Why We Left BuzzFeed | Kitchen & Jorn 

Rightttt

I heard they're limited to collaborating with only buzzfeed channels

I wish they were allowed to name names... who are the problematic executives? How can fans ask for accountability if they have no clue who is responsible. What can you do? Glad they got out...

safia nygard (probably spelt it wrong) was the biggest red flag .

I stg if Shane and Ryan leave-- I don't know what I'll do

Whom*

I also liked the unsolved mysteries channel.

@@rhpinkpop96 "that" also works.

@@keptins doesn't matter.

facts

Or the "I can't be racist! I know like, 3 black people!" types of people.

@@jess1033919 “Im not racist my cousins daughters friends dog is black”

this is literally all their videos trying to be "woke"

I'm not homophobic guys!! my uncle's hamster is pan!!!!!!!!

"Oh you're left handed? My cousin's best friend is left handed too!"

same

It is kind of sad if you think about it though. That the goal in life is to just find a job that doesn't seem like it suck. That just being happy for the majority of your day and working with friends if the attractive part of a job.

So true

foreal! I just saw a job I wanted to go for but these videos remind me of the truth behind the brand

I used to think the exact same thing, but if you go back now and watch videos as they’re walking thru offices or work stations most people there look absolutely miserable until they realize the camera is around. Some don’t even care then.

Hell, even actual family members that say "We're family" before asking something of you are ones to watch out for.

Yes, a 'family', until the top feels that you do not contribute enough to their finances.

💯

Mhhmm

Exactly. It’s toxic manipulation.

its exactly like scientology lol

Add Disney too :P

like that show escaping polygamy

buzzfeed is internet scientology.

And, oddly, some of the fan-made FB groups turn into weird cults, too.

❤️

Good job!!

so sweet

Proud of you ❤

I was in a toxic job environment for all of about 38 days.. because of these videos and people sharing their stories I was able to flag my irritability and anxiety right away. Got fired from that job - but honestly? I feel so much relief because if I had continued that position, I would've definitely been fatigued.

It's brilliant because they're voicing so much of what makes working for media and entertainment so problematic

Ik bc that's a common problem everyone says

I rarely watch Buzzfeed videos but I remember hearing about them being overworked a lot a while back while they were about to fall. I remember they used to get plenty of views and just right now when I searched them up right now they barely had views.

It makes sense, looking at how many videos they made a day/week. Some were more in depth while others weren't, but it still takes time to shoot and edit.

Oooft I perhaps needed to read this more than I realised thank you! Xoxo

Wow, you are so right!

Legit screenshot this

this comment was SO eye opening to me. wow thank you

I left a TOXIC job because it became exactly that, a daily STRUGGLE..I would get panic attacks on Sundays just thinking of the week ahead...your comment encapsulates 100% what work SHOULDN'T BE

Seems very much the treadmill scenario. I say that watching a fair few of these ‘why I left buzzfeed’ they seem too restricted with creativity and pushed too hard.

starbucks lol

Thank you for telling your stories about company culture. I experienced similar mental turned into physical situations with the industry I was in. I now make half the money doing what some people may think is a menial job but I'm happier ! You ladies live your best lives. Xoxo

A lot of companies that throw out words like "driven," "creative," "team-oriented," "fun," etc., are looking for idealistic people to exploit.

@@thepresence365 exactly. we are machines to break

So true!! All emotions are valid. It's ok to be in pain.

💯

I totally agree I don't know what I was watching but I had made a comment that included some traumatic things that I endured in my past and it's left me a little messed up and I now have professional help as well as medication to help deal with this and I told my story and people were like well went through this you know and mine was worse so basically your story or what you been through wasn't that bad so stop making a big deal out of it I'm like it's not a competition I wasn't saying my situation was worse than yours I'm just saying what I went through was traumatic for me and that person's situation I felt bad for him I told them I said I'm sorry you went through that but I'm not making a competition out of traumatic events for people on this comment thread. I wish people could just be kind to others it would solve so much in the world

I love this saying! I was going through the worst thing a parent can go through this last year and my friends would be too afraid to vent to me because "their problems weren't as big as mine" and that's not what friendship is. Just because your not going through as awful of a time doesn't mean it isn't awful, it doesn't mean your not stressed.

This is something I wish everyone knows

I remember my friend being laughed at by his boss when asking for health insurance during his annual review at an architecture firm. I also got a laugh when interviewing with an architecture firm in NYC when I asked "does your office have a healthcare plan?"

Unfortunately we incur costs elsewhere. Dental, eye care, mental and physical therapy. It's better here for sure, but it's far from perfect.

Oh, and if we switch jobs, there is usually a 90 day period before the new insurance begins.

@@dufgirl that makes sense cause people totally control when they get sick *sarcasm*

My friend and I plan to move to Canada when we graduate. Free healthcare, no politics. What could be better than that?

🤭

When HR needs HR....

as an HR major and professional, it has to be batshit horrible for us to leave:(

@@IKKI264 😭

@@IKKI264 💀💀😭 that is why I quit my hr job

Yup

that's some emotional manipulation shit right here

I remember feeling this.

