Wife or Mother - Who Is First? - Mufti Menk 

Algamdullilah may Allah make it easy for u.. an remember u can always lean on another when things feel tough. May u be rewarded for ur efforts an love of Islam🙏

MASHALLAH MAY ALLAH BLESS YOU

@@faizadoutie5998 alhumdurillah mam

@@marryraja4228 alhumdurillah

Its ALHAMDULILLAH 😊

Allah may give you Imaan Aameen

If you have questions you can ask. In Sha Allah you will get a good answer.

@@LearnIslamNoetic I said it in public with full mindfulness

@@LearnIslamNoetic cause I followed Zakir Naik for 2 months in d quarintine nd i liked his lectures

@@LearnIslamNoetic many people in yt were saying horrible stuff like he is a moron xyz I thought it was just islamophobia

True!!!!

What did the wife leave? Because it's really just part of growing up and evolving to move out ouf your family's house and a make a life for yourself. It's not some big sacrifice. I'm not trying to argue who should come first but I'm trying to point out that doesn't really make sense.

@@johnlemon1977 she left her whole family, her friends, everyone she knows behind for her husband, she left the comfort of her own home to serve her husband and in-laws, at maternal home, girls more at ease, but at in laws house, the girl has a thousand responsibilities on her head and has thousands of expectations from husband and in laws. So yes the wife has made way more sacrifices than a man could ever. The husband can easily live with his parents and then allow his parents to boss his wife around and treat the wife as a slave but would the husband do the same for his wife? Would the husband leave his family behind and move to his wife's city?

@@johnlemon1977 truth is...girls are EXPECTED to make the sacrifices, we have to sacrifice our careers, or wants and desires, just so our husbands and his family and our kids can stay happy. While the man could do what he wants.

@JH men physically are a lot stronger but women are more stronger by heart. Women can endure more that's why Allah has made women give birth not men. Yes I'm not denying men do have to make sacrifices but women have to make waaaay more. Did you know some men end up either getting a second wife or having affairs because either they are bored of the wife or wife has had a baby and her body is not the same. Men have way more privileges and advantages then women hence why men can go out late and women cant hence why when a women's reputation is tainted it's a lot harder for her compared to a man who has way more privileges and the upper hand. Islamically I know men and women are equal and women are not oppressed but I'm talking about culture here. Culture wise? Men have the upper hand and that is a fact. The women always gets blamed if something goes wrong. The women is expected and demanded to serve his whole family when she doesnt have to. To put it simple culture has made daughter in laws slaves.

Ma Sha Allah

You're welcome in Islam inshaallah

May ALLAH lead you to the truth path insha ALLAH.

MashAllah

And iam muslim

Oh sorry about that may Allah make it easy for you my dear!

So sorry dear May Allah find you a blessing place for you

Yes there are some men’s who give their mums side a lot I agree with you because I’ve seen a lot , even though one does a lot for their family but there is no appreciation that’s when it comes to bad terms may Allah Tallah have mercy on everyone Ameen 🤲🏼

Me to sis but hope ALLAH PAK muje aise husband NAWAZ de Jo sab ko haq Dena janta do and mother Ghar nahi todti but sas tod deti hai jealously ki waje se but hope RAB BHETERIN NAWAZ DE

Some one waiting for u better then him

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@@JahannamHellfire what do u mean by saying its only a hadith?... these words that uve written are harsh ...only if u understand and also if u r a muslim... U could've written in a better way if u wanted to express ur thoughts...

@@JahannamHellfire How would we know how to pray without Hadith?

@JH this is just between parents not mother and wife

@@JahannamHellfire Huh sister? Im not following your logic...

With respect and kindness

@@sarak4217 : Yes, you are 'right'. You need to start by doing it respectfully but you also need to understand that some 'unfair' people are intensely evil to a point they would not appreciate you showing them respect in this case, so this means that it would get to a point where you would need to use force or aggression in this case.

Well.No matter 《'Mom na Wife》still the same.Coz.it's still SAME coz both ** WOMENs** Soo.it depends situations/Justice《.WaAllah hualaam'》❤sabrr aje laa🤔🌻

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That's great, I hope you get the best life ☺

Im sorry but your son is just ungrateful

That is amazing! May Allah bless you for your kindness and love! I wish there were more mother in laws like you 🥰

They will love you more

MashaAllah. May Allah bless you with the rewards for your patience, aameen.

