Who Says Children Don't Come with a Manual? 

damn right

what is your problem

Having seen too many cases of kids being misstreated, abused and made downright miserable because parents have no idea what they are doing.

+Sinclairelim Hmmm you kind of come off as half-cocked there friend. Someone piss in your cornflakes lately? The people watching this video probably number among those MOST interested in decent parenting techniques. I'd think as a psychologist you'd consider that before posting such... abrasive thoughts.

Where did you get the idea i was flaming against the viewers of this video? I was merely sharing my thoughts on the subject.

+Sinclairelim It's a shame your point is both proven and rendered nearly moot by people who apparently can't read what you wrote. I guess the book should actually be a star wars animated drama with language akin to a four-year-old, instead. The good news is at least 12 people seem to agree and only two bothered to respond negatively.

Oh wow. I hope, Betsy, that 4 years later, you've found some solace for yourself and your kids, and some support in dealing with all of this.

🐟 27. MARRIAGE & THE FAMILY: Matrimony is the contractual union of a man with one or more women, primarily for the purpose of PROCREATION and child-rearing. The couple should be brought together by their respective parents, and if practical, some sort of nuptial ceremony performed. Once a couple has been engaged to be married, they should not break the agreement, unless one party has been proven to have lost his or her virginity with a third party. OBVIOUSLY, after the wedding, the marriage contract cannot be broken, unless one or both parties has committed adultery, or one party has chosen to no longer carry out his or her marital duties (for instance, if the husband refuses to materially-support his wife/wives, or the wife refuses to perform domestic chores for her master, both of which are legitimate grounds for divorce). A RESPONSIBLE father will objectively evaluate the unique characteristics, virtues, idiosyncrasies, and shortcomings of his child from a relatively early age, and thereafter, seek a compatible spouse from the available pool of persons in his social circles. Unless his nation faces extinction, the potential match should not be any closer to his child than a cousin. If a prospective couple do not belong to the same clan (and thereby do not share the same family name), it is probable that their genetic code is sufficiently divergent to create healthy offspring. As implied above, incestuous marriage should only be condoned if the human race is in danger of extermination, or possibly in the instance where an entire race or nation is on the verge of annihilation. If one’s parents fail in their duty to select a suitable mate, one should very carefully choose a COMPATIBLE spouse. The recommended criteria used to evaluate marital compatibility are as follows: physical characteristics (such as relative height and sexual attractiveness), personality type, intelligence, emotional temperament, diet, cultural similarities, political ideology, religious affiliation, and life goals. One of the major causes of conjugal breakdown in recent decades has been due to the couple selecting each other based solely (or at least predominantly) on sexual attraction and/or amorous attachments, with little consideration given to the other guiding principles, listed above. Romance rarely lasts more than a couple of years. Marriage is an institution based largely on PRACTICAL considerations, not on lustful feelings or on fleeting sentimentality. Without firm, practical reasons for a couple remaining conjugally-bound, they are susceptible to marital divorce. Generally speaking, women have the potent desire to raise children, and require a man with which to mate, and then protect and support her and the offspring, during the fifteen-plus years (for EACH child) of child-rearing. Most men also desire to have a family, and additionally, possess a very powerful libido, which, if not channelled in a legitimate fashion, can cause a great deal of social misbehaviour (e.g. rape, etc.). There is no such thing as a nun in the eyes of God. Therefore, unless a woman is seriously disabled, either physically or psychologically, or else a lesbian, she is lawfully OBLIGATED to marry the man preselected by her parents (or if her parents are deceased, by her extant master, whether that be her grandfather, an uncle, or an adult nephew). Ideally, women ought to be betrothed as soon as they reach adulthood, to avoid a childless existence. Quite understandably, very few men have aspirations to mate with a post-menopausal female. Marriage is mandatory for men too, apart from missionary priests, those unfortunate males who are unable to support a family for reasons of mental or physical