Why Isn’t This Girl Married Yet? 

Also, I have heard the “don’t date until you’re 30” from parents, professors, teachers etc, my whole life. Maybe we should stop telling young women that.

Just because a young woman says she is ready for marriage does not mean she really is.

If she thinks most men are ugly then her standards are too high. Most men are average looking by definition, average isn't ugly.

“Women refuses all men. Here’s how it’s actually mens fault.”

Women: "Men, you suck and we hate you, leave us alone" Men: "Okay, guess we'll head out" Women: "I can't believe you've done this"

The first red flag is her posting her meltdown on TikTok.

Back in 2004 I began talking to a girl on the phone for the first time, we were slowly getting to know one another. During that call my mom called on the other line and broke the news to me that my father passed away. After hanging up the phone with my mom, I let the girl know what had just happened. She did something that no other girl had done for me ... She asked me if she could pray for me. At that moment I knew God brought someone very special into my life. That was back in 2004. We're now in our 40's ... I'm 44 and she's 42. We've been together for almost 20 years and happily married for 16 years. Together we've built our life, our home, supported each others careers and dreams and most importantly we've been blessed with two beautiful daughters. She introduced me to God and that was the best gift of all and I will love and cherish her for the rest of my life.

I got married at 19 and my husband was 20. We started dating at the end of 10th grade. We just celebrated 20 years of marriage and I pray our daughter has a similar path. Nothing like building a whole life together starting from your teens. Every single thing and we have is a result of working together towards a common goal and life for ourselves.

“Stop telling me i’m wrong!” No.

So glad I met my wife in middle school and married her right after college. Saved both of us from a lot of years of bs.

Breaking News: Women Are Single, Experts Say It's Men's Fault

I got married at 23 and my husband was 21. I'm turning 30 this year, and a young, engaged couple asked us if we regret getting married so young. I said I honestly can't imagine going through adulthood and learning about life without him by my side. Yup, building a life with someone is so much more meaningful ♡

I’m 37 and my issue was anxiety and depression. I didn’t believe I was good enough for anyone. I was convinced I would never marry and end up alone. Finally decided to seek the help I needed and lo and behold less than a year later I ended up meeting the love of my life and now we’re engaged.

I was married in 27. I had so many fears around it because I came from a broken family of divorced parents. But I knew I have the MOST incredible reliable mature man in the world, I took a leap and boyyyy was it worth it ❤️ If you are afraid but have a good man by your side, it may be your sign to go for it

Met my wife as a Highschool Sophomore. Married her 10 minutes after I turned 18. Celebrating 10 years married in a few months. I am SO GLAD I do not ever have to date in 2024.

I’m 32 and not married. I’m not happy with it. But I 100% know why and what I don’t wrong. And a big part of it was the Lords protection. Because I would rather be single than stuck in a marriage that didn’t work or we were miserable

Ah yes, as a man, I’m ready to be blamed in some way for this.

There are men out here who feel left behind, but we usually out here grinding out a blue collar living and not getting anyone willing to reciprocate

Women need to understand how much peace is valued. She's attractive so my guess it's her attitude.

Women on the internet, “How dare you say I’m looking forward to my life as a wife!” Also women on the internet, “How come nobody wants to wife me up!”

You said it yourself. You built your life "for yourself." Lesson learned.

Honestly at this point, the damage has been done. Feminism destroyed EVERYTHING

I wanted to be a husband and a father so badly that I lost 106 pounds, read TONS of books, meditated, worked on my emotional intelligence and self improvement, all to be told I'm too ugly for my goals. That's what men who try deal with.

She wants "love" for her own selfish reasons. She isn't mentioning anything she'd have to bring to a relationship. She doesn't have a clue what work goes into a relationship.

It takes two to tango. I’m 25 and I have had one date in going on five years now. And it’s not to the lack of trying. I want to sympathize with women. I want a wife, I want to give someone a home, children, and the world, but all I get is “you’re a great guy and I see you as a friend.” I’m not going to force a woman to do anything. So I’m stuck.

I am 100% Noelle here. Or at least I was. Dating was rough, I had no choice but to pursue a career. Even some of the "red pilled" men I dated shamed me for being a virgin and wanting to be a stay at home mother. I finally found the one at 28. I was devastated that it took that long and I didn't have kids in my 20s. But this is the life that was given to me and I will make the best out of it. I love my husband and am excited to be having our first child at the end of this year.

