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Why abstinence kills your dating life... || STEVE HARVEY 

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Steve and Shemar Moore try to help a woman who has not had luck telling men she wants to wait to have sex until she’s marriage.
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@idontcare8267
@idontcare8267 8 лет назад
I'm saving myself for marriage as a male.
@suziecollins9981
@suziecollins9981 8 лет назад
That's very nice coming From a man.
@bonezbaaaby
@bonezbaaaby 8 лет назад
Paul Hollesen Good for you
@thequeebb
@thequeebb 7 лет назад
nice
@fiorellafool
@fiorellafool 7 лет назад
Paul Hollesen, Me too, sex is beautiful and is shared with someone you love and not with someone you'll leave the next day.
@thewhitestrussians2514
@thewhitestrussians2514 7 лет назад
I'm 26 and still a virgin. People give me crap for it but working without paying child support and having drama has allowed me to save up to buy a house. People act like abstinence is impossible and believe me I had plenty of opportunities in college. Congrats to anyone who is able to have the self control to wait until marriage.
@lilmakori
@lilmakori 6 лет назад
I love that dress. The colour and silhouette are beautiful.
@Emi14873
@Emi14873 7 лет назад
She should find someone who believes the same thing or respects her opinion. I usually tell them up front and they scatter and I have less headaches later on...
@christinalucas1002
@christinalucas1002 6 лет назад
Kira Lunar exactly because people will drop you because they want to be active and you don't, love or no. And you have to let them go but you must still be yourself. Don't wait too long to tell people anything important but I believe if she is Christian or so they would meet in church of God will connect the them
@PayThePiperr
@PayThePiperr 6 лет назад
Up front is best. Men have a choice just like women and men should be ridiculed if they don't make the choice the woman believes is right.
@winniemaina5712
@winniemaina5712 6 лет назад
ohhh, scatter they do...
@great456789
@great456789 5 лет назад
Exactly!
@uniqueEnergy83
@uniqueEnergy83 5 лет назад
Kira Lunar Yeap!!!!! The faster they run the quicker God can present who meant to stay 👌🏾👌🏾
@haleyclarke1332
@haleyclarke1332 8 лет назад
Steve said it right. Celibacy is hard but it can be done.
@Chocolate.barbie444
@Chocolate.barbie444 5 лет назад
Yes
@michaelsix9684
@michaelsix9684 4 года назад
I have done it for 64 yrs. , turned sex down several times now it doesn't matter anymore
@denisenoemyschizotypaldiso3755
What do you think of this pro-abstinence rap? ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-WcktBC3hr-g.html
@TVwriter23
@TVwriter23 Год назад
Abstinence and celibacy are two different things. Abstinence is saving sex before marriage celibacy is no marriage, sex, kids ever
@denisenoemyschizotypaldiso3755
@@TVwriter23 Abstinence just means not having sex. A person who hopes to marry but is just not having sex is abstaining and is celibate. This is a choice that much be respected. Sex is not, as so often described, a "need." It is a desire.
@OnlyANickel
@OnlyANickel 7 лет назад
I'm so encouraged by the comment section for once, it's a welcome change. I'm 32 and waiting on marriage. *Just because I haven't met him yet, doesn't mean I can't honor my husband now.* Marriage is a holy and sacred union, a true gift from God. Amen!
@animefan2454
@animefan2454 6 лет назад
Penny for your thoughts? Yeah but don't you feel like your wasting it i mean sex is an amzing thing and if u just wait for it and never find the right person then your missing out
@gigarex2016
@gigarex2016 6 лет назад
Marriage is an outdated concept and is nothing more than a busniess proposition that benefits women. There is nothing in it for a man to be married to a woman.
@Shewas-kathybates
@Shewas-kathybates 6 лет назад
The Science Fiction and HORROR AND FANTASY FAN. You can’t miss something you’ve never had. “You’re missing out” no she’s good lol let her be
@imdifferent7294
@imdifferent7294 6 лет назад
Amen sister. I bet you look young. Don't worry about your age.
@ninaleyda2213
@ninaleyda2213 6 лет назад
If you dont mind me asking are you a virgin? Or have decided now to wait for marriage after failed relationships? Just asking for insight not judging 😊
@galacticcactus5530
@galacticcactus5530 7 лет назад
At this point in time, more people NEED to be celibate/abstinent. All these advancements, and STDS are still on the rise....people just don't give a damn.
@kenyonmckee2268
@kenyonmckee2268 5 лет назад
Well I never have sex without a condom I sing going raw until I'm married
@tinahuttner7280
@tinahuttner7280 5 лет назад
And the reason it's on the rise is cause people are being dumb and not having their partner being tested.if your partner dont want to show the proof they're clean then they either dont know themselfs or hiding the fact😒
@joshuaijaola2145
@joshuaijaola2145 4 года назад
?? And people seem to conflate sex and abstinence, there’s a huge gap between wait till you are legally married to someone to have sex and literally having sec with everyone you meet.
@frootloopy1903
@frootloopy1903 4 года назад
im a virgin at 23 years old and ive been made fun of by everyone around me. I dont care, this is my body and it is precious.
@HeadFunny
@HeadFunny 4 года назад
have you heard the weirdest story about abstinence? ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-sQv7194eYQw.html
@joeydoherty368
@joeydoherty368 3 года назад
Me too. No emotional scares. No broken relationships or regrets in my past. No time or money wasted. Great decision imo.
