Will Jay - I Need Control

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As a kid, I would do a lap around the house twice every night, make sure every door was locked, and I would touch the wall in certain places as I did it. It was the only way I could fall asleep because my brain automatically went to the worst places: what if the house burns down? what if a burglar tried to come in? I’ve carried a lot of that paranoia into my adult life, constantly feeling claustrophobic and hyper-aware of how I’m being perceived. My mind longs to have control, not only of my surroundings but of myself. I would say this song, along with Lies, are the mission statements of the album: the dark side that comes with being a perfectionist.
Written by: Will Jay, Sam Creighton
Produced by: Keaton Stromberg
Every time that I try to speak
It feels so calculated
If I say what I really mean
It’s like you see me naked
Not a word until I was 3
The doctors were elated
Thank god there was nothing wrong
And everything’s fine
Always on the edge of my seat
Never the right position
Check the doors are locked, 1 2 3
flip on and off light switches
Something bad could happen to me
House will burn if I didn’t
Make sure that the stove was off
Now everything’s fine
I need control
I need control
What will I do if I lose my mind
Hurt someone else, or myself
I’m terrified
These crazy thoughts, they won’t stop
Oh my
I feel the worst in me
Better tread carefully
I need control
Everybody please disappear
I’m feeling claustrophobic
Way past capacity in here
Hard to be easygoing
Suffocating’s my biggest fear
I can’t breathe in this clothing
Leave before something goes wrong
Now everything fine
I need control
Make a mistake
I go insane
What can I say, I’m a perfectionist
Slave to my brain
Circle the drain
What can I say, get me a therapist
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@dorene7306 4 года назад

The rhythm, lyrics, his voice... Everything is perfect. Just wow.

@ThuLe-nr5rd 4 года назад

Ye ikr

@norcrosscaduceus8344 2 года назад

Ikr I agree

@AHealthyDoseofFran 4 года назад

The dark side of perfectionism is always something never truly looked at - I often consider Azula from Avatar (I know extreme choice) as an example of it to stop myself from focusing too much on trying to be perfect

@bethanysmith609 4 года назад

Your comment just got me thinking, where is the dark side of perfectionism not truly looked at? In music and media? :)

@bloodcottoncandy 4 года назад

@@bethanysmith609 Perfectionism isn't as bad if it is done out of fun but it becomes easily toxic for the person if they are doing it to impress someone else. That's why perfectionists are easily the easiest people to become narcissistic or nihilistic if not looked after because you can either only care for yourself or think that everything is useless so there isn't a point to it.

@bethanysmith609 4 года назад

@@bloodcottoncandy I believe that whilst the dark side to perfectionism is more common and better researched (i.e. those perfectionists that are motivated externally and scared of mistakes), there are some 'healthy' or 'functioning' perfectionists. Those that strive for themselves, don't compare and use mistakes to improve. That's what my psychology dissertation was on and my research supported. Though it's a rather new and disputed theory. As I'm so used to hearing about the negatives of perfectionism (from psychology), I was curious what areas it's not really represented in, which was why I asked for examples :)

@OwlpoAnimations 2 года назад

@@bethanysmith609 Perfectionism is both good and bad. If perfectionism is fueled by negative factors it can eventually lead to one “fixing” themself by removing unwanted traits, emotions, or cares. Healthy perfectionism is fueled usually by just a want to be better at something, but when it becomes a need to be better then it becomes unhealthy. Most healthy perfectionists can eventually devolve into an unhealthy state. Healthy perfectionism makes it so people can fix mistakes or things bugging them, unhealthy causes great distress and pain.

@bethanysmith609 2 года назад

@@OwlpoAnimations yes! As my comment before said, I looked at this for my dissertation: 'can perfectionist strivings be healthy? The associations between perfectionism, character strength use and flourishing'. My findings supported Stoeber's theory - that there's adaptive and maladaptive perfectionism. However, the dominant view in psychology is that perfectionism is wholly bad! That 'adaptive perfectionism' is not really perfectionism, as striving for 'perfection' and 'excellence' are different. So that's why I asked for examples - wondering if the commenter specifically meant music and media - where the bad sides of perfectionism is 'never truly looked at' ☺️ as psychological research suggests otherwise!

@legaciesvids 3 года назад

As someone with OCD, I relate! But also, this song sounds much more like someone with OCD than just a perfectionist in some of the lyrics. Like the "check the doors are locked 123 house will burn if I didn't. Make sure that the stove is off, now everything's fine." Like that's an ocd mood lol

@legaciesvids 3 года назад

I'm not saying he has OCD, to be clear. I'm just saying some of the lyrics are very relatable to ocd.