I got married at 19. My husband and I have built our lives TOGETHER. Now 11 years and 4 kids later, we are happy, settled, and never really had a life outside each other. WE are set in stone, plural. Why people have been advising others to set their lives up completely alone, I’ll never know. It all seems extremely selfish to me, and now look where these poor 20 somethings are. Miserable and alone.

No Bret. Don't try to blame men for women 'not finding men".

My generation was basically encouraged to "grow up" before marrying and having kids. The problem is that getting married and having kids IS PART of growing up.

She should marry a bear.

Man that one girl talking about men being ugly and not having anything to offer and that we should probably be more like Disney characters is... Really out of touch.

I am a guy and I feel exactly the same as her. In the last 2-3 years i've done tremendous amount of self improvement: job wise, taking care of myself, confidence wise, flirting skills, hobbies. I have a good stable job, my own car, I work out, cook most of my food, I have hobbies, I go out with people weekly, people always seem to seek my company. Yet, every time I ask someone out, I get told "i like you as a friend" or something similar. Meanwhile, I know guys who cant tie their own shoes, with a family. And almost everyone around me is either in long term relationship or married

She spends the entire video comparing herself to others. She doesn’t want a relationship. She wants to win. She wants to get someone as good or better than her friend’s fiancés/husbands. If she does get married, it will end in divorce. Women like her will never be satisfied.

I do t want a girl who’s built her own life, I want a girl who wants to build a life WITH me

At what point do you ask "do men want what I am offering?" or "why are so many men checking out of dating?"

You get what you get, and you don't throw a fit. Welcome to "equality."

She said she's happy but then she breaks down. Honey, I don't think you're happy. I think you've tried to convince yourself you are. You might need to think about someone other than yourself. Start there. Guys don't want someone that only thinks about themselves.

The men that are leaving dating are not leaving because they don’t want women, they are leaving because women don’t want them.

Is she trying to stay unmarried? This is an advertisement for men to stay far away from her. She also looks like Rachel Zegler.

Brett cooper: Women wants to get married! Also Brett: You cant excpect women to settle for anything but the best type of man!

Guys, a girl invited me to her church and i plan on asking her on a date. Wish me luck Edit: I have known her since September 2023, when we went on a school trip sailing a week in the Netherlands, so she isn't somebody I don't really know.

I found my husband online at 27. We were both pretty "set in our ways". It turns out when you are both humble and looking out for each other's best interests you both change for the better and create something amazing that neither of you could have imagined. 💕

I really don't get people who post their breakdowns online for everyone to see. I get annoyed when a website asks for my phone number and yet some people are comfortable posting their life story for the whole world.

For decades they complained about getting married and having a family at such young ages, for wanting to have a career, for wanting to live a little before they settled down and had a family. Now they complain because they got exactly what they asked for. They’re still missing something. They’re missing the happiness that comes from the inside their looking for happiness to come from the outside, from jobs, careers, relationships, possessions. They don’t find what makes them happy inside, then they can look to the outside to support that feeling.

Ok my big issues with the women's statement she's reading is this. They first assume all men to be the same and lump them entirely into a group. I have 5 sons from 40 to 31 (ones adopted before anyone ask) and they are all different, so how are 150 million of us the exact same when my 5 sons are so different? Next, they say the women have fewer good guys to choose from. I am sorry this is princess mentality, you see it all the time, 5's thinking they are 10's. The woman that was saying that about men being unattractive I would bet is never seen without make up and full glam yet wants to slam men for being "ugly". The whole "queen" mindset is one thing that really turns so many men off. You are not a queen you are not a princess you're a woman with flaws just like I am a man with the same. Another thing they kept bringing up was "not making enough" I am sorry I never dated a woman in my life that I asked her what she made before the date. Personally, it's the person I am dating not her bank book. My fiancée makes more at her job than I do mine almost about 50% more. I also have an Army retirement that we don't touch, now this woman would look at my checks now and go uh not enough, while I am putting away almost 3 times what I earn each month from my Army money. So, in short that "ugly" book she so quickly wrote off may contain the most beautiful poetry ever written but she won't know because she didn't like the cover.

I feel so sorry for this woman that it hurts. My late wife and I were married at 20 and 21 respectively. We built a life together that was very rewarding and happy with three children. I lost her 15 years ago and though I still miss her, I have been able to find love again even at 78.

Ladies. Don't call it "settling". Call it "developing a realistic view of where you stand on the dating market, and understanding the pool of men that are avaliable to you for more than sex."

I got married 12 years ago and I did not understand what my parents meant when they said it will be the hardest thing you can do but if you do it right it’s also the best thing you can do. Work hard at your marriage like you would a job or education and it will take care of you. I hope everyone is having a good day!

