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@@pascalwulf5081 he says all he does is play video games and that’s it, so many young people just lock themselves in their gaming room and do nothing else, curious if he has aspirations to go to college, have a career, or is he planning on being a professional gamer? Like the we need more of those?
I loved what the girl at the end said! I wish I was that wise when I was around her age. Never be scared of being single or getting older. Be around people who will let you be yourself and to be the bright light in the world that you are! You can tell she loves her girl group and they love her back.
Hearing this guy at min 6:29, I really related to him BUT, it made me realize that this was how I felt too BUT. I now think that we should be honest with our partners if we are not feeling full filled with ourself and our lives and we should love our selves even if we don’t have anything going for us in our lives. We are perfect just existing and slowly growing into who we are individually. We don’t need to have everything figured out or be on top of everything like our Careers and finances. maybe our emotions and mental health yes but we also have to accept that it’s ok to not be ok, and we don’t have to go through these things alone, we can share these doubts of ourselves and our lives with others who care about us.
The second one is so true. I just am not naturally inclined to do stuff that's bad for my body like drinking and smoking but in this day and age it's more than difficult to find someone who thinks it's cool to care about your health and your future. It all ties into self-discipline and it speaks a lot about who you are as a person imo but not a lot of people shares that opinion. It literally had me googling how do I surround myself with healthy minded people
Sadly many people including me, don’t actaully feel inclined to smoke, or vape. We aren’t addicted, we just do it to fit in, it doesn’t have much to do with self discipline, rather it’s a very morbid form of people pleasing. I would rather vape than be a loner
@@rosie6 I get what you're saying. I also considered doing crappy watered-down drugs when it was "cool" for some in hs, but I decided not to out of not discipline but just having to do a lot of studying. You have a point cause I don't really care much about fitting in now that I'm happy with my work friends and myself. If I wanted to go out and drink I guess I'd be smoking
You can be a “healthy minded person” and do drugs 😂 I get what you’re saying but I don’t think using substances makes someone healthy or unhealthy it’s all relative
the last girl took the words right out of my mouth....who cares if women age and yes I've also felt an unbalance of interesting, caring women to men.....those group of girls all have eachothers' back, that's beautiful. I want a crew like that !
I'm a dude, I actually had the same negative feelings about women but hearing her say that made me think. Perhaps there is just a gender barrier at times and we separate ourselves too much. I'm not sure, maybe I'm just mumbling. I should get to know and understand women better. I've had my heart broken too much and recently got out of a toxic relationship which I only discovered after some therapy. We should all have each others backs
@@ThoughtsThinking I definitely think this is the case more than anything! I, for whatever bizarre reason, have and always have had mostly male friends, and I think they're wonderful! They are kind, thoughtful, loving human beings and I adore them all! But, on the flip side, as a woman who is trying the dating world, I can _totally_ understand where they are coming from- I think, in the context of dating, men take a much more callous, fast-paced approach a lot of the time, and that doesn't mean that man isn't also a lovely person, but if he's not willing to engage on a more platonic level, he _seems_ like the stereotypical sex-obsessed jerk. I really think more willingness to get to know people on a platonic level would do _everyone_ good as, like you said, we should _all_ have each other's backs!
absolutely love that group of girls, they were speaking absolute facts, and seeing their appreciation for the other women in their life and close bonds together is so heart-felt and amazing!! May ye always remain friends 💖
I totally related to the part where she said every woman has something cute and unique and amazing about them but can't say the same for guys. I find it easier to admire women than men
@@noeliagutierrez4223Its because so many guys are absorbed in that stupid aLpHa mAlE bullshit that repulses all women, and seeing them put on a cringe act just makes you not want to interact with any guys at all :( otherwise I believe gender doesn't change the uniqueness of people, we are all sweet in our own ways🥲❤
@@noeliagutierrez4223I hear men saying that a lot too that women don’t have hobbies…yet every one has things to admire you just have to be willing to see it
@@noeliagutierrez4223 I think as a society, women are just put onto a higher standards and pedestalized way more(at least attractive women). A man’s worth seems to be what he does for society while women’s seem to be what she does and how she looks or is. Most find women easier to admire and appreciate but men are seen as brutes if strong or weak if less than their certain ideal level of masculine.