@koolsmoothfan
@koolsmoothfan 2 года назад
they are making fun of you because deepdown inside they wish they had waited. Good job family, don't fold to peer pressure. If sex was the glue to keeping relationships together, then no one would be breaking up if they were having sex together. Much respect to you fam for staying true to yourself.
@titoyama5760
@titoyama5760 2 года назад
I'm on my 2 year of being divorced and I have been abstinent from sex I don't even go on dates or talk to any females, this time I want to do things the right way I want to wait for the right one if she ever comes if not I don't mind staying single
@christdriven8790
@christdriven8790 2 года назад
When it comes down to it, it does matter what any human being thinks about you, it's totally ilrevelant. God is the only One who we should be worrying about.
@JuanitaMichelle
@JuanitaMichelle 8 лет назад
The caption of the video is misleading. I almost didn't open the video cause I thought somebody was gonna say something crazy about women who choose to abstain. Had my gloves out ready to fight. Lol
@lorraineoliveira1
@lorraineoliveira1 5 лет назад
Me too. God designs and plans everything beautifully.
@ruxrux841
@ruxrux841 5 лет назад
Juanita Michelle you and me both 😂😂
@gabzseveri6780
@gabzseveri6780 4 года назад
ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-ybZ7MypGn8E.html Another Steve video if you looking to fight.
@princesssophiawise3560
@princesssophiawise3560 4 года назад
me too! hahaha...
@PRINCESS2527
@PRINCESS2527 6 лет назад
She’s beautiful ...😍 men must go nuts knowing they can’t have her 😂
@blueraven3794
@blueraven3794 5 лет назад
Not really
@AskDQTV
@AskDQTV 5 лет назад
Mika L lol thanks sis #facts
@fucklife6881
@fucklife6881 4 года назад
BlueRaven lol
@sanrocha8
@sanrocha8 4 года назад
Sadly... no... :( lol they still run :(
@musicsweet2833
@musicsweet2833 3 года назад
🤣🤣🤣 that’s why they leave so fast coz they know they cannot handle themselves around her 😆
@bonezbaaaby
@bonezbaaaby 8 лет назад
I know for me I like to get it out there so I don't waste any time with someone not willing to wait
@mrosterbra
@mrosterbra 6 лет назад
Jewel For Jesus Same with me but I never know when to bring up the fact that im a 23 year old male virgin..Im always afraid that will scare her off and for some it has.
@MegaCadette55
@MegaCadette55 6 лет назад
+mrosterbra then they're not the one. Your girl won't be "Willing" to wait. she will be waiting before u even meet
@maryalyssa8122
@maryalyssa8122 6 лет назад
I think it’s never to soon to tell the guy. And if he leaves he’s not the guy for you. Waiting is worse. Because you need to keep your guards up and not get emotionally attached. There are so many guys who are willing to wait, and there are al lot of guys who won’t. So you need to be prepared that’s part of it
@im1who84u
@im1who84u 3 года назад
We were both in our twenties and had been dating off and on for a year or two and having sex during the "on" times. It was the seventies. She liked me a lot, maybe even "loved" me. She wanted to marry me. I was not so much on board with that at this young age. I had just graduated college, top in my class with an associates science degree in aviation technology, had my pilots license, and was on track to get a job with the airlines. Marriage and a kid, which is what she wanted, would have killed all that. If she had supported the direction I was going, I could see myself marrying her and having children later, but that's not what she was putting on the table. Well anyways, the story I wanted to share is this. We where sitting in her apartment one evening getting ready to watch a movie. It was cold outside and Christmas was just a few weeks away. She had very tastefully decorated her apartment and the only light in the place was coming from the tiny lights on the Christmas tree. A very romantic setting. As we where cuddling on the couch she told me that she wanted to stop having sex and that going forward we would be dating without sex. I was fine with it cause I really did like being around her sex or not. She looked shocked that I was okay with it and said out loud, "you didn't leave, you stayed". I guess she had expected me to get up right then and there and walk out. I told her that I enjoyed her company and that it didn't have to include having sex. A half out later to my surprise with her taking the initiative, we where having sex on the floor of her living room. Some of the best we have had up to this point and for some reason she was extra passionate that night.
@shauneenicole2535
@shauneenicole2535 6 лет назад
I don't agree with Steve. Some time down the line of just getting to know the person you have to let them know that you're celibate. Not after emotional attachment. Because then when the other person says they can't wait there is going to be heartbreak. Plus the feeling of wasted time & feelings.
@sblogan07
@sblogan07 4 года назад
Exactly!
@theeliteelite1873
@theeliteelite1873 3 года назад
Yeah, Steve’s advice here really seems to be emotional manipulation to me. Frankly, I think issues of things like “I’m waiting for marriage” or “I have a STI” or “I have a high body count” or anything like that should be laid out there early on so the other person can make an informed decision about moving forward or moving on before being at a point of letting emotions cloud their judgment. Yes, that’ll probably mean lots of “that’s not okay with me, good luck in your search for someone who will be okay with that.” But that’s fine. It helps filter out people who ultimately you wouldn’t truly have been compatible with.
@BrooklynBaby100
@BrooklynBaby100 2 года назад
@@theeliteelite1873 Oh please, men manipulate and control relationships all the time to have the upper hand.