I dont know if you watch wisecrack, but they did a video about the "dark side" of Michael Scott that talks about this. Also yeah, my shittiest jobs had that mentality lol

THE MEME

My partner, who works in a completely different industry works for a company that is very similar in that ‘we don’t care about out employees’ attitude for him, it’s awful to watch and go through with him.

I felt this quote so hard.

Honestly, the same can be said for any retail company ever.

Lush is another company that relies heavily on this kind of dynamic

Sounds like a few horse trainers I know. I watch one woman get fired because she wanted to go to her mother's funeral.

yep their stories describe EXACTLY how my dad feels working at this company he despises. It's literally jeopardizing his mental and physical health yet he feels obligated to stay in that damn job :(

As a person who works for a corporation this hit me hard because I tried to take a two week mental health break and was told I couldn't because it was right next to a "peak time" for my job. I was able to get five days but literally had a mental breakdown during that "peak time". Thankfully we got a new hr person but it's still a constant struggle

Not just America. Corporate in general. Sadly.

@@ebonybelt6050 "human resouces management" is really just a way to make people a source of extraction. I think this company was exploiting its workers' guilt over 'other people are suffering', and that's horrible, because that's not their fault (that's unchecked capitalism's fault, same as caused their suffering) 'I'm so privileged because I could be suffering more' is such a manipulative and American coulture thing. You take for granted that you could be suffering immensely and your fellow citizens are. Even things that Europeans think are basic dignities, like having a work-life-balance and paid built-in holidays and paid sick-leaves. Someone here defended 'recognizing your privilege' and I agree it's important to mention occasionally but at the same time I see here on this video guilt for complaining about their own needs. Which is not the same as recognising privilege. It's guilt-tripping yourself like your boss guilt-tripped you. I think Buzzfeed is exploiting 'diverse' employees psychologically in that way, that 'little kids looking up to you, because you give them representation that's so important' and that makes you not want to leave, among other things, even if you're treated like shit, and not like a human.

Working @ Disneyland

What's agoraphobia?

@@reoij Agoraphobia is the "fear of places and situations that might cause panic, helplessness, or embarrassment." "Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder that often develops after one or more panic attacks."

@@reoij In laymen's terms it causes you to be terrified to leave your home.

Yes that is really disturbing, I had severe panic attacks that led to agoraphobia and I almost lost my job and relationships but I didn't even care because I didn't want to be alive most days. IT IS HELL. I wish so much love, light, recovery, joy, and peace to anyone going through panic disorder or severe anxiety.

Sound like my ex wife.

Its more a 21st century 'liberal' corporate culture

This hit too hard lol

@@mrs_chin yeah, I had a gf and a bf like that in high school. They’re like the human version of a tick

@@mrs_chin indeed, we can just say partner i suppose

Anyone can leave a job it’s more of “being able to quit your job comfortably is a privilege” too much miscommunication

Isn't that a really toxic way to frame it though, honestly? Yeah other's might not be in that position so I have to feel bad when I leave a toxic enviroment? What is that achieving? It just builts up this constant guilt for people that try to better their lives or will even prevent people from changing their lives for the better to avoid the guilt. Either way safe road towards depression. Extremely unhealthy.

@@annnoying5513 just because they said something is a privilege doesn’t mean you have to feel bad about it. No one is asking you or expecting you to feel bad because you can comfortably quit your job. It’s just true that it’s a privilege for someone to be able to quit their job.

@@annnoying5513 Givin me “I don’t have white privilege! I grew up poor!” vibes

@@annnoying5513 The problem is that the statement is true. Not everyone has the ability to leave their jobs. People need healthcare, shelter, food, etc for themselves and their families. People need money to survive, and if your job is your only way to receive the money you need, quitting it is not always feasible, and is oftentimes nearly impossible to do and still survive. But it's the very fact that this statement is true that makes it so easy to be used in a toxic way. It sounds right, so it can easily be used as a form of manipulation to keep people in bad situations. This manipulation isn't always blatant. It can be planted with small seeds over a long period of time and can be very hard to catch. This type of toxic mindset is used far too often in many different ways. It is an extremely easy form of manipulation. Easy enough that people don't always realize when they are using it, whether against others or themselves. The thing about this toxic mindset, however, is that it is based on false logic. One person's pain is not invalidated by the pain of others. Pain is not a competition. Even if it were (which it isn't, but just for argument's sake) there are far to many variables to make any comparison between people's pain logically sound. An accurate comparison simply can't be made. So, as you said, a person should never feel bad for trying to better their situation if they have the means to do so. The fact that others may have it worse is never reason to willingly keep yourself in a toxic situation. It can just be very hard to realize that when you have been manipulated to believe otherwise.

In our society sadly thats reality. 😔 You gotta push all of the bad aside because you got mouths to feed or bills to pay. Not many people have the gumption or energy to look for other work and get mental state under control. Were all working to die-

That's capitalism for ya

Yup 👍🏽 work culture is toxic as hell.

Well if people call greenpace once they saw you at the beach maybe you should #free the whales

@@BrittanyIttany gender study didnt pay off, weird

Exactly!

This is such an important thing to remember (and actually live by). Before the pandemic, I would start driving to work at 6:30, sometimes as early as 6:15. I live half and hour away from my job and my contracted hours don't start until 8 a.m. It was killing me. Working from home was honestly a life saver and has helped me realized that I was slowly twisting myself into someone who wasn't myself just for my job. But I was convinced that [because I don't have kids, because I don't have family nearby, because I'm not ill, because I love my job], I could just keep going and going and going. I still haven't taken a day off since July. Hopefully that's something I'll be able to do after the holidays.

