I hate that tanning stuff, I don’t get tanned to look pretty or have a summer look. It’s if I’m outside doing sports or in a pool. So people like to tease me for not having a tan, but I care about my skin.
This was mind blowing to me the first time I understood it. Here we are either tanning ourselves or putting poison on our skin to lighten it just to look good....what are we doing?!
I remember being teased having porcelain skin. Having zero red / pink undertones made my skin seem much more light w/o a tan. I don’t burn, I get quite dark actually but used tanning beds teens - early 20’s now REGRET IT. Ugh 😑 How about whichever one’s tone is = is perfect. Can we just do that?
Yup just live your life the way you do, wear sunscreen when you go outside. A tiger cannot change its stripes why are people so obsessed with changing trivial things about their looks :|
@@k.m.6449 I've never scene anyone get mad over someone tanning their skin to become darker. Whenever somebody lightens their skin they get mad so it it is true.
It's always been strange to me that no matter what people's skin color/shade is (and whatever other features they may have), someone is always out there saying they have to change it to be attractive, even when there are people in other cultures who would go to great lengths to mimic their natural look. Paler people want to get darker, and darker people want to get paler. In some cultures it's skin-lightening cream that's used, and in others it's tanning beds -- neither of which are healthy, but many either don't realize the potential consequences or view the health risk as worth it to achieve the "ideal look" that's considered attractive by their peers. It all varies depending upon one's culture, but in reality, all shades are beautiful in their own way and (while you have the right to alter your appearance if it boosts your confidence) it's sad that so many people are made to feel like they *have* to change their appearance to fit in/be seen as desirable/etc. We need more Dr. Youns in the world.
It's all about marketing. Here in asia where most people have darker skin, they taught them that whiter skin is beautiful then offer thousands of whitening products to make money while in western countries where white people live they taught them that tan /dark skin is beautiful then they offer tanning lotions, tanning bed etc and the same reason is to make money. I'm telling you IT'S ALL MARKETING (idk if I suck at explanation)
Whew! Finally makes me feel a little better… Somebody actually even a little whiter than I am. Wish people would have thought that was beautiful when I was growing up. Used to be called all kinds of names, so I tried to tan. Bad idea. Now I dress up like a beekeeper whenever I go out because I have probably sustained so much sun damage in the past, and my Dad (who is also a redhead) has skin cancer.😢
I’m sorry to hear that. I am dark skinned and where I am from, people with red hair are seen as so beautiful and striking so it baffles me that people here get picked on for having red hair. Or any hair colour for that matter ❤
Yeah they real skin light yellow not white like ghost but they really try so hard honestly they skin look like have alot of lotion/powder, include kpop star. No hate to them
I'm Australian and I'll never forget the first time I went to Asia, I had to get some sunscreen and I was so shocked that I couldn't find any that was normal, they all had some sort of whitening effect, same with all the moisturisers. I was so disturbed, knowing that in Australia so many white people wanted to be brown and would use fake tan and then in Asia everyone wanted to be white, except they would put bleach on their skin to achieve what they thought of as beauty standards. Its all screwed. Be happy with what you have. Good luck out there.
To be fair, the translation on the creams are incorrect. Apparently a lot of the skin lightening ones are really meant to “brighten” the skin and it got lost in translation
Thing is in Asia, if you have light skin you're portrayed as pretty, you also get more attention from everyone and higher chances getting job opportunities from specific workplaces. Also men like women who have light skin more than brown skin so women tend to change their skin color just to be liked or loved by their special someone. I hope there comes an era where everybody just have a "fuck everybody's opinion, i love-myself" mentality.
And the funny thing , in the west and evrrywhere else white people tan some, year long to get darker and darker because it is perceived as sexy. I agree. Darker skin is sexy!(comin from a white girl who needs 100x to go to the beach to get a decent tan.
