There's some egomaniac mongoloid who does this in Soho in NYC and then posts people's reactions on Tiktok. They're not staring at you, they're staring at why the short Asian dude is following you around with a camera. If I ever see her in real life, I'm calling her out.
you do not not everyone is aware of the camer and it could be a small spy camera? you people think he is holding a 3 foot tall gigantic 50 kg cinema movie star hollywood camer asif she is chased by a movie crew fliming team? relax people dont look at a tiny camera and you dont know if the camera men is standing close to her or not
I've had people stare at me when I'm dressed for interviews and I'm not a particularly attractive person. I stare at people that dress well too, it makes me wonder where they're going, who they are, etc.
@@CordeliaWagner No, you yourself think you can tell the intention of people who look at you, but you're naïve and have no clue if the intentions you're picking up are real
I’m just an average man, with an average life. I work from 9-5, and I know I pay the price. All I wanna do is left alone, in my average home. But why do I always feel like I’m in the twilight zone and I always feel like…Somebody’s watching me 🎶
Attractiveness certainly is a factor. Also, I've noticed, the days when I've put effort into my hair, clothes, etc are the days my confidence is up and I'm just feelin' myself in general. Confidence is magnetic and very attractive to people in general. When I'm feeling good and confident, I know it shows in other ways, too, such as the way I that I walk and maintain eye contact.
Look, there's no doubt that attractive people get attention but it seemed like the woman in the first video got attention because she was walking around like she was on a runway, exaggerated hand movements and showed some skin while most of the people wore jackets so she might have stood out for other reasons than her attractiveness.
Yeah I saw a similar reel where a woman was doing this in another country as a foreigner so ofc people would be curious and look especially with someone following you and being dressed way differently than the normal person
its actually made me so socially anxious literally whenever i walk into class everyone stops and stares at me and it's like thank you i woke up 3 hours before schools starts to look this good... but at the same time... holy shit.
The halo effect is worldwide and transcends time. It’s a human psychological phenomenon, so I can’t imagine there are concrete levels depending on location 😕
@@MISSMADISONMEDIA there are, depending on the place and cultural norms being pretty might make you be treated better or it might put you at higher risk of sexual violence
The last sentence kinda blew my mind. The commandment to both men and women in the quran (Muslim scripture) is literally to lower your gaze. Since objectifying people is wrong, you have to overcome your biological compulsion by lowering your gaze. This is the first step of modesty. There's also the way you dress, speak, and behave.
To the people (especcially females) who feel uncomfortable for being stared at, dont worry, its mostly instinctual and when not, usually its just a person being like, "huh, what a nice looking person" and not them thinking in creepy ways, in fact, a lot of times its subcontious and you dont notice it
when I was less attractive, and before my ''glow up'' I didn't realize how badly I had taken care of myself, but people made me feel almost invisible, really people straight out ignored me, it was as if I did not exist, they would acknowledged my friends but not me in small talk, especially men. now people smile, and in general are more pleasant. it is a sad thing but biological I suppose, I learned not to put my value in outside validation. also health comes a long way, I had only addressed some health issues (hormonal) and my ''glow-up'' was apparent enough to warrant stares.
There is also a guttural gaze that you forgot to talk about, It's usually in the form of extreme eye contact, almost predatory looking. [Edit] Since, so many asked, I had to clarify, It's an eye to eye locked on gaze, similar to how one can exchange eye contact with a territorial feral cat, and it doesn't seem that it can be good.
Can you be more specific in what you mean? I know that sometimes (like once every 2 moths) I just can not stop looking into someones eyes for some reason and they can not stop looking in mine and it's weird af. Not about attraction (I'm hetero and this happens with women and men and even older people, but older people usually just stare it's not the weird switching between stare and looking away). Is that what you mean?
If you're average looking like me, contextual reasons are probably the majority of the reason why people stare. In the past two to three months I noticed way more people staring, both men and women. Then I realized I often wear mirror-like reflective sunglasses and they're probably just noticing the reflection.
