Side Note: A part of making this video was to watch Clueless for the first time in 20 years and now that I have done that, I don't think I have ever watched that movie in it's entirety. It has one of the grossest plots I have ever seen. Not only does the show end with an adult dating a minor but that adult is her step brother. wtf? Like... was that in the TV show spin off too? America was ok with that? 20:10 - Also, I can't believe I missed this when I was writing the part of the script about Marni's website. It says, "WARNING: If you get your dating advice from men, you're doomed to fail."
The first point on the vid- is that you're projecting male perspective. She is not a male. Many times guys test the waters w fems to see if she's OK w flirting. The beginning of her- stating- wondering if a person is flirting or not is valid. Especially when you're an accomplished man. Everything you've done in your life can be taken away if she decides to report or lie against you to the police; from a simple flirt. They'll believe her more, as always, and the lawyers see you got deep pockets so they'll be more than happy jump in. And if you're broke or sub5- again, this may motivate her too because she may find it an insult.
America is OK with more gross stuff than you'd like to know. We're an empire in decline and debauchery runs rampant. It is the way of things since humans are insane and do the same things over and over expecting different results.
Both these women give strong vibes of "I was approached by a lot of men in my early twenties, so I must be amazing at flirting and dating. I should get people to pay me for that advice!"
Oh god, and that was a few years ago. Imagine how many women will try to sell this fake BS within the next decade. The amount of S___s out there today, to also include feminism and online dating has convinced almost every women in the western world is worthy of a 10/10 on the looks scale.
Same scam practice all over the world. People tend to attend the course/seminar because "coach" is overpriced and suggests that after this course "you will be successful, but the success depends on your mindset not what people told you to do or not" and that basic BS is being sold to all this weak people who tend to believe that something has changed in their thinking until they face reality and fade away into oblivion realising that they have waste money and faith in humanity.
"I want the nice guy". "I want you to be open to your emotions". "It doesn matter how much he makes". All of this advice will guarantee failure with women.
@@Ozzie_Mandias They overcome "lack of income" by being the attractive badboy. If you're not that type of guy then low income will absolutely hurt your chances.
@@byteresistor Sure if maybe you look at the guitar guy... but then the drummer is an alcoholic balding fat guy... same of other guys who come to this place to watch such stuff.... For some reason... women don't want a man who is intelligent or ambitious... its like they all have a Homer Simpson fetish. I think thats where incels come into the equation... Incels are mentally ill ambitious guys.... some attractive... most decent looking... some ugly ones... but all have at least one professional skill. They are the exact opposite of Homer Simpson.
@@Ozzie_Mandias you're right I'm average looking, shitty income, dress like a shitty ass boyband and I have a wonderful gf with traditional values, really pretty and we are 5years now, we are getting married this year :D
Exactly. When we live in a day and age where Neo "hand hovers" in pictures to keep SA charges away, what this brawd wants you to do is a one way ticket to the clink. (If you're a dude that is)
"Love will come to you when you stop looking for it... If you stop looking for it, then you would stop talking about it... So, if you stop talking to me about it, I promise you, that you will get exactly what you want... If you call me out on b.s.ing you with false promises, that means you're still focused on the topic, and therefore still looking for love... Therefore, you did not follow my advice, and the real reason you didn't find it is because you're still looking for it because you didn't shut up - not because my advice is total b.s. ... Therefore, stop talking to me about it, continue to stop talking to me about it, and never start talking to me about it ever again, and it will be a lot better than this talk from you about your love life that I hate to listen to." - translation
The reason that that boneheaded woman cant understand this, is because as a woman the chances of her being on the receiving end of a sexual harassment claim are very low.
Been waiting for this! Side note: so ironic that a woman teaching a class about effective body language and communication is just about the most awkward and uncomfortable person I've ever seen.
"effective body language and communication"....meanwhile IRL, if the girl looks you in the eye, asks you questions, touches you....yeah it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know maybe, just maybe she's into you. It's so sad that set grifters, same as PUA, play the whole "oh you need a PhD to understand female interactions"...
I’m especially uncomfortable with her use of “hot ape” as a verb. If my friends are telling me they’re gonna go out and “hot ape” some chicks, I would call the police
Every time I asked a woman for dating advice, they all said the same thing, that I should lower my standards, go for fat women, older women, single moms, and simp out. My disgust for them saying this to me was difficult to disguise behind the social mask. The same ones who wish misfortune on me now wonder why I don't even acknowledge them.
I have female friends say to just chase who I like because sometimes women like being chased. Im like no, if they make me chase them, I won't because Im not into that.
@@thousandyardgavri2785 I wouldn't mind if I could actually discern "hard to get" playfulness from genuine disinterest. For me, if she resists or evades at all that's a sign that advances are unwelcome and need to cease.
Goes the both way. Man too ask women to lower their standard date a 5'1", or date just because they were "nice" only cuz they didn't harasse you on public as if that's a noble thing. Goes both ways.
When H.O.T.A.P.E becomes H.O.R.A.P.E anyone with half a brain would end the presentation at touch. I want everyone to ignore this presentation and get back to work. The company does not endorse nor will we condone HOTAPE on the premises!
What ive seen recently on dating apps: 1. Fattys 2. Skanks 3. Girls who are so masculine they just need to accept the fact they are lesbians 4. "Poly" girls, who obviously are on there because their bf/husband told her "We're going poly or im leaving you." 5. "Cougars" who lie about their age, but are desperately looking for validation from a younger guy. 6. SJW, pink/blue/green haired/million piercings tattoos 7. fake profiles of hot model girls 8. fake Korean girls that all look the same (is it the same girl? I seriously cant tell) 9. "I have _ kids." 10. Maybe 7 out of 100 profiles of a sane, halfway decent looking girl who has her pick of 436345634563456 men. Good luck.
Dating apps are the most useless thing a guy can do online unless he is tall and has an attractive face. Dating apps are 90% looks and a jumbled amount of percentages that include status/money, niche preferences and personality. If you're even an average looking guy, your profile is probably on its way to being shadow banned. If you're ugly, forget it, unless you're looking for 1-0.5/10 looking women who are 40 year old, 300 pound, single moms just using you for your money.
In my personal experience, decent girls do not use this app, is kind of a stigma that people only use it for hookups. Or some just really make profiles to troll people, well there are some stupid people there. As my father told me, just focus on your life, get good people to be your friends and when a girl seems nice, do not jump right at the bat,test to see if she is crazy,I think I do not need to tell you how. Good luck!