@kacatx91
@kacatx91 2 года назад
@@theeliteelite1873 eh you seem to be voicing the other side, which is fine and should be heard. However, it takes time to get to know someone to even make a decision on if they want to pursue beyond talking. Meaning that if you’re someone who just makes decisions on relationships based purely upon whether they want to have sex, that’s on you and not on the other person. The abstinent person doesn’t owe that person anything until they decide if that person is important enough to have those conversations. Not all business is public. Even Sti’s. I think you should get to know the person first before making any decision on a future which goes for both parties involved, not just the one who wants to have sex.
@theeliteelite1873
@theeliteelite1873 2 года назад
@@kacatx91 Err, if you're dating, it's not about "making business public." You're dating. That puts you in a different category of intimacy. You're trying to see if you are compatible for a life together. Sharing morals is an important factor there. If you have one person who wants to wait for marriage for sex and the other person who has the view of "I'm not buying a car before taking it for a test drive" that should be made known to each other quickly so they can know not to waste time with each other. If you have views that are incompatible and are deal-breakers, that sort of stuff should be put out there very early on. Like if you have a devout Christian and a devout Muslim who go on a date together, something that fundamental to your life should be made known right away, so they both know they aren't compatible. What would be the point of going through several months of dating to just then make it known "oh hey I have these religious views that are extremely important to me and I can't be with someone who doesn't share them?" What a waste of time for both people.
@waelffs8030
@waelffs8030 8 лет назад
I'm a guy and I won't have sex till marriage, it's obviously hard but y'all exaggerating
@purplelonghorn07
@purplelonghorn07 8 лет назад
good for you! Sex is not a necessity in a relationship outside of marriage
@innarlife
@innarlife 8 лет назад
@ali govro don't tell them your bizness then. I don't believe that's true friendship either.
@acacius9903
@acacius9903 8 лет назад
+ali govro Your friends should be encouraging you to do what's right for you and not make fun of you because of your choice. Stay strong and if not look for friends who will support you.
@XxYukaaXD
@XxYukaaXD 5 лет назад
wael ffs ; wauw true & respect man !!
@m.w.5411
@m.w.5411 5 лет назад
HARD ASF AND IM A FEMALE BUT IT HAS TO BE DONE😭🎯
@ashley_brown6106
@ashley_brown6106 3 года назад
That's kinda manipulative imo. Waiting for the other person to "catch feelings" and then you tell them this huge thing that they were probably never comfortable with in the first place. Also, ladies, let me tell you something. Men don't care about feelings as much as you think (or as much as they tell you they do). I thought I found my dream guy, we were in a committed relationship for a few months, he told me and acted like he truly loved me, and when I made the decision to be celibate he left me that same day like I meant NOTHING to him. Don't be fooled, no man is gonna stick around if celibacy is not something he wants too. No matter how long you make him wait, he's gonna leave you once he finds out sex is not an option. Tell them as soon as possible, so you don't waste your and their time.
@isabellalora6533
@isabellalora6533 3 года назад
Wow!!! That’s so mean of him! He was selfish narcissist
@koolsmoothfan
@koolsmoothfan 2 года назад
too bad that happened to you, but some men do care about women's feelings, just like some women do not care about men's feelings.And you would be surprised about how many men are either virgins or celibate. I have been celibate going on seven years now and I feel refreshed mentally and physically. And I agree with you, I let women know up front that I am waiting until marriage now.
@oreoluwasegun-agoro3926
@oreoluwasegun-agoro3926 2 года назад
@@koolsmoothfan Same with me
@titoyama5760
@titoyama5760 2 года назад
you are wrong not all man are like that, well I'm not like that, I was married and two years ago she decided to throw everything away it took me almost 2 years to heal so I decided to be celibate until I find the right one and I wouldn't mind waiting until the wedding night
@queensun6059
@queensun6059 Год назад
beware👹he may stay, if u tell him, to try & change your mind but then ghost u if u don't have sex.
@Dvinecreations7
@Dvinecreations7 8 лет назад
I love this show!!!!!! I thank the entire team and network for allowing topics like this to be discussed and effectively evaluated on daytime television. Mr.Harvey and his co-host, consistently provide effective and attainable advice to women such as myself who have standards but still want to enjoy their season of singleness. I also appreciate the male perspective and advice that this show provides through panels and transparent conversations. Having these types of discussions displayed on mainstream tv allows there to be a much needed balance to the "normal" view on singleness displayed through the various forms of social media. Keep the Great Convo's coming!
@AnnaLVajda
@AnnaLVajda 6 лет назад
I think it shows respect for ones self and future life partner and it also enforces the concept of self control and trust in a relationship.
@HD-Australia
@HD-Australia 6 лет назад
What a gorgeous woman!!! Oh My!!! She would be the ULTIMATE prize for a worthy man
@AskDQTV
@AskDQTV 5 лет назад
Hayley Doan thank you so much doll!
@spets234
@spets234 3 года назад
@@AskDQTV Hold up you are from the video-
@alakuay9525
@alakuay9525 5 лет назад
It's takes two for celibacy to work in a relationship.. it's never easy, there will be urges & temptation, yet can be worth it in the long run.
@markhardiman1179
@markhardiman1179 3 года назад
He'll step up or step out.💃🏿💃🏿💃🏿 Respect is everything.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@ianbeveridge6706
@ianbeveridge6706 5 лет назад
I always found something manly about wanting to protect your girls virginity, especially when she says she saving herself for marriage.. but it sure as hell hard to stay pure, me and my ex made it through our relationship without being sexual intimate and it was my most fruitful relationship I have ever had :)
@ashleyspurling5701
@ashleyspurling5701 Год назад
Its not "manly". It's possessive.
