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Why Are We Selfish And How To Stop

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Have you ever wondered why people are selfish? In this video, we delve into the intriguing topic of selfishness, exploring its origins and providing valuable insights on how to overcome it. Let's uncover the reasons behind our selfish tendencies and learn how to break free from them, paving the way for a more harmonious and empathetic existence. Make sure to watch this video until the end and share it with others to make a positive change in the world.
Speaking of selfishness, you might also think being a people pleaser is being selfless, but that could be far from the truth. We made a thought-provoking video discussing why being a people pleaser is actually selfish too: • 3 Reasons Being a Peop... Do you agree with us?
Writer: Sara Del Villar
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@PokidotGamer898 Год назад

Sometimes I try too hard to be selfless and end up being selfish unintentionally without realizing it.

@clivesaunders5368 7 месяцев назад

Explain please. I need help understanding

@PokidotGamer898 7 месяцев назад

For example, Jealousy. When I'm jealous of someone I don't always say anything due to me trying to "protect" them from getting hurt. I don't want them feeling guilty or bad for me or feel like they're a bad person, so I just end up staying in silence. But then I realize that I'm kind of being a bit selfish because sometimes I try to protect myself from conflict. @@clivesaunders5368

@cloudyminn 6 месяцев назад

Exactly….

@AR-zn1uy 6 месяцев назад

That's EXACTLY what I do, too. I think I'm being selfless, but really, it's coming from a selfish place. From fear and people pleasing. It's driving me absolutely nuts.

@PokidotGamer898 6 месяцев назад

@@AR-zn1uy same

@usagiroxie Год назад

I never realised I was selfish. I always thought I was selfless, but I'm not. I try to fix people, but I can't. I thought I was helping, but I'm not. I feel demented realising this now when I've lost so many connections due to my own selfishness and fears.

@starlifehome494 Год назад

I feel the same way

@cleverlilvixen Год назад

Self awareness can be a rough trip, but it’s never too late to change 😉

@JustChill-zd4ib 10 месяцев назад

When you are selfless you tend to be more positive and accepting of others with their quirks. That's a good thing to remember.

@LaTonyaBooker Год назад

It’s not selfish to put your needs before others. That’s self care. Selfishness occurs when you totally disregard other people’s feelings. It’s not your responsibility to make others happy, but it’s better to acknowledge their disappointment. Agree to disagree and keep it moving.

@justwarren65 3 месяца назад

Wonder why this doesn’t have more likes oh yeah because it is selfish to put yourself first

@Stefansrb369 Год назад

For someone who has been taken advantage of because of constantly giving and being there for others without reciprocity,a tad selfish attitude can do wonders.

@sdrawkcabUK Год назад

Amen to that

@imawakemymindisalive13 Год назад

absolutely. we entertain what we think we deserve. i’m so sick of making every sacrifice and doing anything for someone because i think they’re worth it, only for them to think i’m not worth the tiniest breath of effort, and just decide they’re done with me. taylor swift said it best: “nothing safe is worth the drive”. i know i’m a safe option in my relationships, because i will always be there even without them earning it. and for that, i’m giving away my own worth, and i keep getting hurt. i want to stop. i have to stop.

@Psych2go Год назад

Yes. It's okay to want things for yourself! I honesty don't think that's being selfish. I think it's only selfish if you're seeking your own pleasure at someone else's expense!

@Stefansrb369 Год назад

@@imawakemymindisalive13 what helped me,amongst other things,is a quote i saw somewhere. If you treat people like stars,they'll treat you like fans. It might mean being alone for a while,but drawing healthy boundaries and even cutting some people out can do wonders. Also learn to say no and be firm! :) It's a gradual process. Like in airplanes,first you put the mask on,then your kids or whoever else. I wish you good luck,and hope you starting putting yourself first,it's self love not selfisness.

@Stefansrb369 Год назад

@@Psych2go Don't do to others what you wouldn't want done to yourself is one of the phrases i live by. But it goes the other way around,if they do something to you,you have to respond,bcs some see kindness as weakness unfortunately.

