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What’s your friendship satisfaction on a scale form 1 to 10? Dawn explains why hers is a little low right now, while mine is on a very positive trajectory! Thanks to lots of hard work.
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@NickiHorn78 4 дня назад

I live by an old saying “when it comes to friends, I would rather have 4 quarters than 100 pennies”

@AubreyL-35 5 дней назад

I remember my mom saying that in her thirties she felt like her friends had all been stripped away, for one reason or another. She was an incredibly friendly person, so it wasn’t for the lack of trying. She came to realize that God had led her into a season of no close friends so that she had to fully rely on Him for that need to be fulfilled. And over the years He brought close friends into her life. She passed away a couple of years ago, but that story still resonates with me. Just thought I would share for anyone who feels like they have done everything to reach out and be a friend, yet haven’t found their people yet. Keep seeking the Lord and reaching out. And let Him be your friend in the waiting.

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

I think this is beautiful, and helps us to remember that seasons change and the Lord is at the center. Thank you for sharing! 💛

@lydiahiott6164 4 дня назад

Incredibly helpful. Thank you.

@paularuotsalainen8954 4 дня назад

Thank you for sharing this! ❤

@bellaluce7088 4 дня назад

@AubreyL-35 Thank you for your beautiful comment. : - ) ❤ I went through a terribly sad period in my thirties where I also lost a lot of friends, but in retrospect it led me to identifying some harmful patterns from childhood and doing deep healing work that has massively improved my life. It's so helpful to remember that even terribly difficult things can sometimes open the door to blessings. 💖

@GBY301 4 дня назад

Beautiful 😊

@joannafoster3423 2 дня назад

My bestie is fighting stage 4 cancer, only 45 with 3 young kids. While it's hard for me to relate, I can't imagine walking away from her now. The hard times in life is when you'll find who you're most true friends are.

@atwlr7320 5 дней назад

(Second comment, sorry!!) When I moved to Arkansas from Iowa six years ago, none of our neighbors came to say hi and introduce themselves. Fast forward six months to Christmas, and I decided it was the perfect time for ME to go to THEM. It’s not weird if you bring cookies at Christmas! Our Muslim neighbors were so pleased to see us on their doorstep, I thought they were going to cry! Maybe they have experienced prejudice? Our Mexican immigrant neighbors invited us in, and we have been a steady fixture at their kids parties and family celebrations ever since. Our neighbors have been in our home for dinners, the ladies have come with their daughters for craft days, we have carried food back and forth (authentic moroccan food and Mexican food??? All the YES!!! How lucky are we??) Their response tells me how much they value being friends with their neighbors too.

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

More gold, thank you! 🙏💛

@deb9806 4 дня назад

That's so nice. When a young couple moved in next door, (Asian/Indian) they brought close neighbors a candy gift with their names and said they hoped to get to know them better in the future. I miss them so much, he had job change after 4 years.

@tgayer1 4 дня назад

That’s so cool! Well done!

@calissahamilton2692 5 дней назад

I've always said that a true friend is someone who will sit with you through an "ugly cry", be by your bedside if you're in the hospital and give you a ride to the airport. It's a real miracle if it's all three in one person!😄

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

Love this 💛

@Anagrams458 4 дня назад

I have had that friend for forty-six years now. We have had disagreements, hurt feelings etc. but have always been able to get past them and forgive and carry on. The best!

@janetstraw191 4 дня назад

Yes! And SO rare!❤

@tammybozza4703 4 дня назад

I am so lucky to have two of these people in my life. One has been my friend for 52 years (we met when I was three and she was two) and the other has been my friend for 33 years (we met at work)! The best thing is that they have become friends with each other! We have been through marriages, babies,divorces, health scares, EVERYTHING! They live in Massachusetts and I am now in Chicago, but we do our best to talk and do Zooms or FaceTimes. When I had surgery, they flew out here to help take care of me for a weekend! I feel blessed every day that I have TWO best friends! I’m also lucky to have a friend group here who I met through our kids’ swim team. Only one of the kids is still swimming on the team, but we have all stuck together and try to go out as often as we can schedule.

@danarzechula3769 3 дня назад

And bail you out😂

@RaeC 5 дней назад

I have a neighbor that wants to be my “friend “ but from a distance I notice all her friends are free babysitters and house sitters and I don’t want that. So I just stay to myself and enjoy family and my true best friend. I should also say I’m an introvert and I love my alone time.

@lucystrider728 5 дней назад

Good eye-being helpful is one thing, but then there are those that believe sharing means 'you give me yours'.

@deb9806 4 дня назад

Sometimes people do use the other person and I had to wean from them. It's always sad that you are just a sounding board or babysitter.

@danarzechula3769 3 дня назад

❤ I so enjoyed lockdown. For a while anyway😂😂😂

@amandadavis5658 3 дня назад

Such a great statement, Dawn: "Forgiveness doesn't always look like reconciliation". Thank you so much! I needed to hear that.

@sarahko2014 5 дней назад

Dawn, you look so pretty in pink!!💖

@uteme 5 дней назад

Lol...who else are you getting together with, besides me? Spoken like a true sister!! 😂 Love it!

