The crazy part is we get accused of "being drama" when we call shit out and speak our mind! Just because we don't tolerate gaslighting, guilt trips, shaming, passive aggression, and mind fuckery! What's so hard about keepin' it real? People wanna pull shit and then get butt-hurt when you call them on it? Fuck that... I'd rather not have any friends than deal with tiptoeing around egos.
I respectfully disagree. I think people are hiding from admitting that sometimes they feel lonely. It may only last for a moment, but it's there. Not romantic loneliness. But "life" loneliness. Examples: When you can't have a medical procedure until there's someone designated to drive you home, and the staff won't allow rideshare. You have to name a person. When weather turns so vicious that your job lets you out early and everyone is calling spouses and children to make arrangements but you have no reason to make plans for anyone but yourself. When you reserve a table for 1 at a nice restaurant and you get the $hit table. That's happened to me twice. It was years ago, so maybe things have changed there. So to be clear, I don't feel " no relationship" loneliness. Life loneliness is different. Get your death plans together because who's gonna find you and handle your business.
"Loneliness happens during human interaction". This is one of the thoughts that runs through my head when attending "activities with others". Some people just seem like they are not really people but are some kind of shell with no interests or hobbies. Their personal opinions seem to be echos of the latest fad. smh
Love my own company 😂 I always thought there was something wrong with me for enjoying my own time 😂🙈 xx I hate being bothered for unnecessary things. Stop wasting my time 😂
They are indeed. I have some wonderful friendships with a few horses, cats and dogs. They are better company than humans. And still: I love to spend time completely by myself 😊
Was going to say this, I can count on one hand my real friends, and funny thing is we can go weeks, months before we hookup for coffee. My husband and I can sit in the same room without saying a word, we don’t fill the air with meaningless conversations, it’s been like this since the day we first met almost 40 years ago (dam I had to calculate that as it feels like last month). We met a few weeks before our 24th birthdays turned out we were born only a few days apart 6 days to be exact lol and been together ever since. I got lucky, now we live in two different cities looking after our Dad’s, most married couples would have divorced by the end of the 2nd year living like this. It’s been 16 years, we both knew that taking on the burden of looking after our parents would be long term, but for us there was never a question of not looking after them. We never had children to complicate our life choices not by choice or design, it was just something that was never going to happen due to health problems, but unlike many married couples we did not need to have children to define us as a couple, unlike so many people we have known over the years and they are now all divorced. I play cards once a week I enjoy it, but sometimes I return home utterly exhausted. Other times I come home totally uplifted and happy. I do this because my Dr decided I had to have one day off from looking after Dad, he gets picked up in the morning and take out visiting and morning tea, I leave before he’s returned home to go and play cards for a few hours, then pickup two hamburgers and take them home for our dinner our one and only junk food night. Dad is very much like myself happy with his own company, always has plenty of things to keep him occupied. Umm yep I married a man who is just like my Dad and myself. He and my Mom were the same, could be in the same room without the need to fill the air with nonsense. The only difference was Mom had a group of people who she would spend the day with just sewing quilts. I went with her a few times but found it exhausting.
I am a 62 year old Sigma female. A lot of people treat me like a dotty old cat lady who was "left on the shelf" Nothing could be further than the truth, I have always been in control of my own destiny, and don't need shallow, tedious drama ridden people in my life. I've had the opportunity to have men/sexual relationships in my life, but found all that drama , walking on eggshells and pandering to what they want, to much to bother. I have never wanted children, they would require a level of commitment, I could never give. I would love to discuss Nuclear Physics with someone, the thought of discussing soap operas or "love island" fills me with horror. I love being alone, and those "family gatherings" are attended with dread. It's nice to know that this video seems to get what we are. Real people who just don't conform to what society thinks women should be. I do feel a sense of loneliness, but that has nothing to do with being "alone".
