Those women have a particular fetish called hybristophillia and are usually women who have been sexually traumatized so they fixate on violence men to get off. I would say a more accurate example of the appeal of the dark triad is with athletes like Michael Jordan, David Goggins, David Bowie, Floyd Mayweather, and most professional athletes. They embody dominance and have status that reflects social success and the epitome of comfort.
@@bleachedout805 I’m an example of the appeal of the dark triad. I’m narcissistic as hell cause I’m better than everyone. I know how to use machiavellianism better than anyone even though I’m not using it here -~
As a woman I completely agree. I have rejected men for being too emotionally unavailable and dominant. However I have also rejected men for being to submissive. I like a man that knows how to lead and when to let the woman take charge. Balance is key.
Great video. Your ideas and points are insane to normal people, but extremely refreshing. Not a lot of people talk about how this benefits women. Subbed.
Amazing that you have only 11,000 views on this ‘incredibly insightful video” after a year now. Your take on the subject is “transcendent”. I say this from experience only recently acquired at the age of 72 (I’m 74 now) .
it's efinitely not an act. it's a complete dysfunction of a personality that fills the person with evil notions and the ability to carry out those notions. btw it doesn't make you cool or powerful, other REAL MEN see guys like you a mile away and deal with you easily. that's why dark triads prey on women, because women are not a threat to you. in other words, dark triads are true beta males in everyway.
@@mnstark3342 it's not involuntary at all and you are not a victim. dark triads are willful predators that know what they are like and instead of seeking professional help they continue to be what they are. just know real men see your type a mile away and will handle you with ease.
It's hard to be dominant if she made you bankrupt and for some reason you depend on her now. How to fix that permanently? Running away feels not the best option.
There's a movie called kumbalangi nights which I think you would like very much. It might also influence anyone's way of thinking. It's on RU-vid. This is not any kind of advertisement or promotion. I just want the whole world to watch it. Please do
i have friend that is toxic to girl like if she does any small misstake they call them out , i didnt know why he do that then i see like im more handsome then him and he know that but the girls all around him so he told me to do that and see eveything change i didnt like im doing that so i stoped but in that time girl just go crazy when i do that and they try always to make me happy and think about me before do anything , i had to stop doing that its not who im i dont want to call girl on any small misstakes she do
This sounds a bit pathetic but when you really sit down and analyze female nature if not human nature on a whole this is one key reason on why a select group of people choose to be alone. Just look at Nikola Tesla.
Okay, daddy 🤣. Seriously, though it is true that it is way worse to have a sub male pining over her in secret under the guise of false friendship. I do like your empathy clause. Good job!
Silence and calmness beats any dark triad insecure dude. You should never aspire to it. Dark triad is codependency and insecurity pouring out as confidence. Lack of emotional regulation. Probably childhood problems. Abusive upbringing. Divorced parents. Cheating mother. I was a dark triad in my teen till like 3 4 years ago where I started making REAL AND HARDFUL changes so I could not end up in prison or death or broke and alone. You dont choose the dark triad caractheristics, they were inflicted on you by circunstance. You abuse women, you beat them emotionally and sometimes physically. You reduced them to shit and when you leave them, you leave them traumatised for life. And then after that you have two choices, you sugarcoat the regret and shame with the next victim and mask the truth that you are an abusive predator and continue to go on this ramble or you change your behaviour, cut off everything that is toxic and sit with emotional pain in silence and therapy. Dark triad men are depressed and emotionally numb . They are not aware of their subconscious.
Can you be the one who stops talking about those things and starts talking about how to get rid of the blocking feelings? It's never a lack of knowledge, it is fear that comes up when expressing yourself. Share the non-drug alternative to benzodiazepenines that relaxed the amygdala. If you did that, you wouldn't need to say over and over to just be dominant and sexual. It's like saying: just drive your ship to this destination, that is right over there when there's the anchor in the ground and you have no idea how to losen it. What you are doing is saying: just look, at this destination, it's just 5 meters away, everything is going to be awesome there, but you cannot move your ship to save your life. Stop talking about where to go. Talk about releasing the anchor. And this is not about "how to fix approach anxiety" which always leads to "exposure" which in turn does not cure anything for good, but at best, for this evening. But if a woman turns you down, that will last for long. Pickup is extremely easy if you didn't have fears. It is hardly the problem that you don't know what to do.