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

Finally the shoe is on the other foot, for the longest time Dawn was the one with all of the friends! Lol. She’s a gem 💛💛💛

@uteme 4 дня назад

@@DianaKokku You both are!!

@ruthmanor70 2 дня назад

I'm 73 and have kept the same 3 friends since 10th grade in high school for all these years. They are truly my treasures in life along with my husband and children. I also made friends with my sister-in-law in 1975 and she and I are still close even though I divorced her husband's brother in 1985. My other most recent friend is my neighbor across the street who moved in about 10 years ago; however, they moved out of the neighborhood two years ago into a bigger house since their family was growing. I still keep in touch with all of them and I am grateful that we are still close friends. My husband and I have mutual friends that we met through his band days back in 1996 and we make dinner dates often with each other throughout the year. Since they live about an hour's drive from us we usually alternate where we get together depending on the weather and what else is going on. I rate my friends satisfaction a definite 10!

@joanneconnor4319 3 дня назад

It was explained to me when I was younger, that if you can count on one hand your true friends, all the rest are acquaintances. I am 60 this year, I also believe it is easier to make friends with parents when your children are small, through school and sport, and that also quite a few people regret moving house when they retire, as they have trouble making friends at that age. Love Jo in Australia xxx

@kakylong2 5 дней назад

The quote is so true, We have friends for a reson, a season & a lifetime. Besides my Hubby & sisters, I have 2 awesome friends that I met in college nearly 40 yrs ago. I have been blessed. 😊

@planningwithnanny326 4 дня назад

LOL moment Dawn, "Who else are you getting together with besides ME?" I heard my two daughters in that so loud and clear! Loved it!

@barbb.7028 4 дня назад

Nobody talks about this topic. Thank you for choosing it. One of my daughters is in her early 30, lives an hour from family, works from home but also has a part time job in the evenings at a cute little shop downtown. It's been so good for her to have this evening job. She gets out of her apartment, does something completely different than her day job and is meeting new people. She has made one or two new friends because of this job. I just came home from a trip out east. Every 3-5 years this group of college friends gets together. We've done this for 43 years. It was such a wonderful 5 days. We all reconnect. We share joys and trial, we go out and do things in the area for 3 days, catch up on each other's lives, cook and eat together, do a LOT of laughing and reminiscing. Even though we live all across the US, this conscious effort has kept us close over the years. Friendship needs to be an effort on both parties.

@daleanddebbysanford2073 4 дня назад

I knew a Pastor's wife that used to take her laundry to a laundromat so she could meet people to minister to.

@missylearned9821 4 дня назад

Love that!

@michelleprice5945 4 дня назад

That's incredible!

@user-ry1vi1jc7o 3 дня назад

Hmm...I wonder if I could get away with just pretending to do laundry...🤫

@cheerfulmouse 4 дня назад

I stepped out on a limb about 2yrs to 18 months ago and finally called someone my best friend. I had never had anyone nearly as close, raising kids, being there for one another, praying, playdates, so much life lived!! Then a year ago, after me hosting them for maybe a week in my house (they had moved) I was ghosted. It took me a while to figure it out, because generally she would get back with me in a season where she could. I started to just comment on FB posts a few times a month with encouragement. Then just a like or ❤. But now it's just plainly ghosting. I never would've expected this from someone who was that close. Totally relate to closure is a luxury 😊

@vero1mart 2 дня назад

Sadly, it happens. 😢

@cheerfulmouse 2 дня назад

@@vero1mart 🥹

@sarahko2014 5 дней назад

I was having a rare day of feeling lonely...even though I have lots of friends, I'm not deeply connected to many...had some tears today, actually. Your topic is timely for me!👍 Thanks for always sharing your cheerfulness & meaningful perspectives, Diana!💯✨️

@jackieo2403 4 дня назад

This is an example of having lots of friends but still lonely. Just having a big number is not the answer. Hope your feeling better...

@ramonalofgren5552 4 дня назад

I am having one of those days too. Hugs girl!

@sarahko2014 4 дня назад

@@jackieo2403 Thanks for your well-wishes, Jackie. It helped to tell my husband about it when he finished work at the end of the day... You're right, having many friends is not the cure for loneliness. Only Jesus can satisfy our hearts, and I think we'll always struggle with loneliness on this side of heaven...part of the brokenness of this sin-cursed world.🌎 I do think God wants me to be a friend to everyone I cross paths with...everyone needs someone to care about them.♡ Usually it's fun and I've experienced many blessings by reaching out to others around me. But sometimes I get burnt out, too. Everyone needs a few friends who will understand & care for them.🌿 Anyway, I'm blessed and I know I'm just walking through a little valley. Thankful for my Good Shepherd Who leads me to green pastures & still waters and Who restores my soul!🙌

@sarahko2014 4 дня назад

@@jackieo2403 Thanks for your well-wishes, Jackie...it helped to tell my husband about it when he got home from work at the end of the day... I agree that having many friends isn't the cure for loneliness...only Jesus can satisfy our hearts. I think loneliness will be a continual struggle for us here on this side of heaven...part of living in a broken, sin-cursed world. I do think God wants me to be a friend to everyone who crosses my path...so many people need someone to care about them. But I also get tired and wish for a friend who understands & cares for me...🙃 (I have many...just don't get to connect with them as often as I'd like to.) Anyway, I know I'm blessed and that it's just a little valley to walk through again...thankful for my Good Shepherd Who leads me to greener pastures & still waters and Who restores my soul.🌿🙌💜

@tammyblankenship6786 5 дней назад

My very best friend is like a sister to me. God definitely put us together 33 years ago. She is my prayer warrior and has been there for me every step of the way from the birth of my children to the death of my Dad. I was there for her in the death of her parents and 2 of her husbands that passed away. I love that woman as a sister in Christ. Our husbands are good friends as well.