The best thing you can do as a man is overcoming your lust, finding meaningful purpose, and becoming as high value as possible. Life is so much more than what society tells you, to hell with what women want
After playing in a band for a few decades I can give this advice to young men....avoid females. Try to get castrated if possible if that helps. Most of them are horrible in every possible way. Why? It doesn`t matter. That`s just the reality.
@@olympusentertainment2638 it means, become what the ladies want, so they will be attracted to you as gold diggers tend to be. Actually, forget all of that, define yourself and be who YOU want. Don't live for the validation of others.
@@olympusentertainment2638 Because you should strive to live by values that would nurture a good community not become a self-centered, contriving, stealing, muderous ape that is merely a menace to everyone around.
These days if a random attractive woman suddenly comes to me I will immediately think she is trying to sell me something or want to scam me. No way I would think "is she flirting with me?".
@@mohamedabdourahman9845 TED events are organized by the TED organization themselves. TEDx are community events that are independent from TED’s values as long as they pay a licensing fee to use the image.
I hate dating. You must: Plan the date (otherwise you're not a leader) Pay for the date (otherwise you're cheap) Be funny (without being a tryhard) Escalate (but not too fast, it's creepy) Expect success (but be ready for rejection) It's like a job interview. When you must jump through so many hoops it stops being fun and you stop being yourself.
Maybe it would be more fun if you dropped all of these rules that came from the internet and actually be yourself. Not in a cringy way, I mean just pretend like their are no social stigmas around dating and do things with her on the fly.
Planning dates isn't so bad. I usually just pick things I want to do anyway. I'm trying to see if she'd fit into my life. Depending on the situation I treat a girl like I would any of my friends or like a bratty little sister. It's fun when you're not pretending to be someone else just to impress. You have to treat dating as a way to figure out if someone is compatible with not as some sort of way to convince someone to like you enough to sleep with you.
@@clinton4161 but you assuming that the person is natural good at being funny or cool. Some people really benefit from watching pick up lines and date videos because they are very awkward. The best advice is to work on personality by reading, learning humor, and picking up some hobbies. Sad truth is some people just don't have an identity and will need some coaching
Not the right analogy, first of all, dating is competitive so why would a fisherman give advice to other people for free? Also fish tend to not want to be caught because they could die (unless the fisherman puts them back in the water but being caught is still an inconvenience to them). Most women do want to be in a loving relationship.
I had this "Marni" chicks' markerting guy that built that website reach out to me once for a "colab." He was a young eager dude, drunk on her kool aid. Apparently she wanted to come on my channel, and dispense her 'advice.' The approach was all take, and no give. So I first reviewed the comments in her videos with him, and showed him the biblical level of simping her male audience gives her, then showed him how his clients advice was shit. I don't think anyone ever sent him off the way I did. Women give the worse advice on women.
As a woman, I was given the same general shitty life advice like "be yourself" and "have confidence". I wish I had found your channel in my teens, your reality checks are needed.
My problem with all sides of the gender and dating debate is that so much advice seems like it should work and should be seen as normal before the fact that so many people seem to still end up unlucky kind of proves that it's not just as simple as being confident or being yourself.
Like imagine if a guy not only found the courage and happiness to actually be himself after years of not and working out and working on other things stereotypically you would consider to help a guy find a woman. Nothing is worse than doing all of that and still ending up in the same place. I'm 24 and ever since I was 17 I self-improved on myself in different areas and different moments of my life and I never expected it to make a woman land in my lap but I also never thought that just doing all of this was the secret because most people's lives especially the hardest parts such as the self-improvement and overcoming obstacles usually happens unseen to most people. All the girls can go off of his house you first meets me which is not fair but also not accurate because she would not know anything about my confidence or what I worked hard on because she was not there with me day-to-day in my life
@@deforestshell3037 I had no problems dating (I was a woman, d'uh), but I was having big problem making friends. I just thought I am perfect and everybody else was stupid and nobody told me "you need to be a pleasant person and need to have skills people appreciate".
"I'm a flirting expert" "My expertise amounts to bad dad jokes and things that only apply to Western countriess" Correction: only applies to SITCOMS in Western countries.
This woman is the epitome of the anime butterfly meme: *someone being friendly* "Is this flirting?" The crying part is silly. Gundam said about how he only cried once in front of his girlfriend after his dog got run over and she left him.
Jean was just cringe, I was getting secondhand embarrassment from watching her. I 100% agree with you that so much of this--and a lot of dating advice period--is just non-advice, especially for men. They always assume that you are already attractive enough so that only a little fine tuning is needed, and all the while they try to convince you that no matter how hopeless you are their advice will turn you into a Chad. It's a scam.
It’s ironic the only guys they gave the time of day to are Chad’s so that’s probably the only male perspective they know 😂 the guys they’re trying to “teach” they never would’ve given the time of day to even if they used the exact advice they spew
Funnily enough, not following female dating advices, doing the exact opposite and in some cases being outright "misogynist", has garnered me better results than trying to be the "Rom Com Good Guy" that women say they want. Also, jokes, even bad ones (HELL!! ESPECIALLY bad ones!) if delivered the right way and in the right timing can be very, very effective.
As far as gaining confidence goes, for me personally the best advice I've ever been given was fake it til you make it. I pretended to have confidence for maybe 2 or 3 years and at some point it stopped being pretend and just became confidence
@@kinzer1756 I’d disagree, I think it comes down to finding the right person. Blind confidence won’t win someone over, but your personality will. Confidence just gives you the resource you need to show off your personality. I mean, I’m ugly and work a dirty job but I’m a pretty confident guy and it’s helped me a long way
I start focusing on having fun. As long as I was enjoying myself then I'd be relaxed and the girl would be as well. If she doesn't lighten up or it's not a good match then you still come out with a W because you yourself still had a good time. Don't make your experience dependent on the approval of someone else.
I have a cat that constantly begs for attention yet chooses to sit just far enough out of reach that i have to constantly move to pet her. Every woman i have ever met in my life has been a less interesting version of that.
Few years back I got high smoking weed with a couple of girls - a friend and one of her friends I did not know. 20 mins later her friend started freaking out and accused me of 'raping her with my eyes'. No, I did not stare at her chest or anything. Society has just lost it. Or maybe I just needed more Hot Ape technique...
lul, it sounds like she smoked too much. Remember kids, this isn't your grandfather's weed. The new stuff is like 20 times stronger than the old stuff. Pacing is important. Stay safe my friends. Also, I think you are onto something. If you had HOT APEd her this wouldn't have happened.
I love how all of the female dating advice directed at men basically boils down to "Be confident!" Like these men watching these videos are just going to be like "Oh, THAT'S the problem...the confidence switch on my back was switched to the OFF position!"
Confidence is work, I agree. If you are average looking, you will need to be confident in order to get women. But it works for women too. They need to be confident to have the man they want to have.
