Why INTJs are attractive 

Who is else is here to stroke their own ego and see if they will learn more about what about us attracts people?

Gosh, if people is attracted by me they hide it quite well... Edit: OMG never got so many likes, thank you :)

Hate talking to most people, but when I find a good person, I hold on to them.

You know you're in the INTJ corner when all of the RU-vid comments are well structured, perfectly punctuated with correct spellings and good vocabulary. EDIT: spelling.

INTJs hold solid standards. People find that attractive in general.

*Why INTJs are attractive* Real answer: *They have the potential to build Giant Robots.*

It's weird if you have just met an INTJ they can seem super plain and simple. But then you find out that they have like 10,000 thoughts going on in their mind and are thinking WAY ahead it can make them very mysterious and intriguing. They're basically always thinking ahead. Constantly. Like even if they don't want to, they just do it naturally. So you probably will only really know like 1% of who they really are. Which makes them interesting and a challenge.

You're very observant! Especially because you picked up on the fact that INTJs kind of enjoy when people don't get their jokes. I feel like most people would be frustrated that no one got the joke but I think it makes it even funnier for some reason

Why are INTJ's so attractive?.....Well that's simply because you're an ENFP - lol

As an INTJ, I can safely say the ENFPs are one of the few types around whom I can completely be my awkward self. Great vid!Nicely done:)

every INTJ needs a friend like you

INTJ attractiveness by an INTJ Smooth Operator : Charming and graceful Adaptable : Able to fit into any social situation Eloquence : Beguiling and succinct Sophisticated : Worldly, Awake and Self Aware Attentive: Paying attention and anticipating. Intelligent : Astute, sharp and insightful Congruent : True to our values and beliefs Controlled : Can't be rushed or fazed Mysterious : Strange and unfathomable Non attention seeking : We let you shine Independent : We don't follow the herd Self contained: We have an inner life Dignified : Never embarrass ourselves Competent : We make things look easy and effortless Well Groomed : Pride in our appearance Stylish : What suit us rather than follow fashion trends. Reliable : Deliver as promised Helpful : Offer useful advice if asked Empathetic : We feel you. (reserved for our inner circle) Tolerant : Of other opinions and behaviors Wary : Impossible to fool or exploit. Witty : Dry, Subtle or ironic. Phlegmatic : Calm disposition. A magnet for cats and kids. Edits : spelling : -Woke- > Awake : Empathetic: caveat added

As a lifelong INTJ who's starting his 30's, it's been a lonely world even with friends. It's nice to know we're noticed at all.

It's weird how you think INTJs are attractive because of their independence, whereas for me at school (btw, I'm INTJ), because I only ever hang out with a small group of two friends and I'm not more outgoing and don't open up to people really easily, people just think I'm weird. Some people think I'm lonely on my own, but it just lets me think, it's nice when it's quiet.

As an INTJ myself I must say thank you, that was a bit of confidence and self-esteem boost that I needed. So yeah, thank ya kindly :P

You ENFP people are what I call luscious, and squishy. INTJ's like because you experience emotion in ways that boggles our minds. That is no easy feat, shine on you crazy diamond.

As an INTJ I can thoroughly say that being perceived as attractive is not really too big of a concern of ours.

The only thing I'm attractive to is people asking me why I'm so quiet.

enfp's are great. youre so.... real. normally i cant stand "bubbly" types, but ive just now realised thats because most are faking their bubbliness. its just a mask. they want you to perceive them that way. enfp's though, youre actually experiencing the emotion right in front of people. just putting yourselves out there. being... real. its the best.

4:05 "i think they enjoy when people don't understand them" To an extent, its almost a test of wits to see if they can keep up. A little way we like to figure someone out to judge whether or not we will tolerate them.

As an INTJ, I've always known I was very attractive. I just didn't expect anyone else to notice.

I know right? I'm an INTJ and I think ENFPs just have an awesome aura about them, I instantly feel at home and at ease around them, I dont know why, they're just adorable I love having their company. Theyre bubbly and fun without being too pushy and forceful. I think they balance out INTJs pretty well, they are the yin to our yang

As an INTJ male in his 20s who's never been in a relationship, I find it reassuring and gratifying that there are people who adore us.

It's always a confidence boost when an attractive woman lists desirable qualities you ACTUALLY have. Thanks for doing this!

"INTJs are sturdy in their head". Great description!

Intj debate section is always interesting

For me personally as an INTJ you got it pretty spot on.

I also think that ENFPs feel completely understood by INTJs. Perhaps not on a specifics level or in relation to some interests but on a deeper level. "Wow this person is so weird. Just like me. But in a completely different way but I get it and understand. I can appreciate this" I think thinking along these lines are common to both INTJs and ENFPs when they have an encounter.