@A55a551n Год назад

Timestamps 1). Humanist 0:28 2). Prisoners dilemma 1:42 3). Perceived act 3:11 4). Neuroplasticity 3:49 5). Psychopathy 4:50 Hope this helps you out. Hope you have a nice day. 💙💙💙💙💙💙

@niasiamack9333 Год назад

Hope you have a great day

@A55a551n Год назад

@@niasiamack9333 hope you have a great day too

@dylanyea4910 Год назад

Have a great dream

@A55a551n Год назад

@@dylanyea4910 hope you have a great dream too

@elysianfields1671 Год назад

Always keep in mind there is a healthy selfishness you should never abandon: self-love.

@thatguy7249 Год назад

there is no such thing as healthy selfishness that is an oxymoron. selfishness is basically the lack of ability to work with or see where others are at, because *insert whatever excuse*. which if there is an excuse it means refusal of responsibility. which is toxic af.

@sopaipillasss Год назад

@@thatguy7249 There does exist, if you weren't inherently selfish, as in, the desire to live, desire to eat, desire to be loved then what are you living for? Are you solely relying on pleasing others? Selfishness is healthy, if you weren't selfish you wouldn't be alive. You're the toxic one, if you're going to live all your life being a people pleaser, you do you, but eventually you will probably get tired of it. You're probably too young to understand

@thatguy7249 Год назад

@@sopaipillasss (the weirder thing is working with others in a codependent society is considered a people pleaser) what I do know how ever is entitled people feel it's OK to do what they want without consideration of others which is the core of selfishness. I also know seeing your response is you're probably hurt coming to the realization that your not as good as you think you are and Can make better choices in consideration of others an still be where you're at or better. which is ok but still toxic because you would rather fight and justify your actions when challenged then see another person opposingside. I get it is the internet but maybe some self-reflection instead of arguing.

@thatguy7249 Год назад

@@sopaipillasss also kinda weird you feel entitled to judge my character and assume my age as if you're so superior. actually you're probably just a basic attention seeker who felt attacked by my comments because your self-serving. which I also get but your barking up the wrong tree simply because you can't climb.

@sopaipillasss Год назад

@@thatguy7249 "you're probably hurt coming to the realization that your not as good as you think you are and Can make better choices in consideration of others an still be where you're at or better" I know you're trying to do a psychoanalysis or whatever but you're wrong. When you only do things in considerations of others you turn into a people pleaser, and people pleasers get taken advantage of, i'm not saying it's bad to go out of your way to help people, it's just that in most cases its even more selfish to be a people pleaser because you're doing things to help people for your own peace of mind, and not because you just want to be a good person. It's not wrong to do it, it's just that it's easy to get misleaded, and that's why just not putting in any effort is sometimes even better than overworking yourself that way. There should be a balance in selflessness and selfishness, one should never be more prominent than the other, you're advocating for the fact that ALL selfishness is bad, and that's simply not true, but if you're wise enough to advice self reflection, I suggest you take your own advice, as you're not a very self aware individual from what I can gather from our interaction

@theabelstick3495 Год назад

I honestly can't say I've been constantly selfish, I often help others out and when I'm a situation where someone needs to do something (like take out the trash) I usually try to complete the task by myself so others may enjoy their time

@Psych2go Год назад

That's very kind of you. Do people around you acknowledge and recognize your kindness?

@theabelstick3495 Год назад

I think so, people are often thankful my acts. But when I'm home, taking out the trash at most I get a "Oh thanks Abel" for taking out the trash but that doesn't feel very meaningful to me, probably because that's just the weekly task.

@MelDSnow Год назад

I've been a people pleaser for practically my entire life. After hyper-analyzing myself through my desires and ambitions, I couldn't help myself but believe I'm selfish. Less so my actions but more so my thoughts. I consider myself wise enough to not act on certain impulses, emotions, and desires. Although now my close friends occasionally bring up concern of my issues with self-love. It's hard to describe just exactly how my brain and thought processes don't allow me to act upon selfish desires. I'm not sure if my brain assumes the worst outcomes, but many times I think of the repercussions of actions that I'd take for just myself. It's much less "I don't know what's good for myself/ what I deserve" and moreso "The act of pursuing such wants and desires provides greeting risk *and* consequences and I'd rather play it safe"