@mothmaiden 2 года назад

My therapist suggested that OCD is probably a lot more common in the population and can overlap with other things. The speech delay he described is typical of autism- but autistic people can also develop OCD and more often than not suffer from anxiety to clinical levels. It also can be a curse as the artist is clearly multitalented but put immense effort in- he is a superb dancer, he clearly has a strong grounding in music composition, he is a great writer and he has strong aesthetic skills. His appearance involves likely intense work, talked about in other songs, to meet impossible beauty standards. So, assuming this is an accurate window (which it doesn't need to be, art is not about us possessing the whole "real" him!), he also has the classic anxiety trap of feeling if he releases his distress he will lapse in capacity.

@kristinepinlac2796 4 года назад

The disconjointed feel all throughout the song really reflects on how chaotic a percectionist's mind can be, which is pretty ironic. People assume that just because you're a perfectionist, that automatically means thay you have perfect control over yourself as well. But that's the thing, most of the time you have no control over how demanding and obsessive this kind of mindset can be, especially if you let it foster and grow unchecked. It can be so unhealthy especially when you have no coping mechanism for when you feel like your sense of control is suddenly taken away. Ugh, the anxiety about that is awful

@ladywho900 4 года назад

This song was everything I needed to hear after everything I’ve went through last night. I was crying so hard because nobody understood me well when it comes to my emotions and OCD, and people complained that I need “control” So when I heard this, I’d felt relieved because I’d didn’t feel so alone anymore because I’m not alone in this struggle. Thank you for this incredible, it honestly calmed me down to finally sleep.

@irenecarlotto2982 3 года назад

I don't have OCD so I can't really understand, however I know for sure your feelings are valid! 💖 Even if you feel alone you are not💪 Sending you love🙏💕

@alexsacc8910 3 года назад

YES!! I thought I was the only one who felt valid, or related to this song just because of my ocd, intrusive thoughts, “rituals”, and all that stuff.. it’s such a good song but becomes even better when you can relate to it!

@Sootielove 4 года назад

I seriously relate about being so calculated with words and wanting to control your environment to the level of needing other people to disappear. Being so much of a perfectionist in everything including your own personality and appearance and the anxiety and need of control that comes with it is practically my entire life.

@pannipollak2622 4 года назад

“This is my favourite!” - says me to all of his songs.

@maggiesinger63 4 года назад

Oh my gosh, my OCD has me feeling like this every day! So relatable, I love this song

@jaimegrace2443 4 года назад

omg i thought i was the only one who feels this :') "if i lose my mind , hurt someone else or myself" hits me

@dollyonelly4564 4 года назад

Theres a missing full stop in your comment lolz

@yourfavoritepessimisticexi8041 4 года назад

The song sounds like it's about OCD

@emomsen1089 4 года назад

And maybe mixed with social anxiety

@corinnae.7877 4 года назад

Anxiety disorder for me. I am always afraid of dying and need control of my body and situations.

@whattamess 4 года назад

same thoughts! the lines about the switches and the stove really did it for me

@Venusflytrap427 2 месяца назад

It is

@babowasalwayshere 3 года назад

I'm an autistic person and this song HEAVILY resonates with me. I also get worried about how I speak, have weird rituals I need to do to help feel control of my life. I was mute for an entire year in preschool then suddenly started talking just fine so everyone decided nothing was wrong with me. I have intense agoraphobia and if I'm social for too long it takes days for me to recover and be able to try it again. I'm paranoid about how I'll affect others and I often say things that are unsettling because I have a hard time understanding how other (non autistic) people think or feel and tend not to have a "brain to mouth filter". Also perfectionism is a super big autistic thing. We are our own biggest hypocrites and we will hyperfixate on the tiniest of errors or inconsistencies, it can be debilitating. If you haven't been tested for autism I really recommend looking into it, because of the stigma a lot of people don't know what "mild" autism really looks like and would rather go undiagnosed and thus unhelped. There's a lot of us out there, just trying to look normal. Just trying to get by. Also ABA is bad. It literally causes PTSD in autistic kids, don't use it.

@maryhooper83 4 года назад

This one hit hard. Any other perfectionistic controllers out there?

@juliavu5780 4 года назад

the talent of this man woww

@justmelol6360 4 года назад

Dein Profil 😍😂...

