Why All Our Insecurities Come From This One Thing | Marisa Peer 

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♡ people have kids so nonchalantly.. you are in charge of how someone turns out as an adult. That's massive. Treat your kids with respect... show them love.. show them that they matter.. that they are good enough

Yup. Our issues from childhood will always come out in adulthood.

I AM ENOUGH. YOU ARE ENOUGH. WE ARE ALL ENOUGH. I love ALL of you! 1♡

I can’t stop my tears when I said “I am enough” to myself

This left me drown in tears... I've fought with depression for many years due to the fact that my father abandoned me and that many times I was rejected in school by my classmates. All my girlfriends dumped me because I had depressive thoughts about myself and I acted like a teenager instead of a full grown man. The last break up has been the worst one of all, because she told me that I was noe enough for her and she has no future staying with me. This made me feel like shit, like I had no worth at all and that it all was my fault. And I've been beating myself up all this past days due to the guilt feeling and that I can't stop loving her. But it's time to accept it, to know that I deserve to be loved, that I deserve to love the wonderful man I am because I am worthy, and that I can be with any woman I want, because I AM ENOUGH for me, and for anyone else.

Our childhood experiences definitely shapes our adult life. I AM Enough should be a daily mantra, morning-noon-evening. KNOW YOUR WORTH AND KNOW THAT YOU ARE ENOUGH.

10 years of therapy and this lady couldve cured me within a day and save me all the drama and rubbish therapists! I will put a post it on all my mirrors and doors and bedside table and also a reminder on my phone. I AM ENOUGH!

She gets through to people because she believes what she says. She is enough for herself and every nuance she makes speaks this truth - her voice, expressions, body language, appearance, and aura. What a joy to learn from her. We are all gifted in many ways. Yes, we are all enough. Thank You Marisa for being enough for you and giving others a chance to see and hear that it is possible to be enough for ourselves as well.

I am enough, you are enough, the people I love, work with and especially those I struggle with, are all enough!

I was never enough for my parents. Until I figured I was enough for me. They pushed me to a corporate career and I recovered only after I quit, now I paint, roam in nature and rescue animals. This saved my life... I celebrate every small success I have, every lousy painting and dew on leaves... 🍁 my small, precious life 💕

It's only been one day since I started repeating to myself "I am enough " and I am already feeling an unfamiliar surge of happiness and ease.. Thank you so much...looking forward to continuing back and updating the positive transformation I experience as a result of affirming I am enough.

Amazing marissa. I'm a psychiatrist and while watching this video I thought the same from the beginning. You nailed it. You are brilliant. Thank you.

This video is about two years old as I write this. I read some of the comments by viewers and so many of you have missed the point. Marisa isn't saying to tell kids or anybody that they are perfect. Kids and adults in our lives want to know one thing. We love them unconditionally. That's what she means when she says "you're enough". You have to let kids know that they are not perfect and that everything they do is not right. They have to know that they have to take responsibility for their actions but you will always love them no matter what. Then they have respect for you. They are loved no matter what. They are enough. Even though they make mistakes. They are still loved. That's all we all want. I am enough and I am love. And I can love myself. Because I am enough!!! Peace be with you!!!

Thank you for sharing this. The real power of working with people like this, is not really the affirmations or any "fake it,´till you make it"-approach. It is in the meeting with another human being, that looks at you and can honestly say "there is nothing wrong with you, you are 100% OK and enough". People can feel the truth of that within them, it is not just a new more useful belief. It simply resonates at a very deep level as being true. We can suffer all kinds of horrible thoughts/feelings, but that is not what we are. The negative thoughts , feelings and beliefs are just like dark clouds in the mind, but when we see (feel) that we are not those, but instead the clear blue sky behind, it is obvious that we are enough and not broken. And it is not a personal thing, it is simply a human thing - that is what is so powerful about working with people in this way (just my experience :).

Needed this today. Thank you. 💛

Marisa, I have been watching your videos for three days and have never felt better in my life. Thank you so much. I feel like my world is changing. 🌈

I randomly clicked on this and it was just what I needed. I'm going to give it a go.

I was raised to know I'm enough. But what's key is the deeper understanding that everyone is enough. Thinking I'm enough doesn't make sense to me without "everyone is enough." I treat people knowing they are enough because I know to my core that I am - that we all are.

