WHY MEN GET SECRET SECOND WIVES - EP 8 || BITTER TRUTH SHOW 

Btw I’m willing to share my husband with my girlfriends especially when they r single mothers who can’t get married or find someone who can give them halal relationship

Brothers can't make 5 daily fard prayers but wants 4 wives because its a sunnah 😅

99% of brothers struggle to make ends meet and talk about wanting a second wife 😂

The fact that they excuse the women’s complaints as “hormonal” and “emotional” is disguising..that’s literally the same mindset men from the 1950’s had.

Muslim ladies take your power back. You have the right to be in a monogamous relationship! It breaks my heart to hear this issue and how it is supported by Islam. It’s wrong and it’s not good for families. Women in all religions suffer but to have a religion enforce this law makes things worse. I love the way these ladies supported their views. ✝️ God created Adam and Eve NOT Adam and Eves!

Marriage is something that should be openly declared, not hidden. This is part of the Sunnah. If a man is too fearful of his first wife's potential reaction, he isn't mature enough to be taking on the responsibility of a second wife.

Ali is tooo pushy. Marriage isn’t only sex Ali. Men can decide that having to cater to 2 women and 2 households is a lot of work financially ,emotionally and even more when children come involved. Not all men want polygyny as it’s a huge responsibility.

SubhanAllah, im struggling to find 1 wife let alone 2. Social media isnt just destroying homes, its destroying the ability to make one.

If you're married, have children, full time job, and friends and general life duties. How on earth do you have time to get a second secret wife?

Marriage is a partnership that involves trust, honesty, and communication. When one partner cannot share information it can seriously damage the foundation of the relationship, imagine hearing it from the outside world that your partner is married to someone else, that is the biggest betrayal. i feel like people need to voice their wants from a relationship before they get into the relationship.

And to add this discussion about secret wives will make women suspicious, insecure paranoid about their husbands. Nobody wants to be around someone they don't trust. You don't feel emotionally safe.

What I find concerning about this debate is that basic Islamic principles of kindness compassion and empathy and honesty just don't seem to matter in these people's marriages.....these men know this will hurt their wives but because they're technically allowed it becomes, my desires matter more than my responsibility to be just, kind and compassionate to my original wife. My desires as a man are worth the risk of causing future family problems when I have two sets of families secret from each other. The selfishness here is boundless.

Let this sink in -> just saying that you can ‘lie’ for a greater good. And the greater good is nothing but you saving yourself from your wife’s broken heart. Is purely satanic. It’s like the devil smiles knowing that god’s creations are living in stupidity. Where the woman thinks her lover is true. And the man thinks he is going to Heavan after lying his adult life. There is a fix though. To stop and repent and make it up to her.

Islam allowed polygamy but also it is extremely hard to meet the condition of being fair to all wives. If you end up being unfair, you are resurrected with a paralyzed half. Let that sink in before you get a second wife brothers.

Just marry someone who is open minded about polygamy, you can never convince someone who doesn’t want to share her husband to share her husband

I can't help but notice that Ali just doesn't allow anyone contradicting his opinion. Even if the man in the middle clearly said : NO I would NOT get a second wife, even if she was okay with it, he goes on to say 'we have to be brutally honest'. Well, maybe he's being brutally honest and that's the end of your argument

The 4 wife permission was actually a limit as much as I have learned. Because before that, man could have as many women as they wanted. In times of war, it made sense to have multiple wifes because of lack of man and widowed women. It also made sense to have multiple wifes for leaders and such from other nations, tribes etc to establish peace between the two nations etc. but its adviced, suggested to have one wife. Also because having multiple wifes is extremely hard, not just financially but also in means of equal treatment of each wife is very hard. In the future if there are such cases of war or relative reasons go for it maybe. But it is crucial to be fair amongs them 😊. May Allah guide us all and increase our wisdom and understanding.

Just the fact he is hiding something from his wife, it means he is not correct in the God’s eyes.

The summary of the debate: emotions and feelings are fine as long as it's the men's Their desire for intimacy with a second wife Their fear of how their wives will react. Desire and fear are still emotions and feelings.

Wow what is happening with the man here! The bar is set so low for man yet so unbelievably high for woman. I think this issue is the woman make excuses for his bad behaviour, you accepted his obvious lies, and you gave him another chance again and again. You sold yourself short, you didn’t believe you deserved better. A woman is not a commodity or a toy of amusement but a real partner to man who has right of her own and deserves utmost respects.