Welcome to Islam sister!💚

What religion were you before

May Allah forever shower His blessings upon you

Nice

Same sis Same!

My husband never accepted his sister’s faults and whenever I complain about her, he starts fighting with me. May allah (s.w.t) guide him too and make him an honest judge.

@JH if dats

@JH if that is the case go and marry your mother and be a good company to her...nonsense!!!

Ur mother deserve ur good company doesn't mean u hv to be injust to ur wife or any body else fr dat matter. Ther is one more hadith 'the best amongest you is the one who is best to ur wife' , dnt frgt dat. Ther r certain situations wher justice has no role in those situations parents (for men) should be given the preference.

@JH There are many Hadees about being good to your family n Wife! Why are you comparing it! It is just like someone remembers the Hadees he/she likes n forget all others which he/she don't like! Your mother n your wife are both important n have different but equally important place in your life ! Don't compare

@JH Don't you remember your wife is mother of your children! Your children will love you for respecting her! Your wife is Jannah of your children! You are ignoring it

Ma sha Allah 👍🏻

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May Allah help u.

Mashallah, welcome ❤️👍, what about u now?

Masha allah welcome

Dear sister, Alhamdulillah Allah has shown you the truth..I am so happy for you.. Pray Almighty make your journey easy and keep you on islam till the end.. Sincerely Anisah

May ALLAH make it easy for you to accept the shahada please the sooner the better

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@JH also Prophet(peace and blessings be upon him) said "Amongst you, the best is the one who is best to their spouses"

Yes, I was just tellin that to my sister yesterday 😄

Mashaa Allah

@JH b

Ameen

Good sister

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M following u on your your youtube channel. U r such a beautiful women

Aameen

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Ameen

Ameen

Ameen

@Hell Is Hotter jazakallah

@@JahannamHellfire Don't oppress your wife.. He said stand for justice..

@Rider101ism exactly.true

May Allah guide you better towards righteous path and makes easy to understand and accept Islam one day , best wishes , any help or advice most welcome

Great, may Allah guide you and strengthen you.

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@@rihanulkarim3997 of course not, go ahead brother.

@@FieldMarshalRommel23 Who is Allah? He is Allah, the One and Only; Allah, the Eternal, Absolute; He begets not, nor was He begotten; And there is none like unto Him. (Quran 112) What is Islam? Islam simply means submission to one and only Allah, the creator, the sustainer, the most merciful, the lord of the heaven and the earth. Followers of Islam called Muslim. Allah sent many prophets and messenger (approximately 124000, but only 25 of them mentioned in the Quran) throughout the human history to guide people to submit to one God (Allah). Adam was his first human creation, first human being and first prophet of Allah. We are the children of Adam and Hawa(Eve). Actually, Muslims believe in prophethood, they came one after another. Some of them are, Adam-Adam, Noah-Nuh, Abraham-Ibraheem, Ishmael-Ismael, Issac-Ishaq, Jacob-Yakub, Moses-Musa, David-Dawood, Solomon-Suleiman, Jesus-Isa and Muhammad. Allah also send revelation(scriptures) to his messengers. Such as, Moses (Musa) got Torah/Taorat David (Dawood) got Psalms/Zabur Jesus (Isa) got Gospels/Injeel Muhammad got Quran. Prophets and Messengers of Allah came to earth for a specific time to guide specific people. For example, After Moses(Musa), Jesus(Isa) came to guide people of Israel(Jews). After Jesus(Isa), Muhammad came to guide the whole mankind not only for Arabs or Asians. He is known as the last and final prophet of Allah. So, today we need to follow teachings of prophet Muhammad. Allah Allmighty gave miracles to Prophets. Some of the famous one are, Noah's Ark, Moses's Splitting the Sea, Jesus's miraculous birth, Muhammad's Journey to Heaven. All the prophets, came to guide people to worship one lord, Allah. And Islam means submission to the will of Allah. So, all the prophets preached the religion of "Islam" and they all were Muslim. 'Islam' (submission to one lord) is not a new religion, it began with prophet Adam. It is the religion of Adam, Abraham, Moses, Jesus & Muhammad. (Peace be upon them)

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Indeed

@JH 💯

Especially striking the balance between a mother in law and daughter in law. So simply said. If everyone listened to this man, surely thered be far less divorces. ❤️

@ruheena Shah What do you mean you will not be accompanying your mother in jannah? insha'Allah we will be with all our loved ones in jannah not just with our wives.

