my life, and right before my one year anniversary I ended up moving to a house that is a 10 min walk from my office and a 2.5min drive, BEST work commute of my life in August 2019. This coming August 2024 is my 6 year anniversary at my work and my 5 year anniversary at my house and I could not be happier. I absolutely LOVE and appreciate everyone that I work with, they feel like a beautiful family. And my boss is the BEST boss I have ever had. She is also a wonderful friend, she truly cares and appreciates everyone that works for her. I feel so incredibly blessed 🙌 😇
I was living in my bosses guest house rent free all I had to do was yard chores, clean the pool and run errands. Sweet....right? After 1 year he showed his true sociopathic personality and my LIFE WAS IN DANGER. I had no money, no other jobs and no family or friends. Luckily I escaped and spent 2 years in a crummy HOMELESS SHELTER...bad people and bed bugs. BUT....that's where I met the love of my life with whom I spent 13 happy years. And the time spent in that shelter was an education in human behavior. A pretty good trade.
I moved across country to be closer to my 10 year best friend. We wanted to live in the same city again for years and years. Just like you, I thought it would be safe and perfect. I mean we have a best friend tattoo. I travel for work and was only there a few days a month so what can go wrong. She became jealous, mentally abusive, and tried to financially abuse me. I ran as fast as I could. I was lucky enough to almost immediately find a host job in a national forest (childhood dream) as a temporary thing. I stayed there for 8 months. It was worth it. 1000%. A mutual friend mocked me and called me homeless even though I make 6 figures. Being “homeless” saved me from abuse and control. Thank you for posting your story
@@rachreid8746sometimes it takes us time to see certain peoples true colors and their intentions. You are a strong person and good for you for putting your safety and mental well-being first before anyone. Sometimes we grow apart from others and that’s ok.
@@andyp8464 Everything is good now but, sadly my companion left Earth 9/2021. My section 8 apartment is heaven. Those 2 years in the homeless shelter turned out to be a blessing
Wow, this video really hit home for me. Asking ourselves whether a situation is truly benefiting us or if it's time to move on is something we all struggle with at some point. It takes courage to walk away from something that's not serving us, but sometimes it's the only way to truly grow and thrive. Thanks for the thought-provoking content, it's conversations like these that make me love this channel even more!
I'm 30 years old now and I have never have strong attachment to something or anyone. I'm content with life since I was in my 20's. I still do have goals and ambitions I want to achieve.
You have already talked yourself out of it and this video isn’t ’preaching’….. you can do anything anytime. The trick is…. plan / set up your next move
The job market has never been the "best" or "worst", in all fields. What defines "best" or "worst"? There will always be a worse time and there will always be a better time.
@@NigelHyphenJones You are also giving up any seniority and perhaps, for a time, benefits. You will also be the first laid off because you are the most junior. There is a lot to consider when job hopping and much of it is totally out of your control.
I’ve had to walk away from my toxic older brother and his toxic wife recently. After watching this video, I feel more confident that I’ve made the right choice. I don’t know if it’s forever that I’ve walked away, but I know it’s the right thing to do for now. Thanks for always helping bring clarity in my life, Einzelganger!
I just walked away from my toxic family. They will be there when they needed you and will disappear when you needed them. They would turn things around like everything is my fault. I've been very patient with them for so long and yesterday I just couldn't take it anymore. This video came at the right time when I needed it the most. Thank you.
@@Scarhead_Ed "Relatives are people who are related by blood or marriage. A family is a group of people, typically consisting of two parents and their children, living together as a unit". In my case its family.
Thanks for the video Einzel, i walked away from a toxic relationship at the end of last year, many things have happened since then, but i've "opened" a door of so much self-improvement, i am happy of where i am, and i truly have to say, i may be alone in my house right now, at least it is full of fresh air and it feels good to be alive, cheers!
Always follow your free will and call from your soul over "putting up" with bad circumsatnces. Even if it leaves you worse off financially or less secure. It's better to stand against tyranny than comply with it. If you don't and no one else does then what will be the outcome? Complying with authority, appeasing it, negotiating with it, these things only ever give authority more power over you. Always walk away and keep your personal sovereignty, at least your next choice will be yours to make, even if it's from the confines of the next situation. Freedom is inherent, it isn't earned. Money is earned, but money cannot buy freedom.
One of the fears is imagining a healed and healthier life but without the person you just loved and gave your all to. You finally made it but he didn’t make it with you.
This video found me today. I have been stuck for years in a country and job that is stagnant and dead-end. Fear has been the reason for me not walking away. Thank you for this video. Just what I needed to hear!!
Walking away isn't cowardly, isn't just giving up because the situation/person is too difficult. It's discernement whether the situation is worth investing in or not. I gave up on sick relationships, even with family and significant others, and started over elsewhere. Best decisions ever. I rebuilt my way. Don't listen to the haters and jealous who want power over you, I.e. the narcissists.
