Why the F*%k Do Men Always Come Back?! | Matthew Hussey 

What’s been your experience with people who just can’t stay away? Let me know in the comments!

"sometimes you have to leave the one you love for someone who loves you."

I’ve been in 4 serious relationships that lasted for more than 2 years. All of them come back, I tell them all “no” because if it was “true love”, they would have never let’d me go to be with someone one else. I only became a priority when they lost me and that’s not how I look at myself. I’m not a place holder. I’m not a last resort.

I know your main target audience consists of women, but as a guy who’s new to the whole love thing, these videos help me understand myself and my own feelings and intentions better. Thank you.

*"Only when you are capable of saying no are you capable of saying yes in the right way."* THIS. THANK YOU.

I've always called this the "toy truck syndrome". It's like a toddler putting down a toy truck because they're no longer interested in it, until they perceive another kid is about to pick it up. We all know how that plays out.

“I forgive, but I also learned a lesson. I won’t hate you, but I’ll never get close enough for you to hurt me again. I can’t let my forgiveness become foolishness.”

Why do I come back? To see my bro's🔥content obviously. 😇

You don't need to care why they come back. Let them live with it. The best man never leaves. ..ever!

6. He just checks in to see, if he has his magic over you and that you still cry your pillow full without him. If he sees, that his magic is fading, and you are kind of getting over, he makes a move to pull you back, and then leaves satisfied, when you're back in the pit.

If a man cannot see my worth the first time, he won’t ever. I know my worth and I don’t prove it, I don’t accept “come backs”

This video couldn't come at a better time than now, I would always take him back again and again, after 3 years of not talking to each other he came back last week, felt so good to tell him to f*ck off and leave me alone this time around, worked so hard to be where I am now, not going to let him ruin it. Thanks for this video Matthew 🙏

If he’s not happy with you and not happy without you, he’s just not happy

3 words I always stick by once a relationship is done is ‘never go back’ being single might not be easy but going back to an old relationship more than likely ends up the same way as before.

Protect yourself at all times ladies.

Took him back after no contact, 5 months later broke up with me again with the same reason. They always say they had it figured out, no, they don't, they can say anything when they want you. Learnt my lesson, no more recycling to me, date new people is better

Amen. The on-again-off-again was my hamster wheel with my last ex. He’s a narcissist and my current bf helped me understand it’s pathological behavior. It’s been wonderful to have the support of a partner who doesn’t play games but tells it to me straight and helps me “heal” from past situations.

There are people who just like to test their charm and they get satisfied whenever they can see they still have a power on you. They are not genuinely trying to make the relationship work, they, as always only care how they feel. They will never leave you in peace but they will never truly be there either. I will not want to waste one more sec on these ones. They are drama seekers fishing for validations through vulnerable souls to be part of their dramatic scripts.

I think even if you get back together, that magic that you initially had has changed dynamically. I’m starting to realize to not let people back in that couldn’t see what they had in the first place, it effects your self esteem whether you want to admit it or not.

Society is full of people who are, to varying degrees, unaware of their constant reenacting childhood trauma. Domination + Obedience.

I'm not a fan of letting people come back if they're the ones that left. It's not my problem someone didn't realize my value when they had me. If you ARE gonna let someone back into your life after discarding you, my advice is to raise the bar 10x higher than it ever was when they were with you the first time. They would have to offer you MORE than what you could have from someone that never hurt you in the first place for it to be worth re-investing. That's AFTER they repair 100% of the harm they did on their way out- which is mandatory. IF they're willing to do all that, without complaining, maaaaybe they're worth a second chance. But they better be prepared to prove it every day for the duration of the relationship. Even then, I'd rather make them have to live with their shitty decisions and find someone better. Or find no one, it doesn't matter that much to me. I'm good on my own until someone shows up that's worth it.

I’ve had several men trying to come back into my life. Men from years to even over a decade ago. It’s so weird.

