Who Are The INFPs? (The Mystic) | INFP Cognitive Functions | CS Joseph 

I will be the first INFP to admit that I'm silently judging everyone lol. Everyday, all the time, no matter what.

This sounds like someone took a walk through my head and started roasting all my insecurities and mistakes at once.

I cant count how many times i heard "get out of your comfort zone" -INFP

I laughed so hard at the beginning. Everyone considers me as a super intimidating mysterious person or the opposite someone cute and naive, there is no in between.

he sounds like a parent fed up with me lololol

"behind the scenes, they are silent.... they are silently judging you" I died

"Infp wants to be brilliant even tho they dont give a damn about logic" excuse me sir that hurt my feelings bcuz its tru :(

CSJ: Most INFPS have no fashion sense Every INFP in the video: 😲 Excuse Me! This jacket my grandma found for me at Target is a classic!!

INFP care about the texture of their clothing IMO. Even though it's not usually super fashionable I can tell they try to be fashionable and comfortable at the same time.

I feel so attacked when you're talking about my dreamland. IT IS MY DREAMLAND!!!

It's not my fault everyone else is disappointing.

First of all: ouch. Secondly: yes.

INFP most definitely doesn't think or feel that he or she is perfect .. completely the opposite

9:25 "... If I'm not comfortable and I'm not in the mood, I'm not going to do it.". That's me all the time.

✔Shy ✔Cute, if a bit spoiled/pouty/childish ✔️Silently judges/analyzes/assesses others ✔Perfectionistic hardass to himself who's aware of the inherent imperfection in everything, yet is kinda self-righteous ✔Lazy as hell. Not gonna do it if I DoN't FeEl LiKe It! xD ✔Philosophical, even to my own detriment ✔"Society sucksssss... but some people rock!" ✔Me: "I don't care about fashion sense and my appearance!" Others: "You should care!" Me: "I refuse to conform to society's standards!" Others: *stare judgingly at me* Yep, I'm an INFP alright!

Me: hates being called cute. All my friends: call me cute Every RU-vidr who makes an INFP video: calls INFPs cute Agh- I can’t escape T^T

"Idleness is a big problem for INFPs." I hear as I sit here watching and commenting on this nearly 40 minute video, instead of doing an assignment that I'm drastically behind on, for a class I don't like. Lmao I wasn't spoiled, but I was raised by a very strict authoritarian who didn't allow much independence. So they made all my decisions and I didn't really learn personal responsibility. :/

I got distracted like 6 times and had to wined back the video cuz I started day dreaming 😂

I’m an INFP and most of this is true for me except the fashion sense. I’ve always had great style. I consider my outfits to be an expression of myself. It’s art.

Advice for any infp. If you are stressed and are at home: Put headphones on turn on a RU-vid video or song And clean something. I understand as INFPs we hate cleaning most of the time but try not to focus on the cleaning so much and just fold your laundry or straighten up your room. We hate committing to things we don’t want to do so don’t start deep cleaning your room. But each day when you’re at home and feel stress build up straighten up your room for 15 minutes it works wonders and helps us get into Se without even thinking about it. My room was really messy so I spent an hour cleaning it but didn’t get it all the way clean. The next day I cleaned a little more for about 15 minutes and repeated this. Now when I’m stressed I take a break and pick up the little messes in my room while focusing on a RU-vid video. Also build habits to allow you to use Te and accomplish goals. I bullet journal and would recommend looking into it

"They're not really nerdy, they're earthy, they're fringe." Spot-on

Infp are constantly editing their surroundings, they are great at editing poems, essays, resumes also

An INFP who truly loves and embraces himself doesn't give a fuck about what people think, he'd only be worried about how to express his inner ideal world to the outside world in a concrete way (Te). As an INFP that's the impact of my inferior function on me. I guess the best way to balance Fi and Te is by bringing our ideals and philosophies into reality where they can become a part of the world's Te, so i guess our biggest struggle is trying to find the right way to translate our Fi to Te ie. a translation mechanism

I absolutely relate to the part about gaining knowledge not for the knowledge and its details but for building up the personal philosophy. I love reading history, but I rarely remember the details. Instead, I always remember the essence of the events and what it means in the meaning of life and the world.

This is my daughter, “I don’t do drugs, drink, or sleep around, so you can’t make me clean up after myself.”

