My nEx texted our 16 yr old to say he was moving on with his soulmate from the turbulent life with her mother. I didn't know about narcissism at the time, but I asked him if he had found a shiny new toy 😂
I don't want my memory to haunt him. I no longer want revenge or justice. I've healed. I don't want him having the luxury of the sweet memories. Wish I could be completely wiped from his memory banks.
He who has ears, let him hear! As a survivor, I am listening to Dave and all this is true, my friends, he is giving you the narc playbook! They are empty, toxic, evil personified, it was their choice! If you have identified you are with a person who has NPD, get away, get to the throne! I am praying hard for all who are in the range of Dave's voice! Right now, Holy Spirit, open ears, free God's children, break every chain!! Dave, you are on the front lines of spiritual warfare, brother, keep it up and God be with you!!
I'll bet almost anything that my second ex is sitting in jail, thinking of all the lies she tried to get me to believe about her changing her life, and all she was going to do for me, etc, while I was scraping together money to send her I didn't really have. Once she got out, she was wearing the engagement ring of her ex boyfriend she was arrested with for manufacturing and distributing drugs out of her 89 year old grandmother's garage. Yes, she probably wishes she could call me, and love bomb me into sending her more money, to put on his books. God, I felt dumb.
@michaelmorgan7893 narcs are past masters in exploiting the resources of their marks! Narcs don't feel bad re their talented shake down plots but feel bad when their efforts fall short of their heart felt efforts. Like a milk maid who could squeeze out only half a pail 🎉
I was getting used to walking on egg shells around them, and at the same time treated as a doormat. What a shame, Finally, woke up!. I hope you do too.
So True- I was Super Grade A supply(.) Praising Our Father for giving me the insight of what was really going on!! 🙌❤️🥰 ✝️ Thank you JESUS for setting me free!!! This Thanksgiving would’ve been 30 years… But Only lasted for 24 years- And now Almost 7 years NO CONTACT!! All The GLORY to GOD!!!!! 🙌❤️🥰 Thank you, Dave for All that you do!! ❤️ GOD Bless, everyone in this Community Family!!! ✝️❤️❤️❤️
Listeners, please understand that a cursed thing curses YOU. Neither shalt thou bring an abomination into thine house, lest thou be a cursed thing like it; but thou shalt utterly detest it, and thou shalt utterly abhor it, for it is a cursed thing. -Deuteronomy 7:26 ❤
The Lord pulled me out. 🕊️🕊️🕊️ Praise God! 🙏🏿 I asked him to reveal what was going on, and he showed me what was happening. 🧟♀️ 😮💨 ✨“Choose You!!”✨Ty! Father!!💖
The Lord revealed things about him after I left him that I could never of otherwise found out he’s not doing better without me he’s doing worse. He seems to be going down the slippery slope with out me.
Time is the great erasure of the memory that is not worth remembering . . . Praise God! Although I am lonely, I am not alone, I am liberated in a loving Creator~ mmmmmmm! Dave, Love your words of wisdom brother! God is love! Peace.
The first response was spot on. She wanted a more pliable supply that she can tell anything she wants, will not talk back, has no other options and will allow her to disrespect and degrade him to make herself look better. It's a pattern that she chooses losers and then complains that her life is not what she wants. Because everyone fails her, even though SHE makes the poor choices. 🤷♂🤷♂🤷♂
Only found out about narcissism from my recent relationship, she accused her exes of being narcissists at the beginning, turned out she was the narcissist, only found out from her weird over the top reactions, making me feel crazy, felt confused constant abuse from her. Felt I was walking on eggshells, only found the answers by watching RU-vid lectures on this subject , saved me going through years of mind messing, soon as I found out she fit the description perfectly, I discarded her after nine months of being with her, wasn’t going to waste one more minute of my life after the horror stories I heard from the poor people who have put up with this kind of abuse for years , remember people your life is worth more than this sadistic bunch of creeps ✌️
My life started when I signed the divorce papers! I have peace within me and God’s plans are perfect. I Had to go through it all to realize it was the hardest lesson to learn but came out being the best version of me 🙏🏽🙌🏽
I married 50 years with you are a blessing if it's coming from the Lord Jesus Christ so true what you're saying I hope that we are all blessed with the spirit to heal and to serve the Lord
After a 40 year relationship, I realize now she is a narcissist. As long as I was rising in my career, she seemed happy. Once life became stagnant, she changed. She started complaining about everything. Then she started putting me down. Then, I found out she found a new supply. Sneaking out while I was at work. Divorced her last year. Now, she has been with multiple people. Her family loves me and can’t understand it. Oh yea, every time she breaks up with new supply, she tries to get back with me. No thanks. Our poor kids. I am starting all over. God bless. Thanks for explaining all this craziness.
