"If your relationship is about extracting something out of somebody, it does not matter how much you manage, there will be constant trouble. If your relationship was an offering to the person who is next to you right now, then everything would be fantastic".-sadhguru
I agree.. excpect g a return on investment will always get you into your feelings.. do it because your generous not cause your waiting for your return or your payback . That mindset will only bring frustration, disappointment, and hurt feelings. If you can't do that then maybe you should figure out why? And if it's not overcommable then you have to move on. Tell em its not u it's me and move on. But figure it out so next relationship will not be hendered by this way of being or expecting something in return for your kindness . Not everyone is kind.. but everyone one of us is capable of controlling this within ourselves..most of us don't do it though..so we have issues. It's normal .. but doesn't have to be
Surely mutuality becomes an important factor to the health of the relationship & individuals at some point…? Just keeping the thoughts in the middle cuz extremes get pretty ugly.
@@user-iv6iz3jx8h well kinda.. it should be mutual..but if it's not. And your unhappy about it.. and your giving has been exhausted by a taker.. then at that point you have to ask yourself how long can u do it? Or ask the person in question why they never give the same? If you have nothing left to give..well then I think we all know what the answer is. .. if they won't bend. And focusing on their niceness isn't bending them into a nicer person to you .well then break it off. Their has to be mutual giveness in a relationship..and if there is really love here ..you probably wouldn't even be having this issue cause they'd want to give you the same if not more then what your giving them .but.. I stress this. You should never expect it! That only sets u up to get hurt. Do what you want .give what you decide..but if your happiness isn't their concern as you have tryed to create happiness in them with you by your giving. Then stop giving and move on..If they realize what they could not while with you .maybe they might realize it afterwards .hind sight is always 20-20. If you love something .set it free .if it was ment to be they will return.changed.. if it wasn't. Well then your better off..either way you keep your sanity.
@@Caolan-b6r it’s still there but the sharp tip of the knife has slowly morphed into a cold ache when I still often think of her. Roping is still likely, but I’ve decided to postpone until a certain age. Human life is nothing but longing for things you can’t have and the overwhelmingly painful emotions that come with that unsatisfied longing- at least for a lot of us.
"If your relationship is about extracting something out of somebody, it does not matter how much you manage, there will be constant trouble. If your relationship was an offering to the person who is next to you right now, then everything would be fantastic". "Do not underestimate negative relationships. You have a deep bond with those you hate, fear or envy." - Sadhguru
Why would u have a relationship where it will be only offering ? meaningless words. Every interaction is a transaction ... just that we can make it sound altruistic. Even we help others bcoz we feel good about it.
Thank you so ooo much my dear. Tell me.more and more things to get realize that what I am doing. I want my life to keep correct way to get my other work s give any indication it is maybe bitter or sweet . I just want to find out what is the way it want thank u sadhguru jee thank you namashkaram
Give love and act as a friend in a relationship that is on the verge of deterioration and see how it improves. This is an everyday solution to an everyday problem. Sadguru is always helpful to anybody and everybody. The other partner must feel that wanted relationship
Wanna know my secret? Always be true to yourself, don't people please, don't promise what you can't deliver, don't expect the passion to last forever. Prepare to evolve.That about covers it.
Imagine little beams of light hiding in your heart. Invite them to step forward and speak the pieces of truth they are holding for you. Listen to these lights in your heart. Heyoka ♏ Viper ☕🎉 Oasis
To you and everyone reading this, I send love, positive energies and well wishes from Ghana 🇬🇭 west Africa to you and yours. May we all live to our fullest potentials so we can live per our guru’s teachings to enhance our faculties and to better humanity in general. Peace be unto all of us!
Dear sir ,I simply wanted to say thank you for your wisdom, being raised in a western belief system has closed my eyes to many things, I appreciate your insight and your willingness to teach the xyz's as always I will continue to listen and process the information shared . again thank you my friend
Expectations are the villan in relationships So you may ask if we don't expect anything why do we need to get into relationship, yes if one have enough courage and wisdom to live life alone till he die, it's good to not get enter into any relationship One thing I can tell is Don't expect your partner gonna be a super human who won't disappoint you in any aspect of life, there is no such human being on this planet Everyone have their own of life, so their way of life definitely in something comes opposite to our way of life So accept the few qualities in your partner which may hurt you little Fundamentally select a person who is responsible towards their career and their health and who be kind with others Because they can't hurt others so easily without any proper reasons Don't just by looks and wealth they have
3 things to start doing 👇🏽 1. Developing empathy and understanding 2. Making concrete plans for your goals 3. Act without expectating results Much love from a RU-vidr 🤘🏽❤️
I am a Filipina living in Dubai, I've been listening so many of your preach, they are really very helpful and effective for me, God bless you. Looking forward to listen more from you.
