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I’m ugly , but I thank allah what I got. Sometimes you feel you won’t get married or no one likes you. But you know what? if allah likes you ! who else do you want?
amar tesoro Why Do You Like to Please People? The first step in stepping away from being a people pleaser is to explore why you like to please people. Is it that your self-confidence is based on the approval of others and, therefore, you seek to please people as a means of validation? Is it that it makes you feel like a good person? Is it because it makes you feel important and needed? Is it because you don’t want to appear lazy or uncaring? Is it because you fear you won’t be accepted by others in the group? Or is it just a bad habit? Once you have identified why you are a people pleaser, you can explore alternative ways to have these needs met. Based on what you have said, it seems that you do it to make people like you. If this is the case, then you can find alternative ways of getting others to like you, and/or find ways to be happy as you are without needing the approval of others. Seek to please Allah Islamically, the best way to attain this is to remember that the approval of Allah is more important than the approval of any human being in this life. You can use this thought as a means to motivate your behavior to be that that will please Him as a priority over others. The benefits of seeking His pleasure far outweigh the benefits of seeking the pleasure of those in this life. It will bring you peace and contentment in both this life and the next on a deeper level than acceptance from fellow humans. It could even serve as an indirect way to please others as they feel pleased that you are so serious about seeking His pleasure.
Billy The kid Adam had eve as his wife so he would not get lonely. The fear of not being able to get married is justified because there is nothing worse than loneliness in this world.
Everybody bullies me,teases me.. I'm alone all time..I also perform bad academics.. I'm 19 .. everyone scolds me.. I'm not worth.. I'm worthless..I feel very worthless...I don't go outside...I just need you Allah help me
I also get bullied by my looks too. But you know what, everybody ages. What we look right now will change in 10 years. Why should you care about how others say about you? Like mufti menk said, we are all beautiful. Society especially American society had these very dumb beauty standards. I get that its hard, cause not being the 'American beauty standard', people will treat us differently. But there are so many people like you that are facing discrimination because of how they look. If you have a kind heart that's ALL THE MATTERS. Its simple but its hard to believe. I get that. Just know Allah loves you, and you are a beautiful human being. God bless you and your family bro.
I have the same situation… its a very tough and hard situation that i don’t wish also to my worse enemy. I don’t get out from home i go only to work and i come back home… if i could i wouldnt go also to work, because also there people treat me like animal. But i come to conclusion that if you are suffering so much i will opt for some plastic surgeon. Yes, its haram, but the pain that this problem causes you is so immense that you die everyday and i prefer to risk. I know allah will not be happy for my decision but on the other hands he knows that the reason is totally a survival reason. I dont want to do it, because i want to get a lot of girls or do partirs, my purpose is only to start getting respect from people and starting living life without anxiety, stress, depression and find one women to marry. Im sure that Allah can comprehend.
I grew up in a south Asian family and let’s just say ..that I had some horrible thoughts about myself. Also Allah is always with us may He help us all ♥️🤲
im a 16 y.o girl & it hurts being ignored by everyone! i did a deviated septum surgery cuz of my breathing + my nose it was huge! i still feel ugly and im so devastated being made fun of by friends, being called cringe by everything i do, no to little friends. What hurts more is that all my family members are attractive and my classmates which hurts more cuz my sister gets compliments and GIFTS while im besides her being ignored. I WISH I ALWAYS make duas to AT LEAST have a small flower gift or a note card. At this point im waiting for my death to come and be attractive in jannah inshalla because y’all don’t know how sick and vomit everyday because of the situation
yeah, i literally hate that kind of behavior, bullying cuz of one's look like they do hv a choice, i always feel like if someone cares so much abt beauty, he/she should act better and hv good manners cuz there is no attractive ppl in Jahannam.
Dear sister. Ask Allah to grant you a good husband who will appreciate you but don‘t long for gifts and notes, because that is haram. When you get married, you can have flowers and notes from your husband but not from non-mahram guys in school or wherever. May Allah bless you and grant you all goodness in the dunya and akhirah
I m also very skinny and I often hear this from relatives neighbors like Ur soo skinny Ur soo skinny I actually don't care and about colour being dark is my bad it's actually beautiful see how many models are dark around the world so many celebs so tell to stop
People call me ugly all the time and it hurts. I try to take it with a grain of salt but it always makes me feel like I want to cry. I know that it may not be that big of a deal to you and perhaps no one has ever called you ugly before but it kills me inside and I can’t get over it no matter what. Maybe I am ugly and maybe I should accept it 😔
Ojkmtbae first of all nobody is Ugly. The one Who is saying that you are ugly is ugly on the inside. Dont be sad about it because Allah swt has done his best with every creature. We are literally unique. Be happy with yourself and know that the creator of all creations have Made you. That is very beautiful! Inshallah you Will feel it for yourself and stop worry about What other people say.
Assalamualaikum if you think about people then definitely you will get pain ,if you think about Allah then I sure you Wil never ever get pain ,so from now on words don't think to yourself ugly .