@@Yeeha494 you say women are put on to a higher standard but then that men are harder to admire/appreciate and that theyre only seen as strong or weak... uh??????????????????
When I was an alcoholic living in my mom's attic with no ambition, dreams or direction, dating was very easy. I didn't place any value on life and didn't really care about anything outside of fulfilling my immediate impulses. I was a mess and a million screaming red flags, but my dating options were so abundant that it was almost overwhelming. Eventually I got sober and got my life together. I found purpose. Life started to actually mean something to me and I started to seek out and enjoy responsibility. But it seems like ever since I found my path and became a man actually worth investing in, no one has been interested. I've effectively become invisible. So, I don't really know why I'm single. It's tough. But I'd rather be lonely and actually striving to give something of value to the world than go back to being a womanizing degenerate.
I can't remember what show I saw this on, but I instantly related to it. WOMAN: "Why aren't you married? Aren't you lonely?" MAN: "I've been married - and I've been lonely. I'd rather be lonely."
It's because people are scared to commit in today's society. Most people do just look for short and sweet over long and difficult which really sucks. Like I want to get to know a person, not what's under their clothes 🤣
I don't think it's that no one's interested, you yourself might not be interested in a lot of people that would be open to dating or wtvr (given your change in mentality). Your "dating pool" was huge bc you were getting with people that were probably in the same headspace as you were at the time. It's *very easy* to not care about people etc. it's just terrible both for yourself and the people you cross paths with (general you)
Same, I see so much vulnerability and beauty in women that lacks in guys... like she said, not all are bad, there's a lot of good guys out there, I just see more effort in self-reflection and growth in women than I do men.
I'm all about appreciating the uniqueness and beauty of women, but they she speaks about men makes me wonder how many men she has gotten to know, especially at a deeper level. Seemed reductive and bitter.
Just in case people are thinking that this might be true (10:00): I feel like I've met a lot of people in the last decade of my life (I'm 31), all different walks, all different sides of masc and femm, and I can honestly say, guys are 100% capable of this too. Old, young, and everything in between, guys can have quirks that can be unique and cute. They just have a really hard time opening that up to people. I've met and had friends who have had such pure hearts of friendship, comradery, compassion, and empathy for their fellow humanity and for those they call family. And yes, I know she makes a point to include those on the masc side of the human experience too, and I really like what she says after. I guess I just didn't want someone to hear her words and think that there's no hope for someone like you, that what makes you unique, quirky, or cute isn't valid or willing to be scooped up by someone who will cherish you as a good friend or person. Remember: don't be somebody else, be you, because there's no one else who can do it like you.
I get uncomfortable with how casually women seem to look down on or badly of men in general. I know theyve been hurt, and im empathize. But ive been hurt too, by women, in horroble ways repeatedly. And the fact than no woman in my entire life let me use that as an excuse to look down on them generally has been such an important and life bettering lesson they were correct to teach me. I just wish women held themselves to the same standard and it doesnt seem like they generally do.
Here is where I disagree though. I feel like if you wanted to find something so beautiful in each guy. You would find it. I think she speaks from the bias of thinking women are good and mean are bad But life is that black and white. If you wanted to find something bad about someone you can find it and if you wanted to find something beautiful about someone you can really find it.
@@yasuke4593 I wish i could go back to a time when i was so naive as to believe women were good by default. She has *no idea* how cruel some of them can be, and when she learns it she'll never see things the same again.
@@brycesumrall7248I am a woman and agree with you some women can make life so difficult having something unique or cute doesn't mean she can be a great wife there is more about personality than just one unique thing or cuteness
for me this topic in a way "doesn't make sense". ofc you can find some differences between woman and man. but these are mostly formed by society. and the main point here is: no matter the gender, no matter the sex, you need to see a person firstly as a human. and within our species there are a lot of very different personalities with good and bad sides.