Hi Tiger moth, I'm 74 and so much is similar, I have had children, a wonderful son I lost at 23, and a daughter who no longer has a place in my life. I loved the conversations with my son, we were both into physics, him a math genius, me left brained quantum leaper. He studied quantum mechanics on top of uni work just for fun.. as you can imagine, our conversations were so awesome. I divorced in 1979, and haven't found inclined to relationships, although I like to think my heart is open to love.. But the living with a different vibration is a challenge and distraction. Sending you a great big hi, glad to meet you, all the best.
@@LindaGrey-wm9uc It was nice to read your story, thank you for sharing it with me, I am sorry it ended so sadly with your children. Life is an incredible challenge for people like us, but it is good to know there are others. I must sound very cold to some people, but the few friends I do have, I am intensely loyal to them, I just don't waste my time with time wasters.
Bottomline, it's because they've been hurt, betrayed and deceived way to often. They started this world as gentle, sweet little girls trusting everyone. As years progress, time reveals the rude awakening....then, game on bastards!
It’s really not game on, it’s just living in reality and accepting reality for what it is instead of the delusional norm of “seeing the good in people”.
I have always been accused of being intimidating. My husband says he can see why that I've been called this because he was intimidated trying to date me. He also says that I "overthink" on everything! Personally, I am proud of my analytical skills!
@@natashaalicia8105 and it’s difficult because most people subscribe to ideas like, you’re alone, you must need someone, you have a pet, so you must need to babysit my child, you’re an introvert and since that’s unhealthy, I’ll draw you out, you’re isolated instead of you liking solitude, you’re alone so I’ll fill that space with being in your face, you can’t possibly want to work on a project or hobby instead of chit chatting, since you have nothing to do (don’t have a husband and kids) you can be my free caregiver. None of these types of people ever consider that you may not feel the way they do and that you did not ask them. If you don’t want to spend time with them, sometimes all of your free time, you’re also unfriendly and aloof. They don’t want to accept that your life might be going just fine, without them. Some of them, like narcissists, also feel your solitude is fear and want to take advantage of that, only to find it was never fear and that they’d best GTFO of here. And, yes, narcissists, for their benefit and towards your detriment, feel, “Wait, just where do you think you’re going!?” Personal experience has dictated, “Are you SURE you want me to stay…?”
@natashaalicia8105 Same. And there are many. I worked hard on myself over the last 10 years to become the woman I am supposed to be. I'm not letting anyone steal that away from me. I will not give up my power to anyone. Unfortunately, I am old school - give people the benefit of the doubt. Accept people where they are at on their journey. Sadly, that's not the real world we live in today.
@@terribaxter5828 it’s sad and difficult, because we may all fall in hard times. We may all become ill, elderly and old one day. And most of us grew up, taught that we should help others. But, you love, you learn. There are people, who will use feigned helplessness, feigned virtuosity, are entitled on top of lazy, and are well-aware that the world doesn’t care, once they’re in need and can find someone to latch onto. That is when the very one else feels, no questions asked, your new life’s goal, is to slave for that person. A person who might be a narcissist, sexist or racist (all often closely related) and they will literally derail your life, by using up every bit of you, not even attempting to mitigate their circumstances. That, I felt, was my neighbor. That, when she moved in beneath me, god blessed her, with me living upstairs from her, so she owned me, as far as she was concerned. While I realize she ended up in a desperate and ever-worsening health situation, even before she took ill, she and likely her whole family, who lived in-state, decided the “girl” upstairs (literally only 6 years younger), was GOING to be tasked with caring for her and even buying a newer car, for the “privilege”. There are people who are not just in need, they are envious of you and your successes, no matter how small. For them, successes aren’t anything from your smile to your career. Like the new neighbor downstairs, the woman may feel jealous that she has a child and I don’t, so she wants me to care for the child. So, the feeling can be, “I may not even know you well, but how dare you get away, with just going about your business, living your life, while I have to deal with raising a child. We’re going to fix that!” This and way more, are why I’m alone.