Thank you for this... I broke into tears while watching this video. Finally realized why my life is fundamentally the way it is... Thank you MindValley

This should be taught in high school, thank you so much, cheers

Absolutely true, I love Marisa because she helped me to get out of a very dark stage of my life

This is so beautiful. I had the same experience with my life. When I was young my father doesn't love me like he loves my sister and as I grew older I started attracting older man. I feel terrible but I realize this that I was not enough. Now I am enough. Thank you Marisa for this life changing words.

I’ve been studying and practising self help since my 20s and sadly affirmations haven’t reversed my thinking permanently . They provide a temporary boost but my experience is while we are attached to our egos we will always have to deal with challenging thoughts that pop up. It’s just the way it is no matter what quick fixes are put out there imo

I'd come across the idea of telling myself-- there is enough. In the sense of sleeping-- I've had enough rest/sleep. There is enough time. There is enough to go around. And I had seen a few "I am enough" scripts on nice backgrounds but I didn't realize it came from here. Thank you for extending the idea of "enough" to the self. I appreciate it.

You've just helped me. A sobbing cry just rose from deep within, it's been there my whole life, and I've covered it with over optimism and "pull your socks up", while always seeking for that item of pure luxury (well, luxury to me) that will make me complete, be like others', be normal. I buy, i have one aim for that "thing" i need to buy next, i hoard, i fear being without, but the emptiness never goes away. I perform, i dread, i hate performing, but i was the source of so many people's anger for being born. They've blamed me, and i tried to make then happy, but it was impossible. Nothing i did was ever enough. I was never enough! Never enough!! I tried so hard. I gave up my happiness because it was my fault. I deserved their anger. I ruined everything. I'm alone now. I stay away even more than before, when i knew i wasn't wanted at family occasions, so worked harder to have an excuse, and worked even harder to keep me from going home to the constant abuses of many kinds. Working hard was my worth. And taking their anger and blame. They never stop wanting me to pay. They lured me there for one thing, to abuse me together every way they could. Small ways, big ways, any way. It's ruled my life, so i stay away now. They are entitled to abuse me. They even said it. They believe it. They try to get me back sometimes, so they can continue their anger. I know, because i went back for a short moment many times, but they soon started after luring me back to the place they need me to be. I like alone. It's easier. People don't understand. No one knows how much i need it. I see the hoarding and get rid of it to charities every so often, only to start again after telling myself not to ever do it again. New things never used, enjoyed or touched. A waste of money, and i know they are not what i would choose to buy. I've tried to find help sometimes, but I'm always told others' have far worse. I already know that, though. Or say i am not normal and have to take meds for mental illness, while telling me i am highly intellegent and have a profound understanding of the situation and how family are. Yet, they, the "experts" don't understand, and clearly medicate for an easy cop-out and their ego or limitations. I hated taking up their time. The feeling of loss never leaves me. I like soft lullabies and the simplicity of baby songs and programmes playing in the background. But i know now. You said the words. How do i stop a lifetime of being what i never truly was? Six decades. Just to know is maybe all i need. Thank you for saying I, and everyone, is enough, Marisa. It feels wierd. I've just subscribed.

Saying "I am enough" sounds good thing, but if someone does not understand the meaning, will it work? What is it like being enough? what does it mean? Does it mean different things for each person?

Before I discovered Marissa , and the i am enough movement... my relationships were based on the false premise that my significant other was doing me a favor, by being with me. In other words I believed I wasn’t enough. Now I know I am enough I’ve always been enough I will always be enough ❤️

I think it's sad that quite often they way you've been unfairly treated as a child is then the way you go on treat your children. We all need to feel happy with who we are, and value ourselves as this forms the basis of every relationship you will have in your life, work, family, partners. We all have strengths and we all have weaknesses, and comparing yourself to someone else, you actually might have something in you that they don't have. Everyone deserves to be loved, and parents sometimes make mistakes. But loving and valuing yourself are the keys to contentment and happiness 😄

Thank you!!! I did it! Putting sticky notes on my walls... I believe it now!!! I am enough 😊 Still a long road to go... I am not there yet still improving. But thanks to you I am on the right track!

I'm surprised that these depressed hurt people were so willing to say, "I'm enough". When I'm hurting there is no willingness to say this. I'm surprised that she got no resistance at all. This was too easy!!!! I'm not saying that it doesn't work. It just seemed too easy.