I think you are beautiful dear sister.. strive to be beautiful in eyes of Lord Almighty , eventually Lord will make you beautiful in eyes of his creation.. Nothing is impossible.. have hope & nag God with your prayers.. May Lord Almighty grant you goodness & heal you 💚😊
We are living in a society where everyone is ready to judge you negatively. One of my friend is suffering in severe social anxiety and he always wear mask in public places because he thinks he is ugly and has fear of judgement. Low self-esteem is biggest reason of this. I am non-Muslim but I will definitely share this with my friend. Hope this will elevate his self-esteem.
I dont care if I'm ugly or beautiful... We should all be happy for what Allah has given us... Calling one self or someone ugly is like criticizing Allah's creation.. And we can't .. We dont have right to criticise the The creator Himself..
@@metdaan-uy6hr Don't be disappointed.. believe in ALLAH this life is not everything we r just travellers and have to go back so don't try to impress people in this world they don't deserve you.. but remember ALLAH loves u the most.. he is worthy of everything.. ❣️
You got bullied? Then man up a little and teach that punk a lesson... I remember when I was in grade 4 I got bullied a ton and then i decided to grow a pair and I broke my bully nose... Slapped one like crazy 😂 and kicked one so much that his entire lower body for blue for next few weeks... In a sense those bullies... They made me a bully... You know you have to stand up for yourself if you don't then this world will crush you ...
I am 44, never married, no children. I have accepted that Allah SWT just doesn't want me to find a husband. My looks do affect how people see me, whether they like me or not. But I am human. I accept Allah's SWT will, but it is still hard. Most of men my age are married. I look what happens to children in the world and my heart breaks. Some people are rewarded with children and yet abuse them, or do worse. And here I am....I know I am destined to die alone. Am an only child. My father passed on 2 years ago. I still have my mother, alhamdulillah. But, if she goes before me, I know I will die alone. There will be no one to remember me, or say a dua for my soul. I hope and wish all other people happiness. And if you have someone who loves you, respects you, know that you are blessed.
I am sorry to hear that but you have to understand that ur not alone,there are a lot of women some even older than u who've never been married for multiple reasons,if it was meant to be,it will be Inshallah,take care of ur mother❤
Inn Sha Allah, Allah must have reserved something very special for you in the hereafter because of your sabr and faith in him. I really believe that you'll be rewarded with eternal happiness and a spouse that treats you like the queen you are❤. Aameen.
I trust Allah (s.w.t)that someone he created only for me and in his eyes I will be the most beautiful girl in the world.....it's just about right time .....IN SHA ALLAH...
@@sumiyaakter9094 absolutely sist. We plan Allah plan, the best planner is Allah. U know what our weakness is we forget what Allah gave us and running behind this laxrious duniya dat makes sadness today's generation. Indeed Allah Allah Soo merciful they don't return back one with empty hand who raise hand in front him.. our actions must be in right direction. inshaAllah will give what one wants. May Allah give hidayah to be in right path..xD
When i listened to him, i always feel tranquility and amazing comfort inside of me. Subhanallah. He always bring people from depression and darkness from his eloquent speech. May allah has mercy on his soul. Ameen
I was in the streets with some friends while they were trying to pick up girls for some reason I started crying in the bus stop. Because I called my self ugly. But 3 days later this came Allah knows best 👆
I'm not a Muslim but Christian and when I was younger, the woman who was teaching us about the Bible always said to us 'why are you all complaining all the time, Muslim people kneel for hours to pray, they thanks God for what they have' some of us would get angry after hearing that but after hearing some Muslim talk along the years I can understand now, she wanted us to be serious and treat faith like them.
I found this channel after i was writing " how fix feeling being ugly ". I felt like i'm not deserved , but after watched this video i believe every people unique with their way. Whoever it is i am grateful. Thanks for sharing.
Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "When a man dies, his deeds come to an end except for three things: Sadaqah Jariyah (ceaseless charity); a knowledge which is beneficial, or a virtuous descendant who prays for him (for the deceased)."[Muslim].
i'm 5'4 and when i go to the street i feel like a child , my face and body looks very young too , i don't even have facial hair and i'm 22 ( i live in north africa Morocco and literally all people from 16 yo + got facial hair ... ) , literally all the women i tried to talk to told me i looked too young or were too short , it's more than torture it's so sickening
Please don't feel like that. You are unique maa shaa allah. Allah swt has created you the best. It don't matter what people think of you, only Allah swt matters. Are the people gonna be with you on the day of judgment? It only matters what Allah swt think of you. You are different than others yes everyone is, isn't that amazing? My suggestion is, just accept yourself, and try to make yourself beautiful inside. Outer beauty is nothing, inner beauty is everything. And to all the woman you tried to talk to Me3lish, in shaa allah your mekteb will come. Maybe not today, tomorrow, maybe next year, Allah swt is the best of planners. Just focus on the akhira and your Dunya also will be good.
If a friend of mine is insecure about his/her looks and says "look at her/him he/she is so pretty" I say " wutttt nahhh she's not that pretty" Idl if it's helpful for them or not, I just dont want my friends to feel uglier than others and want to BE like them They are beautiful as they are
If u feel u look ugly then have a great nature.. Be Humble.. Be Courteous.. Be a Hand which people are looking to Hold.. Great Nature has a great weightage over the looks..