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

Such a gift!! 💛

@stevemaul 5 дней назад

I have a very small circle of close friends, but they are enough and always there for me.

@GoFishOffice День назад

I've have lost relationships with friends, but also in each season I've gained new ones too. Some of the hardest was when I lost long time friends about a year ago because of my choice of finally leaving a very abusive situation. They were stuck thinking marriage should be for life no matter what. I cried, that was hard to lose them... But also I have new beautiful friends right now also. Just gotta remember there will always be changes in life and it all can be for good and for a time. Loved this video ❤

@shellyjay8954 4 дня назад

My score is 1. Past 5 years retired and taking care of stroke disabled husband has isolated me. I have nice acquaintances at church but limited interaction. I have nice Facebook friends too. I need a nearby pop-in go for a coffee or a walk friend. I’m sad.

@raechelbrennan6012 4 дня назад

Being a caregiver is so isolating…🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

@amyb3724 4 дня назад

Shelly, I sent up a prayer for you. It is so hard to feel isolated. ❤

@patsyclunk5683 День назад

Praying for you.

@amandaray1500 22 часа назад

My heart breaks for you. Diana’s Bible study group is a great opportunity to connect with other woman that are in your very same situation. You are not alone!

@jamiekillian4965 5 дней назад

Love ya both! I have a recent new friend and I'm still reluctant sometimes about letting people in..... when you get older, good friends are hard to come by ❤. You said it right that sometimes people come to us because they need us. I've found though, that brings me comfort.

@nancycerreta5629 3 дня назад

If I had a 'dream' friend right now she would be someone who would like to explore a healthy lifestyle and not boss or criticize me. Lord send her my way.

@MikeyDonna 5 дней назад

I have the opposite problem. I don’t want close friends. I’m an introvert. When an acquaintance starts getting too personal, wants to get together a lot, talk on phone, typical activities you would think most people would enjoy, I get very uncomfortable. I love being a homemaker, tending my many houseplants, etc but not very social. I am very content walking, swimming, shopping alone. I don’t like phone chit chat. I do relish my church and my interaction with them each Sunday and one of them I consider a good friend. We go out for lunch a couple times a month and I enjoy it but I am so relieved to get back home again. I am very happy and seem to attract people who want to be friends but I cut them off at the pass.

@bethluksha9728 4 дня назад

I relate to everything here ❤️

@karryhuston1321 4 дня назад

Me too.

@wendymassey9963 4 дня назад

Same! It’s so peaceful just being with me…and my husband. Our kids are grown and I am just fine without all the outside noise!

@brg2743 4 дня назад

You do you. Finding a true friend is a gem.

@jackieo2403 4 дня назад

I feel so sen by this comment. I think it is important to know what kind of "friendships" you want/need. I don't think it's a certain number, at least not to me. I'm not really on social media so I don't see people I know "having more friends than me" or whatever. I'm a happy, well adjusted contented person. But according to some articles and "studies" I must be dying of loneliness. Could not be further from the truth .. Know yourself, and truly listen to your heart to know if you more friends. Wanting more friends is different.

@hopejstone 5 дней назад

FRIENDSHIP DATING | As a single woman this conversation sounds exactly like my dating life haha Where do you meet someone? How do you equip yourself to be open to making connection? How to navigate breaking things off if it's not a good fit. Find confidence, don't put too much pressure on things, and allow rejection to be a clear "not for me." VOLUNTEER | That's my best recommendation for meeting people. Find a causes you love - volunteer for local running races, home building organizations, thrift stores, hospitals... This puts you in proximity to people in similar heart postures or schedules. ALSO | Be open to friends in other phases of life.

@deb9806 4 дня назад

My sister was just open, talked to everyone in stores, volunteer jobs, etc. but was very careful. She met her next husband at a BBQ at a family friend. He was widowed 5 years and it was very old fashioned courtship for a year and then marriage. My other sister didn't marry again but she met a very old boyfriend from her twenties in an ice cream shop she went in and was thinking she shouldn't, and he hadn't changed that much. They dated for 2 years and didn't have as much in common but keep in touch and go out on occasion.