@danialsuits8926
@danialsuits8926 2 года назад
I have walked away from girls and relationships that crave the "sex" outside of marriage. "Friends with benefits" is sleazy. A good man will not pressure the woman but will talk about marriage first.
@yovanyrivero4362
@yovanyrivero4362 7 месяцев назад
I am a 40-year-old man and while I am not a virgin, I am voluntarily celibate and have been for years. A woman who honors themselves (even if not a virgin) and their future partners is incredibly attractive to me. People can't complain about high body counts yet continue to exploit today's sexual promiscuity. I have read a lot of comments on here about how many males run when you do not sleep with them, I hope you ladies stay strong and understand there are men out there who will honor you enough to be with you and remain celibate.
@marshacreary2442
@marshacreary2442 6 лет назад
Spending more time working through your respective issues and/or baggage so that you are able to establish emotional intimacy and connection is a process of healing
@tamarwilliams446
@tamarwilliams446 6 лет назад
I'm still a virgin. And I'm old! I'm proud of myself too! :D
@jessimiyorib8873
@jessimiyorib8873 3 года назад
you should be.
@ston3dhomosapi3n
@ston3dhomosapi3n 3 года назад
if that’s what you want then good for you :)
@sylviarobinson5952
@sylviarobinson5952 2 года назад
WOW❗
@koolsmoothfan
@koolsmoothfan 2 года назад
you should be
@phantom2k10
@phantom2k10 8 лет назад
it's only carnally minded men who only want sex and don't know that yoy can penetrate a women without penetrating her physically if you catch my drift,but to be completely honest i'm not entirely surprised at the way a lot of men think because sex is pushed in nearly everything.Everywhere you look there are some sort of sexual connotations and this is why you have to renew yoyr mind by reading the scriptures and building yourself up in every aspect. abstinence is one of the best decisions a man or woman can make in todays backwards society.The scriptures say HE who finds a wife finfs a good thing and obtains favour from YAH(proverbs 18:22). there's no need to chase a man or go out of your way to find one.When the timr and season is right your mr right will reveal himself
@deez596
@deez596 8 лет назад
👏👏👏👏👏👏👏
@DKforgetyou
@DKforgetyou 8 лет назад
phantom2k10 that was nice man I enjoyed what you said and your right
@innarlife
@innarlife 8 лет назад
word!
@conneem8760
@conneem8760 8 лет назад
well said . People like you still exist. God bless you.
@phantom2k10
@phantom2k10 8 лет назад
Connee M you 2 grace and peace
@jamesmorell1758
@jamesmorell1758 6 лет назад
Ahhh the old bait and switch. Get him attached to you and the idea that something will happen and then take it away and make it too painful for them to leave, so you're always in control of the man and his sex drive since day one. That's some cold game. On a serious note, ladies if you become someone of high value he'll make a true effort to wait.
@jamessharp9790
@jamessharp9790 4 года назад
Stutters the Pimp absolutely bait and switch!
@natashadickson4819
@natashadickson4819 2 года назад
The "bait and switch" door swings both ways. A man can let her think he'll marry her if she goes to bed with him before marriage. Then he'll vanish. Make him wait, girl.
@queensun6059
@queensun6059 Год назад
felt stupid for telling him im abstinent instead of stringing him along hoping he'd fall in love & stay. but couldn't. i want honesty. told him 1st date. he ghosted after 3mos.
@ddrum705
@ddrum705 8 лет назад
She's cute
@roccityshottest
@roccityshottest 7 лет назад
Steve she is beautiful! I would love to date a woman waiting for marriage especially one who's as confident in her decision enough to speak on it publicly. As I am doing the same . CLO please connect us!
@kattmilk
@kattmilk 5 лет назад
How about being friends with one? What state are you in? 😇😎😉
@deborahfryer2858
@deborahfryer2858 6 лет назад
Why does everyone want to be sexy these days? Surely God wants a happy, well adjusted mentally and emotionally, clean, and positive people, full of charity, which is the pure love of Christ. If you want to really understand this subject read the book "HOW TO AVOID FALLING IN LOVE WITH A JERK" by John Van Epp, a former pastor turned family counselor. In this book he shows the stages of dating or courting, and where the pitfalls are. I might add that the scriptures tell us to avoid the very appearance of evil, so no late nights, sitting alone in cars or other private places, or doing any such thing that would compromise integrity and lower standards. If we are really to be happy and marry happily, we cannot build our houses on sand.
@nofybn7794
@nofybn7794 5 лет назад
so no late nights, sitting alone in cars or other private places, or doing any such thing that would compromise integrity and lower standards. Then you are not dating, you are friends. I don't fully agree. I can handle it.
@jamessharp9790
@jamessharp9790 4 года назад
You can take it even further by asking the Church for permission to have sex after marriage. Not that it’ll be an issue anyway Bc she’ll be getting it from Chad and Tyrone anyway
@LisaLisaCJ
@LisaLisaCJ 2 года назад
I’m not dating someone that I can’t spend time alone with. People take scriptures and make their own doctrines.
@noc_yt
@noc_yt 4 года назад
This is bad advice for one reason: Bad communication. A healthy relationship involves putting things out on the table early on. If you don't tell them you wanna practice abstinence at an early point, he or she may become very bitter that you didn't tell them and sure they might try for some time but there's a high chance it won't work out. Wouldn't you rather be open with your partner instead of manipulating them?
