Woman RUINS Child's Birthday Party?! 

First story It’s a rare thing for a job place to value disabled workers. Disability unemployment is crazy high and it’s amazing to have a boss who is willing to accommodate people with disabilities. It’s disgusting that workers openly say that disabled workers are not valid for work. The manager’s attitude should be the basic norm 😊

Not exposing babies to diseases isnt some new generation thing. My Grandpa and his siblings all got Tuberculosis as kids. His youngest brother died. My Great grandfather (his Dad) came to visit me as an infant. He had a cold so he insisted that my Mom hold me up to the window so he could see me. He sat outside in the cold Minnesota winter to see me because he wouldn't dare expose a little baby to the sniffles. This isnt a new concept people just suck.

I actually had a similar situation to the miscarrage story. I had a miscarrage the day before I was traveling to see my grandparents. My siblings and their partners were also traveling to see them for the holidays. Since this meetup was planned even before I became pregnant and my grandmother had been a huge support through my pregnancy, I decided to go. I knew my sister in law was pregnant, and when she was there she brought out her ultrasounds and they took pregnancy's photos with everyone and of course they were very happy. I felt like screaming at the time, but I knew her being pregnant was not a slight against me and she had every right to be happy. Whenever I felt overwhelmed I just went to my room to talk with my grandmother through my feelings and process everything while not trying to ruin my sister in law's happy time. I love my nephew now and I am so glad that I did not act the way the person in the story acted and possibly damaged my relationship with my brother and sister in law.

For Story 2: I just want to add that it’s frankly no one‘s business why OP isn’t drinking. It doesn’t matter that she’s been known to drink before. There are plenty of reasons why someone might choose not to drink at an event. Maybe she recently had a bad experience involving alcohol. Maybe she recently started a new medication. Maybe she just doesn’t want to drink that day. She shouldn’t have to justify that for any reason. As Rebecca said, sure, maybe some people will speculate, but to put someone on the spot like that and force them into telling you their reasons is insensitive and unnecessary. No one owes you an explanation for their choice not to drink.

As a person who's disabled, I love to hear a boss sticking up for their employee like that. I agree with you about all the apples.

I think it's super icky that the everyone was acting like not drinking was some huge slight. The fact they acted like no one not drinking should even show up tells me this family has a problematic relationship with alcohol. What if she was the driver?

4th story : There's actually an update to that one and BD girl's mother lied to the whole group to gather sympathy from the other mothers of the group chat. So not only was OP not the bad apple, but BD girl's mom was a rotten apple through the whole thing.

For the first story, Rebecca doesn’t even acknowledge the fact that the unemployment rate of people with disability’s is so high, especially in the US, especially with a navigational disabilities such as deafness or blindness, so it is so valuable that this person not only has a job, but it is also so nice that there are systems set in place to help this person do their job. It is the people like Sally that causes so much harmful stigma that hurts millions of amazing, hardworking people. People with disabilities need to work twice as hard to gain half the respect and this shows how important it is that we don’t just sit around expecting them to deal with the problems alone

Story #3: *not a parent* however, seeing your grandchildren is a privilege not a right. If you’re not going to respect a parent’s boundaries, they have every right to not bring the child around you. Circumstances don’t matter. If she asks you not to do something to HER child, then you MUST respect it. **If you don’t file them on your taxes, you don’t get a say**

Story 2: Her sister shouldn’t have asked a question she wasn’t going to like the answer to smh

Story 2: Good apple! OP was likely pregnant *before* the sister had her miscarriage. She does not have to terminate her pregnancy just because her sister experienced a tragedy! She was AMAZING for showing up to support her sister, while even deciding to keep it a secret to allow her sister time to grieve. Good apple!!

1: Good Apple, OP is looking out for the safety of a disabled employee and it was obvious Sally didn’t care. 2: Good apple, did absolutely nothing wrong. The sister went out of her way to make it about OP who was trying not to make it about herself. 3: good apple, people need to get over themselves. 4: good apple, bday girl’s mom is entitled and the bday girl literally didn’t care. She was even happy about it bday girl’s mom ruined the party for herself.

I've had 3 miscarriages 1 almost killed me and I say the op was definitely a good apple! She tried so hard to keep it to herself. A lot of family friends of mine have gotten pregnant and I just avoided those situations for a while. Miscarriages are hard but the sister was there for her. She tried hiding it.

I am not a mother either, but my mom explained to me that she used to breastfeed all of us in solitude because is the moment to connect with the baby. Also the mother of the story, she had a traumatic delivery, so it's normal to feel protective of her baby (even if you don't have a very traumatic delivery, it's normal to get protective, we have the instint to "protect the cub"). The grandparents are fn entitled. Good apple.