@@lovejunkie490 1 - women don’t need any confidence in order to be attractive. I’d dare to say it’s actually the opposite. Women who claim themselves to be confident are too reactive, competitive and their standards dar so much higher than they can afford. Girls who act shy/timid are seen as cute, delicate, feminine and therefore more attractive to guys. 2 - Chads don’t need any too, for the same reasons. Seen as mysterious, intriguing, cute, etc.
Some of the dumbest people I ever met are people with high education: Many years ago I was a security guard at a refugee camp. And we had this woman there who had master degree in psychology and had therapy sessions with each refugee there. One day she came to me and asked me if I could drive him to the hospital. I asked why, and she replied: "He has pain in his heart". I looked at the guy and he seemed physical fine, standing normally and looking out the window. I did notice he was very sad, and I asked him what bothered him. And he said: "I miss family. I want call them" (he didn't speak so well english), and he continued and took his hand to his heart: "I pain in heart". This woman thought after having spoken with him for over one hour that he had a heart problem.
how can you be dumb with an education... maybe the definition of education shouldn't be so narrow? education involves attending a state run camp? they won't teach you awareness or the difference between intelligence and smarts or to question anything outside of the filtered reality. isn't saying an "educated dumb person" an Oxymoron? you'' notice that even the average definitions of what smart is is dumb
The “getting mad when you are afraid” works. Used to be terrified of heights. Still not a fan. But it was preventing me from being a lineman and I used anger to overcome it.
@@kiliandrilltzsch8272 I genuinely hate that saying ngl. it compares females dating to getting killed+eaten and it implys that men always have to be the chaser. Ik for sure I'm looking to much into it considering it is a general saying
I’m fit, generally considered attractive, work, have my own place and in a good financial situation. No woman would ever take the first step by approaching me with a funny joke. I go out a lot and most of the women that I interact suddenly drop the “I have a trauma with my ex” in the very first hour of conversation. I try to make the mood a little less awkward by also telling a bad experience, but in a much more lighthearted manner. Even joking about the situation. The thing is, they are so busy projecting a marginalization (so much worse than what actually happened), that they aren’t even capable of noticing what a man wants. I just wanted to have a good time and suddenly I’m her therapist? Having to talk about your “anxiety” and shit? We literally just met!
I know how you feel I’ve had this happen over 6 times each girl was a huge problem and it’s best to run far far far away from them , make an excuse to escape, that person is a live wire waiting to burn you.
From a girl: We don’t bring up our exes to guys we’re actually interested in, women map out all the guys around them and choose the ones they don’t see as potential mates to use as drivers, therapists, drink buyers ...
If you're getting women who are suddenly telling you about their problems, that's their way of showing non interest or DON'T INVEST FURTHER sign. The joke isn't on them.
Been there; done that; got the tee-shirt. If "trauma" discussion becomes incessant, realize & understand you cannot fix anyone - that's their responsibility. Prepare your exit.
Fellas, you gain confidence through competence. There is nothing you can do except identify the problem and keep training it until you are well versed in it.
@@datboi42 I only consider someone a creep if they start touching me or making crude comments to me when I barely know them. A light touch is fine but if someone recoils it’s pretty obvious they’re not interested
@@datboi42 The vast majority of women don't think a man is a creep for touching her once or twice. They only think he's a creep if he can't read social cues and insists on touching her even though she's made it clear to him that she's not interested.
The type of "vulnerability" that women like would be things like smiling at a child, laughing at a joke, etc. You really don't have to do much. Whatever you do, don't cry. It will ruin your relationship.
This was my biggest realization in my mid 20's. I was always taught bull about how sensitive guys are the best, etc. I got a lot stronger and the higher T levels made it naturally harder for me to cry. I realized that being stoic actually turned women on more than being a soft blubbery baby. Specifically *not* crying when there are tough situations will have a woman respecting you more. Their desire seems to be very connected to respect.
I'm a girl and i don't mind if my bf cries or not. I will still comfort him, and listen to his problems and try to help him. I see both genders as equal, so ofc i will help a man just as I help a woman. I hope more women learn to understand a man's feelings are valid & that they are okay with him crying
@@ham-sley1308 Usually there are but two occasions in a man's life where he may cry without losing his girlfriend's/wife's respect once and for all: When his parents die, and when his children are born. Apart from that, men are required to be as if rocks. Pubescent boys already learn this, for a reason, and I really don't see this ever change. At the end of the day no-one cares what a man feels. You seem to be a different kind of woman, though, but yours is truly a very rare case.
@@ham-sley1308 Thats very noble of you. Sadly a lot of the reinforcement I got for being stoic came from women in general. Not so much in the open as in "hey stop crying". But more in the case of girls latching on to me when I held steady in tough situations / brushed off tremendous losses as manageable. That trickled down into a general understanding that being stoic is more attractive to most women. I did meet a few women who werent like that to me, but by that point I didnt want to burden them with my suffering too much either. It can honestly be tough when someone dumps their hardships on you, and I've come to realize that being very frail can also be selfish (in a way).
Men, do not hesitate for one moment to put a restraining order against your female partner if you feel your safety and health is in jeopardy. Placing a permanent restraining order on my female partner was absolutely the wisest protective move of my adult lifetime. My only regret is not doing it years earlier. Men, be safe!
The first rule to dating is be tall and be a Chad. Nothing else really matters much. Confidence works if you’re a Chad. Confidence becomes creepiness if you’re not a Chad. In fact, too much confidence without being a Chad could ruin your life and land you in jail.
I have actual proof. I have a chad friend and he tells me of completely wrong things he says or do with some women and i deeply know that if i done just a fraction of what he does im going to he arrested. I swear his texts with girls are cringe and he touch many women when he barley know them but i have saw it nothing bad happens to him even he gets all those women. If i wouls do the same thing he does i know i would neing accuse of harrasement
You're halfway there. If she's attracted to you, there's not much you can do wrong. If she isn't, there's nothing you can do. Different women find different things attractive, but the rule always is they like the version of you that maximized your stats better than the version that didn't. Yes, Chads check more of the attractiveness boxes for more women, but there are some fugly dudes out there with wives because she focused on other aspects of him and found his particular brand of fugliness more endearing than other brands.
@@TheSpecialJ11 There might be fugly dudes with wives but those are the exception. We don’t make rules with the exceptions in mind. But yeah, if you’re a Chad you can’t fail. Weirdness in a Chad is “quirky and interesting”. Weirdness in a fugly dude is creepy and awkward and. Off putting.
