Just a piece of advice Akhi: you don’t have to pinpoint in your videos that you have an African wife. We see it n quite frankly what is important is that its wife no matter what her ethnic group is. Just say my wife not African wife subhanaAllah.
I think he is saying it because there are certain values that she was taught in Africa. I am honestly surprised because although miles apart I sort of thought that everyone understands marriage to be this type of partnership that requires the wife to be humbled.
I’m an Africans woman I live in America. I never act like that and I will never be like that. I will still be like I’m African woman taught by my good mother to respect husband.
Much love to you and your wife. The truth is women were not placed on earth for the sole purpose of submitting to men, cooking and cleaning for them and bearing their children. Women are human beings just like any other human being and you can work in partnership together as equals, mutually serving and respecting each other in love, not one submitting and the other being a master. All the best.
You are the reason why men move to other countries to find a wife. You literally missed the whole point of the video because you were so fixated in the word "Submission"
I am from East Africa and have been married to my North African husband for 18 years MashaAllah. Mixed marriage based on the love of Allah SWT, respect, honesty and traditional values. 4 beautiful children Alhamdulilah. Build your marriage based on Allah's principles, less social media and stay true to yourselves. Just be careful with showing too much of your selves on line. Rasool S. A. W said the evil eye is real. So many people getting problems because of the eyes. May Allah SWT protect you and bless you.
@@venusgodess2636weWe, we do value marriage and a bit more God conscious. it’s only now that we are becoming more and more negatively influenced by the media. Those remote villages are still doing ok though.
YESSSSSSSSSSSS!THAT IS WHATIM SAYING! BAD MATERIALISTIC AND NOT HAVING SELF RESPECT HAVING WOMEN ARE ALL OVER THE WORLD! Not just America. Africa has Gold Diggers also! Every place does its sad! With that being said I ADORE their Love story ❤️❤️
Indeed even in Africa we have money chops, naughty and good people too My family is surprised how my children grow up in Western world with good manners and religion. I always say it's Allah plan Alhamdu Lillah
Look, I am not a Muslim. However, I think the videos you chose as examples t are to the extreme. That’s not fair. I am so happy that you both found each other. However, there are loads of American women who respect their partners and respect their spouses and have loving unions. Also, Zainab welcome to this side of the world.
This is not about fairness or your feelings. It's a known fact that Americans tend to do all kinds of analyzing, character scrutiny, income status checks, etc as if they are so intelligent about how to have long term marriage. Yet they end up having the highest divorce rate IN THE WORLD. How many Americans are truly marrying because the are madly in love? Maybe 0.05%! Most are looking for the partner to be some kind of a solution for their needs!
I think that goes both ways. I am American (black) and my husband is Australian. I waited a long time to get married because I didn't want to settle or be mistreated. It seems that in Western society, women who grew up in traditional households that you described are overlooked. We are perceived as frumpy because we cover up, and old-fashioned because we know how to cook and clean. When you are respectful, feminine, living an upright lifestyle, some men are looking for a certain type (hair, nails, lashes etc). That's just my experience. I am happily married now and we live traditional gender roles.
With all the due respect, covering up means nothing. I used to live in chicago amongst a majority arab/muslim community qnd i’ve seen what some hijabis women (both married and single) are able to do. I was left speechless. Lots of people in Muslim communities equate covering up with being pious. You don’t have to put a scarf on to be a good woman/person. I don’t cover my hair and the majority of the married women I personally know don’t, yet they are very good wives, amazing mothers etc. this is not to say that all covered women are no good.
Couldn’t agree more. I’m the same way, I grew up in the west but I’m traditional and come from a traditional Muslim family. Been overlooked my whole life 😂. But to be fair I’m only 22, so I was overlooked in like university and stuff where guys wanted girlfriends for fun so perhaps they did me a favour lol.
When your husbands works full time and provides. At least have the decency to do basic housework. If she’s not working and mainly at home, why not cook and clean and take care of hubby? Yes hubbys also help, but it’s not a competition.
@@ZazezooI agree Honestly I have a great job and make great money at my corporate job. My mom and dad are traditional couples and when I am married,I would rather stay home cook healthy food for my husband and kids and be a housewife. As an African who grew up partly in Africa and the US, still struggle to fit in the the US 😞
@@Zazezoo ya if she is a housewife it’s fine if she do it !just saying if both working and only the women do everything house work plus outside work but if she is a housewife agree with u
But the man can also say that earning and providing is not my job! Allah has made both partners equal but given different roles. Women can multitask, and has qualities and required skills for becoming good homemakers. I hear so many working women complaining about their male colleagues flirting with them, and they feel guilty for neglecting their home and kids. Isn’t it much better to let men go out and earn, which is what nature intended.