I am a Sigma female. I prefer being alone because I understand the Laws of the Universe, the Law of Attraction being the most powerful Law of all. I KNOW that everyone is creating their own reality, and I don't get in the middle of anyone else's drama. I have a STRONG Connection with my INNER BEING, which is my best friend and my dance partner through this crazy thing called LIFE. Oh, and by the way, I am 78 years old, I don't take any medication, I look in the mirror and LOVE what I see, which is why I'm healthier than anyone I know.
Gosh! This explains a lot. My inner circle consists of me, myself and I. The most meaningful conversations I have are with myself. My perfect weekend is studying biology, understanding quadratic equations. Baking, writing and binging on old series. 😅
AMEN Me Myself and I. That's my Trinity. When I added Jung's SHADOW to the mix, things really got exciting. Shining a Light on that is where my strength lies.
@@im4ever369 It appears that this channel doesn't allow links, so I'll just copy and paste Matthew 7:15. The name of your church reminds me of this: "Beware of false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravenous wolves. You will know them by their fruits." I think you have confused the concept of integrating the shadow with living from the shadow.
That’s me. Didn’t know there was a word for it. I was raised that way. I can still hear my mother’s words, “why do you need somebody? Just go do it!” It was good advice!
SAME. I keep thinking I'm weird for being single at 38 and I hardly date. I'm like whatever. It's less drama and stress. Sorry if that's weird! I come from a family that's pretty outgoing too, so I really am a black sheep.
Same here, I never thought I was weird lol but I definitely knew kinda quickly that I was different, I remember telling my mom on several occasions as early as 7th grade “I don’t fit in anywhere” 😊 she would always try to make sense of why I would say it & tell me that I do, but I never really felt comfortable in crowds even if I was with friends, for 1 I could always see through the fakeness & pretending 🤷🏾♀️ I would willfully go places with friends, but then shortly after being there, I’d find myself ready to go back home 😆 being by myself is soooooo easy……and yes definitely comfortable in my solitude✊🏾😎😊
According to this I’m 100 percent sigma female and really grateful for it. I do feel a bit lonely sometimes but I can only be with people with whom I can talk about books, philosophy, poetry, the state of the world etc. I’m 63 and know myself well enough to know that I feel loads more lonely when stuck with people gossiping about crap TV and shallow rivalries. I LOVE my own company, my cat, my allotment and my books and music. Don’t think I’ll ever have another romantic relationship now - they inevitably lead to compromise in a bad way and lots of wasted time. Greetings to all the other sigmas out there - it’s really cool to be us!
All my life I didn't have a name for who I am I used the term different , once I learned of Sigma women, i am proud and honored and grateful for all of us ❤️ 💜 we are born independents because we intimidate people just being our authentic self.
This is true ,you are absolutely.the truth, Sigma females,yes Im one Capricorn sigma female , we love peace n solitude❤ we value our Inner world ,we love Solace❤
I am so sigma! I never knew it had a name before. I am a friendly Aquarian, a writer, but I live alone, despise drama, have only two nearby friends, and revel in my aloneness. I love the irony that I'm 82 and drive a red Pontiac Grand Prix with a top speed of 140.
nobody has anyone said that I am going to watch the video :) after watching: I am never lonely we are born alone and die alone, no matter who is around, a lesson learned early in life. filling eachother’s gaps is no friendship yet a deal I am not in for.
I don't know if I'm "Sigma" but this description pretty much hits the nail on the head. I do know Im an INFJ and this pretty much describes an INFJ too.
I always say if there is 3 self proclaimed sigma females in a room, there is actually only one sigma female in that room. Too many people self identifying into the label because they think it sounds mysterious and glamorous. It’s not. It’s a rough existence filled with lots of isolation and pain.
Not for the INTJs. We need lots of time alone to read, think, and plan. I doubt that most sigma women feel much isolation and pain unless they are remembering close family or friends that have died.