@zainabsayyad8343
@zainabsayyad8343 2 года назад
I am too saving myself for the marriage and for my soulmate 😇
@strawberriesblueberries2258
@strawberriesblueberries2258 5 лет назад
I’m saving myself for four reasons: 1) God’s will 2) Love 3) marriage 4) Children
@koolsmoothfan
@koolsmoothfan 2 года назад
amen family
@Howtonaturally
@Howtonaturally 8 лет назад
I don't agree. I think this is actually better to let a guy know your standards and intentions from the start that way if he decides to stay knowing your celibacy intentions you know he at least seems more genuine. It's either he will love your other ways of being intimate or not. I think if he is any type of genuine guy he will agree and be willing to see how things go without being sexually intimate I don't think you should not mention it because he might well be expecting it and I don't think that necessarily makes him a bad person I think it's actually somewhat intentionally deceptive .
@DC...
@DC... 6 лет назад
The Change Agreed. If she introduces it politely as her belief system to a man with a similar belief it should be fine. Convincing people to share her belief sounds difficult. Holding that information for months sounds disappointing. She nor he will be comfortable. Both will lose the time invested.
@ceeceedior21
@ceeceedior21 5 лет назад
Why the Emmett till pic tho?
@cheikhtv3840
@cheikhtv3840 6 лет назад
Save yourself it is better for you
@ashleyperkins2711
@ashleyperkins2711 6 лет назад
Wrong advice Steve. I believe it's good to let them know up front so you want be wasting his or your time and they want feel misled later on down the road when u let them know.
@WinningWithWini
@WinningWithWini 5 лет назад
Same
@MsBadBody
@MsBadBody 5 лет назад
Agree
@MsBadBody
@MsBadBody 5 лет назад
When they mad at you, they will throw it in your face and make it seem like you're silly for holding out.
@veoh112
@veoh112 4 года назад
Raeleen Margo those type of men disgust me and have low values in themselves. If they seek love and self acceptance in their partner just based off of sex.
@rahmancyrus65
@rahmancyrus65 4 года назад
@@MsBadBody She shouldn't be with that type of guy in the first place. You can't put yourself in a a bad situation than complain & blame the other for you choosing to be in that bad situation. You have to date people who agree with you, relationship are not about fighting & disagreeing thats just a ghetto mess.
@t.y.6640
@t.y.6640 6 лет назад
I disagree, I think that needs to be thrown on the table ASAP and if a man isn't with it, he isn't the one. Go to church and find a man who's on a similar path. I'm celibate and waiting until marriage myself and I tell men straight up but for some reason, the guys I come across don't find it a turn off, they commend it but still try to get me lol even tho it ain't gonna happen.
@WinningWithWini
@WinningWithWini 5 лет назад
Steve is misinforming people. To my fellow celibate people, do yourself and the other person a favor: TELL THEM YOU'RE CELIBATE WITHIN THE FIRST 2-3 conversations. Steve is telling you to create an emotional bond before saying anything and this can be bad for your spiritual life. Think of it like this: You wait until after you've created an emotional attachment to tell the person you are celibate, at this point they're probably ready for sex so it puts pressure on you to make the decision to give in with someone who may or may not plan out and on them to decide whether they're willing to wait, play around, leave, or try to convince you to give it to them all due to this emotional attachment that Steve wants you to create. Being upfront can keep you from unnecessary heartache and unnecessary temptation. It also allows you to establish boundaries surrounding sex early on and to understand the person's values around sex and their own sexual life. Love you sweet children of God 😘😘
@paulinefaithonyango
@paulinefaithonyango 3 года назад
Been here to many times.. They end up hurt why you didn't tell them sooner.. The early the better
@koolsmoothfan
@koolsmoothfan 2 года назад
you better preach, lol, seriously, you are spitting facts.
@LisaLisaCJ
@LisaLisaCJ 2 года назад
That was the only part I didn’t agree with. Why would I allow someone to become attached and then say oh by the way you ain’t getting this……. It’s best to say so up front
@cetti4405
@cetti4405 5 лет назад
Steve keeps saying she would be surprised... But actually, men who want a lasting relationship are dying to meet women like her. Yeah, we'll take the cookie, if given freely and let's face it, sex isn't solely about what men want. Women want that candy cane too. But as far as looking for a life-long partner goes, women who are waiting for marriage first, give men what matters most after love: The feeling that they can be trusted...
@richyburnett
@richyburnett 2 года назад
I cannot tell you what a relief it is to hear someone say this out loud after so much noise in the opposite direction. This basic understanding is good for men and women. It’s a failure to accept the initial challenge (and benefits!)which screws everyone up so much until they are inventing all kinds of weird alternatives which don’t really match up with who they really are and what they really need as people who basically want to love and be loved fully. That last line … my God if you could just share that with the sisterhood today, it would heal so many hurts. People have become so understandably cynical about marriage and love but we have to wake up and realise that real love and the commitment is demands, is way more sexy than sex can be loving, on its own.
@queensun6059
@queensun6059 Год назад
true! real men know: a woman they can trust is pure 🔥 gold. & that trust is the MVP (not her pus🙄).
@kingtutakhamon
@kingtutakhamon 6 лет назад
I disagree with Steve on this one, why deceive someone? Tell him/her upfront!
