Why Are Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union Even Married? 

Divorce is 50/50. Marriage is 100/100.

My marriage is very old school. I work, my wife is a stay at home mom. My wife took my last name. We combined all of our finances from bank accounts to retirement. We file taxes jointly. We are each others beneficiaries on everything. All of our real estate is owned jointly. We don’t have a prenup. I’ve had other guys tell me I’m not smart for doing things this way, but I just don’t care about their opinions. I have full trust in my wife and she fully trusts me.

Aside from everything, I believe Gabrielle chose the surrogacy route because of devastating heartbreaking multiple miscarriages. Women who easily take in and carry their babies to full term do not know how incredibly blessed they are.

This isn’t a marriage. It’s a business transaction.

This October my husband and I will celebrate our 50th anniversary. He is my rock. In January 2022 I was put on a ventilator for 2 1/2 weeks, spent a month in the hospital, and 3 weeks in rehab. It was the love of my husband and children that helped me pull through. I have been blessed.

A boyfriend told me he wanted a 50/50 partnership so I dumped him. Today I’m a stay at home wife and mother. I give 100 and so does my husband. Marriage is taking care of each other, not taking care of yourself.

Gabrielle did not choose surrogacy because she wanted to. She did try to carry her own child. However, she has had multiple miscarriages, losing over nine babies. When you are using examples, use legitimate ones, or the one wrong example will discredit your argument.

He made a statement that triggered his wife's past trauma/fear. Her response tells it all "You will never day that to me again". The trigger is deep rooted that even though her decision to go 50/50 is uncomfortable for her, she doesn't feel safe enough to wholly relax. Marriage is a bed of roses. Every marriage has its thorns.

The fact that he told her that “this is MY house” shows his failure to fulfill the role of a husband who is supposed to offer true masculine leadership (protection, provision, ensuring two become one). I am not surprised that she responded with independence, which makes her feel safer in the relationship. This is not a good example of what marriage is designed to be.

I find it terribly ironic her last name is UNION. Big yikes!!! This marriage is the anti marriage. It’s that simple.

I’m a stay at home mom. My husband has NEVER referred to our house as his house. What a gross statement to devalue your wife. He seems like a terrible husband who’s wife doesn’t feel safe trusting him, thus insisting on the 50/50 arrangement so she can never be devalued by him again. Sad.

I disagree with picking on/gossiping about other people's marriages. If I don't agree with how they're living, it's literally none of my business. This sadly contributes to society's lack of maturity for learning how to simply live and let live.

The oddest and sad thing about this marriage is what they are doing to that innocent child.

The minute he told her this was "My house"....the rules changed. Their relationship/monetary dynamic went from 100/100 to 50/50. When a marriage is built on a faulty, distrustful premise, expect financial negotiations to be met in the same manner. The irony... Most Married couples who are from the lower to middle income class bracket tend to see their marriage as 100/100. When God is not in the center of your marriage, there will be no amount of money that will compensate for His absence. God is needed in EVERY marriage. Not million dollar weddings for 'already' distrusted couples. Marriages are sacred unions. We need to feel safe in these unions.

“This is my house “ is where you lost her. Lest we forget the things that she has been through in past relationships. He didn’t make her feel safe. It’s as if he forgot the kind of woman he is married to and I now understand where she was coming from. I shouldn’t have been quick to judge her. I actually hope she is well because she deserves contentment.

A day and age when a household worth 225 million is having financial conflict. Wow.

Marriage is taken too lightly now a days. It’s not a fad it’s not a gimmick or a fashion, it’s a way of life for a man and woman who love each other.

Long-term roommates, is an excellent description of the relationship displayed by Dwayne and Gabriel. Marriage is about unification not simply living together splitting the bills.

What I find ironic about the 50/50 ideology in marriage, especially in this case, is that the individual with the smaller income is going to have to give MORE (of their % income) in order to give 50/50. In the example of Wade and Union buying a house, given the assumption that her income is lower she must give a larger % of her money to meet those 50/50 costs (given his net worth is 10x higher). Its paradoxical that in their dedication to a so-called "50/50 marriage", Gabrielle is having to give so much more than Dwayne is to keep up the 50/50 costs.

