Why I stopped selling Filipino cookies 

i love a chocolate chunk cookie! i wanna try the ube coconut and corn cheese cookies

Oatmeal raisin is soooo good and very underrated.

@@akachickennuggets9190 my mom eats those kinds of cookies I don’t really like them tho

Cookie with a big chunk if chocolate inside

Snickerdoodle

Definitely. I make food for people just for fun and they're always like "I'll pay you whatever you want!" And my mom thinks that I should take advantage of that. But I like to cook and bake for others because I like the look on their face when they taste it and they genuinely like it. It just makes me happy to see others happy.

It literally is for every one, it's what we used to do before we let modern convenience culture ruin EVERYTHING it touched.

Um. Okay. So you're gonna let some people who are supposedly above you dictate your life? And your gonna change your life to fit THEIR schedule when they tell you?

@@SD-hc4nj Either way, even if you were to own your own bakery, you still have to cater to your customer's demands. Baking for them or baking a cake for events, etc. That's still trying to fit into the paying customer's schedule. Same thing with art (taking people's request what design they want and finish it before the customer's deadline), music (still taking people's request to compose a certain song and finish it before the deadline or following the schedule for the events you need to perform at), photography (going to events to take photos, editing it and be able to finish all that on the schedule the customer needs those photos), architecture, etc.

@@probablynotdad6553 do you realize how long the hours are of a farmer? In harvest season, it can go to 15-20 hours in a row of back breaking work. There is no “I’m too sick to water the cows.” When you hear something out attacking your chickens, you go out and see. And then you barely make a profit. Being your own boss is really hard and it takes more discipline than makes sense for all life styles and personalities. And the next time you have mail delivered, drive your car on roads, or get a pay check in a legal tender, that’s the work of hundreds of people who work for someone else.

In a Capitalist society where everyone's fending for themselves, many think its a compliment to urge you to forge your own path in the rat race with a skill you have.

Couldn’t have spoken better words.

This.

Yeah this the reason why i didnt want to go to an art school, i like to draw but i dont want to make it as my job cause ik itll just burn me out in the future

Yup

Same. Work a 9 to 5 in healthcare but always wanted to work for myself. I enjoy designing hand made jewelry, but that was the fun. Making something for a friend or family, but when it came to making 20 or more of the same item for sale the joy was gone. That meant it was a hobby and not a business. This happened to me with other projects too. Meanwhile for years I would write for fun but never thought about sharing it with others. One day my mom told me once again I should try writing as a career. This time I actually thought about it and got past the self-doubt. Thinking about writing for others has improved my writing style already and I've started sharing my writing with others. I had always heard if you do what you love the money will come. I spent years looking for that something and not realizing I was doing what I loved all along. One good thing is I have dozens of stories, some even series, my biggest problem picking which ones to do first. It's still fun.

same I'm only 12 and my parents are forcing me too sell them

It is stressful. I ended up selling beautiful pieces of art for very little, just to make rent 😢 at home hobbies need to stay at home ❤ God Bless

And when you do, those people who told you to sell, will not buy.

Well this isn't a hobby but.... I decided stay home after I had a baby, then after had my 2nd as well. Then as tots their friends would be over to playdate at our home alot of course with the parents as well. One day hubby walks in and says wow lot of kids here every day your doing great job why dont u open a day care?🙄🙄

Omgs exactly what happenes to me!

I dont know if it's just Filipinos, but i hear this happen a lot. People dont think about how much you spent on the ingredients and the amount tof time and work you put in, They just expect favours as an entitlement for knowing you personally. You should have stuck to your gun and sold them at the proper price. Then only those who can properly compensate your efforts will buy.

Its with a twinge of humor i state: lemme get this straight, you want my food THEN you ask for a discount?!?! HA! Business is business and if im WORKING and hard, you pay DOUBLE!!!🤨🤨🤨😝😝😝seriously tho, you already know choice is important! Good decision 🙏🏻🧐🙏🏻❤️

If it were me, I'd of stopped giving it to them after they asked for a discount just because they knew me. It's not okay for people to start doing that, because it falls into the same boat of people who want free wedding photos just because the photographer is their friends. To each their own, though.

Exactly my dear❤

RIGHT? Also they're not aware of what it takes to maintain a bakery 😱

Omg somebody gets me!