I had started walking away before Dad was killed, but after his murder I thought Mom and I could establish a healthy relationship. I already knew she was trouble, but I owed it to Dad to provide her time and comfort, and perhaps we could develop a positive relationship, which we had never really had. It simply wasn't to be. Ultimately, after 46 years experiencing mental, physical, sexual and spiritual abuse from our mother, I finally understood that everything I said to or did for her would be misconstrued and used against me. It seemed the purer my thoughts, statements, or intentions, the greater an opportunity for her to make me look like a horrible person, and to make herself appears as a victim. In my opinion, she was "Miss Information, the Queen of Envy". Yes, it was painful to walk away, but I gained tremendous peace while, according to my siblings and their children, she projected the guilt of the abuse she'd poured out all those years while also continuing to play the victim. Her life was a tragedy of her own making.
Chill bros, I'm not so much coward that I'll unalive myself. I'm just walking away from every relationship I made or got into. I'm just leaving bcz these fake relationships don't mean anything to me anymore
@@istoppedlaughing5225 Don't be frustraded, in fact when I started to calculate each outcome from my friendships noticed that they relied for 2-3 things - my presence for giving very good and FREE advices and giving them money and my FREE time when needed. At the end they just proved their animal side, so I threw some truths in their faces waiting for animal to intelligent response. Former won in around 10:1, including those of my dad and mom (1 point for intelligent came from a very good person, still living with abusive relatives) Then checked what money gave me, and literally they provided me a home, food, access to knowledge (especially for human social behavior) and highest freedom PS: Interestingly those people still talk behind their backs which is at least hilarious
I’ve walked away from so many things. I have abandonment issues but knowing to throw in the towel has helped me grow immensely. My public accounting career, a distant and unsupportive parent… and until recently a partner I knew I’d grow to resent because he didn’t love me the way I needed to be loved. I had to let it all go and I’ll never stop reinventing myself. Lost a wallet with my ID and bank cards too, in a foreign country. Being a loser has never felt so scary and liberating. 😂
Don’t feel bad twin…we are simply human. Keep on chuggin. -Lost my visa, ID, and social within 2 weeks. -Just walked away from another narc -No contact with toxic family -Bad abandonment issues You are not a loser. Never say that ♥️
@@SayaddinaBeneGesserit oh my word! Are we the same person? I've also stopped trying to justify my needs to friends and other people. I'm tired of carrying the cross of feeling unloved by the very people who put me on this Earth. I'll just have to give myself all this love I know is in my heart. The compassion. Thank you for your comment🥰
Just to include some personal perspective in case someone can benefit from it, for me, the decision to leave my job two months ago, was not quite based on an economical calculation, but an emotional one. I finally realized that my boss was an abusive person. It’s easy to say know, but it took me the best part of a year to come to terms to the idea that sometimes, in live and also in the workplace, one will meet a manipulative person that doesn’t want your benefit. It’s no ones fault, that’s just life. I’ve learned that the psychology has reached to the conclusion that 1 of 20 people is inside of the dark triad of perverse personality. After that understanding, I knew that the promises of my boss about my future and also the plans I had for the position, will never be fulfilled because he was dishonest. All the attachment I had for the position I’ve earned with hard work, just vanished and the perspective of a finding a new job come natural. Today, I think it was the best decision I’ve ever made. Thank you for the video, I love the channel ❤
Thank you for yet another thought-provoking and considered video! I look forward to your videos and often re-watch older ones. This video was particularly relevant for me. Several months ago, I was confronted with walking away or rather being walked away from. My longest standing friendship (over 35 years) has always been a difficult one. My friend‘s and my lives paralleled each other but also sometimes we lost touch. Four times over the course of the friendship, my friend hurt me deeply - her words can be very toxic. She is very eloquent and enjoys the power that comes with harsh pronouncements. After each of these four events, I would try to defend myself or would try to fight back, which always led to her breaking off contact for a while. The fourth time was about 6 months ago. I criticized her for not supporting me and my efforts even though I had always tried to be supportive of her (no one is perfect but one tries). Long story short - she has cut off all contact with me and I still don‘t understand why. All I can do (and have done) is to keep the communication „door“ open. But, over the past 6 months, I have thought a lot about why, although it was my feelings which were hurt, she never apologized and just lashed out at me. I came to the conclusion that, although this is my longest standing friendship and we have shared a LOT of experiences, in the end it was a toxic friendship. Because of my background (moving every 2 years as a kid), keeping friendships seemed the most important thing and I guess I just accepted any behavior as OK in order to maintain the friendship. Thanks to your videos and a lot of thinking, I am ok letting go of her friendship. I hope she is OK and content with her life. Now I have extra time I can spend on other people or other activities. Letting go can indeed be freeing. Again, thank you so much for your videos!!!
