when trauma is trending on TikTok 

TikTok became a much more enjoyable app after I started doing this

I do this all over. Hell, I blocked someone in a chat the other day just because they only made bad faith arguments and stupid jokes. You don't need to "withstand" someone just because they're there. They may have just as much a right to the space as you, but you don't need to subject yourself to seeing it.

I do this, as soon as the algorithm shows me something I don’t like I go straight to that page and block them. I don’t care what other content they make (hell, I might even like what they do usually), but it the quickest way to get something I don’t want to see of my fyp, far more effective that saying I don’t want to see content like that

@@piratebee4553I hate that in the not interested part there’s a limit of what phrases or categories u can select not to see/to see

right. some ppl prob just like to stay pissed off

I realized it was commercialized once I saw cute pins saying "Take your meds!" Yeah... Nice to remind people to take their medicine, but making it into a cutesy pin to wear for fashion is certainly an interesting choice.

​@@hope-cat4894"Did you drink water today?" "Remember to take your meds!" "You've been so strong today, rest." Etc. I hate that stuff. It started off as a genuine reminder to friends but now it just feels performative & condescending .

@@eveoffillory5752 sometimes it even makes me upset. no i didnt drink water today. i didnt take my meds. im not strong. i sleep non stop i dont deserve any more rest. :(

Louder for the people in the back! I feel like people also should be reminded that it’s okay to NOT share their struggles if they don’t want to. There is power in privacy. Don’t take that choice away from yourself (and don’t let capitalism take it either! We don’t have to monetize our every struggle!!)

thats a great statement, and a great reminder!

Me too!!!! I was so confused lmao

Omg its the moment for me too lol

Hmmm Birkenstocks or Berkin stocks??? Confusing and multiple meanings

@@raereybaewhat’s Berkin stocks?

The trip I've gone on with that statement... First I thought she meant stocks in the form of Birkin bags, then I thought she just meant a pair of Birkenstocks, and now I'm starting to think she meant the company Birkenstocks.

Oh my God, same with all singer/dance competition here in India too like it’s fine you don’t have to have trauma and/or don’t hv to cry after every performance including judges. That is exactly why i stopped watching those too 😂. There is actually now an actress who is a brilliant dancer but comes from a normal family who was rejected from one show bcoz her back story was no trauma and wasn’t tv worthy 😂😂😂

And it gets even worse with those Got Talent series! Boomers who stay at home and moms absoutely fell for that crap that's why those shows are so popular

Same with American Ninja Warrior, at this point the sadder the story the more I want them to fail

Lol I always joke that they are trying to get the sympathy vote and it usually works

same here

Same… got pushed out of an online schizophrenic community when I (surprise) had a delusional episode. Instead of understanding as self proclaimed psychosis advocates, the owners of the server manipulated my delusions and claimed they were stalking me so I would leave. They all talked about the “fun” side of psychosis, seeing shapes and colors, or thinking oneself a creature. But the ugly symptoms were demonized, and I was too when I showed them.

Isn't how it's supposed to be?

@@cooliostarstache5474 We’re supposed to be able to be open about the struggles we go through. A community is built to support everyone in it

@@cooliostarstache5474its your right to want to talk about your mental health struggles openly and publicly, and people inadvertently causing others to stop that isnt right

I thought the same. I couldn't quite put my finger on it but you described it well.

SI means what?

Yeah I don't understand this point of view. She was already visibly rich. You could just tell from her house, the procedures she's had done, etc. And also, if she acted better than other people, the internet would be pissed, if she acts down to earth, the internet would be pissed, if she flaunts her wealth, the internet would be pissed, and because she DIDN'T flaunt her wealth, the internet was pissed! What should she have done?