It's the capitalist mindset... Everything needs to be "for profit" and if it isn't, people think it's not worth the time 😌

@@JazzyB9481 "Capitalist" mindset isn't all it. There has to be some passion at some point usually during the start of it. I mean how would you live if you do not get any profit from it? Plus with all the risks, you'd want to get a reasonable profit for the services/goods given. Anyone would be a saint if they do not want any renumeration from the effort/work they put out off. Well corporations and group of companies think differently though, but for the single proprietor you'd profit from it by not a lot of margins.

yeah i think my mom would extremely relate

So true!:)

Beautifully expressed ❤️

Sir … stop exposing me

Thank you! 🙌

i love this comment! explains my life.

Dang! Yeah it's so strange how the things we love end up turning sour when we do it against our will. I hope you enjoy your career as a flight attendant instead?

@@Jeanelleats Video Creation #1, Flying, #2. Aviation has dramatically changed from when I first started, so it's now secondary.

My sister love wild photography. She does it as hobby in weekends, managing her full time job. And people just bombards her how she is not making any money. How she should do wedding photography and start charging people. I hate it so much. ☹️

@@gia3561 meanwhile if you actually do photography or art as a job people are like “yikes you could be making so much more money with a real job.” Lol can’t win!

Thanks for mentioning how it undercuts professionals! I’m just starting a business as a fine artist and I recently had a conversation with my friend’s partner who has been a part time DJ for a long time. She says sometimes she feels bad being part-time because she feels her lack of commitment harms others in her field by reinforcing the idea that it’s just a hobby job. When people think you love your job they want you to do it for free and it makes it so hard for creative professions. And it compounds that problem when there are part-timers and hobbyists who are willing to work for cheap or for free! As a part-time DJ she always insists on making every gig professional and charging fair market price. A lot of people hiring for weddings boohoo the cost of DJs or musicians but come on, weddings are expensive. If you’re going to drop $1,000 on flowers and then expect a DJ/musician/photographer to work the whole night for $100 you’re not seeing the artist as a human being with a career and bills to pay, and that’s very inconsiderate. So I appreciate your attitude towards keeping a hobby a hobby. I also understand how it can feel when people think if you can do one creative thing then you can do any of them lol. Taking your own pictures is one thing, wedding photography is a whole nother beast lol. And trying to do it when you don’t know how because someone asked you to usually makes everyone unhappy in the end. Like the amount of times I’ve been asked to create logos and posters…. I paint portraits and scenes with animals damnit I’m not a graphic designer lol. I volunteer with a non-profit and I grudgingly do the graphic stuff because the intern just cannot and I know they don’t have enough money to hire a designer but I don’t like it based on the principles I mentioned. And the stuff I make is amateurish lol. I refuse to do drawing and painting for free though because it is my livelihood and I feel the need to take on the System and fight the “paid in exposure” attitude. I’m so ready for “paid in exposure” to die lol. We have social media now, no one needs word-of-mouth exposure that I know of. It only advertises to other people who want free art. Anyways… professional pay for professional work and hobbies for personal fulfillment ❤️

Same for me. A lot of people told me I'd should go to art school because I enjoy drawing, only for art school to suck the enjoyment out of making art. Now, I'm switching majors and simply keeping art a hobby.

I relate! I had the same problem before but now I've started tattooing and I love it! I still get to draw on my own terms because of flash sheets and I get to decide if and when I want to do commissions. I also really love tattoos so this is the perfect job for me and I'm so happy I found it and I still like drawing, painting, sculpting, jewelry making and sewing as a hobby :) It sometimes takes a while to find a job that's for you and I'm so happy that you're happy now!! :)

@@purpling True! I've had certain people tell me that I seem like an Arts Major or that I should start doing commissions. But I agree that it takes so much effort, and it's just something I like to do when I'm in the mood. Plus, there's just so much competition if I start doing commissions.

omg... I feel this so hard lol but im already gonna graduate soon with my degree lolll i'll see where itll take me but good on ya!

I loved art, but I don’t like how people are making me draw things for them, like when you do self portraits all the classmates come up to me and go “I need help with the eyes!” Like do it yo self man- it I’ll put my signature on it when I’m finished. Now I try to decline all of the help people, cause they need to learn how to do it themselfves but I could help with them but not draw it out for them without telling them how to do it.

I loathed commissions and very quickly realized I don’t like taking them. I draw for me now and it’s so much better :)

i do agree with you, when you paint there is joy doing it according to your time frame, and there is no pressure. You can sell it for a cause for charity that you want to be part with or for personal gift.... same in baking...