@Christina Thank you! Alot of people needed to hear this. Thank you, Genuienly. You helped my day.

I am 30 and I just learned this lesson. It's SO true. ❤️

I had to get in the mindset that someone else’s struggle does not devalue my struggle. Everyone has a different threshold and if it’s too much for me then it’s too much. I also had to get out the habit of comparing current me to old me who could handle all the shit.

"Most adults working lives" .... Reality in any form of that is upsetting. 2k in a coastal state vs a Midwest or western state... It's a huge difference

i think its CRAZY how little they paid you, i thought buzzfeed creators made so much money

Mine too.

Mine too

Lol ive never had 2k in my account. Thats most peoples adult experience.

They love each other so much

The thought that getting health insurance by the employer is supposed to be a “bonus” sounds really scary now that I think about it. It’s never crossed my mind before, how dependent it can make the employee, when beside everything else they have to consider before quitting they have to even think about how to stay insured without the company.

The only reason I stayed at my previous job was because I couldn’t afford to lose my healthcare. Paying for healthcare through your employer is a trap to keep you working hard for them.

What also bothers me is that opportunities for career advancement/promotions/etc should also be a bare minimum. And health and happiness! We live in one of the wealthiest countries in the world and people in what would be considered like middle class-level jobs are being told the message that they should be grateful for SURVIVING.

It’s so strange for me as a Swede to hear people saying that they needed to stay just to get health insurance. It just sounds so sad and unfair. Obviously people have bad jobs in Sweden as well that they/we stay at for far too long but never because of health insurance... I love free healthcare even more now.

The level of guilt you feel even now on this shows how much they drilled it into you

Pretty much all major companies have hundreds or thousands of people who have quit and have a huge list of justifiable reasons why. Buzzfeed just happens to get the most visibility cause it’s a company full of media people, video producers, and people with fans and platforms

@@okthanks4792 yeah

me too. (this is off topic but when I saw your profile pic it made me happy cuz Matthias.)

@@daphodill101flower2 hahhaha yessss

Also because as they said, “it’s a privilege to be able to quit my job”

I was literally just about to say this!!!!

Whats gaslighting? ( i genuinely dont know)

@@yowhazup9928 it’s when someone manipulates a person by making them question their thoughts/memories/ the events that take place around them. Like making you question/doubt your own version of reality

@@yowhazup9928 it’s a way of manipulating people I think. Like if someone threw something at you and when you tried to confront them about it, they denied it and made you feel crazy for it, does that make sense?

@Laressa Winters & Strawberry shortcake, oOo thank you guys 💞

that's EXACTLY what it was

Yes...I've gone through that a few times at a few different jobs. I'm 44, and I've actually managed to never get fired or laid off, so it's always uncomfortable when there's a "cutting of losses."

Been there.done that. I'd never been fired in the 15+ years I'd been in the workforce...then almost my entire department at a major insurace co. was terminated including me! And I cut my maternity leave short to try to keep my job! I had a 2 yr old and a 6 week old and I went into a deep depression.

@@MsVorpalBlade not even close.

@@toriward3800 still not survivors guilt. I'm sorry that happened to you.

At 25:05 when Jen starts talking about how she felt she was becoming a bad person, I FELT that so deeply. I was on the path towards adopting my two children after so many struggles and yet because of my job I just kept feeling more resentful, bitter, and self-loathing. A bad work environment totally changes how you feel on the inside and it eventually shows on the outside. 😢

Yeah, i only ever watched one episode of ladylike, and it was the greek episode. I had to click away because she was clearly not having a good time at all and it hurt to watch.

I agree, I feel like the Ladylike crew should have left all together like the TryGuys when Saf left, I think Saf left before all hell got lose, and she's got a crazy successful channel. I'm glad Jen and Kristen have started a channel together, and they're back to being their happy bubbly selves. Now we just need to have an ex-Ladylike collab!

Honestly I even noticed it in this video while Kristen kept interrupting her. And when Kristen spent most of the time talking I noticed Jen seems very uncomfortable.

Anyone remember the video where she refurbished a knife? That was the moment for me

I found Buzzfeed through Ladylike and Try Guys, and they were the only channel I'd watch. I still love The Try Guys and Ladylike, and I hope that all of them will continue to thrive.

I still watch unsolved 🤓

SAME

I hope a ladylike reunion happens!

Same

I’m sure that their travel and places they stayed during the empty suitcase show were out of pocket. FUCK BUZZFEED

Yeah I was thinking that too... or she was living outside her means?

@@ConcreteAngelx3 how out of ones means does someone have to live to have 2k as a grown adult. Come on

@@MsAstroBanan that's a really ignorant and unnecessary judgment.

@@ConcreteAngelx3 If you're not partnered up or splitting rent/mortgage, I honestly don't know how people can survive. The rent is too damn high. The tax is too damn high. I save up 1/4th of my check for safety net. My boyfriend on the other hand can't afford to after all the Bill's are split and usually breaks even.