I can answer this question for you... Men come back to you after they decided you weren't good enough for whatever reason and went after who they did want. He didn't really like you UNTIL he went after someone he wanted and got rejected. Men come back to you to help lick their wounds and give them a little ego boost because you were the girl who looked at them like they were Superman. He still doesn't want you fyi , but it makes him feel better to know someone wants him after the other chicks shot him down and treated him like he wasn't good enough. Its also possible he realized he can't do better and in comparison to the other women, you weren't so bad afterall.

Most of us don't appreciate friends or lovers until they're gone! It's just human nature.

My ex didn't come back but he did come back in texts and we even had a call once. He missed the comfort and probably felt lonely too. He wanted us to go back to being friends and probably wanted us to talk everyday like we used to. But I was thinking no, you don't deserve to talk to me everyday like we used to. You broke up with me and I need to move on. Having him in my life doesn't allow me to move on. If he wanted to be friends then he shouldn't have started a relationship with me in the first place. If we hadn't started something we could have remained friends.

My friends used to tell me men always come back and I never fully understood this until it indeed happened to me! The reasons u mentioned are so accurate

If people really appreciate you, they wouldn't let you go. They just miss access to you that's all!

❖ 5 Reasons Why They Come Back 0:21 1) They're horny and selfish 1:37 2) Single life isn't what it's cracked up to be 3:48 3) It's comfortable 5:15 4) He genuinely misses you 7:44 5) They genuinely want you back for a real relationship ❖ 3 Principles For Letting Someone Come Back 10:13 1) Let them back in slowly 10:27 2) Look for evidence of change 10:51 3) Set a new standard for what you need from them

So bottom line, easiest/safest thing to do is to leave the past in the past, leave closed doors closed. So often we hold onto hope, especially when you're in love with that person. Smh 😔.

Yes, there’s a lot of reasons not to get back together with someone but I have known some couples that have gotten back together and have made their relationship successful so there are some that work.

You nailed it! After many years of back and forth, I finally decided I had had enough of the foolishness. Now after more than 6 years of me calling it quits, he suddenly called me yesterday, and I'm glad that I missed the call, and that I am truly over him.

I'm currently in a situation where I am going back to my ex girlfriend. This video screammeeeedd at me, but I really hope that I'm #5 in this case. I want to prove that I can change and put in the work to do it right this time. I broke up with her because we went into a long distance relationship when I went to college, and I sort of gave up. I had decided that the situation was going to be too hard and wasn't worth it, but after being apart, maybe for all the reasons you listed in this video, I knew it was a mistake. She is so wonderful, like a puzzle piece that fits to me. I hope I can grow and put in the effort she deserves. Thanks for the great content!

I appreciate this message. Thank you. “Only if you are capable of saying no, you are capable of saying yes in the right way”. 🙌🏼

I had to end things with my partner because of this. He doesn't know what he wants, said he feels he's not ready for commitment and wants to go out and enjoy his youth. Its a horrible feeling to not feel wanted or feel like you're enough. I know he has intentions of coming back so I'm working on getting myself to a place where I feel confident that I do not need him, like Matthew said. Because if he does return I want to also be able to say no and value myself enough to hold him to standards of what I need (copying Matthew here as well) if I say yes. Thank you so much for the great advice Mathew I really needed it

Hi Matthew I'm saying this without any negativaty whatsoever. Some men just want the thrill of a chase no matter how much time & patience/chances you give them and some men have narcissist traits and may not change. Genuine men strive on a positive level to make a relationship work with solid foundation without any fear or guilt/blame.

You can't need them. So true. Know your worth people, and when you truly know that, things will fall into place 🥰

Yep. Selfish all the way. Mine happened nearly TWO YEARS later! "I don't want you back, but I miss your friendship." Gag me with a spoon! Email followed by a text. Didn't respond to either and deleted both. Just evidence of his total lack of awareness and completely self-centered nature. Not engaging made it easier to walk away.