@SuckerPunch92
@SuckerPunch92 6 лет назад
kingtutakhamon I agree
@t.y.6640
@t.y.6640 6 лет назад
Right
@daniellebarrow3950
@daniellebarrow3950 8 лет назад
Shemar Moore was right, bring him back!
@yvettemarshallTWN
@yvettemarshallTWN 2 года назад
Intimacy and sex go beyond penetration. Bring imagination into it show a woman what you are inside, your creativity and swoon factor. 💕There are so many pleasing things you can do to please one another. Negotiate. Also, high value women have to be on guard for these hit and run artists who aren’t looking for anything more than to conquer and continue on. Agree it’s not fair to bait and switch, not fair to bring someone close then push them back! We women gotta be honest up front and separate the wheat from the shaft. 👀
@great456789
@great456789 5 лет назад
On this issue, I half disagree with Steve. Following this route the guy is likely to feel he has been trapped. He has already invested time and effort into the relationship and cares about her and now he finds out that this is not going to give him the sex he is looking for. That puts him in a tough position.
@tranquility9325
@tranquility9325 4 месяца назад
That's why men need to learn self discipline.
@cntrygal2007
@cntrygal2007 8 лет назад
OMG how AWESOME is *THIS*?!?!?! Thank you, Steve Harvey!!
@sarelito9202
@sarelito9202 2 года назад
Are people such a slave to sex? Wow. Important as it is, surely there should be more to building a relationship.
@zacqueeentertainment7336
@zacqueeentertainment7336 3 года назад
Damn... she is GORGEOUS
@warmcozy
@warmcozy 3 месяца назад
I like Steve and Shemar’s advice.
@amazingyear9042
@amazingyear9042 6 лет назад
she’s gorgeous
@AskDQTV
@AskDQTV 5 лет назад
amazingyear thank you so much ❤️
@kellarenna
@kellarenna 5 лет назад
Why lead a guy on who may or may not share the same beliefs as you? I dont want to waste my time with anyone who wont wait or wont respect my beliefs or even have the same ones. It's the quickest easiest way to weed the wrong ones out. Be patient, celibate friends
@TheAIPerspecti1
@TheAIPerspecti1 21 день назад
Yeah I agree w/you. Furthermore Steve’s advice is terrible.
@kristysmith4990
@kristysmith4990 5 лет назад
Their are two types of women the women that know their worth and the women that let men decide. Most men will try to get it in with the least amount of money spent and effort. If the man you’re dealing with doesn’t know your worth wait for the right suitor who is looking for a woman like you. He will come good things come to those who wait.
@jamessharp9790
@jamessharp9790 4 года назад
Kristy Smith what about men who have standards? Oh yeah that makes them sexist
@777Rowen
@777Rowen 5 лет назад
People should do as they please. If you want to have sex, fine but be safe about it; and if you you’d rather wait that’s fine too. No one should feel ashamed for their personal decisions.
@fturla___156
@fturla___156 6 лет назад
I don't think most men would be willing to abstain from sex for 3 months then propose to a woman that they 'believe' that they love then have to wait almost a year or more later for a wedding then have sex afterwards because that could be a year and a half or more. How do you actually think the physical and mental state of the man would be? Would he actually be in the proper state of mind before, during and afterwards? Would the man actually regret the commitment after the wedding after having sex? You should already know that there will be quite a few men regretting the situation and it's naive to think inexperience in the sex act will improve the atmosphere post wedding day. I agree informing the other party that you will abstain from sex before marriage is more likely to backfire in that it will reduce the number of men and women accepting of that attitude therefore your selection of potential mates does drop.
@pamelagonzalez7684
@pamelagonzalez7684 8 месяцев назад
Thank you so much. I needed to hear this❤
@RBLong0928
@RBLong0928 6 лет назад
This is your best segment. Sex is God's plan for husband and wife.
@jamessharp9790
@jamessharp9790 4 года назад
Barbie it IS and the church should respect that Instead of Being closet feminists
@lovingmariahgordon4432
@lovingmariahgordon4432 6 лет назад
I love me some Steve/ Shemar Moore great advice
@truthspeaks6338
@truthspeaks6338 6 лет назад
She is beautiful. She will find the right guy.
@blueraven3794
@blueraven3794 5 лет назад
With how many men have gone their own way, I wish her luck.
@AskDQTV
@AskDQTV 5 лет назад
truth speaks thank you so much!
@marisortiz273
@marisortiz273 3 года назад
This was such a great message for young people today 👏🏼
@koolsmoothfan
@koolsmoothfan 2 года назад
we need more of this nowadays
@alexandra9985
@alexandra9985 3 года назад
When you tell men No Sex..it is over
@bunnym5617
@bunnym5617 Год назад
The right man won’t mind
@pauljordan4452
@pauljordan4452 Год назад
​@@bunnym5617You think couples married for forty years still have sex? If yes, it's private. I stopped being interested in it in grade 12 - 2001.
@mintruth
@mintruth 8 лет назад
I completely disagree with Steve on this one. The abstinence conversation should be had up front. When you wait til a man is emotionally involved before you tell him you put put yourself in position for you too to be emotionally involved. At that point you make it much more harder on yourself to resist his sexual advances. Which surely there will be since he does not know that you are abstaining from sex. 2nd, you also run the risk of a man feeling betrayed and possibly losing a good man. He may certainly feel like you purposely hid this information from him. The conversation should be had in the beginning. Not necessarily on the first date but definitely not on the 5th, 6th or 7th date either. The key is how you approach the conversation...#GIVEmeJESUS #HISremnant
@Alexisariiel
@Alexisariiel 7 лет назад
Took the words out my mouth, it's like tricking the guy into it when he should want to do it, if not you guys shouldn't be together point blank period..