@AxygenYT Год назад

I understand where you're coming from. I think the best option would be going to therapy, if it's possible for you ofc! I've been in the same place before and therapy has helped a lot. You'll find that a lot of these thoughts are common in others too. The best advice I can give is, you aren't selfish, I promise! We are all a little selfish, but by this I mean you aren't inherently bad or evil in anyway. After all, if you were, then why would you care at all? Just that fear alone proves you aren't selfish. You're attempting to make even your thoughts benefit or please others, something others can't even see. That's inherently a selfless act! You need to be kinder to yourself, okay? Hang out with your friends when you can and let them be there for you. They want to make sure you're okay, which is great! You deserve to be okay too. ^^

@Psych2go Год назад

Thank you for sharing your personal experience with us. While it is certainly noble to put others before yourself, we sincerely hope that you're not pleasing others at your expense. And it's certainly not selfish to take care of yourself and want things for yourself! And as @AxygenYT metnioned above, therapy can help you see things from a professional perspective.

@SupriyaSingh-kq5fl Год назад

@@AxygenYT aww you comforted her so nicely ❤

@igorbruno9352 Год назад

The problem of being too kind is that people will take advantage of you. Being a little selfish is good for self improvement, being too kind could impact on your self improvement in a negative way. A healthy way of being selfish is not doing for others what they can do by themselves. That way we could focus more on our goals and they could be more autonomous.

@ShY_6593 Год назад

In church today, my pastor said being gentle is "strenth under control." Sort of like a trained horse vs. a wild horse. I thought this kind of tied in. Was a good learning day for me! ☺️

@Psych2go Год назад

Thank you for sharing! Yes, being gentle doesn't necessarily mean weakness! We appreciate you for sharing your insight with us :)

@NotLuccaRacerVR Год назад

We need more selfless people.

@Yourlocalmichealaftonishere Год назад

Its nice to support yourself but you must also support others.

@ClintonFlinton Год назад

They tend to die young.

@fresh.prince7472 Год назад

@@Yourlocalmichealaftonishereyou should think of yourself first in my experience nobody thinks of you

@mommafoxxdiaries6509 Год назад

@@fresh.prince7472 ❤❤❤❤❤❤boom exactly…I’m watching the wrong video

@fresh.prince7472 Год назад

@@mommafoxxdiaries6509 I'm not saying it's a bad thing but more people take advantage of you 💜

@almanyc Год назад

I think a good amount of selfishness is important to know your worth and not be a people pleaser. Once you are well enough to function properly, being kind to others, helping and sharing should happen. That’s how I see it.

@leiathrix Год назад

This. Usually psych2go has nice takes but this take is much better than the one in the video

@Psych2go Год назад

Yes, learning how to take care of yourself is very important. Plus, I don't think taking care of yourself is being selfish. I think it only becomes selfishness when you're pleasing yourself at someone else's expense. Thank you for sharing your insight.

@sandiletwala3001 11 месяцев назад

Sometimes I am selfish but at the same time I learn how to be selfless bit by bit, thanks to my mom and brother cuz everytime I'm with them I learn not to be selfish all the time when it comes to family. Still need to improve and heal from my bottled and angry emotions that I keep on the inside

@flamegamer3424 Год назад

There are times where I’m selfless and help others, but I feel like I’m selfish more. I try to keep a balance of both.

@Psych2go Год назад

When do you feel like you're being selfless?

@flamegamer3424 Год назад

@@Psych2go When I see people really need help.

@juliagarcia8577 11 месяцев назад

same@@flamegamer3424

@_lilyofthevalley_ Год назад

I don't think humans should be selfish or selfless, all things require a balance to truly be healthy. Too selfish, and you'll hurt others. Too selfless, and you'll hurt yourself. Balance is the key

@veronicapiccinini7956 Год назад

“Selfishness” is not necessarily a bad thing. If you keep giving, you remain with nothing, and people will only take advantage of you. After all, love IS selfish. Sure, you can love people, but what people desire the most is to be loved first and foremost.

@richsackett3423 Год назад

Love isn’t selfish at all. You are mistaken.

@thatguy7249 Год назад

first off love isn't selfish your love might be but my love isn't. so you can't determine what love is when it's so subjective. second off look at what oxymoron means. then think about how you rely on so much that is out of your control to live, and then continue to tell me it's OK to be selfish.

@Sara3346 Год назад

Is having nothing inherently bad?

@sopaipillasss Год назад

@@Sara3346 Yes. No one in this world can keep giving without receiving, that's not how healthy relationships or lifestyles should work. Selfishness is required, i'm 10x happier after I started being more selfish and started giving attention to my own needs.

