what if you die in the process tho? wouldn't you regret how much you didn't live your life in the present? It's important to think about the future, but you need to consider the present, and of course, remember and learn from the past.
So essentially, if you have a lot of things in your life that make you depressed, or not enough good things, you won't be satisfied enough to even want to do productive things, and instead will use that time for instant gratification.
whenever I procrastinate things like study to exams or projects, I find myself to watch that kind of videos before the day of deadline. every time I feel guilty for being lazy and choosing immediate pleasure instead of long term ones. I know what it takes to become the person I want to be, and I know that this process is not impossible. but I couldn't really solve the issue, I can't find the willpower to do it. It hasn't anything to do with my school, mech. engineering, where I feel that I'm studying the most appropriate department for me. something made me depressive af in the last two years and I don't know what. something is missing in my life. graduatation is approaching and something has to be changed. I hope I won't edit this comment with negative things in future, if I'm still alive of course Edit: Thank you guys for asking if I’m okay, Alhamdulillah I'm doing fine. I can't say everything fully turned to positive and I'm super successful, but right now I think I'm a little better than what I was. I'll edit here when something worth to update about.
you're not alone. I'm always finding myself feeling guilty for putting off long term gratification for short term gratification. I just graduated in May 2018 (with a major I love) but I've faced depression for a decade now and it makes it hard to find willpower to do what I know I need to do to be successful. gahh it's hard but ultimately, we can conquer if we think about things a bit differently and realize the opportunity we have to have an impact and have fun etc etc if we can work towards long term goals and build better habits than enable our future selves.
I've been having a similar issue, and it's getting worse over time. I noticed that I was not having any self discipline, but I just couldn't help myself. I wasn't that bad in self discipline before. Just recently, I had a realization. My friends didn't respect the way they did before, and I knew that. It was enough for me to make a change. This was only recently. Today I'm doing better than I was before. I'm hoping to fix my problems now and get back on track of my usual life. For my situation, I forgot what was important, and I was bitterly reminded by my friends.
Every engineer goes through this. Me and all of my buddies struggled around junior year. We pushed through "The gauntlet" (solids-fluids-dynamics-statics-calc3-phys3-engineering electronics-chemistry) and overexerted our capacity and discipline to learn and just get through it. We were left depressed, a lot of us failed to maintain relationships with those we cared about, heartbreaks, and despite all the work and effort, we still felt no closer to accomplishing our degree or feel competent as engineers. I stopped studying in my bedroom near distractions like videogames and opted for study groups. I went out of my way to be around my classmates rather than friends (and made them into friends). And when I wasn't on campus studying, I allowed myself full 100% no strings relaxation and TV binge, so long as I was caught up on sleep. And finally, don't let anything get in the way of routine. And lots of To-Do lists with priority numbers and deadlines, pasted on my door.
In my own experience, an increase in willpower and therefore self-discipline has never occurred by trying to force myself to an action. Increases in this regard have always emerged from an inability to no longer be inactive, when the discomfort of not being or doing what I desire exceeds my want for comfort or temporary gain. So it's my belief that rather than force myself to do something, it's better to determine WHY I want that something to begin with, and if it's something I truly desire. This way I don't waste time beating my head into things that ultimately I don't want/need, I can instead use that energy to pursue the things I know I absolutely want and need with my fullest energy and constitution. For me at least I found it easiest to really think on why I want something, and attain buy-in for myself to that goal. Everything after that just follows so long as I keep in mind why I made the decision to pursue that thing in the first place. You also can't berate yourself for not pursuing your goals if you don't set yourself up for success first. Get proper sleep, lay proper plans, eat properly; if you don't set yourself up with the capacity to complete the task to begin with, you can't be surprised or upset when it's not attained. Don't berate yourself, just evaluate where you can do better for the next time, blame your lack of preparation, not yourself, you're not inadequate, your starting point was.
You bring up a great point, because it's so easy to see how people who want to improve themselves and their lives often focus on the wrong things. Like wanting to get fit, instead of using their willpower to cook more at home and work out at least 3 times a week, they immediately jump to "smoothie fast for 3 weeks straight". Then they realize that they can't keep that up, and if they did it brought absolutely no reward, so they get burnt out and give up again. This is something that requires much introspection and research for the knowledge of what you truly want. It's a cheesy saying but if you truly want something, you will find a way to get it. We need to stop wasting our time on things we don't actually want because we'll never achieve them that way.