Dear Humans. May i tell you what you are? May i tell you what you're worth?Do you see the sky? The sun,moon,stars,mountains,oceans and rivers.The sunrise at fajar and the sunset at maghrib. It's beautiful right? Now may i ask ; why are you sad? After all his creations,including the Angles. '' ALLAH calls the humans his best creation'' ✨❤️
I think everyone should think they are beautiful otherwise they are saying Allah did not do a good job creating you. Forget people's opinions it is about what you think.
"No one is ugly" Oh but I am. Ask anyone me, my crush, friends, relatives, family "Everyone is beautiful" Well if that's the case, then I am the kind of beautiful no one finds beautiful not even me Idk...I am the kindest person I know why can't I have a pretty face?😭😭💔
When it's your own people who tell you that you are not beautiful or you look pale dull and dark it hurts me the most I always come up with the thought that I am really beautiful how is someone going to like me worst part is I can't share this feeling with any of my loved ones because they are the ones who tell me all these things
I dont know what to do anymore, I feel like everyone is mistreating me, taking me for granted and never respect me even my family, nobody loves me sometimes I just want to stop being here, I feel so alone, I cannot face this life alone, I really cannot stand being hated like this im tired and i wanna go home to God, I'm hopeless here
rainbow whatever hello brother or sister (just a random human surfing the internet.) you are amazing I may have never met you but from what you wrote I believe you are strong just remember “Allah never burdens a heart if they cannot take it” you are extremely strong and I am thankful from coming across your comment because I myself have been feeling low and sad but I have been watching motivational hadiths . I am so happy you exist(this may not mean a lot to you but I am being really sincere). When ever I feel low I just remember that my hardship will pay off one day because I now allah is the all merciful. Greetings from the England may Allah ease your pain and burden ameen.
Allah is testing you , just remember that Allah is sufficient for you , you don’t need anyone else and your not alone🥰 I’ve also been feeling down and upset I’m also hated but you just got to be strong and have hope
My mama criticizes me for my weight and says that It has messed me up even tho I'm not fat or obese, I'm just not skinny like a stick. Relative criticize me for my brown skin and my face in general and say that no one's gonna marry me and I even got rejected. All of this happened around the same time and it has really affected my mental health. I do want to get married and have cute kids and a loving, caring and understanding life partner... The guy I happened to fall for was a very nice dude and I am not able to move on. All of these things remind me of him somehow and it hurts a lot...
@Spiritual Seeker Can't say about Afghanistan but in Pakistan, looks are a big deal. This is the reason we have failed as a nation, focusing on beauty rather than intellect and brain. If you talk about Intellect, you can hardly find someone who can compete with me in this aspect, be it social awareness or education (Not trying to be narcissist though). Everyone is focused on either gossiping or outer appearance.
@@emaanarshad6664physical attraction is primitive! You probably fell in love with the guy you mentioned because he is good looking and ur physically attracted to him,its not exactly rocket science,it's also no specific pandemic in ur home country only,its everywhere,has always been and will always be,accept it for what it is and move on❤
A person's character makes them beautiful or ugly. Allah swt has not created anyone ugly. On the outside everyone is beautiful we are attracted to what we see.
Idk how ??? But it's true atleast for me : Whenever I feel like oh my this part of my body isn't perfect , I say Alhamdulillah what Allah gave me is unique,and stop looking at the mirror . Time passes by I again look at the mirror and ahhh what's that I am like looking more close and close to check if that's true or not but it is ,, I am not even kidding .. so moral of the story is to feel gratitude towards Allah cause he made u uniquely , if u don't love ur appearance no one will love u ,in everywhere ,every state , every Condition say Alhamdulillah ,, u will see ur desires flying to u ...
when someone says me ugly or look at me like that, what i do now is (oh no look you've dropped your bag of crystals, i feel bad about you) 😂😂 literally it motivates me alot at the same time wipe away all my worries and sadness of being called ugly (to all the comment readers, do the same thing just start imaging about that certain person and feel bad about their bag of crystals)
Certainly my friend....that beauty at which they are stunned and feel arrogant and pride will fade away after their youthness....And they will see their results......every single person of society who is doing arrogancy upon their beauty and makes it a trend.....
@@footb9ll217 no he is actually right, where im from people do not think i am attractive but when i went and traveled to the west i was told that i was attractive.
Prophet yousuf (A.S) was the most handsome man in the world his beauty was half of the world,s beauty and when the woman say him they started cutting their hands!!
I'm a Muslim I love allah and prophet muhammad (s) don't accept death From random peapole when a random person say that you should die don't accept the death only accept death from Allah and his prophets
More people in my life who has black complextion cries that they are ugly but they are the ones who is successful in life while i have seen beautiful people getting divorced we should never be pride full for our good looks nor upset for our imperfections
Allah putted us on the perfect picture I appreciate about my attitude this is perfect I always thought I was ugly but after I saw this I felt better❤️❤️