Ik! But here in Europe we do whatever it takes to have that Brown ish Colour!(someone even risks theyr life) it is SOME people here that quite dont like other people than them selfes...but As an Half Asian i dont feel an Shame having my colour. Everyone is beatiful
You always want what is different. Like in the US everyone thinks blonde hair is most attractive. In Iceland I read everyone there wants to be brunette because they are all natural blonde
Its the cultures. Tanning used to mean you worked all day in the sun. Now in the west, it means you have free time to just sit around in the sun/ can afford to tan. In the west being pale means you likely don't get to be outside as much as you should be. In many places though, (especially very hot sunny places) paler skin is still a beauty standard, for those earlier reasons. We can still see this is some of our oldest fables, like certain princesses being described as "pale as snow" to drive in that they are a princess, they sit up in their castle out of the sun doing royal shi
Being asian there’s always that need or push to be whiter/paler. I’m not that dark compared to my other cousins but my grandma would always say to my cousins that the darker the skin, the sweeter the person and those with lighter/pale skin is bitter in the “taste-wise” sense (we are not cannibals btw). This was always the way to boost the morale of my cousins to know that it’s not bad to be tanner/darker but in between the grandchildren, there’s 2 families that are lighter skinned cause my uncle married to a Chinese lady while my mom’s side is of Chinese decent. So I’d always ask her what about us lighter kids and she always sweats and won’t answer cause she don’t know what to say lmao. She’s not racist, just passing down the word of mouth some elderly had passed down from generations of family.
I'm 1/4 Asian but I'm paler than my 100% "white" friends... I used to hate it and use fake tanner like crazy because I thought I was a freak. I've learned to embrace it but it's a pain in the ass because if you forget to put sunscreen on before you go outside on a sunny day, you're in for a world of hurt. I've gone swimming and 2 days later my back peeled off 😨😭 Being pale is an evolutionary disadvantage and if it wasn't for indoors and sunscreen I'd be burnt to death by now and I'm from the Pacific Northwest US which is cloudier than average 😖
I was told when I was younger, that I would be so pretty if I had a tan, I have fair skin.. people are cruel, just believe in yourself and everything will be fine..❤️
Same! I'm also a pale girl routinely told as an impressionable teen that I looked "dead", "sick" and "needed some color". People suck. Pale is pretty. Black is pretty. Brown is pretty. Everything in between is pretty. Just be healthy and love yourself, because no one is quite the same as you!
I spent most of my life being jealous of anyone with any kind of color to their skin because I am so pale. I even tried to tan, but I just go from pale to red. Then I find that light skin is preferable in Asian society. I think I was born in the wrong part of the world 🤣
As an Asian, I have tan skin but wanted to be lighter. But now I'm like "this is me", I don't have to change who I am for others to appreciate or like me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I love brown skin. Beautiful. White - needs tanning booth Brown-needs lightening cream Curly hair--needs relaxer Straight hair-needs waves Big girl-- needs diet Skinny girl-- needs bbl Let’s all just be happy with what we have so that the only people not happy are then those raking in $$$ from the beauty industry.
I'm happy with myself. I don't even worry about my brown skin, but I hate it when my sister and her daughter make fun of me just because they have light skin. Every chance they get, they try to make me feel bad. It's irritating. That's why I rarely visit them anymore.
The most beautiful young woman I know has a South American dad and English mom. The daughter rocks a honey tan all year long. In winter, she has a deeper skin tone than the physician on this short. I have to work for a tan like that and envy her not having to go in the sun to look healthy and glowing here in Florida. When she does, she looks South American. Naturally darker skin ages more gracefully. You’ll have the last laugh at your abusive relatives. Surround yourself with family of your own making who love and appreciate you. 😉 “we can’t choose our family but we can choose our friends,” and those friends become family over the decades.
Sounds like they make fun of your skin tone out of jealousy. I'm betting you are more gorgeous then they are, obviously on the inside and outside both. Good on you keeping that toxic mess out of your life.
So true but how do you get rid of old, ingrained attitudes towards skin that is any other than pearly white and pasty. I've tried talking to some of these people but they refuse to listen... And are just stuck in their own little world... Sigh....
Yeah, especially since a large portion of several countries history is rooted in class systems. For many upper class people an obvious show of wealth back in the day is demonstrating your pallor. Being pale meant you were not the poor or working class who worked hard labor, often outdoors.
I don't find this to be true. I'm so tired of hearing I look like I'm sick or dead because I'm so pale. I'm very tan in my picture because I apply sunless tanner like a fiend during the summer months. Up until recently I was very insecure about my pale skin.
I love how people are perfectly okay with calling pale-skinned people stuff like “Casper”, “see through” etc but always praise a dark-skinned person for their skin tone. Colorism at its finest!
I was just doing makeup on this girl who's got this beautiful golden olive skin, chocolate brown eyes, and thick dark black hair. I told her she was what I always wanted to look like when I was young because tan was the beauty standard (I'm in the us, she's Italian). She looked surprised and said I was what she wanted to look like (pale, green eyes, blond hair). The grass really looks greener, y'all, but sometimes it's an illusion. Just be the best you, that's the best solution.