Part 2 should include guests who are involved or have been involved in these types of situations. Would be very helpful to get insight from first hand experience

With all due respect, I think brother Hijab is taking liberties with interpretation of that hadeeth about lying between spouses. White lies to please your wife are permitted. Otherwise, lying is haram.

It’s men like this that make me question Islam sometimes..why do they not read the full ayah? What about the orphans that god mentions they should take second wives for? It’s literally the same verse, why do they read the second part only??

Just because something is permissible, doesn’t mean it’s recommended. People really need to learn the difference. I don’t see enough people making that distinction

I wanted to learn about this... but this guys attitude the owner threw me off... what a disgusting man pushing his thoughts into people's mjnds... disgusting

We also need to talk about the stories of 2nd wives being used, abused and discarded, especially revert sisters. May Allah swt keep us on the straight path. 2nd wives are not an outlet, they are WIVES as well to be provided for and protected. Brothers need to focus on the reality of plural marriage and the actually responsibilities and consequences. Sisters need to understand that him taking a second wife does not mean you are any less. May Allah swt make it easy for all the marriages. Ameen.

Salaam alaikum. I love that we have young men and women discussing the issues here. But I wish there was an elderly scholarly moderator in the presence who is patient in listening and wiser in responding. I felt that a lot of times our brothers and sisters are quick to wanting to respond with loaded arguments. Still a very useful discussion, jazakAllah Khair.

I'm terrified to get married. The more I look at how much I'll be sacrificing to him as a woman, literally rearranging my organs to give us children...I cannot imagine a worse thing than having him turn around and marry someone else. I don't think our human nature is the end all be all. The element which separates us from animals is that we are able to have second layer decision making skills/free will outside of our basic instincts. If a man isn't intelligent enough to have a brain beyond an animal instinct, that is super unattractive to me. It's just not my preference :/ There are men who love their wives and would rather not be with another woman. Why? Because of emotional connection. I believe the polygamous nature of males is majority sexual, you can't go around falling in love with everyone with the same quality of feeling. I really have a hard time believing there will be equal love between all wives, at the end of the day someone will always have less no matter what. I also don't want his attention to be divided leading to less overall involvement in me and my children. Seeing how much I'll give, I expect someone to give their all to me also. I'll make it clear to any potentials that if he wants multiple wives to look elsewhere. End

I'm.. confused. Here is what I agree with; Polygamy is part of Islam ✅ You don't need permission from your first wife ✅ The nikkah is not a secret ✅ Yes men are by nature polygamous ✅ If men were given the option they would have multiple wives✅ What I don't understand is that, when the tafaseer was used as an example in relation to the Prophet Sallaahu alayhi wassalam and Mariya Kipti, is this- that Mariya Kipti was a bondswomen, she was not a wife. The Prophet Sallaahu alayhi wassalam bedding her, was permissible for him because in that time bedding the women in your 'right hand possessions' (bondswomen) was acceptable, it was permissable. No such context exists now for muslim men to implement on. The example is entirely invalid because Mariya Kipti was not a wife. And the entire discussion is regarding marriage. The Prophet Sallaahu alayhiwassalam did not hide a secret marriage from his other wives. The reason for hiding this intimacy could be entirely for a seperate reason (i.e the known jealousy/gheerah of the mothers of the believers) - and Allaah knows best. Even then the Ummaahatul mu'mineen were given an option to stay in marriage to the Prophet or to be left honourably because they UNDERSTOOD that all the marriages of the Prophet Sallaahu alayhiwasalam were done for specific reasons (i.e strengthening ties of tribes or breaking the cultural norms when he was married to Zaynab radhiAllaahu anha) and yet Allaah acknowledged their gheerah too, that maybe for some it might get too difficult to accept polygamy. But they chose Allaah, His Messenger and the Akhirah, we know this as stated in the Qur'an. Its even more important to say that the Prophet Sallaahu alayhi wassalam was married to 1 women for 25 years! ONE. From when he was 25 years old Up until her death, when the Prophet Sallaahu alayhi wassalam was 50 (this is now 10 YEARS into prophethood) and then the marriages were ordained for the Prophet Sallaahu alayhiwassalam in the remaining 10 years or so of his life as he remained single for a while after the death of Khadijah RadhiAllaahu anha (approx 3 years?) There is even the verse in the Qur'an that tells the Prophet Sallaahu alayhiwassalam where there are no more marriages for him after the ones he'd married. Where in the seerah do we find any explanation of what brothers try to justify today? Yes in fiqh/islamic jurisprudence these rulings are 'available', because Islamic jurisprudence deals with just that, every possible scenario, but they are 'options' not grounded rulings.. yes they are part of Islaam but ethically and morally men have an obligation towards women too. Where did the Prophet Sallaahu alayhiwassalam or any sahaba HIDE a MARRIAGE from their wives? Not the sexual relations with bondswomen like the examples of Ali RadhiAllaahu anhu or the Mariya Kipti ones, but WIVES. It's also important to understand that there were no binding obligations to bondswomen. But to wives there ARE binding obligations, the nikkah is a contract, a responsibility before Allaah and ofcourse all the other responsibilities that spouses have towards each other. That's what really got to me that by the end of the 47 minutes I've listened to so far, marriage, which is so sacred, so beautiful, was watered down to just about sexual intimacy. Where is the Rahmah, muwaddah and sakinah, the purposes of marriage.. Anyway. Allaah knows best.