Hey girl!! Great video! 😄🙌🏻 I'm an ENFP and married to an INTJ, and it's the BEST match in my humble option 😇. They are intriguing, interesting onions and you have to peel back all the layers...but it's so worth it! And being an ENFP, they help us get things done because the Lord knows we are bad at doing that🙈 haha! Anyways! Keep up the great vids!

As an INTJ I can say that I’m completely objective driven. “Live in the moment” is completely alien to me. I like to travel so long as it parallels an intellectual pursuit or a historical interest but I’d never travel somewhere just to experience a new culture or a new area(unless I thought that might benefit one of my objectives). Of course, life experience plays a huge role into how these cognitive stacks function in a real world setting so I can’t speak for ALL INTJs.

INTJ's only have two "real" emotions, passion and hate... all other's are kind of made up to suit whatever situation we are in, in pursuit of what works... in our favor(*blank lol!)

I’m INTJ and I don’t really like anyone.

I think another aspect of the INTJ that might appeal to an ENFP is our willingness to entertain those zig-zag ideas of yours (even if we don't seem like it on the outside, we're paying close attention and mulling them over), where others might only humor you superficially when you gush them out rapid fire. We'll listen to the ideas and one or more will ping our introverted intuition and that starts the mutual brainstorming that quickly gets very deep. And because we share extraverted thinking, we have a mutual fluency in that regard, which speeds up the development of those ideas even more. The ENFP can feel validated by the INTJ's interest in what they say and think, and since they're taking our own input very seriously, that is also validating to the INTJ, and the two can easily become wrapped up in a dizzying display of intellectual attraction. The only caveat is that the INTJ can be very dismissive about those ideas they quickly assess as lacking promise, which isn't meant to be taken personally, but the ENFP usually does take it VERY personally. I've developed more tact over the years, but sometimes I still lapse and forget that my bluntness can seem hurtful to others, even though I totally didn't mean it that way.

You know the INTJ well.

Interesting... Everything you said is basically 95% accurate. And NFP types always seem to end up being my closest friends. (Even when I'm not trying to be that close to them, they just magically become close for some weird reason.)

You never fail to make this INTJ smile and lol with your stream of consciousness delivery of ideas. This time it was the comment about if INTJs were nervous- like around kids. It was not what I expected, but it wasn’t wrong either. I think you surprised yourself when you said it as well.

just found out my personality type... if that vid title is true.. then WHY ON EARTH AM I CONSTANTLY REJECTED!?!?!??!?! *LOVE ME!!*

INTJs are reserved because we want to understand how the situation or environment works before responding to it. We are also extremely logical even if we sometimes appear reckless or risky. By the way: loved the video!

As an INTJ, I find ENFPs very attractive. Opposite polarities on their intuition (Ni vs. Ne) with matching judging preferences (Te and Fi) in different places in their cognitive stack (complementary) means instant chemistry. You love us for our reserved, mysterious "what's happening behind those eyes" intrigue, and we love you for your outward bubbly "let me hug you" emotive expression. Opposite, yet somehow, we speak the same language.

This is spot on. Now I know why my enfp friend appreciates me so much, love them too

As an INTJ, most people describe me as intense, intimidating, reserved, competent, confident, cold and ________. The blank space is that thing they can't define. "There is just something different about him, I don't know what it is." I think people just think I'm weird.

I'm an INTJ. I've only ever known one other INTJ. It warms the reactor that replaced my heart and does my circuits good to see so many of my kind here on this secondary digital reality in which we exist as pure consciousness. As to the video thank you for giving me a bit of outside perspective. It will be useful in my mental simulations.

INTJ here, my quirkiness usually comes out only when I know you will laugh with me, or at least won't laugh at me. 😁

I am an INTJ, mistaken for Asperger and going on 51 years-old without being in a relationship. Hope that attitude towards us changes.

This has been fun, having a pretty girl fawn over your personality for 10 minutes.

The way you talk about INTJ, it validates you are an ENFP.

Haha intj woman here. I hate watching women vlogers but immediately felt good / comfortable about you once you started talking... then you said your Meyers brigg type and it made sense. So bizzare how it's "pseudoscience" but still so accurate. We really have types we mesh well with. My bf is the same type as you and it's great.

Waw thank you so much for that. I'm an INTJ and so far I've only seen videos and blogs saying how weird, anti-social we are and how we lack charisma. Feels good to hear something good about us and not about our (supposed) intelligence for once :)

It's been funny learning that ENFPs are compatible with INTJs (me). ENFPs are the types I meet and I think 'aw you're so lovely!' And tend to have great natural chemistry with.

Everything you said applies to me, but I just thought those exact points are keeping people away. I appreciate what you said that these features can be positive:) It's cool to have INTJs around for advice, knowledge and their unqiue takes on stuff. But in a close relationship with INTJs can be difficult because they feel better alone, have their unique hobbies that most ppl don't interested in, and care more about logic than emotions.

