Whether you’re an athlete with championship dreams, an entrepreneur building a business, a CEO managing an empire, a salesperson closing a deal, or simply a competitor determined to stand in the winner’s circle, Winning offers thirteen crucial principles for achieving unbeatable performance.
This one is tough, especially the experience of that daughter to her dad, many of us much rather have a balanced life and I'm in that category. I rather be there with my family than win at all cost, because in the end all you have is your family.
Agreed. He's gonna be old, not caring about the money he made, but missing the moments he didn't spend with his daughter. You can also win with family in life, not just career.
Hey man, I have been listening to your content for several months now. I can tell you that you have improved your explanation so good that you really should right a book about your productivity improvement techniques, I will gladly get it and benefit from it. Honestly, I rarely write comments on YT, but you work is top top. Keep up the good work!
I love how the story with the daughter is so polarizing. How you react to that story is such a great gauge of what your values are, and how you should personally live your own life.
It's funny how one self-help books sometimes contradict a bit with the other. In this book, you say that you need to sacrifice your quality time with friends and family. In another book, it says, what regrets you the most on your death bed is how you spent so little time with your family and friends, not how little you work during your lifetime.
One of your best videos till date,I know this topic is polarizing but I completely agree with the author on this one,I don't care for the folks who are bashing you and the author on here,keep up the great work 👍
Thank you for this excellent summary, you pointed out some of these crucial questions that need to be addressed to succeed . I can't thank you enough and will use the link to purchase the book. Thank you
@@lytnin88 if it comes to having a well rounded secure life-family, friends, financial freedom, etc. having a balanced life is good but when it comes to making it to the pinnacle of something (top 1%) having an unbalanced life is key i would focus on my craft while young and aim to make it to the pinnacle, once i reach it, i would then branch out and have a more well rounded life
Tim Grover said it’s one of the greatest risk you can take. The goal to become top 1%.. Look at MJ and Kobe.. they might be hated by their family and friends but the whole world loves them. After they achieved such a amount of greatness. You can gamble being loved by short term or being loved forever. Either way win or not you will receive a tons of hate and love in your life.. but at least you’re a winner.
Hi, I have always loved your narration about the books and their core messages that you put in all of your video... Especially your voice and the end note. I have one question for you. Are you reading physical book or using digital devices like kindle...?
This is just a summary of how the Japanese people rose to phenomenal success ( economy and technology) within a very short time , one generation after the war. Work to death is a real cause of death, so are suicides after failures.
Then what’s the alternative? Dying without seeing your full potential.. dying and tell yourself that you’ve been sitting all day relaxing and justifying everything. Look at Elon Musk he do everything to achieve his goal whatever it takes because the alternative is much worst seeing your dreams didn’t accomplished.
In the end it’s all about the hype, the marketing, the viewership, the likes, and the money. Don’t look at winning as a destination, they are just a vehicles. There’s no winning here on earth worth destroying your family and your relationship for, Nothing. So, do not look winning as an end goal they are just vehicles.
What a devastating mindset to base your life on ! I deeply feel it is not worth it. There are so much more meaningful things out there. I wonder if you apply all the advices /mindsets of the books you read
@@nicolas6543 fixing your goals to winning in a certain arena, says a sport for instance, keeps you away from life. You become a maniac that is optimised for only one confirguration. I find way more fulfilling to comprehend (experience) the world around in its complexity, to have great relationships. To fail, and be ok with that. I also think that the winning type of guy is fustrated most of its time. Even after the momentary joy of winning. Let alone those who have a that mind set and still lose some (most) of their matchs. Detrimental on your life and those around you. Tell me what you think, I am interested
@@antoinedelaunay5706 I wouldn't say it keeps you away from life. If anything it would make your life more worthwhile. You might have fun building multiple relationships and to comprehend the entire world, but wouldn't that go through dedicating your time to one specific thing? to mastering it? I'd prefer knowing a few people very well than knowing fifty people shallowly. So in a way it's just choosing what you want to do. One of your goals could also be getting to know people well. As for failing, failing is essential in eventually achieving something. However you can't just keep failing and hope for things to get better. I'd have to rewatch the video for a better understanding of the context but I wouldn't say winning is the act of winning something, or being better than someone else. The way I see it is being better compared to who you were yesterday, or the day before. Winning is the mentality of wanting to be better and never give up. Personally, I've had my parents call me obsessive with work sometimes. But that doesn't mean it's detrimental to them. Sure I could have deeper relationships but I still consciously take the time to enjoy myself and to spend time with them too. I just cut out the useless talk with people I don't appreciate as much. Sure I get some nasty comments sometimes (from those 50 other people mentioned before) but it makes me happier overall and makes those I truly care about happier too. I'm in a bit of a rush so maybe my ideas weren't formulated very clearly. if you have any questions I'd be glad to answer
All of the great people we know have this kind of thinking.. Imagine if Bill Gates and Steve Jobs choose to party because they said “Nah it’s not worth it of time to give it all” or Elon Musk said.. “There’s more to life than creating business or pursuing space travel” then our world would be in a mess because people don’t want to sacrifice or go all in. Maybe you don’t understand it because you don’t appreciate or know what’s needed to be sacrificed.