This video just taught me why we men tend to prefer a pretty face in women we perceive has good long term partners instead of just a hot body (obviously the two would be the best deal) as the face gives the queues to personality.
I understand it might be mainly looks but I also think your energy has to do with it. So having a lot of charisma / sex appeal which isn’t only looks. And the way you carry yourself/ your posture etc. 😊
I was at a packed club in Jamaica and noticed this beautiful woman (who was with her significant other) giving me the evil death stare. I mean, if looks could kill I’d be burnt toast. So I walked up to her and told her she was so pretty and this gorgeous smile shot onto her face and she told me I was pretty too and let me get in front of her at the bar. And everyone clapped. Jk, but it reminded me of the movie Love Potion #9, where men will look at you with lust, but women will look at you as if you’re a threat. I’ve become less of a hater as I got older, and can appreciate beauty in both genders. I also notice I get a lot of looks, but not as much compliments. Give more compliments peeps, you never know who needs one!! ❤
I look at women to get fashion inspiration. And how is it weird that women like to look at beautiful women too? Why do yall assume jealousy immediately? If what you said was true you complimenting her wouldn't have diminish seeing you as a threat. Maybe she just had a rbf or even she might find women sexually attractive.
@@kop-px8jy I didn’t ask her why she looked at me like that, but I’ve seen that look enough times from women who are with their men for me to form that conclusion. I’m no model, but I’m “exotic” looking enough that people tend to be curious I suppose.
I used to date a man who told me it was irresponsible for me to go for walks because I would “cause car accidents” 😊 I always thought that was funny and now here Is Qoves saying it’s true 😏
I get stared at alot. Especially in my face. People in public places stare at me harder when they hear me speak. Some people say I have an uncanny valley aesthetic look or I look weird
Sim, eu olhei sua cara e fiquei encarando, estranho. Mas acho que o que muda é o jeito que a pessoa te encara, se ela faz alguma careta ela te acha estranha.
whoever told you that is a hater . you have an attractive face. You’re probably one of few POC in a mostly non-whatever race you are area. That can be a big factor.
Lol the „ugly guy” 2:23 has such a typical polish/slavic face. I swear he looks like a mix of my collegues and friends, and possibly because its familiar I dont find him that bad
I am saying this as a russian, I really don't like our genetics, I personally think that we are really ugly, specifically because of our fat faces and wide nostrils. It's probably my personal problem but I find every second person on the street disgusting as hell, both for women and men
@god tuna There is a relative and objective component to beauty. If everyone is objectively beautiful, people will be less excited by beauty but will still find other people attractive. Exotic features will become exciting because they are more rare and unique
Another reminder: we are animals and we naturally check our surroundings. People just happen to be in our surroundings. I have autism and I zone out often and I don't even realize that I start at people sometimes while doing it. A few days ago I accidentally stared at my great grandma for a full 10 minutes while I was dead silent, I was zoned out so I didn't even know what I was looking at, she thought something was wrong so she stood up and started shaking me and it scared me since I didn't even see her coming. I feel so bad for her, I didn't mean to worry her.
That clip was filmed in my city, Florence. Florentines are used to see huge numbers of tourists in the city center, and those tourists (with the only exception of a few Korean girls here and there, or a few couples posing for engagement pics) are usually underdressed, in un hurry, loud, at times sweaty, and wearing training shoes or ugly "German" sandals. Of course a tall, dressed-up girl on high heels (mind it: wearing high heels on the ancient stone slabs she's walking on is a pretty risky endeviour, so most people don't even make the attempt) attracts bystanders' attention.
Former fatty, lost 50 kilos. Now I get stared at all the time. Had stalkers also, female and male. Still not getting used to the change from being treated as a pariah to some kind of demigod. Sometimes I envy average guys. At least you're respected for your deeds and work, not what you look like.
I get called pretty and I'm like 30 lbs over the weight I'd like to be so I'm terrified of what it will be like when my cheekbones come through and my waist gets sinched. 🥴
@@dw9524 Yeah, I've been wondering what it will be like for me as well after I finish my aesthetics journey. My plan is just to get married and take my wife along wherever I go to avoid the unwanted attention. 😂 Kids also are a barrier against attention. I noticed nobody was staring when I took my cousin, who's a child, out for a walk. They probably thought he was my son lmao.