I'd never heard of sigma females. Finally, someone understands!! 67 and still figuring it out, but I'm so relieved to realise that I'm not just a weird introvert. It would be great to connect with people who are authentic, brave and smart, but if they aren't around, I'll just stay home, thanks.
My two best friends are in FLA ,I left 15 years ago. Those two male musicians are the most intelligent , relatable people I know. And the friendships are still strong. I'm alone by choice, no marriage, no kids. I haven't found a person with depth in my new town.
I have come to the point that I suspect everyone's motives in all situations. I feel like such a pessimistic person, but it's a way of protecting myself. When I shut someone out, it's over, I'll never feel the same way again.
I now know why I can't stand to be around certain people, my radar goes off immediately telling me they are the needy/clinging/desperate types, think they want to predate on my strength and security, it feels like they are lacking so want to 'feed' on mine to sustain them
This is so true for Sigma females. It’s absolutely painful to endure shallow insipid conversations. I would prefer to watch paint dry than indulge in friendly chats, so exhausting. Being intelligent and aware equals a pretty singular experience and I e learned to appreciate it.
Exactly true. Endless blather about...??? No thanks. My intelligence has been used by others as a weapon and put-down for as long as I remember. The perjorative way back in junior hgh was calling me a "Brain", which is pathetic, really. Viewed as threatening, intimidating, difficult all along this rough path.
True, we end up the victim of insecurities or envy of others sometimes, underestimated and ruined though not guilty. As long as you know yourself and what you are there's nothing to be worry. Don't let them change you, just be you, have positive outlook in life and be confident.
This is true. We are loving & giving yet we get little back, are alone. I suppose our selective nature keeps us more isolated. Yes family can be very unsupportive & hurtful. I'm not as aloof as most, but not desperate for company. Thanks Rare 💎 😉⚘️🌟✨️❤
I always knew I was different and now I understand. I'm a Sigma. I was 47 when I married my husband. My family was worried about me before that. After I introduced my then fiance, "Jon", to my brother, my brother later told me that he knew Jon was the real thing for me because he knew I would never marry just to marry, I would never settle but would hold out for my other half and equal.
Yes I hate small talk. I had a job recently where I had to stand next to someone else who was working. The amount of people who have a whole nervous breakdown when you aren’t desperate to fill the silence with small talk is insane. People hate having to hear their own thoughts or sit in an awkward silence. I’d prefer quiet over a fake conversation that’s only happening to make someone else comfortable anyway.
I love keeping my distance the older I get and even noticed a friend of mine was a "supposed BFF" and she is not, she is self centered and way too man centered . I am happier all by myself .
I identify 100% One thing that I am allergic to and it's not mentioned is trendy words and things For example, when a book, movie, etc is "popular" it immediately turns me off & I avoid at all costs Another example is when a person acts or uses words or expressions without a rationale explanation to it ("because it is") or an analysis ("it's understood by everyone" ) Finally, repetition bores me as much as cowardice & endless complaints without action Asking for my "advice" gives me sense of others weakness & lack of self knowledge Who knows better than you , what works or doesn't for you ? I always give the same line when asked for advice : " it doesn't matter what your family, spouse or even I think , what matters is what you FEEL and KNOW works for you" They are always so "thankful " when I say that To me, is basic I'm not here (in this planet) to please anyone I'm here to discover what works for me & then configure my life around that , which by the way, morphs overtime which can also be confusing for more "traditional people" who treasure consistency over freedom & self discovery.