So true!! I dont want my job to be my family. My family is my family and i never have time to see them because if this BS job

I worked in a care home with this ethos, you have to help by covering shifts and it's selfish not to. People there were encouraged to pay for the owners presents for Christmas anniversaries and birthdays considering the fact we only got minimum wage and had to pay for our own uniforms. You were nearly forced to come in sick it was a insidious place I will never work for a company that claims a family atmosphere.

This is, unfortunately, so true..

It is very sad. I just got let go from a company that has this family mantra, but it paid me, a warehouse employee, the same minimum wage as a cashier but I'm doing 10x the amount of physical work. And my supervisor said that the wages hadn't changed in the ten years he was there for the same warehouse position! "Families helping families' my ass, I cant even afford to feed my own family with this minimum wage packhorse job!

Facts!!!!!!!!!

I’m sorry you had to go through that

i just quit my job this morning =((

Debra Mitchell thanks for being brave to share that. 😭it can be an isolating experience. you are not alone. Praying you’re able to work thru the trauma. Hugs.

I'm so sorry you had to go through this and I can relate so well. It's horrible how people want you to work for them, treat you like crap and expect you to be happy the whole time.

I'm so sorry to hear that. I'm going through that right now and it's the worst. This video made me feel some solidarity for sure though. You will get through this and hopefully I will too! 🧡❤💙

you’re so strong

@@ErenYeager-qb1gd aww thank you so much🥺

Wow! I could never. That is very impressive. You are very strong and you should be proud of yourself! Have a great day!

@@bulldogswinston3417 awww you are so sweet! Thank you🥰🥺

Aww I’m sorry :( I hope you’re doing better now 💕 sending lots of love!

It really was. I started cracking up too!

THIS!

They'll probably get sued for the name being too similar

@@permafrost0979 true and I don’t think I wanna visit a site that has their name

call it feedbuzz

Cool concept but the problem is the fact its a company and big corp don't care about your feelings. No ethical consumption under capitalism and all that.

FREDDIEEEEE she mah fav

This!

They have some RU-vid videos together (pre Christmas)!

It’s the untitled lady show!

@Leona Morrissey how comes

I had been looking for a new job prior to leaving a job I hated , too many broken promises. Anyways after 3 years I ended up saying f*it and actually got a part time job paid all my credit cards and left, went to a random country and ended up falling in love and now I'm happily married

Ok you must have had funds saved up in order to do this right? (Both commenters)

@@blueskies773 I'm leaving a job without another lined up NEXT WEEK, and Indy it was a decade in the making financially. I paid off all of my considerable credit card debt while basically running a marathon for corporate America. I have about three months bills saved up AND am privileged enough to be living rent free already as I moved in with parents mid-pandemic. FYI I'm 35 and could afford to live on my own, so living rent free gives me a ton of financial flexibility. Not sure what others experience is, but it did take a lot of planning and some luck to make quitting a toxic job without another 9-5 lined up possible.

I did the same. We were near penniless and I had to go. I cried to my husband every day of my job. And I found an amazing job after that. 💕

This!!! I want to quit so badddd because I’m miserable.... but my bills need to be paid so I feel stuck lol...

Also I really hope you get to do your own empty suitcase bc I really really loved it ❤️

You are 100% right. In America, this experience is unfortunately really common. So many companies expect our entire lives, expect our whole identity to be our jobs, and give us little to nothing for it. I've never heard someone say they are at a company because leadership or the values they espouse--it's always either for the people or the money.

YES

Holy shit y'all are incredibly ungrateful for what our history has given us. I'm lucky, as a nurse, I get to give my life and get paid well for it. Y'all are lazy and have no idea how good you have it. Try a labor camp in North Korea... Get a grip.

@@saraherget5089 shut up

SAME

Riding the same boat

Saaaaame!!!

Samee...oh my goodness lol

Same?!? They are my favorite so how did I miss this?!?

AND all the try guys!!!

@@arielyounger1513 really???

@@emmaanderson4732 yes???? did u miss that whole thing??

@@emmaanderson4732 years ago. They have their own company now.

@@allisonmb1930 I had no idea! I immediately wondered about their situation as I watched this video...I feel relieved that they are independent now.

@@crt1848 I live by a soldiers home and the same thing happened there so many preventable deaths took place due to no one taking the right Precautions and it took people calling to talk to their family and not being allowed to for people to realize something was up it was sick and I’m sorry you have to work in a place like that you should really say something but I understand if you don’t because times are hard and losing a job makes it so much harder. Stay strong❤️

I just learned this exact thing recently at a job. They said they were "family" and that "you either fit in or you don't"... I learned quickly that it was a "family" I want NO part of!! 🙅👎🚫

Omg my work also does the family thing and I can tell, family has major favorism 😂

So many big company’s are like this, for a huge example, the post office.

I work for a government agency and when i tell you i want to jump out the window after every meeting! The minute you start talking about what the real issues are you are ostracised and accused of backstabbing and partaking in office politics. I stopped smiling in the meetings and i was told i was not a team player despite having high production levels

All the former Buzzfeed creators that go off on their own are happier and healthier and their content is SO MUCH BETTER than it ever was on Buzzfeed.

So is Disney World :). I don't want to take attention away from their story. It is 100% terrible. Just speaking from my own experiences.