That awkward moment when you look at someone’s eyes from across the room but then they look back and now you are looking into each other’s eyes, and you have to smile at them to make seem like it was intentional interaction.
How about those mega beautiful women who don't get approached by men or women? What's the reason behind that? Are they coming off as intimidating? I believe Megan Fox when young she used to experience that.
I'm not Megan Fox but at school no one asked me to be their partner for the graduation dance because everyone was sure I must already have a partner. When I went to the first rehearsal alone, a lot of boys gasped 😅 because all of them had already invited someone else. And the girls were also surprised. Guess that's part of the answer.
@@marleyen hahaha that's hilarious! Yeah you must have been gorgeous indeed. How did that make you feel tho? See, those specific issues that pretty girls go through, are rarely talked about.
When he edited Kendal's face at 2:28, yeah that's how unattractive I am. People look at a person if he/she looks different whether how unattractive or attractive you are. They look at an unattractive individual to judge or criticize the person's ugliness while people stare at an attractive person to be amaze and appreciate the individual's beauty. Reality. I often get attention, like lots of attention because of how weird I look. I remember one time, someone from afar yells "ugly" at me . Way back then, I cried as I reached home but now that I remember it I thought it was funny.😂😂😂 Reality is real. Haha
I watched this only to still be confused on why people stare at me in public. I do fit the unattractive body type,I may not be obese or overweight but I'm chuby and have no waist. Plus,I only get some looks from people,no guy likes me. So I figured it's because I look weird or ugly
yeah, im guessing you look interesting as in, not generic, but whether you look interesting in an atractive way or in an ugly way... thats the mistery...
I have been stared at by many men in my life but only was approached by my boyfriend no one else ever did. I knew some guys in my old school had a crush on me though
I get looks and I'm not quite sure why, I've been told I'm attractive but it gets kinda hard to believe that when I stand at 5'6 barefoot. The only person I ever asked for clarification for this is a work friend and she said that I have the "cute good boy" look or the "boy next door" type look to people at first glance before they get to know me.
There’s also a camera following her and shes walking around like she’s the most fabulous thing in the world, which I love. But I doubt people would stare at her just because of her pretty face. If she didn’t have a camera and wasn’t walking with confidence few people would stare. Maybe just a few men who are interested.
I almost feel like that camera may have been hidden because I don’t see anyone looking in the direction of the camera-man as if the camera is going un noticed
yeah I experienced that, this girl kept staring it me without looking away she gave me the death stare XD its annoying sometimes tbh especially with a larger group u see multiple heads keep turning around like your being watched over and over for several minutes\ Qoves studio explained that part very well XD they keep staring
Obvious camera muddies the results, it creates a "procession" ...everyone stares at a "procession" because there is an event to de-code what is happening. It would be a more accurate study with either a hidden camera or camera crew trailing far far behind. Something like that.
if you take the example of people on a beach, with far less clothes on, people will tend to see the body first, & decide if they are impressed. The same is true from a distance of say...100yds away, after all from that distance we cant really tell if they have an impressive face or not (whatever that ls)
yooo that was filmed in lisbon the city where i grew up and i still live close to it all these years later, enjoy the city just don't film tiktoks plz tysm
This video implies that only attractive people get stared at, but my experience is the opposite, ive been out with my sister who is conventionally attractive, she gets leers from men and occasionally a woman or two will look. Im very unusual looking, i have exaggerated features and i get stared at all the time,even on the tube in london where its notorious for people avoiding eye contact, people will flat out gawp at me. I think the people im with are often more uncomfortable than me as im used to this shit now lol😭
Do you and your sister share similar genetics? Maybe it's just surface differences? I met my quirky friend's conventually styled identical twin. They were physical the same, but my friend shaved her hair short, dyed it green and had lots of facial piercings. Her sister had sleek straight salon looking blond hair and flattering make up. Guess which one the guys stared at more? 😏
@user-yb6tk1ru6x no haha we have very different faces, as we have different dads, I actually have the same hair color, dress sense and make up as her so it's definitely bone structure differences
It’s not qoves videos if it doesnt take me so long to watch, because i keep repeating all those terms and research I do not understand moreover without closed captiona
It is because she is being filmed. People are curious why she is being filmed. That's all. Its not that she's attractive. Most ordinary caucasian girl looks like her
People are also going to stare (at a person who's attractive or not) if they're being filmed with a camera/phone..."is this a celebrity? Do I know them? Why are they being filmed?"