I am a rare female Sigma Heyoka Empathy. ❤ I am a rare and powerful empath. I feel others emotions deeply. I give healing, truth, and positive change. But I also absorb other people's negative energy. Which makes me very tired. I long to find someone who can balance me out. But until then..... Peace ✌️🕊️
Folks are way to reluctant and they often dont make any effort. On top of that folks are not generous. Why would we want them around? Even mothers can be exploitative
Oh man I knooow right I am here like: Yasss I see them other curly/coily/wavy females in there too. The zeitgeist and ethos must resonate & foster us it can just 'fit' to us & keep it pushing not vice versa. Stay safe Stay resilient Stay blessed Stay real Stay YOU Adapt. Evolve. Onward. 💯 🙏 🙌 🧿
Very True! ❤ I tried with abusive toxic family/flaky sometimes toxic abusive relationships over the years but no longer not for me. My Peace of mind & safety much more important! Lone Wolfess Always now! ❤
When I was younger I considered myself a Sigma female, based on everything here and I totally fit the bill. As I age, I find myself still a Sigma, but more lax than I used to be, and while I don't have a lot of friends and don't like gossip, I like to talk to others so I can learn things from them, which I never did when I was younger. I was a solid rock and drove my own lonely ship in the moonlight, but as I age, I'm finding myself less rigid and more fluid. I thought it would be the other way around when I aged.
Wow, this is so spot on! I feel understood & valued listening to this. I feel like you are talking about me and am thrilled to find there is nothing wrong with me. Thank you!
I agree. You can be alone only if you are self-absorbed. If you are mature enough, you understand that people are different and that's wonderful. You don't need to share your deepest reflections to everybody. But you can still enjoy them, be playful in your relationships and allow the best in them to come out.
Thanks. These videos are a gift. Only keep drama free , unconditional connections in your life, and always remember who you are despite gossip. We sum up integrity.
I have a kind of dual personality but now I am full sigma. I used to be like this in many ways but then I was the opposite too, too trusting and forgiving of people. Not now. I do get lonely though, that's the problem.
AMEN! I have always been accused of going to 'the Beat of a Different Drummer'! Guilty! I cannot stand dull, stupid, ignorant, or shallow people! I would rather be alone, reading a book, searching the Internet for intelligent Life, and Living My Life Independent of Toxic People! Good Video, enlightening, empowering and Potent with Thought Candy!
They say in psychology a behavior is not dysfunctional unless it causes A disruption of home, school or work. I managed to pay for my own college and graduate with a masters in psychology and math, work full time, and raise two children all by myself alone. Obviously I had some relationships in my life, but the only thing lasting was my love for math. I learned not to trust anybody. Nobody. Even the government and the big corporations have big mental health issues when we really look at their analysis. But the math and psychology go well together in robotics.
At age 70, I guess I'm a Sigma female! I gave up attending dinners with my old co-workers because all they did was sit around gossiping about other people. I am alone, but not lonely, though a bit of kindred spirit companionship and support would be nice! This video sounds like women who've had dealings with NPD types.
Being alone doesn't mean Sigmas are lonely however, having someone on the same page wouldn't be bad like you said. Welcome to THE RARE GEMS COMMUNITY 💎😘🙏
I have a problem with people who get too friendly too soon. Much of my family is not of like mind politically or socially. I dispise drama and feel like I'm missing nothing when I manage to avoid it. I have a small circle of quality friends and am content spending time alone more than not. I don't have much in common with many people so I contribute little to most conversations about my personal life. Also, not many people ask me about myself so I simply don't volunteer it. I keep to myself, but sometimes I get lonely because I lack someone with whom I can have a deep connection. I would rather be alone than with the wrong people.