Yeah if you can’t see how your mindset is defeatist and making progress virtually impossibly for you then I don’t know what to tell you. Try some self-awareness, listen to your thoughts man. Look up learned helplessness because that’s what you have
@@aghayden Calling an apple an apple is not a defeatist mindset. At best it's science, a description of the problem. If science made progress impossible, you wouldn't even be here, let alone write on an electronic device. Listen, I really like some of your ideas, but if you are stuck talking about being sexual without talking about the strong fears that come up and how to handle them(other than repeating "exposure") then you are losing a lot of people. You said you were in fear, diagnosed even. Talk about how you handled it. By doing that, you will come to learned helplessness organically.
Science is not about certainty it’s about testing ideas. If you think something as complex as human psychology is calling an apple an apple you’re not being scientific, you’re being religious. And exposure is part of it, in many cases the main part. You can go about it gradually as opposed to suddenly, taking small steps towards discomfort but there’s no way to grow without experiencing that process. But once you do it, the thing you feared loses its power over you and you can enjoy things that used to give you stress and anxiety
There is a huge sociocultural component to what women find attractive in men. Material conditions and sociopolitical structures inform attraction more so than any perceived cultural universal notion of 'dominance'. You also fail to acknowledge the role that arranged marriages have played in many human societies throughout history, especially in Eurasia in which a perceived innate essence of male dominance had little bearing on the functionality of relationships in contrast to cultural, religious, political and economic factors. Male dominance has never been a cultural universal history and archeology and anthropology has demonstrated this (see: the Original Affluent Society by Marshall Sahlins and the Dawn of Everything: A New History of Humanity by David Graeber and David Wengrow). Those studies you cited would offer more salient and cogent arguments had they integrated ethnographic research into their methodologies. Citing romance novels as evidence that all women (as you imply) find dark triad traits attractive is an example of how ignoring sociocultural factors can lead to erroneous conclusions and essentialist generalizations. What women find attractive in men in upland South East Asia may differ from metropolitan to Japan to the Kalahari desert to Cacausus. One should examine cultural nuances and differences before examining inferring cultural universals about gender roles and sexual attractiveness. I also take issue with your use of the word 'dominant'. Acting dominantly towards someone implies overriding their personal agency and self-esteem, which itself is problematic and can be used to legitimize psychopathic, narcissistic and Machiavellian behaviours giving way to coercive and abusive behaviour. What you are alluding to is merely assertive behaviour. Showing that you are attracted to a women directly through verbal and non-verbal cues is not an act of dominance, it is an act of direct communicating a desire. Initiating an interaction with a woman with a clear indicator of sexual interest and following it up with a rejection is not an act that overrides a woman's agency if that woman freely exercises her freewill to reject that man and the said man acknowledges that very will. The pickup and dating advice community really needs to discard touting 'dark triads' as if they have any semblance of good. Healthy relationships do not in any way shape or form require any semblance of Machiavellianism, psychopathy and narcissism. Directness, honesty and assertion are not the same things as overriding a person's free will and agency and expressing such to a woman who freely exercises her agency to accept or reject shouldn't be described as 'dominance'.
EXCELLENT EXPLANATION 👍❤.THANK YOU SO MUCH . ANY DATING ADVISE THAT ADVOCATES COPYING THE BEHAVIOUR PATTERNS OF THE NOTORIOUS & DREADED DARK TRIAD OF ANTI SOCIAL PERSONALITY DISORDER ( CLUSTER B PERSONALITY TYPES) IS NOT TALKING ABOUT A HEALTHY & BALANCED APPROACH TO DATING BASED ON GENUINENESS, HONESTY, MUTUAL RESPECT ,EMPATHY & MORAL & EMOTIONAL MATURITY. THANKS AGAIN FOR THE WONDERFUL & ERUDITE EXPLANATION .👍❤
I do basically have to agree. Antisocial behavior shouldn't be encouraged and women have their own individual reasons for being attracted to a man, even if that man is a narcissist or what have you. That being said, it's easy to see why this guy came to this conclusion given our own historical and cultural position. Americans, at least, do think that being a man is fundamentally related to domination and status. Women complain about weak men, short men, etc. Stoicism is seen as a positive male trait. So on and so on. Is this so-called toxic masculinity? You mention Graeber, so I assume you are a leftist and perhaps even a feminist. I agree more or less that male socialization can go wrong in some ways, but that doesn't prevent women in our current historical position from liking what they are told to like and rejecting what they aren't. In this way, I don't see it as bad advice to project confidence, strength and other desirable male traits even if they can be toxic. People want to maximize their position in life and I'm not the person to tell them they shouldn't. At the same time, I do think a critique of human sexuality (and gender norms and etc.) is in order. And I do think there shouldn't be so much pressure on men from women to fill what is essentially an outdated patriarchal role.