My experience is that if they break up with you in the first place they didn't really want you. It's not really a good idea to go back to your ex, because you will feel like you are walking on eggshells and have to appease that person which means you can't even be yourself

Two years on and off with my ex. Two years apart. Then he came back for 3 years and about a month after our 3 yr anniversary he hightailed it out of there. I genuinely believe he was at Number 5 but just hadn’t done the work that was necessary. I’m wiser now and won’t let this happen again. Thankfully my life is full and complete with or without a partner. 🥰.

I think the last point is the most important, not only for taking someone back, but for even starting a relationship at all. If you aren't in a good and stable place yourself you will never have a healthy relationship and a relationship can never be a replacement for living your own live and fullfilling your own dreams. A partner can only be alongside you on your journey, he should never be the goal of it.

They usually only want you back when they know you have moved on whether emotionally or with someone else.

people have respect for yourself and learn to love yourself

I had an ex that ended up helping me out at a tough time just before I had to move from the city back home to family. That, alongside us never having stopped seeing each other post-break up, led to us staying in regular contact when I moved home. He'd call and video chat with me especially when COVID started, I kept up with his daughter, etc. Over time he seemed to pull away, and eventually I started to in response, but we still would call and chat/flirt/talk about seeing each other. He tended to always make the move to call for a long time or to suggest romantic or physical things, and I'd always ask if he was seeing anyone, to which he'd always say no. Eventually it came out he was seeing a new girl though, and the timing was weird considering how often we'd talk. She looked the spitting image of me, and we stopped talking. A few months later he starts chatting again, calling me, flirting, etc. I let it continue for a while but eventually asked how he was able to talk with me, what his status was, etc. Poor fellow tried turning it around and saying he couldn't meet my romantic needs and that we were just having consensual distance romance fun, and kept insisting even after I pointed out I'd not done or expected anything of the sort. After all that, I wrote a long letter (think Friends) getting everything off my chest, sent it to him, and felt like I'd freed myself of all the emotional weight I'd been holding on to. A few months later, amongst a lot of unrelated drama in mutual friend groups, I'd found out he'd moved in with his new girlfriend well before I found out about her, and they'd been living together still when we got back in touch. To this day I don't get why a man would insist on reaching out, sexting, planning with, and getting waxing nostalgic with an ex now living half way around the world, especially when a literal clone was next to him every night. Thinking about it caused me a lot of anxiety and IBS, so eventually I told the gf what had happened over the course of that year, backed with some more milder screenshots of our conversations...not long after I got angry messages from this guy's sister and mom about how I was vengeful and trying to destroy a family. Looking back I'm not sure I'd do what I did again, but it definitely upset me at the time how much flack I got about things that were verifiably true. That's my story of ex's coming back, and also why I've decided to stay single for the next bajillion years. Thanks for coming to my TED talk lol

Energy too! If it was toxic, best way to move on is zero contact (I.e. narcissists). Keeping boundaries and healing the wounds are important- and it’s harder to do if you allow continued contact.

I've been off and on with my partner 5 times already but we kept taking each other back and improve ourselves each time we back together again. Now I'm in a steady and healthier relationship with him for almost 11 years. I guess when you both are truly soulmates you will always find a way to be together and sometimes your soulmate isn't someone who is good for you from the beginning. Soulmates are those who fought for each other no matter how many times they had to experienced defeat.

Can’t agree with this video more. My ex and I went through around 5, or 6 breakups over the course of four years… each time he would show up after 1-2 months and try to get me back, usually all tears and full of regrets. One time he did therapy and another time he pulled out a ring to propose to me (during our breakup period). Each time it caused me a lot of confusion and pain… and just like Matthew said, each time he nipped a new potential relationship of mine right in the bud. And each time he seemed to forget why we didn’t work in the first place. Now looking back, my ex’s motives for trying hard to get me back checked all five points each time. Finally, after four long years, it was me who decided that this pattern should end for good. If I could go back in time, I wish I could break through this loop that’s going nowhere sooner than I did.

I didn’t do anything mentioned in this video when the person got back and paid a high price for that 🤦‍♀️ Rationality over emotions is an absolute must ladies!