incapacity, men who are simply passed-over by hypergamous females due to being perceived as low-value suitors, homosexuals (meaning, men who are not at all attracted to the opposite gender. Bisexuals are not exempt from marriage), and men who reside in jurisdictions where ILLEGITIMATE feministic governments enact so-called “laws” which abrogate the lawful rights of married men. In my particular case, despite being a model husband and father, my first wife, with the support of the dirty, demonic, democratic Australian government, literally kidnapped my three precious children, whilst my second wife, with the assistance of the equally-wicked, violent, corrupt, murderous Filipino government, stole my presbytery (the house of a priest). The recent exodus of men in Western countries from the dating pool (or at least from formal marriage) is more than understandable. The man should be approximately ten to twenty years OLDER than his wife/wives. Some of the reasons for this are: It is natural for women to be attracted to older men and for men to be attracted to younger women. There is a good evolutionary reason why women reach their sexual peak between the ages of about fifteen to twenty-five and why a man's sexual market value peaks in his thirties to fifties. The female matures earlier (physically and socially), so if she mates with a man of similar age, she may find her spouse to be emotionally immature. The husband is almost a substitute for the woman's father figure, so the husband’s age gives him added authority as head of the family. Also, it gives the man extra time to establish his career, a house and home for his wife and forthcoming progeny. The main duties of the HUSBAND are to teach his wife/wives and sons whatever beneficial lessons he has learnt from his own masters, protect his family from harm, and supply their necessities of life (that is, food, clothing, and shelter) as well as desired luxuries, if practicable. The English noun “husband” comes from the Old Norse word “hûsbôndi”, meaning “master of the house”. Marriage is not a democracy. Any so-called man who compromises with his subordinates, whether they be his wife/wives or his offspring, is surely doomed to failure. Feminized western men, in particular, are guilty of such uxoriousness. Such emasculated “men” are not true men, and desperately need to regain their dignity as the head of their homes. The main daily duties of the WIFE are to execute domestic chores such as to cook, clean, sew, take care of the children, and to keep the husband sexually satisfied so he doesn't look at other women. The wife should submit to the will of her husband. She should fully respect him as her master, and should address him accordingly. Whilst conversing, the wife should focus her attention completely on her husband. She should listen carefully to what he says, learn what he is saying, answer him, and obey his instructions. A man should never be alone with any female, apart from his wife, of course. POLYGAMY has been taught by all the major religions. Unfortunately, the “westernized” religious cults seem to have done away with the practice for unbeknown reasons. The reason for polygamy is simply due to the fact that every woman needs a husband. Also, a certain proportion of men are destined to die as bachelors due to female hypergamy, which is a natural trait of women (even if it may seem unfair). When a woman marries, she LITERALLY joins the family of her husband. She takes her master's family name, and the husband's parents become her parents, which is why they are called “father/mother-in-law”, that is, “father/mother according to the law” (the one and only law of God, or more accurately, the Universal Law, as propounded in Chapter 12). CONVERSELY, if a woman divorces her lord and master, she no longer has any rights towards her previous family whatsoever. She cannot legally (according to the inextricable moral law [“dharma”, in Sanskrit]) take anything from her ex-husband’s family, whether that be his property (including the children born of that union) or his family name. Unless her husband is guilty of adultery, she may take only whatever clothes she has on her body, and cannot return to her birth family, but is a loose woman. A noble man will, if approached by his former daughter, instruct her to promptly return to her husband and submit to his will, rather than take her back into his home. Therefore, a divorced woman is to be referred to as a child's EX-MOTHER (or former mother). Any person who considers the birth mother of a child to still be that child’s mother (after divorcing herself from her master's family), is naught but a pathetic enabler of sinful behaviour, unless, as previously stated, the husband was proven to be an adulterer or grossly negligent in his duties as the patriarch of his family. Cont...