It's not always about the action of the person or external factors which definitely have huge influence in self-dicipline department. I got to face the difficulty of being discipline, being on-time, and being accountable for the rest of my life no matter how hard I tried. Then I was diagnosed for having inattentive type of ADHD at the age of 27 years old. After knowing the right treatment suits me the most, I start to acknowledge much better way to deal with my challenges and stop beating myself up for being unable of having me accountable as an adult.
This is the best comment and I agree. I used to beat myself up and give in to the narrative that i'm "just lazy". I realized that i'm not lazy, i'm actually smart. If i'm not doing something, theres a reason why. It may be a subconscious reason that I need to pull to the surface and face, it may be that I stayed up watching Netflix til 2am and thus started off my day being tired, or it may be that I want to do something but realize that I dont know the specific exact steps I need to do to get there. Know why you want something, and know why you're not doing it. Together, you may not become an immediate work horse but you will get one step closer to getting your goals accomplished!
that's motivation though, not wilpower. it has something to do with truly desiring it, notdoing it because it will help in the future. Of course they connect somewhere, since both aim to be helpful, but what kicks is makes the difference in naming
I just realized that the main reason I have such a strong self-discipline on most aspects of my life is simply because... I feel content and satisfied with them, I enjoy and explore them and I'm not in a hurry to experience more. And in fact my self-control is at its weakest on the aspects of my life that I'm not happy with. All fits together now.
The runes, do you believe it, self-discipline is a lack of self-control, the story about odin, delaying gratification, impulsive behaviour not always good, dopamine is about reward, to reach that goal, drives action or inaction, impatience from waiting, desire to satisfy your needs at your peril, if it's a habit that needs changing, adversity makes life difficult,a victim of your environment, offer alternate ways of interacting, obstructions are viewed with disdain🆘🚩✅
Michael Jay - Value Investing who gets to define success? Other than our own egos just so we can look down upon another or to acheive our own goals assuming they are thw goals of everyone
Lol no. Too many confounding variables. Children who faced less adversity when they were young have a better ability to delay gratification. Their future success is not related to their ability to delay gratification rather, they were raised in better households with richer parents and access to better education.
When I was in the engineering school, when it came to studying and preparing for exams, i start to think about how it could change my life in the future for the better (Get a good job, afford to travel, buy a good computer, be independant etc..). At the time I didnt have any notion on self discipline or psychology in general. And man I can tell you, whenever i do the trick, i get an enormous motivation surge, I even end up studying 8 to 10 hours straight sometimes. Good luck in exams !
@@uhateulame9092 hey man, I'll be going to engineering school soon and I'm scared cause I can't even study for like 10 minutes, I would really appreciate if you could explain more on this trick u speak of?
@@FatboiReborn I'm not Uhate, but I can say as a premed, I came into college clueless. I didn't know how or when to study. I wish someone had told me what I'm about to tell you. My first few mistakes: I would find myself at parties with friends who aren't really looking towards the future but there next high or when they will get laid. I didn't like that lifestyle, so I stopped seeing them for the most part. Then, I found people I would really appreciate socially and academically. Find those people who are uplifting and care about their future. Next, with studying, please use ACTIVE RECALL technique where you constantly test yourself of your comprehension (create HIGH YIELD (very important to learn) flashcards, use the fymen technique (can you explain to a 5 year old), anything but using passive learning). At first it will suck man-- where you will get most (if not all) wrong, trust me. With anything in life, you need to constantly work at it. Tell yourself if you wanna do anything in this world, anything to be successful, you will need to put in hard work. Build that good habit from the start like this video has talked about. Use practice exam and constantly test your content level and comprehension. Keep up with your studies by using SPACE REPETITION -- as humans, we have a forgetting curve (look it up), we tend to forget things after a day or two of learning and so on. You will need to go back and test yourself (active recall) by using those flashcards you made. Space out your learning. Come back to a topic after learning it the first day-- maybe the 2nd, then 5th, then 10th day. This will help lessen the forgetting curve. I don't want to write out an essay on RU-vid comment, so this is a good stopping point. Feel free to DM me or something!