I don’t think I would mind being single so much if I at least got to experience a relationship just once in my life. I want to know what it’s like for someone to tell me I look pretty or care about what I’m thinking even if it doesn’t go that deep
Just want to say for all the single folks out there: I was single all my life, and at 23 years old, I found my girlfriend! We've been together almost 2 years and I couldn't be more grateful. We're so happy, and I never could have imagined it was possible to find a relationship like this. Don't give up! You will find your person! 💛💛💛💛
Also: It is TOTALLY okay to be single!!!! You don't need a relationship if you don't want one, and you certainly don't need one to be happy. Just wanted to share my story to give hope to people out there. Much love to all of you wonderful people! 💛
Thank you for sharing! I’m going to be heading off to college very soon, and I still haven’t managed to get a date. It was hard to watch so many of my old high school classmates burn through relationships because of how easy it was for them and how little care they took. I hope I’ll find someone who enjoys spending their time with me as I make my way through college, but I just can’t help but feel like there’s something wrong with me
@@thepursuiterer I would fall under the "classic beauty standards". I'm thin (maybe too thin), fair skinned, average height, hip length straight hair, etc. I didn't get asked out till I was 19. The guy who took me on my first date became my first boyfriend, who became my husband. I have no qualms with how things ended up happening. I was sad I didn't get asked out by anyone to prom and that I didn't go on any dates or have any relationships in highschool, but I had been forced to mature quickly as a child, so I was accustomed to being alone. Even now I feel twinges of sadness about it, but I know that a high school kid wouldn't have been able to handle my baggage and care about me the way I needed to be cared for. The guy I married was 27 and I was 20. He still feels that I'm the mature one, he still has difficulty helping me carry my baggage, he is still learning the depth of my foresight, but we're doing it together. Being single doesn't mean something is wrong with you, it just means that you're at a different point on your path than others are on theirs. Everyone's path is different and that's fine. In all honesty though, there is a lot "wrong" with me according to medical/mental health standards, but that doesn't mean I don't deserve to be loved and in a healthy relationship, if that's what I want.
I was also single until 23. Had the worst insecurities about my appearance, which in turn affected my personality. And then I gave up (I also had CBT to try and tackle it). It was once I stopped looking and trying to get into a relationship (I guess for the approval of those around me who were successful at that) that I met my current girlfriend of 3½ years. As the years went on I got more and more insecure and desperate (those two fed each other) but the real change happened when I began to work on how I could stop hating myself, rather than trying to push that responsibility on someone else.
1:10 I feel the same. I hate parties, and drinking and smoking but I don't have a way to meet new people. I would definitely enjoy going on a walk with him
whatever hobbies you like, go find groups or clubs who do that 😊 it is hard though. I enjoy a good club night but only like once a year or something, mostly I'm an introvert who likes nature and walking and drawing. but I'm also at the age where people have passed the party stage so
I've liked many girls growing up and I wished I was with one of these girls I liked. As having Autism, its hard because they might not like my quirks and I feel like a child sometimes in my own mind. I just feel like girls don't have interest in people who are on the spectrum at this time in my life. I know someday someone will like me for who I am.
Keep that head high bro, I got some crazy social anxiety an It’s hard to talk to people for me so I feel for you, but life gets better just be patient.
As someone who as Asperger myself. I absolutely can relate to this. Well spoken! Sure, felt bad about being on the spectrum, but you also get a different understanding of other people. Something i value a lot. But having social anxiety doesn't help either xD Terrifies me. But working on it to go outside my bubble. As we all should!
Hey man! My husband is autistic + adhd. I’m not autistic, but I understand him so well when others don’t. I love him so much. We have been together for 9 years, married for 2. High school sweethearts. You’ll find someone who understands you and loves all the things that makes you authentically you.
im still single because i'm afraid. in my mind, i have this perfect image of a relationship. and im afraid that relationships aren't as perfect as i think they are. i'm afraid of getting my heartbroken. i'm afraid of it ending poorly, and i'm afraid of hurting someone. i'm a coward, but that's alright, because one day i'll take the leap. i'm just waiting for the right person.