I’m an INFJ and my husband is an INTJ. I’m attracted to his mind and sense of humor.

As an INTJ you got this nailed really. I think logically, do what needs to be done and I cut the crap. My friends know not to come to me for emotional support (not in a mean way) but I’ll give them advice rather than sit and sob and mull things over. Just do this and move on. I’m also always right, like that sounds big headed but I am. Always.

I have to thankyou ,this was a pleasant confidence boost

love the bubbly energy Mary! thanks for making the video!

As a INTJ I would say that you are very much spot on with your points! I think I recognized everything you said and thank you so much for sharing your thoughts about this personality type! I can say that I had a girlfriend who is ENFJ and I discovered the strong combination of when her feelings overwhelmed her because of a situation we both were in I was not struggling with feelings (because I'm not as much attached to feelings as she is), and this enabled me to encourage and be a support for her. The feelings would hit me a later point and at that point she had dealt with her feelings and was able to help me. (y) The thing with having a hidden side is also very true. I open myself up more to people that I'm comfortable being around and that I know very well.

INTJ here. You did an excellent job explaining this and you've confirmed what a lot of my other ENFP friends say 😁

The more I look at her face the more attractive it gets.

I absolutely love your energy

I'm an INTJ, and I have never, ever had a problem getting a girlfriend. Why? Because I was pushed very heavily into being an extrovert growing up, so i picked up a lot of extrovert traits. I played a shit load of sports growing up, and I always had the confidence to just be myself. If you're an INTJ, remember that you need to also be physically fit, and have social skills, to get a girlfriend. If you're so introverted that you have crippling social anxiety, then you have no reason to ask why you're not getting a girlfriend. As an INTJ, MY ADVICE IS "FIGURE IT OUT." INTJ'S are good at learning new things because we focus and learn well. We are scientific minded people. Learn how to be a better introvert, or learn to live with yourself. It's an easy choice to make, friend.

Ego boost! Folks need to make more videos praising this personality type instead of trying to make us (especially us women) change who we are...instead of trying to understanding us.

This comment may or may not be weird for you to read, but I am an INTJ and I’ve read all the comments on here about how every other INTJ took to your realness as far as bubbly behavior goes. I took to it as well and saw, for another time since I know a few ENFPs, that it’s so raw. My bf is your type as well. I teared up at the end because even your smile at the end was completely genuine..

Thank you for your words!! It's so difficult to be an INTJ.

I’m an INTJ and it’s funny that even though I’m extremely reserved and private, I’m attracted to women who are just the opposite. I’m absolutely fascinated by women who are warm, enthusiastic and open. I just feel like “wow-I don’t understand this, but I like it. I could really go for having this in my life all the time”.

INTJ's, because of their intelligence, can be very witty. Always an attractive trait.

I wouldn’t call myself as “different” or “unique”. It puts me in a category that is grossly reserved by regs of all kinds. I like you.

Okay, you won me over when you said “you can seem them being nervous when... playing with kids.” 😆 I never understood why that is. I like watching kids play and observing how they connect and learn about the world but interacting with them makes me a little uneasy.

It’s very nice to hear this! Haha! I’ve had a hard time connecting to people. I don’t think people know how to relate to me... maybe they’re nervous? My conversations are not of a typical nature so I don’t think people know how to carry on a conversation with me as I’m rather philosophical and deep.

So true! Most of the population doesn't understand my humor.

Love this cute, bubbly girl. Often, extroverts deem us as boring, nerdy, don't belong, but I like me. I never knew how girls see me on a deeper level...cool! I never knew in what ways I'm liked. Thanks!

This is so different from the stereotypical reactions to INTJs. I know that often I'm lost in thought and strangers come up to ask if I'm ok (which I appreciate), when I'm really just taking a break to sit outside and think. It's comforting to know that there are those that understand this tendency and are even intrigued by it.

This girl is a scatter brained ball of sunshine that is worthy on my study. Approved. - An INTJ

This video made my day a million times better, I appreciate your kind words. I must admit you are brave and very on point with your observations. I smiles for more than 30 secs. Thank you.

I'm married to an INTJ and everything is pretty spot on. This girl hit everything that caught my eye with him.

We INTJ s are attractive because at least we have a purpose in life.

Just watching this to boost my already over confident self

INTJ here. For some reason kids love me and gravitate towards me. I don’t really like kids, and I don’t know how to make them leave me alone without hurting their feelings. Any ideas? 😅 thx

I'm an INTJ and I find your personality very attractive. As long as ENFP lets the mastermind do his/her thing, they can enjoy each other from time to time.