My parents have been married for almost 30 years and in that time I have never known them to have shared accounts. They have always given each other full access. I never felt like it affected my upbringing or changed their dedication to giving me every advantage possible. As a person who got married at 22, I think that marriage is about sacrifice, teamwork, and acknowledging what matters to both of you. My husband didn’t care if we had the same last name, but he did care as much as I do that we both give 100 percent in ways that supersede traditional marriage roles. People need to stop trying to fit into and checking off boxes and start figuring out their needs and expectations in marriage.

Gabrielle is doing so much and saying so much to stand out. Most of it is BS

I've never understood how Gabrielle has so much say, and very public say, about a child that is not hers. Am I missing something? Does anyone know the whole story?

You did not take your husbands name professionally. You go by Candace Owens, not Candace Farmer. People tend to make these decisions based on what is best for their particular situation, not some black and white idea of what is right and what is wrong.

When my husband and I got married, we were now looking for a place to rent and he insinuated that I pay 50 percent Bills. I immediately had to explain to him that this is not how I envisioned our marriage. I made it clear that it was not the reason I got married. Am glad he understood it and we work together but not not 50-50 nonsense

Let's simply say that the core of their marriage is not the Lord, but the world!

Married for 20 years... 100% effort, a combination of assets, and I proudly took his name. My father's name is now my legal middle name. ❤

Whatever works for them. It’s their business. I can’t tell people how to feel or think about their relationships.

In a marriage no matter how much money you make or spend on your household, it is just as much yours at it is your spouse’s. A stay at home mom may not make any money but the cars, the house, everything belongs to her just as much as it does to her husband. That’s what it means to become one. Nothing is more mine than it is yours.

Gabrielle isn't happy.It's obvious she is under a lot of stress of pressure which she consciously put herself under due to her way of reasoning which stems from fear and insecurity.

You took your husband’s last name??? Didn’t know his last name was Owens.

Or…we can just let other people’s marriage be other people’s marriage.

Idk if Gabrielle understands how transparent she is when she shares her feelings. What I hear her saying is that she doesn’t feel secure enough to rest/slow down in her relationship.

Feminist rich people gonna do what feminist rich people gonna do 🤷🏽‍♀️

I think it’s important to remember what works in some marriages, doesn’t work for others. I have my own last name because my husband and I didn’t get married until 13 years into our relationship. We don’t have children. Not because we didn’t want to, but because we couldn’t get pregnant. We have our own separate banks accounts. We share the bills 50/50. It works for us. At the end of the day, we’re both happy. Isn’t that all that matters? We don’t need a made up checklist to tell us we have a happy marriage. Also, considering the fact that all my girlfriends of my age are divorced… I’m not sure the 100% way works any better. 🤷🏻‍♀️

i dunno how I feel about this. I understand Gabrielle feeling the pressure of providing for her family but I don't think Dwyane is responsible for Grabrielle's sister's bills.

As one person said before "if you don't know the purpose of something then you will misuse it' or deviate from its true intent.

My husband (boyfriend at the time) use to split everything 50/50 while living together. Money was always an argument between us. When we finally combined our finances in one account, the arguments regarding finances went away almost entirely. I was shocked.

That man scared her in to that 50/50. She's afraid he's gonna keep saying " My stuff"

He had no right to say this is my house when he was paying for it. This is a marriage. Even if the husband is paying for almost all of it it is still their house.. Exactly its like they are roommates.

Dwayne made Gabrielle feel insecure in the marriage that's why she started feeling 50/50. They were arguing and he told her that she lived in HIS HOUSE. That statement traumatized her because because of how she grew up and refused to be in a losing situation

Agree with most of this except the surname part, but that’s because I’m Hispanic. In Hispanic culture married women don’t usually add the husband’s surname to theirs . But if they do it would be something like Example: Maria Dolores Ruiz Lara marries Jose Francisco Garcia Perez. If she decides to take the husbands name it would be: Maria Dolores Ruiz Lara de Garcia or Maria Ruiz de Garcia if she wants to shorten it, but again it is uncommon. It’s completely okay not acquiring your husbands name and still understand the traditional roles of husband and wife.

Also I have to stick up for people that dont have kids because they don't want to bring kids into this system of things. People that are poor and have that state of mind shouldn't be shamed. Perhaps in the new system.