friendly reminder that relationships/meeting someone is in big part dumb luck. sometimes there isn’t a particular reason why you out of all people is single. sometimes you just happen to be in the same place at the same time with a person that can match you. sometimes you don’t have time, sometimes you’re not in a place that get you to meet people: that’s a context not a personal flaw. so even if you can be bored of being single etc (i am often) please don’t feel too desperate thinking there’s something off within you, please don’t jump on the thought that there is necessary a reason and most importantly don’t think that this reason has something to do with you. most of the times, a lot of meetings are for the major part coincidences, you can stop trying so hard to understand why you can’t find a person:) i feel it reassuring
I've always been independent. I've not had great examples of relationships therefore I've steered away from them. Part of me loves when I see that older couple married for 50 years and a sweet couple just starting out. Part me doesn't feel the need for a relationship
I sooooo loved what the last girl had to say, She is so evolved in her thinking. We should really look within. I became divorced with a beautiful special needs baby boy. I stayed single for a few years. I leaned more a about myself in those few years being single and grew immensely as a human being. We need to learn to Love ourselves, and the love we deserve will come to us so much more easily. I know this to be true. It happened to me, and I have been happily married now for many years now and also have a wonderful daughter I!!!
Definitely, she is wise beyond her years! I'm happy to hear your life is filled with love! We're surrounded by it and just need to open our hearts to be receptive. There's so much depth in life that we can never be truly bored. Always finding beauty in everything and much to be grateful for.
I am single, because i want to be. I feel most happy when I can do my own thing at my own pace. I like having control over my life without disruptions. This does not say I am not open to a relationship, but it has to be a good one. ^^
I'm single because sometimes its difficult for people to deal with people who have mental disabilities. I know I'm not ever going to be enough for someone to be a significant other, wife, mother, so I don't put myself out there. But to all you single people who WANT to find love, keep looking you'll find them. No matter how hard it may seem.
I love and care too much, but I also think highly negatively about myself due to being a shy & introverted person, sometimes I talk alot (cause I probably took my anxiety medication) and most times I'm just quiet and do what I do.. the day someone I find attractive reciprocates the attraction will probably be the day I'll feel the joy
HOW DO YOU EVEN FIND THOSE PEOPLE?? They are so young but so genuine and honest and wise ! it's lovely to hear them speak their minds with so much depth!
I'm single because I think you have to live independently before involving yourself with other people, but because of my disability I don't have that option. I don't want them to think i am lazy and expect them to do everything 😭 I think i want someone to body double with, not a romantic partner 🤔
Your videos really are healing to the world. Thebmost interaction most of us get with other people is comment sections. And that usually ends up in political fights and real deep hatred. For me at least. Since i started using instagram, the comment sections have changed, dramatically so since covid hit the world. I've come to HATING people. I really have become quick at dropping people the minute they say stuff i dont agree with politically. Which, in one way is just me protecting my sanity because all the racism and sexism and transphobic mentality really hurts me. But it's sad - how can i expect the people to change their hateful ways if i dont interact with them about it? Your videos show me that most people on the street are nice and thoughtful and lovely. Thank you for that!
Im single because I wanna be the best version of myself not just for my future partner but for myself. I have some self hatred issues that kinda messed up my past relationship, so Im trying to love myself so others know how to. Parts of me want another gf but I dont feel like its worth my time or sanity. At peast right now I wanna be happy on my own since I cant find it in others
Why is most reasons given by one group a bit more realistic and accountable, while conversely the majority of reasons given by the other group almost covered the entire gamut of perpetually being someone else’s fault or potential partners never being good enough?
Most of these girls sound like they're bored with dating and sex because they've had so much of it. The guys all have hobbies as their identity, which sounds like they're masking frustration.
I’m single because I don’t find a lot of women that want to put in effort to get to know me past a few dates. I check a lot of the boxes that women look for (tall, good income, decent personal hygiene, in shape) but I don’t feel like it’s enough. I have to tone back my personality to not scare people off. I don’t like sleeping around or one night stands and I just genuinely want to get to know somebody. Most people in their mid-20s have no idea what they’re looking for and it’s getting really tiring. I don’t talk to many girls at the same time because I’d rather invest that time into my career and hobbies. Most women I go on dates with will ghost me. It gets very old after a while.
I’m single and have always been single because I feel emotionally incapable of being in a relationship. I’m constantly on the run from vulnerability and intimacy. I keep everyone at an arms length. I would just drag the other person down with me. But don’t worry we’re working on it. It won’t be like this forever. I can get better
If you're single and want to be with someone, but do not know why you cannot find someone, look at your relationships with your parents - this can tell you where healing needs to happen OR can be something that your soul came in with from another lifetime. Low Self-worth, Low Self-Love, Low Self-Esteem are usually why one cannot find someone to love and be loved - all of this can be healed through energetic healings and through a Spiritual path understanding your oneness with God.