@@ashleydickson7874 Yep. I used to work there and it was not pleasant...happiest place on earth except for the workers LOL

it's really hypocritical how buzzfeed was obsessed with the news of ellen being abusive to her staff when there are dozens of YT videos of former buzzfeed employees sharing the same sentiments. it never sat right with me.

I have a question is lady like working with buzzed? Are they the same?

THIS! Yess!

I wish all people thought this way 🙏🌹

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK 💜💜

Exactly, thank you :D

I have a photo of her and I in Disney. I’m kicking myself, she had seemed so off! I wish I had asked if she was alright, I thought she was a bit upset at being recognized ):

the same thing happened to me

Perhaps a wave a thumbs up and a smile as a hello is best regarding anxious folks and keep walking like the wave and reassuring you go girl thumbs up smile is enough 🤷‍♀️

I'm sorry. I was not really a human for like two years. It got so hard. I'm better now --kitchen

@@kitchenandjorn I LOVE YOU IM SO HAPPY YOU ARE DOING BETTER THERES NO NEED TO BE SORRY 💞💞💞

I just heard her say that literally as I read it😂😂, but yes, it’s very true

Lol. White privilege. Must be terrible.

@@geminixx523 Not a white privilege necessarily. More of a financial/class privilege. Having enough savings to fall back on or having another job opportunity lined up are both privileges that not everyone has.

I agree! Oh how I wish I could but I definitely think it’s time for me to look for new opportunities else where and even that is a privilege in its self

@@HeyGuysItsDeath I think she meant it both ways though. Not all POC have the same opportunities or privileges as a white person in America. Something as minimal as having an ethnic name can get someone’s resume or application thrown in the trash (I say this cause I’ve seen it happen at previous companies I’ve worked for)

It is indeed! No shame at enjoying Buzzfeed content (I mean, most of the people working there are so talented and I myself enjoy it too), but you gave it the most accurate label.

This. They farm out the videos to the producers. And they don't care how those people are DOING. There's always a new person to fill that role.

Hello...👏🏽

Oooh, nice comparison. Like an Industrial chicken farm Versus the individual farmer with their own small flock.

why you think try guys, lady like and um i forgot who else left? same thing with everyone else, it is a content farm, shane and ryan and safiya

Yes! That’s always a red flag bc it means yiu will be used and abused with nothing in return.

100%! The Lesbian & The Fat One (I’m saying this as a fat woman myself). People are so much more than their bodies and identities that it would’ve been so nice to see the other ways in which they were valued outside of those simple facts that don’t tell us anything about their personalities or the types of people they are. I’m glad they left.

Agree so much, I LOVE their videos now that they left.. Looking back, I can totally see how they could have exploited them(specifically Kristen) due to their identity:( So sad.

Hmm I think this is a tough comment because I’m certainly not pro buzzfeed here but if we criticize media companies who hire and promote diversity as tokenizing, how will we ever accept or demand change?

Same!!!! ☕️

@@tessarodes companies can be inclusive without having token employees. There is a diverence between actually including people and using them to seem inclusive. One is respectfull. And is the morally right thing to do, to treat everyone as equal. The outher is more of a "see we did it, we hired a few non white skinny cis straight people, can we get a pat on the back now?

This was me at King Arthur Flour.

I know that feeling

Me in the military 👁👄👁

Same! I had a traumatizing experience about 3 years ago with a former employer and that statement hit me so hard. I’ve never related more.

That's exactly how I felt about Sephora.

Time stamp??

@@jocelynpittman7933 15:40

@@imacoolcuz93 tysm

Ikr 😭😭😭😭

@The Final Rumbling hey! shut up :)))) its her body not urs u have no place to judge or tell her what to do!! :)) thanks go away now

As an American, it is. It's so disheartening to know that my health is based on money.

@Don K Unfortunately, you end up owing the government money. It's basically a loan to pay for your insurance and you'll have to pay it back when tax time comes. 😥

Hi, yes, we're suffering quite a lot in this country

@Don K I don't remember if they charge you the full amount or if it's just a percentage (it's been a few years since I've had to use the tax credit) but I would definitely do some research so you can be prepared. I'm sorry our government sucks so bad 😣

It truly is a privilege. My dad has had something truly wrong with his hip/leg/something in that area for over a year and can’t afford to do anything about it cuz no job and he gonna get it looked at tomorrow cuz he 65 and can get old person healthcare now.

Honestly I’d say it’s more sisterly at this point

I mean they are clearly beyond the colleague/friendship adn are very much genuine close friends.

I know..😢🥺

It sounds like a tech startup to be honest. Big promises, tight deadlines, constant fear of being let go.

@@ninaelle2003 I’ve had the same experiences with a startup ad agency. It’s a terrible industry

Always be closing

ninaelle2003 same I worked for a tech start up for almost four years and this was my exact experience.

Nah it's really just like any other corporate. people leave corporates, there are deadlines in corporates, shit happens in corporates. the only difference is how BuzzFeed portrays itself to be this "fun", "happy", "enjoyable" place where you won't feel like you're working, just hanging out. that bit is the problem

Come on! Who doesn't take Xanax everyday? Man up!

If you need to apologize for quitting your job, then apparently having a job is a 'privilege' you also need to apologize for. Do you need to apologize for being a cashier? If you feel strongly enough to quit your paying employment, then that is a valid reason to leave. Let your 'friends' think what they want.

