A lot of people’s biggest fear is dying alone but mine is more “living alone”. When I die I want to be able to say that I’m in a relationship just like yours. I want to be so in love that I forget everything else.
Don’t assume that’s always the way it is, everyone struggles with their partner, it’s natural to not have a good day everyday. For ppl to watch RU-vid and assume couples have a fairytale happy loving life always, is just ignorant..
@@ams1877 oops I forgot to respond to your comment lol. Basically what I mean is that I want to live a life full of meaningful relationships. I want to feel like I always have a group of people I can turn to if I need help. “Living alone” for me, would be if I lived my entire life feeling alone and hopeless. With nobody I could turn to.
This makes me feel so encouraged. I’m a senior in HS and my boyfriend is 19, and we’ve been together for 4 ish years. We have had a lot of people say we won’t last, and our plan to get married soon after I graduate is crazy, but they don’t understand that I’ve been waiting to marry this guy since the day I met him. Y’all are a couple I strongly look up to. Love y’all!
that was exactly my problem! we dated for 4 years in high school. we figured we would get married after we graduate college, but we decided to get married early! just got married last week at 18 and 20:) don’t listen to the haters! it’s a relationship, not a group project 💗💗
Similar boat, my fiancé and I are high school sweethearts but we’ve been together 2 1/2 years, I’m 20 and she’s 19. We’re getting married next year. Don’t listen to the people who say you’re crazy because we knew when we dated for less than 2 years we wanted to marry each other, when you know you know. It’s your life, your story, your relationship. Live it to the best it can be👍 hope everything works out for you two!
I was engaged at 19 too - mid-30s now and glad we married young and had our kids young. Especially with my mom dying unexpectedly, I was so glad my mom got to experience my wedding and have a relationship with my kids before she passed.
I find you two very relatable, I’m 20 and my fiancé is 19. We are getting married next year, we’ve been together just over two and a half years. Love your videos and pray for continuing joy and health in your relationship. You guys are awesome!
My husband and I got married young and have our 5th anniversary this Friday! (Got married at 19&23) it was the best thing for us!! We have two kids now! Age 2 and 4 months! It’s tough some times but like Abby said it’s the best to grow up and grow old together!! ♥️ marriage is WORK whenever you get married!! Doesn’t matter if you’re 19 or 35 it’s combining someone else’s life with yours and caring about someone else’s needs 24/7 is a lot! Love you guys!!
I love how relatable you guys are I got married at 21 and I still have people asking me why I got married young but honestly it was the best decision ever
10:53 I really love this advice from Matt. You should do self care but you can still do it while being in a relationship you know. If they are the right one then that relationship will definitely help you a lot
I am 20 years old and so is my husband. We got married when we were both 19 (just recently hit 1 year of marriage). I love that we got married so young. We get to grow and learn adulthood together. Build our lives together. It’s awesome. And as far as rings go, we literally paid less than $100 for both of my rings. Total. It’s the symbolism not the cost. The only thing I requested was that it was nice enough that it wouldn’t turn my finger green lol. We currently live with my in laws because we are fortunate enough that they are letting us live with them for free while we save up to buy a house one day. And that’s ok. That might not work for some people, but everyone is different and you need to just do what is right for you.
I got married at 18 for a lot of similar reasons! When you know, you know! I don't see a reason to wait when you have a confirmation that you have found the one!
You guys don’t need to explain why you got married young. You guys are perfect for each other. My husband and I got married last month and we see you guys as role models. We are cheering for you guys :)
My fiancé and I got engaged back in March. We’re both young (I’ll be 19 when we get married in November and he’s 21.) We’ve been together for almost four years now and we are so excited! All this to say - I never cared all that much about a ring. I told him that if he spent more than 200 dollars on my engagement ring I’d be upset. 😅 We bought each other super affordable rings from Modern Gents Co!! My ring looks SO gorgeous and real but only cost $50.00!!! We completely recommend for those who simply can’t afford an expensive ring yet but want the look of a diamond. Anyways - thanks for making this video!
One of the reasons I enjoy watching your videos is because I agree with almost everything you say! It's so true that it is counter cultural to put one's marriage ahead of one's career path, but I think that marriage should be the priority!
Im single at 30, and I envy you guys so so so much!! You did the best thing one can do! Get married young, face the hard times with someone not alone, don’t follow the selfish word….have lots of kids while young!
Your relationship reminds me of ours with my boyfriend. I'm the Abby he needs and he's my Matthew James 🧡 love and soulmates exist and always find us when we least expect it.
I got married to my now husband when I was 22 and he was 22. To me if you do want to get married young it’s almost a blessing because I have friends who are now in their 30s and 40s always complaining about dating and they are so unhappy about their relationship status and I’m over here having been with my husband for 12 years and have 3 kids. We have stayed together through the roughest of times and come out with a deeper understanding of each other. Commitment, honesty, support, communication, loyalty and love. If you have those all other things can be worked through with God.
You two have so much fun together, and it is so much fun to watch! You are yin and yang! Its heartwarming and you two each have golden personalities. Thanks for sharing your life with us!
I started dating my husband when I was 17 and he was 18. We got engaged at 19/20 and then married at 20/21. We've been married 13 years now and I wouldn't change a thing! We're still best friends. We got to grow up together and we'll get to grow old together. And my ring only cost $700 😉
I don’t know if you guys realize this but before the 2000’s people got married that young all the time.... my mom was 18 when she got married, dad was 19, all they’re siblings (my aunts and uncles) got married around that age as well
Your story remind me of my wife and I. We were HS sweethearts. We the same age when we got engaged. When we got married I was 21 she was 20. We've now been together 40 yrs as a couple married 34 yrs.
