I’m sorry if he hurt you, do your best to dwell on the positive thing that’s next around the corner. Look forward not backwards. That happen for you and not to you
Yes, you give ur youth, best years of your life, only to not get a return on investment… Males are performing like n love to gain access and exploit you… A lot of us are come up, place holders for them… Do your homework before being intimate with them…. His past will and can tell you a lot….
I thank God everyday I got ghosted. Three months later I met my husband. He ask to marry me in 6 months and got married 4 months later and he's the best man I EVER met. God had to close that door to open the door for a real man. Ace Metaphor is absolutely right about EVERYTHING he says!!!
Congratulations and I wish you a long, fruitful and happy marriage. My parents have been married almost 44 years and they said it’s due to there love and relationship with a for the Lord.
Protection for real, I had a guy send me pics of 5 different women he was fuc*ing to try and hurt me. Telling me he was loved and gets pu55y instantly got nauseous and praised the LORD because the word contamination came to mind.
Some men are just broken as well! There are plenty of men with mommy issues and will never value a woman. Even if he puts a mask on for a particular women and do all things temporarily to win her, trust in due time the mask will come off. By that time the woman is in invested.
You ain't lying @RellDesire , see I don't care , cause I gone cellabate with all men , you right most men are broken , cause they raised to be , a lot of them have mommy & poppy issues & on top of it narcissistic & socialpathic , I gone cellabate & it feels so good !! to be that way , you are 💯 sis , I'm gonna be the best version of myself , I been asked to get married 6 times already & it's been no with me , I don't wanna be with no man period , they ain't on my level , so it don't matter to me
Yep‼️ 💯 I’ve changed to this over the past 3 years & it’s the best decision I’ve ever made. Thinking with logic will keep you from getting hurt & less of your time will be wasted. 🔥🙌🏽 I used to be emotionally unstable in my early to mid 20’s. I’m glad I grew out of that.
Amen, that’s where I messed up. All emotions, no logic. Told me he was a cheater, womanizer, narcissist, unstable…….and I m mad because he ended up treating me like crap in the end.
So strange for me. I was emotional. I am choosing logic over emotion but it is strange, I've been emotion all my life. This is my life now but it is so strange. So difficult.
His patterns will eventually come out and repeat them UNTIL HE takes full accountability and do the inner work. Ladies walk away!!! Let them have him… you work on you and keep going ❤
Inconsistency means they're faking it to get your attention. It's not who they are. They probably just want an ego boost or s*x that's all. I can tell so quick. If they over compliment right away or have that lustful look their eyes I'm done. I leave them on read or excuse myself in real life. I never use their cards when they give them to me. I bet some are still waiting on that call from me and it'll never happen. Hope they don't hold their breath too long 😂.
Be abstinent and it will weed them out so fast! Works for me 💃🏽💃🏽. It’s 2024 when are we gonna realize just cause a man is in a relationship and has sex with you does not mean he likes you or even cares about you.
Love the comment “Don’t bother me and I will not be seen.” I had several dudes that kept hacking my cell phone and following me around and reading all my text messages because I decided to end the relationship and or friendship…I had a lot of personal information on my cell phone…Not anymore..Ladies we must learn!!!
Because they give too many women attention and they always think they’re able to find better… they lose interest as soon as they see another woman.. that’s what it seems like.
this is why i don’t bother dating at all anymore. it’s so frustrating i rather be alone than to deal with bullshit. i go out alone and learning to enjoy my own company. mentally preparing to be alone
Wow, this really hit hard......I lived this and it was extremely hurtful......I couldn't understand until I seeked GOD........My esteem was in the basement and I was so much better than the Man child I called myself liking/loving.......That hurt was so intense that I feel like crying right now........I poured that love into GOD and myself and now I'm in a healthier place.......I've elevated my income and I have no desire to meet anyone because it's just too much to handle ad the healing process is real to go over it all over again.......Ladies please listen Ace is is telling the truth.....If he doesn't like you please believe him.
@susanhenderson9739 Girl, me too, and it took me some lessons, but I started making decisions and practicing more self-love. My intuition has saved me from many men who just have bad intentions.
KARMA IS A KILLER! ONCE THESE DUDES LEAVE AND START OVER NEW....ALL THE WORK YOU INVESTED IN HIM...THE NEW WOMAN WILL DO HIM THE SAME WAY HE DID YOU! TRUST ME! IT'S COMING! BY THE TIME THE NEW WOMAN GETS DONE MESSING OVER HIM...BEING DISRESPECTFUL.... RUNNING OVER HIM....TAKING HIS MONEY AND CHEATING ON HIM .... HE'LL BE ON HIS KNEES CRAWLING BACK! WHEN HE DOES.... DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME LISTENING TO HIS FAKE APOLOGIES AND BS! BYE DUDE!
@@Ol1v1as_world I HEAR YOU MS. EBONY... MUCH AS I'D LIKE TO BE AN UNCARING PERSON AT TIMES...GOD DIDN'T EQUIP ME THAT WAY...BUT... I'VE LEARNED NOT TO EVEN ENTERTAIN GUYS UNLESS I FEEL THEY'RE SERIOUS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS. IT'S DIFFICULT TO GET TO MY HEART NOW! IT WILL TAKE AN ACT OF CONGRESS TO BREAK ME DOWN NOW!