​@@zodlovesyou7146 its not about apologising, its more about being grateful for being fortunate by acknowledging others are unable to do the same

Yeah some people can't quit and are forced to do a job.

Actually, US Labor Law requires your former employer to fly a 'Quit' free back to nearest US State in-between Canada and Mexico. If your passage back exceeds 12 hours of travel time the law gets you 8 hours of free bed rest in a licensed hostelry with a hot meal on arrival and another at wake-up, in continued travel. For me that was Hawaii, mostly, after departing places like the Kanton Island Airport. Yeah, you can quit, but next time get hired and paid to live in exotic civilian employment locations. I had a parent do that for decades around the planet. I had paid leave to visit his civilian workplace when we were both paid to go do stuff in Asia. You don't pay income tax working overseas. And in the middle of a contracted work period you earn 30 days of paid vacation. Starting and ending at your place of hire. For me, that was Oakland, CA. No, I can't recommend eating Taro if eating traditional Hawaiian foods.

I literally read this comment as she was saying it! Hit that nail fr!!!!!

Sometimes when I have anxiety I get a stomachache

@@amandahostler3356 same! If I get sudden anxiety due to outside factors I almost always get extremely nauseous

I have bodily based anxiety for years hardly anyone believes me when I try to describe it. It's mainly an intense "pain" in my chest like a knot that makes me wanna scream when I feel into it too much. Also get headaches, stomach aches and even paralysis when something comes up that's highly anxiety inducing my body goes in shock and can't move.

i've gotten sick from anxiety, like vomit sick and can't stop it, theres totally physical anxiety

Anxiety sends a signal to your body that there is danger, which is why your muscles tense up so it is very much physical. I feel anxious most of the day which completely drains my energy, having me sleep long hours.

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My job is 100% emotionally manipulative. And they do it on purpose. Management sees people as easily replaceable. They don't care about the people working and what they're struggling through in order to work, they only care about the same things being finished every week. Retail sucks SO MUCH.

It’s basically survivors guilt.

i remember being around 10-12 years old and being obsessed with buzzfeed, i was so desperate to work there 😪

Kristen, you own this story. In every way possible.

How she spoke of it, I felt that.

Unfortunately the company I work for is also selling this narrative. When I asked to use my PTO, I was told “do you know how many people wish they had a job to take off from?”

@@amiejo just say yes but I have this job and im entitled to my paid time off.

Same! You get to see their content without the lense of having to appease a company. Im so so so happy Kristin and Jen created a collab channel cause they are my absolute favorite duo.

@@KP-ov3mg OMG exactly!it’s like all of their talents and ideas are sucked right out of them when they’re working for that god awful company.Kristin and Jen’s content has been sooo fresh and entertaining!

Right, I am so happy they are doing this thogether.

forreal!! saf, try guys, ect

Exactly, the feeling it must be to leave a toxic company and being able to do your own content and own it. And also being recognized for who you really are. The same happened with Bon appétit and look how the people who quit are thriving right now, like Sohla, Rick..

Now their dependent on the tasty squad, after that, no one will watch them

@@maryamnaveed2392 😬 they’ve always been like “oh you are black? Come on in *whispers* we fired the last one and we need diversity”. A lot of companies are like that but at least they can keep their employees

Example Bon Appetit

honestly, there’s only buzzfeed unsolved, Hannah and the tasty team left, let’s see what happens

If you listen to most of the “I left buzzfeed” stories, most if not all state their goal was basically to use buzzfeed as a stepping stone (eg ultimately I wanted my own channel and buzz feed was a way to do that).... I think that attributes a lot to the culture- the company isn’t stupid- they realize (even if ppl don’t say it) that they are trying to gain clout on the company’s dime 🤷🏼‍♀️

Agreed. The fact that they left and now these two is no longer surprising now. BuzzFeed is just a terrible company to work with

FACTS!!

try guys, lady like, and shane and ryan were the only things giving buzzfeed views honestly

For me, I didn’t watch it as much when Safiya left. I only watch sometimes because of Jen and maybe a few others, but then I just stopped watching entirely, even before this video was dropped.

I did after saf left

you're supposed to be compensated for the hours you work. but if you really look at the hours you work at these kinds of jobs, it ends up being far less than minimum wage

and as a poc woman, the companies i work for tend to try and push me out there a lot to highlight their diversity when if you look at upper management, none of it reflects it and i'm making less than my male peers

​@@k.6028 Yeah they hire you to stick you on the company brochure but not to give you any meaningful influence there (i.e. promotions/ opinions etc).

Then u get a job... And it never ennnnnds

Me rn

Then you graduate and that's when the real hell begins~

I felt this

That’s me but in high school (and middle school before it)

Big mood

jen for president 2024👨🏻‍🌾

That’s iconic

@@annarose3470 2026

SAME

I didn't even know the meaning of Gaslighting was until break down and hospitalized for mental issues due to Verbal abusive and controlling then husband of 19yrs and now been Ex for 10yrs but I do know now work can do it to you too

Cinema Therapy has a really great episode on gaslighting in Tangled that wonderfully educates about the 11 signs of gaslighting. Worth a watch.