@@lanatube6070I understand you. I am married, my husband and I work. He got someone to come to our house once a week to do the major cleaning around the house including laundry. He drops me off and from work each day and when I am home I cook and clean for him, and he assists sometimes too. When I am too tired to cook, we order out or he does the cooking. Like someone said, no competition, just try to always be nice and considerate of each other.😊
You are a lovely couple. My husband and I are black carribean catholics living in America. I enjoy cooking ank keeping my house, but it is not the only goal of my existence. My husband also takes turns doing these tasks. When it comes to making decisions for our family, we discuss it, and both learn to see things from different angles. We pray together and try to grow to grow together in wisdom with the help of God. God bless your couple.
Masha Allah Alhamdulilah, Im Muslim ☪️ American Born and Raised here in the states. Im a revert I definitely understand where you coming from. It goes both ways too. A lot of Muslim men here in America play games and want to do things before Marriage Subanallah. Some even want to have secret lovers. Alhamdulilah My Husband is from West Africa 🌍 ( Ghana🇬🇭). He is so loving and Caring. I pray That Allah Bless all My Sisters and Brothers with loving Spouses ❤️ Allahuma Amiin
When I met my husband he didn’t have a car. He was a very talented long distance runner though. I loved his heart. Also we didn’t even go out to dinner until after we got married. I cooked everything. But that’s just who I am as a person. We got married 12 years ago. I wouldn’t trade it. He’s very successful in his career and he bought me two houses. I didn’t expect it, but when you love someone they are inspired to do their best in everything.
By the way obey the husband doesn't mean he takes advantage of her or controls her every move. She obeys him to keep their bond strong and their family etc and where she is having all her rights fulfilled at same time.
Alhamdulillah Im African Caribbean from the UK. I married with an Egyptian and we live in Ghana. I love to obey my husband and be a traditional wife Alhamdulillah.
About the cooking and cleaning, I don’t quite agree with that. Yes, a woman should know how to do housework, and a man should know how to do it as well. He should be able to help her out in the kitchen, not just expect her to do it without him doing anything.
Well it is not as if the husband does "nothing". He provides for her with food, housing, clothes and safety. And in turn she serves her husband, takes care of the house and the children.
@@adamelmahdaoui4899but its a modern era, both women and men can work which is why women are choosing to have kids later so they can focus on their careers.
Works both ways....Guys mistreat their wives both Muslim and non muslim so own up to it. Now women are reacting for how their mons have been mistreated. Respect works both ways man!
I am an African-American woman. I took my Shahada July 3rd 2024 and my 9-year-old son took his Shahada July 6th. My parents were not Muslim, but they grew up in the 70s with the Black panther party. So I know my culture before we were slaves we were Kings, Queens and rulers. A lot of us African-American Muslim women do not act like those videos posted for examples. America is HUGE! You have not met all of us. Those type of women disgust me! Those type of women are brainwashed and they will never wake up. Allah has brought you a beautiful wife and to your wife your voice is amazing when you sing🎉 as an African-American Muslim woman, my mom has traditional values and is a very feminine, loving, caring, submissive and clean woman. She taught me everything I needed to know to be a good wife. I knew Islam was for me and there are so many corrupt Muslim men here no matter if they were born in Islam or not. So yes, my teacher teaches us the Quran and what a good Muslim man is so we won't be led astray. I love you too together and I see pure love. Alhumdulillah
I am a doctor.I wanted to marry an African woman from my childhood but failed.Now Iam 37,but stil want to gave an Afeican life partner.Can Zianab help me in this matter please .
I don't know what it's like in Canada, but here in the U.S., inflation is insane. It cost a lot more to live now than it did back-in-the-day -- even in smaller towns. I can agree that submission has a bad rap. However, this is mostly due to men expecting women to do everything (cook, clean, take care of the kids) -- and go 50/50 -- while the man has a crappy job and can't provide. Man fail to carry their weight. Men have an economic advantage over women and should know how to make money.
Its very sickening & i am Carribbean. I agree with you completely. My mom & dad was married 61 years...Its so dam shameful......Its why my grandsons will be exposed to African & Carribbean culture. The West is out of control.....
@@benitabettard9664Yes that's true, but we're not demanding $50,000.00 rings and cars and all this foolishness... Yes it's imperfect, but it's much better.
When you use the worst of one group and the best of the other side to try and prove your point, it just shows how manipulative you can be. Not all one group of people are good or bad. Each group of people have their own faults. Learn to love who you love and like what you like without comparing. In Jesus' name, Amen
As an African-American woman, I completely agree with you and I was so blessed to find my Korean American husband that has morals and values. I appreciate in the beginning when you said “I am not trying to be disrespectful. I am just stating facts “because in America people try to be offensive for clicks and ratings, but I’m so happy for you and your wife.