@leanichols6824 4 дня назад

Diana & Dawn, this is a great topic. I am a caregiver and basically homebound. I rarely leave my loved one so other than my close neighbors I don't meet many people. Fortunately my next door neighbor and I have become friends, are both caregivers, both women of faith and have similar values. We both help each other out in different ways whenever we can. Before I became a caregiver we lived in a very active community. We played pool, I volunteered, I walked everyday and met many people through the quilts I make (they made them too), went out to eat with friends. Then literally overnight I became a caregiver and every little thing changed. I no longer walk, or do any of the things we used to do together. I've always been very outgoing and the first to strike up a conversation and am never at a loss for words. But these days I'm so busy I just don't even get much time to chat with others. I recently ran to the grocery store (my next door neighbor checked in on my loved on.) On the way out of the store a lady commented on my hair. We both have long, curly hair. We talked for probably a 1/2 hour in the parking lot. We exchanged numbers. She is a Christian and it appears we have a lot in common. When we left we said we'd get together for coffee or lunch. Later I wondered how on earth I could do that. I can't. Maybe she'd come to my home for tea or a smoothie, but maybe she wouldn't be comfortable with that. I don't know. Many years ago I used to walk with my dog every morning for 1 1/2 hours. We passed a lady walking her new puppy. We'd talk for a few minutes and move on. We saw each other almost every day. Then one day we stopped to talk for at least 1/2 hour, probably longer. Our dogs loved each other. So we decided to walk everyday together (except for Sundays) and these walks were 1 1/2 hours. We were never at a loss for words. We power walked. We had play dates with our dogs. We introduced our husbands who hit it off. Then we'd go to each other's homes for get togethers/meals or go out to eat. Her husband used to laugh at how we never ran out of things to talk about. She was one of the kindest, thoughtful, sweet people I've ever known. When my dog died her and I cried together.

@tgayer1 4 дня назад

Sorry for what you’re going through. 💕

@rickgonzalez1218 2 дня назад

Deb here. I do not know if your town has this but there is a program where someone comes and relieves the caregiver to allow them to have some "me" time.

@deedsh6280 5 дней назад

Excellent topic, and one I think was embarassing for many of us to admit, especially those for whom friends came 'easy' at earlier seasons of life. I will agree that you take on a dog as a major lifetime commentment, but I recently lost my dog of 12 years. And wasn't ready to get a new one so I noted how natural it was when walking him to get smiles, or 'nice dog' or other seemingly simple interactions. When I was walking alone, those dropped by more than half. They are indeed an entry point for connection. There are others tips that can help get us out of isolation, so I'm glad you're taking this topic on. Thank you.

@Ayverie4 3 дня назад

Similarly to having a dog, there are many features one could have that serve as a "conversation starter" in public. You could be pregnant or disabled, or dye your hair a funky color. Or wear interesting clothes. Some people, even their gait may be comment-worthy. If you want to be interesting, make yourself interesting. 🙃

@deb9806 5 дней назад

I found sadly as my kids got older, the friends I had with their friends parents waned. Maybe we didn't have as much in common or maybe they took different paths and we had less in common but it was noticeable as the years went on. I miss some of them.

@lynettestream2131 4 дня назад

I am experiencing this. I know life happens and sometimes we go in different directions. It's hard not to wonder if I did something to annoy them or did we just drift apart?

@deb9806 4 дня назад

@@lynettestream2131 yes I feel the same, except for one where I think I could’ve been a better friend when she was going through a divorce although it changed the whole dynamic of our friendship and the kids, etc. She found a new group of friends at work who knew her new husband and it was just different and although we chat a couple of times on Facebook a year I could’ve been more supportive. The other friends I have no idea, sometimes they are for a season

@pattiharrison1211 5 дней назад

Wow, that was a great video on a tricky subject. You both converse so well together and come across so, I don’t know, so.. honest and never insulting to each other…. Just so much on the same page, and make these awkward conversations very doable and normal, lol Great job 🙂 For two people who are so young, your insight and reflections are very good, not just on this video, but all your videos….. Thanks for sharing.

@beesknees213 День назад

I met my best friend in 1992. After. I met her she and my mother were in a community meeting. When my mother found out where she lived Mom said you should meet my daughter. When my bf asked "what is your daughters name" turns out we had connected a few weeks prior. I'm also still friends with my college choir mate. We met when we were 18. We will be 70 this year. We talk every couple of weeks or so.

@akdupay1 5 дней назад

I have to say that as a people pleaser, sometimes friendships become overwhelming. When they are one sided & I personally can only cheer them on so much. They ask for advice & dump alllll their burdens during each conversation. I tend to pull away, and often times it is unintentional. Those are the hard ones & unfortunately I’ve had to end them.

@dianasimplifies 5 дней назад

Yesssss

@Soo_Blessed 5 дней назад

Givers have to have boundaries because takers don't. To be a Christian doesn't mean you can never say no You can't always fix everything for everyone Sometimes your job is to pray for the person and move on because you have a family too Sometimes our job is to plant the seed only God will intervene We are not God We cannot save the world I was given advice long ago about learning to say no for my own health I felt like as a Christian I could never say no I could not turn down anything especially when people say well we have no help Sometimes neglecting my own family and my own mental health We are servants here But God does not intend for us to neglect our families He does not intend for us to make ourselves ill by never learning to say no Our job is not to take on burdens for all Humanity that's God's job

@workinprogress-ye5or 4 дня назад

I had a friend like that in my teens, she'd call and dump for half an hour and then I'd get "how are you?" and she'd have to go. She'd tell my mom I bought such nice gifts, thoughtful but she didn't seem too. I think some people just don't learn give and take

@lizzabbott 18 часов назад

Sadly , this is where I am rn. Annnd … the person is toxic. Oooof …. Prayers welcome !