@That_Handle Год назад

Covert Contracting, specifically, is selfish

@DragonDogGacha 7 месяцев назад

Not me looking for a way to stop being selfish and then finding this video and realised my mother was selfish and alway put herself first.... its not hard to believing why im selfish now and i hate myself for it

@dinodubin9241 Год назад

When i was young i used to have a clear picture of what selfishness was, but the older i got the more the definition started getting lost on me because many things can be written off as many other things, so as long as i aint hurting anyone, i dont really care if im being a bit selfish or not

@amyhoover9 Год назад

Selfishness and selflessness is a very difficult task to balance out in my experiences... I was taught to believe that being nice and polite will get you far, and while I still try to live like that to some extent, certain situations can leave me feeling dissatisfied or in a lack mindset for various reasons... I'll admit that I'm far from perfect. I'm not the most tolerant person sometimes, and it's not easy for me to let my guard down. You'd think that at this point in my life that letting things be what they are would just come naturally to me... this video just proves to me that a lot of things in life involve constant effort

@blascomartin2409 Год назад

I believe that a strong connection with other people gives us a greater amount of happiness than what we get from objects, money and social status. The happiness that we take the longest and the most difficult to achieve is the one that lasts the longest, but we are used to achieving instant happiness based on day-to-day entertainment. We distance other people too much from our happiness that we no longer need to feel anything about each other, feelings of empathy are being lost because we don't need to feel a connection with anyone to be happy, because now we have objects replacing the happiness given by others, making our connection with other people numb and making us not care for their emotions.

@Jcouserrva 11 месяцев назад

Couldn't have said it better myself😊

@piegirl8263 Год назад

There's healthy amounts of selflessness and selfishness. It's important to get the right balance

@thatguy7249 Год назад

healthy selfishness is an oxymoron look at the definition of the words they in some way a juxtaposition when we rely on other to farm our food, make our clothes, build our houses, teach us, ect. selfishness hinders this and is toxic because of that. especially because we are supposed to be conscious beings.

@JustChill-zd4ib 10 месяцев назад

There is always enough selfishness. Just think about it if you care about others they will naturally care about your in return. No need to be selfish let others help you as much as you deserve by helping them. Selfish implies that you don't earn that help in return so you are trying to cheat fabric of how society works. Not good.

@TheSaneHatter Год назад

Regarding the Prisoner's Paradox, I feel that one critical question needs to be addressed: did I (the prisoner) do it? If not, then HELL NO, I'm not confessing, deals be damned! Not only is it a matter of principle, not only can LEOs renege on these promises, but it runs against my supposed self-interest because you can actually be *prosecuted* for making a false confession, even if you're exonerated! "Self-interest" does not exist in a void (false confession lets the guilty go free, as wel as imprisoning the innocent), and it's far more complicated than short-term gratification. Me, I'll keep my honor, thank you very much, and the cops can keep their deals.

@thecatsbackyard4833 Год назад

I think selfishness is more of a childhood phase like early narcissism. It persists only when something goes wrong.

@nvrsure Год назад

I think there should be a good balance of selfishness and selflessness in a person where one should know when to be selfless but not to a point where they allow themselves to get taken advantage of.

@erona_26 Год назад

Can you do a video about signs someone in class likes you?

@Skziannai Год назад

I actually need this you always there when I need you thank you for your hard work And if your seeing this please talk about mdd ( maladaptive daydreaming disorder )

@dylanyea4910 Год назад

There's a time that selfishness is better and sometime selflessness is better so both

@Psych2go Год назад

Yes, it's all about context. Would you consider yourself more selfless or selfish?

@dylanyea4910 Год назад

@@Psych2goidk both?

@Darkmattermonkey77 Год назад

Reason #1 people have become increasingly selfish: There’s no good in helping anyone anymore. Doing so gets you sued, arrested, insulted, publicly shamed. You’re better off serving your own needs and letting everyone else do their own thing.

@capybarawarrior1 10 дней назад

be more specific - what instances of helping people have led to such results?

@nemesis021 Год назад

In horror games I always leave my friends to die so I can escape, guess I’m pretty selfish

@richsackett3423 Год назад

Not real great training. Maybe find a different hobby.