@@GGWP-nx3kn This. And surprisingly if a guy just asked her "wanna smash?" she would totally be into it, with zero flirting, game or w/e bullshit she was fantasyzing about.
I've definitely questioned if someone was flirting with me because they were so attractive I doubted it was happening. I am a man and it's uncommon for beautiful women to initiate flirting with me. It does happen sometimes but it's rare enough I often doubt it's happening, I've missed a lot of opportunities.
@@mazdrpan4099 I notice when they do that but I'm sure I've missed some good opportunities too. I'm tall, athletic and been asked to model on the street. I'm probably more attractive than I am comfortable acknowledging, but often women just want a one night stand and act sleazy, but I've been so naive I've been bought a drink and complimented by strangers and still just thought they must be on MDMA or something.
Bro her "Not hot ape. Not hot ape. Hawt ape" legit made me quit the whole video. She's so bad at this that she is able to turn a good video bad just by being featured in it...
I'm a woman and even I wouldn't take dating advice from women lol. The only people you should take dating advice from are happy couples in traditional marriages who have a good track record of staying together through hardships and making things work long term.
What the f is a "traditional marriage"? And I`ve found that married couples will only tell you what worked for them not what works for you. Do you want relationship advice? Go to a licensed therapist who`s specialised in relationships.
As a woman, I am learning so much from your channel! I wish there were resources out there for us to learn how to be a good partner in the modern world tbh. Most of my female friends are hard core feminists that wont listen to any criticisms :/
There refusal to open up to criticism isnt your responsibility. They will learn the lesson the easy way or the hard way dependent on their future choices
If you want to improve your life, then find new friends. The saying is true that "you are the average of who you surround yourself with". If you don't want to end up like them, then throw them out and find more traditional women that are successful in dating and relationships, to be friends with.
I’m sure her advice is fine if “attractive stranger” finds you attractive from the start But at that point an attractive man can basically do and say anything and the woman will react positively to it An experiment I heard about a guy did on a popular dating app He made a profile with an attractive mans pictures He tried everything to be a bad conversationalist, rude, sexist It didn’t matter.. women who messaged him didn’t care So he made a new profile, where he said he’s a convicted sex offender who molested a 6 year old boy He made sure women who messaged him had read his profile and knew what he’d done They didn’t care... he was attractive and they wanted him no matter what he’d done Even when he was rude and direct about wanting sex not conversation The women didn’t care The guy who ran this experiment was depressed from this..he basically lost faith in humanity This “dating advice” does NOTHING for the 80% of men who women rate as being “below average”
He attracted shallow girls - I'd personally would not care how attractive you are those types of attitudes and pedophilia would put me off that person .. then again I don't go on dating app .. never know what your running into
@@xxMpEGxxIt's because he is. He takes these people preaching extreme ideas and can only supplant his own incredibly extreme and insecure ideas in their place. Literally nothing on this channel is about how to be a better person, it's all how to make yourself into the shiniest object to attract sex partners. Survey anyone in 10 years who's currently taking this advice seriously now and I bet you'll find a lot of people in unhappy relationships who have zero idea where they went wrong. It's kid shit for animals.
Absolutely positively never ever touch a women you just met. If she feel he's harassing her his life is F. False accusation is a big problem with modern women.
So many men have ended up in jail and/or financially, professionally, and socially ruined by failing to heed this advice. It's just not worth it, boys.
It has become worse with modern women, but women accusing men has always been there. I think in the past 50 years it's just steadily gotten worst. I am 40 years old. I was accused twice when I was 16 and 17. First girl wanted to have sex with me. I has a girlfriend at the time and didn't want to and this girl was extremely good looking. I put myself in a bad situation because I went to sleep at her brother's house she snuck in room and ya we kissed but I did stop it. She said I rao** her. She wasnt very bright or didnt think it would go this far but cops took her to hospital and she was virgin. Other girl just wanted me and her boyfriend to fight over her. That chick was crazy, that was her thing getting her boyfriend to fight over her. I was just 1 of like 5 guys this girl said she hooked up with
OMG! Don't EVER take dating advice from a woman!!! They only project themselves into your date's point of view and tell you how THEY would want to be treated, instead of giving you valuable advice on what's morally and emotionally best for YOU in those situations, without taking inn account what kind of person your date is. Because duh, they mostly don't know them. And many of them, as we know, have this unrealistic soap opera kind of expectations when it comes to dating and relationships. In the last 15 years, female dating advice NEVER did me any good as I was always the fool in the end. Also don't take advice from dudes that sound "Ted Moseby'ish" - you will only make an idiot out of yourself and come across as a wimp rather than romantic. Women romantisize over those things but when they experience it, they always think you're "too soft" or "too nice". Been there, done that. And it took me a LOOOONG time to realize that women want you the most when you're rather unaffected by them and when THEY actually have to work to get YOU! There is nothing worse for a woman, than a guy they can't have. Especially when all the other guys are chasing her. If you're the only one resisting and only wanting to be "friends", that is when they get triggered and want to make you their "project".
Yup. Then after time you give in and become attached - so they realize the chase is over and their desire for you vanishes. They then get bored, chase someone else and push you out of their life.