I’m black and love tanning ! Ugh I used to hate being so dark bc I don’t even have a chance at becoming significantly lighter and jealous of other races…sad I love my skin now! And will tan and get darker! I also find other skin tones beautiful each person looks beautiful w/ their natural skintone
@@Sleepdeprivedthinking They might just mean they are comfortable getting darker tanning is extremely easy when you have melanin. The term tanning doesn’t only refer to the unhealthy way of darkening one’s skin through tanning booths or spending hours in the sun. I’m also black and I just need to be outside for 15 minutes and my skin will become two shades darker. Maybe they mean they are happy with their natural tan ?
@@intuitivetasha113 - there is no safe way to lighten skin that does not have long term effects. Also it is difficult to lighten the whole face and body unless you use IV treatments. And if you have children they will most likely inherit your skin tone.
@@Sleepdeprivedthinking so she can’t go walk outside in the sun then? If you are able to get dark then there is little to no risk from sun exposure. I think it’s time we stop demonizing the sun , the sun also has major benefits like providing 25,000 IU of vitamin D which is vital for our immune systems and ability to combat illness
As an Asian there's always been an expectation to be paler. I'm a way darker than most of my family and get darker when I tan. Alot of people said I looked Mexican and some people pitied me whenever they talked to my parents or even subtly insult me when they were only around me, expecting me not to understand. My relatives and parents would always say how disappointing it was that I turned out so dark. As a kid I ended up being insecure about my skin and even started searching up lighting products for the future so that in the future my family could stop saying I was ugly or stupid and so I could feel good about my body for once. I couldn't help that I was dark. Considering I still have a hard time learning my family's native language that furthers my isolation from my family. I wish there wasn't such expectations for lighter skin sometimes.
Honestly tho super super super super light skin makes you look ghost like and dead. Darker or tan skin is more beautiful by a lot. Idk why they think it’s attractive to be white as paper.
@@makenziebrown3649 that’s part of the aesthetic. ‘S why I (as a white person) like my light skin, it contrasts well with the black I love to wear, makes me look ghostly. There are complimentary colors and styles for every skin color, it’s just about people finding what makes them happy!
If I can choose, I prefer dark skin because they have more melanin. Melanin is your umbrella against the uv rays. The uv rays elicit sagging & wrinkles
I wish i could make people see this: that no matter what their skin color is they are beautiful and should be proudly celebrating it as a birth-right and heritage. Changing it is like being ashamed of yourself, your parents, your culture, your race and your very humanity. The fact you are alive is amazing! Love yourself♡
Love this!!! In my culture, the whiter you are, the prettier you are. And the better husband you can get then. A childhood close friend is rather dark and a bit overweight , but her facial features are beautiful (besides being such a great person overall); while another childhood “friend” is very fair, yet she’s no “stunning beauty”…physically or behaviorally. In fact, she’s a mean, stuck up brat with RBF. Yet she’s well known within our community (all across America) as one of the most beautiful. The darker friend got married at 27 and has 2 kids, while the other one, in her 40s, is still looking for Prince Charming. It’s sad bc she was led to believe that her fair skin makes her worthy of getting the “perfect” man (if that even exists). I’ve asked her directly what makes her deserve such a great husband and none of us don’t (I’m considered to be on the fairer side in my community and married at 25, with 3 kids). She flat out says that everyone says to her that her fairness will attract handsome men with higher educations and careers (aka “doctors”). I can’t believe SHE hasn’t figured out by now that it’s not true. She’s in her 40s!! Is she truly this blind and dumb??!! I think that’s worse than elders telling her since she was 15 how her “milky white skin will give her all the happiness in the world”. Uh, even those ladies have shut up now since they can at least now see how wrong they were. Thank God my generation and even younger don’t care about skin color at all!! Btw…I have 3 sons who all have different colors/shades of skin. I’ve been asked by elders if my “darkest” son ever feels bad or inferior. Good Lord!!! I’ve never thought that so he definitely doesn’t think that way and has probably never even thought of that. As a mother, now I know how horrible it must have felt to have a child, especially a daughter, who was darker. You’d feel sick to your stomach that people look at your child like that and then feel pressured to make your child “whiter”.