As a non-muslim woman, my jaw drop on what the hell i am hearing coming out if these men's mouth 🤯 yep, im out, goodluck with you all 😂

Secrets between husband and wife is not good. Deception of any sort SHOULD make somebody feel guilt out of the fear of Allah. I bet there isn’t a single lie that these men would find to be acceptable for their wife to keep from them even if her intention was purely to keep the peace.

Listening to all this drama makes me appreciate being singel. And should my (future) husband wish a second wife I am gonna tell him " There is the door, hasta lavista baby". My sanity and mental well-being is my ticket to Jannah. Most of the time polygyny in our time and age brings down a women and her iman.

Part 2 with sisters who have experienced polygamy would be great 👍 that don’t mind sharing their views and experience with polygamy in sha Allah

I've found this a very depressing watch. I think muslim men feel threatened by the success and confidence of muslim sisters and instead of concentraing on bettering themselves, they fall back on demonising women. Ultimately the success of the family unit is on both parties, how will secretly marrying another woman aid in this. If the woman is "withholding" is this something not to be discussed and worked through, instead of introducing another human being into the messy situation. This is a very immature discussion.

Watched this out of curiosity as a Christian. I can’t speak for all of us but I would agree that men would tend to want multiple women by their nature. However, we see our nature as sinful, so just because it’s natural doesn’t mean it’s good. I would suggest that God gave us the institution of marriage as a buffer against that impulse. When I look at what has happened in America as Christian values declined, we’ve gone from most households being a man, woman, and their children to many households being a woman and her children, who all have different fathers, with a different man entering the scene every couple years. If we still held marriage as sacred, we wouldn’t have so many broken families and households.

If you have such a relationship with your wife that you feel you're lacking something it's on you to have the courage to work on that rather than run away from your problems and towards a second wife

How can both women be treated equally when one is official and one is hidden 🤔?

I hope Ali does an episode on domestic abuse and violence against women and girls. It is a HUGE issue and not spoken about openly in the Muslim communities. I hope Ali can put as much time and effort into combating this issue as he does with trying to constantly tell everyone that men are polygamous by nature. Real talk: 3 women a week are killed in this country alone by current or ex partners. And yes coercive control is a thing.

In a marriage if you want to build a great relationship with your spouse you have to be transparent. You cannot lie to one another especially when it’s something so huge as wanting to marry again, the first wife has a right to know and decide if she would still be happy in the relationship, regardless of the consequences. There are women who are ok with polygamy and there are women who strongly prefer monogamy. Its important to build great communication with your spouse, work through your issues in your marriage and try your best to keep each other happy. If you want something great you have to work hard for it! May Allah swt help and guide us all, Ameen.

