Why Are Women EMBRACING Polygyny?

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In this video, we zero in on the options women have in polygyny and why some choose to embrace it.
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@imaanhanif8863 5 месяцев назад

i think its a common misconception that because a man is married he is a good husband i know plenty of horrible marriages with codependent women who stay around and tolerate abuse. From the outside the man might seem like a great candidate because hes still 'married'. Unless you hear from the wife on what kind of a husband he truly is you really have no idea. at the same time you cannot guarantee that the wife will give an accurate image because she may want to deter you. So its very difficult one.

@fozanwaj 4 месяца назад

23 year's never met his other wife been 3 weeks we're in the same country i hate it he spends most the time there even when he's ill due to not our choice but i am hurt the most i don't like poly and i never have😢 i don't know what to do

@PharaohNefertem 7 месяцев назад

Thank you all for the information in this video. As always it’s been helpful. I have finished the book and it has been very informative and helpful. It has given me stratagies and tools to make sure my family is exceptional. There are people out here who appreciate what you all are doing, and I am one of them. Thank you all again. 🙏🏾

@ileniepowell 7 месяцев назад

Me too❤

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 7 месяцев назад

Bro, we appreciate the kind words and seeing that you're proactive! It's our pleasure to educate and empower, despite the trolls and hurt people chiming in from time to time. It's brothers like you who step up, prepare, and lead that we applaud. Thank you sir. ✌🏾 Coach Nazir 💪🏾✊🏾👑

@KLUKA.INC. 5 месяцев назад

More options, less problems. Да благословит вас Бог.

@joyful610 7 месяцев назад

More options...lol. less problems.

@jurateb.9794 6 месяцев назад

If a woman had a few husbands would the first husband be jealous?

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 6 месяцев назад

Maybe, why don't you check and let us know? This aint that. Our hypothesis is that they may not be since they would likely be super-beta ultra feminine males. 🥴

@jasonu3741 6 месяцев назад

Men are wired to want certainty in paternity, even though we have tech now to determine "who is the daddy" mens natural aversion to that mating strategy is due to this fact. And as terrible as this is to say women even having a choice in mate is a relatively new phenomenon for the human species, For the majority of human existence it was the strongest men taking a woman NOT a woman choosing the best man. we have obviously risen above that primal behaviour in our social dealings however the re wiring of the male and female brain may take 1000s of years to undo that primal vestigal thought process. What I mean by that is women are still looking for physical security in a man, in a world where guns actually make it better to be shorter than 6ft than to be taller in terms of survivability in modern conflict due to a lower and small center mass.

@erehistruth2356 6 месяцев назад

I am a woman and I will NEVER embrace this. I want my husband for myself and will NEVER willingly share. To each his own. Most women aren't signing up for this.

@NabihAlAmin 7 месяцев назад

Shukran for another outstanding video. The great takeaways for me was from Coach Nyla mentioning it's the "Conditioning", which I believe starts even before you're born and Coach Nazir said some women say polygamy is for those who are widows, divorced, single moms, downtrodden. And, it was icing on the cake when Coach Nyla mentioned what some women say about polygyny, "I want what's best for my sister unless she wants my mister." InshaAllah, it's a new day and time is running out for those who want to continue to play with Islam and/or polygyny. There's a new breed of direction/leadership that's plotting the course and showing the way by example, hinthint, clueclue - with a "proven track record." Al Hamdulillah.

@ileniepowell 6 месяцев назад

You have captured some big points that I also endorse. The "conditioning" which takes place all through life is so life-altering, is a huge challenge.

@alexcooper1216 6 месяцев назад

You guys are beautiful. BaarakaAllahu feekum.