I liked what he said about relationships: When you truly love someone, no compromise is too great. However, when you feel you can no longer make compromises to be with that person, it is time to move away.
@@sfgtvee thank u...im at that point of a relationship that im hurt so badly but in love so madly, i dont know what should be my next steps..im cluelessly running around to justify my thought to forgive the person but unable to convincemyself
OMG...this video came in at such a timely way! No, no, I wasn't about to kill myself of someone but the perspective made me put so complex situation into context. Thank you Sadhguru.
Exactly, if only one person has this mindset and the other is without it, There is room for exploitation, and sadhguru says if someone exploits you should you really be with them?
Don't now after how many decades or centuries after will this world get such a legend with an unfathomable vision . Feel blessed to be here to hear such eye opening discourses.
I pray that whoever reads this and is going through a difficult time, don't give up, good things are coming for you, you will achieve your dreams in this lifetime.
To sustain a relationship ..have to look beyond pleasure and attraction Then it should not aim at extracting happiness from other ....rather sharing your happiness .. Thanks sadguru
Irrespective of your relationship statues,try be the best woman you can be both financial and otherwise.... I am 42 years old single mum living in California I'm hoping to retire at 50 if things keep going well for me. Bought my first house last month and I can't be more proud than I am right now. I am so glad I made good decisions about my finances that changed me forever.
I completely believe this, compromise is like a street that goes both ways. If both individuals do not compromise or if only one individual compromises- there will be an accident. The accident in this case is a fail relationship. Like the song goes it takes 2. If the relationship, becomes obscene best to go. There nothing more important than peace. Even police will arrest someone if they are disturbing the peace. In a relationship there needs to be peace in order to function properly.
Agreed ! Most problems come from a conditional love.. which isn't love at all . Be honest with yourself and realize this if you think your in a bad relationship.. it may be because you haven't realized this yet.. Love has no condition.
Have been writing something on this topic recently.🤔 Glad this video came at par with my thoughts. I Never thought that relationships are body based only. Though I used to be physical while expressing most of my emotions but that has reduced over time, and I realised its their mind that attracts me the most, it's the way they think and work, and because of this I connect more, may it be my friends, my brother's, my lovers 😅😂. I just wish some people didn't leave and also thought the same way.😅🤞
I can’t forget her. No matter what. I will be sad until the last minute of this boring life. Nothing is worthy without her. There is no light, joy or point. Nothing really matters. Im just in autopilot. Lets see how long I can keep dragging my feet in this world. I love you mamita.
Relationships - be it love, friendship, or whatever - thrive on mutual respect, mutual trust, reciprocity, and fellow - feeling ! When that trust is lost, everything is lost !
It's a stark reality ! Truth hurts and hurts very deep, indeed ! How right was the great Swami Vivekanandji in his assessment in saying - "Truth can be said in thousand different ways ; yet each one can be true !"
Sadhguru,,,your words are like nectar. You can turn a foolish into a wise person. We shall all succeed in our paths if we follow you from the heart. Thank you so much for being with us!
Well, that was very straight forward and I would so want this video to reach each and every person thinking of killing themselves or someone else that in next day newspaper it should come a person changed his/her mind after watching Sadhguru's video 😂😂😂. This would be the best headline to read.
I have already seen many loves fail! Can you leave someone that you love to someone else who can take care of here or He very well than you? There comes love as solution! If really you love her or he, you have to break for her or his happiness!
@@chandangautam293 failing of love doesn’t equate to breakin up or leavin the person you love to another who could take better care…u could still love them and not be together at the same time, it isn’t love failin here, it’s still there so yeah it holds true. It only ever truly fails if wasn’t love altogether in the first place. Failin here means realising tat ur feelings weren’t what u wanted or named them to be but somethin else:))
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Sadhguru i love you so much. i was recently in a state where i wanted to end my life, not over a sexual relationship, but just over my mindset at the time, i failed to see much point in my life an thought 12 years isnt so long, ill come back and sort it. i did try, but fairly unsuccesfully, a little bit here or there it comes back again yeno but what you said about just wait itll come eventually, man that hit me hard ahahaha all i could do was laugh and laugh. peace always onto you friend