@nemesis021 Год назад

@@richsackett3423 do you really think me abandoning my friends in a game would make me abandon my friends irl in a life or death situation lol

@richsackett3423 Год назад

@@nemesis021Yes. Lol

@deannal.newton9772 Год назад

As far as the Prisoner's Dilema goes, it's advantagious to be silent and the other party would also be aware of how advantagious it would be to also stay silent. There's an entire chart detailing all of this and the most optimal way is to stay silent because if you stay silent there's more than a 50% chance that the other prisoner would also stay silent for that very reason.

@PortugueseLynx Год назад

It is all about balance. Being selfish doesn't need to be a full force flaw when mildly used for self care. Is whistleblowing selfish? Morale speaking it is, that would comes of the cost of someone from the other side but it comes to save ourselves from abuse, it is ultimately self defense against unfair treatment. It is good to practice selfless acts to help others until a certain point. It can be easily taken advantage for if we are not careful.

@mittalimahajan9224 Год назад

It's very easy to become selfish it's really hard to become selfless if we look in this century people are loosing their humanity and in this world someone is selfless we should cherish them with respect and honour because they teach how to be giving in nature and they are always ready to even give their lives and cherish every dear one's with respect which selfish people don't do

@emilschonemann6344 Год назад

Some of my friends put themselves infront of others, but I've come to terms with that. I also think about helping out and sharing and just doing stuff for myself and just keeping stuff for myself, I sort of make a mix of caring about others and myself.

@presntnow Год назад

In my life, I've been too selfless! Always thinking of others. It's about balance, sometimes we need to be selfish.

@Psych2go Год назад

Why do you believe that you've been too helpless?

@Waffles4903 11 месяцев назад

In my experience, I think it’s important to love yourself and love others. Look out for your health, and be there for those who need it and facilitate happy and honest relationships!

@ritamaterne3107 Год назад

I was taught to take care of yourself first before taking care of others. That doesn't mean not to help others but to know your life is worthy. I do take care of others more than myself however I'm learning to treat myself better.

@cathychase663 Год назад

I was raised with seflish people. My birth family- also my ex's family. I see a bit now in my kids. It's really challenging.

@cathychase663 Год назад

@Uchiha Daniel yes. Agree.

@meeatyuwhole3889 Год назад

I really like these educational style vids

@teaSam7 Год назад

If you meet me in Real Life, im not really really selfish, i can take care for you all the time and i can't stop it

@krispewkrem3 Месяц назад

It’s ok to be selfish with your time and energy. Only give it where it’s needed and welcomed. But don’t be afraid to be selfless. Help others. Chat with strangers. Be kind.

@cannedpineapple2702 7 месяцев назад

I have a problem where I feel like I'm being selfless but I'm actually being selfish. Another issue I have is that my anxiety about being selfish causes me to get in my head, and thereby doing so, act selfishlly. And I also don't take accountability. I need major help this is all very distressing to me and hurting my marriage.

@lilbrokare Год назад

why i can’t i find any selfless people i can only find selfish people

@strawberrypancakes2438 8 месяцев назад

I'm selfish because a lot of people don't deserve my kindness. They actually see it as weakness and to be taken advantage of. Selfish it is.

@alonanomi5809 Год назад

Look around. Selfish people is all there is. The selfless people are most of the time after a certain age, completely broken and don't mix with others anymore. People wonder why it's hard to connect with each other. Well the second you realize that nobody will truly care about you for selfless reasons, then why bother.b

@OddDeity Год назад

I see selfishness like it is alcohol. It is okay if used in moderation to help alleviate stress and to make yourself feel better. It becomes a problem when used excessively as it will hurt not only yourself but those around you as well.

@melodyberg5983 Год назад

I think the subject matter here is wayyyy too brief to explain the layers of selfishness and selflessness. I was taught to be selfless in so many ways from a young age as a pastors daughter and I completely lost myself. I didn’t understand how selfishness is a tool for self growth and is a practice of saying NO when you can sense something won’t serve you. We as humans have LIMITED ENERGY - constantly trying to be perceived as “selfless” will leave you with none to give to yourself. Be selfish, everyone else is just worried about themselves as well and good for them! We only have ourselves at the end of the day, as long as we live. You can still be empathic but be selfish. Selfish doesn’t mean you don’t account anyone’s feelings or desires, it means you fully examine it and determine where thee the outcome could serve you or not.