@obakengmalete8870 6 месяцев назад

More options, less problems! Period

@aisham1057 7 месяцев назад

SubhanAllah! السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته Some sisters don't want for their sisters what they want for themselves. That's a lie. As soon as you mention polygamy to them, they lose their mind, deen goes out the window etc.. they're not strong enough in their deen at all, it's all about the man and who he's sleeping with period. It's all about s*x. الله المستعان What about الله and the rest of your deen? May الله help the women of the ummah اللهم امين🧕👳‍♂️🧕 "More Options/Less Problems"

@jurateb.9794 6 месяцев назад

Why do men want young women as second wives? They could take older widows. I'm not a Muslim, but I heard that your prophet took a much older wife and it was because he encouraged men to marry older widows to help them.

@glynisrobertson9757 7 месяцев назад

Yes you are correct, some of the sisters that attend the mosque that I attend are against polygyny, I was very surprised and disappointed.

@laurajeter3118 7 месяцев назад

I’m not against polygamy. I do not want my marriage rationed to me

@rajubhai-zf8fh 7 месяцев назад

Do your research on why polygamy was allowed in islam and you will find out that in our generation polygamy is not the best option. Do your research on polygamous marriages situation in the world, Walahi and you will understand why am advocating for only one wife one husband unless death of a spouse. Allah says if you can not be just to all wives then ONE IS SUITABLE FOR YOU. And who can be just except Allah. This means ONE IS BETTER if u don’t want to get involved in unjust act. Don’t let your lustful desires get you in polygamy issues

@E.P.7131 7 месяцев назад

@@laurajeter3118What do you mean by "rationed to" you?

@laurajeter3118 6 месяцев назад

@@E.P.7131 For me it means I would receive a fixed amount of time with my husband outside of the time daily activities takes away from our relationship. I’m thinking in numbers when it comes to quality time (not sex). A man works maybe 8.3 hours per day. Now factor it out in commuting we’re I’m located the commute to work maybe 35-60 mins per work day, so round trip 1-2 hours per work day. Leisure time left in the day is maybe 5 hours depending on and now sleep that’s about 6.9 hours. So that may leave 1-1.5 hours in quality time. So depending depending on how many wives the time may decrease.

@E.P.7131 6 месяцев назад

@@laurajeter3118 Thank you for your thoughtful response. Do you see how you would still have to deal with having quality relationship time rationed even within a monogamous relationship? I'm a business owner and I have experience in being "high functioning", where my days were no less than 12 hours, and often 14-18 hrs long. This experience taught & made me to focus on the quality of the time I had to spend and the preparation necessary in order to make the most of it, even if that time was pillow talking vulnerabilities in the morning with my woman. I wasn't always the best at it, but I was able to understand more about my needs and the needs of the woman I loved, largely due to reflection as well as forethought (envisioning). I prefaced with this for context to convey that not all time is quality, and even short or small amounts of time can be profound when all parties are prepared and present. This is coming from a man that is *not good* at time management *AT ALL* . A monogamous, high functioning man will still be "unavailable" to you for large swaths of time. Imagine of you could be a supportive spouse for this kind of man, how much more productive and efficient could you both become? Humility, putting the 'us/we' before the 'I/me', is a virtue I find to be a part of successful marriages.

@ykwtfim 6 месяцев назад

Speaking as a woman, I could write a whole book about why I love polygyny and prefer it. absolutely love and adore my husband, and I trust him 1,000% to handle polygyny well. He is amazing and honestly I know for a hard fact many women would love to be married to a man like my husband. There’s not many out there like him, I can’t blame them!! I love when people say “if that man is still single then something is wrong with him! He’s not valuable!” But then if a woman wants to marry a married man, then it’s “find a man who is still single!” Huh? I thought those men had something wrong with them?? No aql 🤣 Even more than I love my husband, I love my religion. I have absurd amount of respect for my husband as a man who has demonstrated the ability to engage in the sunnah of polygyny, and he knows I will always welcome the addition of like minded sisters to our family. Here are my requirements: she must not be keen to interfere in MY marriage to him or my children’s relationship with their father. That’s it. The rest isn’t for me to worry about, and if she wants to build a friendship with me that’s all icing on the cake. It really makes things very simple. Furthermore, my husband is well aware of the fact that I would welcome the opportunity to do more ibadah and personal time when it’s my time “off” from wife duties. Does this mean he can flirt and talk to women? Nope. He knows his limits in Islam, he doesn’t even LOOK at other women, it shocks and impresses me how dedicated he is to lowering his gaze in every way. In short, alhamdulillāh I know where we stand in our deen. His deen is incredibly strong and I believe mine is as well (although I have so many improvements to make as we all do). Therefore, I am not at all scared of polygyny & actually prefer it not just for religious reasons, but practical reasons too (which still relate back to my religion naturally). My husband is the one who has decided it’s not the time for him to marry again.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 6 месяцев назад