Her preferences: 6'0" 6 figures 6 pack abs 6 Infinity Stones

Funny thing is, men I know have the exact same experience. I had the same experience until i randomly ran into the woman I'm now dating. Men feel like they can't talk to a woman without risking harassment claims. Men are vilified for being too manly but are ridiculed for being too feminine. And when a man gets hurt or reaches out, so often he's slapped down and told "man up." It's not a one side issue here. I've heard every single one of those pieces of advice and my responses were the same. But with the culture the way it is, I don't see things improving.

29 male here, my single life is peaceful bliss. Whenever I’ve tried relationships I’ve been absolutely rolled over by young slags in their ‘prime’. I’ve not experienced a true relationship and yet I’ve been left repeatedly heartbroken. Modern social media and feminism has destroyed the mind of the young woman.

I watched a few of this young woman's TikToks, and she said that she was in two long term relationships in her 20s; she said that they both cheated and ended badly. She also said that she was in a situationship at one point.

I got married right out of high school and so many people gave me a hard time about it. We’ve been married almost 20 years and it’s been so nice growing up together.

She said even her THERAPIST told her she's doing wrong.

I agree. As a guy I also gotten the same advice to just “ focus on yourself and the right person will come around “. For some reason people just assume that you can just easily meet someone without actively looking. This type of advice in my opinion is one of the reasons why you see so many young single people . That alongside other things like people only talking about negative things of the opposite gender , ect.

i love how you are still blaming men. 'i understand why you're checking out, but my friends want a man so get back to it'.

I’m a single man. I live in California , about 80 miles from the Bay Area. I’m healthy. Mentor kids. Good with money. Built a beautiful life. But, anytime I’ve invited different women into my life-they bring chaos. Or, they are not ready for a union with a man. I’ve heard a lot, “You know, I’ll never cook for you” or “I’m not changing for anyone” or “I’m not going to be your slave” or “I’m not going to let a baby ruin my body.” One time I showed up to take someone on a romantic date. She was wearing a hoodie. I was clear that the Resturant had a dress code. Her reply, “This is me. I’m not going to change for anyone.” An obvious test to my fortitude. She’s still alone to this day. All these women went to church. A few months ago I went to lunch with a woman that liked me. As we talked she said this: “You know, I’ve thought about you and I. I think I could really be a help to you. But, you’ll never domesticate me. I can’t have children. I’ve worked really hard in my career. You’ll always have healthcare. But, I’ll never leave what I’m doing for you.” It was one of the strangest conversations. It reminded me of the 80’s movie “Cherry 2000.” I asked, “Is that your offer. I’m sorry, but that’s not what I’m looking for.” This is a common experience not just me. I’ve spoken to much younger men who are currently having the same experience. I know women are saying these things on camera, but what they are doing in real life is very different.

I had really bad social anxiety that made it so I didn't join the dating scene when I was in my early 20s. I kept waiting to become the "perfect person" one that didn't have anxiety, that was strong and could do things on her own. I felt like I needed to have all my stuff together before anyone could love me. But when I was 26, I joined a dating site and after talking with many guys and almost giving up I found my husband. Through our relationship I learned that my anxiety doesn't make me unlovable. Since the beginning my husband was always supportive and understanding of my anxiety. With him by my side I have done so much more than I ever thought I would, it's amazing how having someone to be there with you can help so much. So, to the person reading this, yes, it's good to work on yourself, but you don't have to wait until "you are perfect" to start dating. 💖

Women have been falsely told to build an independent successful life instead of being encouraged to find a good supportive man. I’m teaching my daughter both. But tell her most important to find a good partner to build a family with. Family is far more important than an employment title.

I feel for this girl. It took me years to finally meet my husband. I was 27 when we finally met. Up until that point I had gone on a few dates but nothing really worked out. I think a lot of people are being too critical on her, just because you met someone at a younger age or have an easier time finding someone doesn't mean that is the same case for everyone. And I remember when all of my friends got married and how much it sucked, I was really happy for them, but I missed seeing them, and kept wondering when I would meet someone. I know several people in their thirties who have still not met their significant other and I feel for them too. It ain't easy, but I believe it's also on God's time. Sometimes you just have to patient, which can be frustrating.

It's hard to feel empathy when it's the same thing every time. Woman complains/cries on camera talking about how bad it is being single. But never admits she might be the problem. It's always other people, It's always other men. It's always society. Nothing is ever her fault.