Well that's simply from lack of interest. Connect watching this video with improving your self-discipline therefore improving your life overall as self-descipline helps you do anything you want and life and build happiness. Therefore watching this video = happiness and sucess in life. Now there is nothing else more interesting than watching this video
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@@tomasazevedo1979 I feel like self-discipline by definition is forcing yourself to do things you don't want because of futur gratification, and often it's not even gratification it's just to avoid pain
Procrastination is often a strategy of self-sabotage. You have to go deeper in yourself to find the causes of this way of dealing with things. This kind of strategies has a meaning about the way you think of yourself. But it's so hard though. I've been so used to self-sabotage myself, because I'm so used to think that I don't deserve success, or love, that it feels like it's a part of me. And I can't get rid of it. It's almost comforting, since it's the way I always "loved" myself. But getting rid of those habits asks a real work on a very long relationship you have had with yourself. You clearly need a therapist for that.
This the real shit right here^! I dont think you "need" a therapist to solve this (and I say that as someone going to school to be a therapist) but can definitely be very helpful. Spending more honest time with yourself and actually intentionally spending time to think about how you may be self sabotaging yourself is a great start.
This. If you don’t see yourself as worthy of success or the love of people around you, you will adopt behaviors that actively ruin you, with a “why even try” mindset. Yet the decision to try is already 90% of the hardship
Procrastination works because it is a very efficient solution. Why would you brain work a week if all the work can be done in one evening? This is because of evolution. Such a waste of energy would be fatal for the organsim in earlier days. The brain is specifically designed to work as efficient as possible.
Self-Discipline - gets weaker by using it > so use it efficiently and make breaks to recharge - can be attained / trained - should only be used initially to automate behavior, not to microtask everything every time
@@Afternoonsun-c9y Learn to love what is good and despise what is bad, so you naturally behave the way you want, without having to consciously control your every action through self-discipline.
@@Afternoonsun-c9y Truly changing what you (dis)like and who you are is hard, of course. But it's worth it, more sustainable than microtasking, and only then you will feel good, since you really love what is good.
Great video! Childhood adversity is definitely one of the biggest factors that affect our ability to prefer delayed gratification. I have seen many friends who have had very challenging childhoods who seem to be unable to stay away from instant gratification like smoking, drinking, and drug usage.
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS I had a crazy childhood, and adhd. I've always been very impulsive and had addiction problems for a couple of decades- despite frequent attempts to stop. However, I've been sober/clean for over a month now, been exercising, and slowly getting disciplined. It can be done! It's just harder.
UNLEASHING POTENTIAL - PSYCHOLOGY VIDEOS What about us? Millennials a and Y generations? We're all full of instant gratification through Internet, video games, and tv shows. But most of us didn't have difficult childhoods
In my experience, people who have had an easy childhood are just as likely to have low self-control. In my opinion it isn't about one or the other, but rather extreme vs moderate. The people with the greatest self-control I have met are the one who have had an "ok" childhood: not a lot of rewards or "priviledge", or even luck, but not too dramatic experiences either.
Also, in my experience, hardship is essential in being able to control yourself. It is very often that people I see exhibitting this ability have had one, or several, dramatic and really tough experiences throughout their lives. But another thing I have noticed is that they all got over it. The people who went through a hellish experience but never got over it, are the "weakest" people. And I don't mean not forgetting it or ignoring it, but rather not accepting it and continuously being haunted by it.
It's crazy how we all are conscious to our decisions, yet, we have to fight and have self control over our very own brain or sub conscious to be free. It's like a constant battle over the flesh/body.
You are at war with the ideas of things and the reality of them, more so. Expectations are laid on what you should have and want during moments in your life, versus what YOU want, versus what people whose opinions matter to you; ad infinitum. Your mind and external influences seldom agree, blaming that on yourself does not fix what you do and do not want and enjoy. The ideal person (not my opinion, but in context) needs little and wants nothing, gives often and takes sparingly, nurtures others while needing very little themselves. Resisting temptations and so forth. It's about finding what you want in life, coming to peace if you can't, and maybe not destroying yourself and everyone else in the process for bonus points. Self discipline is a worthy practice, especially if it's a means to escape an unhealthy environment, but there is a reason why it ISN'T called self flagellation.