Well said ukhti, may Allah increase you and your husband and cause you to be in jannatul firdaus, آمين

@ykwtfim 5 месяцев назад

⁠@@outstandingpersonalrelationshiAmeen ya Rabb may Allāh reward your family and bring you sisters closer together to each other and bless each marriage even more and make each of you a means to the highest level of jannah for the others. thank you for doing this good work fisibilillāh

@user-vl6qt8kr3y 6 месяцев назад

#my president of Tanzania , big up team opr , all the

@Azda-emina 5 месяцев назад

I love my husband but I like my own me time. Its not a reflection of our relationship its just how i am....i like my own time away from my own kids and my own mother too lol. The intensity of close relationships just tires me out.

@scoobbdoobdoo 6 месяцев назад

More options

@SOMG247 7 месяцев назад

More Options, Less problems.

@lameesabu 6 месяцев назад

More options.. less problems... 😃😎

@ram09568 7 месяцев назад

Democracy is a helluva drug!

@michealclea1570 6 месяцев назад

More Options. Less Problems.

@rajubhai-zf8fh 7 месяцев назад

I am a muslim, Alhamdhulillah practicing but i am against polygamy, i go with Allah where He Says “ONE is BETTER” i go with one. Because polygamy had a reason during our beloved prophet’s SAW time, after the battle of badr and many swahabas were killed so Allah Revealed the Aya of Allowing muslims to marry in twos or threes or four,. That was the main reason that was allowed thats why Allah says ONE IS BETTER. who are you to go Against what Allah says it is better

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 7 месяцев назад

Perhaps you should study Islam because what you said is problematic while attesting to be Muslim. First, the ayah does not say ONE IS BETTER. Allah clearly states in Surah An Nisa Ayah 3, in English translation what can mean, "...marry those that please you of women, two or three or four. But if you fear that you will not be just, then marry only one or those your right hands possess [i.e., concubines]. That is more suitable that you may not incline to injustice]. Apparently, you are unaware that polygyny already existed in pre-Islamic Arabia and the world in general. Polygyny did not start with the advent of Islam. Islam limited a practice to 4 simultaneous wives and added rules to the practice. It has never prohibited it. Furthermore, 14 Muslims were martyred in the Battle of Badr, your widows argument falls flat on its face and goes against the Quran. So our question to you is WHO ARE YOU TO GO AGAINST WHAT ALLAH HAS ALLOWED IN HIS SUPREME WISDOM? The question is if it is allowed for you to be against polygyny and still be a Muslim. Please ask about that because that's the larger concern.

@rajubhai-zf8fh 7 месяцев назад

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Brother, in that Aya Allah states that it is suitable for you to marry ONLY ONE, suitable can also mean BEST FOR YOU, Allah knows we can never be just and thats why in surat nisa verse 129 Allah Says You will never be able to maintain justice between your wives-no matter how keen you try. And so Allah is the one who created us and he knows we can not be just, so He gave us an alternative to marry only one since we can not be just. Why do you not read sababunuzull of the Aya of polygamy, read reasons that led to that, one was for the widows to be taken care of, for the orphans and those that are unable to sustain themselves financially, those days women were not allowed to mix with men and work freely , they were told by Allah to stay in their homes and so which meant they were to be taken care of, but nawadays, honestly my brother tell me , Apart from your lustful desires, what other reason do you have to marry more wives??? Deep down you know the TRUTH, and Walahi you can never lie to yourself. Polygamy families emerge to be the most troubled families ever, and i am a product of polygamy which ended in divorce. WALAHI THERE IS NOTHING POSITIVE ABOUT POLYGAMY IN OUR GENERATION. Allah says One is Suitable so I will stick to what Allah Has said. ONE IS SUITABLE SINCE NO ONE CAN EVER BE JUST.