We INFP's do not perceive all people as bad, we perceive that we are very different then majority and we perceive other people better than they really are. That is our so call nativity, we aren't dumb or stupid, we just like to see world better than it is, eternal optimists. We also perceive all people as equal to us, nobody is above or below us. We want right to be who we are and whatever we want for us we grant others the same.That is reason why people in power, specially deluded ones hate us, because they sense that we treat them as equal.

INFP male here. I have never once thought about damaging someone else's property (or body) because of a nasty breakup. I would think that NFs, in general, would suffer from the empathic backlash of hurting anyone for no other reason than spite. If the other person were at fault -- for egregious cheating, or some such nonsense -- I could see myself emotionally and psychologically dissecting and eviscerating him. But that also takes energy....best to just kick him out, and then ruminate about it for months/years while using the punching bag in the garage.

I’m an INFP and I’ve been basically emotionally neglected/abused throughout my childhood so I created imaginary worlds to help me cope and although they have been helpful when I was younger, I am completely stuck in this comfort rut now. I’ve gotten to a point where I felt so stagnant and became depressed so I started investing in personal growth because honestly I had nothing to lose. I am still educating myself on mbti but everything you said have about infps are accurate. And sometimes I feel like no matter what I do, I will keep going back to that comfort rut due to my Si because my fantasies have served me my entire life. My Te inferior also makes me extremely fearful of what others think of me but I am deliberately working on it. I’m a high school senior and I started doing a lot of leadership roles to get myself uncomfortable and face my fear but it’s so hard. :(

I'm INFP and I finally got a very high paying job as a medical doctor... something my family members (who are sensors exclusively) are proud of, and I'm now even paying a significant amount of our family debts away, out of "being the nice one and pulling my weight", thus facilitating a perfect covert contract with them: "You guys can finally be proud of me (my status), and I'm even paying for your shit, so in exchange.... I can do whatever I want, forever, and you can't have anything to say about that!" So they are not allowed to judge me for being lazy, without ambition, having a twisted sleep cycle, spending too much time on playing video games, being worthless, or anything else anymore, as has been the case for a long time... needless to say I'm loving this :)))) And yes I'm really enjoying my job, as well.

No fashion sense ✔️Insecure about what others think ✔️ Silently judges others ✔️Lazy at times ✔️

I like your video, man 👌 📝 2:57 ESTJs 4:10 INFPs and literature. Robert Green -awesome author. 5:05 very similar to ISTJs 6:39 INFJs ,ISFJs, and perfection -buddies. 7:51 ISFPs, INFPs -have those guys around. 9:12 ENFPs and INFPs can be lazy -don't get stuck in a rut and get out of your comfort zone! 11:15 The secondary problem INFPs face: idleness. 12:54 The primary problem immature INFPs face is potential disloyalty. 13:33 What mature INFPs are like. INFPs have to be taught personal responsibility 14:32 The four pillars of self intimacy...after having self-respect and properly loving yourself, people will love you then. 15:00 Functions of the INFP 15:53 How to get out an INFP out of a rut: a lot of different people/reference points -solid data- from reliable sources have to tell them to change. 16:35,20:05,22:10,23:00,25:00,26:24,28:50,29:50,30:50,34:00(recap?),36:11,37:11

INFP's strive for perfection knowing we will never obtain it. Like Hemingway said. "True nobility is not being superior to your fellow man. True nobility is being superior to your former self. This guy has a thing for INFP.

I’m an ESTP and my best friend is an INFP. We work really well because I can talk about myself for hours and he loves listening! He loves judging and I love being judged so that’s an awesome dynamic. I also love how I’m the ultimate realist and he’s the ultimate philosopher. I break all the rules he follows and I love laughing at his reactions when I boast about it. He’s a really awesome dude because he isn’t a spoiled or entitled INFP, and he is a really awesome friend because he seems to understand me better than I understand myself 😂 he is really mystical and fun as well. I appreciate you INFPs, you make the world a better playground for me.

The Si child is SO INTERESTING to me. I had absolutely no sense of style until I started looking into it and gathering data. I hated driving until I had done it enough to get comfortable, etc. I never made this connection to Si!

I dont want to be brilliant. I want to be on my own island. Invisible. So I can dance and sing without feeling others.