@racheleldred8346 5 дней назад

I relate to Dawn on this one. Friendship can be heartbreaking when things don’t work out (for whatever reason).. makes me hesitant to want to try again, but I’m extroverted and feel I need a local friend. Ugh. 😅

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

Solidarity sister 💛💛💛

@deb9806 4 дня назад

I will keep praying for all of us.

@lizzabbott 18 часов назад

I’m relating to Dawn here, too. Better days ahead when we’re ready !

@leahstaska2515 5 дней назад

Words cannot express how hopeful I am that someone i have developed trust in is actually talking about this topic. THANK YOU. And to Dawn. Thanks for letting me know i am not alone in a hard relationship situation. And the book recommendation too.. Blessings to each of you today. And again, I can see that we shop at the same places. One of these days I am going to smile at you in person!

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

Always come up and say hi!! And thank you for this sweet encouragement 💛

@lenettasmith-murray2145 5 дней назад

I'm not a friend person since my best friend passed away years ago. I'm hard to get close to and Susie was my bestie since 7 th grade. I have a friend, but all I do is listen to her problems and dysfunctional family issues, so I kinda stay away unless she catches me on the phone. She lives 2 hours away. Friends are hard as adults.

@SassySue67 5 дней назад

At 68 I don’t have any friends, never really did.

@teresadakin5090 3 дня назад

Very timely for me in a number of ways. A summer of connection is what I pray for, not just for me but my husband & kids who each have their own challenges to face. I'm ready to help them move forward with this xx 🙏

@joanncase 5 дней назад

I appreciate, Diana, that you are going to speak for those people that just need a friendship right now because they are going through hard things. I feel in the last 15-20 years people have jumped on this band wagon of dumping what they are labeling ‘toxic friendships’. I agree that there are toxic people, but I also think people are using it as an excuse not to have to deal with tough spots in relationships. Just like in marriage, sometimes you have to work hard and work through tough spots. People are too quick to label something toxic and end relationships.

@user-ry1vi1jc7o 3 дня назад

I think we have to be able to differentiate between toxic/narcissistic people and people who are just hurting. If we aren't patient and loving toward people who are hurting, who will be? Who will draw those people in who are afraid to try again? Who will be tender toward them if not us? To me, the thing that Identifies a narcissist is that they will show signs of having contempt for you (unfortunately, that tends to come after some time). Another red flag is feeling you have to explain yourself over "misunderstandings", which often leads to feeling like you're having to walk on eggshells. With people like that, exit stage right ASAP.

@lisawilson7889 18 часов назад

I think I’m at a 7 or 8 with my friends right now. For the longest time, my closest friends were from high school (and I’m 65), but I was blessed to find a great church community 20 years ago, and have made great friends there. Since they’re church friends, I see them often at worship, choir rehearsal, etc. also 8 years ago we moved into our forever home, and lucked into a wonderful community. My hubby has guy friends here, and the women have formed a book club! I even have a neighbor friend who could be my sister! I am blessed!

@diymomma5247 5 дней назад

Love what you do, thank you for your sound and relatable wisdom! Currently praying for Godly friendships for our kids as well! 💕 Be blessed! 😊

@tracil7493 2 дня назад

Sometimes we have to take a moment and think about what friendship looks like. It can vary depending on the stage of life we are in. A friend of mine lives three states away, we were the closest of friends in college. Now we feel fortunate to catch up through messaging when we can. While another friend and I like to go for walks, but she lives 3 miles away. I cherish all my friends, however, proximity does make a big difference in what we are able to do together.

@tracil7493 2 дня назад

And Dawn and Diane, you both are inspiring in so many ways, how lucky are we to feel your friendship and kindred spirits helping so many women! Thank you!

@shawnanorman2998 4 дня назад

Every time I’ve prayed for a wonderful, godly friends-God provided. I’ve homeschooled 4 kids now ages 17,19,21,23… I spend so much time with my kids that I realized I was spending no time with old friends. My husband was a pastor for years so all the moves. We’ve been here 10 years and we started teaching couples class 3 years ago (I’m 53) and I started doing a text group with girls every week of prayer requests, what’s going on, coffee plans-it’s wonderful! We see each other in class each Sunday and I text each week and everyone joins in-I had to initiate it but now we all do coffee and socials. It’s never too late. I have friends of “20-25” years as well, but these girls all are going through raising teens/young adults moving out. It’s a blessing! 💕 pray and initiate! They were total strangers 3 years ago!

@jackieo2403 4 дня назад

Lonely and isolation are two different conditions. Easy to mix them up in our heads and hearts. But a bunch of "friends" isn't always the answer to either. Good topic and a lot to unpack.

