Will our relationship work? (INFP + INTJ) | CS Joseph Responds 

Don’t get me wrong, I love ENxPs and I’ve had great times with them. I think the reason I stuck around INxPs more though is because of the shared introversion. I feel less burned out than when I’m around the extroverted counterparts. I’ve gone my own way and don’t do relationships anymore but the xNxPs are definitely my favorite people. I love you all.

Bros just trying to keep all the INTJs to himself - an INFP with a crush on all the INTJs

I'm an INFP and an INTJ colleague of mine has recently confessed to me that he has feelings for me. I am not interested, although the whole straight in your face Ni love confessions and text messages are very endearing to my Ne parent. He catched feelings for me just because I am the only person in the world who's being nice to him, and is patient enough to deal with his temper. He comes off extremely arrogant, and his Fe trickster makes him behave mega weird (but I have to admit sometimes fe trickster's flexes are golden). Eventually, INFP-INTJ relationships stems from rule number 2 of loving an INFP. "Don't give up on them." Because we're so used to people giving up on us, and not sticking around, we end up not giving up on others, no matter what - because we know how painful it is when somebody gives up on you, and we don't want other people to feel what it's like being given up on. So we dig straight into their core, as we wish somebody would have done the same to us. Also, INFP's nature is extremely sympathetic. When I see this fe trickster incidents, I just think to myself - well, I myself do not really catch all social rules and ettiquette, I myself sometimes act weird, say stupid things, etc. So instead of judging INTJ's like everyone else, I'm being sympathetic. This is even more important with INTJ women in terms of friendship. You once filmed a video about how can an INTJ get female friends, and you were talking about it mostly from a nurtural point of view, but from a nature point of view - the advice that I would have given is to actually find an INFP friend. INFP's are usually extremely likeable by people, while INTJ's usually extremely unlikeble. So, they can learn a lot from INFP's about about how to be more likeable. Though, highly agree with the bottom line - this is not a relationship for marriage.

My partner’s an INTJ. I started binging most of your videos on them as well as the ones on INFPs because we’re both dedicated enough and love eachother enough to MAKE it work. This video confirmed everything I had been feeling for months which I had feared but it also gave me the information I need so that we’re both ready to move forward I think. Thanks CS, sorry about talking shit about you from time to time. 😂

"Intjs choosing Inps is playing it safe" is a hard pill to swallow. But I can't deny that it may be true.

I (male INFP) was once in a relationship with an INTJ girl in college. She actually initiated conversation with me on the day we met, and that alone was enough to leave an impression in me. The beginning of the relationship was filled with great moments, little conflict, good relationship with her family, daily sex, and we traveled at least twice. The decay of the relationship came immediately as its end. We agreed to be friends, but one day she randomly disappeared from all social media and essentially erased me and every trait of myself from her whole existence, including separating herself from everyone she knew who was associated in some form with me. She's impossible to find nowadays.

INFP Jane Eyre rejected INTJ (also possibly ISTJ) St. John Rivers for being too cold and unemotional. Jane said in the book she would rather feel a burst of anger than coldness. And I think Mr. Rochester was likely either an ESTP or ENTJ. Who are more prone to bursts of anger than aloofness.

This all applies to my life to a scary level. My husband is an INFP and I am INTJ. He acts more like an ENFP though. I picked him out and approached him. I felt strangely comfortable talking to him. He thought I was funny. NOBODY ever thought I was funny. We met in mid teen years and have been together for 18 years with one child. It was our first relationship. Neither of us had romantic relationships before. Becoming indignant has been one of the top problems in our case. I always get frustrated because he feels insulted by my direct approach about things. I have put out financial fires in the past. He has put out some too for me but mostly with issues around introversion, social awkwardness, and family matters.

As an INTJ who dated some INPs in the past… I honestly don’t recommend it unless you are old and need to settle. I played it safe with 2 of my INP partners where their Ni critic always got in the way. It was soooooo annoying! Annoying! Being triple movement and wanting things happen fast, especially as an INTJ woman, dating them is the “slow road.” INTJs aren’t forceful or demand shit like an ENJ so it’s hard to articulate what you want to the INPs. It’s hard to make them want the relationship with you. Sure they are consistent and it feels like they want the relationship but the annoying “let’s see what happens” from them doesn’t give you that certainty. You want a fast relationship INTJs? Date an ENFP then. Imo as I’ve been into typology for 2 years or more.. I notice that I myself do better with ENPs but the ENFP is more willing to speed up and give you what you want out of the relationship. That’s my take. Anyways good video chase!

I think I'm friends with an INTJ :3 I don't think I could ever be in a relationship with this person, but we get along pretty well, and that's awesome

I am an infp and I have to admit Chase is right about the need for power and authority although I have just started to think about in in those terms thanks to him. I have noticed lately that I tend to want to keep around people that I consider at or above my ‘level’ be it how deeply someone can hold a conversation or how steadfastly they hold on to their values (even if they differ from my own, I admire that - as long as they are not trespassing mine lol) but yeah…if I think of it in terms of the ‘power’ they bring to my life simply by elevating my status and making me more knowledgeable and therefore giving me more ‘authority’ that is exactly what it is 😳 (also, how can we submit questions to Chase??)