I think what Marrisa does is change our internal voice which normally is programed by our parents or caregivers, she has such a validating energy, which all parents n care givers should give to there kids who will eventually turn into adults.... Great work M

This is such an important thing to learn. Would be great for this to be taught in schools.

Hej that is very lovely of you helping people solve their basic problems. I wish there would be more people like you on earth. I love that.

It's very important to follow her advice after watching her videos for example writing I'M ENOUGH on your bathroom mirror, your phone ect. ❤💚💛💖 BECAUSE YOU'RE ENOUGH

Wow what a powerful statement. This video already moved me but.. I could barely hold in my tears when I said it to myself.

After yesterday's job interview, I felt like I failed, and had been bummed out ever since... until I heard this! I now feel free and happy bc I know that my well-being is not dependent upon that job or any job. My happiness comes from within. I just needed to be reminded of that. And I am so thankful I ended up here!

Marisa Peer you are an angel from heaven ...I love you for your goodness and sharing your knowledge...I wish I had 10k to take your class here in LA this year...I am saying the 3 words ...and feel my life time of a raw wounded soul is finding at strength to rise up...

I think I’m enough. Can’t convince my parents though.

Am in tears ,you know You're right,think it all the time, I even got into self help, reading , finding mentors online, because I felt I was not good enough, because I got low grades in school,lost in competitions,I was fat from my age of 4.

One of the best messages I have ever heard. Thank you

9 minutes and I've HAD enough. She's very good at self-talk isn't she?

Thanku. Will try it. I really have no shoulder to cry on.

I'm enough and very deserving to receive what I need and some things I want, as there is a difference. I'm extremely abundant with or without anyone or thing in this universe.

Just thinking about I am enough already make me happy……I can feel I am smiling

amazes me how many got it made and yet they're miserable

i’ve been following marissa peers talks for days now and i just cant get enough of her ;)

Yes, I agree with you Marisa Peer, we are enough. Everything we could ever need is actually inside of us, we only need to love and unravel 'us'.

oh wow! When she says that the psychiatrist told her it was so depressing because he had worked with the girl for 4 years and got nowhere and then Marisa worked with her for a short time and the girl recovered it so resonated with me. I've worked in the mental health field for years and I've always questioned a process that keeps patients trapped in a loop. After many years it seemed to me that the whole system was a just a cash cow for the mental health field and the pharmaceutical companies.

Wow. So glad I got linked this, this has been my problem with therapists ever since the first one (an intern so she was temp either way.) It feels so good to have these things into words.

Such a beautiful story! When he gets happy :’)😢❤️ God bless you lady. Such an inspiration!!!

Thank you for this. I Am Enough!!

I love the last bit. I'm getting so annoyed when asked "how does that make you feel?" Obviously, I am feeling sad, frustrated, upset etc. I don't feel like I need to define it, it doesn't help me in any way. I need someone to get to the root of my problem and offer me solutions. Thanks for calling that out. I'm going to do this. I'm going to tell myself I am enough :)

Thank you so much Mindvalley, that was exceptionally AWESOME. 😍😀❤️😊. Love Marisa Peer, such a wonderful woman. Thank you once again for an amazing RU-vid channel. ❤️❤️❤️.

LOVE, LOVE, LOVE Marisa Peer!!!!! I AM ENOUGH!!!

You are just the best Marisa ! With all my love an gratitude 🙏❤

If we persist in dragging a miserable past with us there is no reason why we should feel happy. Start today and tell yourself you had a wonderful childhood with two wonderful parents. God's gift is the imagination.........use it. Our inner self is pure happiness and joy so meditate and connect with the inner self. We have to go to it, it cannot come to us as we are not consistent and it's always waiting..Happiness is living right inside us we have just pinched off the connection.

She’s reading my mind.. I’m crying so hard.

Was listening intently on headset and then that bleep went on. Stop using it please.

My grandmother told me when I was 10 that I'm the reason why my mother was in a institution. I now realize it was my grandmother's words that helpped put my mother in the institution not my 10 year old self. Ps I'm the youngest of 5. So it must have been the youngest who drove her around the bend. . Lol. Thank you

Thank you Marisa. Im really feeling good & enough now 😭😭. i dont know how to describe my feeling

One of the better videos I’ve ever watched

this needs elaborating a bit. acknowledging deficiencies can drive us to better ourselves and negative emotions can be powerful catalysts, Anyone read more on the "I am enough" theory?