Never go backwards if it was meant to be it would have been

It's interesting this is directed at Women, about men, because I've experienced pretty much all of these as a man, coming from women. I've had; 1) An ex who kept trying to come back into my life every time she was in the mood and had nobody else. 2) An ex (wife) who cheated, which is why I left, and wanted me back after he dumped her and left her single. 3) An ex who kept trying to come back because she "missed snuggling" and all the "good guy" stuff I did for her. 4) An ex who left me for 2 years, then wrote me to let me know she missed me and often thought about me. 5) An ex who flat out told me I was the best thing that ever happened to her, and was full of regret over our breakup Bonus) An ex who was so toxic she kept playing games to mentally tear me down long after our relationship ended. While I was weak with a couple, and let them back in to my life for a very short visit, today they are all out of my life and I'm better for it. I had to analyze these relationships and determine the actual reasons they went bad. I had to take my part of the responsibility for those relationship failures, no matter how large or small my part actually was. It always takes 2 to make a relationship work, so ignoring my own failures was not an option. Instead, I tried to learn from them. Not learn what women to avoid, although that naturally happens, but I had to learn about how I could improve as a partner in a relationship. Two of the big ones were learning to communicate my needs (since I'm much more a doer than a receiver) and also to be a better listener. About going back to an ex though? There's one simple thing I discovered. No matter how I felt about these women while we were in the relationship, I've changed with every breakup. Even if a break-up happened last week, I'm no longer the same person I was a week ago. I have been impacted and changed by that life altering situation. Be it through heartache, anger, pain, relief, or any other kind of emotion that reveals itself during a breakup. It will always change you. Because of that the relationship could never be what it once was. This is why, despite failing a couple times, I try very hard to never look back. Let the bitterness fade, the good memories remain, but leave the relationship in the past. Not saying it could never work, going back to an ex, but in my experience your odds are probably less than winning the lotto.

I used to say to friends he must like me he keeps coming back, couldn’t understand it, weeks would go by, then he would want a holiday companion. Eventually in one of the gap times I was fortunate enough to meet someone who did want to share his life properly with me, and after 20 years I have never felt insecure, but with the previous on off relationship I never had a moment of feeling secure and that’s the difference!

Thank you for this! I gave my now boyfriend a second chance, and we are happier than ever. It's good to know I followed the right steps when we were entering this relationship. I can't believe we are together again, but it's for sure made us stronger.

This is the reason why I never let anybody to come back. I'm very emotional person, even when I broke up it's hard to me to move one,to heal. And when I get better I had no reason to go back to that pain. I can talk to them,go on a coffee, explain the reason why I can't let them back, sometimes I can offer friendship,bud it's no way back in emotional way.

My ex and I went through a chaotic breakup. We have both done a ton of work individually and always spent time together as friends. We were able to let go of our resentments and accept responsibility for our actions. People ask me if we would get back together. And no we wouldn't, we had fundamental problems together that aren't going to change. But we do have a wonderful, loving friendship and for both of us, that is all we want from each other. While, it wasn't ever going to work out as a romantic relationship, we have helped each other to individual greater emotional maturity. Whoever becomes my next romantic partner should write him a thank you note.

my ex's all wanted back, or take it all back , I didn't let them back in though, I went through heart break, then picked myself up and slowly started to find myself again, what life and love do I truly want. They kept coming back and back, But my ex husband the last time saw and said wow, you have more friends then me, your so beautiful that other people are now seeing the beautiful person you are. I started feeling good about myself, I had someone said your funny Meryl, I said I am. for me I'm not a lonely person so when they're not around I'm OK, I started taking care of sick animals something I never thought I'd ever do, I found my purpose in life. if I die single and I haven't found the right man to appreciate me as I show appreciate them, thats ok cause I found me again. Happy. My ex husband told me he wished he never left, when he left all I felt was relief, I was being abused mentally and I couldn't figure out how to get out without being physically hurt, so I thought I was given a gift by him, took me 20 years to never hear from him, I didn't talk or answer calls, changed my number, etc. Got a new life in between him, I'm proud of myself for standing strong he left me broke, and needed a surgery. Ladies you can do it even when days go by when you think you can't, You can. It took me all this time years, now I think its time for love in my life, good love and the minute I feel in my gut he's putting me down , even in a cute way their out. time is running out can't waste time. I know what I want like I never knew when I was younger. We all deserve the good love, wait for it.