Me, whose friends deadass gave me timelines because they have no consideration for my errand vagabond schedule: 🤡

I think you dont need to put a deadline (obviously not 4 months for a draw for example). I mean you could put in your conditions "I will take my time to make a draw that Im comfortable with" or something like that

@@rotiel6761 yeah I made the mistake of commissioning someone with the "I'll take my time" approach for a simple bust of my OC and its been 2 years of me trying to get it :/ a deadline for me would simultaneously make me work but also make me hate it.

Ok

So do you puke when you do the same exact work everyday? Like maybe in your office?

@@cd1471 creative work (which stimulates the mind beyond pencil pushing and involves working with your hands and creating something tangible) and busy work are two different things bub.

@@PoptartParasol your use of bub is nauseating shut up.

@Trigger The Left I guess that @S D is one of those feverent followers of the "making a living out of your passion/interest/hobby etc no matter what until successful" mantra

​@@colekter5940 ...People like you are why there's no room for nuance in online conversations anymore.

Very true!

Not for all people, but I can see why people feel that way

this!

What about Ariana grande

100%

so are you back working at the spa or somewhere else maybe unrelated to your study? I feel like both working under people and starting your own company can be equally as taxing but i'm glad it works out for you!

Omg girl same. I grew to hate this career and I haven't even finished it but already went through two bougie Toxic salons. I'm working at a kitchen gadget store in a mall and I'm so much happier just working my 9 to 5

You are a girl boss. You’re a girl boss for realizing you didn’t like your job and not forcing yourself to stick with it because it paid well. You’re a girl boss for making your own business. You’re even more of a girl boss for dropping it because you didn’t like it, even when everyone is pushing for us to monetize our hobbies. I’m glad you’re happier and I hope you have a successful life!

_Etc*_*_*_* (Sorry to be “that guy” lol 😳🙈)

Meanwhile many migrants come to us can’t speak a stitch of English, work factory cleaning toilet jobs til they make enough $$ to open a tiny beauty salon…5 years later they ballin’ in a double retail front, retain staff of 12+ and plan to expand and open franchises statewide. Nothing to do with being a “girl boss” and everything to do with drive, determination, and hunger…some ppl are built for it and these I find are the ones who do less complaining and more work, less time seeing the many obstacles in front of them and more time planning how to get over those obstacles.

Same ☹️.

Exactly. I do run a small business selling handmade items and have discovered that I am also a perfectionist when it comes to someone paying for something, and there are times when I'll get stressed and remake something just because of a tiny nearly invisible flaw, but if I was just making it for fun it would be perfectly fine as it is.

Jazmin, I hope you’re able to eventually rekindle your once burning passion for baking and of course just ENJOY it! It’s perfectly acceptable and crucial to take time away from a hobby if you’re feeling a lack of motivation, etc. The down time will heal your exhaustion, feeling overwhelmed, etc. EVERYONE needs a break from work, education and even passions!

I thought I was the only one who experienced this

I hope you've been able to find something that takes the place of baking for fun in your life.

💯💯💯 it seems to make sense too, but still feels cringy lol

My aunt owns a couple restaurants in Brazil and she’s miserable. Literally 24/7 worrying about something in her business

Wow dude how old are you? I don't remember like any of the episodes from my childhood 😂

isn't that the plot of good will hunting

@@Kelly_C lol

I love Recess ☺

What about if you do what you love you'll never work a day in your life?

I went to a Music Conservatory and had similar experiences. Constantly getting graded and critiqued sucked the fun right out of it. I stopped performing altogether for quite a few years after before I could regain confidence and love for it again.

Could not agree more. Only a decade later have I found myself drawn back to it, no judgment or pressure (and it’s fun again! I hope you find the same experience)

There's a local therapist willing to help you I'm sure

The lack of team is what makes it unbearable. Properly established company would have marketing department, customer care dept, kitchen staff, cashier, delivery guy, etc. But nowadays, internet made it sounded like the job is easy, and those online classes about "creating your own business" don't teach us this part of the hustle. Not to mention the financial management aspect of business too, it's the sad truth.

And let the wolves eat us? Yeah freakin right!!

Yep when i learned to make pizza my family immediately said to open a pizzeria. It's a big difference between family pizza night and becoming a pizza factory tho

@@SD-hc4nj Dude are you okay?

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Exactly this. And ironically by trying to turn every side hobby into a 'side hustle', and making that the expectation because jobs pay so little and treat you like dirt half the time just ruins both hobbies and justifies how f'd up jobs are and how much worse they are getting

@@PoptartParasol Hypothetical, if you had all your basic needs taken care of (food, shelter, clothing, electricity, wifi etc.) do you think people would be more open to doing their hobbies as their careers?. I've always wondered how other people felt about it. considering it's often the whole process of monetising what they do for fun, that sucks the fun out of it.