Telling someone that I _would_ like to meet someone to date, but he has to meet my level of intellect, have the same moral code and ethical standards, and hey - some shared interests would be nice. Her in frustration: "Isn't it enough that he just be _nice??"_ Ummm, Nope. Edit: Before this devolves into a man-bashing reply-chain, the guys that love bomb and then turn into jerks, the guys that pretend to be nice but are manipulators or Jekyll-and-Hyde types...those are not nice guys. They are narcissists and psychopaths. There are _genuinely nice guys_ out there. I've dated some of them. In my case, we just didn't match on the important stuff. I'd happily matchmake them with any female friend who _would_ match them on the important stuff, because they are good men, truly nice guys. Not the fakes that some people who have replied to my comment are talking about. (And "nice" doesn't mean weak, btw)
Add to these: non-toxic family and friends, healthy boundaries with other women, and emotionally mature. So tired of men with twisted family relationships, narcissist friends, and poor self-esteem so they feel the need to have the attention of other women, to the point of flirting with them in front of their girlfriends. Immature mama's boys who want to be the center of attention. They're so inappropriately "friendly" that others describe them as "nice." Ugh
@hopehadley8844 yes, and those "nice" guys, when the love bombing is over, suddenly turn critical, find fault in everything you do, then turn physically violent when you stand up to them. Been there, done that. No more....never again!
I cannot stand to be in a crowd of people. It is so draining and exhausting. Some people have told me that I am a snob or think I am a queen, but that's not true. I pick my friends very carefully and don't like to be around superficial people. Plus I'm empathic too so I pick up on a lot of other people's feelings which drains me. The part about not liking drama is so true. I detest drama and walk away from it.
I relate to this, but I'm not this. I collect friends like Pokémon cards, but spend most of my alone. I'm an oversharer, but don't ask me how I am or what I like to do in my free time. Don't oblige me to small talk, but oblige me to dance. I crave depth in relationships, and spend most of my life alone, researching, contemplating and creating, yet people think I'm the leader of a pack, and always partying. Definitely not into pop culture, and definitely a thinker. Everyone is my friend, but I roll solo. So, I don't know what I am.
INTJ and likely Sigma Female. People actually hate you, for being strong enough, to be comfortable, in your own company. Narcissists vehemently seek to undo it. They “may” sense you being sigma, even if they don’t know the term or what it means. They want to see your solitude as weakness and fear, seek it isolation, then use it against you, all to become enraged, because they mistook your strength and solitude, for weakness and isolation. They often still feel that isolation trumps all, because they fear being alone. But, with a sigma, May find themselves defeated, because we were simply being polite and civil - until we’re not. And that listening to Uncle Bob. Yes, have a cousin like this. Maybe, particularly as a Sigma Female, I always feel as if I’m listening to advice from a narcissistic elder, who feels, “If you’d just do it like I did it.” You mean during the 1970s and 80s? This IS NOT the 1970s and 80s! This is starting to look like Mad Maxx!
@@TheRareGems-ql8rm Thanks! 😊 Just a question, I think that there are two or more other channels copying your content. Is that so? Or, if not, they look so similar. Same narrator, same texts. Only the pictures differ. 🤔 And, a bit less good quality.
@cutechiangels Hi, Thanks for asking, I believe the sky is big enough for everyone to fly. On RU-vid people intend to model any topic but must make it original. As for the narrator, anyone can purchase it from the market, even the videos however, it's against RU-vid rules to copy people's content verbatim without modification. I have seen a few using my content even my exact thumbnails without any modifications, but I let it slide and wish them success too So, all the materials can be bought in the market, but the script, which is the main message, is what makes the difference.
Well as someone who has been through sh!t as a high-functioning autistic woman you learn what works for you real quick. I have no problem cutting ties or forcibly removing obstacles in my way anymore. My Parents worried about me growing up, they see me as a bad@$$ now. I promised myself in 2011 I wouldn't stay silent or be bullied by anyone or anything ever again. If it makes me brutal, standoffish, and ruthless then so be it.
I had never heard of this term before - but can identify with it. The characteristics contributed to conflict in my marriage: Because so many men cannot cope with a woman this strong and independent. I think I may more happily live my remaining years single rather than put up with the abuse that can happen when the man believes he should be able to dominate his partner!
Not revealing yourself too soon to a new acquaintance is a self protection mechanism. What they do not know they cannot try to use against you in some ridiculous twisted way that has nothing to do with reality. Never give anyone ammunition to use against you. You have to prove yourself over time before I'll trust a word you say.