I'm an INTJ, my younger brother is an INFP. I'm 7 years older than him and for a large portion of our childhoods both our parents worked, so I helped to raise him. I spent a lot of time and energy micromanaging things to turn him into the perfect little brother. Now, We are 32 and 25 respectively and I rely on HIM to be my moral compass when my ISFJ inner demon emerges. Guess I succeeded...

All of us INFP’s in this thread have incredibly LONG comments 😆 It comes with the territory. You’re in INFP land. Watch out! Prepare to be reading the thread for a couple hours.

Bro idk where you get your info from but as an infp there are some things I definitely disagree with. There was a time when I was younger I used to walk around judging people and thinking I was better than them and then I grew up. And I don't think I'm better then anyone I like to think each person has something brilliant unique and great about them and it might be different from me but that doesn't make me better than them or them better than me. A Hallmark of the infp is it they see the good in everybody even when nobody else can see it. I rarely judge people in a critical way. I'm always trying to see their perspective.

"I'm always perfect" No, just no.

I remember first time watching this, i was shocked at how true all this was and how harsh he is. It was like a very harsh reality check for me, but now after watching most of his videos and coming back here i was like he’s actually quite nice in this one. Compared to his some of other videos XD

"sit on the couch and be on my phone all day" the one thing i get yelled at more than anything else in the world.... I didn't really live a spoiled childhood but i was super protected and was always discouraged from making my own decisions and take my own actions so i still need to learn how to do that. I forget that being idle is a choice and not something that "happens to me"

Okay, I finally watched the dreaded video, and not as bad as I feared, but a few points: As an INFP, I have a great deal of fashion sense, since I'm artistic and good at design. I just tend to ignore fashion, seeing it as often too pretentious. I like clothes that aren't choking me with neck ties, belts, and hindered range of motion. When I want to be fashionable, I can do it, and do it well. I just don't like to. Subtle difference. Philosophers... yes. Since a 13 year old. Lao Zi... favorite. The opposite of Robert Greene. I don't think Robert Greene and his admirers would go for the peaceful Lao Zi. Also Kropotkin. Group think? No, never, far too independent, since a teen. The bane of my existence to not conform or fit in, and it's a major pain. Not being a critical thinker when people are young is not the same as group think, and unfortunately it seems most people quite sadly never develop sufficient critical thinking abilities, but that would not be me. Status seeking? No, not status, more like wanting acceptance, validation. Subtle difference. Screw status, it's illusory, here one day, gone the next, and it depends on inequality, elevating one person at the expense of another. Even then I don't seek validation by selling out my individualism or my principles, so I don't get a lot of validation except from a small few like-minded people. Violent? No, a few brief angry fits, but never, never, never physical assault. A few cheep harmless objects thrown at the floor. Maybe 5 times in my entire life when receiving an ongoing, streaming onslaught of extreme verbal abuse, my response to it shocking myself more than anyone else, usually deliberately self-sabotaged (misthrown) so as not to break anything. Pretty mild stuff compared to a lot of people I've met. It's more from my sensitive neuro-systems (I'm HSP) when someone is screeching and screaming at me, relentlessly, and it builds to unbearable levels [edit: also known as overwhelmed neuro-circuits], but I wind down and de-escalate far, far faster than anyone I have ever met. Like, within seconds or minutes, then I feel awful and embarrassed and the other person is still going at it. Horrible! No, this is not me described in the video. *****I have to wonder what was done to an INFP to get them to slash tires. Something is being left out here in what caused that, I suspect. **** Lazy? Possibly spells of this, but more because of a different work style that less sensitive, more extroverted types just. will. not. understand. I work in great spurts, can exhaust myself with over-focus, then drop back and am less active, repeating the cycle over and over. I think INFPs *if* like me are so sensitive (many tend to be HSP) that they hate certain work environments, just too hard on their sensory processing, and when they don't feel like working, its very, very hard to overcome the dragging feeling, even when they try. Moods, too, are hard to overcome. Coffee might help, or better working environment. Suggested author, Robert Greene: he has rather toxic suggestions for dealing with the corporate world, some behaviors that a lot of us think are terribly alienating and which we see as products of our current dog-eat-dog, Ayn Rand inspired, social Darwinistic society, and rather than feeding this trend, would rather adopt better strategies. It might make us poorer, but it also makes us happier. I'd suggest reading Thoreau, who was allegedly INFP. He certainly was no conformist or indulgent in group think (see essay, Civil Disobedience). But rather than finding conniving ways to defeat power, he simply... disobeyed, and very publicly. Edit 1: On judging... I can be judgemental, but there is nuance to add here. I never, or rarely, make a final judgement about a person, especially one who is in my life. I leave the door open, always revising, changing, editing my view. I often WANT to be wrong if I think ill of another. I want to see more, to be accurate, to be sure, and I look for reasons to alter my view. This is important to understand, and to leave this out is to leave out something quite relevant. I am frequently told I am strangely accurate in my first impressions, but that always comes as a surprise to me, because I'm always revising. The door simply DOES NOT CLOSE. It just doesn't. I am often delighted to find I'm wrong. And I am subtle in this. Little things, little data points, change my judgements, which are often quite nuanced. The world is not binary, black and white, but full of shades. And I have noticed most people are not like this - they decide, and that's it, done, final, end of story. I don't understand this at all. This is why some of us say "we're not judgemental" when in fact everyone judges all the time. But there are differences, and while INFPs are always "judging", I think we're subtle and always revising, and we are capable of empathy for even the most "flawed" person. And also we turn this same lens on ourselves, and can be very harsh to ourselves. More later, perhaps. Got some WORK to do.

