Being #alone is seen as a negative thing in society, but I believe this is an important skill that we all need to master. Creating alone time for yourself will prepare on this journey of self improvement where many people are not trying to become the best versions of themselves, but you are! This creates a natural separation and it’s up to you to stay focused and not get distracted with feeling lonely, catching up on bad habits. This video will help you master the art of being alone. Thank you for watching! God bless you all! Social media Instagram | maliquedlewis One on one consultations | forpurposedrivenmen@gmail.com
THANK GOD FOR ANOTHER DAY !!!!,THANK GOD FOR WAKING US UP, MAKE SURE TO PRAY READ BIBLE VERSES REPENT AND SPREAD THE GOSPEL STAY SAFE AND STAY BLESSED WE ARE ALL BLESSED, AND GRATEFUL, MAY GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL ABUNDANTLY, MAY GOD BLESS ALL YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS SOULS ABUNDANTLY , we will sleep BLESSED, Peacefully, Safe , Protected in GOD’S ARMS HAVE A SAFE AND BLESSED DAY, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO CHRIST
The hardest thing is sitting with yourself. I stopped tapping in with my (homies/ girls)partying, bar hopping. That shit sucked I didn’t know what to do without my (homies/girls) once I stopped hitting them up, No no one hits me up at all. I struggled with my thoughts and all that. Once I made a routine for myself, I started doing better on my own. Now I love doing my own thing.going out to eat, working out and all that it’s amazing but once in a while I miss the (homies/girls) IM AT PEACE KNOWING I GOT ME NOW. I WAS FR LOST AROUND ALL THOSE PEOPLE but didn’t see it UNTILE I SEPARATED MYSELF.
You got you!! You’re free fam. Most people aren’t, they need others to function. But you’re self sufficient now and you’re able to take care of yourself and be good. Proud of u bro 💯💯
Same situation for me. Once I started on my self improvement journey and got sober I noticed how lonely life got real quick. I was the only one hitting up the homies and making effort , plans etc but once I stopped , no one ever hit me up. It was huge hit to my ego and to my mental. But in reality one cares for you like that. Everyone’s selfish and just wants what’s best for them so you gotta want that for yourself and put yourself on a pedestal. I’m now at a point where no one ever checks In on me and ngl it kinda stings. I hate having to rely on people for happiness and motivation so I started doing that for myself. Like you said ,once YOU got you and you can rely on yourself and manage on your lonesome life just hits different. Don’t nobody gotta f*** with me at this stage In my life. I love myself and how far I’ve come and nobody can take that away from me. Best thing a man can do is start rocking alone for a while. Fr.
I think this is really important. I also think having good social health is important. Being vulnerable not just with yourself, but with others you trust is good for you. Having people in your life that you trust is good for you. Yes you need to be able to be self sufficient and take care of yourself both mentally and physically. But once you achieve that you also need to have a social life. I think it’s a myth to think that you don’t need one because the only reason that humans have made it this far is our ability to socialize which most other creatures on earth are not as good at as us. I’m not saying you should NEED your friends. But the same way you NEED your family sometimes as a shoulder to lean on, sometimes you need friends in the same way. Knowing that you are self sufficient and happy with yourself, while also having a support system for the times where you aren’t in the best headspace, is the ultimate level of peace. A lot of the problems you’re talking about come from being friends with the wrong people. Not the friends.
My girl left me 3months ago. Sometimes the loneliness punches me right in the face, I’m just getting better…even tho it hurts so bad Im finally seeing clearly, when she was here I wasn’t putting in as much work as I’m doing now. Started a online business, started hitting the gym and decided to finish flight school. sometimes a break up can be a blessing
@@sthomas730 bruh we all going through it rn lol. Hope y'all keep it going and find yourself in a better place than when y'all were together. Stay blessed
Me and my ex literally just broke up last night. We have a baby otw and we only gone be communicating about the child. I honestly dont know how to feel.
I know this is a little off topic but one thing that helped me find my confidence was keeping in mind that no matter what happens in life God had blessed me with two legs and the ability to walk away from any situation. I learned to not hide and to put my true self out there and if you don’t love me for who I am then leave me alone. I also find confidence in the fact that I’m ok with being alone because I know God is with me no matter where I go in life and out of every single existing being he is the only being that loves me for my soul and not what I can do or can give, and I couldn’t ask for a better friend
This is it man. Spent half my life dating I'm 25 now spent the last 3 years alone and now I realize that I don't need to be a "dick" and change who I truly am because of the way others treated me. You can not give up who you are for nobody it's exactly what you said man, having the ability to walk away. I never had that man now i know that not everybody deserves my time, my energy, this is EARNED. And I take pride in that, in who I am I'm not just a open book everyone can peel pages from anymore. And that holds true power! Keep going bro! You are on the right path
I just got out of a relationship. Went into a relationship knowing I wasn’t ready, ended up hurting the other person heart. Taught me I’d have to love myself more and really work on myself. Maybe Gods telling me I’m not particularly ready for a relationship. As I need to change and transform into a man, I need that change. Tired of my old immature ways.