@@happyguy201. Happy guy, simple and common sense, as a mother do not have one child, she might have several children, so if your brother and sister are all in jannah and who will she be with. Will she be divide into 4 or 5 parts. Then your wife is with you as well in jannah and her mother will have the same problem. Will her mother be divided onto 4 or 5 or even more. Then your mother and her mother will have their mothers with them in jannah and the chain will go on and on and on and then there will be only one room in jannah over crowded until we all eventually be with our original father Adam and mother Hawwa. So be sensible. That’s why Allah s.w.t. The most High said that we will only be with our spouses in Jannah. Got it. 👍

@@ruheenashah6625 both my parents have gained highest ranks in jannah. Most recently our beutiful beloved mother age 63 on 14th Ramadhan/Friday 15th April 2022 just before jummah. Are you telling me that we her children will not see our parents in jannah? And which verse says in Qur'an that we will only be in jannah?

@@happyguy201 dude your mother has a husband too right?? her husband ( your father) will accompany her the same way you do with your wife, and yeah you'll see each other there too but you'll have to accompany your partners. that's how JANNAH IS BUILT.

Alhamdulillah

Mashallah great comment. Fully agree with what you said. It's both ways.

Who is first mom or wife please tell me

@@Abid_x7 - Mother

Alhumdulilah you have supporting husband but very unfortunate what you went through may Allah bless you your husband and guide the wrong doers.

@@englishexpert1989 your profile name is in fact insulting the mother's.

​@Abid_x7 Watch the video Mufti Menk explains it well

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@JH the best among u is the one who is at best behaviour with his wives.. Prophet PBUH

@JH ok so what exactly is ill manner here? Crying on floor throwing tantrum? It applies vice versa.. some men need discipline too.. it applies to increase iman and knowledge... and also a woman is said to be born from tilted rib doesnt needs to be straighten...

@JH It was regarding Parents,not between Wife and Mother.

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What ever the religion is if it teaches good and we have to appreciate according to me every religion has just good teachings

Better listen Dr zakir naik

No. But I respect him.​@@electricalengineer6530

Me too

Same🇮🇳❤️

@JH Yes, also goes for women- 1. Mother (not husband) 2. Mother (not husband) 3. Mother (not husband) 4. Father (not husband)

we dont care about your race.

@@subiaansari5840 for women first husband then her parents delete your comment speaking out of knowledge

Make that 15 people and may Allah forgive them inshallah

Why would they dislike something about allah. MAy Allah forgive them for this.

they are probably just those very possessive and controlling mothers and aunties lol

25

One sided people may be

Aameen. I lost my parents and one my sister's. Father in march 1997 when I was small primary school kid and sister age 36 in 2016 due to cancer and we lost our beloved mother just recently this Ramadhan Friday 15 April 2022/14 Ramadhan 1443. Please do dua for them myself and our family and we will do dua for you your family and entire ummah aameen.

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This is not a deadly question only to those that are put in a position where the wife or mother makes you decide.. mother should be happy you found someone you love and not to mix into the relationship as husband and wife and Wife should respect the mother.. but the moms become very judgmental from the beginning if the wife is good enough for her son ..

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Exactly well said

It’s true but mother transitions from being closest to you when you are a child to second closest when you are a man. Wife takes that role, like you are not going to spend every day with your mom anymore, you will do with your wife. It is the relationship which you will nurture the most. Even kids will grow up and also move on. At the end you are left with your spouse only.

No wife is everything the truth that to be expecting in more positive way rest of your son's life with his wife is greater than from the days since he born to you. Wife can be a good mom for his husband and his children too than his mom but no mom can be a wife.

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@@shakirsohail1681 thanx bro

Very unjust , Allah swt will deal with them, culture has to die!!!

Emotionally and mentally harming and blackmailing them Disgusting, Allah swt is with the oppressed!!!