@socheata643 Год назад

Yeah, it happens and we had negative thoughts, but we didn’t mean to be harsh, but we have hearts you know?

@trikounofficial Год назад

*Greetings! ^^*

@Sreeiii00 Месяц назад

I am selfish person.... Selfish at its peak.... But when I decided not to be selfish I don't know how much should I be selfless.... When I try to do so I will be selfless than needed.... That's the case🙃 Is there someone who can help

@davidpope7532 10 месяцев назад

The Bible says in the end people will be lovers of self. That's worse than being selfish. They love to do it. People look ving themselves as s destroying everything

@Vedant_Bhardwaj 9 месяцев назад

I'm way too selfish and I wanna change that unfortunately I'm not able to, I've tried but it's not working. I need help.

@schadowsshade7870 Год назад

Selfishness is Chosen But our Education our mindset our past experiences and also Wether we think selfishness is Chosen of Not influences the decision heavily

@taylortimbrook2030 Год назад

Selflessness comes with experience with connection. It is learned and that's okay.

@quietone610 Год назад

The world batters the selfish until they learn to share. They learn resentment towards sharing, and do it only to hush their critics. They then learn to lie about selfishness until they are alone.

@gentlenoob2576 Год назад

I myself a person of soul and mind if I was accused of doing something that I did then I know 100% I would confess

@gentlenoob2576 Год назад

Only reason behind why I would confess is because I don’t see myself doing something like that but if I do lying only makes it worst you got caught it’s over.

@hannah0611 11 месяцев назад

I swear I can’t win. A couple months ago some people I know took advantage of me because I’m too selfless. Now I feel and have been told I’m too selfish. It just feels like I’m not being more selfish as everyone else but because I was never selfish before I’m just drastically more selfish which makes it seem worse than it is.

@MufflesTheGerbil Год назад

1:43 The differences between all of them are so unfair. The most fair one is just for both of them to not say anything.

@distopher6611 Год назад

Hey I have a strange feeling that I got when I woke up that feels like everything is different but not different too. I will also forget things really easily as in randomly I will forget it in 5 seconds and remember some things

@puddleduckcomedies Год назад

Woo one of the first here!!❤

@masternoob9673 3 месяца назад

Shouldn’t the dilemma reveal more about crooked systems as opposed to individual human behavior??

@n2cable 10 месяцев назад

i dunno...selfishness is alot of things but the one i can think of is 'Self preservation" physically, emotionally and financially

@One_piecefan123 Год назад

Every time I have been selfless nobody appreciates it so I give up so I don't even care anymore

@MoskusMoskiferus1611 11 месяцев назад

I'm torn between selfish and selfless

@euchiron Год назад

Sometimes the self rests instead of growing. This is not stagnation, though these pauses are inevitable and exist for the same reasons you are not always breathing in fresh air: you must also breathe out to repeat the process. The reward is not a snapshot in time but something much greater and more durable. But when the self cannot grow, this is the real sign something is wrong, whether by constriction, conflict, or death. We must learn to tell the difference between real threats and imagined threats. When our immune system fails to do this we call it an allergy. Be wary and watchful, but watch those hair triggers - especially our own.

@AlterEgoPerspectivewBronxGirl Год назад

It depends on how you apply selfishness.

@WitherKing-480 Год назад

Wealth corruption

@darkeagleplayz2128 11 месяцев назад

To be honest I am very selfish of eating whenever eating something without someone telling me I just eat it all up without thinking about others so this is something I need help stop with

@evans3134 Год назад

I watch many of these videos. I appreciate another perspective and collective enlightenment on social skills. I think this video paints selfishness in a bad light. Like anything, modesty is key no? Are there others who have been taken advantage of because of their lack of selfishness? Healthy boundaries is selfish. Sleep is selfish. Healthy diet is selfish. Is it safe or collectively beneficial to have these things? Some may not agree, though in my opinion, well-being is the foundation of all areas of success. If you maintain a modest level of selfishness, you are better able to help others with fresh eyes and good health.

@xnozicx Год назад

Im trying to understand my partner better with your videos. Thank you for these

@DinandHarmen Год назад

Not first

@elaxerblaxer Год назад

Wow

@chickiespal Год назад

ironic because you are and 2 weeks early

@elaxerblaxer Год назад

How the hell

@kushalsarkar6943 Год назад

I think in order to succeed in life , it's important to be selfish

@xxCrapNamexx Год назад

Don't help people, they need to do things themselves. Even being selfless is done with a selfish solipsistic intent because you want to feel good about yourself. Like the video said, altruism is a holdover survival mechanic which is why all the worst things in human history happened with good intentions for the 'greater good' and for people to be part of something bigger than themselves.