As far as practical, newlyweds should RESIDE in the house of their father (that is, the father of the groom, which is the bride’s father-according-to-the-law). The benefits of this living arrangement greatly exceed any possible disadvantages, assuming, of course, that the father-son relationship is amiable. Women, in particular, need the comfort and support of being surrounded by extended family. When facing relationship difficulties, emotional distress, or medical problems, women require the counsel of elder females, such as their grandmother, mother-in-law, or an aunt. Although males generally do not feel the same need for close familial bonds, it is beneficial for men to maintain a strong relationship with their male kin. The storehouse of knowledge and wisdom preserved by the patriarchy is invaluable for any young man, no matter his level of intelligence or seeming sagacity. Also, if the husband dies or becomes severely disabled, his wife has a safe haven for herself and her offspring. Ideally, a widow should be cared for by a brother-in-law, or if her deceased husband has no brethren, another male relative. Furthermore, there are significant financial advantages to the extended family dwelling in the same house (or at least in the immediate vicinity), which can never be discounted for the vast majority of families, who are not blessed with an abundance of wealth. Just as the parents (hopefully) spent decades lovingly-raising their offspring, it is the sacred DUTY of adult male children to care for their elderly parents and, of course, any of their extant grandparents. If, for some reason, the sons are unwilling or unable to properly look after their ageing parents, that obligation will naturally fall to the parents’ nephews and nieces. Failing that, any relative (i.e. any adult male, or possibly female, within the clan) may take responsibility for the care of an ageing or disabled couple. In the foregoing paragraph, where it is mentioned that the duty of care is placed upon a particular male relative, it should be understood that the ACTUAL daily tasks of caring for the ageing couple do not necessarily fall upon him personally. For example, if the son is busy at work, his wife and/or daughters must care for their elders. Obviously, it is quite improper for a man to bathe and toilet his geriatric mother. Unless medical complications arise, the ideal location for a pregnant woman to birth her child is in her HOME, preferably midwifed by her mother-in-law and other female kin (that is, any girl or woman with whom she shares the same family name). Unless the mother is over the age of thirty-five, has an infection, or the baby is premature, underwater birthing is possibly the least stressful method of childbirth. This is best done in a properly-disinfected bathtub, filled with lukewarm water, purified via the process of reverse-osmosis. If possible, a qualified obstetrician should be consulted during the final trimester of pregnancy to confirm whether or not home-birthing is a safe option for the mother in question, and a physician contacted in the case of a medical emergency during the birth. As far as possible and practical, infants should BREASTFEED exclusively for at least the first two years, and subsequently be slowly weaned with mashed fruits. The ideal human diet is fully explicated in the concluding chapter of this “Final Instruction Sheet for Humanity”, but for the benefit of those who are without access to Chapter 30 of “F.I.S.H”, children, adolescents, as well as adults, thrive on fully-raw vegetarian foodstuffs (or at least a mostly-raw plant-based diet, for those residing outside of the tropics). Furthermore, veganism is a moral imperative! The two most important facets of child-rearing are DISCIPLINE and AFFECTION. Apart from the obvious requirements of being properly fed, clothed, housed, and educated, children need, more than anything else, strict discipline, coupled with an enormous amount of love and affection. Childhood trauma, caused by such things as parental neglect, physical and/or sexual abuse, and divorce, invariably results in severe psychological problems later in life, which requires an inordinate amount of therapy to overcome. Unfortunately, very few such persons receive adequate treatment for their particular form of neurosis, which often results in them causing a menace to themselves and to others. Those who are unable to hire a qualified psychologist to help with their disease, are advised to consult a competent yoga instructor, qualified in at least one of the four systems of yoga (religion) described in Chapter 16 of this Holy Scripture. As children enter ADOLESCENCE, they ought to be physically and psychologically prepared to face the demands of life as an “independent” adult. Young women must be trained in the intricacies of life as a housewife and mother, whilst young men should be apprenticed in their chosen field of work (or for the small proportion of males with an entrepreneurial inclination, their careers as businessmen, and for an infinitesimally smaller percentage of men, to function as kings or as priests). The nuclear family is the basic building block of any society. After carefully perusing the above precepts, it should be patently obvious that modern societies are ordered VERY far from the ideal in respect to family life, and that, unless individuals, organizations, and governments make concerted efforts to repair this foundational unit of society, the consummate destruction of human civilization is inevitable. “Whosoever divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery, and for the man who marries a woman who has divorced herself from her husband, both he and the woman have committed adultery.” Lord Jesus Christ, Divine Incarnation, “Gospel of Luke” 16:18. “Educate your children to self-control, to the habit of holding passion and prejudice and evil tendencies subject to an upright and reasoning will, and you have done much to abolish misery from their future and crimes from society.” Benjamin Franklin, American Polymath. “Raising children is, in a sense, the reason the society exists in the first place. It's the most important thing that happens, and it's the culmination of all the tools and language and social structure that has evolved.” From “The Lost World” by Michael Crichton, American Author.