Love is not ruining the lives of innocent people!!!!!!!

You didn't need a man like that anyway who couldn't support you and honour you as his wife!

@mr system I am not a child neither this is just in my family....I am from Pakistan and I know that what's happening there.....I am not saying its happening in all over Pakistan but 80% families have the same issue.....you must observe who is childish and who is using disgraceful words in comments...

@ sheikh fareed may Allah make it easy for you and your wife and guide your parents but why would your parents kick you out for no reason?

Islam has solutions to all mankind problems.

May Allah guide you sis

Mashallah! May Allah always keep it that way

muslim as born what it mean?

@@adilblake254 Born from a Muslim family.

@@Servant__of__Allah oh same

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Assalamalaikum my husband always takes the side of his family i he never see my side not even his children's in his family daughters in laws are outsiders even when it comes to family pictures we all have to stand aside and let mother and her children take the pictures my husband came home from work and heard his mother swearing at me and kicking me out of the house he never said a word to her instead he went to her and huged and kiss her while i stood there and looked on every one thinks he is such a good person because that's the face he shows on the outside

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I try my best but to do the just thing, but sometimes its about perspective of being right or wrong... How do you convince someone what is right, when their perspective itself is wrong

Amin

@JH you probably skipped this part of the video. 1:35

JH 1:35

JH “the best of you are those who are best to their spouse” (not mother). We can play this game all day. Just accept your wife has rights and move on...

@JH Quran 29:8 And We have enjoined upon man goodness to parents. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them. To Me is your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do. Quran 31:14-15 ..And We have enjoined upon man [care] for his parents. His mother carried him, [increasing her] in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years. Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to Me is the [final] destination. But if they endeavor to make you associate with Me that of which you have no knowledge, do not obey them but accompany them in [this] world with appropriate kindness and follow the way of those who turn back to Me [in repentance]. Then to Me will be your return, and I will inform you about what you used to do. I do pray that if you have a daughter or a sister that their husbands only have the heart and mind of following Allah's unchanging words. And will not become like many women who are oppressed by their spouse and their spouses family. Because they view the wife as less than human, even less than a slave. Adhubillah And we ALL must remember, we are ALL the slaves of Allah. Alhamdullilah We are ALL to be treated with respect, no matter who we are in the family. Alhamdullilah And don't worry, Allah has GIVEN everyone their rights, so there is no need to be greedy or oppressive. InshaAllah

@JH I would suggest that you read Surah 7,8,9, and 47 to get a clear understanding. InshaAllah Surah 4:75..And what is wrong with you that you fight not in the Cause of Allah, and for those weak, ill-treated and oppressed among men, women, and children, whose cry is: "Our Lord! Rescue us from this town whose people are oppressors; and raise for us from You one who will protect, and raise for us from You one who will help." Allah's words ALWAYS come first, they are unchanging. Alhamdullilah And Allah even warns the Prophet (saw) about those Prophet (as) before him (saw) who Shaytan put in words and took out words, And Allah left them in order to test the believers. Alhamdullilah There is NO "playing" victim when women and children are being beaten and raped and preyed upon. 4:148..Allah does not love the loud (expression) of odious words except for him who has been done an injustice, and Allah has been Ever-Hearing, Ever-Knowing. It is the man's responsibility to protect women and children and not beat them and "use" them. Adhubillah And not just their close family members, but the women of this Ummah. InshaAllah So instead of condemning a believer, a male especially, should think twice before uttering a word against Allah's words. If the words do not line up with the UNCHANGING words of Allah then they are not sahih. Allah says, Both believing men and women will enter Jannah. Alhamdullilah He never put a number on either sex. Alhamdullilah That is HIS decision, not ours. And from the standpoint of this Ummah today, it looks like the men have failed in their duties and obligations to Allah. Adhubillah But if one were to take in account that for every male they will have two wives in Jannah then I would say just out of reasonable logic that there will be more women then men. Allahu alam. It was narrated from Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The lowest of the people of Paradise in status will be a man whose face Allaah will turn away from the Fire towards Paradise, and make a shady tree appear before him. … Then he will enter his house and his two wives from among al-hoor al-‘iyn will enter after him. They will say: ‘Praise be to Allah Who has created you for us and us for you.’ And he will say: ‘No one has been given the like of that which I have been given.’” Narrated by Muslim, 188. And the point is, it does not matter in the next life how many men or women will be there. Those who succeed won't care. Alhamdullilah What matters is what Allah commands and how we follow HIS commands, both men and women so that we can get there InshaAllah . Allah states, And I will fill hell with both Jinn and mankind. All but a few. Alhamdullilah Not my words, but Allah's (swt) And Shaytan says that he will mislead all but a few. Adhubillah May Allah guide us to the straight path. Amin