@rajubhai-zf8fh 7 месяцев назад

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi and my education in islam is Kulliyah level, then Alhamdhulillah i went to Az-har did my ten years of theology course I finished 2019. I would love to debate with you brother about this openly through your platform and reason together. Am open to istishara any time.

@E.P.7131 7 месяцев назад

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshiThank you for this reply.

@livefromplanetearth 6 месяцев назад

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshithe bots read original sources now and cherry pick lol

@dominiquebrown869 7 месяцев назад

Too each thier own. I just don't see how a man can be in love with two women equally? I guess you have to be a woman who doesn't care the he is not in your bed every night and is being shared with another woman. I think it's only rooted for a financial gain for a woman to be the second wife. Why would I want to share my husband? I would have to be at a level where I'm unbothered that he shares his time with someone else. I just believe that God doesn't want you to have to share a man. God is love, peace and promise us happiness. God will make a way for you. Will a man share a woman ? Nope because he knows he deserves just a woman to himself. That's why he can only have two wives because of his money. But I get it. I understand everyone is different when it comes to relationships.

@amazingj3868 6 месяцев назад

@dominiquebrown869 The reason why you don't see how a man can be in love with two women equally is because you see the world through the lens of a woman. In other words, you project how you operate as a female and place that same ideology onto a man. It would be the same as a man not understanding why females are more emotional and not just use logic in every situation. Men don't operate as women, and women don't process like men. Men are biologically designed to love more than one woman. That's what makes us different.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 6 месяцев назад

There's a lot of assumption and projection in your response. From some invisible love measuring gauge, assuming a wife doesn't care, financial gain, and God assumptions., whew. In reality, life is much more nuanced than and if you're a parent, you know you love all of your children, but also have a sweet spot for one or some over others in different ways. Men and women are not the same and in every scripture claiming to be from God, polygyny is allowed in it. But polygyny isn't for the average man, it's for those who are capable.

@dominiquebrown869 6 месяцев назад

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi I do have three children and have been married for 15 years. Why would I want to share my husband with another woman? I don't think no woman wants to truly share her husband with someone. I just don't see the gain a woman would receive but money. She doesn't get the time spent with her husband. How does the man split up his time with two wives in a day after work. Would he accept you with a husband? Nope, he is not going to want to share. I think it's rooted in lust. I have read many stories of women and have worked with women born in polegemy, and they were horror stories. Fights with wives sharing. The women never get along with each other, the kids are not close or have even established a relationship with each other. But to each thier own. I just know that's not for me. I have a lot of respect for people and their choice of lifestyle.

@outstandingpersonalrelationshi 6 месяцев назад

@dominiquebrown869 you don't have to want to share your husband. Fact is, if we asked your husband if he wanted more wives if he wouldn't get talk back and drama from you, he would likely respond like 99% of the men we ask, a resounding YES! Polygyny benefits women far more than men. You say it's rooted in lust but men have strip clubs, porn, prostitutes, mistresses for lust and all of those are more acceptable in a decrepit immoral society than another marriage! More women having men who don't just use them but provide and protect thru the sanctity of marriage isn't a loss for society despite whose feeling may be hurt. Again, it's for exception men and maturity matters. The horror stories you hear is one of the reasons we exist however, don't forget there are far more horror stories in monogamy...

@livefromplanetearth 6 месяцев назад

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshishe don’t care about civilization just her own family