Why it's important to be disliked

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Though "being yourself" and "doing you" is common advice, it is usually much easier said than done. The book "The Courage To Be Disliked", the authors extrapolate the idea of being disliked, and how it is the only true path to happiness.
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@user-lb2bb1cd7w 4 месяца назад

When I took up the courage to be disliked and succeeded in labelling what my tasks were and what was not my task all along. I realised how much people in my life were pushing me over. Now that I used to openly declare "that is not my task" people felt uncomfortable by how much I was unavailable to thier ever ongoing chaos. This bought me so much peace and lifted ao much burden off off my shoulders. Loved the book!! It will always be my favourite philosophy reads ❤

@nikitafilipovs 4 месяца назад

Sounds fantastic, doing my best to just the same as you!

@LagomLessons 2 месяца назад

Just found your channel, great videos and refreshing to have such a calm and clear tempo.

@nikitafilipovs 2 месяца назад

Welcome aboard! I'm glad you enjoyed it

@souravrawat5481 5 месяцев назад

I am about 70% done reading it. I want to re-read it even before finishing it. It is so subtle and great. Perfect random video RU-vid threw at me.

@nikitafilipovs 5 месяцев назад

I agree, definitely one to reread!

@sandrasingh9532 2 месяца назад

That book changed my life and believe me I have read many books and watch many videos but what I did is read one chapter and pause really think about it then continue

@nikitafilipovs 2 месяца назад

I agree, I felt the same way! Glad to have you here

@Philosophyukara 2 месяца назад

Great book by the way ive read it a year ago

@nikitafilipovs 2 месяца назад

Feel free to share your thoughts!

@LaurenCallahan02 4 месяца назад

This is great! 🙌🏼

@nikitafilipovs 4 месяца назад

Thank you!

@viitcortez 5 месяцев назад

Waiting the full video about this book, also I just bought it, thanks!

@nikitafilipovs 5 месяцев назад

It's a great book, I'm sure you'll have many takeaways from it. Cheers!

@FarrahOmer 4 месяца назад

Very true

@twinturbosofficial 4 месяца назад

Good vid ❤

@nikitafilipovs 4 месяца назад

Thank you for the love!

@ahaskarkashyap6772 5 месяцев назад

Just found your channel. Love how consistent you are, i'll keep an eye haha. All the best

@nikitafilipovs 5 месяцев назад

Thank you for the support, cheers!

@hashsaksham 4 месяца назад

Best of Luck!

@nikitafilipovs 3 месяца назад

Thank you very much!

@zaira9863 4 месяца назад

your videos are really enjoyable, you should be famous tbf

@nikitafilipovs 3 месяца назад

I'm glad you found value in the video:)

@MattsFreeChannel1 4 месяца назад

Dude, if you're asking about the benefits of being disliked, you're missing the point. We live in an evil society. If you are disliked, that is a good sign, but a good world is one you wouldn't be.

@nikitafilipovs 4 месяца назад

You’re cooking!

@servushallo30 3 месяца назад

i respectfully disagree . "the society is evil" is a very broad statement and it should not be your justification to not give a fuck about what any other person says. if you think "the society is evil" through, you end up with: "the society is evil, but i am not" and that is where you really should be reflecting on whether you have good reason to believe that you are less evil than anybody else.

@MattsFreeChannel1 3 месяца назад

@@servushallo30 Well, the society celebrates the on-demand hurtiing of babies, at the mother's wishes. I'm not a relativist enough to pretend I don't know better than that. When you say I basically can't know, you're saying morality is a mystery. I disagree.

@servushallo30 3 месяца назад

@@MattsFreeChannel1 I am not gonna get to deep into the point you are making about abortion, but if it is that obviously wrong, why is there even another side? Anyways, pretending you are right and a big part of the society promotes something that is wrong. Does that really justify to say: Anything that any part of the society will ever say must be wrong so if I want to do the right thing I have to do the opposite of what the society does?

@MattsFreeChannel1 3 месяца назад

@@servushallo30 No, I'm saying our current society is wrong, and ki**ing the innocent is wrong.