Its extremes of either way. Too much lack of freedom, which only leaves you the choice of making the bad decision (like rat park). And too much freedom, which allows you to comfortably keep choosing what's instantly gratifying. It's the extreme lack of comfort or too much comfort. Instead do your best to put yourself in an environment that pushes your forward.
People always talk about freedom, but what you really need is balanced control. The idea of freedom makes us think we need no limits, but that idea is paradoxical in nature. There’s always a limit. Sometimes that comes out of lack of limits, too. Rather, there needs to be balance with control between the parties in question.
Dude, you don't know how much are simple your animation but it important I have to say that it's beutiful. I've never see before an so impressive and important content like this one I really hope that you continue helping people to become more able to know themselves. Thank you very much for you've started change people life when no more one started. I respect you and your job. I respect it.
So I was your typical slacker and about a month ago I lived for my friends honestly. At the later age of 21, I realized that friendships can just be a passing relationship. Please don't live for others, but rather live for yourself. This applies to very humble people be a little more selfish. I am just starting to plan things and have to finally schedule stuff. I got sick of living in my mediocre box. I get my HW done the day it is assigned and feel like a god! Hope you find your better self (just decide that the relationship with your old self isn't cutting it)! Love y'all and wish you the best! Go make yourself proud!
"Dopamine is about anticipation rather than reward" This is just absolutely mind blowing, it explains so much, you just changed my life in one sentence man.
It is actually trust. A Animal would never give up a meal in front of it for some vage promise of greater reward later on. (Unless we drill the command "wait" into it) A Human still has these instincts. But he can learn to trust in later rewards, learning to ignore his instinct. But you can easliy break this in children. "Learn hard for this test and you will have a easier time later on". He spends a lot of time and energy and then fails the test, because the teacher tested something different or gave the wrong pages to learn. "Behave good and you will be rewarded. Bad behaviour will get you punished" Then the other kids misbehavior is ignored, but once the good kid falls out of line they remind him. Once he learned that the later reward has a very real chance of "just not happening", there is no reason to give up the meal in front of him. How do i know? Iam the middle child of 3 and was always "the good boy" while my bigger brother was basicly Ramsy Bolten. Guess who got the better threatment? It's no problem to hit me, but you don't wanna piss off the bad guy...
Maybe that’s why children who grow up in adverse environments delay gratification less than those who didn’t? Because their experience has taught them at a very fundamental and impressionable stage when they are still building working mental models of the world that they will use to operate in it as they develop (also where they cannot yet reason like an adult, both because they lack the biological maturity and the life experience/wisdom that comes from experience) that there’s no point because “the violent take it by force”, as it were Which is extremely unfortunate because they can only see the immediate, short-term effects. Children have yet to experience growing up and seeing how everybody around them turns out in the end, much less seeing the same patterns of behavior repeated in every generation like an endless cycle. By the time people realize the value this stuff actually has, they already have to overcome all that baggage and it becomes so much harder to get it right. It seems strange at first when you think about how we’re all still paying for choices we made not only last week, last month, or last year, but stretching all the way back to when we were little kids.. and, to a greater or lesser extent, everywhere in between too. But it really does make sense. We are a product of our lives, after all. And part of that includes starting with no context and trying to figure out how the world works to know how to operate in it at a time where we have no clue what’s good for us outside of some basic instincts (I’m referring to babies). In theory, the parents are supposed to help by passing on what they’ve acquired, but in practice they often do more harm than good. I guess that’s what you get when the only requirement to being a parent is being a fertile reproduction machine that follows its natural instincts to have sex. Not to mention that people are most fertile at the time in their life when they’re extremely confused and hormonal teenagers who think about sex more than about anyone and just wanna have a good time, whose underdeveloped prefrontal cortexes are incapable of processing long-term consequences of their actions like an adult can, including the consequences of STIs and unwanted pregnancies (because it would never happen to them!) when even adults, with their fully