You are looking at only the extreme of American society. You are wrong for blaming American women for the divorce rate. If you truly look in American society you can find traditional women. Your problem is you don’t get deep enough into the society to know. You are only looking at TV.
I enjoyed watching this. Truth is a lot of family values have been lost in the modern era and it's actually refreshing to see those who uphold them! Christianity also advocates for wives to be submissive to their own husbands. It's pretty sad that some interpret it the way they want and not the way God said. All in all, the best marriages out there are between people with shared values of love and respect 🙏 ❤
Even here in Nigeria we have wicked and ungrateful Husbands, which they don't appreciate their wives. A wife will do and over do domestic work. Cook, wash his underwears. All in vain the outcome is negative. Is only God that can reward. Happy married life to u Mahdi and Zainab ❤
Sis there are two sides to every story. Yes, he shows the "hijabis" who appear materialistic in the western world but the men are also not very different in that they are not faithful. I am not Muslim (but studying) but my husband is. I am in a FB group of Muslim women from all over the world. They have their own set of challenges with Muslim men, that when I read their posts, it makes me want to cry. They take alot without much reward, recognition or appreciation from their husbands. The husbands take second and third wives #secretly; they beat their wives; they withdraw intimacy from their wives while indulging in pornography or much infidelity - so Muslim men are not so perfect either. When a hijabi sees this, what would make her want to marry? BUT, al hamdullah, I am so happy for this couple. I thank Allah for their YT success and pray that they continue to grow and prosper in their marriage and their channel. It's something very special about this couple that Allah allows their videos to have many positive eyes. Don't forget to like and subscribe to their channel.
Wow. It seems we live in different world. I am Nigerian but I have a very good experience of our men. Just try to get a responsible Nigerian man to marry as it is applicable around the world, dont go for the pookies amongst us. Also, don't ignore the red flags during your dating period.
English born British revert Muslim alhumdulilah. Found my wife in Indonesia. She is traditional, feminine, shy, loyal and trustworthy. Hard to find all those qualities in women born in the west. Unfortunately, many Muslim women also in the West lack traditional qualities.
@@otiliamanuelajurj needless to say that a man also has to display and carry out actions befitting of a good husband. But the topic of the video is about looking for a wife, not a husband
Very interesting video. I met my partner in Church. I never choose him .God did it and it has been a blessing relationship . I do clean and cook but he also help me everyday. Woman and man were made to support each other ❤
Hi I’m Zainab, I moved to Morocco because I was in a horrible relationship with a rich narcissist for 7 years . I didn’t know any better. I wanted a real man . I reverted to Islam & I got married to a Moroccan man but it did work out due to cultural differences , age difference and I had some flaws and he wasn’t perfect. Plus his family was nasty to me. We agreed to move on alhamdulilah. Now I’m back here in the states I have 2 children and I try my best to be a good Muslim mother ❤️ Inshallah I have the real Muslim righteous man will find me. ✨ P.s new subscriber
Don’t get so attached to “social media” relationships please. Wish them the best and go make sure your relationship with the CREATOR is where it should be because as you may or may not know, sometimes these relationships aren’t what they seem when the 10 minute clips are over… wishing them the best
This is beautiful! Inshallah all will be open minded enough to listen! I am a Catholic woman and traditional from the Caribbean. I take great pride in obeying, loving and caring and cooking for my husband. Islam is a beautiful and blessed practice. In my country we celebrate Christianity, Hinduism and Islam 🙏🙏🙏🙏
Senegal in the house! We are so proud of both of you. Keep it up! May Allah bless your marriage and reward you with goodness in both worlds. amen. Stay strong and blessed!
I am a Christian from the RepublicofTrinidad and Tobago.and l truly am happy for you and your wife The two shall be one God has heard your prayerandgiven you both the desire of your heart may God continue to bless your union andkeep you both Until death do you part.
I’m from USA 🇺🇸 and reverted Muslim, I married an overseas Muslim man because it was very difficult to find a good one here, I think most of them are not following Islam ☪️ anymore, or have been contaminated with the culture. May Allâh bless your marriage ❤
Not all American women are like what youve shown. My husband choose me because i am different. Ive never partied or done drugs. Im humble and appreciative. We are partners in everything. I work a full time job and so does he and we share responsibilities. Im disabled so he does a lot of the housework and cooking but i support him emotionally. Im not a Muslim but i wantee to let you know not every American woman is like what youve seen. I tell everyone im happy. I have a roof over my head, a good pair of shoes, and a hot meal every day and im good. Reason why i say this is because i went through extreme poverty and didn't have those things in the past. Im very very grateful for what i have and im very blessed.