"I think I have the emotional maturity to be in a relationship right now, but not the emotional maturity for the end of a relationship." Damn. That is incredibly wise and self-aware, and hits close to home but I probably never would've been able to realize or put that into words for myself
I'm single partially because I choose to be on my own. It takes a very special person, someone who matches my same energy, to want to form a deeper connection with me. If we are meant to be together, it will naturally just happen.
I'm single because I like being alone and I like spending my money how I want to. Partners cost money and require me to get out of my comfort zone. I'm so used to doing what I want when I want. It's hard to break that habit. Edit* just broke up with a beautiful woman who, was great. But, a relationship requires work. From both parties and I just can't right now.
The reason I am single is just because I dont really put my self out there, Ive been on a slow and steady confidence journey where Ive been looking into who I am as a person and what I enjoy and have just been overall loving myself. If youre single and desperately are seeking some sort of romance, litterally take yourself on a date. Ive had countless walks and night drives, sunset dinners, picnics at parks and by the beach on my own. I genuinely am at a point where I can say I am happy with who I am and cant wait to see who I will be. Ive also been on a couple dates with women but they dont work out becuase the other perosn just got out of a relationship or the other person is religious and finds my lack of faith disturbing (star wars joke). overall take away, love yourself cause aint nobody gonna love you more than you.
I’m struggling with dating because of being bullied and abused and I was struggling with confidence I’m 40 in October I don’t really drink and I’m not into smoking weed but I do love peppermint oil all the time
The first guy (second person to be interview..) it was kinda cute...I also don't understand why people are so into this sort of things (drank, smoke, nightclubs and partys...it's not my thing neither) Unfortunately i'm single because I have so much emotional problems untreated yet, so I have all sorth of blocks, and also worry about don't be able to sustain a good relationship and ended up boycotting myself, in addition to hurting someone else's feelings, or ending up in some toxic and abusive situation and hurting myself even more...It's sucks... I kinda would like to know how daes it feel being take care, and be able to trust some one..But don't have the courage to give a try... Anyway, it was an interesting interview, really nice job!! Love from Brasil
Its hard to find someone who doesn't smoke or drink You could throw a rock 2 feet and hit someone that does one or the other or both and its just sad i was lucky enough to find someone that doesnt do either.
Im single because I chose to go to college in the US instead of where I’m from in Europe and I have to leave every person I fall in love with when I’m home during the summer. It’s happened twice already. Even though I’m excited to get my degree here it’s become heavy to carry that responsibility of being “stuck” in my studies and not being able to be with anyone
sorry am I the only one seeing the first one as a mental illness..? Justifying "running around" in such a weird way seems very strange to me. I can understand not wanting a relationship but looking forward to ending them is very sadistic.
The 1st girl is a vibe. I love her makeup. And I do think in a way is better to live in the moment with your partner instead of living with the fear that is gonna end. Because most of the time, it ends. Sometimes I get so in my head that has prevented me from dating, I wish I had this carefree attitude. Being in a relationship should not be the end goal of life.
I'm single male by choice for now. My last relationship has was 12 years ago at the time of this post. I am a caregiver to my mom for years and I feel like I should be committing my time to taking care of her. I am a hopeless romantic by heart and I feel it would not be fair committing little time into a relationship. I do not want to waste anyone's time, however, I know people can be understanding. I don't have any other family members committed to helping her, so I take on that problem. I would love to get in a relationship and possibly have a child of my own. I am in my 30s and I feel at times my time finding someone out there will become harder. I know this isn't true because everyone finds love at all ages. Having a child at an older age is what worries me for the child's sake.
i am single because of one of the two reasons, 1. the problem is me, i don't know how or why but it's me. 2. there hasn't been a person yet that had interest in me
Sometimes it feels like the standards are so high anymore that a lot of people just decide to chill by themselves and work their own shit out. And that's not a bad thing by any means. If you need time to work on yourself, or you just don't find any interest in having a partner, that's totally okay. But sometimes it does feel like you are trying to find a needle in a haystack these days.
