Why Social Media Is Ruining Your Life | Katherine Ormerod | TEDxManchester 

I deleted social media several years ago because I saw the potential dangers. Turns out I was right.

I never understood, or had the desire to go on any social media site and air my life for all to see. I keep my business, MY business.

Social Media is toxic. Today I deleted my Facebook, Twitter and Instagram

As a 36-year-old guy I must say I'm come too the conclusion. Why do I want to allow people to look in my photos when they do not care to interact with me on a regular day-to-day basis? Because all I'm doing is giving people permission they don't care to contact me permission to look at my pictures that's all I'm doing.

The entertainment side of social media nearly ruined my life.

Don't compare your behind the scene with other people's highlight reel.

Her: Be an Instagram fashion influencer, hop on meta _social media is bad_ train. Continue to be a social media influencer. Profit.

I graduated from Parsons and worked the fashion industry/magazines in manhattan for a couple of years. By 23 I realized I hated everything about it and I would rather throw my BFA in the toilet then live a empty and shallow existence. Welcome to the machine.

This video has changed my insights on social media. Thank you for this.

I appreciate her shedding light on this issue but at the same time I can see how this can be a scheme to garner sympathy and interest and attract more followers. Maybe what's wrong is not only sharing that flimsy veneer of glamour without the dark side, maybe the real problem is simply sharing too much of a life that used to be private. I don't understand why a complete stranger would show me they've been to Mexico and rub their designer bikini in my face nor do I understand why they would tell me they were dumped in a luxury hotel room. The more of your private life you expose the more “exposed” you'll feel.

I deleted my instagram, Facebook but, I spent most of my time watching RU-vid 😊💔

I've just had a look on the speaker's Instagram page. Its content doesn't really back up what she says in her TED speech. What we can see is glamour, fashion and obsession with self-image. The book is promoted using all the required (but highly criticised) codes of the social media world.

Everyone keeps repeating the same issue - how pretty pictures make us feel bad. Pretty pictures were in magazines before we had social media. I don't feel this is a new issue, I put my best happy face on in most social situations, so I don't really think its at the heart of what is wrong with social media. For me it feels like people keep thinking the answer is changing how we use it - share more that is real, show more that is real, be real with people to connect more.. but none of it is real. Its not real in the sense that its edited and curated and because its happening to people you don't know and will never meet. But its also not real in that you don't think, behave, or react to it like its real. You are investing in a fantasy and that's its entire appeal. The folk putting up stuff about how 'if you're depressed you can talk to me, im here' can't even be bothered to put it in their own words, they just copy and paste or post a meme. Imagine if someone actually went to them for real help? I can have a three line conversation with a friend that takes a week because its not real time. In real time, we can discuss everything we talk about in our entire whatsapp history in one night over a few drinks. Yet people think online activism is the way to 'have the important conversations'... No one is actually trying to change the world, they're trying to change their follower count. And the thing is once it's changed what does that actually mean? The way that's it is most 'not real' is that it is completely disconnected from any sense of purpose. You get friends online but you don't have more friends. You get more popular on line but you're not popular. When we used to care about our appearances, our clothes, our social status it was directly related to improving our actual appearance, to attract friends, dates, job interviews.. now we're literally doing all this work for the sake of ... what? the frightening part is the part that is real. That's the part we haven't even begun to measure. We were all so busy playing make believe. We could troll, invent, embellish, no need to watch your words, pick your fights.. but everything has a consequence. That unreal life is bleeding out into the real one we just don't know how yet..

it's like saying, I'm a smoker but I'm aware that is bad for my health. I was one of those people that used Instagram 1 day a week or less and I never thought it would affect me but when I decide to delete my account I felt empty and depressed and I didn't know what to do after a month or so I was happier. Lots of people say that they don't have that obsessive need to use social media but just by talking to them you will notice that they have low self esteeme and are lost but try to hide it

It is amazing what people will do to be social media 'influencers'

I never downloaded any social media app like Instagram Snapchat or tick tok It could cause depression toxic behavior and online bullying.