These are some possible red flags I've noticed in certain women for a while now. If you're looking for a good partner for a stable, healthy relationship filled with peace of mind or just curious, this could be worth a read: 1. Long (fake) nails 2. Fake hair (~long and/or bright colored) 3. Makeup (mostly heavy makeup) 4. Big earrings 5. Provocative clothing 6. Very active on social media (attention seeking content; thirst trap antics, etc.) 7. Questionable.. questions (e.g. "Babe, would you date me if I were a worm", "babe do you think I'm pretty"..) 8. Tattoos/body mods/piercings (especially in weird places) 9. Most/all of her friends are male. 10. Promiscuous or Using se>< as a proxy for feeling loved and adored (this can be especially true for people who struggle with attachment issues/daddy issues) 11. S.I.G.N language (Shaming, Insult, Guilting & Need to be right) 12. Herd mentality/No sign of individualism (follows beauty standards, fashion trends, body ideals, bad friends or other trends without questioning or reflecting on their reason[s] for doing so) [often correlates with No. 2, 3 & 5] 13. Spoilt brat-like/elitist behaviour (e.g. people who refer to themselves as "bad b*tches", claim to have "very high standards" or are "high maintenance" ) [often correlates with No. 1, 2, 3, 4 & 5] 14. Materialistic [often correlates with No. 12 & 13] 15. Their actions don't follow their words (cognitive dissonance) 16. No sense of boundaries 17. Uses past events or personal information you gave when you 'opened up' to them, as ammunition against you during fights or quarrels. 18. Clingy, jealous or possessive (e.g. not being allowed to have any female friends) 19. Frequent quarrels over trivial things--it seems some people think toxicity makes relationships more 'fun or exciting' (or even straight up admit they enjoy toxicity in relationships) 20. Habit of lying (shouldn't be ignored [along with No. 7, 14 & 16] as it could escalate over time [often correlates with No. 10, 11, 13 & 15. Possibly with No. 6] ) 21. Has a tiny, little girl/baby-like voice (possibly due to trauma or abuse at a young age [Reference: Dr. Drew Pinsky - Loveline] ) 22. Expects you to 'mind-read' their thoughts and/or 'hints'--- (Quora; Do women expect men to be mind-readers?) *Their mentality of dependence and expectations is so high they use emotions to smoke screen this shameful behaviour. [Shouldn't be ignored. Could correlate with No. 19] 23. Sh*t Tests---"used to determine your frame. Frame is a concept which essentially means 'composure and self-control.” (shouldn't be ignored; usually continues indefinitely, may escalate over time [Often correlates with No. 11, 16 & 19. Possibly with No. 7 & 17] ) 24. Ultimatums (could correlate with No. 13, 16 & 18) 25. Can't/doesn't take 'No' for an answer (Strongly correlates with No. 16, possibly with No. 11 & 18 [Shouldn't be ignored; possible sign of an abusive person, may lead to tantrums, physical assault or other 'crazy' behaviours] ) 26. Comes from a broken/toxic/abusive home and/or lacks (proper) parental figure(s). (Often correlates with No. 4, 6, 8, 10, 16, 19, 20 [compulsive or pathological lying] & 21) *The issue is simply not just coming from aforementioned homes, but many don't seek professional help and/or properly work on themselves so they carry that mental/emotional baggage into their relationships. 27. They're often passive aggressive (Could correlate with No. 22. Possibly with No. 7, 11, 19 & 25) www.amazon.com/dp/B09PJGWWY8
28. Bisexual ("People with loose sexual boundaries like bisexuality, polyamory & pansexuality- sexualities where they can't really declare a major or stick to a specific type tend to be trauma survivors*." [*May correlate with No. 26] ) 29. Exhibits 'infantile/neotenic' behaviours when in need of aid (e.g. using a childlike voice* and speech pattern, acting "cute", naive; sometimes with a 'sensual' undertone - often used to avoid accountability, responsibility or get their way) [*Not to be confused with No. 21; this one (29) is intentional while No. 21 is 'involuntary'] [Could correlate with No. 10 & 25. Likely with No. 16] ) 30. Frequent mood swings-- could be 'preemptively' identified with certain comments e.g. "Having someone who can handle your mood swings is such a blessing", "Need a man that can handle me (when I'm mad, act crazy..)" [Correlates with No. 19. Possibly with No. 13, 17, 18, 22, 23 & 25] 31. Really into astrology (has their personality, behaviours or actions based on zodiac signs) 32. Being "Free-spirited"; 'Hippie' or 'Gypsy-like'. (Could correlate with No. 8, 10 & 26. Possibly with No. 28) 33. Often/always plays the victim-- "When you're so used to playing the victim you don't realise when you're being the villain." (Often correlates with No. 15, 20 & 29. Possibly with No. 6, 10, 11, 16 & 17) For those who are perplexed about No. 1-5, google search for images of Saweetie or blac chyna or sumn idk These flags could be a result of insecurities, emotional and/or mental immaturity, childhood emotional neglect, attention/validation seeking, attachment issues, etc. Observing people's personalities, character and behaviours rather than focusing on their 'physical attractiveness' is a good way to overcome the halo effect. Also, like attracts like, so make sure to be self-aware and reflect on your actions/behaviour to grow and mature as a person. And be compassionate to others as you'd be to yourself. These are just my observations & opinions and should be held up to scrutiny.
Don't ask a fish how to catch fish. Also - the woman in the first clip is clearly insane. Noone should take any advice from her regardless of the subject
HAHAHA thats awesome, and sums this up perfectly. Every guy needs to read this and think about it deeply. Well, not so deeply actually, but until it makes sense.
I used to take advice from women. There were no men in my life. I'm pretty sure it's the reason i never landed a date until i was 34. It was all very confusing. Only after i started watching channels like this my life changed. Within weeks i had my first date. It was awefull, but i did it. Took me a couple of dates with differend women via dating apps to realize i don't like this whole process. I met a lady at chemo theraphy and we ended up in a relationship. Sounds romantic, but i realized i absolutely hate the thing i always dreamed of. I broke it off and never felt any need to be with a women again. For the first time in my life i clearly see women flirting with me and i don't care at all. It's a wonderfull feeling. Maybe this will change in the future, but for now it's great. To all the young men i would advice to focus on yourself first. Get to know yourself, build up a life and only then go look for a decent women if you feel the urge. Good luck with that these days. They are like unicorns.
@@S1baar To be fair, it's tricky to recommend good channels. I used to watch a lot of mgtow/redpil channels, but most of them seem to be bitter, women-hating assholes. The good thing about it is that it changed my mindset. I no longer value myself based on my succes with women for example. The one channel i could recommend, besides this one, is Abba and Preach. Those guys seem to be honest and open and they are hilarious. They talk a lot about being a man in a healthy way. No alpha man bullshit.
@@cookiegirl891 Another thing to try is when you get up in the morning, look in the mirror... and see a big fat line of blow sitting on it that you're about rail. Breakfast of champions!
This is an interesting topic. I actually was in a conversation with a women who tried to debate me that women ask men out. I tried to explain that there are more situations where some women will take the initiative but typically men make first contact. She kept stating that I was wrong and used herself as an example because she has a history of approaching men. I couldn't get the her to separate her own anecdotal experience with what happens the majority of the time.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I just took a moment to think about that exchange again. When she first began speaking to me, she actually said "That's horrible, your making it sounds as if men do all the work". I'd love to know a way to communicate to some people without them instinctively funneling it through the person's feelings. I think I tend to look at issues in abstract and I'm able to more effectively separate my personal feelings from the conversation. Maybe that's a potential topic for a video. :D
@@charlestoefield2659 But men do, do all of the work. As far as I am aware, there is no way to convince a person who is so unwilling to look at reality. Occasions where people change from having very strong, unrealistic beliefs to being more reasonable are extremely rare.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I know, I guess I'm just trying to give them the benefit of the doubt. I tend to think that if I just explain things in an impartial way, that those people might at least see some reason in why I'm asserting something even if they don't totally agree with me. That conversation did smack of something odd. It was as if they couldn't even acknowledge why I'm drawing that conclusion. Does that make sense? I mean I like to respond with a statement that recognizes what the other person was saying even if I don't agree. I didn't get any of that in this case. It was almost as if she wasn't arguing with me but with someone else. Does that make sense?