Be careful what you speak into your life. If you say you'll have a psychotic break if a romantic relationship ends, then that's what will happen. If you say you'll be sad for a few days and then you'll bounce back and find someone new, then that's what will happen. Your heart has to be open to giving and receiving love. If you have negative feelings about yourself or the opposite sex, then you will radiate negative energy and draw negative people to you. If you believe in your heart that there's plenty of good people out there and you only need to find ONE, then you will radiate positive energy that will attract good people to you, and eventually, you'll find the ONE!
I can relate to the second guy cuz it's hard to find someone with bare minimum, like no smoking, drinking moderately, and supporting a healthy lifestyle and don't need a made
That last lady, I have so much respect for, a Christian, humble, looks at different perspectives, and is not afraid of the future! 100% want a woman like her!
10:21 I totally get that feeling, but for the boys, guys, men, old men... but also girls old women etc... To be honest, it stings my heart a little when I see how hard it is for men and women to understand each other. edit: after hearing the rest of the video, I strongly disagree with 10:50 ! Please don't ever think grades, career should be put before your peace/happiness/health
Loved this.. ❤ One question from a person who speaks English as a second language: Why is everyone using “like” so much while conversing? Is it a dialect/geographical variation of English in the U.S.A.?
thank you! she sadly didnt put in the part where she asked how we met, we are online friends so we live far away from each other so we rarely ever meet up, i was visiting him since it was his birthday🥲
It terrifies me to put myself out there as a transracial adoptee (abandoned at birth, orphan 0-3, adopted and moved to a new country at 3). Because I don’t feel like people of my race would find me attractive, because I’m simply not Indian at all fundamental standpoint. I was raised white as white can be. And living in a predominantly white neighborhood, I mean I grew up having my example of a relationships being white-white. Barely any mixed race. It’s like. How do you find someone when you yourself don’t have a complete identity of your own? I don’t know my birth parents, I don’t think I ever will because not even the orphanage has records of them. It is quite literally half of my identity I straight can share with a significant other. And I simply just never felt like I deserved love in the first place. What am I supposed to think when my birth parents made it cleared they didn’t want me? Sometimes I barely trust my adoptive parents actually love me unconditionally without strings attached. All that said, it does not feel right forcing someone ELSE to deal with me and try to love me and eventually marry me if they want to. It does not feel like I deserve that kindness, nor does it feel like THEY deserve the burden that is me and all my trauma.
The group of girl friends 🥲 oh my heart, y’all are my dream friends. Y’all are so cute sweet and thoughtful, I think in similar ways and everything they said resonated with me so much 💕 I hope I find my girls one day
@@brainchasers4174 she is speaking from her experience! i have heard many woman talk about going so hard to look for a man and in the long run, it didnt make them happy!! She just proves a point that many of us are chasing the wrong thing! men and women!! How old are u?
i’m single because i never catch feelings for the right guys. i am attracted to emotionally unavailable men 🥲 idk what it is, probably a lowkey fear of commitment but at this point i’m so ready for a relationship i want to be loved and to love.
why are you attracted to emotionally unavailable men? I know you said already but that may be worth exploring a bit since you said you're ready for love, but you also don't seem to be open to it from what you've said, if you know what I mean
@@MusiicRoolz yeah idk i want to be in a relationship but the people i end up catching feelings for are either emotionally unavailable or not interested in me. i need to talk to a therapist about this LOL
1:14 i’ve never seen a guy talk about NOT wanting a smoker/alcoholic before omg. finally 😭 that was so refreshing, and i like that he support his friend a couple mins later 🥺 he’s beautiful & seems like a sweetheart. i hope he finds his person ❤️
Ngl being an adult now out of my 20's I find it really hard to make friends and meet ppl to even start any type of potential relationship. I don't smoke. I rarely drink. I haven't made any good friends that I stayed in contact with. The only ppl I talk to is coworkers and I already dated a coworker and don't want to do that again. I don't put myself out there in real life since I don't go to bars or clubs I have no idea where to go. And the dating apps for most guys are horrible. Been on 4 days 4 different girls in like 2 months and it went no where. So I'm just trying to leave it up to the universe to throw them at me.
