Never go back unless they show you 100% they changed without you putting in anything. You need to see who they are and what they’re capable of without you giving anything.
Love yourself more than you love them . Respect yourself more than you respect them . With that being said move on and become a better version of yourself.
Wife and I have separated after 12 year marriage. She moved out after I caught in an emotional affair and wants to focus on her career. Our 12 year old son and I are in the house, getting through it day by day. I am 43. Started working out everyday. Started a new job making good money. Have an excellent relationship with our son. Stopped drinking and consuming sugar. I am now at a point where I can see clearly. I say this for you young ones beating yourselves up. IF THEY DON'T WANT YOU IN THEIR LIFE, YOU DON'T NEED THEM IN YOURS.
Well said and congratulations for changing your lifestyle😊👏👏👏you don't know or maybe you know now on how attractive for mature women is a man who instead of hitting the ground he changes his lifestyle to healthy one, deals with his addictions etc. after a break up. This is what I admire so good luck. This is the proper way after separation, it doesn't matter it was long or short relationship. Always focus on improving yourself and getting over the person who hurt you and heal your traumas to be able to love again someday😊🤗
Great suggestion! Never go back to someone who broke you. Anyhow, you would have put your pieces back together and you are not the same person they dated. You are better than that. Value yourself . ♥️
I think about my ex a lot, but I don’t think I could trust her if she ever came back. I couldn’t deal with the situation if she left me a second time. There is no way I could ever let her back in after what she did to me. Trust is forever lost.
My EX popped up in my DMs after a year just when I found another girl that treats me so well and all about me I was tempted to write her back but I thought about all the mess she put me through and all the lies and what she said about me to friends that was far from the truth so I just erased the message and left it on read I’m good
They can come back but be VERY careful what you wish for!! We were together 8 years then broke up and stayed apart for 3. We kept in touch during the breakup and stayed civil, and never spoke about our personal lives. We never figured we would get back together. Then after just making small talk for 3 years, finally she messaged about seeing me and we started up again. Everything seemed different in a good way. She was more open and relaxed, it felt like we moved on from so many of our past problems. Then about a year in, the old "her" started creeping back in. Hiding her phone, being cryptic and secretive about who she was spending time with. Outright lying, Lots of excuses for not wanting to spend time with me. About another 6 months go by, and she dumps me again thru a Facebook message. She could never do the hard stuff face to face. And now she is with someone new already. I doubt she will ever come back a 3rd time, but if she does I have to be ready to say absolutely not. I love her but don't want to go thru losing her ever again.
Married 30 years and she ghosted me and blocked me. I knew something was going on and I confronted her and she just sat there and wouldn’t talk at all. So I think the hardest part is that I didn’t get anything no explanation or anything. I was the guy who was going crazy wondering what was the truth. So, a couple days ago I started doing research on the situation. Well I was in shock that I was married to a narcissist and didn’t know. All of the traits of a narcissist were exactly what she had the same traits. So, now I have the truth and I’ve been able to get her out of my head and heart. Time to do me
Going back would be like stepping in dog poop,washing it off then purposely going back and stepping in the same pile again .INSANITY stay in your peace
When he realised it I'm the one who had zero fucks left to give. Anytime someone thinks a moment is better than longevity you'll always be on the losing side of the equation. When you have to explain to someone how to treat you? Treat yourself to the nearest exit and leave the bullshit stew behind for the next victim.
Never taking my soon ex husband back, I was just an option to him! Hes been shacked up with the secretary from his work ever since he left. Gross Cowards 😈 She thinks she won my husband but she got a Covert Narcissist 😂 Good Luck with that habitual liar, cheater
I invested a lot in a relationship only to go NC and block him. Months later he sent me an exquisite bracket through a friend. He wanted a chance to apologize for hurting me. I unblocked him and listened. I decided it was best to leave the trinkets in the bag in my closet and move on.
I'm over it,I will not be putting myself out there again, these men got me so messed up,that I have fear and anxiety, when men approach me, because I know they will never love me,and all they want to do is hurt me,I'm good right by my myself period not letting any men get close to me,they switch up way to much,,,focusing on me,
Getting back with my avoidant ex, who chose to leave, is putting myself through double jeopardy. I love myself too much for that. #next #upwardandonward #levelUP
Wonderful video . You are truly right and you are truly on point of how I am feeling. All of it on this video is exactly how I’ve been feeling and moving on yes I do feel that it gets better every day of the break up. I don’t talk to him. I blocked him and not looking back so I’m glad there is no reaching out. There is no communication and I am strong in that department. Thank God for that if any reaching out it would be him, but I highly doubt it because he has a new supplier in the house. As soon as I moved out, the new supplier moved in. good riddance thank you for the wonderful video again and helping me guide me to heal
Weav~ you hit all key factors that I experienced, such as Lack of sleep, checking phone, heartache, etc. Life is beautiful and one should never never try to convince, pressure or force that "person" to LOVE you. One gets emotionally + physically drained. Happy Holidays Weav!
He's contacted me constantly recently. Now he's cold. So when he calls. So now I'm putting him on the back burner. He can't have me back. He's in a rebound what touched him. I'll never touch him again. No way. I'm waiting on someone better. I felt I had moved forward. I don't feel the intense hurt as I once did in the beginning. Yes, it's scary to start with someone new after a four year term with him. But not ready to date.