Story 4 Good apple Like Rebecca said the mom should put it on the invites saying that her daughter is warming if it was a big deal if they match her daughter. There’s like 12 Disney Princesses so I assume that other kids would match each other if there were many kids at the party. It’s not op fault that doesn’t have any communication with not wearing the same dress as the birthday girl

I love Apple #1's response to that situation! It's a rare employer who is willing to accomodate their employee's disability AND stand up for them when needed! We need more bosses like Apple #1! GOOD APPLE :D

The last story as a parent if I didnt want other children to wear the same costume as my daughter I would have communicated it in the invite or in someway. Hey my daughter is going to be Aurora, you guys are welcome to dress up, but please no other Auroras. Communication is key and it sounds like this mother if she had known she would have had her daughter wear something different. No reason for the birthday party to be ruined and her daughter was happy to be wearing the same costume. No reason to make anyone change. As a parent the most important thing to me at my kids birthday party is that they are happy, and her daughter was happy.

Story 2 - OP was in a damned if you do, damned if you don't situation. She goes and the truth is forced out then treated as if that was her plan. She doesn't go and her sister is pissed with her for not coming to support her. It doesn't seem like it mattered what she did, her sister was going to be mad at her. Hopefully, though, her grief is getting the better of her and when her emotions aren't running high she'll apologize to OP for lashing out the way she had. Story 4 - If the little girl wasn't excited about the shared costumes anymore, then her mom flat out manipulated her daughter into feeling that way. The first reaction was genuine and how she actually felt. If the mom didn't want anyone to wear the same costume and she was doing one of the more popular princesses, then she tells the parents so they don't wear that costume. The photo wasn't ruined by the daughter wearing the same costume, it would have been ruined if she wasn't seeing as she would have stuck out like a sore thumb.

The last story feels like proof that the whole "women getting angry when they wear the same dress" thing is kind of a self-fulfilling prophecy at this point.

For the last story....I have done birthdays at my family's gymnastics gyms and trampoline park, and at the park, the number of times I had a parent claim that we "ruined" the party because of something we couldn't controle and the kid was still having a blast, trust me, little kids couldn't care less 💜 give them sugar friends and something to do and they are chillen

I haven’t even finished watching the first one yet but oh my god. I used to work in a kitchen with multiple Deaf employees (I’m not Deaf but am fluent in ASL) and oh my God I would get so mad when people wouldn’t even try to communicate and accommodate. Look, sometimes people are lazy and something they forget things, I understand. But knowingly doing something wrong just because you don’t care enough to make a simple accommodation to make someone else’s life easier??? I would be so flipping mad. Also, if a pan is hot enough that it’s still sizzling? That shit’s gonna leave a mark. I have the burn scars to prove it (minor but I’ve worked in food service for years, you don’t escape without a few burn marks). And where, exactly, would it burn him? On their hands. A pan that hot could do some serious damage, not only could it put a dishwasher out of work for a few days but someone who uses sign language to communicate would be impacted even further but limiting their scope of communication, especially if it was their dominant hand. I’m not even Deaf and I’m super paranoid about injuring my hands because I wouldn’t be able to sign. Like, people like her piss me the f off.

Loved story number 1 I have a disability myself and loved that the manager was supporting this person, more managers need to do this and help to support and adaptor workplace when needed.

3rd story: Your baby, your rules. Don't take that disrespect. Not the bad apple.

With the third story and having boundaries for babies don’t change when their kids are adults either. My brother had been diagnosed with diabetes and my family had gone to a gathering very close to his diagnosis. My mom made it very clear to check with her when giving him food so she can give him insulin or make sure he could actually eat it. But my grandpa and ignored this request and giving my brother chocolate cake, anyways he want super high and we had to give my brother fast acting insulin to drop him down to normal and watch him the rest of the night to make sure he didn’t drop either, and my mom was so angry at my grandpa because he wanted to give his grandson some cake.

I have a similar miscarriage story. I and one of my sisters-in-law on my husband's side of the family were due the same week, and we were so excited to be having our babies so close together. Unfortunately, I miscarried right before Thanksgiving, and my husband let his family know about the miscarriage because I was too upset to do so. I took my two-year-old daughter to Thanksgiving dinner at my in-laws' house, but my husband had to stay home with a case of food poisoning. Everyone had been very supportive and understanding of my grief which was made especially hard since it was a "late" miscarriage when we had thought we were past the point when most miscarriages happen. In addition, with my sister-in-law also due the same week that I would have been due, I knew that I would have to watch her go through her pregnancy after losing my baby. I was pretty much a wreck, especially since I had no indications of miscarrying. I just went in for a regular appointment, and the baby had no heartbeat. My husband and I both felt as if we had been blindsided. Just after we had all sat down to Thanksgiving dinner, my other sister-in-law, who knew about my miscarriage, announced to the whole table that she and her husband were also expecting a baby ... and that she was also due the same week as my other sister-in-law was due (and I had been due). I had to sit through the whole dinner, trying so hard not to break down. No one said anything to me at all (probably a good thing), and my husband wasn't there for support. I managed to congratulate my sister-in-law and brother-in-law before leaving early. I packed up my sleeping daughter, drove around the corner, stopped the car, and cried my eyes out before finally driving home. If they had just let me know ahead of time (even the same day would have helped), allowing me the choice of whether or not to attend Thanksgiving knowing that they would be announcing their pregnancy, the whole situation would have been so much easier on me. But being blindsided during the family Thanksgiving meal just ten days after my miscarriage was one of the most challenging days of my life. I have to admit that it took me a long time to forgive that sister-in-law.