@@MegaHAZE21 nah. Selling your labor if you don't need to is ridiculous. Maybe 1 out of a million just has outsize ambitions to make a career but most people want things in life that aren't about making money. Family, art, adventure, charity etc.

I disagree side hustles are the move especially when it’s something you enjoy it’s so much more motivating

I guess it's not for everyone. On the other hand I enjoy the service that I get to give to strangers and knowing that they are willing to pay for my food or even order a personal request because they prefer my cooking instead of others' is what keeps me going. The business is not just about making heaping lots of money but making people's lives better and happier with food even if I don't know them personally.

That's really cute ans could be an indication of what you should do in the future! I personally am not a fan of being my own boss and rhazs okay! But if you have the mind,talent & passion for both business and a specific product than you should think about doing it. Not every one posses those qualities and most people don't know what they want to do, especially when your young. Goodluck in all your future endeavors whatever they may be! x.o🖤🎀

Yes. You and I think alike.

me with drawing 💁‍♀ i love to draw but i could never make it full time otherwise i would truly, hate it.

YES! I'm sure there are people out there who do monetize and still like it but...I don't for these cookies LOL

Sounds like you feel taken advantage of.

You can actually demand them the money unless you're not working full time because they should pay you the same amount of money as a normal worker, even if it's a family business.

@@jellyfishi_ 😂😂 no honey, it’s just naive new musicians not reading their contracts or having a management team who is profit orientated instead of what is their best interests. “Sold their soul to the devil” 😂 Just because they have money market their art doesn’t mean they sold their soul 😂😂

@@basicbrittani Don't know how old you are, but it used to be that when a song pulled in millions of dollars, the label would take 80 to 85%. The manager would get their 10%, and the band got what was left after. So out of a million dollars, the band would wind up having to split $50,000 as their cut. It's why so many bands went on tour constantly. Because the merch and ticket sales directly benefited the band in the inverse way, where they got to keep the majority of the money.

@@Dakarn I’m 22 and you are 100% correct on the scams that happen in the music industry (A decade of being a collegiate and classically train musician runs you into a lot) Unfortunately the splits also exists within the contracts that you sign. That is why you *MUST* take your contract to a lawyer before signing to go over every aspect of it and ensure you don’t get jipped. Even those who sign up for American Idol and the Voice have to be careful as well because even those contracts have a clauses saying who you would be under as a production company and your record label that you would automatically sign to if you win. I think Kayne might be the best example of what can occur if you do not read your contract fully and rush in. there’s also a lot of discourse about people not owning the masters to their songs. So if A record label/production company was miss treating you as an artist and you get out your contract, you might find out that you have no rights to your old music that you recorded. We saw that with Taylor Swift. It’s all about reading your contracts and negotiating on them. You have to know your worth as an artist and stand firm on that. A lot of people are going down the route of independent artist but It tends to be less money and that hence the phrase starving artist. So there’s nothing wrong with signing with a company that works well with you and is willing to negotiate. Even then most the money you get is from touring and merch sales. even J. Cole can attest to that. Just because they have more money to promote a song doesn’t mean they’ve sold their soul to the devil though.

There's this movie that quote "make your passion your job, that way work becomes play" While it sounds true to many, not everyone can run on the same vibe.

I can so relate 😭

You should! I'm slackin on releasing the recipes but keep your eyes peeled!!

@@Jeanelleats Hi! These are great! Would love the recipes please!!

I want some... I REALLY Want some!! I'll take at least one of each flavor please!! Plus, I'll pay shipping too.😶

😂😂😂

I might make it and sell it?

I haven't made jewelry in over a year because of the same issue! I felt so pressured to start cranking out pieces like a one woman assembly line that now I can't find the passion to create a damn thing 😢

@@Amy-989 that's what happened to me with crocheting. Which is a shame, because crocheting is great for my nerves

Something that should be therapeutic for us should never be turned into work. That's counterproductive. But we just happened to have so many relatives who thought we should work our asses to provide them the luxuries they demanded. That's just how sh*tty our life is. It's never about them wanting to see the business fly, it's about them getting vip seats out of _that business_ so they could become a distributor down the line, or flaunt their &sses for having that seat. I'm sorry for the way I worded it out, but truth always hurts the most 🤷‍♀️