Probably one of the meanest thing I'll ever say on the internet but she's giving Shane Dawson

​@@internetfoxsports illustrated

It's such a baffling thing to lie about. Not an easy accent to mimic either. Like what 😂

@@theshunnedBandersnatchalso the fact that he chose Perth of all places to say he’s from. Probably the worst city to choose since everyone knows everyone to 2 degrees of separation there 😂

It gives “weird kid in elementary school” and I cannot believe anyone believes it

It's bc americans hype up accents for no reason lol. Clinton said his accent got him in a lot of places in the U.S. And he used it to flirt with girls. Always sending vocals in DMs forcing the accent lol It's so cringe

i agree, it’s like all we can do is try to invalidate each other. if you don’t have trauma you’re boring and no one cares about your story, if you do have trauma that shit sucks cuz u have trauma AND everyone’s gonna disrespect you about it anyway

God that reminds me of something I saw that was like a "real daddy issues vs aesthetic!" And it kinda annoyed me because like???? Do you need to compare? You don't know who's making their struggles into and "aesthetic" Not everyone is ready to open up yet and sometimes it a coping mechanism That person was openly sharing their trauma which is ok but it honestly felt like "trauma Olympics" in the way they did it.

It sucks that it sometimes makes its way into real life. My best friend growing up would not let me disclose any trauma I had to her without it feeling like a competition to see who had the worse life. Like no, we were both abused this isn't a contest. The difference then was we were teenagers. I have no idea how grown adults don't feel immature engaging in this behavior.

it might be the new "I went to Europe" type lie

I thought that was super funny

@@gauner1312 i mean possibly

@@janzy58 its so good im so confused

You should ask Hillary Baldwin this question. Just replace Australia with Spain. She even changed her name to Hilaria and steals awards meant for Hispanic people. She never lived in Spain unless you count vacations as a kid lol But her whole personality is about being a fake person. Her husband is just as problematic and enables her delusions.

I read Clinton and my brain went to Bill and I didn’t realize that you were talking about someone else until I read it again 😭

@@Sing_A_Rebel_Songmy favorite tik tok celebrity, Bill Clinton 😭😭

@@succulentgarden2975HELLOPPPPOPP

@@succulentgarden2975Honestly Bill would have totally did TikTok if he had it when running for office in the 90s (man went on the popular talk shows of his time with his saxophone)

@@Sing_A_Rebel_SongYou had to do a double-take and were like, “Wait- what? Bill Clinton is Filipino??” 😂😂😂

Feels like a net “worst” most days 😂

⁠@@KatCritas the internet ain’t going anywhere soon I try to remind myself that never have this many poor / less privileged folks had the ability to communicate and educate one another. I often feel the powerless doomerism take over me and have to remind myself of how cool it can also be.

@@KatCritit does feel that way doesn’t it? It’s just sad because it has changed lives in wonderful ways and it is/could be such a positive force for good.

Pros: fast form of communication between people from across the globe through personalized profiles Cons: fast form of communication between people from across the globe through personalized profiles

As a person who lived half their life in the before and half in the after, I can 100% say it’s the absolute worst. But it would take me hours and pages of text to explain why. I feel so bad for the kids who were born into it. It’s just horrific seeing our decline in every way possible. I wish there were time machines that people could see and feel the difference.

therapy is also best equipped to help you with that. I just know that most normies are not able to understand my struggle

Lol sorry to hear that tho

Welp I hope you're also traumamaxxing for content, because commodification is self actualization babes r/sarcasm

Yeeeeep

OH MY GODS IT ALL CAME FLOODING BACK

..this could be about anyone 😭

I suppose the silver lining this time is that having a therapist adds to the bragging rights. We arent having a repeat of the tumblr "If you have a therapist, you are classist!" Or "Dont get a therapist, they'll just brainwash you into thinking you need drugs and are broken!"

@@Wandervenn ... oh no, this is going to feed into a whole new wave of BetterHelp sponsorships, isn't it?

Shite. I'm so sorry, you both seem to have had terrible, awful, no good last "almost a year". To be able to withstand that without spiraling down, especially already being more vulnerable to breakdowns, without resorting to doing a Tony Montana to a pile of dr.ugs , while supporting someone else through such an early, unexpected, profound loss is straight up superhero shit. I hope it gets easier for you, on all fronts and that you two remember to always have each others backs and I hope he was as supportive and considerate to you as you were to him, especially prior to his bereavement. I wish you the best, stranger ❤

I've been married for 2 years and I can't believe the things that our relationship survived. Some are things that many people will never have to go through let alone their relationship will survive through. Couple's counseling is so central to that. Every week we check in and support each other and air out our pain. Please guys, if you love the person you are with and want it to last but are going through difficult circumstances or mental health struggles consider giving it a try for even half a year or something. Obviously most people reading this won't have the privilege that we had. We had insurance for most of that time which allowed us to afford individual counseling on top of it but for those of you with the means consider couple's therapy when you're struggling.