I let go of a long friendship similar to yours as well. it was three years ago and worth it in the end. And also, even though your ex-friend cut the contact, I still think that you’re the one that’s walking away from her because you’ve shut the “friendship door”. Shutting the door means loving and respecting yourself by only allowing good people into your life. I think you should be proud of yourself 😊
Why Walking Away Is Good: 1. Boundaries: Walking away establishes and maintains healthy boundaries, safeguarding your mental well-being from toxic situations. 2. Self-Reflection: Stepping back allows for introspection, fostering a deeper understanding of your emotions and needs. 3. Reduced Stress: Removing yourself from a negative environment can significantly lower stress levels, contributing to better mental health. 4. Empowerment: Choosing to walk away empowers you to prioritize your mental health and take control of your life. 5. Perspective Shift: Distance can provide a fresh perspective, helping you see situations more objectively and make informed decisions.
Thanks Einzelganger - this quote by C.Day-Lewis “walking Away” I keep in my journal and read it often. Quite apropos I dare say: “How Self-hood begins With the walking away, And love is proved In the letting go.”
The only problem with walking away is almost everywhere you go there will always be difficult people. You have to say to yourself im not going to tolerate them anymore. I found by watching Dan oconner videos has helped me to stand up for myself without having to react but to respond. 😊
From my own experience leaving three jobs and one relationship I did do some serious soul searching for a couple of months each time. The clearest signals (smoke) I got from my body. A bad back, gone in a day after I quit. Losing sleep no more after I quit. Drinking less after I quit. So my advice is to sense the accumulation of smoke if your body is giving you signs. It does require self knowledge. And the other thing is money, if you are in debt then walking a way is way more difficult. So if youre young please save for a rainy day, it will come in drops or in showers.
I have walked away from jobs. I've walked away from romantic relationships. I've walked away from friendships. I cannot recall ever regretting any of those things.
There are time's, and perhaps they are _most_ of them, when we should just "let it go" - when we should walk away. But there are also times when the personal cost of doing so is simply too high, and we should stay. ☯︎
leaving the marriage would be hard, but not impossible, but leaving the kids...who need me so much...that is the hard bit....those innocent little people need their dad!
I have a feeling a lot of people walked away from him. I love his writing, have read it all, but he was seriously alcoholic like many writers in his time. .
I know people on work places don't have value.Value don't exist anymore.Exist how to joke you for money and buling.Gosip,buling,and joke to take your money.Value is for the person who do this.
I just really love all the thoughts I'm reading in the comments, I can't think of anything to add. Your videos have such a high degree of synchronicity in my life. I've been absolutely mulling over moving cities. It's only a 3 hour drive - and just an unbelievable painful 'aha' moment the other day: I will *never* be able to afford to comfortably live without room-mates in the city I currently live. Too expensive. Good to type that out.
I think this is highly situational. Walking away from things that stress you in life for no real benefit, heck go away asap. BUT what kind of person are you if you walk away from things that stress us, but need our help, like a sick friend, brother, sister, Mom, or dad, even a sick animal you love? You can't walk away from things like this, because the decision of walking away not only concerns you alone anymore, but someone you are attached to. THIS MAKES US HUMAN. Yes, sometimes life is taxing, so what? Evading every hurdle and always choosing the easy way keeps you weak as a person (not just physical, but also mental). I'm not saying one should do every crap others want you to do, especially in a workplace environment, or from people who clearly take advantage of you, as shown in parts of the Video. No, i'm talking about the personal level, like family and people you love and people who deserve or simply need your love. Walking away from them, in a situation where they need you, is simply apalling imo.
When you are surrounded by addicts, gamblers, porn stars and swingers, you walk away. That was my family, and I couldn't change a damn thing. THE COSTS OUTWEIGHED THE BENEFITS.
@@elizabethbrauer1118 It may sound bold, but i would say that's not the norm and it is not what most people think when watching this Video. Btw. Sorry for you.
I spent over 10 years in the army and law enforcement, where being strong in tough times, putting your own needs away and not giving up on others was needed. I fell in love with a girl that turned out to have borderline, and everything inside me wants to not give up, knowing when she’s pushing me away it’s not her “actual self” So here I am, opening my heart out to strangers, watching videos on RU-vid trying to cope with it.
I think I know exactly what you went through with that girl. The more you tried, the more you did… the less it worked, right? Pure agony. I’m happy you are out of that situation.
My wife walked away from our marriage and our son for someone who beats her, got her addicted to fentanyl and made her homeless. I took her back and she wasn’t the same anymore. Even then, she would invite her prison bound ex boyfriend while I’m at work. This time I kicked her out for good. And I’m walking away so far I’m moving to Europe.