I never idolized my parents. Dad was in and out if jail and my mom did her best to raise 5 kids but she played favorites and was always angry so all we ever did was argue. What does that mean psychology for me? An identity crisis :(

I am a peer support specialist family/youth partner in San Diego ca. I have my own dealings, lived experiences to which I remind myself throughout each day that I AM ENOUGH! I am transparent with my clients and implemented the "I am ENOUGH" technique and it is 100% effective. I help others "feel" their whole self. I work with them to "change their blueprint" because they ARE ENOUGH. I am also making a movement of education and anti-stigma by the implementation of NOT asking those who don't feel enough "what's WRONG WITH you?", instead ask "what happened TO you?" It makes a difference. I wish I had someone ask me that when my emotional turmoil began after the death of my mom and long-time sexual abuse by my step-father at age 7. (now 51) Hmmph! Thank you Marisa PEER (love your last name) for your genuine compassion in the human spirit. I'd love to meet you one day! ...and so it is!

Thanks, I have been telling myself this for years! I was starting to think that I was deluding myself.

Not antagonizing. Just asking. Wouldn't this impair the urge to improve and progress? I find satisfaction in the improvement of the quality of my work. And the improvements were possible because I myself have improved. And so I often find myself grinning every time I say "not good enough". Because it means I'm up for another round of satisfaction. I actually find the words "good enough" unsettling. Even belittling. "How's my cooking" I asked. And she replies "it's good enough". I'm not sure what I should do with that.

I did this for around 40 days after watching this video. I was very motivated and optimistic. The result? Unfortunately - not much. I felt a bit deceived after putting so much effort and energy after the promise in this video. And nothing changed. I guess human inner wounds are not that simple. Luckily afterwards I have found other ways to feel more worthy.

If you’re suffering attachment trauma check out Lisa Romano, she is very helpful for these issues!

❤❤❤ thanks Marisa. I am trying to find in me, what is enough. I have lost faith in myself, I am seriously confused on what to do next, how to be... I am a mother so it hard coz I want to be the best for my child, but how can I be when I feel so scared of just being myself coz I feel, being me isn't enough? I am happy I have come across your videos, I look for them every now and then, especially when it gets too difficult and I just listen and get reassured. I am working on myself, but it's still very hard. I will repeat the words, as often as possible "I am enough" I believe I'll get to that place of self discovery, self satisfaction some day. I pray it's soon. 🙂👍

I have just learned About you from my natural remedies the doctor I have been kind myself I am enogh for the past two days And I feel completely different than I did when I walked into his office. Five years ago I worked with the psychologist after four visits made me realize That I believed I was not good enough. After I had other thoughts words he pointed out that is what your problem is and told me that we can get somewhere. But after seeing this video I will work my darndest to keep up this good work and share with all I know

But sometimes feeling not enough drives you seek more, to learn more, to read more .. at least that's the case with me :)

This is great - I have always struggled having been sent to boarding school at the age of 8. Those three words are on my calendar for every day - thanks!

I was born with 3 fingers on my right hand and 4 on my left. My dad was killed in a car accident when I was 3yrs old. I have never had self confidence. I have always been "different" As an adult I keep waiting for something to click. Like I will wake up and be and act like a normal person. But as a 50 yr old man my lack of confidence seems to have gotten worse. I can't speak my truth even though I know I must in order to grow.

In what part of America does a nurse and a construction worker live in a trailer-park and are broke.

That is in fact a great sentence. I try to keep that up now. What really depresses me, is that I really have a great family, and I feel by being like this I do them wrong. My mother is the most understandable and kind woman you can imagine, and she is always telling me that I am good the way I am. My sister told me today,"don't forgett we all love you". I have a loving fiancé whom I will marry next year, wonderull friends, great colleagues... I have such a luck compared to others who have horrible families. But I keep being depressed and wish that the pain would just stop. I don't think I am enough because I keep telling myself I am not enough, not conditionally but unconditionally. I can't help it. Sometimes I have good days where I really feel good about myself. But then I think about my failed internship, my failed studies, and my inability to get myself on track, get a good job and finally be happy with what I got. It feels like I am betraying the people who I care for the most

Anyone else think the actor in question was Gary Oldman?