Why social media ruined her life, and it didn't even ruin it, it made her.

Social media doesn't encourage real communication and engagement. To me that is more important than just gossip and get many likes for a post.

Quite ironically social media is what makes you famous and elevate you to a position you could use to influence other opinions .

Social media makes you anti-social irl. How ironical.

Just finished the audiobook and really enjoyed it. Love the idea of more mindful social media consumption. Thank you Katherine :))

Even by being honest on social media it’s still an attention competition which breeds the same problems: envy and disconnection. Thanks for being honest here though.

I think people need to check their insecurities and start loving themselves and appreciating what they do have as opposed to blaming it on something external, like social media. When I was growing up, it was the same thing. Everyone compared themselves to the models in magazines, TV, and billboards. Along with that came bulimia and anorexia and many more illnesses that feeds of insecurities. There is no difference now except at a much faster rate. We need to look inward and make the change there not outward.

I used to think of myself as a boring person and i hated my life because of social media. Well i still do, but now im trying to get my self out of those mazy thoughts.

She posted the link to this video on Twitter

I have older relatives who are in their late 50's and they are obsessed with social media. I tried to explain to them the negativity of social media and how there's videos on RU-vid explaining why it's negative and they laugh at me. They think social media is harmless and nothing is wrong with spending hours on it. I guess at 40 I'm a last of a dying breed.

I was soooooooooo addicted to social media... Myspace was my vortex. I remember how much time I spent there changing the layout, the colours... Then came Fb, how much time I spent there... I had to update my status constantly. Then came Instagram. I have deleted my Fb account but created one just to join groups in case I need to ask questions. Barely check it. Instagram helped me with my mental health when I stopped following people who served no purpose in my life and started following psychologists. I decided to deactivate the account for a month and it turned into 6. Last week I did it again after probably a month or so. Those of you who still use it: if you are on your computer go have a look at the add on "News Feed Erradicator".

It's how you used it.. If you used it for validation from others.. Acceptance.. Approval and to fit in.. Its bad for you! But if you used it to learn more about people by being observant then it will be goo.. Things will posible if you know how to control your emotions..

okay at the end she is still using social media...basically now it's not the fantasy but personal life with millions.

Worth watching this video three times. Especially the end of her speech. Love it, So real.

If you go to a playground and you get hurt by a ride in that playground, you have the right to sue the owner for that hurt. Social media is for all intents and purposes a modern day playground and the profiting owners of that playground definitely need to be held accountable for all harm caused from now on and in the past.

Solid content, nice work!

Best thing I ever did was delete fb!

Feel like the first several minutes were irrelevant.

Its not what social media can do to us but its what we do with social media. Social media is neutral, it can be used good or bad. We are not what we think, rather, we are what we do with what we think. Good things can be corrupted and bad things can be corrected. SOCIAL is good, its the MEDIA that is bad. Social media favors the market more than man...

After 20yrs. I deleted Fakebook because it is true that one only sees the illusions of an awesome lifestyle. Trying to keep up with it caused me severe mental trauma. Currently use two other platforms. Only use them to post my completed digital art. RU-vid has been a great educational tool.

This made me think different about social media

Just deleted instagram, Facebook, whatsapp yesterday and hoping for best ✨✨

Very nice I had to do an Ted talk assignment on this

I just deleted my Facebook

The bad part of social media for me was looking at my friends and other people have better lives socially. They make plans with each other and I’m just there alone in my room because I have no interests or sports to try.

So good 👏

It's on how you used Social Media. Don't let it control you.

When you don’t air out personal business but folks get offended and always think something is about them that’s the number one downfall of social media but once you start getting followed around 24/7 without consent that’s when all your business gets aired out think about it

This talk needs a lot more views.

I love social medias because They are really my excellent teachers.