These male Podcasters should really stop trying to tell us women what to do about male shenanigans and spend that same energy on teaching their male counterparts how to treat us better. This whole "high value" BS is TIRED! Relationships are NOT supposed to be like this! Gotdamn, this is exhausting!!
Nah I disagree, because half the time women don't listen to other women trying to teach them about life, alot of sisters be thinking they just be hating on them, so sometimes it does take a man , a healed man to get the message across
Tell me, what man awakens the love of a woman with no intentions of ever loving her? He may use her and then go on to find the woman he WANTS, but rest assured he does not live happily ever after.
Men don't "awaken the love of a woman" not today. The "love of a woman" is "awakened" when a woman "feels" she's getting attention from a man she wants to get attention from. Today.
Thx sir…you’re confirming what I already know. I walked away from my fiance recently. Yes, fiance who put a ring on my finger….who was still trying to string me along. I have no problem walking away from any man.
😅😅😅😅😅😅😂😂 yammmmms. True to what He said. Cut em short asap when u see inconsistent behavior. Do the haRd right vs the easy. Do not build a man. Build ur self.❤
Period!! That’s why I friend zone his before things even get deep ….. everything they do is all “LOVE BOMBING” that why I don’t zone in on just restaurant or what I can get …preach brother
It hurts when they block/ghost you but you have to get it and you together to get back to the space you were before you met them. Let them go to the people that they feel they can play with. Most likely they left because you were holding them accountable and not easily to be manipulated at least that's my case whenever any of my relationships don't work out.
This hurts and cracks me up all at the same time 😂😂 Edit: 23:19 😂 On a serious note this is the realest shit I've ever heard AND NEEDED TO HEAR!!!! THANK YOU 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
Exactly…Unfortunately when my husband was alive he wasn’t comfortable with rejection…He was a “Control Freak.” I kept telling him repeatedly to stop trying to control me…
Went through this not too long ago but it was weird. I didn’t like HIM at first but when he would call or text I would entertain him. Then I let him stay with me so he could get his business off the ground. Him staying with me made me start to like him. After his business blew up he got weird towards me. Games started getting played but they weren’t really effecting me because I was still confused if I actually like him for him or if I made myself like him because he was around, you know? Then one day I came in the house and he was talking to a bitch on the phone and didn’t flinch. Shit pissed me OFF! So I changed my locks when he left the next morning and blocked him on everything 🤷🏽♀️ ain’t talked to him since Sept 11th and I realized I only liked him because he was around 😂 I ain’t even thought about the fool til I listened to this. But your message is clear is right! I saw zero return and ended up feeling not good enough in the end 💯 I KNOW I’m enough tho. I’ll NEVER help a man with anything ever again a day in my life 💯
Ace is in the place!!! Don’t make excuses for their unpredictable behavior being good and sometimes bad is one of many red flags! “A man that doesn’t fuck with you like that.” Is a sign of unreliability, lack of communication, unreadiness, emotional baggage and unwilling to commit to a long term relationship.. I had some emotional baggage that I carried for years after my husband’s death.. I was being honest with this dude however he refused to fucking listen and kept pressing me for a relationship..#TonightsConversationCards #TonightsConversationCardsLadiesEdition #RelationshipAdvice #AceOfSpades
Ladiea, you wouldnt care about gaining the fruits of what you put into that man if you have/had already doing those things for yourself. If a man learns something significant from you, he will collapse, eventually, without you. Then have to build that himself the same way you've done for yourself. Stop worrying about wasted efforts. Energy doesnt die, it transfers. Simple. Same goes for us, men. Do your part, dont worry about what she got planned. Your plan is better and stand on that, with or without her. We all gotta stop tripping how the game goes. Accept it and move accordingly. You cant always win at UNO , right ? Okay then. Lets Go ! ❤
So basically u saying always have something going for u self even if u choose to invest in him. So if it doesn’t work out at least u got something for uself?
@@mariamk7828 no, not exactly. Cause the perspective , to me, that your pushing i still focuses on losing time and effort. You eventually will paralyze yourself mentally thinking that way. Just move accordingly . Not every person you invest will make you proud or satisfied. Just go into every endeavor with positivity, be aware of the bs, and move accordingly (if you like whats going in, stay and continue. If not, get the stepping) if a few failed relationships is stopping you from meeting your person, girl , go and fail happily so you can gain your successful relationship. We all just gotta get through the failures covering up our success (desires and goals)
Yup all true! I met one just like this had my mind all discombobulated over a year 😤 sad thing is, I knew better I had real love so I knew what it was, but wanted someone so bad was settling for less. But never again, lesson well learned. Yal better listen. Like he said life is too short living it unhappy with a man ain’t it!