I could see using the IV if you had dark skin in India & were trying to get a decent job, as unfortunately their caste system doesn't look like it's going away anytime soon. That cream though... Turns skin paper-thin. Light-skinned ppl wanting to tan darker, darker skinned ppl wanting to be lighter. Hair dyes in every shade nature ever created and many more. Skinny women trendy one year, big bottomed the next. Nothing wrong with a bit of Botox, nose job, or tummy tuck, but wish ppl would focus on being healthy physically & mentally & LOVE THEMSELVES.
@@monniej58 it's nothing like that😑 my father is dark skinned n he has a perfect job.. Appx all the scientists in India are from south and are dark coloured... These are myths that they do not get job.. N it is a wrong info.. Donno how people take name of a whole country to represent the words which only they said.
Some people don’t use these products to get “whiter” like myself. I use them to get a more even skin tone. Since I was younger I have had horrible skin pigmentation. It’s depressing to see people with even glowing skin colors. 😢
Same with me, I was using skin lighteners to even out my skin tone. Now that it’s more even, I only put on sunscreen. They definitely have a time and place to be used
Why do you think you need to do that? Everyone has different skin and it's awsome!! Some people love that kind of thing! Just be you! Except for that terrifying living ghost! That is not natural! Embrace your differences! Some people love freckles, some like chonky, some like spotty skin too, there's something for everyone and the right people will love you how you are so don't change your skin to be like everyone else when its what makes you special and beautiful!
Yeh damn. I'm Asian , and my skin is very fair, I'm the only one in my family with fair skin, my mother tends to joke around and says " I look like your personal maid" it's quite sad that in Asia , the fairer you are the more pretty or handsome you are in their minds.
😢Dang! Your mom feels so ugly in the skin God gave her that she puts herself down as a low wage worker or slave!!! The trauma… what’s going on in Asia??? OMG!!!
Light people : Lighter is not good Strong people : Strong is not good Successful people : Success is not enough Rich people : Money isnt everything Me : I'm so lucky I have none of these 🙂
As someone with pasty white skin, you don’t need to feel insecure if you’re tan. In fact, I think that tan skin is beautiful. “Sun kissed skin, so hot.” 🤤
Omg these type of creams (so many) are now being sold in the asian community now and i always wondered what R the side effects in the future if used for long periods of time.
My dilemma is that my legs never tan. Yet my arms tan so fast and get dark. I just want my body to match 😭😭😭 No worries. I will never use any lighting products. I just stay away from the Sun and use an umbrella. That has helped my arms not get as a tan.
I personally look better with lighter skin than tanned and it makes me feel happier in my skin (btw I’m not from any Asian country so I’m not trying to fit beauty standards) so please recommend skin lightening products that do not have any side effects or cause harm. Thank you :)
As an Asian, my mom would always tell me "do not go out in the sun, or your skin will darken" "No one will marry you if your skin is dark". And growing up I would feel ugly whenever I get a little tan. Although I hate this idea, my parents keep telling me "No one will like u have dark skin" made me think that being dark means ugly and being pale means beautiful.
Nah light skin doesn't mean someone is beautiful. I for my part have extremely light skin that I sometimes even look a bit Greyish. But I get insulted a lot for that too. Like my Grandfather funeral the priest or whatever she was called.The first thing she said to me was not "Welcome" or "I'm sorry for your loss " she said to me that I look like a waking corpse. Then when I passed her I heard her saying to my sister and mother who were behind man "She is really white, she looks like a corpse". And that was so insulting. How can someone say that on a funeral like it hasn't even been Ten day since I saw my Grandfather die and see says something like this?! Like disrespectful. So it isn't necessary good to be extermly white. I got bullied a lot because of that in elementary, middle and high school. Even my siblings sometimes makes jokes about that.
screw those people. I’m sorry you had to go through that. I’m sure you are very beautiful! Beauty doesn’t depend on skin tone. don’t ever listen to those bullies. They have a problem with themselves.
Lighter skin, but i hope its without yellow hair... its really bad when people has clean and glowy skin, but they have like long pee fiber on their head
Wow 😮 I’m a redhead, and it blows my mind how this characteristic of pale skin is desired in other parts of the world when I got made fun of for this as a child. It does make me look younger because I avoid the sun to avoid burns. But I always admired people who tanned easily and didn’t have to worry about burning as much. You always want what you don’t have. Beauty comes in all colors.
Psalm 139:14 KJV - I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well. 💕 Be happy in your own skin 💕
I’m one of the palest white people I know and what he’s doing is very excessive. I find it strange that here in western cultures the beauty standard is tan skin but in the east the standard is unrealistically and many times excessively white.