It’s not every man who wants another wife, even though it’s in my nature I prefer only having one

NB- As a teacher in the community please note and be mindful of these discussions and whom can access them. A genuine fear is beginning to rise in young females of marriageable age because of this topic. And many are turning away from marriage because they are SCARED! This is not a joke and I am not exaggerating. It is happening right now. When feelings are disregarded, you alienate so many women especially the young and they feel like commodities rather than human beings. If Allah displays feelings of compassion and love and mercy and kindness and can get angry and so on, why therefore do feelings not matter? I read a comment in a similar chat along the lines of this: “Get wives first for your fathers and tell your mothers to suppress her feelings and get on with it, get wives for your brother in laws first and tell your sisters to be quiet, shut up and put up. Then think of more wives.” If it pains you for the sake of your mother then is this really fair? Is this really the Islam Allah sent? Is this really the Islam we are sharing to the whole world??! Shouldn’t it be, those that can, do and those that can’t, refrain? Isn’t that the actual rule? Not everyone can do this! It is not a set standard for everyone so why push it to be inclusive of every single Muslim? Some can, some can’t. Alhumdulilah for both. (It’s funny how the Sunnah is setting a standard in the same category with things that are Fardh like war…mmm)

If a man is wanting to take a second wife, he should know that 1. He may lose his first wife and kids because of this decision 2. If he is not fair to both wives, he is sinful

I personally feel that although men can generally be polygamous & cannot access sex with his wife at all times, it's very important to highlight that you would be interested in a polygamous marriage before you get married. The amount of disregard given to the literal misery of a woman who's been raised monogamous, only knew monogamy and must now force herself into compliance with her husband's ravishing need for a second woman -- is so far from anything that resembles empathy. Most sound women would rather a layman with a good heart that is monogamous, than a rich polygamous man who calls himself your "husband" and then flies off by the end of the night for another 6 months. The emotional toll, the resentment, the jealousy and the hatred accumulates and it becomes a huge burden to bear, especially for the first wife. Many actually begin to despise the man. The paradigm shift, the emotional, psychological and physical adjustment can feel like torture. Not for the faint-hearted. It's safe to say I will not be dabbling in the marriage market in this lifetime. But I pray all who do that Allah accompanies their heart.

Definitely need a part 2. And need MH on it to keep with Quran/sunnah and not go round circles debating emotions/feelings

MH needs to be on every show.

MH said:"I'm not gonna follow the religion of women's feelings." Is islam not also the religion of children's feelings, when they are affected by their mother's heart ache? How are these men honorable for their own selfish desires, while they cosigned to monogamy at first to even find a wife?

Please let the women speak. This whole convo was just the men speaking. Theres no need for women if you arent letting them speak.

Marrying a second wife should be done with extreme caution because if he can't do justice between the wives the punishment for him is severe. So I hope these brothers are thinking about that before they take this step. Anyway who can afford to have 2 wives. Not normal people.

Just answer this, why keep it a secret? Every wife has the right to know. It’s not even permission. Man doesn’t need permission. But why HIDE? In my experience, u only hide things u r ashamed/guilty of.

They can’t even provide a home for their first wife how are they going provide two 😅

What’s the point of having second wife. Just for the intimacy, it’s not worth it in my eyes. Yes I would like to sleep with more than one woman by nature but I don’t wanna marry more than one just because woman are headache.

My situation was that my (EX) wasn’t providing, verbally abusive and not much of a father. He was a very impulsive person but whenever he brought up the subject of 2nd marriage would stress me out. I would tell him if that is something he wanted to do, I would want a divorce because I could see it would cause more issues and complications in our already not so good marriage. But for some reason he couldn’t understand why I was taking that stand. So he constantly brought up this conversation and he wouldn’t even agree that our marriage was as bad as I was experiencing..🧕🏽 so in the middle of a heated conversation on this subject he uttered the words divorce and that was that. Literally turned my life upside down in a few minutes. He regretted it but, I mean what can you do.

What men dont understand u will do 100% damage to ur marriage with ur 1st wife by not telling her rather than telling her. Both hurts and it will be a mess probably. But we search protection and secrets kept in out men and once they do smth like that they literaly broke every single thing in that marriage. Whatever he does in future he will always be seen as a liar and not trust worthy. No trust =vallahi no marriage!

no one ever died not having sex. By the way, what did the Brothers do they have never been married? trust me, people can control their hormones lol

Well in my community when a man marries a second wife he abandons the first wife and her children and that is the reality. Wallah I am not lying but that’s what the most of them do.