It's interesting but my experience was the opposite. When I decided to step up my career and get a better job, I would see sadness in her eyes. Every time I win or self improve, she faded because there are no growth within them, and they become utterly jealous that you can do it
Ah, the crazy ways they'll break it off with us. After 25 yrs of marriage, mine discarded me and, when I asked him if he felt guilty (i know, stupid question to ask a narc), his reply was "Why should I feel guilty for wanting to try something different". I was speechless. Goodbye a-hole.
I've been sad for many years because I've been alone in my large family home since my divorce. Only now do I understand this to be my God given severance package!!WOW!! YAY! Only now can I understand this as a blessing! Thank you Jesus. And thank you. There is a HUGE purpose on my life!!😊
He will never find someone like me. He’s beneath me. Thank god he was able to get supply from someone else just long enough so God could straighten me out.
I remember cringing a little when my ex Husband told me on our first date that he'd been watching me for weeks. But I dismissed it because he said he was trying to get the courage to ask me out....what a line! My ex was a Green Beret! Lack courage...um NO!
Wow same story here… I caught my ex from years ago walking across my street today, to buy food… he’s engaged too. He could’ve randomly just been in my neighborhood but my gut whispered something different
I had many signs but I was so naive I couldn’t see them. When the bullying started, hanging up on me, screaming and yelling at me over the phone, threatening me, cussing me I couldn’t believe it was happening. All of this hurt so bad. He would ask to borrow money and I’d give it to him but when it came time to pay me back, he refused to give it back. So he stole from me as well.
@@dirtySal777 I experienced all that. Its sooo appalling and truly unbelievable... I hope you do get better by the day... Brace yourself, its truly a long journey to recovery...
Reminds me of a Steve Wariner song from about 1981 or 82 called "Her Memory" (her memory followed me to Denver, guess I forgot to remember that we're all through, and I'm over you..") Yep, just like that. Her memory will come back, like an undercooked burger that sat in the car all day. Thank God that HE can put them into the sea of forgetfulness, when we pray. I still pray for her.
The new supply doesn't see that the narcissist has bad mojo all on them because the new supply is blinded by lust. But from what I learned from Jesus is the devil masquerades around like an angel of light. Thanks for taking her of my hands.🫡
28 years of this. Finally reunited with a friend from college and doing well. Sometimes it takes a minute...30 years later and love is the strongest motion. Love your teachings and relate with so much.
I went to a wedding. My nephew was happy that I went. I had seen people that exactly made me sick to my stomach . There were so fake that the energy was horrible. I pick it up immediately. They all want to get friendly. It's completely disgusting. Then the love bombing began with I have Christmas presents for you. All bating . A lifetime of hate betrayal lying I don't want nothing to do with these people they are so damn delusional it makes me sick.
I made the mistake of giving her my heart ❤️ when she asked. HUGE mistake. My heart now only belongs to Jesus and no one else ever again. But I do have 2 beautiful sons out of the marriage. God has taken me out to restore me and my children to his kingdom 🙏
Thank god that I’m done with a narcissist of 10 years and have one child . I stood with her for the fear of my daughter . I couldn’t leave my daughter behind. But now my daughter is old enough to see what her mother has cheated and abused her dad and the narcissist don’t care nothing of my child . And my child says I love you dad I want to go with you I fear her . And now I’m free and my child wants to be with her dad . And now the narcissist found a new supply that is a plumber and she looks like 3 months old pregnant. And I berly left a month ago . lol good luck with a new baby at the age of 43 years old lol. And good luck to the new supply she will bleed you dry and still be getting new supply while she’s with you .😅
Yes you are someone, you are helping me. 🙏 Thank you. You have a unique way of describing the Narcissist. On point and your voice is soothing. I appreciate you taking the time to share and help others.