I think it depends on the age group and who the role models are. I’m Gen X and tanning was not a thing really. Sunscreen was not really a daily thing until my teens, unless you were a lifeguard or very fair skinned. We were taught to avoid the sun a lot more in childhood. Find a tree, walk on the shady side, avoid being out if the sun is high in the sky. I think sunscreen lulls people into a false sense of security and they rarely use it correctly.
Don't those ingredients after a time irritate the skin? Won't those ingredients make, his poor skin super sensitive in the sun? I feel bad for him that he wasn't happy as he was; as well as perpetuating a horrible Beauty standard. Thank you for bringing awareness and just making people feel beautiful!
Dude be proud of your skin,I haven't ever felt insecure about my skin tone.Most of us are naturally brown,and I won't have it any other way.I thought the fair skin obsession was only limited to our entertainment industry but I didn't know indians in general actually cared about this.Lets completely erase colourism from India,it's gross.
@@lordofallbinods315 tbh I don't care about the obsession or stereotypes it could be anywhere so I just accept them and move on luckily I have never been insulted or mocked because of it not everyone is obsessed fortunately I have just learnt to be more grateful in life and not complain over such silly things
I’ve always wanted to dye my skin like I can dye my hair. Turquoise, pillarbox red, canary yellow etc. I have never got a tan, I mainly freckled then burned (thanks Irish ancestors ) so I avoided the sun. 😁Sunbathing always seemed pointless and boring. 🤷♀️
You can actually do this, and safely so, with food coloring. Dilute and apply with a sponge, or, if you have access to it, those airbrush machines used for spray tans. Only lasts like 2 days though.
I saw a study done in England and they tested skin whitening creams that they bought at drug stores and almost all of them had dangerous levels of mercury in them. Most were manufactured in China. Mercury was not listed as a ingredient.
There is a popular brand of whitening shampoo for your body is japan called “white conc” and i recently got gifted it, im not sure ill use it since im already light skinned?
@@julix6699 oh ive never used it, maybe it does just brighten skin? Ive seen a few reviews on it and after they’ve used it for about a month their skin gradually gets lighter. Im not so sure… But thanks for confirming!! 💗💗💗
I am asian and when I was younger my brother told me to use whitening soap to lighten my skin. He said I was too dark, that women should have lighter skin tone because it makes them prettier and appealing, which would give them better chances of finding successful careers and a mate. Yes, I grew up in that kind of society. That stuck in my head so I started using different kinds of whitening soaps and creams but they didn't really make any significant changes. Fast forward to when I was 18, my parents let me travel to London as a birthday present. One time, I visited my aunt and some of her British friends were there and kept staring at me while chatting with her. I got self conscious because it seemed like they were talking about my color so I asked my aunt afterwards. Turned out, they were admiring how naturally tanned I was, that I'm lucky I didn't have any freckles, that I won't end up with premature wrinkles because I don't have to sit under the sun for a long time just to get a tan. They also talked to me about it before they went home. I was baffled. So that got me thinking: why do they want to be tanned when they are white and why do we want to be white when we are tanned? I started asking myself more of questions. I am in no way attacking people who want be tan or white. It's your choice. This was just a personal realization that I should not bother about what people back home say about me. Right now, I live somewhere people don't care about skin color so I'm happy.
I think tan is nice I live in the USA and everyone wants a tan I've always been really white and if I go around in the sun I burn. If you want to be a little lighter you can get makeup I think that's the safe way to go about it.
Tan is basically fried skin cells. That's not healthy. You can have a fake tan. Always wear SPF50, wear a hat and stay in the shade between 12 and 4 p.m. in the afternoon (depending on where you are in the world, some hours are hotter later on, etc.). Take care of your skin. It's a barrier to your body. 💓
traveling abroad makes a huge difference in life styles ND the way we think...I was so insecure about my looks but after being UAE for quite some years I feel very confident about myself...I don't give a f abt wat my relatives say but my complexion...everyone is beautiful it's just the beauty standards are different....
I used to go to church with someone whose son was grey ..eyes, lips, fingernails and his eyes were blue so it was something to see...I asked his Dad why he was that color and his dad who was very old said his mother gave him silver nitrate since he was born and it caused not only the color change but it damaged his brain...his mother was arrested but I have to wonder where his dad was and if he noticed that he was turning grey.