PART 2 DEFS NEEDED... SOOOOOO MUCH TO UNPACK IN THIS TOPIC, GOOD JOB TO THE PANELIST 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Keeping marriage a secret is a SIN, marriage should be announced so no one thinks that you are committing adultry..also if you want multiple wives tell your first wife before marriage about your intentions..DONT DECEIVE

New generation of men want to pick and choose which part of Sunnah to follow.."Oh the Prophet PBUH had multiple wives - so will I"..."Oh the Prophet PBUH didnt have secret wives....well I dont have to follow that part of the Sunnah"

28:04 I’m a Muslim mum in uk. State Backing - please listen brothers - a hurting sister can easily follow to do this. Don’t hurt her with your secrecy. It’s hurtful

Honestly, I am studying Islam and this really disturbed me. I cant agree with it being permissible to get a second marriage without needing first wife consent. And it is permissible to hide second marriage.

May Allah bless brother Hijab he always brings knowledge to the podium.

Why its a hot topic nowadays. If having more than one wive was so important Allah would make it Fard brothers and sisters. First do justice to one then think about 2nd . And as wife we women should respect and love our husband as well .

It’s funny how the whole time you talk about woman’s feelings not being in control about polygony and they need to control it yet you say men can’t control their desires, in that case why did Allah tell men if you can’t treat woman equally don’t have another wife. I thought men can’t control their feelings?? So why would Allah tell him have one

what’s especially sad is many people believe that getting more then one wife is for pleasure or solely about intimacy, but it’s not mentioned once in any hadith that men are told to marry for benefit of pleasure, the prophet had 11 wifes, for pleasure ? no because to spread islam, some were divorced or widows. now in our time we believe it’s because of the men’s desire, no if your willing to damage your healthy marriage and family with your first wife because of your desires which your wife can fulfill then there is something seriously wrong with you. may Allah protect us and give us a good husband with common sense . Ameen

My (late)husband told me that many of his male friends didn’t get marital intimacy! They used complain to him so much! He didn’t understand how their wives would say no. Only Allah knows.. I hope he was satisfied with me as his wife.

since you’re obligated to treat your wives equally, if you spend a week with one wife and a week with the second, obviously they both would wonder where you are and would know about your whereabouts; therefore it’s basically impossible to hide it. second of all, the brother saying he won’t “follow the religion of ‘women’s feelings’”, Islam also tells you to take care of your women and care for them, which means to care about their feelings. lastly, the Quran also tells us to not hide the truth, بات ہی ختم

I’m sorry but I’m hearing a lot of excuses for men in this debate. I also hate when “our emotion” is constantly used to make us sound like we’re emotional 24/7. If a girl is on her cycle one day, she will eventually get off in 3-5 days. Talk to her after her cycle. We’re logical thinkers for those who think women are incompetent. We’re also always putting our hormones and needs aside to take care of our family without complaining. We always come last. We make sure our family is happy before we consider our happiness. Also, lying is consider a major sin in Islam regardless of what your lying about. So no excuse to why a men needs to have a second wife in secrets. If your first wife disagrees, divorce is always an option brothers.

Idea of a second wife seems appealing to men who view women as just sexual beings there to serve them and not as full human beings that have value and needs apart from sex. Having a second wife would honestly be a headache, you have to split finances, it’s already hard enough in this economy taking care of 1 family let alone two. Then taking care of two women’s emotional needs, making them feel loved and taken care of, providing for multiple children, showing up for all of those children not just financially but giving them love and time. Which man has that much time, patience, money and energy for that? It sounds like a headache with very little perks.

Men who meet the criteria for polygamy don’t need their wives permission to get another wife. BUT have the basic respect for your woman to let her know when you take another. Your wife deserves to know that she will have to share your time, affection and resources with another woman. Polygamy is a man’s right, but it directly alters the life of your wife. Keeping it a secret is highly disrespectful and will only bring major issues in your marriage when she finds out!!

Polygony is not for the man’s sexual desires. Your going against the point is it. That’s the whole problem with you, you sexualize polygony

this is so sick

such a toxic debate. if this isnt Fasaad that the angels asked Allah about when Adam AS was created...i swear