Me, an INFP reading the comments instead of listening to the video

I have not gone “demon mode” and destroyed someone else’s things since I was a child. I’m 27 now and it’s been well over a decade. You had me cracking up talking about laziness though. Too accurate. I hope my entj s/o can help me get it together.

I am an INFP I spent my entire childhood reading everything. Not speaking to anyone because I grew up in hell and I had no protection. So I read the entire western literary canon and every bit of history and biography I could get my hands on. When I grew up, I pulled out my flaming sword of justice and went after my Sexually Violent Predator abuser in order to protect other children from him. I went to school and started working professionally in maximum security forensic psychiatric facilities, and went on for 34 years after him until I got him investigated. I made his life hell until I got him. While also working in Hospice as well. I was willing to lose my family, and relatives etc. Because I dont care when justice is on the line. As I age I have become more withdrawn. At 59, I'm tired now and feel like the world is going to hell, and there is nothing else I can do because I have always seen the future accurately and it sucks. Though, I was a gifted music student at university before I switched to psych tech/med nurse, as well as artist. So there's that. So perhaps I should get my paints and paper out again.

As an INFP who is getting their masters degree: I feel seen. This all explains so much about my life 🙃

Dude, I am an INFP who has just went really into learning personality typea within the last two weeks. This video is by far the greatest, most in-depth video I have seen on the INFP and on my end, there is such gratitude for this video. Well done and Thank you.

I had a good laugh watching this. Pretty spot on. As an INFP I would say our fashion sense is very individualistic, quirky, and always authentic to our true selves.

Would an INFP try to act non-competitive and hide that they are competing? I’m supposedly an INFP and have always done this.

INFP here! I love your honest take 😂 It's refreshing to hear an analysis from an outsider's POV. You never get that from other INFPs. 👍

"Sometimes they have to have the self discipline to not be in a comfort rut, that's super important, and well, good luck." Me, an INFP: *laughs in quarantine*

"Just realize that your a human being and there's other human beings in this world" I do realize this and personally when I was younger I was very self envolved and closed minded to the aspect of other people having there own needs, but as we grow up we self improve and see other people's struggles. As an INFP (I don't know if this is how everyone else thinks) but I believe to have a better world we must all be aware of "other human beings in this world" and to notice each others struggles to actually help eachother out. I'm slightly hurt at this comment because I don't want others to think that I'm super self envolved, the only reason I stay in my little bubble is because yes the world is a harsh place and i would like to help out some way but to do so I want to try my best to become the best person I can be so that i can give my sincere love and help to others.