@@khushi_8808 yes, every Sunday!! I just feel bad because after his parents die, I hope nothing bad happens to him as he's not able to take care of himself.
@@-SimonRiley He said his wife was a "holistic" nature type person, who did not believe in modern medicine, so she began giving the little guy nitrate at a very young age. I was too afraid to ask why his dad didn't stop it, especially when he began to turn grey, his son is solely dependent on him and that is scary considering the father is in his 80s.
@Jason Weaver Not at Walmart of course, but if you go to asian or african markets there are. I live in Italy, once I went to an indian shop to buy stuff and there were whitening creams. In asian countries they believe whiter=rich=more beautiful.
I'm very pale and was self conscious of it for years, but I've finally come around to really love my fair skin. But my goodness every skintone is just beautiful! Hopefully he can find some self love and acceptance regarding his
Same, I grew up in a very ethnically diverse area and the other kids used to ask me if I was sick 😶 to be fair, I was much lighter than even the other white kids, which is bound to look concerning to someone who hasn’t seen it before, but still 😂
I'm darker than my siblings. We are blasian. People told me growing up that they're more attractive because they have the right colour. But there's no right or wrong colour. Diversity is beautiful!
I was the same way with my dark skin I hated it for my whole life up until adulthood. It’s crazy to think about how light people want to be dark and dark people want to be light, it really just goes to show you that every race suffers from insecurity though
@christiansaravia7865 that's wonderful that you've come to accept your skin! It really is so silly, it's one of those "grass is greener" things that doesn't make sense and doesn't have to be. Just like our faces, our skintone is a combination of all who've come before us, and that alone is so beautiful!
Traditionally, white skin was attributed to wealth/high status and applied particularly to women. The best example is ancient Chinese. Being too dark would disqualify you from joining the imperial harem, which was the greatest honor a daughter could achieve for her family. They had to be perfect. They could have no blemishes, no marks, white skin, healthy, etc. There was a LONG list.
yeah it used to be because you’re pale due to not working in the fields. now being tan means you can afford to go on vacation to tropical places and can afford expensive tanning products.
@Kiki Ivanka Shayk His parents were from South Korea, but they moved to the United States and he was born in Michigan. His name is Anthony Youn, the same as his RU-vid name. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anthony_Youn
I don't know about East Asian, but because of British rule people in South Asia started viewing them as beauty standards, it's been more than half a century but the effect is still there
In Thailand, having lighter skin meant you were born and raised in the city (from my area and by my family's word). It meant you never had to work a day in your life out in the fields and of course, it relates to western beauty of having a lighter skin, even though Thai skin can range from really dark to a light colour (but not pale white, if that makes sense). It's still an ongoing belief and I hope it would change because they still advertise skin whitening cream (although I am guilty of trying some skin whitening deodorant because I'm quite self-conscious(?) about my dark armpits). But then beauty has always been a big thing to the point where surgery is advertised on big billboards, so idk. On the bright side, my dad always thought it was funny how some Thai people want white skin and some white people want tanned skin.
Not even western standard of beauty, maybe if you were talking 2 hundred years ago but now a days having a tan means you have money to take vacations to the tropics. It's more a beauty standard in Asia because it means you have money and stay inside all day.
My dad says that too. He used to get bullied for his pale skin and was so confused when skin lightening creams was advertised after coming to Thailand.
Even in Africa, especially in the West countries, they are addicted to whitening their skin. I have seen many before and after pictures and they are horrific. Not horrific in the sense of like scary, but just that someone was once a gorgeous shade of chocolate and are now near being a white persons coloring. It's disturbing. One thing that really led me to loving my brown shade was going back to Ke ya and seeing a sea of gorgeous shades of brown. There was even a man who was black. Like actually black coloring and he was gorgeous. Flawless skin and beautiful straight white teeth. Very statuesque too. Came back to the USA loving my skin color. Though I still was bullied for my appearance.
I think you look beautiful and have gorgeous skin. Overall I think that your very beautiful. And I'm not this pale....lol just hours of makeup and prepping for going to Great Adventure with my daughter around fright fest before COVID had hit. Lol But I hope that your leaving the negative ppl around you out of your life. Unless their just racist bigots. They need to just go and let Karma get them the worst. God doesn't love ppl who hate and are bigoted. My momma would have whooped my life away if I was to ever dare to say or do something racist. That was a huge no no in the house growing up and I always thanked her for raising me and my siblings that way. I took what she did with me and my 4 other siblings and I have been raising my daughter to know no difference between anyone who has darker/or lighter skin ect. She doesn't see anything different from herself and her friends, classmates, and anyone in this world. And I still now look up to the sky and thank my mom for bringing me up to respect ppl and treat others how we'd want to be treated bc it molded me into the woman and mom I am today. My daughter is my world and I love that she's growing up to be a respectable young lady and almost a teen. Sorry for my novel that I wrote. I hope that your not upset about how long it is. I don't write much bc I tend to do this. Have a lovely evening.xoxo much Love 💕 and May God bless you and your family as well...