@@charlestoefield2659I completely get what you mean. i’m also at blame for this, repeatedly attempting to break down logic in conversations, explaining and covering any doubt, presenting evidences even since the logical and real statement doesn’t hold up most of the times. asking them questions, further explanations and people will say out loud on their own things that disprove their point completely but will refuse to arrive to the conclusion that they’re wrong. and yes it can end up feeling like they are arguing with someone else since they are answering questions that weren’t asked and ignore the ones that were asked, they go over their first points as if it’s a new one and raise their voice and you’re supposed to go with it, they go off completely unaware to the fact they’re lying out loud to themselves and have been SO triggered by the revelation of their delusional perception of reality they can’t help themselves but being defensive. The Ego and our survival instinct come into play. People fight for their version of reality so hard, makes you think are people inherently ignorant? or are we inherently masochist? or is our current reality so bad that normal people choose delusion over it so often that it became their default? or maybe our current reality is designed this way with a purpose. to make us stupider, weaker, lonelier.. either way, ignorance sure is bliss
@@Utopian1234 Yeah, but height and facial attractiveness are the baseline; they're the minimum threshold to even be considered. Being neurotypical is a minimum threshold, as well, i.e., don't have autism or schizophrenia. If you don't meet the minimum requirements, there's nothing to build upon, and no amount of self-improvement is going to mean anything. Self-improvement is a multiplicative factor; no matter what, anything you multiply by zero will still be zero.
@@logan_wolf Well when you put it like that that does make sense. But also remember that there are plenty of women who do not give a shit about height. Dont let social media warp your reality. Things are popular on social media because they are unusual. However when it comes to the type of woman featured in this video you're 100% right.
@@Utopian1234I’m 5’5 and while I do see plenty of short guys with gfs I still wish I were just a bit taller 😂 not even just for women I just hate being smaller than most men especially in the construction industry.
"A man who's able to polarise exudes tremendous confidence" She's got this entirely backwards. A man who exudes tremendous confidence is able to polarise. Don't try to polarise if you're a loser. It'll come out wrong. Get your life together, have something to be confident about, then polarisation will become natural.
The reason why women can´t give dating advice to men is very simple. They don´t know what taking initiative is. In the process of courtship, the man takes an offensive position, while the woman takes a defensive one. They don´t know what is to actually be in charge of the whole process. The man is reponsible for approaching, flirting, creating attraction, trust, escalation. If that wasn´t enough, he has also to ask for a number, ask for a date, pay, go for the kiss, go for sex. Women have no idea about these things because they see the whole process from the other side of the field. Their role is to damp the process. We men spend a lot of time and energy understanding women, because we need to see through our counterpart´s eyes. They simply don´t take the time to understand men (of course there are exceptions) because they don´t have to.
This is true but most women don't acknowledge it. Also, when a woman is attracted she's in her feelings, so not consciously aware of the process of seduction. Women hate the idea of being tricked into sleeping with a sub par man who has learned some PUA tactics. They'd rather get with the natural Chad, but in reality, a man's ability to build skills and competancy shows genuine potential. I guess it's an arms race between the sexes.
Well, actually, women do approach men. At least it was in my case. I'm pretty fit and not really model looking, but somewhere in between average and handsome. I even had sex with a hot Asian girl who actually did all of the job... Like started talking, invited me on a date and even paid for me and then we went to her apartment. But yeah I can count the girl who did approach me, but two of em were drunk medical students, so does it count? To me it happen only 5 times. I guess the looks. Can't even imagine how many te rich dudes and model looking guys are being asked to come around.... Damn.
Women don't even take other women's advice. As Kevin Samuels says single women keep women single and the older single women see younger women as competition.
@@flowd7451 Uh yes that is true. Because many times when there's a couple with issues the women always confide with her friends and ask what to do. Instead of fixing the problem they will be all like" oh girl he did what now? Oh lawdy me drop his ass" The friends will always claim the guy is in the wrong because of course they have to be supportive to the friend or because those same friends love to fuel the drama(especially if those girls are hopelessly single as well). And your profile picture pretty much sums up your maturity.
Marnie is saying what I did a year ago. Force yourself to do the behaviours that confident, high value people do without gaining the experience. It doesn't work, cause your mind knows the truth. You might be boosted a bit in experience and baseline behaviour. But at some point you'll encounter a situation that you can't handle, and your facade breaks. It often happens when you move to a friend group with a higher status. You don't actually have anything in common with them, you just act like them.
Men don't take advice from women about dating because women, especially attractive women are usually hypocrites who say one thing, and do the complete opposite. I've heard so many attractive women say "Just be yourself", which isn't awful advice, because you don't want to be a fake person, but their advice only applies to attractive men. If an ugly or average looking man is being himself, it won't matter how confident and natural he is, because the attractive women still won't want him. There are exceptions as always, but for the most part, it's looks that matter the most. If a very attractive man is being himself or not being himself, it won't really hurt his chances of having a fling with or being the boyfriend of a beautiful woman. Taking this type of advice from any woman, regardless of how attractive they are, is a waste of time, simply because so many women don't know what they want, and are often irrational and gossipy and unsatisfied. With that said, some of this woman's advice on touching is decent, better without any words being said though, but then again, these little touches only work if the man is at least a 7/10 in looks. Remember, ugly women want to be with attractive men too, just like pretty women do. None of this advice is for ugly or average looking men, and it's not for Chad's either as the OP states, because most Chads won't even need to use this advice anyway, at least not early on and certainly not to have a fling.
"women are usually hypocrites who say one thing, and do the complete opposite." Yes. The non-family women that I have been closest to have all turned out to be what barbar once called "insidious chameleons".
This is completely wrong. Men need not be attractive to be successful at mating. "Be yourself" is good advice if you understand the context. It means that you should do what you are already good at. Be the best version of yourself. A man need only pursue his own interests and women will come.
I didn't have a lot of luck dating during my 20's. Mostly all of the young women I was friends with were either already in a stable relationship with someone, or, they were sleeping with a different guy every weekend and wondered why they had trouble finding someone to settle with. Those of the latter description never once looked at their male friends as an option. Twenty or so years later, I've been married once, have always been in a long term and relatively stable relationship while I was dating, and the first woman I ever tried to date (who I still remain in contact with intermittently) has never been in a long term relationship and those she has been in have failed horribly. And she's a lifelong feminist. I love her as an old friend, but Jesus Christ she needs to get her act together in that respect..