You know what, Those people I know right now who got engaged at a young age. I think the most important thing is that you guys are happy that’s all that matters
I got married at 19 too! We’ve been married just over 3 years!! There were many harsh comments made about us getting married young but defy the haters!! My husband is such an amazing Man and I love my life!!! ❤️
Im late to this video, but I love this because I also got married young (my husband was 21 and I was 2 weeks away from being 20) and we have been married 6 1/2 years now and going strong with 2 sons ❤ love the videos you guys are so cute!
I didn't marry young but I did marry my highschool sweetheart. We've been together almost 14 years and married almost 4. Never strayed, still best friends, and more in love everyday. ❤❤❤
I had a relationship like this when I was 21 and it lasted till I was 26 . . Not a day that goes by that I miss it! Take my advice!. Listen to one another, respect each others opinion, and if you can try to spend a few half a day apart every so ofthen then do it to protect it. It's rare to find. God bless
You guys are the cutest!! We also got married at 19 and 20 and going strong 17yrs later🤩 Sidenote: I yawn a lot when my iron gets low . Your yawning reminds me to take my iron pills😅
Part 2 pls!!! I have a question too. I got married at 19. And my parents hate my husband even though they've known him for more than 10 years. I know you guys don't have that problem. But what would you do if your parents disapproved your choise? Love your videos💜
I love this because I got engaged at 18 (am still 18) and my fiancé is my best friend. We can’t wait to be married but it’s not what society says we should do and being able to learn from a couple who made a similar decision is so cool to me :)
I’m really curious to know .. At what point did you guys planned to save yourselves ‘till marriage? .. was it an idea of you before you even met or was a mutual decision after you got into a relationship ? Because I really think it’s so sweet ..🤍🥰
I was 18 when I got engaged, and 19 when we got married. 11 years, and 2 kids later, he is still my best friend. ❤ When you get married young, you get to experience so many firsts together, it helps draw you closer. We had lots of judgment too, but when you know, you know. 🙂
@@MattandAbby I'm originally from Springfield but live in Florida now. Miss it sometimes but then remember it gets cold during the winter. 😀😃😄 Hope you guys are enjoying Hawaii. I lived there for a year when I was in the Navy.
@@oliviapatton7265 I'm from Springfield but grew up going to St Louis often to watch games. Die-hard Cardinals fan though. We're a dog channel if your interested though. And as always, Go Cardinals, I watch every game on MLB TV from down here in Florida.
i hate the cultural idea that getting married young will ruin your dreams career wise when in some cases getting married young is the dream and career comes second
It's such a beautiful thing to watch people meet their person, some people wait a lifetime to experience that kind of love and it's so wonderful when you have a honor of meeting them sooner and knowing that you want to spend the rest of your life. Love you guys and your story, keep doing what you are doing ❤️😘
With every sunrise is a new day! Early morning when unnecessary voices are quiet. Do just one thing no matter how hard it seems just do this.... Find very cold water submerge your whole body in it. it can be your shower, your bath, a close lake, river, ocean or stream. Just feel the cold and revive your body feel feel feel. You are worth it... you are strong... if you do nothing else please just this everyday for a week... then month... then twice a day if needed. THEN....At night laying in the dark when your mind wont sleep... just remember its ok... breathe three deep breathes and know without the dark we cant shine. Just like the earth we need cold to rejuvenate and like a star we need dark to shine.
My boyfriend that I've been with for almost 5 years just went to college. This is my last year of high school and it's been really hard because we are long distance. I love you guys and you both make me feel better about it ❤. I still think it's crazy that we've been together since we were 13!
i've been in the same boat before sis and you got this!! it's hard being apart sometimes but it only makes your bond stronger! in just a week i'll be at the same college as him so let me tell you it really pays off :)
I was almost 21 and my husband was 23 when we got married, so not quite as young as you guys but still young. We just had our 9th anniversary!! You grow so much as a couple and you learn how to deal with what life throws at you.
Whats so interesting about them when they first met Abby was so into Matt and now it seems like Matt is more into Abby lol. I just love their relationship. Matt is hubby goals for sure :).
My husband and I have separate bank accounts. Mainly because we always just didn't get to it. We've been together for 14 years and married for 5. And we're happy. We still share money. We still both pay bills, food when going out, groceries... it's not like we're super "my money is my money. Yours is yours."
I’ve heard of couples doing it that way and it goes seamlessly! I think it’s good you commented so others realize it can work too, just gotta communicate!
Exactly! I'm in charge of all the bill and things so he just sends me what I need. But it works out so much better. I trust him on not spending too much money on things and vice versa.
Husband and I were engaged at 19 and married at 20. Now 14 years married (18 years together),three kids later, and moved twice. We had up and downs but us being young and growing up/older together has cause us to have a very close relationship. I would trade all the memories we had made ❤️. I wish y’all the same!
You said work as you’re going through college so my genuine question is do your parents still help you get through college? Or is it like once you get married you’re on your own?
I met my boyfriend when we were in high school 2011 and it's been almost 11 years together I love how you guys are so honest and real in your videos my new favorite youtubers !!!
I can totally relate to your long distance story. But the worst part in my story is that we both live in same town just 15 minutes far from each other houses and yet expirience long distance relationship because of our community. Our community does not allow love marriages and i miss him so bad. Its been months that I have seen his face. I miss him every second and I hope our community allow us to get married.