I’ve gotten back together with ex’s and all the first 4 reasons were likely at play to a greater or lesser extent. Never have I found, or they found that reason 5 is true. Getting back together is a waste of time and keeps you from healing. We broke up for a reason. Sometimes I miss an ex. And then I ask myself if I would ever trust them again. The answer is 99 percent of the time “no”. And that makes it easier to move on.

It’s kind of the same like cheating, if he run away once he will do it again! Maybe not right away, but the option he is capable it’s enough proof not to trust him anymore! Totally avoid these selfish, scared or “don’t know what I want” kind!!!! Btw all of my exes did the same, they broke up but then they wanted to get me back…but not as a girlfriend, just as a lover! Unbelievable they are able to offer this after they broke up with you😳😳😳

How many times does he have to break up with you before you realize that #5 will NEVER happen?

I love this message so much, and love this guy based on several of his videos I've watched. This happens to me CONSTANTLY... There are only 2 guys that have yet to reach out to me like this, but otherwise every single guy I've had any sort of deep relationship with had always come back and contacted me, whether it be weeks, months, or even years later. Many of them are to apologize, and some of them are wanting me back in some way. Even a countless number of male and female friends have done this, after I've cut off contact after they've hurt me in some way. I've had a few contact me decades later looking to apologize and I assume receive some sort of acceptance from me to feel better for what they did. I am tired of being the person who people regret how they treated me. I want people to treat me right to begin with, but it does give some sort of validation to hear that they know what they did was wrong and I didn't deserve it.

Sometimes it’s better to be single live life on your own terms I watched my mother spend the last 5 years of her life being In a marriage she had no business being in. Until a meaningful relationship with a woman happens that’s my plan.

I took him back. We've been together again now a year. And I am 15 weeks pregnant. Unplanned pregnancy but here we are. You'd have to know our whole back story to understand.

Can't come back, I always block them. Gone is gone, bye!

Actions speak louder then words

I never had a guy come back but then I'm the same way so i dont even expect any guy to come back . Once I'm done I'm done for good, I just move on and close that door . I never wanted an ex back . It's never been a thing for me. I don't hold grudges or anything I just don't feel inspired to go back if it didn't work the first time. I lose interest and usually want to meet someone new. I'm usually very transparent and straightforward so maybe they know the door will be shut for good once we are done.

My ex who cheated me and replaced me, use to come back for mental emotional support, as his gf was cheating on him, he use to manipulate me saying emotional and sweet things, like he misses me, he still have feelings for me, he can't live without me, I'm the best girl for him etc etc.. After 5 years i got to know about the reality that he was using me...

Matthew provides the best advice and best presentation style that I have encountered on You Tube. I really appreciate that he gets right to the point and his presentations are total substance, not meandering fluff like most presenters. Also, his advice is powerful wisdom; like in this video. I’m very glad I found his channel and I appreciate his direct, concise, substantive approach.

I think it would be exceedingly rare that someone would come back and GENUINELY want to be with you and give you what you wanted. That would mean that someone would truly have to change and from what I have seen that's not very common. From what I have seen if they keep popping up and contacting you it is a pattern they have developed over years and you are not the only one they are doing this with. They will be contacting multiple women to get whatever it is they are looking for. If they were that self aware and the kind of person willing to grow and change I don't think it would have ended in the first place.

I dated a narcissist who came back claiming his undying love for me , and telling me how much of a jerk he was, and how much he missed me, telling me he loved me and was gonna be different this time. Then not too far into our round three, he was just the same and I knew he was texting and pursuing another woman while he was trying to keep me, probably in case it didn't work out for her. He is now dating that woman. Still trying to build back my self esteem and angry at myself for not being smarter, and taking him back when he was so horrible the first two times.