38:50 PERSONALLY...THE GUY I WAS DATING....AFTER TWO AND A HALF YEARS OF DATING...DECIDED HE RECENTLY WANTED SPACE AND TIME TO HIMSELF....WE TALKED ABOUT IT AND AFTER LISTENING TO HIM.....I KNEW HE WAS TRYING TO USE THIS AS AN EXCUSE TO BACK OUTTA THE RELATIONSHIP. I HAD ALREADY REALIZED HE WAS NOT THE GUY FOR ME AND I WAS ABLE TO DEAL WITH THAT SO I AGREED BUT AT THE SAME TIME....I WALKED AWAY. MY TIME IS TOO VALUABLE TO WASTE WAITING ON A GUY TRYING TO GET IT TOGETHER WHO SHOULD ALREADY KNOW HOW TO HANDLE A RELATIONSHIP. IF YOU WANNA GO DUDE .....GO AHEAD..... WE'RE DONE! BUT DON'T COME BACK! I LEARNED HOW TO DEAL THESE TYPES OF ISSUES EARLY IN LIFE. I'M NOT BOTHERED. I'M MOVING ON WITH MY LIFE! BY THE TIME YOU GET IT TOGETHER AND GROW UP.... I'M LONG GONE! HAVE A GOOD LIFE! 38:50
The “space and time to self to heal,” rhetoric gets on my everlasting nerve. Because in the end, (for some) it’s a way for them to get out there, do them, and see other people. Instead of just being honest and saying they want to be done. Just annoying. Opening up people heart with no intentions of doing anything with it.
Thank you for that answer , i was thinking the same thing When some 1 block U & ghost U it's a blessing and a sign that no matter what I shouldn't Ever let them in your life ever again 👍
Agreed. I need my space. I can't stand it when someone floods me with texts while I'm at work or engaged in something. Then calls me one second after I text him m back, like you're just sitting there waiting. And then asks "have you read ALL my texts?"
Thank you for this video. I learnt it the hard way as a woman. I am trying hard to explain this to my fellow sisters but most of them are sleeping completely and do not even understand the basics . They say things like "oh you are too harsh, he is just busy for not calling me for 1 week". Last time, a guy said to a woman that I know "I am not sure I want to be with you" (clear message that he does not like her) and then she invited him to the restaurant and paid for both 350 usd and after even almost forced him to sleep with her.... I have no words
I wast my time with this so call boyfriend he lost something. Then he lost his mind didn't spend no time with me on Valentine's Day 😢so I was there for him it was a waste of my damn time . What you are saying is right
The beginning had me rolling!!! Truth though, all truth 😂 waiting for my husband to just drop out of the air. Dating is exhausting and people are so fake 🤷♀️ they disqualify themselves pretty quick so i'ma keep it pushin' and he will come ❤
I am sooooooo thankful that i came across this channel. Being divorced of 4 years & dealing with ah situationship shortly after, this so makes sense. Learning and loving on me!
I had to go ghost on him, and we had vowed to always never do that! But he doesn’t deserve any closure, I removed myself he is not the husband material he told Me he wanted to be! Wave the white flag, to the red flags! Make it pink and stay cute, and stress, disrespect or inconsistency ain’t cute!
This whole thing is exhausting. I pray in the name of Yahusha that black women get treated with love and decency vice versa, but specifically black women the pickings is slim to none and it’s really sad.
Makes a whole lot of sense to me. Wish I had this message 15 years ago. Could have saved me a whole lot of time and energy and everything else...but now I know what to look for when I am ready to start dating again...thank you!💜
I would love to have an affirmation morning video for us, hear you every day at gym telling me I’m worthy, I’m enough, I’m loved and blessed, in the way you talk laud, because sometimes I really need it. Thanks.
You are absolutely correct and on point even when he weds or gets with the woman he actually likes let's not get it get that twisted either it's short lived until he gets that woman nice and comfortable at home then starts finding he's next victim.
😢 heartbreak and self shaming, plus anxiety will make you crazy ,i don't know how to move on Ace because im emotionally attached and and sometimes woman cannot be hold accountable for a man that play mind games we are not psychics and its hard to leave or not want to be with that man after we done invested and got attached. my opinion we do get tricked in some bulshit with these man-childs
Hello from Argentina 😊 ... God I need a couple of friends like Ace... it's vital to survive 2024 and beyond. Soooo much clarity, honesty, I'm counting this video as a blessing.
I hear that you are frustrated, but I honestly didn’t know the game you putting me onto. Wow. You opened my eyes about how they date similarly in the beginning and it just went off like a lightbulb. Keep bringing this energy to YT. That’s what we ready to see!
I said the same thing, Space? 😅WTF is Space? It's OVER right then. Thank you so much Ace for your Wisdom!! Even at 50, your coaching and advice is necessary and helpful! You are a rare jewel. Love you much! Blessings
I agree you have to be mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually strong when dating when a man show you have to believe it and if you still choose to talk you better know how to play your cards right not get into your feeling because it’s only get worse like he said the more you work in self the more you attract good and bad. Stay prayed up sis and say that prayer god if this man is not line up with me let it go. I love a reminder and hearing a man point of view listen ladiesssss