She’s that type of girl that rejects every Guy who asks her out

I met my hubby at 19, he was 24 and this was in 2009 when the economy was going to sh*t. Neither one of us was looking for anything serious but it quickly did. He didn’t have much money that wasn’t what I was looking for. We clicked and I told him I want to be at stay at home mom. He work his *as off to become the man he is today and be able to provide for our family. Women today want the whole package at once and make the mistake of not growing with someone. I would be happy with my husband if we were poor - which we were for the first few years. But the love he has for me has pushed him to be a great provider and I still get my best friend who I love and grew with. We need to bring the Skater Boy song back. Good lessons to be learned.

Most men aren’t ready to get married “young”? How young? In their 20’s? Most men are not “ ready” by women’s expectations today. They want an exceedingly exceptional man who can provide at 25. Woman expect a 25 year old man have what normally a 35+ man would have, in an exceedingly more difficult economic landscape. I would say most women want what they can’t have, or aren’t the same as their grandmothers or great grandmothers were as they married young and built a life together. My grandmother and grandfather, married had 6 children. Both involved WORKED in education and were straight up middle class. Modern women aren’t my grandmother.

"Stop telling me I'm wrong!" Says the lady who openly admits she is clearly wrong about everything.

The phase "work on myself" has become the red flag of red flags for me. There is a direct correlation between how messed up a women is and how much 'work on myself', 'finding myself' etc. she has done.

I’m a 35 year old man. Never married, no kids, veteran, good with my hands, great job that pays very well, own my own home, car, two dogs. I can’t find a feminine, fit, friendly, godly women that wants to be a wife and mother. The dating world is screwed and there is a generation of lost souls that are going to be very lonely.

All those women are approaching 30 years old or past 30. They didn't wanted no man to "spend life with" 10-15 years before when they were 18, and they surely had many opportunities. Only now they realized they want it. Curious isn't it?

She rejects multiple guys for various reasons, stays single in her 20s and wonders why she “can’t find a man”…… I don’t feel bad for her in the slightest.

She Probably rejected all the stable guys for being too boring.

All I want is a guy that's 6'4" 200 pounds, blonde hair, blue eyes, multi millionaire that will let me stay home why he pays for everything. Why can't I find anyone?

This is what I don’t like about conservatives. Telling women they need to be married at 30 because that’s the time they hit “the wall”

I feel some of her pain. Next month I’ll be 33, and besides a brief few weeks with someone last year, there’s really nothing else to mention. People all over the world don’t get along for so many different reasons, expecting to find someone you can live with and share life with just feels impossible. At this point, I just try to be thankful I have a good job, food, and a roof over my head. Good luck everyone, with whatever you’re looking for.

I do feel for her. I had a horrible marriage in my early 20s that lasted only 6 months. I vowed to never marry again. And I lived a great life for many years perfectly happy. Then out of the blue I met the perfect man for me in my mid 40s. We have now been married for 7 years and I couldn't be happier. I am so blessed. I never felt sorry for myself. I never cried in my car. I never envied those around me. I trusted in God. And at the right time, I met the one man He had picked out for me. Live your life with happiness and love. You are right where you should be! God bless ♥️

I don't know guys, this whole video still kinda sounds like women are "asking" men to fix a problem they made.

Literally everyone in your life is saying “you are doing it wrong”. AND, you aren’t able to get the outcome you want… maybe you are doing it wrong??

A lot of women with Bachelors, Masters and Phd’s are too embarrassed to date/marry mechanics, linemen, first responders, etc bc we aren’t “educated”, even with the irony being that the blue collar men are often making more money lmao

how monumentally infuriating 😂 I'm one of those guys that's been looking, hunting, praying, begging for a wife or girlfriend and I can't find a woman to give me the time of day. this has been my life for over a decade. I get her frustration but I don't think men are the problem.

No men is quitting dating. We love women. Men are quitting feminists.

you're wrong on the "more women are ready for marriage" There was a recent poll that found for the first time in recorded history young men desire marriage more than young women.