Wow, I’m extremely grateful, I’ll put it to good use! May God continue to bless you and may we continue being the best versions of ourselves. Thank you again, it means a lot! 🙏🏽
@@ForPurposeDrivenMen You're welcome my brother! 🙏🏾 You are an awesome path, I appreciate the wisdom you share, it's been helping me out a lot. That bachelor's degree is not no small thing that's for sure. God is using you for some very good things, I can't wait to see what's around the corner! I'm going on 46 years old and I wish I had half of the wisdom you have at your age. I'm learning now, thank you! 😁
So nice to hear other men talking about things like this. Sometimes you start to feel like it’s not worth it and maybe it’s not the right route. But just because you have to handle things solo for a time, don’t mean you’re necessarily alone. Greatness doesn’t come easy 🙏🏼
I needed this bro, I'm so glad I found this channel. Me and my gf just broke up last week and it's been a struggle ever since and now that I found purpose driven men, it's helping I know what I need to do I know how to improve my life I'm taking the steps it's glow up time time for myself.
Around 5:18 i felt that. I rarely go out / treat myself to something unless i have plans with somebody but I’m beginning to change my way of thinking to making plans for myself more. I may extend an open invite to someone id enjoy spending time with but even if no one else is going i still intend to go for me. Just tried a new froyo spot intentionally by myself a couple days ago & ill never forget the day i had a movie date set up for the dark knight batman movie. Date didn’t show up that time but i stayed to watch that solo & ended up being one of my favorite movie experiences.
I mastered being alone once last year, I go to gym alone eat alone and then i got a girlfriend ,now she leaving me and im begging her to stay with me i love her besides me because we hangout almost everyday we eat together everyday, man it's hard being alone when you got your love you finding for.
Recently been in an accident, it was a blessing where God shows you that no one is there but him. Everyone is there in the shine but no one is there for the grind...stay blessed
Spend almost about all my time in a small room in a shelter and my ex got with a new guy barely a month later noe and she then was talking and reposting so much garbage about me( ik i shouldnt have looked but who hasnt once) since then i blocked her and that guy on everything and just being alone with the thoughts and memories that we had just suddenly are disregarded by someone who didnt actually care for my well being and betrayed me but this channel and the comments and god help me get through everyday man and i appreciate you for helping me open and look into myself like i should have long ago 🙏
I’ve worked since I finished of high school. I went to the military for a year and now I have worked as a chef for three years. I never felt like I spent enough time thinking about what my values are and what I would like to do during my younger years. I have worked with good people and learned a lot from them, but now I have to focus on me even though I love them so much, I have to continue improving. I recently quit my job to go on a “bikepacking” tour from Norway to Portugal, to experience cultures, languages and food. (All related to future plans) This is a trip only meant for me, planned by me, and honestly I’m nervous, excited, anxious, but extremely motivated. Thank you for a push in the right direction my friend. I’m starting to understand my path and I wish all the homies watching these videos all the best!