Mauritania in Africa 100% Muslim but 75% divorce rate. Highest divorce rate in the world. I agree that you are more likely to find a wife outside America that are closer to what you desire. But there is also just an issue of the human heart.
No country has 100% Muslim… SubhanAllah They are predominantly Muslim and you should look for the reason for divorce. Also, divorced women over there are highly desirable. So they are doing well than average Americans.
"DIVORCE" their you go which means there was a no hookup and slutty behaviour and the relationship was marriage, divorce is not bad, it can still be done with mutual respect... ISLAM doesn't prohibit divorce, if things don't work out it is a valid option....
Can you please tell me where you got those statistics from. Find it hard to believe. Especially as accurate stats are hard to obtain in such a remote please like Mauritania.
Thanks Mahdi for sharing your intentions to marry from abroad. I wish you and Zainab a very happy marriage. You have very good reasons as a moslem man to make this decision because in that way you're sure you have what you want in a woman. With that said, not all African women are like Zainab. This is the beginning of your journey, just as in every marriage, there are going to be challenges ahead. In sha Allah when babies start arriving, it will become practically impossible for Zainab to provide you with the same amount of care, one of the reasons why you married her in the first place. In fact, she may need support no matter how small to keep up with all her responsibilities. Even at this stage, many men still demand the same amount of care from their wives, making such women extremely exhausted. When, that time comes, I think it would be nice to waive some of your rights because caring for kids, taking care of the house are exhausting in addition to completely satisfying a man"s rights can be overwhelming when she gets no help from other family members
The women that he is talking about is a reflection of himself. We see this type of hypocrisy is men all the time. their are plenty of good women but he only sees what he has access to which goes back to him.
You are so right! Like: how does he see all those videos of women in hijab dancing? You will not find what you aren’t looking for. I am a woman and I dont see those videos that he is seeing while im strolling on the internet
Salaam l am a revert to Islam. l am an American women l am married to someone is not from America. I was also raised to respect myself and whenever l do get married to be submissive to my husband.. and to always be respectful to my husband and l do wear full hijab cover myself. l already have been covered my whole life . l born in the 60’s so mothers and father back then taught their children how to dress and be respectful. So not all Americans women are materialistic just these new generation that haven’t been taught to be respectful and to show young women how to be a lady. Most of these young women truly are not married material and they’ll learn the hard way someday. So my brother and sister l am so happy to see your both stay blessed. I love your RU-vid channel keep us informed In’sha’Allah
I am a Christian and my partner is Catholic and I agree with much that is shared. Christianity and Catholicism are slightly different mind-you lol; my parents were Catholic but converted to Christianity upon coming to America. Aside from religion, I think that focusing on the important aspects of life (and not leading a materialistic life) is much more fulfilling. I believe that it's important to acknowledge the importance in find someone with the same values. I have always wanted someone with a kind heart and soul and I can genuinely say that's my partner. Zainab evidently is not only beautiful outside but inside too. God bless.
That does not make sense - Roman catholics are Christians, it is a denomination of Christianity. You cannot be converted from a Roman Catholic to Christianity because it is a denomination of CHRISTIANity. They may have changed their denomination but not their faith. What all denominations have in common is their faith in God but they r separated based on the way they practice their faith e.g., roman catholics have a strict routine they follow and pentecostals speak in tongues etc.
Brother your point is so accurate and the decision you made is great. May Allah the most gracious protect you from evil eyes.May he grant you and your family goodnesses in this life and the hereafter.ameen.
I don't have to agree with everything, but I so enjoy watching you two. You are a beautiful couple, and your happiness is contagious 😊❤ Blessings upon you both!
As a traditional muslim women in Canada I like this and hearing your perspectives however you keep referring to american women and not muslim women (2 entirely different subsets of the population).
I'm a Christian woman that was born and raised in the U.S. My roots are from East Africa. I'm glad that you two found each other in a world of 6 billion. I totally understand your point of view. It's sad to see the West become what it is today. I don't agree with a lot of their thinking and refuse to conform to societal norms. People's lack of values, moral, integrity, and being a devoted (insert any religion here) is slowly diminishing.
You are right man. You choose the best wife for you! You truly apply your religion which should accept & welcome any valid, humble, respectful, honest & sincere person to marry with, regardless of the person's color! 😊💯🙏🏾 If you're happy with your wife & you make her happy, it's not anyone else 's business. People must respect the free-will God gave her & you to choose each other !
You two are happy together, that's what matters. Thanks for your honesty. Zainab my daughter, do not change as you get more comfortable in your marriage. A lot of women make that mistake. You have a lovely husband. God bless you both. 💕 💕
Christian mother may God bless you and your marriage. We need more people to adhere to holiness. We need to re learn respect, honoring family and Love.