Another way to healthily criticise an INFP: get an ENTP to talk about/to them for 30 minutes. It will change their lives lol. My "secretly judging" self found you one of and probably the most accurate and fun to watch videos about INFPs here on youtube. Thank God for ENTPs

infps presents themselves in a very aesthetic, charming way...they seem like super cool people...or at least, until you discover all the emotional bullshit underneath lol

why does it feel like he's correct in a lot of ways about infp but delivers it like he's only speaking to his female audience and he's negging them like it's 2007 and he read a book on "picking up chicks" or is he just like this with all personality types? maybe i'm just being a sensitive infp boy

To my fellow infp-enneagram-4s trying to motivate themselves: Remember that we LOVE preserverance and self-improvement. Take rest when you need it but keep going forward with your ideal! Believe that even if the result is not as good, it's not in vain! Also don't forget to update your ideal whenever needed! Love yall bros and sis!

oh god. so spot on it actually hurts... literally 100000% me. ugh. the fashion thing... damnit. very true- always trying to balance trendy shit with my individuality and wanting to stand out but not too much because then people will notice me and then they'll judge me... maybe even as much as I'm judging myself already or maybe even as much as I'm judging them LOL infp logic

It might just be me, but do any other INFPs constantly eavesdrop on their friends? It's not even like I'm trying to catch them say something bad or a lie, I just naturally do it. I guess because INFPs tend to be great listeners.

Okay so I'm not even three minutes in and I've already been called out. As an INFP, I was a SJW in my teenage years, just being angry and bitter at men for being men. But then I realized that no one is perfect and that hating on anything and everything was exhausting. Now that I'm 23 and can't be bothered to hate for no reason, I'm just being curious as to why people behave the way they do instead of just judging

as an INFP, I do judge not just everyone, but everything. But for me individuality is one of the most important things in my life, so I think my morals and values is as important to me as other people's to themselves. So even though I'm highly judgemental, I accept people for who they are and am very open-minded.

Just wanted to say that I appreciate your video. I'm a male INFP. The first time I watched this I came away thinking you just had a bad past relationship that colored all your thinking on my type (I still think this, just less so now). Now that I've watched this again I'm struck by how you are actually very even handed in your description of the type, pointing out just as many (if not more) strengths as weaknesses. INFP's struggle with constructive criticism, and that is why I think some of the responses on here are so negative. Some of your descriptions on the INFP type feel off to me, but that is fine because what I find most valuable about your video is I think it is the best example of how other types perceive the actions and reactions of INFP's. And for me, as a classic INFP, perception/feeling is reality, so this is very useful. So thank you for a very well put together and insightful video. I'll definitely subscribe and watch your channel. If you are an INFP watching this and maybe upset at his description, remember that this is how some types see our actions/thoughts/feelings. So take the necessary steps to change their perception. That is one thing (among many) that INFP's are good at!

“If you’re ever in the presence of an infp just know they are always silently judging you” SO TRUE ahh😂

Honestly, the best thing an INFP can do is become RADICALLY open to criticism. It’s hard and it sucks, but if you can power through, it is the fastest way to grow into the ESTJ subconscious. Having an ESTP mother was rough, but that Ti parent does exactly what you say: “burn away the lies”. Oof! YIKES, that BURNS in a quarter life crisis. Then again, when does growth ever NOT hurt? I am currently that INFP PhD student using their ESTJ subconscious because of that woman 😂

I once walked away from a car accident that should have killed me unphased. One of the men who ran to help me/see if I was alive later felt compelled, with reverent aw, to tell people that I am the toughest person he has ever met. ... is that what you mean by INFPs being rocks? : )

“..and that could take weeks”

I laughed when you mentioned our (INFP's) lack of fashion sense- I have to agree. I am VERY self-conscious about my clothes & a lot of my fellow INFP's wear weird clothes too : ) But it's inaccurate to say INFP's are status conscious- we're generally the opposite. What we're conscious of is doing what's right (which you later mentioned) even if it means looking foolish while standing up for what's right. It's not status we crave- it's fairness/justice.

INFJ and INFP can be the best of friends! My best friend is an INFP and she sure did slash her husbands tire a couple times when they broke up! And she also is criticizing EVERYONE for their morals and she thinks she has high morals. I always have conversations with her about abortion talking ethics and she is like “yeah but I will never do that, that is sooo wrong” or her favorite “I don’t cheat I think it’s so wrong I am always home taking care of the kids” and it’s always about her feelings and her beliefs lol she calls me crazy I love how transparent she is. INFP and INFJ best friends are 2 peas in a pod we honestly had 1 petty argument out of the 14 years of friendship lol

I gotta get it together bro... The more criticism, the more painful, but the faster you grow!