developed brains, often fall prey to the same mistakes! The same way teens often don’t take the potential effects of drugs seriously enough, including the indirect effects like fatal car accidents. The reality just doesn’t exist for them. Which isn’t their fault. A friend of mine died in one such accident five months ago, and it still doesn’t feel real oftentimes. And I even saw and touched his body in the casket at the wake and the funeral and carried it to its resting place. Even living these experiences doesn’t change that my brain, though I’m not a teenager anymore, still isn’t finished developing. It can take up to the 30s for it to finish, particularly in men (women’s brains tend to finish maturing a few years before than men’s) Point being, parents can’t pass _anything_ on that they don’t have themselves, except in the form of the kid realizing their parents mistakes in a way they haven’t realized themselves (or don’t see as a problem). So when 16 year olds are having kids and they don’t know how to raise them, it shouldn’t exactly be a mystery. Then again, hopefully they have other family that can help out. Of course, no one will ever be perfect. Hopefully they’re not toxic tho, otherwise that baby’s gonna get screeeeewwwed up, maybe even permanently. In any case, it won’t be easy for them to change by the time they realize it’s necessary, should that time ever come. And so the cycle continues... Although it’s easy to say that there’s no quality control when it comes to who can be parents, and that’s true, trying to create such a quality control would be so easily abused by whoever was given the authority to control it, and that’s on top of the fact that even with true motives and best intentions nobody would really know what the hell they’re doing when it comes to such a decision. They could make theories and models of what could be best, but they wouldn’t really know.
You just made me realize why I have became the lazy guy I am today, I guess I was hard working until middle school and then I realized that I don't need to really work to get the results I wanted and as I grow up there's is more and more short term gratification available to me. So that's how it all happened... The sad part is although I know all this it's still really hard to change it
Thanks so much folks. This is my second time watching, yet it feels like it spoke from my Soul because the evolution of the video mirrored a conversation I finished an hour ago, about when we met almost twenty years ago and we're both chaotic world hating little boys and are now studying philosophy and pursuing higher states of being. Y'all are doing great things, stay blessed!
I guess isolation is the problem after all. The more lonely you are, the less motivated for self-improvement you will be. After all, why be the best version of yourself if it won't make anyone happy? Why strive for greatness if there's no one there to witness it?
Loyal logic Those were rethorical questions. I have the answer already: things that we do, we do them for each other. Even if we don't realize it on the conscious level. You might think you want your greatness simply because you want it for yourself... nah. Humans are tribal creatures. Without our tribe, we have nothing to live for.
@@teli4181 "Without our tribe we have nothing to live for" Then I must be a sociopath I guess? Because I couldn't care less for it. If not for the fact that I do need the necessities provided by society I could as well live fully separated from it for really long amounts of time. All that "my tribe" Have managed to do is frustrate me, try to exploit me, Ridicule me, Tell me that I *must* act like they say, *must* conform to their stupid moral standards, and try to indoctrinate me with some dumb fantasy shit, and when I refused, I was threatened. Thanks to my "tribe" I have become cynical bitter asshole, suffered depressive states, considered suicide, became generaly worse person, and I struggled for years to get rid of it all. And I'm still not done fixing the damage. And you know what helped me throught most of it? Nihhilism and apathy. When I changed anything about myself, It was to prove to myself, that I fucking could. And to make my life at least slightly more manageable.
@@iamnobody7044 That's not your tribe, that's *a* tribe. One that you're stuck with. At least that's the idea I'm holding on to right now, because I'm still hoping that there are better people and a better life out there somewhere. I'm in a very similar boat to yours, actually. The only reason I'm no longer getting fucked over by my family and other people is because I served in the military and started living on my own, pretty much showing them that I'm a tough guy now who can make it through life without their support or acceptance. Now that they suddenly realize I don't *need* them, they show a lot more respect. I think they might be scared of me a little. Perhaps it's just in their nature - when they know you depend on them, they make sure to exploit that... But like I said, I'm still hoping that I just ended up in the middle of a shitty tribe, and eventually will find people I actually want to be with. I think that might be all that keeps me from giving up on humanity entirely.