This is so sad. Especially the ones that think they are "Christian". I have to walk away from my home, which I pay for to just get away, but I have an exit plan. I have been ignoring him pretty successfully for some time, which is driving him nuts. I Knew something was off from the beginning. The only thing he has been successful at is driving me even closer to Jesus. I understand now that God was trying to get me to turn to him and not others for love and validation.
I have to say, ive watched alot of videos on people claiming to know about narcs, and alot of them do & do well. But you explain them so well, i got a restraining order on my ex narc 5 months ago. I had to, it was the only escape. He has a new supply and guess what? Hes marrying her after 3 months. You expose them so well, its scary true!!
Morning to you all, first love from Nederland, after 50 years living with a narcist is it time to move on, after many misdeeds for 3 years i read about Narcisme and wake up, it hurts but also a feeling of getting stronger, i hope meeting people who are honest and know what love is. 😘❤❤
Good morning Dave Happy Monday I’m watching again I was stuck at work on a triple shift couldn’t comment I thank God and the Lord Jesus for getting me out of the demonic stronghold if it wasn’t for the Lord 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾.
Having to work real hard to not hate this pathetic skin suit wearing lizard. If not for the fact God doesn’t want my heart filled with hatred I would. Not going to lie it’s real hard not to. Thanks Dave for continuing with your messages to us. I always watch ur channel to remind myself others have seen this kind of evil to.
Dave, thank you for this channel and everything you have done for us. I truly handed my life to God earlier in the week and I confessed to my church today and getting baptized next Sunday. I could not truly walk with God until I let go of anger in my heart and desiring revenge for narcissists who hurt me. I forgave everyone I have a grudge against and handed it over to God. I still won't allow them back in my life. I'm leaving it all behind me. Now I am not suffering and constantly thinking about the ones who hurt me. I feel so light and free now! I can't thank you enough for how your messages have helped me.
Thanks for helping Sir. I've kind of set up "traps" and you are so correct she is predictable I'm not going to let her manipulate money ...I pulled her out on her crack addiction last night ..shit will hit the fan my door stays shut. I never minded her raiding my fridge lol seriously funny
The Grinch that stole Christmas has always been my favorite since I was a child. It’s on right now. At least he changed these people don’t care about changing they don’t care about what they’ve done what they’ve said what you found out what you didn’t find out they’re just parasites. Empty shells 🐚 with absolutely no remorse ughhhh
In my case it isn’t that my supply was getting low. It’s that I was onto her and I was forcing her to change and she wouldn’t do it - so she secretly went and found a crystal meth dealing convicted felon to pimp her out. I mean be her new boyfriend.
Tell everyone to be super careful because I was accused of being a narcissist and I didn't even know what 1 was find out later. It was 13 years I'm married to one so she leaves in divorces may have her new supply cheated on me for the last 5 or 6 years 8 years of our 13 year marriage going 2 years turns around. Once to come back tells me she's changed. She got saved even though I had listened to everything, Dave said. I gave in and gave her another chance and it wasn't 2 months right back to her same old tricks. So I do believe that the largest portion, there's no way they can change maybe because they don't think there's anything wrong with them and getting them to realize that there ISIS nearly impossible. God bless you day if you've helped me a lot over the last 2 or 3 years. I'm looking forward again. I can tell you that god bless you brother happy thanksgiving
As I prepare for my 2nd Thanksgiving without the narc I remember my final one with him. We drove 2 1/2 hrs to his brothers family. I thanked him for not scaring me or driving too erratically on the way! He went immediately to the beach with his brother. No invite for me. Shades, chiseled chest out, looking for supply! Slept on the couch 2 nites saying I snore. On the way home he said I saw your plate full of food you pig. Found out later he had a girlfriend for months. Opps forgot to tell his NEW wife!
I KNOW I was that Grade A, and 3 lb Lobster Tail to him. I spent 5 years engaged, (future faked) and I finally left him. It's been 12.8 years for me. He immediately got MARRIED only 2 weeks after I left him. He went bar-hopping, and met a very rich woman. He was very GREEDY!!