@RealThomasHyldig 5 месяцев назад

Hey Nikita, would love to connect with you - Is there anyway we can talk? Best regards, Thomas

@servushallo30 3 месяца назад

Hello Nikita and everyone else reading this comment. I respectfully want to give a counteropinion to this book. My main problem with this book is the denial of the human being a tribe animal and the way the author presents his arguments. 1. (I have fully read this book by the way, but it was a while ago) The author talks about every problem being a person to person problem (a conflict between two humans). This is a position I don't yet disagree with. However what I disagree with is the way the author suggests to solve that problem: He is suggesting to just get out of the conflict and leave it unsolved, for the sole purpose of making the problem -which means the other human- not a part of your live anymore. This sounds great for an animal that is fully independent and has no need to interact with anyone, but unfortunately we are not that. We as humans are a collective that depends on each other and that strength and beauty lies where we have to unite our different and unique interrests and ideas and profit from each other. When we have a conflict, we have disalligned interests, so lets make it our CHALLENGE not problem to allign them or find a way to satisfy them instead of running away from the disallignment. 2. The opposition (the youth) is being portrayed as super emotional, illogical and inconsistant character. The character mainly gives very obviously wrong statements and then gets corrected by the author, dismantelling the obvious and then from this dominant position giving his own opinion which the youth will buy anyways. With that way of presenting of your arguments, you can make anything sound like the big truth. Feel free to respond and share your thoughts :)

@nikitafilipovs 3 месяца назад

Thank you for your insight and perspective! I did find the book focused quite narrowly on individual happiness and fulfillment, which as you mentioned leads to the option of dismissing anyone that is not in alignment with your views. Though, I think you can differentiate between well-grounded/ -intended misalignment, and plain stubbornness. Well-intended misalignment is contributing to a common good, and can be personal (constructive criticism of ones character traits) or collective (productive political opposition.) Addressing such misalignment improves interpersonal relationships and promotes contribution to a common good through improving the conditions of life for everyone. I agree with you there, and it should indeed be the common goal, to allow for such discourse. Unfortunately (especially nowadays) misalignment is often rooted in stubbornness because we are so intimately attached to our beliefs. Instead of fostering productive misalignment, our egos feel threatened even when simply considering a different point of view. Therefore we end up defending ideas not for the sake of improving the conditions of life for everyone, but for the sake of not getting our ego hurt. I think a mix out of your suggestion, as well as Adlerian psychology is therefore the best bet. Before we come together to debate our differences for the greater good, we need to distance ourselves from our personal beliefs of the world - precisely as far as to not feel like they define us as individuals. You are not the political party you vote for, and your humanity is not defined by the clothes you wear or the music you listen to. This does not mean that you do not stand for anything, but merely that when someone doesn't like your jacket, your ego doesn't feel threatened. When we've separated our egos from our beliefs, only then are we seriously able to discuss how to improve the world we're living in. I'd be interested to hear your thoughts:)

@amirnavidkarimian4518 5 месяцев назад

Good Content Nikita! The video however, needs editing at 3:55:00

@GodHelpMe369 3 месяца назад

Major advice!!! Listen closely!!! NEVER ever CHASE HIM. He will run further and you will lose yourself more. You are the feminine. You are the divine goddess. 1) Put yourself first and foremost! 2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl. 3) Rejection is redirection. Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities. And remember: beautiful feminine traits are... 1. Passion 2. Positivity 3. Resilience 4. Curiosity 5. Playfulness 6. Emotional intelligence Also, Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief: 1. Find the belief... 2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES to having the belief 3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES to having belief If you can NOT find advantages then that’s EXACTLY why you're stuck!! When you finally see both sides... Your mind will STOP thinking about it 'cause it’ll be rewired. So you gotta keep at it, until you find the positive to the negative... And therefore, ultimately rewire your brain!

@alper8974 3 месяца назад

Major advice Never ever chase a women just have the looks and rich as a men she will come to you love you when you have the money and looks. Never be ugly or poor as a men no women like that and no women cares about your personality or your great charm or your great heart if a men is ugly or poor but if he is rich and attractive or born like that all the women will come to you and date you love you. Just have money and looks as a men you will attract all the feminine women easily never be poor or ugly.

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