East Africa also has many bleach users but they seem to be more accepting of rich darker skin, especially in Kenya!! I honestly felt so damn beautiful when I was living there!! I hope we eradicate that belief that light skin is better, it seriously isn’t!! All shades are equally beautiful❤️
YOU ARE SOOOO BEAUTIFUL MY SISTER😍😍 like seriously so drop dead gorgeous wooowwww!!! stay beautiful love, if you ain’t got haters you ain’t popping!!❤️❤️
I'm asian and I have draker skin compared to my family members. One day my mom told me that my skin becomes darker and darker because I play with my friends outside too often. Later on I no longer enjoy playing outside and meeting friends and always be in my room. That's the origin story how I become more introvert and socially awkward. It's cruel actually to think that a judgement people put on you because you have a certain skin tone shapes your personality.
When I was kid I am really extrovert love to go outside play with friends etc but now I am 16 and I hate going outside and love to be with me and now I can call myself introvert. I don't know which one is good introvert or extrovert
@@自殺-w9m that's totally fine! Introvert and extrovert is about how you charge your energy! Introverts gain mental energy just by themselves or with a small group. Extroverts in another hand, they get more energy if they spend more time with people or in a larger group. Each type has their own uniqueness and all I can say is neither is better nor worse. it just depends on the personality they have in general. :>
lol same. i enjoyed hanging out with my friends but my parents wont let me (since they're too strict) so i just stayed inside my room. now i enjoyed inside the room more than going outside. i would even lie to my friends that my parents wont let me go out even though i didnt ask for permission. now, my parents are always asking me to go out and sometimes gets angry since i wont go outside. they would force me that i should change my attitude/mindset whatever and go interact with people.
As a black person, I have been told many many times I should lighten my skin because black skin is “ugly” and “stupid” but I will never in my life lighten my skin. I have natural dark skin when people spend money to have it😌💅🏾
Same here I was always to not to play out outside I would get darker and nobody want a dark girl now I have three children one is my chocolate and caramel baby one is my milk and honey and one is my toffee coffee baby ( yes same father yes all from me) and all of their skin is beautiful and have their own special care but I sadly we have had to put some people in their place when talking about our oldest skin in a negative way we shut that ish down quick
That's aweful! I'm sorry to hear that. I live in Australia and a large amount of people here ( women especially) like to tan in the sun for hours or routinely spend heaps of money on bronzers and spray tans to make their skin appear darker because we are often told that pale skin makes you look sick and vitimin D deprived
@@SuicideRedemption yes!!!but we are talking about the majority here. The system standard is white skin and if you are white you have some privilege that darker skin don’t have miss Elizabeth so don’t come for us who have darker skin please!! and don’t try to act like you have been persecuted all your life because your white or whatever. Please stop the B.S
Here in korea the whiter the better 😢😢😢 One of my friends here in south korea said to me if u were whiter you will fit our standards 😮😮😮i didn't say anything i just laughed... He didn't mean to be rude but I felt really bad tbh I'm brown and i love my color ❤❤❤
You guys don’t realize how racist these comments are in themselves, fetishizing tan skin and Asian people. Yeah, people of color get obsessed with bleaching skin took freakish because of white supremacy still being a pervasive part of life in former colonized nations. It just filters over to mainland and shit because it becomes a trend
I’m not a huge fan of the “corpse dipped in baby powder” look. It just doesn’t do it for me. Idk why🤔 In all seriousness though the nicest looking skin is healthy skin, dark, medium, or light.
Yup. Knew a girl that had beautiful dark brown skin-just had this depth/richness to it (hard to explain sorry). She used lightening cream for a while, and it just didn't look as healthy. Maybe it was dryer or something, idk... Found out it makes skin paper thin, and if you spend even a short time in the sun it just tans back.