10:35 Amen Excellent video. Narcs Definitely hear voices. Nope, the narc will stay right where he is with the new supply. The narc has stolen to much of my time. I'm done
This is a great channel. I love that we learn about Narcissists, but also the love of Jesus and healing. I also love that we are all imperfect, fleshly Christians who have made mistakes. The love is very deep here, not religious, but loving and truly Christian. Jesus is happy I believe. This is the way Christians should be. This is supporting the Saints.
I told my ex narc every chance I got, that I couldn't stand him and I could care less who he was with. He held on tighter it was awful and he would act out.
It is preprogrammed reactionary responses to what you are revealing to them. It was predictable what their behaviors will be to anything you may bring up. Ultimately to destroy you in anyway possible. Level communication is not possible. Anything is artillery to shift and distort. The knowledge and awareness that you are bringing is giving me validation that this hidden abuse is real.
"Your Memory Haunts The Narcissist Forever." I have this thing where I get older but just never wiser midnights become my afternoons When my depression works the graveyard shift all of the people I've ghosted stand there in the room Taylor Swifts self confessional "Anti Hero" song and video circa era 2023
I had to move out during the pandemic, he loved that, the worst most fearful time of my life and he asked me if I wanted any furniture, like I meant nothing to him at all.
Day 5 no contact. Not easy but I'm not looking back other than how she treated me to remind myself why i ended the one sided relationship. God is Good. He finally allowed me to "see it" when they last gas lit me & then threw a temper tantrum like a child in front of their own child! I'm a born again christian but after meeting the narc, i didn't know who i was. I felt like i was my old self before Jesus saved me. The devil is ALWAYS lurking and ready to devour Christ's children. I prayed one last time for my ex narc after leaving and thats all i can do for her. Let go and let God!
I’ve been alone for the last 7 months and afraid I may never want anyone other than my yellow Lab “Laney” She had been right by my side since the day I lost my sweet mom and got dumped right after that. 7yrs with him and feel so numb. I need and miss my momma every single day. God Bless 🙏
Some were, others get The Vampires bite and become higher in trait narcissism. Also flying monkies are Narcs in training. And are sometimes even worse than the original narc. Internal validation for the win.
My husband put his hands on me in front of my mother, he couldn't hide his true self anymore. I gave him the opportunity to seek some help we were together 12 years have a 8 year old son together. He found new supply with a teenager within days (he's 33)... If gen z are anything to go by I hope she watches enough tik tok videos to be able to catch on to narcissistic bahavior and eventually get rid
My soon to be ex told me the same thing. She would say to me, my cop friend told me this,My cop friend told me that. It was a horrible experience to hear her talk to me about her new supply with me. I gave her no response. Then she took off. And I haven't seen her since. I guess I'll see her this December sometime in court . But after that I'm leaving the city for good.
SO true about the new supply and you and they actually love when you seem to “fight” over them! They want to see who will fight harder and who will take more of their lies and terrible treatment of you. Not sure my ex is a true narc, but definitely has some of these traits where they lie, cheat , gaslight, Hoover, love bomb, etc. wash rinse repeat. Did it for two years of our ten. Didn’t see any anger or signs for this until 8.5 years in. It was a ride to say the least. Now seemingly hates me bc I finally left after so much of the ping pong game between myself and the other supply no longer “new”. She was also someone he dated for a mere month in high school and she was obsessed with him all these years, he claims. I think she’s a narc herself. He’s seeing her again. Shocker right. He hasn’t sent me a thousand texts or came crawling back like he did every other time. I think it’s because I actually started fsting someone on one of the last breaks in March. I stopped to go back to my ex, but it wasn’t differnrt this time. He never thought I would date anyone else and threw it in my face all the time. Then we got back again in August. I left in September as I just couldn’t handle the stress and anxiety I was having. I didn’t want to live as a private I the rest of my life. He could not get over that I was with another man in any way, but it was perfectly acceptable that he was cheating on me for two years with the side chick. They really believe this crap! She had made up stories to him about me, etc.just childlike behavior from both of them. He begged cried and pleaded ten times for me to return after so many of his mini discards or fake breaks I called them. He could then say he wasn’t cheating. The worst time of my life and broken heart is trying yo heal. I still love him and I don’t know why. Maybe it’s the trauma bond? Was he a narc? Any comments are welcome. Good luck everyone in your healing journey!