How ppl conduct their marriage is their business. Also, to point out her route to surrogacy is because she has fertility issues and miscarried often. Since you know her journey so much then you would’ve known that as well.

Marriage is what two people agree to in their union

He never should’ve said “my house” lmao that was goofy and that’s what caused it. Some men tend to use their provision against you which is why we’re seeing a lot of women want to contribute more.

If 50/50 I can never be submissive to you 😂😂😂😂

Love your channel, but honestly, not sure why we're even discussing this. Everyone's definition of a marriage is different, and they decide - it's their business. They're just saying that they are equals in their marriage, which I can appreciate.

When my husband and I got married, he worked and I didn't. Then I started working and I ended up making more than him. Eventually we were making about equal amounts (because his work had better opportunities to make more) and eventually I quit my job because I had my son and we agreed it's better to have mom at home. Now my son is 14 and I could be back at work, but I have health issues that doesn't make it easy to work with an employer's schedule. Everything has been shared - our house, our taxes, our bank accounts, our cars, our bills, everything. We both put money into a pot. I do have a separate account that I use for certain things only because it's easier to track for tax purposes later on, but he has access to the account. But nothing has intentionally been separate.

Well I'd be screwed in a marriage like that. I don't work currently since our kids are small but even when I did I wouldn't have had enough money to help my family on my own. When my dad passed unexpectedly in 2021 had my husband not been willing to help we wouldn't have been able to have a funeral or afford to bury him. We did raise some money & my siblings have payed us back over the last couple years as they could but still... Had my husband said "that's 100% your responsibility..." Not cool man.

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After getting married one of the first things I did was change everything with to my married name. I couldn't wait. Taking the last name of the husband is part of the representation that you are one and he is the head of the family. Women who hyphenate or keep her maiden name are projecting her independence in the marriage. No such thing. GU and DW are headed for divorce.

how does this affect any of us though. as long as they're not hurting themselves or anyone.... Let them enjoy their marriage however they want

Even the way Gabrielle said it sounds like a cry for help. Its so sad. How can a man be earning 10× more than his wife and can't even help sort his in-laws bills? I thought marriage makes your wife's family your family too? And you are okay with your wife being stressed when you can comfortably chest most of the bills she's stressing about. I don't know what they are doing but its definitely not marriage.

My husband and I have separate bank accounts and shared bank accounts for bills. He pays a good chunk of the bills since he makes way more money than me. As long as the bills are paid and retirement and savings are being funded, I don't care what he spends his money on and vice versa. I'm not his mom and I don't want to have to ask where every dollar went when he decides to spoil himself and wouldn't want him doing the same thing to me.

I do struggle with partnership when it comes to finances with my husband. We've only been married 5 years, so we're still in a baby marriage. Not that he doesn't want to share the burden, but because of our significant difference in salaries (I make more). He didn't really understand the importance until we decided to adopt a child together. I think that brought us together as partners.

A wealthy man I once worked for said this to me “as a woman you should ALWAYS have a back up plan when you get married, have a conjoined account with your husband but make sure to ALWAYS have your own. Candace is the bread winner in her marriage so it very easy for her to think this way as her husband makes wayyy less than her. I see woman marry Christian men and rely solely on their husband and are forced to put up with physical abuse, cheating, etc. I’m sorry but you should always have a plan b just in case this goes for both men and woman.

You find it to be weird but in many cultures it’s normal for women to keep their last name and weird for them to change their last name

Candace saying how a married people should and shouldn’t think, is irrelevant. It’s down to the married couple not her what is right in their own marriage. Why people think they have the monopoly on what a marriage is is beyond me.

And there it is. It was her CHOICE for her household finances to be handled in that manner. That settles it.

I disagree with the whole last name thing. In my country it’s completely bizarre and foreign to take a man’s last name and I couldn’t imagine changing my last name to my husbands. I respect a woman’s choice to do so but I completely understand why some (like myself) wouldn’t feel comfortable doing so.