@@M0rbidCuriositea thank you .Thought physical abuse was bad but my parents never told me about or I knew anything about mental abuse

@@wendychoate2553 I wish you well on your healing journey.

Absolutely, get some ad revenue we know the deal.

They were prolly afraid of Big Buzz coming after them for it or people criticizing them for “monetizing their story” or some other BS. They 100% deserve the money, but there’s sadly a plethora of reasons to not monetize this specific video.

SAME!!! I had no idea they had made their own channel or what happened to LadyLike/AsIs! I’m beyond happy that this popped up on my recommended!!!! SUBSCRIBED!! ♥️♥️♥️

right????

Amen; I worked at 2 different places that were all "we are just a big family" and it was all bullshit.

Exactly! My current job has this, and even if it's well-intended it ends up manipulating everyone. A job is transactional, I only owe to it what I was employed to do. The same is not true for my family, and a job should never require the level of commitment that a family does.

I hate this idea, because it assumes that a family is always loving and functional - newsflash, it's not like that all the time! "Being a family" is not automatically a good thing!

Walmart in a nutshell - one big family

Why’s that?

YESSSSSSSSSS

God... I would love that... and just call it a BuzzCut.

That would insane because it's pretty mich all their top creators now all of the original Ladylike including Saf, The Try Guys, Shane & Ryan brought in so much of Buzzfeeds audience

@@AddyAddyO Patent that shit!

@@tallhannah98 Ryan and Shane still work there though

I did that too lol :)

Exactly

Reminds me of Test kitchen

im sorry this is out of context but hi moa🥺

Or "I'm not homophobic, some of my best friends are gay."

@@watermelonfuzz hello

It really shows the hypocrisy of the left.

@@julius1787 No, it shows that the company is a cooperate conglomerate who’s based in California, a very blue left leaning state, so even though their workers are probably gonna be left leaning, that doesn’t mean the CEO and other higher ups have a left Californian view

@@julius1787 or maybe they aren't really leftist...?

@@julius1787, the entire video they talked about how the workers were amazing (the workers being more left) and the people at the top causing the problems....

@@julius1787 no this is the punishment for performative leftist. they wanted to seem woke but don't want to put in the work

Yeahhhhh...

Capitalism will do that to you. A lot.

this is 100% an accurate description. I'm betting right now there are a bunch of people going through survivor's guilt at work as well.

Wow I didn't even know that was a thing. Thanks for sharing!

@@mrzoohasaninn

This is so true and some younger people perpetuate this idea as well, it’s sad

I 100% agree with you. But I also need to point out: same icon!

@@gloriousjorious283 You're the second person who has the same icon as me on RU-vid! Did you also get it from Pinterest?

@@calulida Absolutely. Some of us are still stuck in this mindset, but things are starting to change with more awareness about mental health, so there's some hope.

Yeah i think it comes from a much healthier work life balance that they had when they had jobs. Now we the internet, social media and emails theres never time that youre just off work. Youre always on.

yeppp! the greatest and kindest ones left

@Perfect Events fr I wish they did but I love their series 😕 so it’s all mixed feelings

@Perfect Events they have left last year and are making the last season of Unsolved on a contract basis. variety.com/2019/digital/news/watcher-entertainment-buzzfeed-steven-lim-ryan-bergara-shane-madej-1203427669/

@Perfect Events Shane, Ryan, and Steven have a channel called Watcher ru-vid.com/show-UCircJf-FlToBNjuy9xG-i5A

Good for them

what’s going on?

Yeah, what about that

Go look at the posts Safiya has done lately on her RU-vid channel. She goes into detail about it! But basically, one of those things is that she been stressed out about all the comments people have been leaving about her personality and nitpicking about small things about how she pronounces things, ect. She's also been worried about getting through editing faster and posting content on time. Again, I'd go and read Saf's posts because I'm only touching on the surface of everything she's been going through.

@@valeriatinocoakalitttlevaler safiya has written a few posts about it, if you go to her channel it’ll be on the community tab (and possibly her insta too, but that might have been on a story that is gone). Safiya basically touched on everything they talked about, how you feel everything isn’t good enough and if you try just a little bit harder to do more things it could be. And the line keeps moving. When safiya left buzzfeed and made her own channel she still had the buzzfeed mindset for the amount and type of content that was released. It put her in a bad place mentally where now it’s nearly impossible to even release one video a month. She said she’s working on it, and trying new things and that being in CA maybe isn’t the best place to live with what they do now. (Family is in the Midwest/east coast).

@Don K 100%!

I owe no one anything. Likewise no one owes me anything. How entitled can one be to believe that others owe you? You become a slave to your ideals. If I choose to help, it is out of actual kindness, not duty. If others help me, I am thankful- I don't expect it. Get better role models. Get better philosophies. Get better morals.

@@candystrobel1933 I disagree. I think it's healthy to have standards for how other people treat you and what you tolerate. Expecting basic human decency and kindness from other people isn't being entitled. I do believe that I deserve and am owed compassion from my fellow humans. If there are people who aren't treating me with respect and empathy, I owe it to myself to realize that I don't deserve that and to walk away. Perhaps you are the one who should get better morals if you feel like you have the right to treat people poorly (and be kind of an asshole tbh) because you think that others are entitled if they expect better from you. Just sayinnggggg

Obviously, I think you're wrong. Very wrong. Infact you contradict yourself! Respect is EARNED, not given. You will not walk away. Why? Because You owe me nothing. Nor are you kind- not even save for your 'duties sake' as you preach to me how I'm wrong. You realize how hypocritical that is right? It's cool, I however, welcome opinions even when I don't share them. Either I get to learn something and grow, or I am proved right. So thank you. For proving me right. I appreciate you

@Miss Hard Stan I wish I did drugs. It would help wash everyone's bull shit away.

