Who Should I Marry? - Advice from Elder Aimilianos

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Elder Aimilianos says, “Once we reach a certain age, moreover, the choice of one's life partner is a matter which should not be put off. Neither should one be in a hurry, because, as the saying goes, "quick to marry, quick to despair". But one should not delay, because delay is a mortal danger to the soul. As a rule, the normal rhythm of the spiritual life begins with marriage. An unmarried person is like someone trying to live permanently in a hallway: he doesn't seem to know what the rooms are for. Parents should take an interest in the child's social life, but also in his prayer life, so that the blessed hour will come as a gift sent by God.
Don't choose a person who wastes his time at clubs, having good time, and throwing away his money on traveling and luxuries. Neither should you choose someone who, as you'll find out, conceals his self-centeredness beneath words of love. Don't choose a woman as your wife who is like gun powder, so that as soon as you say something to her, she bursts to flames. She's no good as a wife.
Discuss things in advance with your spiritual father. Examine every detail with him, and he will stand by your side as a true friend, and, when you reach the desired goal, then your marriage will be a gift from God (cf. 1 Cor 7.7). God gives his own gift to each one of us. He leads one person to marriage and another to virginity. Not that God makes the choice by saying "you go here", and "you go there", but he gives us the nerve to choose what our heart desires, and the courage and the strength to carry it out.
If you choose your spouse in this way, then thank God. Bring him into touch with your spiritual father. If you don't have one, the two of you should choose a spiritual father together, who will be your Elder, your father, the one who will remind you of, and show you God.”
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@rotgutad Год назад

I saw the title and cynically/jokingly thought “what would an Athonite know about women?” Boy was I wrong. Such wisdom.

@Lilo82531 4 месяца назад

They know human nature more then anybody.

@thattimestampguy Год назад

0:26 Quick to marry Quick to despair. 1:22 Discuss with parents. Parents don't pressure, he is free to make his own decision. It is his responsibility. Help but allow. 2:08 Attraction, Desire to live together. 3:30 Engagement is testing for marriage 4:27 Be cautious 4:52 Don't chose someone who flaunts, who is quick to anger. 5:33 Man leaves his Father and Mother and is united to his Wife He must be spirited 6:19 He needs friends. 6:55 Be on guard from trivial critique 7:15 Avoid people who think marriage is like prison 7:45 Watch for Hypocrites Learn the family 8:17 Pay attention to the person's Faith, His/Her Ideals. 9:05 Speak to your Spiritual Father.

@miketacos9034 Год назад

This is incredibly useful and wise advice.

@robertbateman3698 11 месяцев назад

Thank you

@jennyamiantitis4906 Год назад

May Elder Aimilianos intercede for us.

@IonniasDeVito 2 месяца назад

Man, I wish I had learned these things at age 19-20. 12 years later...So much unnecessary grief I put upon myself and others through on account of being unaware of these pitfalls.

@icxcnika2037 Месяц назад

same 😢

@taranmurray7046 Год назад

Where on Earth are there any people like this?

@masi7iyah140 Год назад

there are some, trust me. you just have to keep praying 🙏🏼

@adamsmith2944 Год назад

@@masi7iyah140 theyre not on social media. Theyre not in the city either

@gweenteaphilosophe Год назад

@@adamsmith2944 I disagree. I found my boyfriend through social media. He's been Orthodox for a few years now, and I am a catechumen (have been). We were friends for over a year, and then eventually got together. 6 months going strong so far, long distance is tough but he'll be visiting me during the Nativity of Christ! I'll be baptized Orthodox then. I pray that if it is God's will, that anyone here without hope to find someone special may receive holy intercession and find their rightful spouse !

@iMacxXuserXx485 Год назад

@@adamsmith2944 My girlfriend and I met in high school. We grew up in nyc. She is my best friend. We will probably be married in the next year or two. I agree with the above. Keep praying. God bless you.

@bluntweirdo Год назад

church

@metrab8901 7 месяцев назад

no wonder, I'm basically all of that but being alone sucks. Lord have mercy

@civillian876 Год назад

Im a 16 yr old female But i already felt like Elder Amilianos Had already pointed out all about myself here in this vid as a women

@FearBASED-vr1ky 5 месяцев назад

Which country are you from?

@civillian876 5 месяцев назад

@@FearBASED-vr1ky Philippines

@ruslanakozinchuk9956 8 месяцев назад

I wish to hear this before my marriage. It’s a precious piece of information that all people not only orthodox has to take seriously!

@billydavenport8134 Год назад

Thank you for this!

@bluntweirdo Год назад

I love this! Funny because it is true. If you can embody these qualities, you can find someone else who does also. Like attracts like!

@resistentia7442 Год назад

I suggest a short snippet of Orthodox music at the end as a nice way to phase out from the wisdom.

@omira-arimo Год назад

And I appreciate the lack of any music, thank you! 🌸

@SerpicoVendemion Год назад

Thank you.

@NanaMaryanna 6 месяцев назад

What wisdom!!! Glory to God!🙏🕊

@Walte25 Год назад

Thank you!