This is true on so many different levels. Being a man myself, I can see how I fit into the various categories when I was wanting to get my ex back. Earlier, I did not necessarily have such distinct realisations of the reasons which led to my actions. Thanks, Matthew!

When people leave and don't come back they're being selfish, and they're constantly thinking about what they want, until you almost forgotten about them and they try to come back at that point you've meet a better person, no one walks backwards in life, you walk forward you may change direction but you're still going forward.

Thank you so much for making these different types of reasons why they come back much more clearer. I think a guy knows who they want straight away. I feel if they come back they just using you and you are there comfort. So you are not the main squeeze. At all. If you catch feelings for guys that come back let them go. You should choose the guy who is committed to you and wants you to be in his life as a real relationship status not you being just entertainment.

surreal how real this video perfectly explains the most mistakes we make

You are spot on! As soon as I was living my life for me and not needing him, he starts calling and bringing my mail by! It's like he got a signal from outer space "Hey, she don't need you!" I really don't feel any romance towards him but I like talking to him but NOT all the time! He won't leave me alone! I have to have a talk with him. He really hurt me and there is no going back. We'll see what he does after this? I really don't care. Thank you Matthew! I was reading my journal last night when all the break up stuff was going on and how upsetting it was having to move out. It was very hard and I'm not about to pick up all my stuff and move back in for him or anyone! Hell no! I think it's important to write down what is happening in the moment so you can look back and say "oh yeah! I forgot he said this or did that!" It has helped me so much to stay on track! Thank you! You are an Angel from Heaven St. Matthew!❤🙏❤

They’re narcissistics. It’s called hoovering. Freud said narcissists do approach and avoid over and over cause they’re stuck at an infantile stage. It’s a part of stalking.

Yeah, I told him to leave me alone and not even 24 hours was he trying to come back in. Not giving him the chance to destroy me emotionally again

I'm a woman and I was doing the same to my ex ( a man), for almost two years. This was painful to watch, and makes me feel so guilty, but it's so true.

I appreciate the tips at the end as a woman who loves her ex boyfriend but is hurt and skeptical. You're so right. My life must be robust and I strong. Happy with or heaven forbid without him. Thanks Matthew!

> this hits different 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

Don't let nobody spin the block. Only give men one chance with you.

He is back because he got dumped by other girls and he has no one else at this point in time

When you're dealing with a (malignant) narcissist, expect them to hoover you around the 6 months mark, and then in 6 months intervals.

Your the only coach I’ve seen on RU-vid that is spot on and tackles every angle of a possible outcome and what is actually necessary for a relationship to succeed. Most relationship RU-vidrs just focus on getting an ex back without going over the entire situation and the self work it requires to succeed when you get back with someone. Not to mention they charge $400 a Skype session 😂 insane.

I feel like the evidence of change is so crucial if you wanted to take them back. Even just being friends with them.

There's only ONE reason. The ASSETS, whether that's sex, loneliness, validation, etc. It's ALL JUST FOR ASSETS.

You're a Genius!!! Just had a conversation with my ex. This came in a perfect time! Thank you!❤️❤️❤️🤗🤗🤗

I'll be watching this two more times so it's ingrained in my brain, and paying lots of attention this time. Thanks!

I moved on quick, sorry when I’m done I’m done. Exes tried to come back after a yr when I already moved on. Too late.

Thank you so much, this is just what I needed right now. I see this happening in my life and now I know how to deal with it. To not give room for them too quickly, I will try my best to constantly remind myself of it through repeating it to myself, but also forgive myself if it were to happen anyway despite my efforts. All the best to all who's reading this!❤ By the way, we shouldn't forget that it's HARD to do this when you'd really want them back😅 so mistakes will be made, but it's okay because YOU are at least willing to work on yourself and your standards

I got ghosted for 23 days and then he came back saying he love from the bottom of his heart. Like why come back when I already was starting to heal. I don't get men at all.