Wow, what a sad way to live; no community, full of anxiety & uncertainty, always trying to prove yourself! These rules of the jungle apply in a hyper-masculine world of inequities ruled by hierarchy of every man for himself & no teamwork.
I really really liked the video and the philosophy that the author of the book was trying to teach but where it really fell apart for me was the lack of discussion on the natural talent or gift that one needs to have in order to succeed in a particular domain, I 100% believe that people like MJ live and breathe the kind of lifestyle portrayed in the book but here’s the thing - Everyone who is winning lives by these principles but everyone who lives by these principles won’t necessarily win. Maybe having sufficient natural talent is one of the axioms and the author assumes that the people reading these books are aware of the axiomatic system in which rules in the book are developed.I’m not sure whether this is the case or that he knows that mentioning harsh truths like natural talent would alienate common folks like me.Any thoughts?
Where is the proof for natural talent? How do we quantify and measure it? Also how do you reconcile the idea of natural talent with the research conducted into expertise, by Anders Ericsson?
I wonder if Tim Grover thought to use Charlie Sheen and Donald Trump as his examples instead, great examples of people who prioritised winning in the fashion he suggests - might not sell the book so well.
It seems to me this bloke has written a whole book to justify to himself why he turned his back on his daughter when she asked him not to. And I ain't buying it. Your wins are immortal and your losses fade away. What if your daughter becomes a drug addict because she couldn't make sense of why her Dad chose work over her. That one won't fade too fast.
I would just like to add: Sorry to get all dark, I love your work and I think you do a great job of dissecting these books. It seems to me your choice of book is getting narrower and more mainstream. Can I suggest you cover a more diverse range of topics and then relate them to productivity. I accept it would be more demanding but I think you're up to it and it could add tremendous value. Would love to hear your take on a buddhist philosophy. Cheers.
Lol that’s some Drama Bullshit… why the heck the daughter would become drug addict just because you’re so well driven person. In some cases most successful people with this thinking was passed down to their children that’s why they’re 100% supportive in that case. Also technically how many hours your children need? You don’t need constant time for children just the right amount. And if a family member doesn’t support you then why the heck you become a family if you don’t want member of your own to win.
I enjoy most of your videos but highly disagree with this one. 1. Betting on yourself: Yes, but it shouldn't be to "show others", but because you love yourself and are genuinely convinced of your capabilities 2. Leverage your dark side: Hate and revenge are negative emotions. We should free our brains of that instead of feeding them. Saying that to be successful, you should fuel those emotions is nonsense. 3. Live an unbalanced life: Couldn't disagree more. As human beings, we have many needs that all have to be taken care of to a reasonable extent. There is research on this. People that have a balanced life and still have goals are happier than people who neglect some essential aspect of their lives.
Completely Agree on the first one,but leveraging your dark side necessarily does not mean to take revenge or hold grudges,it is essentially that feeling of rejection or being told you can't do,in some cases not being helped ,all the emotions are stocked in your head to provide you that burning energy which is definitely not revenge,it is more of proving to oneself, the third point is kinda weird ,maybe Grover had an unbalanced life but kobe was definitely not that,he had time for his family and things he wanted to do, example visiting fc barcelona ( a football club in Spain) and watching Ronaldinho play.
I find this advice rather unhelpful and simplistic, bordering reckless. 1. Just because the author worked with these athletes, it does not qualify him to make assessments on what made them "win", especially by boiling their success down to 3 simple points. It is more useful to listen to actual interviews and books written by these athletes. 2. The important thing to consider is why and how to "bet on yourself", and not whether one can or cannot bet on oneself. Anyone can foolishly and destructively take risks. Knowing oneself enough to make good decision, and having and garnering support from others to successfully pursue difficult goals require a much more different mentality and work. 3. Most importantly, what does it mean to "win"? Grover's emphasis on sacrifice is unhelpful, since he does not appraise what exactly it means to "win". There are always opportunity costs and sacrifices made in life, even at the most basic everyday level. Just because one makes a sacrifice, does not mean you will "win". Him sacrificing his time with his daughter is not necessarily directly linked to his performance at work, and there could have been many other options and decisions he could have made. This last point comes across more as his justification for neglecting his family rather than taking a cold hard look at the values he's choosing in life, and what he has failed to achieve. Balance is one of the values that most top athletes do preach, whether it's to take care of themselves mentally or physically.
If you read the book you’ll understand what really grover trying to say. Being Mediocre/Loser doesn’t guarantee you a good life. No one does. But on the other side winning does offer a lot of great things. Winning really means is achieving what you really want not settling for less. What Grover said is that most people try to justify everything that “well at least I have good time with my friends” Then after years in their death bed.. saying “I wish I achieved my dreams” Also some people pretend they are happy with mediocre/loser life but have bigger problems such as unpaid mortgage and huge debt. The book says no matter what you do winner, mediocre, loser life will screw you.. But at-least winning is the only have amazing rewards.
the message of this book sounds so wrong; live an unbalanced life? winning is immortality? how about living an examined life instead and questioning what your fundamental values really are?
thanks, great reminder in #3 - inbalance to me this perpetuates BS myth of heroes timely Olympics BS too only 1 Gold medal rest all losers? ? ? really ? ? ? it's such an unhealthy mindset a useful one is where the ordinary guy can do his natural best doing what he enjoys doing and make his way thru life learning to take care of himself first, then those close to him peace 😊