@dustyk103 7 месяцев назад

Everyone is born selfish wanting others to serve our needs and desires. Children must be taught to share and be considerate. Many are never taught and become narcissistic thieves.

@SleppySnek Год назад

I've always wondered why altruism is considered selfless. Is altruism not something people do because they feel good about doing it, even if it's to their detriment? Calling it selfish is maybe too strong of a word, but I feel like it's only because people feel good about it that they do it. So to me that makes it sound like an act of self-interest, because if it didn't feel good, they wouldn't do it (assuming they are not pressured into it).

@schadowsshade7870 Год назад

If you think Its Not your fault That youre selfish It increases the probability that you Act selfishly

@Oak-g3i Год назад

oh my god i needed this video bc i couldn't tell if i was selfless or not😊,😔 i still don't know, i have no clue if selfess or not😞 but thats ok bc i can still try and be the best me that there is to be😀

@BlackJim Год назад

I feel kinda like that aswell.. It's so wierd to question oneselves motivations for everything.. But maybe a good thing no? Keeps you honest.... Maybe? I dont know.

@damnedifidonut Год назад

I dunno, i like being selfish I used to be a doormat, now im learning the art of selfishness and loving my life

@YesIHaveManyProblemsThanks Год назад

Though I know they've always Told you selfishness is wrong Yet it was for me not you I came to write this song

@mikagediary Год назад

honestly, when watching a show, i tend to find characters who are both selfish and selfless at the same time more likeable than the ones who are totally selfless. it’s because they’re imperfect, and i tend to gravitate towards imperfect characters because they make me feel safe for my own imperfections, and remind me that no one is totally selfless or perfect, yet we still can be great people, as those imperfect characters actually put in a lot of effort to accomplish things yet can still do so much morally good things. also they feel way more realistic than the “perfect ones”. its okay to be selfish, you’re not perfect, yet dont be excessively selfish. its also okay to not be completely selfless, even if you just show a little bit of altruism, even if you just try to show some, that’s already enough . no human is completely bad or good

@gentlenoob2576 Год назад

Have you ever heard that saying an eye for an eye selflessness goes the same way your giving up your own eye to have control over it if you know what I mean

@mikagediary Год назад

@@gentlenoob2576 what

@gentlenoob2576 Год назад

What ?

@gentlenoob2576 Год назад

Oh I have to explain my self -)

@TaylorJackson-fn2om 5 месяцев назад

Hey I had a friend tell me I was self centered and selfish because I kept talking over others and wasn't interested in what people had to say. Because it bored me and I taught myself not to care about society from verbal trauma and now feel emotionally distant. Any advice?

@ClawsAndTeeth Год назад

"Is selfishness inherent, or chosen?" When viewed biblically, the amswer is both.

@aBeerFromHere7994 Год назад

I believe that basic needs like survival is hereditary and others like sharing knowledge is a choice.

@brain_respect_and_freedom Год назад

It's a complex problem. As human we imitate other human, we follow the patterns and etc. If we long time build society, where we're rewarding greedy people, and we connected selfless with idea of sacrifice. What are we going to boost?

@RAtheGoodRailfanner_888 Год назад

Oh alright!

@NolaWatkiss-zm4vr 5 дней назад

Do u have any videos on how to stop self harming

@neofulcrum5013 Год назад

I’m the opposite. I’m almost certain my kindness will get me killed one day.

@Psych2go Год назад

Why do you believe that kindness will be your demise?

@neofulcrum5013 Год назад

@@Psych2go because people tend to take advantage of that these days.