For INFPs watching though, this hard on other types too, so if you think he is harsh on INFPs specifically it's not really true.

A lot of infp's don't have very many friends and spend too much time alone (myself included). The rationale behind this is always that it's because of being introverted, but I'm starting to see that there's more to it than that. Yes being introverted is part of it, but I think another big part is that we don't always mesh that well with other people because of being immature and the result is we think it's everyone else, so we would just rather be alone so they can't upset us, while at the same time ignoring the reality of the situation

Infp friends one trick to stop judging others is to wish them well when you are interacting with them. I do it with a very critical boss that I needed to communicate with and it worked. I used to beat myself for judging others but it's how my mind works. This videos are awesome.

Very interesting! Just one thing. While I've definitely made fashion mistakes in the past, I've also been known to have a good eye for it. I've heard that INFPs are 'aesthetically sensitive,' which is accurate for me and explains all the INFPs I've known who have a gift for styling themselves in subtly unique ways that are also attractive and fashionable. Having said that, I've known a few who could use some pointers in this area, but, in my world at least, they seem to be the exception.

As an INFP I am not really concerned what people think of me, though it has taken me quite a long time for me to get that way. I still don't have much of a fashion sense though. Here is my personal philosophy. I've been thinking about this and working on it for a long time now, but have just recently started writing it down. It's still a work in progress. A lot of it comes from Bruce Lee, the movie The Robinsons, and the phrase (& song) C'est la vie. 1. Be flexible, adapt to situations as they come up. 2. Don’t rely on styles. Styles separate us all. Use what works, get rid of what doesn’t, and make it your own. 3. Be the best that you can be, don’t try to be like anyone/everyone else. 4. There are plateaus in life. You must go beyond them. 5. It is the journey that is important, not the destination. Be mindful of that. 6. Life is an ever-flowing process of continuing growth. 7. C’est la vie - such is life. Somewhere on the path of life some unpleasant things will happen - some of which may leave a scar, but life flows ever onward. 8. Keep moving forward as each experience teaches us a lesson.

Haha! Laughed so hard on your take on us INFPs when we feel like being lazy and uncomfortable about doing stuff, because it's so accurate! "..and it's gonna take weeks!" 😂

Now knowing Lana del Rey is an INFP makes especially the mysterioso flavour added to culture part so much more relatable 😁

Okay, the first time I watched this I tried very hard to be open to eveything he said, but I just didn't see it. There was some truth, but the whole image just seemed very off from the way I see myself and look at the world. However, after watching many of his other videos and coming to understand the psychology behind the analysis I think I can believe it's a lot more accurate. Other INFP's if you're watching this video and see this comment, remember it might not be that he's wrong, it's that the approach and reasoning is a LOT different than what you're used to. I promise if you watch his other videos and keep an open mind, you will see the connections he's making and be able to appreciate them.

My Fi Hero and my Si Child got me into inactivity, which brought me to this video, which made me take action. *Thanks dude.*

me the INFP: pops up inside a literature professor's office, no invite, expo marker in hand, already drawing on the white board w/ theories, rambling the professor: that's interesting (plottwist: I wasn't even their student)

17:00, spot on. When someone has data to back up whatever they are criticizing me for, I take it seriously and then feel obligated to change my actions.

Did your INFP ex pop your tires? 😱

I disagree, somewhat, with the INFP always judging you. YES, we do hold everyone up to a mirror of morality/values, but we also incessantly BEAM MERCY toward humanity!!! In addition, we hold ourselves up to the mirror of morality the MOST, and often find our own worth more deficient than others’. If someone is constantly at odds with our values, then yes, we will write them off permanently and have no real respect for them. However, given our tendency toward mediation and diplomacy, that person may never know it. Only when someone crosses a line with a friend or loved one will an INFP speak out in no uncertain terms. ...Who can relate??