I am enough..things who broke me up are kind of my armor now...I wouldnt be watching this video I didn feel that I am not good enough...thankyou

yes great talk...but the stunning outfit..very nice

You are a good healer just support my heart is wounded I want to heal myself thanks

I love this Sentence. I am enough! I love It! I believe it!

Many people have been targets of narcissist abuse and that will certainly erode one's self-worth. Emotional abuse definitely causes anxiety and depression. Learn to spot abusers and grey rock them. Cut negative people out. Practice self-care and have firm boundaries. Boundaries keep toxic people out. Avoid being a people-pleaser because this sets you up for others to take advantage.

I got an ad for this and it made me cry omfg

Does she see people who don't have enough money?

She is just magical!

Inadequecy is an important driver. As she mentioned, it makes us always want to be better. if we convince ourselves that "we are enough", then we are removing that motivation and drive. I, personally, am NOT enough. I never will be and I hope I never am. I choose to strive to be better every day, not just settle. Contentment can be a dangerous thing.

I do think I am not enough. And to be honest, it is very silly and naive to believe that saying I am enough changes a sit.

Brought up by single bookworm hardworking Mom and "Palmer" off to Grandmum and various aunts who made me feel unwanted and cousins resented my invasion of their space. Boarding school also not helped as I was "foreign" and from much poorer background. Mother (93) told me on deathbed she was never happy with me reminded her of pain, abuse and suffering during her relationship with supposedly dead father who I recently found out was imprisoned for violent crimes. Getting past this lifetime (69) of self doubt etcetera has given me so many complexes. Therapy counselling have always confused me as I could not truthfully say who I am!

What if you repeat "I am enough" but your subconscious mind doesn't believe it?

One of the biggest tricks in pop psychology or when the average person misunderstands a new psychological philosophy, is the difference between blind positivity and observation. It's the difference between a suffering, miserable person saying "I am beautiful" to themselves, and "It's okay to be ugly". Shame is abusive and toxic, it creates more of the conflict that causes the problems- this is to say, shame is the cause, not the solution. And that being said, it's okay to feel shame, it just has certain affects, and leads to different outcomes than some people (authoritarians) believe.

I AM ENOUGH!

Im not buying this. Psychiatrists with sectioned patients coming to this woman when "they don't know what to do". Saying "You are enough" just isn't enough.

Her voice is so sweet and smooth

I really preferred the video without background music and accompanying images. Watching her is way more powerful, I wish you'd bring it back up, unedited.

I am able to do all things through the one who strengthens me. Philippians 4:13. Who is Him? Jesus!

I literally just cried watching this....!

I think the belief that im not good enough was the cause of my social anxeity and ocd. I thought that I'm not pretty enough, funny, rich, cool, interesting. My ocd was me repeating this mantra in my head" I'm cool, i wanna be cool" and believing that it will transform me and make me cool. I truly belived it. I dont remember when particularly it happened. Because i used to be an extroverted kid. Surprisingly because my dad was very insecure, shy and always worrying about what others think about him. He had a drinking problem(probably because he was unhappy living like that, also he used alcohol to give himself permission to let go and say what he wanted to say) but he would talk a lot of shit about my mom and garbage in general. I used to protect mom and he would beat me. Mom used to tell me to ignore him but I wouldn't because when he was sobber i was a spoiled child. I heard that trauma can cause magical thinking in other ways ocd. Also an extrovert surpresing oneself like i did( i pretended to be someone else because i hated my self so much) it can lead to ocd too.

WOW! thank you Marisa & Mindvalley for sharing a very powerful lesson..

Last night, I was driving home and thinking about my 3rd failed marriage, the only one that caused heart break. It's been almost a year since separation and I am still devastated. During the relationship, I felt I wasn't enough, now that it's over I don't know if I have ever been or will ever be enough for her or anyone, certainly not myself. I don't ever want to date again because I don't want to have a relationship where I am not enough. Saying this doesn't seem to help since I don't believe it and I think of quantifiable reasons I am not enough.

Simple, yet not nuanced enough. Insecurity is really hidden sensitivity. I'm enough is cool, but mind you, the world also needs more sensitive people, who care of what impact they may have on others. Purely 'I'm enough' is pure ego cult, making money on people who feel, yes you guessed it, not enough. Feel firstly if your heart says you need this 'trick'.