@user-xh6eg1ts1t 4 года назад

Oh my god, all the lyrics about getting flooded over by all the thoughts grabbing for attention, all the lights and sounds and wants and needs, everything inside and outside calling, constantly, god! it’s perfect!

@kahel_era 4 года назад

i heavily relate to this oh goshhhh,,, This song , d a m n . it S L A P S You, Sir are AMAZING!!

@muirinncarty5176 4 года назад

I always thought something was wrong with me, knowing you had such similar experiences as with gives me comfort and hope. Ive never related to something more in my life and I thank you Will for making me feel normal💚

@nakynie463 4 года назад

honestly, he is slowly getting recognition and I'm here for it

@annanavenicka9688 4 года назад

This song makes me at peace with my OCD, ngl. Something to hold on to in order to not feel alone. ❤️

@Faith-wz7hu 4 года назад

I used to think I was a perfectionist, turns out I have OCD and anxiety. It's so nice to hear a song that describes these feelings. Although I guess my perfectionism exists separately too. I didn't start speaking until I could make sentences.

@gabri_cheesellamasneeze9006 4 года назад

I'm scared how accurate this song is for me. I swear, my need for control is obsessive

@nixcipher7451 4 года назад

Why don't more people know your content!?!?! You're so genuine and this epiphany of more self reflecting music creates such a resonance between him and his listeners. Dang bro, I just want you to be rewarded for your talents.

@mlembunsessions 4 года назад

I feel this song on so many levels health and personalitywise 🙏🏼 such an underrated Artist

@hawyeefish4846 4 года назад

once the animation community reaches this itll blow up, jay

@Bo-kq8tn 3 года назад

I don't think I've ever experienced a piece of media that sums up my experience with ADHD+Autism+OCD+anxiety as succinctly and accurately as this. thank you, wow

@makotonaegi3404 4 года назад

As someone with OCD this song really resonates with me. I’m not 100% sure if this song is actually about ocd, but honestly it means a lot to be able to relate this much to music like this. Makes me feel like I’m less alone.

@montanahopkins3025 4 года назад

I absolutely love all your music. You have your own style that's unique and special. I'm hoping one day I can see him in concert for my first concert. My son is only two and loves loves your songs. You put so much into your music, I love it! Keep up the good work!! Can't wait to hear another song of yours!

@mercilessdevil3178 4 года назад

The fact that he talked about something so sensitive in a good expressive way with his wonderful voice is just mind-blowing 💕You are amazing !!!

@kassendrasalzet4420 4 года назад

I like when the song change of mood and go more dark bravisimo👏

@aliyam4023 3 года назад

I used to have OCD and intrusive thoughts and I was shocked when I first heard this song, it was like all those memories coming back. And then I got worried that Will Jay wrote this song. I hope you're alright Will

@franstetix 4 года назад

this song popped up on my fyp on tiktok and I immediately recognize it, I hope from this Will will have the attention he deserves

@GabeLazarYT 4 года назад

this is giving me Adam Lambert - If I Had You vibes and I'm all here for it!!!

@sadoklajmi 4 года назад

This is like... the most genius song I've heard in a minute 🤯

@kayleemcgee4421 4 года назад

I’m so picky about my music and I have a specific taste and I haven’t heard one song that I don’t like. I literally love your music so much. Keep going

@stijnvanrijnberk 4 года назад

I remember will jay from years ago and now. Its like GROWTH AND SLAY

@Shiavin 4 года назад

Gosh I love RU-vid for recommending me this awesome song~ I'm in love with Will Jay now, hands down.

@justinerose3396 4 года назад

I was wondering where I've seen this man's face before. Turns out he was in Todrick Halls 'Disney Dudez" video 6 YEARS AGO! I'm so happy to see how Will's music career has grown.

@syfinne2268 4 года назад

the vocals, the visuals😩❤

@lemonate7307 4 года назад

I can hear this song in a badass roberry action scene in a movie

@nicarowe3568 4 года назад

I love when the ad ends up being another one of his songs

@damayanthifernando2594 4 года назад

Omg I love this. The story begind it is also very true, the dark side of perfection. THIS DESERVES MUCH MORE ATTENTION !!!❤❤

@sallyw.3065 4 года назад

This song is awesome.