At first I thought it was one of those motivational videos but it was purely explaining how self discipline works, and acknowledging how hard it is and I absolutely loved that
Use self-discipline only for the important things in life. 1. Education - Finish your education. 2. Food - Make the right food choices. 3. Exercise - Get your physical activity in at least 4 times a week for at least 20 minutes. 4. Social life - Be social but with the right people that also have the same goals as you. (1-3) 5. Repeat steps 1 - 4 - Success.
Now please explain how I'm supposed to discipline myself if the delayed reward doesn't exist. Completing things for the sake of completion does not make me happier. I somehow miss that instinct.
@@permaculturedandfree2448 haha i just finished a 4 day fast. I ended it with stew. Now I am going to diet by using by under desk elliptical, taking walks, Konjac powder, yohimbine, black coffee, teas, frozen carbs for resistant starch, and yogurt. I am also going to hide or throw away any sweets I see.
@@aoeu256 I lost 57kg last year..Sugar is a killer. Sugar is new NICOTINE. Give up refined foods..good luck? Focus and do it...lucks a reminder that you are not disciplined
For me very hard to say the schedule for the day, I want to be more organized, I had to do a lot of things but I just stay seeing RU-vid videos over and over again, youTube community thank you for having a tool to control ourselves, the clock that remind us when to stop seeing videos
Glad ADHD was mentioned. I personally have ADHD and self discipline is incredibly difficult for me. Even things like preparing for fun things, whether big (like saving money to buy a game) to teensy tiny steps (like looking for the charger - especially so when the console has to charge for a while before I can turn it on)... It's often very hard and literally gets in the way of "normal" functioning. Very frustrating
This is GREAT information, thank you! I could never work independently, even though I am intellectually built to do it. I finally found a doctor who diagnosed me with ADHD. Adderall gets a bad rap-but it’s changed my life. I feel so accomplished! I can organize my apartment, and I know where everything is. That’s a big deal for me, I feel like a functional person who’s connected to life, finally. I’m now able to sit and work for hours, and my life is finally going in the direction I’ve always wanted, but could never get, because of the very reasons that are stated here-I could never delay gratification because of brain chemical issues.
Discipline is the most important quality in life to have, without it nothing else is possible. However, it's also by far the most difficult to cultivate.
Don't punish yourself for failing to be disciplined in all of your pursuits when you start accept that a mistake happened and move one. Most of the time when we even start practicing self discipline we just start beating ourselves up for all the things going wrong and eventually stop and go back to where we started. So be kind with yourself Build systems, manipulate your environment and the pattern that leads to your optimum result.
True, the environment does affect one's will and desires. I've noticed that students who come from a difficult environment tend to perform worse when it comes to academics, I think this is because there are not so many people who have excelled in academia in their neighbours. On the other hand these students tend to excel in sports as they have witnessed a lot people excel in sports who come from the same background as them. This motivates them to think "If they can make, I can make it" when it comes to sports, which leads them to work hard. Yes resources do play a role in academics but I believe that motivation is also a key. Good job on the video
or maybe its just that they are black! black people probably don't care about academic success because its easier for them to achieve success in sports, or at least the idea of being a famous athlete is more desirable than being a doctor. Yea I'm sure you'll respond with "not just black people though I've seen many people do it.." yea I'm sure you've have lol
Niza Siwale not all folks who come from difficult backgrounds fail in academia or result in sports as an easy way out. One can hit the books and still gain several degrees despite the BS in life.
What I would say to make it easier is 1.plan the night before so you have some structure to your day 2. Find stuff you like to do so it’s easier to do it 3. Create an environment where it is easier to make the best decisions. 4. Hold yourself accountable and see where you can improve.
This channel has always been one of my most favourites but this video is really AMAZING. It is not only educational and insightful, but also reassuring and encouraging. Personally I found video to be very positive, especially in its conclusion. Let's try to help each other more and become better environment for each other!!! :')
I absolutely love this video, it's actually amazing and I'm blown away at the facts. It all makes total sense and the best part is that it alligns with religion. This is why we have a god given concious, to help us form delayed gratification and know right from wrong. Huge subscribe and even a favorite on this video. Thank you!