@@candystrobel1933 I'm curious, you say respect is earned. So until someone earns your respect, how do you treat them?

They will manipulate a genuine desire for community until you're all used up. Honestly.

Not necessarily, especially if you’re getting a decent salary and benefits: Just take what they say with a big grain of salt. Remember that you are more than your job. Also remember that the only constant is change and that you have the power to change your circumstances.

Not true. Many professions create a family like culture . It’s still a job but your coworkers become a family

I run a little too late... After 9 years and 10 months. 😅. I love my job but the politics is oh my God! You really need to latch on (kiss their ass) an upper person to survive or get up the ladder. I understand Kristin in a way because I'm a fat woman too and the amount of people making fun of me.... 2019 was the hardest, I lost the people that I cared and this manager said that "now I didn't need to take holiday off because I don't have anyone to go back home to" my dad passed in 2016 , a very good friend of mine in 2017 and my older brother in 2018. I kept on burning myself with work so I don't think about them and in 2019, I thought I wanted to take eid fitr off so I can visit their graves and to hear your "just appointed " manager who's also a junior of yours that's sleeping (yeah. We all pretended to not know) with the HOD hurts... You know... The amount of time I passed out at home due to stress. The times I took 1 hour drive home from work with my mind constantly thinking "I should just die.. It's better that way ". Those times that I get sudden panic attacks and anxiety that I had to pull over and talk myself out of it and the self harms.... These memories I suppressed at the back of my thoughts.. Can't believe I'm crying again. I swear 2019, I was gonna kill myself. A friend at work pulled me out of it. She really stayed with me until 5am since 11pm the night before, I drove so far away and she reminded me to always turn around. I was really out. It's been a year now... I asked her months ago why did she stayed with me and she told me that I saved her months earlier when she got through a bad break up and some family problems. She told me that I was the only one who reached out and talked to her and really listened (which, if I can be totally honest here... I don't even know I helped her. She was acting f Different than usual... So I thought bringing her out to eat and see the beach would let off some steam) and then she said that for the past week, I had been acting off that's why she wanted to stay and helped me as I "helped" 'her. I'm jobless now. I don't think I can survive past 6 months with the money I have but quitting from the job I love but is hurting me..... I still feel it's the best thing I've done even though the timing is wrong. It's either I live long enough to try again and find my peace or stay and kill myself. This "we are family" at work only works if you are an ass kisser because you know, the bosses got the job goal from you and if you fcked up, you're still save because there are other (upright) staffs will get the blame...all because they don't believe in ass kissing

If they really are creating a family environment, they don't have to tell you it's a family environment, you'll know it because people will give a shit when you're struggling. When they tell you over and over and over, it's because they are brainwashing you without having to create a culture of caring and support. If they have to tell you it's family, it's b.s.

And buzzfeed unsolved/watcher

@@janeashley5829 buzzfeed unsolved??? What happened?

@@Brooklynishere__ Shane, Ryan & Steven Lim left Buzzfeed last year to create their own company (Watcher Entertainment). They still work on Unsolved & Worth It but as contracted employees iirc

@@asecretgoth wow I had no idea

Matt Bellassai aka the guy from "Wine about it" segments from Buzzfeed also left years ago. Once he left, they put a woman instead to do the same concept as Matt's but from a mom's perspective. It wasn't as funny as Matt's.

My last employer said I was like a daughter to her. I would hate to be her real daughter if that's how she treats them. It was horrible

I remember listening to ear biscuits, the rhett and link podcast about starting their business, and they mentioned that at the beginning they wanted to treat people like family. however, as the company grew, they realised that that's an unhealthy working environment for the employer and employee. and it makes sense

On point! I just left a comment under a similar comment, but when I hear that from my employers it means: We will feed you this family narrative because you are expendable and we will exploit you.

When a company says they're a family, that means they're going to give you trauma that you'll need to go to therapy for. 😬😬

@@RespektTheBovril exactly cause some folks actual families are toxic as hell

That's most corporations honestly.

sadly most corporations to do that

At the same time, staffers gain valuable experience while being paid. Many of them have gone on to successful Independence, they don't harsh on the experience.

@@FreyaEinde exactly what I was thinking

@@bcaye True, but I wonder at the precarious feelings of those who don't have the personality to be entrepreneurs or the face of things. I guess it's always up in the air for everybody really.

Then get a job where you're not required to be creative

Chill, Eileen

I feel like this is so relateable because I think a lot of us are made to feel this way at our given employment. It's such a precarious line to walk to on one hand be miserable at your job and on the other acknowledge how lucky you are to have a job it's not sustainable for anyone. Of course we should be grateful for what we have but at what personal cost?

YES

Honestly BINGO

Exactly!

Salute 💯💯💯🤦🏽‍♀️

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