I need a table for this sexual compatibility, I always forget the order.

Going on a date with an INFP tomorrow... this came in at an interesting time :)

Nice haircut! INFJ woman in a relationship with an INFP man currently facing some troubles. So watched any way, everything i can use to help is very much appreciated.

Very true Mr Cs joseph trust issues and betrayal is main issues for intj

Im missing my infp but I know she'll find her way home

As an INTJ, I have very ambivalent feelings towards INFPs. It seems like I attract them like a magnet 😕. Wondering why I keep attarcting so many of them, and comparatively few ENFPs/ENTPs.

As a child that became the result of this benefactor relationship- it didn't work out. NTJs won't put anything above their business

What a timing. I'm INTJ and just by looking at the few early interactions I had with an INFP girl that I'm interested in at the moment, I can see how the steps you described for failure are likely to happen. BTW, this is scary AF for me: I'm a novice in the personality types and cognitive functions world, but I thought that there would be a bigger wiggle room in the dynamics between types. This video sounds so plausible, that makes me think there's very little instead.

Hey ,. This might be a weird question, but : I actually right now am in the process of maybe starting to Date an INFP girl. And I agree with almost everything you said here . But I really do believe we have a chance, mostly because she is so incredibly hard working, curious & actively interested in learning and personal growth and good hearted, its almost unbelievable. I mean the amount of suffering and hardship she has consistently had throughout her life is stunning to me, and yet she has one of the best attitude I have ever witnessed, almost. And even if we break up in the end, with 2 young kids or whatever, is that really such a bad thing as long as we keep a kind and reasonable relationship and raise the kids separately as best as we can, if that should happen. ? 🙂. Anyways Nice Video, and it really makes me think, but maybe you dont want to think too much about this stuff maybe., I do believe that if it feels right , then dont be too afraid of taking a chance, even if the types are not the most compatible. But this is what I do, basically all the time, Ne Nemesis bullshit,. But who's to say whats right? Only fate will tell, which requires hope, courage, and the will to try and Fail. That's it

Do you think the “trust” relationship could be anomalously beneficial for INTJ’s because of their virtue and vice? Like each type has a virtue and vice that could save them from the usually inevitable difficulties accompanying each pairing?

When he is speaking in “compatibility terminology” is this unique to his work? I may have to buy this man’s stuff.

Bro stopp promoting every second your bs website

I think I'm a UDUF INTJ, and ive always ended up having bad experiences or endings in relationships with INFP mostly friendships. And it sucks because during the beginning when the relationship was young and we didnt experience emotional incompatibility as much until months or years later. But its fine. Ive genuinely learned to avoid romantic relationships with INFPs no offense, but I would rather have a friend from a distance I will keep my guard up to some extent. And I'll still respect them as well, as long as we don't expose too much vulnerability*. Yes my INFP friend who i was close to several of years later, she was becoming more apparently judgemental. And it was subtle like she wouldnt be direct about what would bother her about me so that I could acknowledge it. She is 5 years older than me and we met based on a common interest. Part of why we split was because she often talked down to me as someone with "not enough experience" to contribute as many ideas to it as I can. As if my ideas or suggestions towards the intellectual subject are not good enough. I am often suspicious of INFPs a lot.

I find myself only really attracted to INFP men, I know those are the only type who I will be compatible with long term. Estp men can excite me, but we clash in the way we see things

Blade Runner vibes in this video's scenery

"that's why God invented editing" lmfao

Should an INFP be flattered if an INTJ tends to seek them out for advice?

nononononono intjs don't "play it safe" or "settle" for inxps. I think most just prefer inxps over enxps. orrrr its a preference thing

Hi Joseph What's the deal with INTJs and their need to consult fortune tellers/ tarot card readings/ astrologers ?? I just want to understand how an INTJ sees the meaning in it when most other people don't..... Yours truly INTJ

I love INFPs 🥺

is it a intj thing of always have a nonstop thinking about it's own mistakes? by the way, how to stop it?

INTJs benefit INFPs in a Socionics Beneficiary relationship.

How about INFPs with INFJs?

Where is the video on different types of relationships/attachment? Companion, natural, intrigue, kindred, etc. TIA

I love watching your videos

Me INFP m'y brother intj WE are very close. In thé house there IS enfp intp esfj they same in other planet for us. Thé xnxj are m'y favorite type

Beard game strong!

Fucks Sake brother, I want a relationship video on an ENTPxINFP relationship

So… which types should INFP be in relationships with? Besides ENFJ, of course…

What would you consider the funnest relationship pairs in terms of friendships?

So why can't Si child reject anyone? So much truth to this, but why is this true?

No. It is going to fall apart.

Have you got a video like this for INTP + INTJ?

Why do you make so much video’s about INTJ’s? Are we your primary audience?

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Thank you Chase) What do you think is the most ideal type of woman for infp men? 🤔(long term)

ELON MUSK (INTJ) + GRIMES (INFP) = ?