@neopanda1636 Год назад

Can u explain why we tell our self why we tell ourselves we are okay when we should talk to some one about instead? Cuz i just wanna know, so i can understand

@LastRebel1978 5 месяцев назад

Darwin instead of God is how we got into this mess. Real easy folks in the middle. Gods truth the only truth is black and white, we as humans are gray. You’re supposed to be adjustable through the middle of the scale. Not all the way on one side and then when find out that didn’t work run all the way to the other end. Life is not about comfort yet strength, resilience, fortitude and teamwork especially in a common society. Overly selfish wrong - completely selfless wrong and lead to destruction. I don’t know why this is so hard to have a healthy sense of self. There is nothing free. Freedom is equal to responsibility and morals you have. No free love, no coexist with everyone, life is not a movie it’s reality and it comes with needs long before wants….fear anxiety and expectations will make it hard to find lasting peace and joy in you heart which should be the definition of happiness in my most sincere opinion. There is a God and he is a jealous God and does not like you being your own idol or something in the world….. Don’t doubt God the father, Jesus the son, and the Holy Ghost because of religion. They are not necessarily the same thing even if the should be. People can make up their own religion you can’t make up the Creator, he made you and we’re only here for a his purpose and that’s not our vanity……it’s the whole book not just the parts you like. Sent in love best I know how, which probably isn’t very well. Truth hurts but it will set you free once you endure the fire and burn away all the lies….. and find reality. You will start to put your best foot forward because you understand how precious every moment is. I preach not from a pulpit but from the ditch row of life. I learned the hard way and continue to do so, hoping you choose the wise way. Thought I would share as this is still a worldly psychology take.

@funnytv-1631 Год назад

Ask yourself, do I have relaxation built into my day? This will take different forms for different people. It will even take different forms on different days for you. The key is choosing something that you know is deeply good for you. Blending relaxation into your weeks, month after month, year after year, will add up. This balance will actually keep you healthier and stave off depression and anxiety over time. So find some joy today. Repeat tomorrow, and watch that balance seep into your months and years. Get ready to look back on a life well spent.

@RoninRen Год назад

I don't know how to describe this selfish feeling, but metaphorically, I long for that the lion I was thrown to, instead goes straight for the people that tossed me, huh am crying, but I feel better for it,

@hannah0611 11 месяцев назад

I feel like I know what you mean. You feel more anger to the person that acted badly to you than the reason behind their bad actions.

@RoninRen 5 месяцев назад

@@hannah0611 Because I don't want to give names of who I'm talking about, let's just leave it at, that I was talking about family members,

@Butterfly_lover13 12 дней назад

I hate to say this but I need to, I'm selfish, I know it and I hate this about myself, I often cause my parents trouble whan everyone's happy I always ruin things and I realise when it's really late, why I always let my emotions dominatee i don't know, please help, I really need help, I always destroy everything for people I love the most, helpe stop, how can i do it Most people say stop being selfish, we need a better world, then show me, please, i don't want to be like my aunt

@bugattiveyron8282 3 месяца назад

I am selfish and I know it's bad, but I just don't know how to stop, can anyone help?

@juliemarkham4332 Год назад

Original sin - disobedience - causes us to be selfish, but when we submit to God, His love becomes our love, and we can become selfless.

@Irrhyn 11 месяцев назад

Huh. I am pleasantly surprised by this video and this comments section. I was expecting just more sanctimonious goody-two-shoes to promote the other toxic extremity of selfishness, which is total selflessness, not giving a sh!t about yourself, secretly white-knighting for the narcissists who take advantage of the selfless, but this was a nice change. I still detected some toxic goody-two-shoes in some replies of posted comments, though. Oh, and I think the best is to not be selfish scum, nor a selfless fool.

@TheNonameHousehold Год назад

Sense we need both to survive I believe there's a balance of both its just a matter which one you want to use more. -Tucker

@callyandvik Год назад

i love this channel 😌

@nicolec8884 Год назад

All I attract is selfish people. *sigh*

@Decent_lover_boy Год назад

Hey psyc2go r you guys making vedio on perfectionism and so well like the things wes do in perfectionism your all vedios r so informative and attractive💜 thanks for all the info 💖....you guys r really working hard in mental health now a days i just need to know about perfectionism 😔 you know like eg . Im commenting on this vedio but sometimes i think that i will commnt when will i have roght words or e t c then its like it will never gonna happen until i completely think about it perfectly 😪 its kinda weird but yeah many times happend with me so can you make a vedio on it cover some topics ...

@lisandrochocobar6930 Год назад

Ayn Rand's view on selfishness is that we are selfish because we are rational. Our minds are valid and the purpose of our lives is our own happiness, not the happiness of others

@richsackett3423 Год назад

She was an idiot.

@piegirl8263 Год назад

Interesting!