Why men come back: 1. They’re selfish 2. They’re selfish 3. They’re selfish 4. They’re selfish 5. They’re selfish but maybe realize it and feel bad There, summed it up for ya!

Never go back .. you should always keep going FORWARD!

Newly Single after 15+ years and found this video! Yea going through a divorce and recenlty started testing the dating market, and this video definitely helps add some perspective. The ending only when you are capable of saying no, can you say yes in the right way, just hit me. So good this video! Even for guys, as I know this is for women but some of the points can go both ways.

I find it funny how I go from watching videos to how to get the guy and then to watching videos of what to do after a break up and how I get back again to watching how to get a new guy! It’s a cycle 😂 I must say though that your advice give confidence and they do really work Matthew :)

I'm a woman and this has happened to me more times than I can remember...so over it ...I use to think that it meant something if a guy came back but then I'm ghosted again .. taking me a alot of disappoint to decide no more .I'm not a hooker there for their validation.Im not even paid ...Thankyou for clarifying this as I sometimes dout myself.

With me they never come back. I'm so easily forgotten.

It took me so long and heartache to learn these lessons. When I made a decision to heal myself and show myself love I stopped playing into this toxic cycle of back and forth with exes. Now once I'm done I don't go back and the door is closed. I still wish them the best and want them to eat, just not at my table. 😘

Men don’t usually come back because they care about you. They come back because they want to see if they still can. And that’s why you ignore the hell out of them when they try. Don’t even validate them with a response.😒

You just hit me with this video. I don’t want him anymore cause I know he will break my boundaries and doesn’t respect me.

Funny how you always post videos that relate to what I'm going through lol. I'm definitely #5 I broke up with my ex boyfriend twice and I left him to be with another guy; I was in a really bad place, and I was constantly looking for validation and didn't realize that he's literally everything I need in a partner. He never stopped talking to me even though he knew I left him for someone else. He never acted angry or anything like that, which really confused me. I've recently started talking to him again and we're steadily rebuilding our relationship (we both want to become boyfriend and girlfriend again). At first I was scared because I thought he was hiding resentment for me leaving him, and when he said he wasn't, I didn't understand how he couldn't have been mad. I feel so lucky he even considered talking to me and taking me back. This was one of those "right person wrong time" moments. Now that I've grown a lot (from being single for a while) and reflected, I realize he is the person I want in my life. I never stopped caring about him but I just never understood what was so special about me he just couldn't let me go. But I am working on communicating with him and being open about my feelings, and even though we can't physically see each other right now, I'm proving to him that I trust him and want to be with him through my actions (e.g. texting him first). He's the best boyfriend I've ever had and he never hurt me or betrayed me. He always protected me and took care of me. So I'm excited to share my life again with him 💕

Dear Matthew, i just have to adress this to you and i want to deeply thank you. I just got broken up with 4 weeks ago. My Ex was my dream-woman and she had 2 kids that bonded with me very good. I finally had the feeling of my own family and she gave me so much. But after 2 weeks not seeing each other thanks to covid, she told me she doesn´t love me anymore and broke up with me. It wasnt a bad breakup with some kind of big fight, no yelling, cursing or insulting. Just a very sad goodbye. I was lost the last 4 weeks and i am still in a very dark place. But your videos showed me, how to survive that time and made me feel a lot better. Especially your video about signs that he is serious about you. I was positive to all the points you pointed out. It helped because i think a lot people think, when they get broken up with, it is only their own fault. only i did something wrong. That hits hard, but you showed me that it was not just my fault. Thank you with all my heart. Greetings and blessings from Timo from Germany

First video of yours I just had to stop after a couple of seconds to tell you that your clothes and background choice was amazingly eye pleasing and harmonious. Many colours suit you, like this, but adding the matching background just moved this video up on the pleasure scale. Congrats!👏 And keep up the great work Matthew! I really appreciate people who pay attention to details. Made it look so professional. 😉👌OK, I'm back to watch it now🤣🤣💃