For the people discussing succes is related to delayed gratification, succes in what succes could mean for you is a gift. A causation not something you could make happen, cuz i see people working their asses of to pay their debts, and some stumble upon a fortune while walking down the road.
Dude this video came at a perfect time for me. I'm doing Nofap. But I don't call it Nofap. I personally just call it self-discipline because it sounds way more positive.
SensualCream lots of reasons. It's an addiction that prevented me from being the best version of myself. Living my best life. Living every day like it's my last. And of course, I did my research on why pornography is bad. And lastly, my ultimate respect and love for women is just infinite.
That's why I think that activities such as learning to play an instrument, or athletics are very good ways to develop self-discipline. You HAVE to delay gratification to get your proper reward. Playing well or seeing massive in physical strength and ability results literally depend of delayed gratification. You won't get any results from day to night.
I saw a speech in which Prof. Jordan Petersons explained how previous actions are making it more likely that the person will behave in the same way again, how that causes habits and overall changes the character. During that speech, he said one sentence that got stuck in my head: "Do not practice, what you don't want to become!" I wonder who I could have become if I would have been taught that one little sentence earlier in life.
@@_00_36 "i find it hard to believe a man who's spent his life studying mythology and history from every corner of the planet is a white nationalist" To me, there is some ambiguity to this comment so let me address some of my interpretations. 1. If you're saying that his studying of this field taught him to be a human being with virtues and well-oriented values, that is demonstrably false (this is what I replied to) 2. If you are saying that familiarity of multiple cultures means that one can't be a nationalist, then you don't know what a nationalist is.
@@_00_36 Come on, 80% of history is about trade and conflicts and a sizable portion of those involve tension that is either culturally or racially charged.
& no one thinks that maybe the meth users chose the money over the small amount of meth because they could take the $5 or $20 & get more meth than the amount that was being offered???
Consider this perspective: If the methamphetabros were 1) outside 2) during the daytime, they were almost certainly loaded or at least had a pick-me-up before braving the Lightworld. So since their brain isn't currently lacking it's ultimate step-1, they're probably having at least 1000 ideas of what they could do with that cash, and at least a quarter of those are as decoration on some rusty bike-parts art project. And they're absolutely gonna get some ice cream, booze, and smokes with that 15$, and live on nothing else for 3-7 days. Also, no one is going to sell
sam wells It takes a courageous hero to do such a thing: I am that hero. Or savior, as Jesus-Man died in agony for our right to party, so shall I, called The Moon King, atone for all sobriety, past and present (fuck those smug condescending future-dicks), whether malicious of intent, environmentally forced, or born of circumstancial ignorance/helpless dumbfuckery, I will selflessly do all their drugs for them. Except heroin. I know myself, and I don't believe that I would be very good at garbage-can death-metal karaoke nights Edit: Afterthought + high-rambling
Kevin Zuniga Hey, thanks man. I actually am both- I’ve been done with that garbage for about a year to the date. Wasn’t easy. But it’s fun to see replies to my stupid old rambles pop up now and then.
Animation is beautiful, I love it. But to be fair with you, huge library with much more then 10000 videos about anything you can think of, is pretty much youtube
I've been wondering recently about the desire to work towards longer-term rewards. This video and modern thought postulates it as either genetic or environmental, but perhaps it's in some sense cognitive. I find myself often not wanting to do things that are really hard, the difficulty of some tasks is discouraging, things that take months or years to complete and will certainly involve some level of frustration and hopelessness, things that will lead to emotional distress such as rejection or personal conflict. But why is it that I don't want to do those things and others do? The idea that it's purely environmental or genetic seems sort of bogus, the truth is some people like to do hard work, some people like to suffer through things knowing it will lead to rewards, they like to get into uncomfortable situations to test out their ability to overcome them. This is what some people (like MJ) would call "work ethic" and while it seems like something out of your control, it seems much more likely to me to be a skill or acquired taste. I've been trying recently to develop a taste for doing the hard work in life when faced with even simple tasks I don't want to do, clean the dishes immediately after cooking, make my bed immediately after waking, get off my phone and begin my next task, I do so with the idea that it's not about the task itself but learning to want to do the hard tasks in life. At the same time, I've been trying to eliminate tasks that give me easy rewards such as playing games and scrolling through memes. It has been really helpful and I find myself motivated to work hard just to imagine that I'm someone who likes to work hard. Everyone has a part of themselves that wants to work hard, that wants to climb up a rock in the most difficult way possible, you just need to feed it.