@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect
@Ms_T_Perfectly_Imperfect 6 лет назад
I couldn't agree more.
@janderson947
@janderson947 6 лет назад
if the subject comes up then yes if not then no,because some guys will see that as a CHALLENGE TO BREAK YOU and to prove that you aren't so i agree with steve if you guys are getting to close or around the third date then go for it and tell him if he gets pissed off he was never the right guy anyway it's not tricking a guy if he can try and trick you into giving it up his intentions were never pure from the start...
@gigarex2016
@gigarex2016 6 лет назад
I agree with your comment. Most people don't speak on their intentions early on and it can have bad consequences later on. However there are times where men will deceptively continue to date a woman without having sex with HER until she is ready, all while getting some getting his fun from someone else in the meantime.
@juliuscaesar7660
@juliuscaesar7660 6 лет назад
GigaRex 201 If she’s not having sex with him why should she care if he gets that handled somewhere else? It’s not disrespectful to her. Why would someone want to control another person like that? Seems evil and selfish to me.
@sirmichaelbest
@sirmichaelbest 6 лет назад
wrong. a man that comes for the right reason will be patient and will to try and wait. it's never fair to a man when you tell them the unexpected after they are attracted i.e having a kid or being celibate
@t-lo3707
@t-lo3707 2 года назад
As a late teenager who is Catholic I chose to stay abstinent and when I was dating a girl when I was 16 she was toxic and didn’t respect my beliefs. Now I’m working out and trying to get a Supra or any jdm/German car with help
@sher-sasha9817
@sher-sasha9817 8 лет назад
listen. you gotta know people's principles before you get with them, make it official and put a title on y'all relationship. dating is dating is dating. it's when you share what's important to you and they share theirs. if it works, it works, if it doesn't then on to the next. people really need to stop dating every and anybody and then pull out their checklists. it don't work that way. know what you want and if you see a glimpse of what you're looking for in that person then give them a shot. y'all get into relationships with people for trivial reasons and then hope that they have the same out look on life for certain matters. like I just don't understand humans.smh
@hwd71
@hwd71 5 лет назад
Not being sexually active means I haven't Fathered any unborn babies that their mother is going to abort. Alpha men are anything but, when they cant be manly enough to marry a woman support her and a child, snd leave her with the burden of an unplanned pregnancy. Then having to bear the guilt and shame of going through terminating your unborn childs life. Where are these so called "Alpha", males then? Whoremongers is a better biblical word.
@jabba0975
@jabba0975 2 года назад
I was going to watch this video, but I'll have to wait 90 days first. See ya!
@didivictory1124
@didivictory1124 5 лет назад
JESUS told me to wait .So I'm listening to him . My savior
@jamessharp9790
@jamessharp9790 4 года назад
Didi victory I agree. Jesus told me to buy more vintage Mx motorcycles so I did
@didivictory1124
@didivictory1124 4 года назад
@@jamessharp9790 haha you're the best 😅🤣
@chanelwilliams8509
@chanelwilliams8509 3 года назад
I saw Shemar Moore and forgot everything else. lol
@ninaleyda2213
@ninaleyda2213 6 лет назад
Im just curious to know if the ladies in the comments are still virgins? Or have decided this after failed relationships? Im asking to those who are celibate! Just asking for insight 😊
@samuelj.dorsey4328
@samuelj.dorsey4328 5 лет назад
Are you still a virgin??
@WinningWithWini
@WinningWithWini 5 лет назад
I've decided to be celibate as a way to reconnect with God and be obedient to His word. Not a virgin.
@daylight2672
@daylight2672 5 лет назад
Wow amazing advice.
@LoriWolfcat
@LoriWolfcat Год назад
I’m a happy virgin til marriage. I know every day, you could die by chance, but I’d rather die a virgin than live losing it to some random guy who never respected my boundaries.
@RealMTBAddict
@RealMTBAddict Год назад
Been celibate for the last 6 years. I'm open to meet somebody but I'm not looking for sex anymore.
@jennifern.5305
@jennifern.5305 2 года назад
How do you skirt around early disclosure without looking like a tease? Some men might feel turned off when you tell them/be offended that you wasted their time?
@m.e.9418
@m.e.9418 2 года назад
It would be difficult to stand next to Shemar and talk about this. You KNOW what was going through every woman's mind in the audience! 😘
@esam8368
@esam8368 5 лет назад
basically steve is telling her to trap a man with emotions so that he cannot leave her. Not good
@melly_7258
@melly_7258 3 года назад
Everything is about game fam that’s life!
@marythecommutegirl284
@marythecommutegirl284 2 года назад
Total respect for this point of view
@ladennayoung2939
@ladennayoung2939 3 года назад
Good video and discussion. Thanks for sharing.
@HanaB81
@HanaB81 7 лет назад
From a man's point of view lmao....OK Steve. It's more than just the sexual part of a relationship. it's a spiritual journey that one partakes in in finding him or herself. I'm staying abstinent it's my choice. and the man that finds me attractive and wants to have a relationship with me has to understand that. if not, oh well. Besides there's a difference between wanting sex, and needing sex.