I'm INFP raised by abusive parents, I have 2 INFP daughters. I have a sense of duty, push myself out of my comfort zones to do what I have to do, but goddamn it's difficult for me to stay focused on stuff that doesn't really interest me, or stay in a social situation that makes me feel tense. My daughter's are straight out lazy and weirdly entitled, though I didn't spoil them, my ex undermined me re discipline, so this really clarified the root cause of the difference between us. Despite being more driven and responsible than a spoilt/immature INFP, I agree that I'm more a provider of (written) hard earned insight than an executor of change. . .which would require more verbal/social interaction, I'm more of an observer than a participator. When I was younger I was anxious about being rejected, but never enough to go against my ideals in order to be accepted, so if I'm bothered about how people view me, its only because I want to be emotionally close to them, not because my ego is rattled without their approval. I absolutely DON'T subscribe to group think and am full willing (and have been at points) to be made a social pariah, even amongst my family, to uphold what I know, factually and morally, to be right. I'm atheist from a Mormon family, a Corbynite, anti gender ideology 'terf', anti Israel apartheid, etc. All pretty controversial stances. I fully agree with the rock analogy, but I've never popped someone's tyres for splitting with me and would be far more likely to ghost you utterly. . .though I do get ridiculously attached when I FINALLY attach to someone in a relationship. If you come at me with inaccurate criticism, believe I have you mapped out and will return fire, and hit my mark far more accurately. But fairs fair right 😏 I'm intrigued to know what personality type the presenter is because he's drawn both the immature and mature INFP more accurately than any other video I've seen, except other people's opinions/approval being a big motivating factor. . .that should be clarified as a trait in immature INFP who are avoiding the pain/discomfort of rejection, mature INFP master that pain and invest a ridiculous amount of mental energy in formulating masterplans based on painstaking observation, data gathering and cogitating, in the hopes that such 'research' will prevent others from having to endure pain/discomfort. We are good teachers simply because we also learn to master how best to persuade others to adopt that masterplan. INFP are basically the super sensitive, and will either be driven to avoidance/become reactive and possibly lazy or selfish to avoid sensory distress, or will do the opposite and ignore their own desires and distress and become incredibly resilient in order to uphold their ideals and push their masterplans into reality, often by dedicating themselves to teaching and persuading others using hard earned knowledge/wisdom, but knowing full well that others have better leadership skills and passing them the baton accordingly.

Holy smokes. You’re so harsh, but I actually appreciate it lol. I feel like you've been following me around my whole life!

My daughter is an INFP. I used your video to defuse an argument between my wife (ISFJ) and her.

I hope you see this! INFPs are prone to mental illness (yay) and as someone who has known many self-abusive INFPs (eating disorders, self harm, addiction, etc.) I was wondering how this would fit in? Also, I'm an INFP who is EXTREMELY organized. To the point that my external environment at home HAS to be organized and calming for me. My home is my only safe place and I need to be able to come home and not have another stressful thing to deal with. I can come home and unwind and process my day, and just things in general. If my roommate leaves a mess on the kitchen counter? Demon mode activated. I've spiraled into panic attacks on bad days where I've come home and found some "small" mess. Mostly because I see it as utter disrespect, but I don't physically hurt others or their things--I'm prone to hurting myself, instead, to keep myself controlled and still appearing composed to those who have hurt me. (This also allows me to gather my thoughts and I have DESTROYED people with words. I just tell them my totally accurate understanding of who they are and their greatest flaws and..well they regret whatever they did. But I also usually regret the way I told them--later.Though, I never regret being honest, just being disrespectful in my honesty). If I can't compose myself in the moment, I'm a screamer. I just start yelling childish gibberish and I run. I've also been told, for me, these are anger attacks (panic attacks). This person isn't understanding me and is using more and more Te/Fe on me to squash me; they have me cornered and I don't know what else to say and so I just explode (but I don't want to physically hurt them or their things), so my brain just melts down and I scream and leave until I can find someone to talk with to calm down, and then help mediate the conversation. So...how does being SUPER organized, overly composed, and abusive toward the self fit in?

I would never destroy property, but I will disappear and never be seen again.

If you get a whole group together to criticize me and TELL ME what my obligations are, according to you, the last thing you will get from me is motivation and compliance. Want a demon? That's how you meet mine. That is the WORST advice EVER. I will burn the house down.