Interesting discussion. What if the wife made known to her husband that she also had a secret desire for different men and in fact fantasised about different men during marital intimacy with her husband, but chose to stick to her husband/marriage? How would that make him feel? What if the wife has an equal, if not higher sexual libido than her husband which he could not satisfy, whether in a monogamous or polygamous marriage? What if the wife was not sexually satisfied with her husband despite already having children with him? What is the wife supposed to do if she craves intimacy when her husband is with the second wife? Is she supposed to masterbate?? She would either have to keep silent and observe patience and not complain or ask her husband for a divorce. Personally, I can only imagine that I could only agree to my husband taking on another wife or two if I did not love him, find him sexually attractive and providing he was a high income earner - so as long as my spousal maintenance wasn’t diminished as a result and our children were not neglected, I would tell my husband he can do whatever he wants. In fact, I would encourage my husband to spend as much time with the other wives and I would not break any plates or throw tantrums over this if I did not love him. Love, respect, dependency are different things. As long as the money kept coming in, he can take on a 2nd, 3rd, or 4th wife. I’d even advise the other wives to detain my husband as long as possible 😂

I need a shaykh to speak on this matter not a well informed RU-vidr sorry 😅

why does this guy put seconds or minute for a woman to speak but not for men? beuty of islam saar

This is why Allah has promised men so many partners in the hereafter. The reason that Allah hasn't promised this for women is because we are built differently, and we will be promised different things in the hereafter. Subhanallah

So a woman holds down her husband all her life and helps him by raising the kids and taking care of the home so he can focus on his work… and he rewards her by getting a second wife? Let’s say even she helps him w his business to be successful and then he goes and gets a second wife ? I think that is horrible and selfish of the man

Show me anywhere in Quran or Hadith where it says we can go behind our wife's back to marry another, you have to mention this to first wife! What kind of nonsense is this WALLAHI

Polygamy is NOT mandatory in Islam. It IS obligatory to be honest and truthful. Lying is haram. So at least the issue of lying should be settled. In order to have more than one wife a man must be completely fair. Most human beings will not be able to do so. Since polygamy is not mandatory and complete fairness is required and Lying is haram, a man should not be selfish and cowardly. Discuss this matter before you get married. Choose a spouse that is compatible.

Note for divorced women: Better to live alone, take care of your childrens, stay away from this chaos and focus on islam !

Islam says u don’t need permission from your first wife about getting a second wife but it definately does NOT says you can hide and secretly marry a second wife. If u have any ethics or respect for your wife, you should give her a heads up , reassure her that you love her and that you will be fair to her, and give her sometime to come into terms with her having to share her husband with another woman. Going behind her back is the worst. Even if she doesn’t like it she will be less hurt and and eventually accept it. But hatered will develop if u completely disregard her feelings and marry a second in secret. If it’s halal u shudnt need to do it in secret.

Very informative video brother Ali❤ I really appreciate your determination of establishing the Masjid, may Allah(SWT) reward you greatly❤

I just want to say one thing. If i was married, for example, i would rather have him get a second wife than do zina. Obviously, like most women, i would love to be the one and only loved wife. May Allah give us all this life. But im just saying if i was in this situation, then I would prefer him to be with someone who is halal for him than go and sleep around and do zina, which would make him beyond disgusting to me and I would not want this sinner anywhere near me or my family. Someone who does not fear Allah and chose to do zina knowing what a big sin that is,he is not a man that has place next to me. That's a coward, and I haven't got time for cowards. Second wife I would not want, Wallahi most of us don't want. And that's not a bad thing, it's also in our nature to be this way. I hope I'm never in this situation ever)). But whatever has been written for us has been written way before our existence. Allah knows best. May Allah make our lives easier, whatever situation we are in right now❤

Wait this seems wrong, he said there is no conditioning. But the first rule is being just with your first wife's. If you secretly get a second wife your not being just to your first wife.

We talk about the prophet Muhammad sallallahu alayhi wa salam. But he never married another woman when he was married with Khadija radya Allahu anha. He was 25 years polygamious till her death. So why don’t you follow this sunnah brothers? And when he remarried, he married old woman, widows, divorced women. But men nowadays want to marry only young virgins. So about wich sunnah are you talking?

Men were told to lower their gaze because of the way Allah created them. The brothers that aren’t married were told to fast. So the brothers that are married can fast for fewer day. Control yourself and if you want to get a second wife be up front about it the moment you get married. Because the fact is the wife still has the backing of the state so if you marry someone make it known up front and make her family aware as well.