Absolutely correct - it is a generalized comment. It is a generalized comment to say that in real life women find the dark triad traits sexy in men - it may be a fantasy for many women - but sexual fantasy & real life relationships are two different things
Not to offend you. Whatever idea you're spreading may or may not increase the number to the #metoo movement. There could be tons of really amazing guys thrown into lawsuits all because of what you're spreading.
How to DM a really hot random stranger on instagram using dark triad method? What to do I say exactly? (opener, and what to I transition inot afterwards). Some sort of insult or something?
This applies way more to younger inexperienced women. Most girls get over bad boys after enough bad experiences. Question is, do you still want them afterwards?
they are traumatised and lack education. they get bitter and some of them inherit the same caractheristics of their predators. Never get into a relationship with these women.
Generalizations are implied to be about a large percentage not every individual - if you can’t understand that you need to work on your language comprehension. And asking women they think is not how you get accurate information, people in general do not know why they do what they do because many of our desires are unconscious. There’s plenty of scientific literature that shows women are attracted to dark triad traits
@@aghayden I have worked with psychotherapists & attended workshops & I work as an Associate Professor in a women's College for over 22 years & I interact with women students as well as women colleagues . Also, I have studied in co educational schools , Colleges & University & have had really good male friends - who were just being themselves & not putting on an act of being macho .There are some women who are easily dominated ( inherent nature & family & cultural conditioning ) & there are other women who are not & who do not like dominating men . Also, the vital thing that psychotherapists state is *do not generalize* when it comes to human beings . I do request you that Before you make a generalized statement like women like a particular type of men ( dominating & with dark traits) - do create a proper questionnaire & do a proper survey. This fascination for the so called Byronic hero with Machiavellian traits is a teenage fantasy of some women ( fostered by films & some genres of fiction, and not everyone is a fan of these either). Often men try to dominate women (sadly, 80 % of men are controlling according to relationship counselors & psychotherapists) and these men like to believe that controlling someone in a relationship is the only way to behave . And yes , there are bossy women also. None of that is healthy. *You are suggesting in your you tube video that men should act in a certain manner ( pretend / put on an act) to attract women , instead of being their genuine/ authentic selves - which is a better way to impress women & men*. Compatibility of Personalities & psychological compatability is a better way of finding a good match. Do watch other you tube videos by men & women ( dating coaches, life coaches, psychologists etc.) on dating & relationships - they talk about psychological compatability, compatible personalities, & about being more upfront & genuine . One should not underestimate the intelligence of a woman or a man. PLEASE MAKE MORE FEMALE FRIENDS , TALK TO MORE WOMEN ( NOT JUST TEENAGERS , BUT MATURE ,OLDER WOMEN , IN DIFFERENT PROFESSIONS & FROM DIFFERENT WALKS OF LIFE - YOUR IDEAS MAY CHANGE. YOU SEE, PEOPLE HAVE FANTASIES AS TEENS & AS YOUNG PEOPLE, BUT WITH MATURITY ( POST 27 YEARS) AS THEY ARE MORE IN TUNE WITH REALITY, IDEAS ABOUT WHAT ONE WANTS IN A MATE OR ROMANTIC PARTNER ARE BOUND TO CHANGE. FOR BOTH MEN & WOMEN - WITH EVERY PASSING DECADE OF THEIR LIVES.
@@shyamalidasgupta671 I’ve had many female friends. It should also be obvious that generalizations are not universal. Of course some women are more dominant than men etc. But there are real measurable patterns, women tend to be higher in agreeability for example. It’s ask well established that women are sometimes sexually attracted to male serial killers whereas the reverse almost never happens. I could qualify everything say with, “this applies to many but not all…” but that would make it unnecessary difficult and pedantic to get ideas across. Generalizations do not imply universality unless specifically stated to do so. It should also go without saying that I’m giving my opinion, not stating empirical fact. Which again, I could preface every statement with that but it should be self-explanatory that it is the case.