I am not diagnosed with it but dealt with narcissist abuse from a parent. I've learned to be skeptical. It also seems like half the time it's like, 'guys I stubbed my toe and now I can't be around coffee tables'

@@sophiakeele6666 my doctor saw the difference in my brain compared to a healthy individual. that is not something you can just claim by using a hashtag

​@@gauner1312Not every has the luxury of a diagnosis but I get the skepticism.

@@anahnnemus5187 in my country everyone does. I know that might not be the case in other countries. everyone deserves a diagnosis though.

@@anahnnemus5187if someone doesn’t have the “luxury” of diagnosis then they shouldn’t state that they absolutely have something lmao. I’m not diagnosed with my suspected bpd so i literally always say “i think i have” or “i believe i have”. it’s so fucking easy to not go “yeah anyways im not diagnosed but i have this because i say so and there’s no room for professional input”

True asf

Indeed concerning, this needs to be talked about as well

That's interesting cos professionals have told me I have DID and I went online to check out what it was about and came back thinking mmmm maybe I dont have it, cos this shit is wild online. I dont have hundred of different identities, and it lead me to believe health care professionals were lying to me.

as someone with severe ptsd / icd-11 definition cptsd, thank you for saying this. this is also the experience of my therapist i've had for years, we've both been struggling to find resources for me because of this obsession with trauma. it's also harder to exist as someone with severe mental illness because people keep thinking i have ptsd from like, bad friends or an amicable divorce in my family and it's. it's not. so i am forced to disclose things i don't ever ever want to, to have people take me seriously that i need trigger warnings, don't want to talk about it, etc.

Yes and no. Self diagnosis is valid. Remember that people who get official diagnosis usually get that because of some form of privilege. For me I learned about certain things about myself through the internet that I am now seeking therapy for. Just as another heads up most people have PTSD in the USA and most places that have been colonized, usually affects people of color most and those are usually the people who are not able to as easily get a diagnosis.

@@immortalalia i will argue you on this one. "Remember that people who get official diagnosis usually get that because of some form of privilege. " PTSD is often diagnosed after someone has been involuntarily committed, and a big number of people in CSUs in my experience are people of color and homeless people.

​@@immortalalia"Self-diagnosis is valid".... to who, and for what? The feels? First of all, yes, medical care is a privilege. However, lacking priviledge does nothing for the validity of your claim. You lack the means to seek medical care, so reading stuff on the internet becomes just as legitimate as applicable education and residency? If we are truly able to read something, and then go practically (and, of course, accurately) apply the knowledge, we should be able to do basically anything we can read and comprehend. I should be able to go fly a plane, based off just reading some manuals, no logged courses or training hours with an instructor necessary. Since getting your pilot's license is DEFINITELY a privilege, as it costs thousands of dollars, my piloting competency should be deemed valid, because I can't afford to enroll in an aviation program - correct? Secondly, let's really apply our critical thinking skills here: a great number of mental health issues manifest symptoms that directly affect one's ability to accurately perceive themselves and the world around them. Hmmm... how might that wreak havoc on the diagnostic process? Forget something as interesting as Delusions of Grandeur, how do you set aside your multitude of plain ol cognitive biases during this diagnostic process? Because, whoa, Dunning-Kruger has got you twisted. Ultimately what is the point of this self-diagnosis? Self-treatment? Welp, I've determined I'm bipolar ll, so off I go to brush up on some chemistry and whip up some antipsychotics ala Breaking Bad! Seems valid.

'what tour?'

@@deadhouseplant1585 the world tour

im sure hes loving the focus on Mr Beast now

@@slushpuppiiYeah, but I’ve also seen people talking about his company’s response and the videos of him dating another 17 year old when he was 24

hey! kinda me too! im a framer at a frame shop/art store and love to listen to swell videos while working

I didn't know she had any interaction with him whatsoever The crossovers this man keeps having...

Swell does show up for me but a couple of my other subscriptions don't, for no obvious reason - I always watch them, so it's not that.

No? She was on mine?

No, I see her. Weird

Same here, I didn't even get a notification for this, I just happened to check my subscribed feed

Same for me too. 🤔

Can I ask who?