Adultery exists in islam, but cheating does not exist in Islam because cheating is defined as keeping secret an intimate relationship with another woman from your wife knowing the truth. Men can secretly sleep with a second woman(just make a halal excuse of declaring marriage, no need to marry slave woman though). It is halal for men to keep secret that he has slept with another woman. In reality, the truth is that it is cheating, but in Islam, they don't call this cheating. The first wife doesn't know about her husband being in bed with another woman, leading to sexually transmitted diseases. This happened to my friend. Also, when discussing the inheritance after the father passes away, with all the children from multiple wives, there are issues determining the real children which causes many problems and lack of family peace. This is not the way of love of Jesus. Jesus has new commandment of love. "do unto others as you would want them do unto you" Jesus is the final judge at end times.

Woman also get hoor men in jannah, did you not study Islam and the Quran Ali

There are men who marry second wives and theszcond wife has no idea she's a second wife and then finsq out its absolute disgusting behaviour many of these sort of clowns are irresponsible and don't even know how to run a household. I can rant about this forever, polygamy is not a harem, it's responsibility

MH Did you just call a secret wife a religious option as retaliation for blackmail? Rather than the most obvious option being to divorce her? That is a recipe for disaster including a legal disaster.

Masha Allah sisters trying to wear hijab , May Allah make it easy on them ❤

According to Hijab, although he doesn't recommend it or say it doesn't do any good, having another wife without telling your first wife is not prohibited. In my humble opinion, we are ordered to marry only one if we cannot do justice between our wives. My question is, how can we be just with our first wife, if we never tell her that we're also married with another? That is why, I disagree with Hijab, when he says that it is not prohibited. In my perspective, it clearly is. About men being polygamous by nature, I partially agree that we are created that way. BUT, that doesn't neccessarily mean that every man on earth would try to get a second wife, even with his first wife consent and being able to afford justice and provide for both of them. If a wife means a partner who you can't live without, who you share everything with, love talking to, appreciate her beauty and are attracted with sexually, then NO, men wouldn't try to get another wife, hence I didn't fully agree that they are polygamous by nature. However, I would agree that men are procreative, meaning that sexually, they are naturally constructed to desire having intercourse with multiple women. Only if a wife would ONLY mean a person to have sexual relationship with, then and only then, you can categorize all men as polygamous by nature. Of course we know that is not the case, hence men aren't quite naturally polygamous. Esselamu Aleikum!

I dont understand why men think its only in the man’s nature to be polygamous. Let me tell you something as a woman. Woman too have attractions. Yes, even married women. When we see some handsome charming men our hearts flutter too and we too desire them sometimes but since its not permissible for us we keep it to ourselves and our biology in this dunya can’t support more than one man because of pregnancy and dispute of paternity. If we didn’t desire other men then there wouldn’t have been a commad from Allah ordering us women too to lower our gazes and married women committing zina wouldnt have existed. Everyone has carnal desires, but Allah has also given us control over our nafs. So the excuse that men have strong sexual desires and can’t control themselves is ridiculous. You are a man not an animal. So are you telling me that millions if not billions of faithful monogamous men in the world are not man enough to have strong sexual desires like you? Or are they just better at controlling their desires than you? So please don’t insult men by saying things like they have no control over themselves like they’re some children or animals.

Just because you said you love someone doesn't mean you truly love them. Anyone can say and passing lie detector test by saying "Oh I love God" yet turn around and don't follow his commitments. Love is not measured by your words, Love is measured by your actions of faithfulness, this is why God slowly abrogated this polygamy. Muhammad allowed halal prostitution called muttah and later abrogated it. So now the same has to go for polygamy nonsense. Time for abrogation, or else I'm going to the religion of truth

Thank you brother to you and your wife for producing the Bitter Truth show. I have a request - Would it be possible to list the guests for each episode in the description? I appreciate the views of many of them. I would like to look for other efforts that they are involved with and follow them insha'Allah if they have social media presences. JAK and may Allah subhannah wa ta'ala bless your efforts.

I’ve just hit the unsubscribe button

Nah bc why are they acting like this is their life’s struggle and their deen is strong enough for this to be an option with this kind of free mixing lmao take one problem at a time

Genesis 2:24: Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. Ephesians 5:25-29: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church… Pls leave this antichrist teachings and Come to Jesus ❤ love ya’ll

I am repulsed at the thought of my husband being intimate with another woman, it is like the opposite of jealousy, it just puts me off completely. What’s the biology behind that? While I’m not opposed to polygamy under certain circumstances, I’m scared I’d fall out of love.

Hijab always bringing it back to Quran/Sunnah, true lion!