I keep social media but only for the sake of texting. Anything else is a waste if your life and mental health

Thank you for this enlightenment

Sometimes social media makes people’s lives rather than ruining it. It totally depends on how you see social media

I instantly close this video after seeing comment saying she is still on social media, bye

I know I'm very humble and always I'm doing is just right things but social media is kicked me out like I ain't socially

Delete your instagram account and trust you'll make the same money, if not more.

The speech of the millennia! I so needed to hear this!

As if this only has 71k views, says a lot. Talks like this need to be seen by everyone old and young. Stay off social media 👍

Here in the future it hasnt stopped and its getting worse. Snapchat, instagram, twitter, youtube, facebook, tik tok, ect.....

AMAZING TALK!

gabby Petito is the perfect example

If you are about to make a business especially online business...just open the social media ( facebook )account and please chose PAGE...not the Personal account....that's all....

I hope humans evolve past this SM faze…fast. I just don’t think it’s cool anymore. Why do I care if all these “acquaintances” know how fabulous or not I am. I definitely have less insecurities now, after deleting SM…I don’t miss it, but it’s funny how isolated I also feel…but in a good way

Can you put a portuguese subtiles?

while his is on instagram

It's also a blind truth

But it pays your mortgage??

I am not afraid to admit this, but I am a RU-vid addict

Great talk. I wondered if there was an audience, they're so lifeless. Probably on their phones! lol

So funny. Ted ex is anti social media, but they want us to follow them on social media🤣🤣🤣

pictures may be 1,000 words, but they don't show everything

So she found the next niche for her influencer career. Using social media to show that she is the champion of not being addicted to social media. SOS.

Everyone has demons now matter how many followers you have, no matter how much money you have.

The why is narcissism.

Interesting London accent.

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Why is she talking about how social media ruins people's lives but then proceeds to still post literally everything on instagram lmao. At least stick to your ideologies. (Coming from someone that stopped using instagram)

Even posting videos on RU-vid can pay your bills no actual hard labor required

Social media made her a good living, she is mentioning bad experiences that happened to everyone...

she's legit on instagram

You hubby did a right thing leaving you .He must be a intelligent man .

I should start a FakeBook account so I can post this for my friends.

I spend all day watching youtube 😛

The old spit in your plate rant, she’s still profiting from social network and Instagram, I guess she’s using ted-ed for advertising purpose?

maybe 0.01 % of World Population know about this threat,. but 99,99% will hold on to this Delusion of Satan.

Hmmmm, yeah I take your point but surely you should just quit. All this posting pics with the bad stuff etc also seems equally to be gaining attention in a twisted way and still profiting from the very thing you are saying is bad..

Okey boomer.

My god, yawn

Lot idolatry going on on fb.

Pppppp

500th video like

5 minutes just talking about herself? Okay

So much talking about fashion while wearing a terrible dress >_

first lol

Awwwww your husband left you?? What a shocker! He’s a smart man

YES!!!! I feel this so much!

The women is so beautiful

Comment posted. Ruination confirmed.

Never grew up with it saw it as useless but now I can tell.

It used to be comparing with the Jones consisted of looking down the street. And you shouldn't do that either. Your path is your path. But now people spend literally hours on the social media sites. Two points: First, you still shouldn't be comparing yourself. For instance, I never opened a physical therapy clinic because, yes, I could have doubled my income but I also would have doubled my hours and would have never been able to take four to six months off traveling the world. And I don't envy the ones who did open a clinic with double my salary. And maybe they didn't want to take six months off and travel the world--to each their own. Second--many of these profiles you peruse through are an illusion. People trying to portray fame and social recognition. For example many of us "influencers" are just regular people, some of us, just trying to help other people. And if I did go big I'd still just be a regular person who would still periodically contract in physical therapy. That's my path--maybe not yours. Point being, not only are there problems with dopamine drop on constantly flipping through social media which leads to anxiety levels raising but it is psychologically destructive. Use the net like this channel to inspire yourself, not compare yourself. Hope this helps someone out there---Charles

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