Being attractive and stylish matters a lot in life. People with ugly minds also have ugly faces, and dismiss beauty as superficial. This is just a way for ugly people to avoid facts and reality. Because truth is, looks do matter a lot in life.
I think women are a bit more subtle so they won’t do it openly. My friend works in construction and he says he catches women staring at him when he’s doing work outside their office building where they have a good vantage point but are kind of out of the way as well.
You have to overwork you biological compulsion by lowering your gaze. Said the Quran and Islam Islam is the best religion in the world and already accounts for those that have this compulsion and what they are supposed to do if they are attracted to things that they can never attain.
Ive caused a car accident and other faux pas with pple in the past😮 this video is ACCURATE about pple being distracted😂 no one was hurt in the accident 😊
I can't tell (and don't care) if ppl staring at me because : 1. I'm ugly as fuxk 2. I have bad eyesight 3. Sometimes i forgot my glasses Now when it comes to staring, maybe i'm a little bit guilty 😂👀 because i can't read those damn menu, sign, board, whatever that is i can't see ittttt, and ppl happened to be in front of that and looks like i'm staring at them 👀👀👀
Everything you say is true, and I don't disagree. The people are staring at the woman because she is attractive, but they could also be staring at the cameraman who is following her while she walks seductively, wondering what she is filming. This experiment should be conducted without the cameraman being visible.
Exactly, also among the 100s of people she walked by that day, obviously some looked at her, it ain’t special, everyone get looked at at some point, if you make a compilation out of it, ofc it will make it look like everyone is staring
@@7embersVeryOwn no ones staring at an average person, unless they're doing something that intrigues you, people stare at the extremes on this scale, staring is different from a glance
In that case then I never stare at anyone, I would look at people for a few seconds and quickly look at something else because I'm afraid I will look suspicious lol
Can you tell me what does it mean if people stare for long periods of time with glares/ mean looks on they’re faces and they don’t stop staring even when you look back at them?..
The look of awe for attractive people versus the look of pity for unattractive people. People want to be friends with those who look good, people naturally gravitate to more pleasant looking humans than unpleasant ones, since childhood. I saw this myself with my nephews and nieces, they were around 3/4, and they didn't want to say hi back to someone, almost started crying, because they looked "scary"(I know the person, super nice and friendly, but facially he has a disproportionately large head and protruding eyes), while this really good looking man got their attention while waving at them, asking their names, and they weren't scared at all. Your looks and physique and skin tone, will shape how you see the world. The world's reaction to you is who you are, at least in your developing years. Yes individually someone may like you as a person, but in a general sense, your likeability is completely dependent on how you look. Life's game is rigged indeed.
It can get you in the door but doesn't keep you there if you don't develop your finer qualities whereas somebody less attractive can grow on you . I personally gravitate towards less attractive people to befriend and date because they seem less high maintenance and intimidating .
"The world's reaction to you is who you are," You phrased it very well. And this is what i always felt and i shaped my personality in response to the reaction of the people towards me.
Thanks Qoves for helping us understand the great mystery as to why attractive people get attention in public. Because I was definitely confused about this before.
In India everyone stares at everyone. It gets confusing why people are staring at you. Do they find you attractive or staring at you out of disgust or they stare because what they do or find you suspicious.