How to promote a drink without saying it 😂, but on some real stuff he’s right and although it’s a sad and unspoken milestone in one’s life, everyone should realize that you will never be able to fully rely on someone else despite how close or loving they are, it’s everyone for themselves in this journey
This video brilliantly captures the importance of embracing solitude to foster self-growth and discipline. Emphasizing personal goals over external validation not only strengthens self-reliance but also paves the way for profound personal achievements. 👌
Im up here watching the vid (9-18) thinking wait a min bro cursing lol 😂 this gotta be an old vid. But the message still resonates today. ✊🏿 much respect and blessings bro. Staying 🔒 in
THANK GOD FOR ANOTHER DAY !!!!,THANK GOD FOR WAKING US UP, MAKE SURE TO PRAY READ BIBLE VERSES REPENT AND SPREAD THE GOSPEL STAY SAFE AND STAY BLESSED WE ARE ALL BLESSED, AND GRATEFUL, MAY GOD BLESS YOUR SOUL ABUNDANTLY, MAY GOD BLESS ALL YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS SOULS ABUNDANTLY , we will sleep BLESSED, Peacefully, Safe , Protected in GOD’S ARMS HAVE A SAFE AND BLESSED DAY, GIVE YOUR LIFE TO CHRIST
I been feeling so alone but I got so many people around me. my friends in physics in class make me feel isolated and only give me their partial attention they act like I'm not mature enough to be with them, and then my other friends just are the other way around they feel like real friends but I just dont think I can tell them certain things and same time they're a bit immature and I don't really see myself staying friends with them for long. I say that these people are my friends but I just don't have any best friends Im just me and Im just talking to everyone when they have nobody else to talk to basically a floater friend. I don't have anyone who considers me a best friend or someone I've been close with for a long time. I just can't take it man. everyday Im just alone nobody to talk to and I just sit in silence by myself feeling neglected and even though I try to be the positive person thats trying to inspire others and try to get close to them they always put a barrier between me and them. All I ask for is a true friend who cares for me and loves me and is willing to listen to me and be there for me when I need someone to talk to.
Facts, I really understand this. Real friends are hard to come by. What helped me was to stop searching and just start focusing on me and myself. Eventually the right people will enter your life! Trust me 🙏🏽💯
Yeaaa! Funny how I have already been alone from the beginning but I forced friendships / relationships cos I go tired of being alone but that came with utmost disrepect since I decided to be on my own lane and focus on me ! I stopped getting the calls and all
Ita been 4 months since I see a girl who has a 10 year old relationship and she will get married next year, at first everything was fun, but now we have feelings for each other, she told me that im not just a fun for her, she is always careful with me, brings me food to my place and make small gifts, one day she told me that The day will come when will it End between us. At the moment we are feeling good and make love when we meet, but im also confused at the same time… I dont know what to do, some tips please?
I understand what he is saying but I don’t use this same same approach. I do agree that it’s ok to be alone but it’s not something you should ALWAYS get use to. I’m a firm believer in the Bible and its teachings and it encourages me and us to be around like minded people. Not saying you need to be around people but it’s always to be around like minded people because when you Mr by yourself you cannot keep yourself accountable. You still can work on your goals, but together.
I respect this too brother, I believe that friends will naturally come, we shouldn't force people in our lives or befriend everyone. We get like minded people around naturally, but it may not come overnight. Thats part of the reason why its important to love your own company, theres many more reasons, but if you got good people around thats a blessing, most people don't have that. Especially men who are self improving, most of us guys had to cut people off because they didn't want to self improve as well.
You know, I recently moved. I’m 21, so it’s my first time. I already realized that there are just certain things I need to go through alone. Things I need to work on, fix, get better at and I must do so alone. I was just thinking this and then you dropped this vid lol. More blessings to you brother.
Perfect timing brother! Congratulations on the move I know you’ll do great things where you’re at. And like you said, it starts with working on yourself, the alone time you have will help you do that! 🙏🏽
@@ForPurposeDrivenMen Appreciate it man. I actually found you a day after the move. Glad I did! I support your message 100%. Keep doing your thing man. 💯🙏
THANK YOU BRO. I am 21 years and i see myself in you. I just bumped on this video on my 2nd month of my monk mode. I was overwhelmed trying to go up with my friends who were never on the same page with me. I decided to go solo. Fasting, meditation, working out, semen Retention and reading books has been my new route. I give it one year and it will make sense. Stay focused on your purpose kings. We gonna make it!
The realization I had to myself. You must have these talks with yourself but not only talk about it yourself. But the most important part apply it. Talking to god also helps
bruh i just turned 18 i dunno wtf you talking, like nothing of that. You all like you gotta prepare for your future family and the woman of your dreams. But i realized that i'm just living life, and enjoying it, i dont care nothing 'bout that prep for my future girl of family. And about this video: but i like to be with people, i didn't understand your pov. If i invite people to basketball game or the gym or to play music or to study is going to be more fun and i'm going to get stronger and smarter.