Yes. The finality of leaving is permanently closing the door to any hope that things will change. You are also closing the door to a hope for the future you worked hard for in the current environment. Past, present, and future all contribute to our decision....
this is very timely. i really want to walk away and quit my job, but i am so scared since thats my only source of income and i have bills to pay, i support my father, medicines to buy… 😭 i want to quit but i have responsibilities and i cant be selfish… but man… the urge to call by boss and say i quit is strong.
I walked away from my job after 17 years the environment was over the top toxic. The owner offered me a crap load of money to stay. I didn’t see the point of the environment wasn’t going to change and I’d still be miserable. I have my moments that I want to be there but, in the grand scheme of things, it was better for my mental health.
This was very helpful! I'm self-employed and mastered cost/benefit analysis, sunk costs, opportunity costs etc. I'm in a struggle to decide if walking away or not from a social circle i invested 1 year of social energies into, i moved to a new city and trying to make new friends. There are two toxic persons there who are in charge, but also 3 people i like spending time with, but the toxic ones sistematically sabotage me trying to talk to them out of envy/jelousy, and i don't know if it's worth investing more energy in here or start all over elsewhere. I was spontaneously applying economics analysis because i master it. But i tought i was wrong: i told to myself it's people, human material and feelings, not money balance for a business, therefore, follow guts and heart, not numbers. But then your video found me! And told me I'm not the only one thinking of applying economics theories as aid to solve social issues. THANK YOU!
Thank you so much for this insightful tutorial. I will post it to my playlist and watch it when I feel weak. I walked away 3 yrs ago from my abuser. 1200 miles away. I was struggling but managed to stay afloat Then I lost my job at Amazon . . an illegal termination. I have no family and a friend who can't help me. I had to go back to my abuser again. I'm working on getting help from a domestic violence outreach center. They are trying to get me a voucher from the housing authority. There is a 5 yr wait but I will hopefully be put at the top of the list because of the abuse. I'm looking for any job right now. I have a lot of different emotions but I do want to leave my abuser. Some people are truly stuck. I may still lose my car and my credit will be ruined if I go on section 8. My abuser is buying me (paying all my bills and car payment) so I won't leave again. I was very close to living in a tent. Family is everything . . . . unfortunately I never had a normal family.
I am sorry your life is so though, wishing you better times! Hopefully you can gain some financial independence and maybe a church or community centre can help you? Take care!!
It's 90% gray area. What are the absolutes that determine walking away? It's a mixed bag then walking into another mixed bag. Life is shitty usually, no perfect answers, an illusion of reasonable happiness changing from minute to minute.
There's no place to walk to once you realize the entire planet is toxic. That relief and freedom is temporary. Speak your mind and stand your ground, but also know when to admit you're wrong.
Right. I left one toxic job and took a pay cut to get out and get another job which started out great until there was a management change and it became just as toxic as the first place PLUS I was earning less money!!
i can agree with this because there is at least one person or entity that will share you view and support your stance in any given situation. i say this because of course you can stand your ground, you are not alone in that you must always walk away. sometimes the fight is worth fighting especially when there are enough of us willing to set the record straight.
Thank you for this. I am going to be migrating to another country soon and the feeling of separation anxiety hits me so early but this video helped me a lot to understand my situation and gave me new insights.
I lost everything. Slowly. It slipped through my fingers. The harder I clawed- the more it just slipped away. At a certain point I faced a choice. I could continue to cling to past hopes and dreams that no longer were a reality. Or I could walk away from all I’d invested in and into a new life. I chose the latter. It has made the pain easier to bear. And new and pleasant things have come into my life.
This actually came at the perfect time. I'm going to be ending a 9 year relationship since we just aren't compatible anymore, but I'm having doubts, fears, uncertainties. This is all I've known for almost a decade and I'm SO terrified on what comes next, and if I'm making the right decision. I've felt like ending it for years but I always put myself in a state of denial in order to continue, but I know that I can't keep this going for much longer. We both know that we're not compatible, but we keep it going because it's easier than just calling it quits. I've come to realize that I have to be the strong one and that this relationship has run its course. Wish me luck everyone. I'm going to need it
I walked awat from ex lover. We have same social and work circle so going no contact was not my first choice. We tried to stay friends. We have tried that for one year. But the dynamic of our relationship confuses us and make me went on a roller coaster emotion thrill. At the end, to be around him in this same situations makes me feel suffocated with so much sadness, anger, and anxiety. He is a good person tho, just dont love me in a way that I need. To walk away and let him go, I need to sacriface few things. It needs a while to gain courage to do that. And now I am feeling lighter. Still missing him in someway. I guess it is for my greatest good. And I believe God will provide me with other connections with better situations. Be strong and brave. I am counting on myself and God.
I'm currently walking away from a business I founded which was taking everything from me, and a relationship with someone who is great but I know isn't right deep down. It's hard and painful but to continue for a day longer is even worse. Do what you have to do.