As a woman I stopped wearing cute clothes because people stare, then I realised men stare no matter what you wear. I’ve noticed women be rude or pass snarky remarks esp if I dressed cute. I understand the male gaze, I just don’t understand women being mean to other women, my girl gang and I appreciate beautiful men and women for eg. would remark how cute a girl is. Women appreciating women is the truest compliment you can receive because men would f a pole. Women need to realise another women’s shine doesn’t dull yours. Being rude and mean makes your personality ugly and unattractive.
I'm a man, I don't find poles f'able, I would love to stare at woman if they were less hostile to it. We're not doing harm just admiring, instead I have to time my glance and worry I'll get in trouble for looking too long.
@Nay I had this happen before actually, usually I just leave and try not to make eye contact. I dont like hurting others feelings so i sometimes end up acting socially unaware, i agree that it's a complicated matter.
Body language and fashion plays a lot into that: I made an experiment in a club:I was well groomed and dressed in a fitted semi-formal outfit with a nice watch and necklace, with my shoulders slightly back, open body language and moving slowly, as if I was the owner checking everything. I got a lot of stares, girls surrounding me and guys greeting me, starting conversations, etc. Now if I had just worn random baggy clothes, ugly shoes and standing in the corner with my beer, slouched and hand in my pocket, I would´ve been invisible, even as an attractive guy. There is much more in your control than you think.
That woman and any of the people doing these "people staring at me" videos... they are staring because you have a camera following you and you are dressed up walking around dramatically. I'm sure people would also look at them for their beauty too, but willing to bet the main reason is out of curiosity. Anytime I'm taking pictures or videos in public people always look. People also stare when you're dressed weird, acting strange, or unconventionally attractive.
@@halobaby0331 ehh … you’re reaching. She’s got a really good blow dry done and good clothes… other than that there’s nothing special about her physical looks. Just another everyday white girl
@@halobaby0331 oh im absolutely not saying shes not attractive, but honestly not to the level of staring at like her video portrays. She looks like a normal nice woman and I definitely wouldn’t be gawking if I passed her in public, but I also just think staring is rude and hate when people do it to me.
Don’t be bitter. I want to know why in more detail why people stare at me. That’s why we watch these videos. Your so so soooooo smart for cutting to the chase 😒
Clothes definitely matter, when I wear a top or a cute dress people definitely stare more, when I dress plainly I blend in. So I guess the body thing you talked about
I catch people staring at me in public often. They usually look away guiltily and i never know whether it's cause they think I'm attractive or i just have spinach in my teeth 😒. I rate myself a 6.5. And when i catch them staring a second time, that's when it starts to feel weird 🤨
Your face isn't beautiful. You look average. Of course a dress stands out, because only a very little number of women wesr dresses or look feminine at all.
Because I'm so profoundly ugly i warp the very fabric of reality around me, it's very hard for people not to stare when children and pets that look up at me are atomising as their innocence is confronted with the lovecraftian horror that is my visage.
@@deemah3602 I don’t think that’s a good comparison lol. Me personally I have a hard time keeping my eyes on “ugly” people. It triggers my brain to cringe
As a tall woman (175cm) I often felt like people were staring at me for no reason other than me being taller than them. Especially older people lol. Sometimes I like it, sometimes I hate it. I envy people who can blend into a crowd more easily when they want to. I dont always want to be a focal point.
Same. I simply wear even bigger clothes and slack my posture a bit. It helps. People find me intimidating/arrogant sometimes when I'm dressed up. Can be exhausting. It's like to have a pedestal attached to your feet. I can't see where heels would help. When I look more like them I look human.
The most I ever got harassed on a single walk, I was walking to the doctors while sick. I was completely covered by loose, plain, dirty clothes with unbrushed hair, looking objectively unattractive. I walked the same path I’d pass every day, usually looking good, hair done, nice outfit and unbothered by strangers. Yet this time, I was hit on verbally 3 times on top of stares. It still confused me a bit, but my mom told me it’s because these people are looking for vulnerability
Yeah i notice I get hit on when I'm wearing plain clothes than when I have a nice outfit on. I think when you are done up you look more "intimidating".