I feel like I’ve been alone for so long now that I kinda need the support, but I hate asking for it because then I feel like it’s not genuine. Now I don’t know if I just deal with waves of sadness or straight up depression & lowkey feel like it’s hindering me from wanting to keep making videos and content on my channel😮💨
Mannnn this resonated with me completely. I had to cut out all the negatives to get to where I’m at in life now. Went from a broke dude partying every other day to making that six figures and living comfortably 🙌🏽💯 It’s tough disconnecting from what we’re used to but for the ones that are still struggling to do so, just know you got it. Stay motivated and create goals for yourself and it’ll come to you 💪🏽
I’ve had a lot of health problems in life. It’s been a rollercoaster. You think things will get better, but not always. I’ve had some successful relationships that ended amicably, others that didn’t end so well. Beyond just women, maintaining friendships has grown difficult. It’s hard to be with anyone. It’s hard to be someone’s friend. It’s hard enough being there for myself. Though, at the same time, I do miss having people in my life. I feel like I’m a stranger to the world. And as alone as I’ve been in life, as much as I try to have fun on my own, or as much as I think I am comfortable with it… I think the feeling of loneliness is inescapable at times. But, no, your happiness shouldn’t depend entirely on someone else being in your life. Maybe this was just my excuse to vent? I guess I just don’t want people to mistake being confident in being alone as an excuse to isolate themselves from the world.
been alone my whole life. turning 21 soon and ive been more disciplined the past month than i ever have. ive struggled with loneliness but this gave me a new perspective
I needed this video bro. I've been inconsistent lately. I love my girlfriend but I feel like she's slowly me down . She want to talk to me every single day. And I wanna make RU-vid videos. I love that about her but at the same time I hate it coz I just want to work on my dreams. Idk what to do coz she really loves me and she shows it. And I love her too. But I'm 21 and I live in my parents home. I just want to be consistent with my life. Anyways thanks for the video Reporting from south africa 🇿🇦
Love to South Africa 🇿🇦! First off thank you for watching and supporting brother. Secondly, right now is the time to lock in on your goals. Please never forget that God, Purpose, taking care of yourself comes first. And then you can pour into others. We cannot pour from an empty cup. You got this!
You should really start a podcast on spotify, id honestly listen to it i dont have the time to sit and watch these videos all the time so id rather listen while going about my day
yo this is kinda off topic but what do you think about the rise of AI? ive seen this video where you can like video chat with AI and the AI can actually have emotions, help you out with homework etc. how do you think it will effect socioty and relationships and other stuff?
Great question fam, I think we will have a choice between the digital world and the real world. Some people will use AI 24/7 and be in the internet world instead of interacting within the real world
Brother I’m praying for you I’m sorry for your loss, it’s okay to sit with those emotions, just keep in mind she’s above brother and remember the good times, let the love you had for her give you strength to walk a new day! I love you bro and I support you. 🙏🏽
I really needed this. I started walking with God. And I was reading Psalms 69 the other day it “started saying I have become a stranger to my brothers, And an alien to my mother’s children” I wept because I’m at the point where I’ll will give it all up for God, no likes me because I tell the truth. But I feel more myself than ever and Closer to God then I ever have😮💨.
try semen retention ....increasing your testosterone and androgen receptor sensitivity will help you a lot as a man to be resilient against trouble and hardships in life . I advice my friends about this all the time but they do not listen ..im hoping i can get to you.
I love the videos Frfr keep it bro you giving me a motivation, hope and wanna grown better and when you talk about how men need to learn how to be alone I felt that Frfr
Been there done that now I audition people I want in my life. I claimed my power and I'm not willing to lose that because of co-dependent individuals. In short I feel you bro. I'm from South Africa and Thank you for this channel.
This man dropped some cold hard facts, and even took the time to like and answer to every comment, way to actually care about your audience! Keep preaching bro, God bless!
Thank you so much I’m going through a lot but I struggle with long term consistency I’ll do something for a month or two then sway away because of the people around me but this video just told me exactly what I gotta do and some people may get left behind but it’s my life so I gotta do me so I can get better
Good message here brother. It’s good to hear and see a bunch of other men on similar journeys. I’m finding it tough sitting with myself now after being intertwined with a chick and now feeling that absence but it’s words like these that help me through a mundane Monday. Got to just grind, keep my head up, and keep it pushing. Dating and pampering myself for the next 6 months before entertaining anyone.
Let’s goo! Those are gonna be some of the best 6 months bro, not because of excitement or fun but because of necessary healing and you evolving into the purpose driven man you were always destined to become. Let’s keep being great bro 💪🏽
bro im going through this at 20, feeling like i need to be people around me to validate me but whenever i bring people i just clash with them because apparently im too serious n stuff but i needed this man i was even considering getting a girlfriend even though i know i dont afford nun of that. thanks alot brother imma try my hardest to stay focused nd tap in
In my experience alone time has helped me elevate! And so has collaboration, but without working on myself first I don’t have much to offer. You got this bro 🙏🏽 keep working on you!