OK, I have to admit... when the breakup first happened I watched a few of your videos and man, were they difficult to stomach. So I avoided your channel for a while. Now almost 2 months later I think i am ready because you are speaking absolute truth and facts. Yeah, at times it can be difficult to accept still, but nothing worth doing is ever easy, and it has gotten easier for me. Subbed. Personally, I am a big believer that people can change and that people deserve a second chance to prove they have changed or are willing to change. After the 2nd chance, the onus is upon your shoulders and no one else's. I want to give her that second chance but she has to reach out to me first. I am still working on myself and if she hasn't been working on herself I will be asking her how she intends to. If she thinks she is god's gift to men and perfect exactly the way she is... there will be no second chance. However, I have a long way to go so her contacting me is pretty far from my mind right now.
That strikes me as an incredibly healthy attitude..good for you bro. I'm in a very similar situation almost to a T. Here's hoping those that need hardwork and healthy change embrace it and grow, life is too short 🙏💞🙏
Yup. Went back with an ex that constantly played the break up games. After two weeks of breaking up we got back and had this whole long ass convo about her getting help and even her admitting she was the problem. Boom it took another two weeks for her to revert back to what she was. The lying and gaslighting and throwing a tantrum during a conversation. She cursed me out and slammed the door and was like oh I’m done. I packed my shit up and walked out and blocked her on everything before I got on the elevator.
Don't give up on life and the universe I know of a great man who helped you me fix my broken hear beat relationship and everything was restored to pormal in days without delay
best thing youtube recommended me just in the time of need ! got dumped a month and a half ago,luckily for me im feeling a lot better,but taking it day by day
I needed to see this today, although it was posted years ago. So true.. reality check - not going back.. looking ahead for something/someone Real. Im stepping out of my comfort zone for me, my peace, self love and no more toxicity, no matter when thoughts of him tend to try to creep in and stay in my mind. I got control of this. Thank you, Weave
Your right I took my ex back after she had me blocked for 8 months because she was with her ex and when she came back it was horrible it last 90 days she wanted me back because of comfort because her ex dogged her out and used her and her job was stressing her out
I went back 3 times in the last year and a half and the third time was it for me 😢💔 he definitely did not change and he probably isn’t going to at least for a while
Yeah that ex might come back, but now they are like Gaige coming back from Pet Semetary. Because you see them for the walking dead they are. Leave what’s dead and buried, move on to the life that’s meant for you.
2:30 -2:58 my mantra since I went no contact more than a year ago. Even have similar on my phone and elsewhere to break cognitive dissonance whenever the trauma bond or nostalgia kicks in. It helps.
He has reached out several times, but got nowhere. For me now, he would need to come back with insights on his avoidant attachment, and how he is enmeshed with his family, to be worth revisiting. I was a loving girlfriend and put up with his volatility. So only if he said something significant, I would respond. The vague nostalgic messages or being curious how I am doing are not worth a response at this stage. After 16 months of sporadic contact. Even if he is insecure and afraid of rejection, he can't message me casually to see if I will respond.
He finally left in April now he calling and texting folk about me. He's blocked. Lol I told you I was done now you want to be friends access denied. Now I'm doing it all by myself for myself. I'm happy plus free from your bullspit and now you calling lol access DENIED. We were married almost 20 years but I'm done and your access ex hubby is DENIED. You, your, family, and your friends. Access DENIED and I NEVER felt better. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
He knows your leaving the door cracked for him to come back in whenever he wants . When you get tired of catching that drift you will keep it closed ! 😉 These videos help me stay focused
He popped up to Harass me and then he attacked me and then I found out. His married illegally. He wiped house clean. And new wife and him took everything of mine.... suppose😢 to be 50/50 in divorce.... but wasnt😢
I would never ever go back to my Narcisse ex he set out to destroy me him and others, if he was on Fire 🔥 and I had a full 🪣 of water shit, Burn baby 🔥 Burn,y go back to that.
My ex and I broke up a couple of weeks ago and I begged for about 2 days than dipped. She saw me go to the gym with another girl a couple days ago. She’s been acting really happy and went to a party with one of her new friends and would not stop talking about me being “all over this new girl” and that she researched who it was and all that at the party she went to. My friend was also at that party and told me how happy she was trying to be but how jealous she was acting towards me hanging with this girl. Any thoughts?
My only thought is depending on how it ended, never go back to what broke you. If you pleaded your case and she said nah? Keep it moving and don’t trip over what’s behind you! 💯
@@WeavToldMe I indeed begged and pleaded for a couple of days, around 3 but after that I told her I’m not waiting for her and that i was gonna better myself and move on.
Great video message here! Ive see the evidence of 'seemingly' benign things on my ex's SM which clearly indicate [she] cannot stand that she can NO LONGER make contact with me without making herself look week! I will NOT be drawn into that crap.....and that just drives her nuts....i see the evidence in those subtle phrases and/or a post if hers. .....but it frustrates [them] even more as [they] begin to realize that you're NEVER going to open that door for them again, EVER! .... It's like fishing and you can see the fish circling your hook and bait, but you can't force those fuckers to put their mouth onto the hook! 🤣😂🤣 Great video message brother!!