I'm starting to feel the same sis. May Allah reward us ameen

Sister please read (aapki amanat aapki sewa me in hindi) you can download or install it in hindi, its only 30 pages probably you can read it in 10 minutes insha allah.

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My allah my easy to your exams

I agree brother

Aameen

Yes sister

Try to let him listen to this.. i pray for u..

@Nadya HutangAlong he doesn’t .I always make him listen but he behaves as if it’s not for him.thanks sister Jazakallah

Very useful as I am a wife I always face many situation

Leave him in couple of days, when he is doin again unjustice to you, only that he sees tbat he is wrong

If you are living abroad sister. Then try to make him understand. If mother in law stays in pakistan or if she lives with you try to talk to him in private

What do you mean?

@@mujahidkhan7312 you can remarry any time

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True, people need to understand a mother-son love and a husband-wife love is incomparable. Both are love, but different types of love. But, a mother definitely deserves more respect and more priority.

@@sadiajafrinn yes and thank you for that. Especially if our mothers fathers reach old age and Ill health than we as sons and daughters married or un married should prioritise our parents and if we are few or multiple siblings than we should not leave that responsibility to just one living with them even if we after marriage do not live with them.

@@sadiajafrinn I had a very open and fruitful convo in another comment section of this vid with a lovely sister who said her choice is not to live with in-laws which is fine and within Islamic right but also said she would encourage her husband to visit his parents more him to help them and her also would send them and take food and whatever to them and I think that is amazing as long as you don't interfere in your husband's and his family/parents relationship but rather encourage to do more better. Than another discussion with an ignorant person that was getting happy when a mother in law commented her son puts his wife and kids first and she is ok with that as a mother and said to that person who replied you should not be happy it's not nice mostly that sons or daughters put their spouses above parents and she got offended even when I explained that I am grieving now because tough I lost father (25 years ago when a primary school kid) we lost our beloved mother this Ramadhan Friday 15 April 2022/14 Ramadhan 1443 jummah time. The commenter is called SA and she didn't even apologise. She said stuff like I would rob a bank if my mother told me to. Some women just plain ignorant.

@@happyguy201 I absolutely hate those butthurt women who get triggered when people talk about how parents (especially mothers) should be put first, even before their wives or spouses. I think those women have bad relationship with their husband-mother in law. While I'm absolutely aware of the fact that there're alot of bad mother in laws who simply just can't accept their son's wife, there are girls too who get jealous when they see their husband prioritizing anyother woman above them, but that's just the truth. I also argued with some other people here regarding this issue.

Yasir Ali omg are you serious clearly you will always side the wrong my husband has always sided his mom but when he realised that she’s doing wrong to me and my son he stopped and he tries to talk to her that’s something I would never stop him from doing but she chooses not to talk to him. I’ve tolerated so much with this woman in the month of Ramadan when my husband would be at work it would be time to open the fast she set the table for her other son and daughter-in-law who doesn’t even fast for the 3 of them and wouldn’t even offer me a glass of water imagine how that makes you feel I took all that and still when it came to eid wished her hugged her and the very next day she’s got a face on making comments towards me. Enough is enough I’m someone’s daughter I don’t deserve to be treated that way she wants her daughter to be treated like a princess at her in laws but treats me like dirt.

Askam o alaikam. I'm from Pakistan and my wife is from Algeria, we had love marriage however. She is in Pakistan now, apart from all the matters of she is far from home and different culture and more like that. We have 2 kids. We have many differences between us. I know i can trust her about relation but sometimes she speaks like knives. She asked me many times to divorce her but allah gave me patience. I always try to stand and help my wife but she always abuse my family n parents that they speak against her or they are planning against her. Can bro Mofti menak advise me what should i do. Jazak Allah khera.