@TheTkrum Месяц назад

Give it to the Lord, be patient, and be a yes man. Can’t meet nobody sitting on your couch, alone. Do you know what you want? The Lord will give you that and then some. If you are unsure about knowing, meaning, how will you know that’s the one? All I can say is, trust the Lord, He will make it clear to you. If it’s one thing I know for sure, it’s that the Lord knows your perfect spouse. The timing of it, the situation leading up to your meeting, is all unknown. But you can’t say the wrong thing to the right person, and visa versa, so relax. But make no mistake, it will be clearer to you than the water in the Bahamas.

@Lupen69 Месяц назад

Much of the advice I hear is about the involvement of parents and it makes me worried about how much more difficult it'll be as someone without them. Apparently it's a common thing to lack at least one of the two these days. I hope the trend can be reversed if people can be a bit more picky about who they'll marry, but lacking the parent's insight it might be considered a catch-22

@tylerstewart7699 Год назад

What do we do if we're not in the position to move out? Especially as expensive as things are now. It's not easy to get a home.

@OrthodoxWisdom Год назад

Do the best you can and pray hard

@ArizonaTengu Год назад

As aman who inherited a family business. Moving out done the American way is extremely difficult. I have the option of moving to two other properties that are in my parent’s name. One in California and the other in Mexico with my current residence here in Arizona. We discuss things as a family and try to finance a new property purchase together. The commandment is to leave your father’s house. The commandment isn’t you have to do it all alone. We are currently looking to buy a third property in town here in Arizona. Trying to keep the family together is important. Even in ancient times most people didn’t move far from their parents, and typically stayed local. There is also the option of sharing a house with other families. If you have friends in your parish, or outside the Church, you can join finances to help each other but property. You could of course, try to figure things out by yourself, but most never make it past poverty that way. There are strategies to success. Don’t ignore them.

@0utc4st1985 Год назад

The Elder isn't referring to people who stay with their parents because of finances, but those who still live with their parents as though they never grew up. Be patient and pray, but never despair. If you can't yet move out because the costs are too high, then you can't. But be vigilant for opportunities in the future, God will send them to you according to His providence.

@iMacxXuserXx485 Год назад

In other parts of the world, people will build an extension to their existing home of their parents for them and their family to save money. Do that if it's possible.

@lejspul7655 Год назад

As soon as you start seeing living with them as a personal responsibility, and an opportunity to serve, then you have developed what is needed to live with anyone

@tommyjake7057 28 дней назад

Answer: not by the state. Men should avoid marriage until the law changes so that’s it equal. 50/50 automatic custody and finances. This is NOT the case currently, it benefits and protects women only! Men, research the law on divorce and female modern dating strategies before considering marriage. Protect yourself

@No-1.In.Particular Месяц назад

5:30 Are there any financial exemptions? Otherwise I think most people of my generation will marry into their 60’s, when they can actually afford to leave.

@Mch0412 5 месяцев назад

What if age gap is 17 years ?

@OrthodoxWisdom 5 месяцев назад

talk with you spiritual father, and if you don't have one then an experienced Orthodox spiritual guide

@Mch0412 4 месяца назад

@@OrthodoxWisdom thank you!

@JurgenLoschfer 3 месяца назад

It is not recommended such an age gap, a gap of 17 years is the maximum. It is allowed, but under certain circumstances. You must convince the priest and your bishop that you want to marry each other out of love.

@thebibleuniverseity4388 10 месяцев назад

Nah

@haraprasadsabhapati6231 Год назад

sir orthodox priest marry

@Mystics-_- Год назад

Yes they can marry

@EO-John9540 Год назад

For those who (like many in the west) are confused of what to do, coming to the Church very late after a wretched life: Do not forget about God, with Him even hardships are not hard, there is no loneliness, and your powerlessness will be strengthened by God’s power. People are allowed to be overcome by the confusion of life so that they might understand that we cannot live without God. Now many have crossed the threshold of the Church, but only outwardly, while inwardly they still place their hope in themselves and in other people. Meanwhile the Lord is waiting for us to cleave to Him like children, with our hearts. Only then will everything change in our lives. God’s blessing to you and your daughter; of course, your request for prayer is fulfilled. FR. JOHN KRESTIANKIN. LETTERS TO LAYPEOPLE. PART 7

@samuelagwotu5074 8 месяцев назад

I think Celibate life would be better considered First , Purity with ardent life of prayer and sacraments of Church ..... should be the ultimate focus of this earthly life , With all your strength seek God, should , some woman comes your way .. then Marriage should be discerned , with outmost prayer, thorough Vetting , with all fear !!! ........i rather be with dragon or lion than with evil woman !!! is scary scripture reading , isn't it ? actually there are many scripture readings that scare even ,more, Sacramental Marriage is very beautiful , in ITS Nature , but Not possible in our modern world ..actually its Grave Burden for Majority of people today, even Christians, all over the world, all in all WISE MAN , SHOULD SEEK GOD, AND HIS KINGDOM .... CLING IN SACREMENTAL LIFE, ....... than to carry the York of Marriage !!!!. my opinion....................., i might be right, OR i might be wrong, but as A Man who has lived a life of close to 50 yrs, what i see today....greed for money , contraception, has destroyed women and family !!! you might ask , HOW IS SACREMENTAL MARRIAGE POSSIBLE WITH MODERN WOMAN OF TODAY ? ????