That’s so weird! I have the complete opposite reactions - I get harassed when I wear makeup and I get left alone and pretty much ignored when I’m not wearing any.
why would they be looking for volnutability? That happens to me as well . I get approached when I'm at my worst and dressed down with no makeup and mostly when I look completely tired and exhausted or very sleepy. Men stare like predators and they try to abroach me and women look and smile When I'm dressed well and put together with make up and feeling comfident men make. a quick stare and move away and women give me evil stares...
The only time a guy was creepy towards me it was when I was in dispair (personal reasons), so my body language became vulnerable. He quickly left me alone after my body language perked back up to how it usually is though. I found that really interesting.
I've never been able to decide if I'm attractive or unattractive and it has caused me a lot of internal turmoil, but I treat everyone with respect and politeness and I can promise you that matters a lot more than being conventionally attractive. A cheap product can look real nice until you try to use it
Whether you’re conventionally attractive or unattractive by society’s standards, also remember to treat yourself with respect. At the end of the day I honestly don’t know whether I’m attractive or not either, but I know 2 things for sure: 1) my physical appearance will never be able to please everyone (so why try?) 2) i’m stuck with my body and face for a lifetime, so i might as well learn to genuinely love and appreciate them without the outside influence and acceptance of others
If women you don’t know compliment your appearance you’re attractive, if they don’t you’re not. Tinder is a good way to judge too as it’s very much based on aesthetics
the problem with all this is that u can't figure out whether u are very ugly or very pretty because both of them people stare at you, and if u ask people u know they just say "nooo ur not ugly", but im pretty sure im ugly but im just tall so people stare cause i stand out
There is a beauty backlash also. I read from Daniel Mackler a former therapist has observed the opposite of pretty privilege in counseling attractive women. They experience a lot of pain and depression bc ppl automatically think that they steal their men and mothers are jealous of their attractive daughters and treat them with contempt. I’ve experienced this myself from my mother in my formative years. Subsequently I’ve suffered from depression bc the way ppl have treated as a young woman. I’m older now and am more comfortable with being less attractive.
I never considered mothers being jealous of their daughters beauty but I could totally see that. God, imagine having the person responsible for your livelihood just burn and seeth with jealousy towards you, what a nightmare.
@@Aaron-kj8dv My mother constantly putted me down all my childhood while complimenting my little sister and I was so hurt because I couldn't understand why. Her constant bashing made me feel so ugly and I couldn't understand what I did to deserve this treatment compared to my sister. One day when I confronted her, she told me : "People are always saying how pretty you are and not your sister so I treat her better so that it's more balanced".. hearing that from my mother was worse than a punch in the stomach. I would have traded compliments from strangers anytime for feeling loved and appreciated by my mother
Simply she's tall, striking and elegant. Also it takes confidence in your appearance to pull of her fashion sense which in her case being attractive and tall helps. Most people dress like npcs to avoid standing out due low self esteem
I agree with most of what you said except for the last part. I don't understand where you get the correlation that with, "most people dressing like npc because they have low self esteem." In my experience is just that fashion is usually the last thing people think about, you know they're more important than your appearance. Even though I considered myself to be fashionable, I understand people have other things to worry about other than your shoes matching with your outfit.
I like the western style eye contact stand off xD so I usually dress really well (button shirt, black jeans, partially black glasses (you can still clearly see where I'm looking), etc. People say I look like an FBI agent or a bodyguard) or really badly (my work clothes, torn up, greased, etc). I love the "really badly" dressed cause I get overlooked and it makes my introverted senses feel more at ease (less feelings of "I'm being watched" or "someone will want to talk to me", idk when I'm not "prepared to socialize" I just can't xD otherwise I'm such a good speaker that I've represented my college twice already) I've also noticed introverted women dress in non-striking and just kinda pretty clothes or just "normal" clothes.
Last part is the dumbest thing ever, sorry. I knew a lot of girls who're at least pretty and believe me, they know they're pretty, but after some time got tired of annoying attention, and chose to dress more modestly and greyishly I guess? I'm rambling right now, cause it's not the first time I'm seeing overusing the phrase low self esteem