So true about humor. I'm very reserved at first, but internally I'm constantly amused by the absurdity of the world, and my humor is a reflection of that: absurd ironic and wry. I realized I do this out of habit to test people, and if they get my humor, I feel I can relax and show my goofier side. I also am more relaxed and free in comfortable and predictable environments

Our hearts get a little nervous. That was the cutest thing I've ever heard.

Omg! As soon as Mary is Awake started this video I was like ENFP! I'm an INTJ-A female and I love ENFPs. I really appreciate this perspective that looks at our positive and realistic qualities. Also, Mary is Awake, you're awesome!

Everything that you have commented about what makes INTJ attractive is what most of the world has said are unattractive about them lol.

"hey, you do you, I'm gonna do me" sounds like my girlfriend and me. We really like each other! It just doesn't seem that way sometimes. Which is also super funny.

Just so that you know we die for ENFPs inside ourselves without you knowing 😊

I’m an INTJ and I LOOOOVE learning about the other types and I think it’s to help me understand people

i love myself so muuuuch now, thank you so much :)

I just took the "test" about a month ago, and have been watching almost every video I can on the subject of INTJ personality. I was very surprised to find so many about why we are "attractive". It's nice, but I also find it odd.

Very interesting, I am an INTJ too, I actually enjoyed the video. Not only because of how you made me feel (good), but because of how you said it as well. The way you conveyed the information is mysteriously fun and pleasing to me. I found as an INTJ, if you spend time to develop your weaknesses (like your feelings) and you get help with it, you will grow into a person that people really really like. You will also feel a lot more in control of yourself and may even have peace within yourself. Great video.

as an INTJ i would advice every INTJ to never go for ENFP , they do have an attractive personality but they will try to change you and that's out of the question for us, and once they give up the attraction will go away and they will leave you. just go for a thinker.

As an INTJ I love watching your ENFP charm in the vide.

Gotta love the random voice changes for emphasis. Do ENFP realize they're that cute or is it innate?

as an INTJ this came off as very energetic and chaotic. but she made fair points. but when she say's that she loves that INTJ's have common sense.......don't we all? don't all people have common sense? if only INTJ's (1,9% of people) have common sense then we are fucked :( it's called common sense for G's sake

INTJ sarcasm: I'm glad you gave it 5 seconds of effort.

It's actually really good for INTJs to get perspective on what there perceived like. There thinking can be so outwardly focused that they don't accurately perceive themselves. Thats why they will typically blame others before themselves.

Lol You're so cute! Man you talk fast ✔ I really enjoyed that ... Tons of information like the rapid fire of a machine gun. Just what my INTJ brain needed. I like that you like us when we're vulnerable ... 😌 Secret: (we're more vulnerable than we let on) Thanks for your video 👍

Me and my Fiancé have been doing personality tests all week and have discovered that she's ENFP and I'm INTJ. It now makes a lot of sense why we get along so well, it always puzzled us how two very different people "clicked" so well. We push and encourage each other to do things in a way that is just right for us respectively. She just seems to know what to do and how to say it, to get me to push my boundaries, we have both changed our careers since being together. It hasn't all been plain sailing though. My coldness is something she has really struggled with and we have two very different approaches to arguments. We continue to work on that and we're getting better at it. Now during fall outs, we just have to remember how each of us processes and evaluates information and I'm pleased to say it's working. I have to say that I'm usually the one in the wrong though but she does appreciate that I'm willing to accept that, even if it does take me a day of thinking to realise it. Great video though, gives me a bit of a confidence boost and does explain why people seem to like and are drawn to me, even though I make no effort in return. I have a lot of acquaintances but a very number of people who I call friends.

As an INTJ myself, I have a very hard time picking up cues of flirtatious behavior from women. I often think about the interaction after and then I might notice something that was flirtatious but not until I analyze what happened. Not sure if anyone other INTJs feel the same.

1:31: the word you are looking for is "practical."

Seems you have an excellent grasp on the enigmatic INTJ personality. Some people can sure be hard to figure out can’t they lol? Nice job

Whoa, I am flattered 😂 I think most of what you say is true and the thing about me (or it can be for other INTJs too) is that I'm actually an introvert but I love talking, especially about certain subjects that I love... I also like meeting new people and just sharing stuffs with them, I think INTJs are one of those introverts who are actually talkative, but when I'm alone I can adjust pretty well, like I enjoy being alone, in fact I need some alone time or "me time" cause I just like to zone out and plan some stuffs or just think about something or learning something by myself, I guess INTJs are eager to learn, that's why they know about a lot of things from different subjects... Anyway, thanks for this video, it makes me love being an INTJ even more

Love this vid! My boyfriend is an INTJ and I couldn’t help but smiled through the whole vid! I think you are very talented and accurate at observing people, well done!