Bro I had a friend who's a feminist as well and can't stay in a relationship worth nothing all the guys she was with dumped her took me 6 years to realize why it's really crazy how they have this high and mighty attitude towards us but want us to take them seriously
@@hiimtae661 They have mental illness, most of the time. So it's rarely your fault (if you ever dated her) or the other guys fault. It's her fault and as an adult it's your own responsability to get treatment if you want to be better!
What makes you think you`re entitled to a romantic relationship because you are someone's friend? If someone doesn`t want you, they don`t want you, fuck off! improve yourself and find someone who`ll appreciate you. Stop blaming women for being trash.
@@andyburns8869 that's exactly why I watch his videos. Lots of time they'll play in the background while I'm doing stuff to make me feel like "everything thing is going to be alright in the future"
Woman: "Are you a parking ticket? Cause you got fiiiiiine written all over you." Guy: "hehe. Nice." Woman: "Did you think my joke was funny?" Guy: "No, not really. It was pretty cheesy. Little bit lame." Woman: "Things could just never work between us." Imagine thinking that way.
Woman: are you a parking ticket? Cause you got fine written all over you Guy: haha that was funny, ok my turn Guy: do you live on a farm? because you got a fiiiiiine ass for breeding woman: yes officer, that man right there
Finally someone did a video on Marni the personal cringe girl. I've had it up to my nostrils with her stupid unblockable ad videos on RU-vid. She's in her 40's and most likely not married and without children. Women like that shouldn't give dating/relationship advice.
She is good-looking. Ten, twenty years ago, she was probably nailing any and every guy she wanted. Rather than realize it was because she's hot, she figured she must actually be great at getting dates.
@@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT I'm surprised. Honestly. But the Rollo Tomassi formula still stands - she got married in her pre-wall/epiphany phase in her late 20's/early 30's.
I dont think Marni is near as bad as you guys promote. Personally she's the only girl on RU-vid besides Kieza that I'd actually listen to male dating advice. Except for the threesome video. That was a little cringe.
I know this is a decently serious comment section but I absolutely *died* when TBYS said "I don't wanna hot ape you in either of those circumstances" 😭😂
That was ruff. Props to Keeping it Keith. If women were serious about helping other women lock down men for marriage, they would ask their great grandmother.
And they would be more serious about banning online dating, and go back to the old way where a woman actually had to put herself out there, and in person interact with a man.
Do you want to know how a woman's dating advice can actually get you what you want? Ask her what she hated the most about that cheating, abusive boyfriend she keeps complaining about, *and become that guy.* It's as simple as that.
same for women to do to guys. a lot of people have unrepaired childhood trauma they are trying to repair through relationships. as well, they typically loved the hardest when they trusted the most and now they cant do that anymore.
Worst dating advice I ever got was from my mother. She told me that women like nice guys, they like guys who espouse chivalry, they like guys who dote on them, etc… Life showed me that was all a lie. She didn’t even look for those qualities in the man she married and produced babies with. She lied. She lied because she thinks that what dating ought to be like, but that’s distinctly NOT how dating is, and she knew it. Yet, she still lied to her own children and raised us to believe falsehoods because of her delusions which she is aware are delusions. Instead of teaching us about reality, she taught us about the fantasy world she wished to live in and made us think that’s how it really is. We were ill prepared for the real world as a result, and despite having two parents in the home we have to learn everything on our own because they taught (and still teach) us falsehoods. Resentment abounds. 30+ years of pain caused by bad (and deliberately incorrect) parental advisement.
“There is an expiry date on blaming your parents for steering you in the wrong direction; the moment you are old enough to take the wheel, responsibility lies with you.” -JK Rowling
@@modernhumanity7 I do agree, but coming from someone who made her fortune selling fantasy, I don’t take it as deep insight, I take it as she’s parroting platitudes. I wouldn’t exactly look to Rowling for life advice, considering how she’s nuked her own life with social media posts. Financial and material success does not equate to philosophical wisdom, despite what the financially successful would like you to believe. That said, even a broken clock is right twice a day.
@@somedude4805 You're using excuses again if you're looking at the author, not the quote. She's really not that controversial. She hasn't nuked anything. She's not a war criminal. Even I will acknowledge good quotes from people I abhor from time to time. Two things can be true at once. It's time to take agency of your life. It's not easy. I'm going through the same process, but the fact that you see the problem is enough. You can only go up from there.
To be honest, the Ted Talks are getting hilarious to me. I can't take them serious anymore because of people like her or other so called doctors, professionals, revolutionaries etc.
The idea is diversity, and the result is redundant and shallow content as it is no longer meritocracy based (as meritocracy invariably seems to mean too many straight white males). We are now seeing this in corporations and government. Perhaps ultimately not a bad idea to have them fill their ranks with incompetents - good luck projecting power with morons in control.
@@theblackkaiser5748 There's a difference between TedEd and TedEx. TedEd is the one you should watch as it's purpose is to educate you. Whereas TedEx, you can simply pay to give a talk, assuming you weren't invited for clout chasing reasons.
@@sir.bendover3299 If you need other people to "educate" you, you shouldnt be involving yourself in intellectual matters. We dont need any more opinionated midwits parroting nonsense. Read a book, dont watch Ted talks.
@@aceambling7685 Not what I was saying, simply stating the difference between the two. Moreover, your logic is flawed as books are another person telling you what to think, you cannot divorce yourself from other people's interpretation of information. That said, I agree with you, in the sense that the more direct from the source of info you get, the better.
Just watched the first few minutes, and I can say that I have been in situations where I haven't been sure if someone was flirting with me or not. I get nervous in social situations and worry about misinterpreting cues and embarrassing myself, even if I think I might be picking up on something. If this is something that has never happened to you then good for you, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen to other people.
Thank you for helping me with questions I’ve had as a young man. Seriously I was really confused before I came across your channel and you’ve help me answer questions no one else would’ve given me an answer to. Keep doing what you do your videos help a lot of people just like me:)
Check out alexander grace on youtube. it sounds like he could help you a lot better. you can go back his catalog of videos. the old ones are still interesting.