It’s my opinion: agreed ~ I had no idea what a blessing I had….raised in a two parent home where my father taught the following: the order of a household is God, then the husband, then the wife and then the children…though the two become one…… My mother remained a homemaker until her death…I observed how my father provided her with financial, emotional and physical safety and she was able to fly high as her touch standing behind him encouraged him to go defeat the world…..My father lead….my mother assisted. My father never once looked towards my mother for financial support though she was educated and was able to work if she chose….but her household was her employment….many times my father had to manage her spending habits for ever belong to him credit cards bank accounts belong to her…..Together they balled~

married for 6.5 years together 12yrs. shared bank account before we were married. everything in one account, plus our saving account. no issues. just trust.

I don't see anything bad on 50/50 if ur partner want to contribute and if she has money to do so, especially if she is the one who wanted to be so

I talked about it with my sister a while back and I find it so detrimental and sad to calculate what you give to the person you chose to spend your life with

Sorry but why is it separate money? So bizarre. I share all with my hubby and my hubby shares his all. This is weird. I do understand the statement of him saying his house and her feeling that means she feels he may toss her out if they don't get on one day. Shows it is odd. This is messed up because they cannot depend on each other because they do not connect themselves for life for what marriage is. And they don't have family to support them through the good and bad times. How horrible to think that your marriage could end if they get sick or something bad happens. Life is not easy. You need to have a family. You should have a spouse.

Imagine buying a t-shirt for your child and sending a text to your husband "shirt is 20$ send me 10$ by the end of week" CRAZY!

I dont understand why this is a bad thing. My wife and i also split everything 50 50. We each save our own money and buy the things we want. Whats the problem?

I thought you kept your own name, being that you present to the public as Candace Owens on every social media platform as well as all the events you speak at.

Well the reason why they had a baby via surrogacy is because Gabrielle kept having miscarriages. She had fertility issues, so that wasn’t out of want. It was more like she ran out of options.

This is really bizzare, then why get married? Dwayne earns 3times more than Gabrielle why split everything 50-50?

Lol imagine telling your kid “sorry you can’t do extracurriculars cuz mommy don’t have her half”💀

I agree with everything except the comments about her surrogacy. Gabrielle has been very open about her fertility issues.

Ive been saying this for a couple of years now… here in my country there basically 3 types of marriages, the ones with total unification of the money and properties, etc, the one with unification from the date of the marriage on, and the one with total separation of it. Some of my friends, specially the lawyers ones have been defending the separation regime for several years now, and my take was always “if you marry thinking of how its gonna end, you shouldn’t marry at all.

Gabby is correct, if she doesn't want to hear "this is my house, I paid for it" then she feels that if she pays 50% of the house, he could never say that.

It's their marriage! Let them do their marriage how they want

I came into my marriage with $200 in my bank account. I would be so hurt to think that I couldn't trust my other half to take care of me.

I ain't spending 50/50 in any marriage. I'm supposed to be taken care of. Otherwise, what's the point of being married? 🤔

I remember a service from TD Jakes where he said very clear: “your not married because your too focused on it being transaction “. When I said I do I did that to everything including merging our lifes.

When money is first priority in a marriage, they end up in a divorce, that’s a sign of selfishness.

In my opinion they're just sharing their life on their own terms and I respect that.

Marriage and become parents are two different things. Nothing wrong with being married and committed but not wanting children.

I’m a young man 29 years old to be exact. We don’t want to blend our finances because when men gets into divorce the burden of the marriage falls on our shoulder and we end up losing more.

I wonder if he hadn't thrown in her face that it was "his house that he paid for" if she would've ever demanded 50/50. Shes literally splitting bills with him because she doesnt trust him to provide without usung it as leverage to belittle her. What kind of man provides, only to throw it in his wife's face? He makes 3 times what she does and is bragging about splitting bills like roommates.

Who cares about their money, the fact their son is running around as a chick..🤦🏽

I genuinely feel bad for Gabrielle union for accepting a husband that makes her so stressed(like burden on her back). In my mind it is the job of the husband to take away some if not all financial stress. She’s definitely not in her true feminine energy. I’ll be praying for her!

They're sharing their lives together, why not share the expenses...makes sense to me.

Criticising women for keeping their last name or getting it hyphenated while you were so excited to take on your husband’s name- MEANWHILE you are publicly known as Owens which is your maiden name. Also, Gabrielle Union has been open about her fertility struggles and several miscarriages hence, resorting to surrogacy. It wasn’t motivated by vanity, etc. Do I agree with everything the Wades do, absolutely not, especially regarding their son and pushing any trans ideology on kids. But some of your own points are questionable too.