Ouuuch. I needed to hear this though. Must be self-disciplined. Must stop waiting for someone to discipline me FOR me.

any emotionally abused infp's?

conclusion: i need a babysitter. please, somebody force me to work. i need a guide

I'm the INFP who's always judging people all the time everywhere and I always find it difficult to get out of my rut when it's time to do my duty. You tell the bloody truth that it hits really hard for me but you're absolutely right. I just don't want to admit and it's not easy to accept myself for the bad habits

Thanks for breaking us down and building us back up! I love watching your videos and always feel a lil smarter after having engaged with an ENTP. I come back to this video when I feel like I'm avoiding reality and playing video games all day. It helps snap me out of it and it very encouraging at heart.

I think most people want others to think highly of them, no? Isn't that respect? I mean... I don't know about you, but I really like being respected. I wouldn't call that insecurity. I would call that motive.

Wow, this video has motivated me to change for the better, there are so many issues that i could relate to. I'm currently super undisciplined and feel like i have lost some good qualities i once had and lost myself. Man,I have a lot of work to do. This is an amazing video.

Can’t stop laughing everytime you say goodluck😂 and you say it a lot when talking about infp’s. As an Ifnp I am fascinated with all the information. However, I hate being a teacher. It’s too much to handle for me. I think it’s not a good fit for introverts like me.

Regarding fashion, INFPs develop it over time. INTPs can develop it if they get super autistic about it with their ti, watching hours upon hours of fashion theory concepts and reading about anatomy and clothing. Then buy 10 plain white t-shirts and only dress well when forced to XD

Things to know about INFP: She's so fucking brilliant. She's my favorite person on the planet so far. Ha, I actually really adore her silent judgments. The way she turns slightly and adopts this royal air makes me feel like I'm off on a Herbert spice dream in which I can see her aristocratic lineage unfolding before my eyes. Magical. Si: I have an intuition that her autoimmune disease is actually a physiological response to being devalued/overly criticized as a child. Her Si memories seem to be manifesting in her body through this disease, which is why it can go into remission through plant technology... I don't fully understand, still working on this. So far beyond lazy I can't even understand how she gets so much done. It exhausts me listening to all her projects in the outer world. Ne: We always mutually anticipate each other's needs. It's awesome. Te: Absolutely swayed by many social sources reiterating the same information and absolutely defensive if only one person is pointing something out. One hundred percent earthy. She's spirit which can't seem to ever merge fully into its body. Yes, the SWJ group think. Misleading propagandistic emotional appeals can mislead her, though I see her growing out of this especially after leaving college. She's a master violinist, so Ne/Si, I can definitely see that operating in her music. Her music is actually a conduit beyond the conscious aspects of reality. I had a mystical experience listening to her play live, which I've come to understand as a Jungian confrontation with an archetype. Fe nemesis: Yep. She's terrified that others are bad and not worth saving, and I'm terrified that they're all too stupid to be saved. Yep, neither of us can produce change directly, we will influence the geist directly, which in turn influences the influencers. Ni critic: Currently motivating her epic energy and drive toward understanding what it is she really wants. Totally felt the undercurrents of the loyalty/disloyalty polarity, though I wasn't consciously aware of it in the beginning of our friendship. I messed up once and mentioned that I pirate books and scientific papers, but phrased it in such a way that I said, "I steal, I steal a lot of books." This was in the beginning of our friendship and I've tried numerous times to assuage her fears that I steal from people, or that I would steal from her, as I have absolutely no motivation in this arena, but she still doesn't believe it lol. Oops. Quality time. We get lost for hours, and hours, and hours in metaphysical discussions. The world could literally be on fire and we would have no idea. I approach from Ti/Ne/Si, she approaches from Fi/Ne/Si and we fill out each other's perceptions in these periods in such a way that we are actively helping the other to individuate our Demons, and in the process this hones our phenomenological perceptions of the ontological nature. She's the only person I know that can see my Ti structure occasionally through her Fi structure, and vice versa. She's the Goethe to my Schiller, but we are the next evolution.

As an infp in a fi-si loop, I feel attacked by your video. The fi-so loop sucks. It’s like having an avoidant personality disorder. But I can’t lie, this is the best video explaining the infp I’ve ever watched. Good job 👏🏾.

I’m an INFP, your description of demon mode is so accurate, I often fantasize about ways to take revenge on people who hurt me or people I love, like popping tires and keying cars, but alas it’s just part of the INFP dreamland😂