I was shown the HOT APE video during high school in a guidance class. I thought it was the biggest joke on earth lol, I even raised my hand and said that this advice was no good, and I was subsequently yelled at lol
I've tried so hard to explain to my friend group that finding a healthy relationship nowadays is akin to a pipedream, they all say the same stuff like "you'll find someone, just be yourself", "don't worry about it, it'll come", or whatever else they could say. I haven't been on a date or had a relationship(I use that lightly) since highschool and I'm currently 23, while all my 5 friends are married, in the process of marriage, or in a relationship, it's easy to talk positive about it when you already got it. I guess I just want to hear one of them say that they understand and that what I'm going through seriously sucks, I know they have their own lives, but I just feel alone even when I'm around my friends and I think of them as my family. I wish I had the words to best describe what I feel and get people, man or woman, to understand, but I simply don't
even though i'm younger than you, have no experience with any relationships, and flat out an idiotic person when it comes to girls(ignored the girl who said she loved me in 5th grade),if there's even a single grain of credibility you can take from me a random teen on RU-vid, life is hard. you will not always find that person you want, and will sometimes end up in abusive toxic or dead/lost cause relationships, and its ok. Sometimes, life decides not to throw partners at you, but that's the time when you can go out, and try to get a guy to be your partner. you don't need it to wait for it to come, even if it happened before. you will only find satisfaction when you feel like you achieved something. what you're going through sucks ass, but hey, even if not now, someday it will be the day that someone finds you, or you find someone. until then, try to look for good guys,invest in the relationship and see how it turns out. i know this may not make much sense, and i have no say in your matter, but i hope this at least gave you the motivation you needed. "when life gives you lemons, make lemonade"
Be glad that you at least lived most of highschool without having a girl ruin most of those years for you. I missed out on so many opportunities for growth during all those years, it's insane to me. No one should be in a relationship until at least after high school, imo. At least a serious one. Just keep your head held high, become confident in yourself and what you believe in. That's what women love, they love a man that knows what he wants out of life. Just focus on yourself chief.
@@XanVicious my relationship sucked in high school but I feel they were something to learn from - to know that I have it good with what I have .. I always thought if you like someone ask to hang out some time .. the guy doesn't always have to make the 1st move .. worst they say is no right .
You're still young your time will come. My parents didn't meet until they were in their mid 30's. For some people they find their partner even later then that. In the meantime enjoy being single focus on working on yourself to be the best you can be. Meet new people and have fun. The grass always seems greener on the other side. Those friends who are in "perfect relationships" could be divorced in the next 5 years for all you know. That's life.
It sounds vaguely toxic, but an actually useful piece of dating advice is to make yourself a commodity. Don't offer your constant undivided attention to the person you like, or you will be valued less and seen as a secure backup choice. Similarly, it's worthwhile to have the person see you being desired by others. Something as simple as a friend briefly interrupting your conservation to chat can be effective. When the person sees the appeal others see in you, he or she will likely feel more possessive and feel a higher sense of urgency to establish a connection.
I always make sure I don't out-shine my friends when they are with their girl. I'll also tell stories that will make him look good or say nice things about him when he's not in the room. Clowning your friend in front of a girl he likes is something he will never forgive you for.
To be fair, I still can't tell, most of the time, if a woman is flirting with me or if she's just being nice. Sometimes it's obvious, but more often than not I still get it wrong. Maybe it's just me. Other than that, I agree. Good video as usual.
Always assume it’s people being nice, most people are nice and who can tell if they are flirting or not ?! It’s like impossible for anyone under 30 to know since hitting on people is sexual harassment in our generation. So just assume it’s people being nice 😊
I grew up with bad eczema especially in school. I've had so many encounters during that time of female classmates going out of their way to not have to touch me even just during school functions. This has still been challenging to try and work through so it is just laughable to hear her talking about using touch at 18:40
@@Ratmus1 google "djehuty maatra acne" thank me later. All skin disorders are blood disorders. You have toxic blood you need to cleanse and putting toxic creams with chemicals is not a cure for the root cause it's only a bandaid.
@ThinkBeforeYouSleepYT The reason why I respect what you do so much is that you have a knack for finding shit like this when it gets glossed over by so many others. I cant fathom how you found this lady on a Tedx Talk. Deep Pull buddy!
BILLY don’t taking dating advice from anyone, BILLY don’t date..people are crazy Plus when anyone ask what do you see and what do you want in a girlfriend or something like that, BILLY just doesn’t care at this point
Back in high school, my older brother started reading The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, by Neil Strauss. My brother is handsome, but super shy and awkward around beautiful women. The book taught him how to be confident while also being himself. He has a great personality but all of those wonderful traits go right out the window when he sees a cute face. I agree that men should stick to the advice given by men, especially the ones who know what they're talking about and can show others how to apply that knowledge.
I feel that initiating the interaction is part of the issue atleast with me. If a girl is talking to me that I think is cute it makes me feel alot more comfortable continuing the conversation
@@sp00kyd4ddy6 to clarify, he tried too hard to be "cool" whenever a pretty girl talked to him. He got attached in most cases. Started to obsess. Wasn't being genuine or himself. He turned goonish. It was the strangest transformation to witness. But he's gotten better about that. Now he just doesn't care and that's the type of attitude that keeps these women interested, I've noticed. When he stopped acting thirsty, then he got the results he was looking for.
@@sp00kyd4ddy6 and I hear what you're saying. Approaching a stranger is challenging, especially when that doesn't come naturally. Being an introvert, I've always let people come to me. Or if I notice a fellow introvert, I wouldn't think about it. I would automatically be drawn out of my shell to say something to reassure them that hey, I'm not gonna bite. Let's friends. When I overthink, that's when it gets messy. I just let those feelings die down if someone makes me feel anxious or nervous to the point where i become shy and awkward. Yes it happens to women too. Rejection is scary, but if I reject those feelings first, then I feel like I've already won 😆
Ohhhh I used to do this too. Now I just let girls come to me for the most part. I have to initiate conversations of course but I let the girls investigate me instead of the other way around.
Only advice I’ve taken from women was, “don’t get married early, enjoy your youth, travel, be financially stable before getting married, don’t marry women from the USA.” Funny thing is this is advice from the women in my family 😂😂Only advice I’ll take from women
My mother insisted I go the traditional path... boy was she pissed off when she found out about my kids (not in marriage)... good thing their mother fell in love with his black guy's trust fund. Boy I pity him. Kids stay with the family... mom looks after them most days of the week when I got to work.
Don't ever marry anyone. I've had many girlfriends, relationships that lasted for years and never married. That's the best advice someone can give. And never move in someone else's house or appartement. Always the other way around. If it don't work, you can kick them out immediately.
Me a woman, i want no one to touch me in public ever. My mom, and my boyfriend and on the rare occasion, my sister. Are the only humans allowed to touch me. Inly sometimes is my sister allowed to hug me. If anyone out in public ESPECIALLY a stranger touches me, its immediately gunna be known that i want them to spontaneously combust.
Yup, it’s been known for years that women of today are very messed up. They’re extremely afraid of male touch that isn’t relatives or husbands. It’s a safety thing, but also an issue of women being a bit too overly cautious and seeing danger around every corner when it just isn’t. It’s around some, granted, sure, but not every single one.