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My husband and I don’t do 50/50 financially. I agree it’s roommate, but my twin sis and her husband does. I’ve been married for 12 years, she 5. It seems to be working for them. My husband and I just kind of fell into how we do things and like it’s said, if it ain’t broke don’t fix it.

You are absolutely right Candace, they should be called roomies but what they have is clearly not a marriage

I personally want to keep my last name and hyphenate it with my husbands. My dad is no longer with us to walk me down the aisle. Nothing wrong with this

Wade was my favorite athlete growing up. He seemed to be a really stand up man and great basketball player, I’m ashamed to see what my childhood hero has become. Makes me so sad

I'm with Candice about marriage.❤

Nothing wrong with keeping your birth name or adding a name!

My husband is American & kept asking me if I’ll take his name. I kept telling him, yes. I’ll take your name 😆🤗proudly. He really thought I’ll keep my father’s name. I have only kept it for now because of some on going processes but I’ll have it processed.

My ex husband insisted that we divide everything 50/50, it worked for 10 years. We kept separate bank accounts and split the bills but that fell apart when we had children. He didn't include diapers, daycare, formula, clothing and other necessaties in the division of bills. We divorced when our daughter was 4.. The arrangement works, as long as it's done fairly.

Gabriel has crazy masculine energy

I think it's a bit too harsh to say that every marriage should be certain way, otherwise it's a strange one. For example the name thing... I have always loved my last name, I think it's beautiful and I'm proud of it. When I got married I took my husband's name even though I don't like it (because of what it refers to literally). I went by his name for a decade and during that time I had quite bad health and mental struggles (not because of the name of course) and finally I didn't even know who I was. One thing that I did just for me was to take my name back. It was a bit sensitive subject to my husband and his family, but I made sure they knew that it didn't have anything to do with our marriage, but me. After everything I (and we) went through, it was a gift for myself. And even though it has nothing to do with the name, I think I have been a better wife now than during that decade when I had his name. And what comes to money... Here in Finland it's common to have a joint bank account where couples take the money for living, food etc. We have never had that and it is considered weird by some people, but we have other arrangements. My husband earns much more than me, so he pays for the "big stuff", like the house, electricity, insurances etc... I usually pay the food, children's clothes and all the things like that. And if needed, we help each other out. So even if we have our own bank accounts, we consider everything to be ours, not just "mine". And we don't need to make any 50-50 or 60-40 or 70-30 deals. The most important thing is that our home is OUR home, our children are OUR children - this is OUR family and there's no use to think anything by using percents. Everything is 100% ours. I think the most important things in marriage are love, trust, respect and dedication - realising that this is a partnership. The details are not that important if all those above works.

I saw in a recent video that Gab union feels like she possibly needs to compete with her husband, and it stems likely from her trauma/hurts in her career. I think Gabby has a control issue yet is deeply sensitive and doesn't know how to bridge the boundaries between just "resting" inner femininity as a wife and also leader of the house, as opposed to fully taking control and asserting herself because to her, "all her life she's had to fight" idk. Just some thought and perspective Candace! This topic can tie into a multitude of social issues we see in family values, and gender roles nowadays.

While I don't exactly agree with how they approach their marriage, please remember that marriage is not a one size fits all. There are plenty of traditional marriages that don't work out where the man pays for everything as the bread winner and the woman does not have to work. There are also variations of this that don't work out. And who knows, maybe those marriages would have worked had they done things differently according to their personal values, expectations, goals, and beliefs instead of just doing whatever society says is the right way to be married. I get it, it's tradition, and I think tradition is a beautiful thing. But It's not always about doing things the "right" way, it's about doing what works best for you and your partner and what aligns with your values as two separate human beings coming together as one to make a relationship work. "As One" can mean different thing to different people. Instead of judging how other people approach marriage and relationships, we should normalize doing what works best for the two people in the relationship. Whether that be traditional or otherwise. If it works for them, then who are we to speak on it? I'm sorry but I respectfully disagree with you Candace. I think we should all put more time and effort into our own relationships with ourselves and the people we love instead of picking apart other people's relationships because they are doing it differently. We should be focusing on and celebrating when couples make it work rather than HOW they make it work. Isn't THAT the po😮int???