@meganwyngarden4705 2 дня назад

Oh this has been my struggle. I have been putting myself out there over and over with no reciprocation. And then social media- that comparison trap- makes you feel like everyone is getting together all around you. My husband and I have been praying for community and have joined small groups etc and still haven’t felt truly connected. I believe that God has us in this season for a reason and I am leaning into Him and spending more time in my Bible than ever before. Maybe He just wants me to realize that no earthly friendship is going to fill my hole and need for connection like He does! Ps- Dawn, if you lived in Michigan, we would be the best of friends. Love your channel and I speak about decluttering and simple living to everyone I meet

@beckyray8746 5 дней назад

As an older empty nester (no longer have the kids friends parents around, no longer involved in the volunteer programs at school, the church we go to is large so no chance to get close there…) it becomes a challenge! Where we had “couple friends” from years and years ago, divorce by a couple of them tore that apart. I lost my very best soul friend to cancer. One of the most hurtful sceneries was when we introduced our best friend couple to another couple….we all did things together for a while until they must have decided they’d rather do things by themselves. Then my husband developed a health issue and we barely hear from them any longer. Yes, we both still have friends, good friends……, but it’s not the same as when you are at your stage of life. Hold your friendships and treasure them. It may take effort during a busy time of life, but someday the kids will be grown and gone and no one wants to be alone.

@SueN1965 5 дней назад

I had plenty of friends growing up, but now probably just have acquaintances. I'm pretty sure it's intentional because I feel friendships, these days, come with conditions. They are almost as much work as a marriage. What I find is that when kids are involved, there's that instant connection. Without kids, friends seem to be more needy. My good friends are the ones that I may not talk to for months, or even longer, and we pick up like we just saw each other yesterday. I can't be friends with someone that keeps track - they'll say, you never call, or, I haven't seen you in over a week. Just looking for unconditional friendships, which are so hard to find.

@deb9806 4 дня назад

I find at 60, acquaintances will have to do. Maybe I'll meet a friend but most my age are very settled already, introverts (I'm leaning that way) or don't want to spend the energy to retell their life. I'm blessed that although I lost some friends when I married a man of a different race ( so odd to think today) I met an old friend in lamaze class and a wonderful woman at my condo when our kids were the same age. We stayed close for over 10 years. I wont mourn it because it was a gift from God and a season of good memories.

@andreasupermommy 5 дней назад

Great video! Can’t wait for the course!

@LindaSnow-hw4hv 4 дня назад

Oh Dawn! That sounds so hard! I’m so sorry for your loss of a friend.

@glendahutchins9758 5 дней назад

Thank you!!! This is sooo great. I need this.

@susanalexander2916 4 дня назад

The circle of friends I still have and treasure - were made when our kiddos were 2-3. Neighbors, church, school etc. our kids are all in their late thirties and early forties. Have families. We’ve had triumphs, and sorrows, both for ourselves and our children. We’ve buried parents and supported each other through the caring for stages when they were elderly. Now in our sixties- we talk, text, catch up co finally. Some of us have even moved. We know how blessed we are and state that daily.

@klassik_rl 5 дней назад

I needed this, it was so good♥️

@luannfischer747 5 дней назад

Sometimes we are abandoned by a person so we learn to 'take it to Jesus' for the healing

@sharonnickerson2391 5 дней назад

love you guys!!! ❤❤

@susannefitzpatrick9955 5 дней назад

At every point in my life where I've needed support, no-one has ever been there for me even though I'm always there for them. A friend of 20+ years just cut me off without a word; another friend of 30+ didn't contact me again when I left the organisation we both worked for - and even my ex of 5 years who I'd supported in every way abandoned me the day after my parent died. So I don't want any more 'friends' in my life - if I've got to do life alone I will do so - and when the phone rings asking me for help, I'm now 'busy' (permanently)!

@tnchristian6819 4 дня назад

@susannefitzpatrick9955 I feel you!!! I could write a book, but no one would believe it. 😂 The last 2 - 3 years have been a total nightmare. The level of betrayal from multiple friends and family has been through the roof. I just keep praying for the Lord to send me one good (true) friend, but only when the time is right. I simply don’t want the stress of it anymore! I pray He sends you a true friend also when the time is right!🙏🏻

@theresahanson-rf4id 3 дня назад

Thank you for this conversation

@mariaturpin8827 5 дней назад

I admire your honesty ❤

@user-qg1de2hb8h 2 дня назад

I was told many years ago by a colleague that you will have many acquaintances in life but only a few true friends. I am 60 years old and I am finding that is true.

@SS-cj3mu 5 дней назад

Amazing video hit right in the heart!! Thank you!!

@susankultys7745 5 дней назад

OH MY GOODNESS!!!!!! Fantastic video!!!! I soooo much needed this❤️ God bless both of you and your families ❤️

@conniesoares157 5 дней назад

Great topic gals!

@beloved7908 4 дня назад

Bless you, Dawn. I am with you on the friendship letdown. I still feel whiplash from 2 close relationships that knocked me for a loop. Admittedly, I'm super guarded now.

@francescooper3578 4 дня назад

I’ve always said I only have acquaintances except my husband who was my best friend. When my husband passed there was a difference even in those acquaintances. But God has put a friend in my life who was one of those acquaintances as her husband passed 3 weeks before mine passed. So we have something in common and understanding as no one else understands what we are going through.

@caitlinallison6109 3 дня назад

Thank you for talking about friendship breakups. Needed this ❤️

@Jodie29687 3 дня назад

Great topic ! 👍🏼 every one of us can relate to the struggles of friendships.