@charnaeyoung9815
@charnaeyoung9815 6 лет назад
Hana Bryant K don't even like steve like that but I think the point is to let your spirit define you, not your celibacy. It's like telling them that you're a virgin when they first meet you. They are going to be focused on that instead of just who you are as a person. Not every girl is worth the wait, either.
@WinningWithWini
@WinningWithWini 5 лет назад
@@charnaeyoung9815 You missed the whole spiritual part which most often involves obedience to God's words AND YES every woman is worth the wait 🤦🏾‍♀️
@jamessharp9790
@jamessharp9790 4 года назад
Wini so a woman who has been run through more than the Holland tunnel is worth the wait ?
@laurenlocd3180
@laurenlocd3180 5 лет назад
Omg Steve is right reel them in then BAM!!! You got it lol
@AK-dh2mu
@AK-dh2mu 4 года назад
They RUN when you tell them this
@jschnepp12
@jschnepp12 5 лет назад
Im all for someone making the decision to wait for sex until marriage. but at the same time that doesnt make those of us who don't feel this same way wrong. That doesn't make us any worse it just means we have made different life decisions
@naledims9082
@naledims9082 2 года назад
If somewhere in your mind you feel the need to precise that you’re not wrong for having sex before mariage , you’re for sure doubting yourself… the world is the world … people will still do whatever they want . And I , as a Christian I know that , and I also know Better , that God is capable of everything , even change someone way of thinking , of living . And I will always encourage another , talk about the way HE taught me about all these things . Sex is for marriage. God bless you ❤️
@jschnepp12
@jschnepp12 2 года назад
@@naledims9082 its a bit ridiculous that I even had to say that in the first place. But 2 years later i stand by what I said lol
@kimberlywood7783
@kimberlywood7783 2 года назад
Man.... I wanted to see this a month ago.
@crackingwithSwizzle
@crackingwithSwizzle 6 лет назад
I don't agree with Steve. I get it out on the first date. Like Shamar Moore said, there's other ways to be sexy and intimate without actually having sex. In my experience, men like the fact that I'm saving myself. I'm also sexy and a great person so the man stays.
@gorgeouslady5612
@gorgeouslady5612 6 лет назад
More Women were Celibate 40 years ago. Some things are not New in 2017. If people Would read they would see how easy And simple dating was in years past.
@isabellableu97
@isabellableu97 Месяц назад
Never Married.. Single &, Celibate 5+ years but, YESSS I WILL BE READY‼️💃🏼😁..NO DROUGHT ONCE MARRIED ..I'LL, GET IT IN HIS SLEEP WHEN I NEED IT🤷🏼‍♀️
@huthayfaainqawi4348
@huthayfaainqawi4348 4 года назад
I thought I am the only virgin guy, but after reading the comments lol
@HeadFunny
@HeadFunny 4 года назад
trust me, there's more than one way to look at it ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-sQv7194eYQw.html
@MR.NOBODY11111
@MR.NOBODY11111 2 года назад
There's that dude again trying to make his move!
@alexisrose3836
@alexisrose3836 4 года назад
I will take my time with him all day long🤣😂 Mr. Moore we can wait for as long as you like😏 I have always have the biggest crush on him this is very valuable useful information
@kaylalowery2237
@kaylalowery2237 11 месяцев назад
It is true there are straight men out here in this world that want to wait until marriage to have sex. In my world in my little cycle I see none but they are out there
@shalimar29
@shalimar29 Год назад
How far is ok to go physically before the relationship?
@alwaysaboutniasha
@alwaysaboutniasha Год назад
Virgins are best off dating other virgins / people of celibacy. There needs to be a support group or a club.
@savithrivenugopal
@savithrivenugopal 2 года назад
Wow her hair❤❤❤❤
@trcemalemretr
@trcemalemretr 8 месяцев назад
It ruins not only "dating life" but also "marriage life" , in short life . Lust is a harmful thing nowadays gg
@blurhapsody1739
@blurhapsody1739 Год назад
If I was a man I would wait a thousand years for her. She’s stunning.
@georgeanastasopoulos5865
@georgeanastasopoulos5865 4 года назад
Wonderful, however, for some men, and women it does not work that way. Some people have not been dating, and celibate for a very long time. Anyway, it was a decent discussion.
@w.c.c.b.9798
@w.c.c.b.9798 3 года назад
EXAAAAAAAAACTLY!!!
@valerielinares2068
@valerielinares2068 6 лет назад
The title is misleading.
@itsasetup8652
@itsasetup8652 5 лет назад
Been celibate for over yr and half. I don’t even care about dating anymore.
@coldpulse8477
@coldpulse8477 Год назад
TEMPTATION !!!
@richardwilson6976
@richardwilson6976 3 года назад
What happens if you never marry .You will never have sex.
@bettycarmella1127
@bettycarmella1127 2 года назад
Love this❤❤❤
@zacqueeentertainment7336
@zacqueeentertainment7336 3 года назад
Celibacy becomes harder as you get older.
@pauljordan4452
@pauljordan4452 Год назад
I have been celibate for 24 years in November. No interest in intercourse unless to have children because it can be another addiction and it is private in the long marriages I observed. The husband and the wife never talk about it like randy young people would.
@kuur3137
@kuur3137 8 лет назад
yup
@packleader1215
@packleader1215 Год назад
John legend said take it slow
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