Same! I'm mostly white, but my grandfather is Indigenous. I never inherited his skin tone as my grandmother and father was fully white. It gives me mega identity issues because I want to be involved more with my tribe. But the cultural appropriation police say that as a white person, I'm appropriating my own family and "another" culture. That I'm a colonizer ect. It's very painful because the world constantly tells me I don't belong in indigenous spaces because I look white.
I just wrote the same comment basically and then found yours. I'm a fellow white girl who loves to not be pale and glow under streetlights at night. Too funny.
@@RavenFeathers90 that's to bad. Here in Central Ontario at the reserve by my city we have natives with very light brown/dirty blonde hair and are quite light skinned, who live on the reserve. You would never know they are native but they definately are. You are native and don't let anyone, and I mean anyone, tell you your not.
Both are beautiful. I've always loved the African tribes where their skin is so dark they're blue and I love the paleness of people like some of those in Scotland
Tanning and whitening skin are both silly. I finally accepted I'm very pale, it won't change and that's FINE. Some people still comment on my skin, especially if I went on vacation and didn't come back with a tan. Oh well, embrace yourself!!
Me being tan (tbh I'm brown with a lighter shade. I have that yellowish-brown skin) who gets even more darker in summers (Imao). Still here we show off those who have white skin & are good looking. Fair skin is the beauty standard here. I remember being placed on the back consecutively for years in my school (I took part in dance competition since as young as I was 7 or 8 till I was in 8th grade). The reason they gave me was "I'm tall so if I'm in the front people can't see the others at the back" while they would cast other good looking tall & pale girls 😀 Anyways Idc now I'm over with school anyways but this part of my school did left a negative impression on me
@@kdjoshi726 that’s funny because I was pale and tall and always in the back of all photos at school. In my experience people like “normal white” skin, not ultra pale like me. I reflect the sun 😂 and people looooove to comment on it. I wish we could embrace all colours.
@@Kattufei135 What ia imiquimod? O only used monobenzone, a pea-sized amount on both forearms, twice a day.Whitening is systemic for those with vitiligo.
Someone that is too dark is ok naturally but pale people like asian is damaging their healthy because God didn't create asian like that to be pale ,they are possessed e whitness
I am naturally really pale skinned, but this is way too much. It isn't natural either. I'm pale because of my heritage, and I stay out of the sun. It just isn't worth going red in order to revert back to pale a few days later.
Yes beautiful face decor is also beautiful..if we spend more time creating body art and body crafting less time will be spent warring..we should spend more time on body elaboration
@@TigerFucker they would not be able to see the beauty of anything they have/anyone they know. That's why they rely on touch or asking other people what someone/something looks like.
Dark skin is absolutely beautiful, I feel so bad for Asian kids being shamed into whitening treatments for their natural skin color. We're all beautiful in our own right, the only ugly thing is racism 🇮🇹❤️
@I dont care That's awesome and all, but nowadays in many Asian countries darker skin is shunned in favour of lighter skin, which is still incredibly racist. Even if that WASN'T the case, it's still hurtful to young Asian kids and it's important that in the 21st century we embrace all skin types and colours equally.
You get shamed by the elders especially if you're dark dark, in Philippines the lighter the skin the prettier you are, they will call you "mestizo" or "mestiza". And yeah it is on their culture as in their pre colonial times it is a common perspective.
@@nadonado648 so true I was shamed by my relatives for having dark skin they have the light skin from lolo Spanish decent and my sister pretty much got all of the quality light skin long sharp nose while I get poke fun of for having dark skin and small nose telling me I don't belong in the fam bc I'm different 🤷♀️
They're not so much 'shamed' into it than it's a beauty standard that's many hundreds of years old. I went to school with a girl from northern China and she was SO pale (naturally) her skin was translucent, you could see her veins through her skin. That's what other Asians typically strive towards (I'm the other way, I used to solarium every other day, I was addicted). People like to blame western beauty standards but I'm like you have no idea, they had this ideal waaaay before exposed to western beauty propaganda.
Brown skin is beautiful, white skin is beautiful, yellow skin is beautiful and black skin is beautiful. All are made in the image of God and all are beautiful, not just brown skin.
@@SweetTea-Stephens Not pulling anyone down. Just addressing the asian community where having fair skin is considered prestigious while dark skin is looked down upon. For this reason many girls take whitening pills, injections and use harmful steroid based creams. #AllSkinsAreBeautiful.✨❤❤
I love my white skin my husband black skin our childrens brown skin all skin is beautiful no matter how light and dark it's just beautiful as we are all created in God's image ❣️