@marinaking2431 5 дней назад

Thanks for making this video! It's helping me think through my friendships And how I want to be intentional with them.

@jlee3269 5 дней назад

This is so helpful and encouraging, God bless my favorite twins🥰🙏👍

@aram4516 4 дня назад

I love you two! You are both so real and this is refreshing to me. I can relate to Dawn and you both have so much wisdom! This was so helpful. XOXO

@atwlr7320 5 дней назад

I moved to Iowa from Arkansas six years ago, not knowing a soul but my husband. I prayed that God would give me friends like I was leaving behind in Arkansas… and He did. The absolute most wonderful friends! I have brought them home with me to Arkansas to meet my family (who love them as much as I do!), my Arkansas friends come to Iowa and now they are friends each other, we’ve traveled together to be with one another. It sounds so elementary… but to make a friend, you have to BE a friend. YOU call people, YOU organize get-togethers, YOU remember birthdays, and the friends will come. People out there are yearning for friendships just like we are! I have a motto and everybody knows it… You can totally sit at our table!

@DianaKokku 4 дня назад

This is all so wonderful, thank you for sharing! 💛

@bessmay5353 4 дня назад

My dad always said that to us. He also always said make a plan and work your plan.😊

@mammacass5311 4 дня назад

I am that person sometimes but I get weary of always being the one to reach out and if I don’t nobody does. I’m so lonely and I don’t think anyone would even notice if I disappeared

@intherockies 4 дня назад

@@mammacass5311 They absolutely would notice! Everyone is in different seasons of their life. We all have roles during those seasons. Some of them may be going through hard things, or just worrying about their kids, their minds might not be able to focus on calling others. It sounds like you are the person who reaches out to remind others to be in the moment and to just visit and talk. It may be weary for you at times but God knows you are the perfect person for that role. Ask Him for strength and He will provide 🙏

@intherockies 4 дня назад

On another note, if you can volunteer with something you enjoy, you will meet more friends.

@crystalkrause1916 3 дня назад

I'm LOVING all the recent videos in general, but especially the videos pairing up with Dawn. Keep on keeping on with positivity, spiritual messages, and friendly sister banter/comedy. ❤❤❤

@kfeedy5569 5 дней назад

I’m at a 8 score. I have 2 close friends but my best friend is my cousin who lives in Canada and I’m in CT so we don’t see each other maybe every 5 years but we talk EVERYDAY. We’re seeing eachother for 2 weeks this summer so we’re so excited.

@mmmmlllljohn 4 дня назад

You two are such a blessing and so relatable. I enjoy your videos and they always leave me feeling uplifted and smiling … “we walk the kids” lol! May God bless you both and may your channels grow exponentially! ❤️🇨🇦🙏

@liztefft5312 2 дня назад

Thank you for your prayers ❤.

@FrannyNan 4 дня назад

Dawn, you look like you are glowing today. So pretty in pink! 🌸

@colleen6921 4 дня назад

Your blessing is you’ll always have each other. 🥰🥰

@carolynwaggoner212 4 дня назад

I love when you end with prayer and your prayers Diana! Dawn I love your thoughts the things you comment! And I love your hair!

@laurenm.6320 2 дня назад

I have three long-term super close friends with whom I can share everything and speak to them very regularly and know we would do anything for one another. Two of them I speak with daily and have been friends for 20 years. We met through our husbands. One has been a newer friend of just the past three years. We met at a park with our kids. ❤

@lauramccollum5686 5 дней назад

I have been truly blessed with wonderful friends. I don’t need to see them all the time at this stage of life. We don’t see each other often, but I know we love each other. I think expectations influence our sense of satisfaction with most everything in life. I enjoy your videos together so much!

@melodylewis1354 5 дней назад

I have very few true friends. Most are acquaintances. I’m okay with that because most people are mean. Jesus is my best friend so I’m glad

@mrsstrople 2 дня назад

I don't think most people are mean.. sorry you think that of those you know. Keep trying

@noreenperez8666 5 дней назад

I am trusting god, to bring me a good friend.

@evatoon984 2 дня назад

I was just thinking, 😮Diana n Dawn should write a friendship book and then you started about the course!!! I’m thrilled🎉👏🏼👏🏼😊🙏🏼 prayers for the course ❤❤❤

@jukes243 5 дней назад

My closest friends live in different states (we write, email, send cards). Here, I have a few acquaintances, really good neighbors, plus my church family. That's enough for me (for now). I do, however, look forward to heaven where we will be one big happy family forever!

@CarolBlair-ni1df 5 дней назад

Moving four times in four different states. I only can talk on the phone. It been hard this last time. You have to make history with new people. It’s difficult the older you get. I love to meet people. I think I’m at a 2 as far as friendship. I appreciate you both. 💕

@michelleprice5945 4 дня назад

I have a best friend that I walk with every morning before work at 5:45, it's great, we chat catch up and we are busy so we don't need to ever go out to dinner, and we help each other out with dog sitting and house sitting. ❤️

@TheAtWhatCostBlog 5 дней назад

Making adult friends is so hard! But, long distance friends has never been easier. I’m at a solid 7 on the friend’s scale.