If you treat yourself with a piece of cake after taking care of your duties that's fine. But if you've been procrastinating, you probably won't even feel worthy of such a treat, therefore you won't enjoy the cake.
I think the most efficient way to become more disciplined on your own is by taking awareness of the notion of suffering when we're about take make a decision. Because to me the postponed suffering is worse as it consists of shame, regret, low self esteem ect. Whilst the suffering in the present when I'm not satisfying something does scream in my head but is a lot more bearable when I compare the two.
Schools these days do a remarkable job in teaching kids that knowledge is hard work that's not good for anything whatsoever. I hated math class, because teachers never told us what we could do with it. Took me 10 years to realise that here are applications for it and I'm now trying to work my way through it again, in the areas that I actually need it. I just wish they had done that while I was in school. A grade isn't a reward, so why bother learning it?
@@liquidminds the school system sets you up for mediocrity at best. It's just doing what it's meant to. They approach teaching with tests instead of practical application.
Ben G. Degree-Factories... how to get the most amount of people to a level where oyu can give them a degree, with the least effort put into it. Lowering the bar for the level you deserve a degree at is just one of the many methods they employ to achieve that goal.
School rewards competition, rather than cooperation. Students are more concerned about having individually high grades than finding a good arrangement between the abilities of each one for a project to materialize. And so the knowledge they offer is never tied to a practical reason, since practice requires group work.
Thank you for this amazing video! I knew everything you were talking about but I wasn't realizing it consciously. It helped me to encapsulate this knowledge to my consciousness.
It feels like disciplin is 20% effort and 80% the result of your goals and past choices. As soon as you put yourself out of the equation, self dicipline becomes a natrual habit. I don't need to have a pleasant feeling while doing what I have to, I don't need comfort, I don't need luxury, I just need to function, I just need to work. It's that easy to explain, and once the ball is going, It's literally a no brainer. For me It's having a good job that gets me going. But when I have nothing to strive for, or if I have set the wrong goal then my discipline is horrible.
As someone who has ADHD and had a disturbed childhood I've been undergoing self disipline, to change my past person and control my life, it's painful and difficult so thank you for the course opportunities to help me persue my delayed gratification.
Discipline was something i'd never known as a child, because there was no need for it. Nowadays you cant survive without it even though it mighy look like it. I wish i could see the world again trough those eyes...
If you want to learn people to have compassion and help eachother u have to go full determinism. It doesnt just work to say "people are a product of their environments a lot more then what we think".
Thank you for mentioning ADHD! I had a dreadful feeling that someone was gonna watch this video and use it to shame their ADHD acquaintance/relative for not being able to get things done and tell them their disorder is them not having "enough self discipline". Also, what you said about the environment playing a big factor in self-discipline is very sensible. I don't understand how anyone other than privileged, mentally healthy, currently successful people can swear by "your life is up to you and you alone! you're in total control!"
this is a very well-made video. the irony is, i'm watching while procrastinating. i've had these kind of thoughts for a while now, why i'm losing motivation and why my body just won't move. i'm frustrated that i'm not that frustrated, but it is also myself that suffers the consequences.
Part of our decision as to whether to delay gratification or not is also related to the logarithmic scale we observe the world through. Consider the case described in the video of $100 today or $101 tomorrow. You would obviously choose $100 today, but if I asked you "Do you want no money today, or $1 tomorrow?" you would obviously choose to wait til tomorrow.
Thanks a ton for sharing! Your videos are insightful in a very nuanced way n based on solid research and not just anecdotal or theoretical examples. Keep @ it...
I have an immense amount of discipline with some things, food, controlling my mood, money ECT. But I cannot study at all, I'm taking hard classes and I still don't do any homework but I do self teach at home with programming so it's an issue of passion.