@ugaugabugaduga 4 года назад

This song is A FREAKING MASTERPIECE. I LOVE IT. LOVE FOR ALBANIA

@helenacecilia9775 4 года назад

he is one of my favorites artists so far! all his songs are fire

@Carrottastic 4 года назад

This is my favorite from the album 😍

@eefstiddy 2 года назад

I WAS TRYING TO REMEMBER THE NAME OF THIS SONG FOR THE LONGEST TIME BUT COULDN'T REMEMBER ANYTHING ABT IT EXCEPT THAT IT WAS SO GOOD THEN I SAW ANOTHER SONG BY WILL JAY AND RECOGNIZED THE NAME I AM SO HAPPY RN

@afterlaughtre 4 года назад

just wow ???

@Terrox_ 3 года назад

This dudes voice. Oh my God.

@seaveyhonoret3802 4 года назад

love this song and the picture is so prettyy 👀

@gloriang4951 4 года назад

thank you for another amazing song in the album 🥺🥺

@jess1131 4 года назад

Sir, thank you for your music🙏

@kayashainiem2281 4 года назад

This is so freaking amazing!! I love this soooo much. 💖

@Kyuubi1161 Год назад

The first time I heard this song I knew it was about OCD. It's so relatable. Thanks for being so open and making this song.

@nesrinealiane665 4 года назад

Omg! From the first second. I can proudly say that I'm addicted to this one. Love it soo muchh *sub*

@jewelgibson9499 4 года назад

I love this man and his music so much! Thank you for sharing your music with us all :')

@RoboNightcore 4 года назад

I Need Control while listening to this great Song

@miraclezzgaming2336 4 года назад

Omg the lyrics thooo.. Mind blowing facts.. Btw who else found this song frm tiktok?

@spongebob8157 4 года назад

My favorite song by you so far. Like its so catchy, the whole song.

@kimjoohans 2 года назад

Still my jam until now 😔 so sad ppl sleep on this amazing music

@mp6899 4 года назад

Will, you are truly amazing.

@dashanikitina5337 4 года назад

THIS IS SO UNDERRATED WHAT THE HELL

@geodeheart 4 года назад

i love this song!

@biscoffology 4 года назад

this song is so relatable i feel like i wrote it wtf this is amazing.. like ur in my head :o

@mocmylov 4 года назад

This is fire

@rebycovers1596 3 года назад

i love this song, this is one of the very few songs i can relate to so much, maybe because of the concept that is bad but honestly it is very comforting

@jessielastname754 4 года назад

It's the way he sings ''everything's fine'' for me

@thebiggestnerdynerd6250 3 года назад

Everyone talking about how this song is so relatable but I'm here just because I have a psycho oc and this fits him so good

@rheakirkland8832 4 года назад

Thank you for this. You are so inspiring

@nathaliedenhollander8035 4 года назад

You did such a good job, we’re all super proud of you

@wat4338 2 года назад

the melody, its really fits with your voice

@abdie6569 2 года назад

tbh this is waay underated its so good

@user-mu8he1lf6c 4 года назад

That’s so powerful

@noahishmri 4 года назад

Your music is incredible as always. It's just so satisfying I can't stop listening to it

@conferencecall42 4 года назад

The last 30 seconds of this song are a marvel, vocally and production wise 🥴good job

@theoneandonlydrowlf819 3 года назад

Ooooh, I'm obsessed with the way he says "terrified"

@nurianunezfreire9696 3 года назад

Underrated

@memetime5216 4 года назад

Same haha my family said I didn't talk for first few years and they went to doc for that

@fudanshidean3816 4 года назад

NEW FAN... 😍😘💕❤👌👏🙏

@seandunavant 4 года назад

Everything you produce is immaculate.

@kiuura 4 года назад

This song speaks to me on another level

@Hannah-fy2sf 4 года назад

I SAW THE NEW SOMG AND ITS PAST MIDNIGHT BUT I SHOUTED WITH JOY OH MY GOD IM SO EXCITED

@spongebob8157 4 года назад

I love your style so muuuch. Im literally addicted.

@lovergaara 4 года назад

Love this album keep going ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@kharislumapas1272 4 года назад

This is what my anxiety sounds like and it's addicting.

@reilly4764 4 года назад

I love the way you rebranded yourself so much better

@richardthered3772 4 года назад

Eurythmics vibes ❤️

@bananasinfrench 2 года назад

These harmonies go hard, chills

@theeargasmchannel 4 года назад

UGH this is too good!

@dianejones3816 3 года назад

Thank you for taking the time to make this. We all love it and btw you have the voice of the heavens- Just know if you need us we *will* be here for you! We support you and we hope you continue doing this at your own pace, Don't overwork yourself with it! We love you!