@luciareynolds4201 5 дней назад

I may be 4 hours away Dawn, but I am always just a text away. 😉

@terristewart6119 4 дня назад

Great topic-great video! Dawn- I loved the questions- what good do I take away & what do I want to leave behind. I had a close friend who was as close as a sister-I thought we would have a lifetime friendship. We worked in ministry together as well as other things. Things changed & I began feeling like an employee instead of friend. It really crushed me. So I think these questions are very helpful & healing thoughts to journal on. Thank you! Love you both & refer your channels to many.

@lindarivera584 3 дня назад

I became my husband's caretaker and it's basically just us we have no other family and live in a small town very rural. Friends have kids and other family and have come and gone .others seem to gravitate towards me like I'm available for them and there needs. I wish should I say i pray G od would send someone to be a friend just have coffee conversation . Im crying just thinking how alone I feel thanks great video

@janicehoffman5771 2 дня назад

a couple of years ago, a friend from high school lost her husband. she reached out to me and suggested that we get together. We decided to invite our other close high school friends. we have lost one of our group so glad we decided to get together once a year. We are in different towns. we gab for a couple of hours, go for lunch and gab a couple more hours and than go our own way.

@juliekonigskind6434 3 дня назад

What an important topic! We just recently moved here and I started asking God for new friends. Slowly I see first closer connections to develop and I am so thankful for the provision. Also: very important to ask myself "what kind of friend do I need and what kind of friend can I be at the moment. What is my time and energy commitment, I can pour into a friendship?"

@vikieierdam5516 5 дней назад

I have 5 friends that I met between 7th-10th grade and I'm 56. All of them had children and only one of them lives locally so there have been seasons of ebb and flow but I am so thankful for this foundation of friends. I've also gained friends over the years from jobs, church, neighborhood. Some stay and some go. That used to be hard but I realized if I assumed good will (not everyone will be in your life forever for SO MANY reasons), it's easier to appreciate the time we were able to know each other.

@stacysmith1138 3 дня назад

I have acquaintances but no real good friends anymore. The good friends I had have all moved so far away and life has just gotten in the way of staying connected.

@CalledAndBlessed 5 дней назад

My Mom, my oldest daughter and my cousin (who is 3 months younger than I am) are my friends (and my husband of course!)

@jwarnstarsmile 4 дня назад

I have 3 different groups of 3-4 friends. I am grateful for them all. ❤

@lynnwarren6127 3 дня назад

My best friend and I met in 2nd grade, 55 years ago. We’ve had a great friendship and for the last 5-6 years have carved out time for a girls weekend once a year. We talk most every day and get together for lunch once or twice a month

@donettemorgan4703 4 дня назад

My marriage is on the rocks 😢 if it wasn’t for my Amazing friends this would be a LOT harder

@atwlr7320 5 дней назад

(So sorry, I keep commenting! 😂) I have the most dear friend that I met when I moved from across the country… but when we first met we had the wrong impressions of one another! Open your heart to friendships with all sorts of people!

@emily-zv7fs 3 дня назад

It's really hard to be a good friend and have your efforts come back void, especially when it happens repeatedly. I wasn't sure why I had so much trouble fitting in where we have lived for the last decade, but the Lord has led us to a new city for a neat new opportunity and had we been connected where we were, it may not have ended up being the season of preparation that we were needing. We have a few lovely friends that we will stay in touch with, but if we had more community, I don't think our eyes would have been open for the new opportunity. Keep taking these things to the Lord. He knows your needs.

@suemiller3405 5 дней назад

The best friend I ever had was an instant best friend. We met in our mid-20s. I moved away after a couple years, but it was a friendship that we could pick up at any time. I moved back and she helped me through a divorce and I helped her through end of life. Unfortunately, we were 39 when she died. I'm still in touch with her mother who just turned 100. I'm finally settled in one place; I have young friends at work -- closest one to my age is 20 years younger; others are the age of my grandson! I'm looking forward to figuring out how to make more friends here. I stay in touch with lots of people from lots of places since I was a wanderer.

@cheerfulmouse 4 дня назад

I think I'm at a 3. The season before now was really rough & isolating. Even though I was still able to develop some awesome work/friend relationships. The season I'm in now is a transition out of the previous one, and there's a lot of people I knew from before, that I really love and it takes time to build those bonds back ❤!

@peggybinkley7870 3 дня назад

We are about to retire in a yr or less. We purchased a couple lots in a campground on the lake. We just purchased in feb we have met so many new people in hopes we can develop some close relationships. Our house is only 15 min from the campground which is also very convenient. We are love the getaway.

@cherylchastain1962 4 дня назад

I think I am going to make a friend map/diagram and categorize my friends. I'm 76 and very outgoing so I do have alot of friends. I am a good friend with a listening ear for others. I am amazed how God has put specific people in my life for different purposes. I am involved in church groups, a volunteer job, helping neighbors, and in hobby groups. Sometimes I feel that I can't make new friends at this point in my life for lack of time and energy but God still puts new people in my life and this is a bonus. Like Dawn, I have been hurt when some I thought were the best of friends moved on and out of my life. I have to remember that we all have seasons that we go in and out of and some friends do not come with us. Thank you for this video.