This so resonates with me! Family is very important; but if I see that you don’t genuinely care… I don’t want it. I’d rather be alone!!! Friends the same; I do everything for the ones I love, drama and manipulation and betrayals are not for me.
Sigma here ! Happily busy in my garden , with my goats and chickens , mowing , digging , hiking ,hauling , etc… Couldn’t be happier ! I love to be with friends when I am with them , but prefer to work and hike alone.
😂 you said it. The intellectual differences in conversations is astounding. Keeping it about the weather is about as far as I can get with the majority before wanting to run for the hills.
My youngest brother once asked me .What it was I had that none of the rest of our family of nine children had.I told him it was contentment of knowing ones self.He says"Well can you bottle it and give some to me "bless him.
There were times I took medications to help me " Fit in more". I like the way I am but there were times medicstions helped me blend in more and have more friends.
I don't mind people that drama follows around. That isn't their fault. Women shouldn't abandon each other just for having difficulties, as it rewards predators. What I do mind is people that follow drama. Sometimes these are other women as their marginalized statuses can bait them into dragging each other down.
I'm 100% sigma, with every video you"ve made you have described me perfectly. This is amazing to me because my circle is small and find that there is not many people that can hold a intellegent or in debth conversation with. How did you get such a deep understanding of women like me? Your wife must be an a incredible woman or should I say you must be one in a million man, she"s a lucky woman.❤
Hi, Thanks for always turning in. I am delighted they resonate with you and make it easier for you to understand yourself better and for you to know you are not alone. There are many fellow Sigma sisters out there
@@TheRareGems-ql8rm yes but far and few between. I'm in my sixties now, annd the most sigma females I've ever met were amongst bikers funnily enough. Free riders not clubs. To this day they are amongst my closest friends and I count my inner circle on 8 fingers with a couple on the outer fringes.
Yes, these topics on video are true & I am like this. But also, I will sometimes make friends with some people who are not like me & would ordinarily Not be selected by me. I will choose to make a friendship, generally it lasts a relatively short time, with someone who is gentle, soft spoken, sincere, often alone themselves, share an interest or interests with me. I will definitely enjoy doing things with them even though they don't provide the intellectual type of thoughts/analyses that I would like, but they are honest, interested in some things I am, & we can have a nice, peaceful time together. If this "wears out" after awhile & they want to engage me in the same kind of general societal conversations & get togethers I may not be able to do that & either feel too pressured to do small things I don't want to or maybe feel its just too much for me to do I will likely not continue....or decrease the amount of contact. This often leads to the end of a simply friendship which I usually don't notice this happening so I just let it go......without regrets, but do feel the Loss of the temporary contact with someone who has the same interest/s.
Alone in a room full of people. I like being a sigma and am content to know that i can live my life the way i choose. It is a gift being able to see through people. Love many ... Trust few and always oaddle your own canoe. By the grace of God goeth I.
This resonates. However, anyone else finds the visual for #5. "No need for friends" a little disturbing? Like the women shown are upset, they have to drink to the brink of lonely alcoholics. My visual of 'I don’t need friends is more like: I enjoy vacations alone, I love walks alone or with my dog, I have wonderful hobbies, I get to watch a great movie alone, etc. You get it, right?
Is anyone else sick of hearing about the importance of friendships and social activity? Like, youre a mental health crisis waiting to happen, but only YOU know just how darn great your life is, 😆 As a Sigma female who is 62, I am so happy to FINALLY be left alone. In reality, I always felt alone in a room (house) full of people anyway, but could do little to change it because i had to work. I took my retirement ASAP. Yes, I'm alone... but rarely lonely. I love to read and explore alternative ideas... Japanese art and culture and lifestyles... teachings of Jesus... space exploration and modern science. I have enjoyed working on my house- alone! None of my 'friends' are interested, much less, excited about exploring the world they live in. My cat Tibs is pretty awesome tho, 😆. (Cats are the best company!)