As a 23 year old single who went to Bible College (so most of my friends are married and married young) this is SO important. Seeing them grow TOGETHER, as couples, has been one of the most amazing things and I’m absolutely clapping and cheering for them, as someone who loves them. Sometimes you don’t get married even when you want to (myself being a case in point) so you HAVE to move forward with building a life for yourself and whoever your people are. But that does mean you get to work on yourself and your character flaws so you’ll be a better person when you * hopefully* meet your person

I got married at 19 and I have zero regrets. I married my best friend and got to literally grow up with him. We have been through everything together, and I wouldn't want to do this life with anyone else. Getting married young was the best decision I ever made. ❤

I'm 34, not married, but I wish I was. I have a severe anxiety disorder. I've dated maybe 3 people in my life. Nothing serious. I'll be honest, I'm a virgin too. Waiting for marriage. I'm Catholic. I'm honestly scared to find someone. I have a lot of trust issues and the men only want one thing these days. I just want a godly man with values and who wants children. I pray to God that I'll find my husband soon. All ive ever wanted is to be married and have children.

yeah she sound annoying like a BOSS BABE !!! having a meltdown on internet is a giant RED FLAG !!! HIGH standards is killing the dating pool of woman

I’m going to expose myself quite a bit here, but I think it’s important… I’m a 6ft tall, 32-year-old, Christian male, who has been looking for a serious relationship my entire life and yet I’ve never been on a date or even had my first kiss. I don’t drink, I don’t smoke, I have passions/hobbies, I dress well (at least I think I do) and yet I remain invisible. I make less than 40K a year in a job that has nothing to do with my degree (I spent my entire twenties doing everything in my power to get my foot in the door including moving to a different state, to no avail). I’m fiscally responsible but only make enough money to pay my bills on time. I still live with my parents and commute over 100 miles a day to work because I can’t afford the sky-high rent. Every time I see someone that I’d like to approach, I think about everything that I just laid out and figure it’s not worth it. I feel like there are too many perceived “red flags” in my life that even if I were to get a yes to a date, eventually they’d see I can’t provide and leave. However, women also have made themselves unapproachable. Guys have to constantly play this game in their heads of “If I approach her am I being creepy? What if I make her uncomfortable? Will I make a fool of myself? Will this interaction end up as an embarrassing anecdote to be used on social media?” the list goes on. Then we see tweets or videos of these same women complaining about how they can’t find any good men. Good men are everywhere but because they feel like don’t meet every checkbox on the list of unrealistic standards women have, they don’t put themselves out there! They’ve been bludgeoned to death by feelings of inadequacy and anxiety by women, the media, and other men that they've become paralyzed. They’ve been told it’s all their fault and that they have to take accountability and “be better” even though they’ve done nothing wrong or worse, done EXACTLY what everyone has told them to do. I don’t know, maybe it’s just me but I feel like a lot of guys, GOOD guys, have been told for so long that they’re not good enough that those feelings of powerlessness, inadequacy, or whatever have demoralized them out of the relationship/dating market and now we’re seeing the results...

"I'm happy"... 2 seconds later... "I'm alone [cries]"

"Beautiful life I built for myself" So whats your problem? You built your life for you only and now there is only you in it.

Woman want: 6ft, 6 pack, own a house, Porsche, 200 k USD, model looks, etc Men want: a nice girl who will be nice to him. 😥

As soon as she said “I’ve done everything my therapist said” I understood why she’s not married lol

I'm 5'6" and I can guarantee that most of these women would say "nope" before ever getting to know me. It seems that people have forgotten that having love in your life means choosing to love other people yourself.

She didn’t need empathy she needs a dose of reality, because whatever she’s doing she’s doing it wrong.

9:20 this is the issue.. "at the same age" why are woman trying to date men thats the same age as them? Theres a reason why in a vast majority of cases the men is older, I seen a comment on IG which said "i dont care if you're both in your 30's, a 5 year age gap is not okay" wtf are they talking about? its always better for the male to be older as long as its not something crazy like a 20 year old and a 45 year old.. but if a woman is 27 and a man is 35, its fine. my dad was 6 years older than my mom and 13 years older than my step mom,

when guys are constantly called evil and the reason for all the bad things, you cant help but laugh when it swings back and hits them in the face once in a while (even though Captain Save-A-Hoe will always be right around the corner)

As people say to men when they say things like this you're not "entitled to a relationship"

There's hundreds of guys here on the comments section, but I bet none of us are "good enough" for your friends, Brett.

I like the part where they said, “men take more than they have to offer.” What the hell are we taking?

No man wants to be an extra in someone else's movie.

I met my husband when I was 19 and now I'm 29 (still childless, because of health problems), but we are here with the dream dog, and two cats, a home, an okayish car. He struggled to find a job, but I helped them on the way, and now I'm struggling, and he helps me. It was a hard 10 years: fights, money problems, health situations, car accident, deaths in the family, but it is life.

No more free retirement ladies. Work till you die, you asked for it.

Women: "We don't need Men" Men: "We need Women" I think that says a lot about modern society's dating world.