For the 4th story, another point to support good apple is that if Aurora was the only one in a t shirt and shorts, she would stand out even more than having 2 girls in a aurora dress. Like if there's 2 girls then it looks like they all match because I'm sure there were similar dresses for other princesses because Disney makes them pretty standard other than a few details for the character.

For story number 2: Why do people even assume a woman is pregnant if she does not want a drink. No one should ever need to explain why they are not consuming alcohol, regardless if they enjoyed a drink in the past. Totally agree with you about that friend.

I work at the Bibbidi Bobbidi Boutique, the amount of times I’ve been accused of “ruining” a child’s experience for something as small as this. Most of the time, the kid is fine with whatever the situation is. Most of the time the problem is the experience wasn’t what the parents envisioned. If dressing in a dress similar to Aroura was an issue the parent should have said something to the other parents.

I have very entitled grandparent (in-law). My MIL tried to exclude ME from holidays and birthday parties (at my house). Spoke over me with anything and everything pertaining to my children. I heard my husbands name mentioned one time too many and let her have it. It was over a CARSEAT!!!! the children were 18 months and 3 months. She waived her hand and me shooing my and said my son has a say so. I said ummm pretty , as MOTHER have a say so. It's againts the law in the state of Virginia that children remain in a carseat until the age of 8. She then proceeds to say I've done it before and I'll do it again. I yelled my husband's full name. She was flabbergasted my husband defended me. I said if you ever do something that poses a direct harm to my children you will not be unsupervised, your son isn't God. I as mother can say NO and if you dare to speak like this to me again you wont be welcome here again and if you want to continue to push the envelope son here or not cause a problem you will be escorted out and be educated as to whos the mother and queen of this castle. Never respected boundaries with food. With me or the children... according to MIL Celiac Disease is seeking attention. Since she wasn't allowed to view my full medical history she more than once tampered with my food. Kids are allergic to fake sugars and certain dyed food. MIL would smirk at me and said I wanted to play house so I could deal with the children. I was married for years when this comment was made. Kids were sick as a dog. I called my husband and said so your wife is busy playing house, you should ask your mother what she fed our kids and why she smirked at me when I asked what am I in for now and told me if I wanted to play house I could go home and play house. MIL would refuse to hand my children back. Waived me off telling me I hold them too much, it was her turn. I said her turn was up and it will be a long time before she holds a daughter again because she couldn't respect me. I asked her why was she so invested when she wanted me to terminate the pregnancy, even more so when she found out it was a GIRL and days ago said she knows NOW the baby's (husband's name) because it has his nose. With comments like that and actions like this she is wearing out her welcome and told her to leave. I was once again told the house wasnt mine, it was her sons. I flung the back door opened and list it on my husband. I said i told your mother to leave and since your awful mother thinks she can refuse to hand my crying child over to me, knows two days ago its ACTUALLY your child and from the start of this pregnancy wanted her dead, SHE has to go before I call the police to trespassing. I told her to leave and she has 5 minutes, timer starts NOW Im done with her games. This is the final warning leave or face the aftermath of constantly pushing the disrespect entitled button... she left in a huff. That was the final straw and baby number 3. Its been 3 years since ive had to deal with the MIL.

In the first story, the people that told the manager that he was a jerk for what he did. The manager needs to ask those people: "Okay, so when our dishwasher inevitably gets injured by your carelessness, do you want to be the ones to pay for his medical expenses?" I'm sure that's gonna shut them up cause no one wants to pay for those.

Story 3: you're right. It's gross when family members don't respect parents' boundaries. Little ones can get so sick. 🤒 RSV/flu/ Covid / whooping cough is no joke!

Story 2. As someone who has had 2 very traumatic miscarriages and can’t stand to see people pregnant I would NEVER act like that. I still congratulate them and take myself off and cry. I’m not over the moon as I’m not very good at hiding my feelings but I do work very hard at trying to seem happy for them. Luckily no one in my life has gotten pregnant since I’ve started (no one close a few clients have but I don’t have to see them every day and each of them have had terrible times with their pregnancies or getting pregnant so I’m just happy for them) so I don’t have to have it in my face. But we have to do IVF now to get pregnant. I don’t believe she was the bad apple. She tried to be there for her sister who was grieving. My sister hasn’t been there for me because it makes her uncomfortable but my mum has been and it’s been a great comfort. I’m the only one that’s going to give her grandchildren so she knows how much pressure I’ve put on myself. I totally understand why she kept it to herself and still went. 100% good apple.

I always get so excited on Tuesday because I know I have a Bad Apple video to look forward to! Thanks for making my day brighter every week 😊

My sister had a friend like Ash. Anything to cause drama between us. It’s like she was jealous of our sibling relationship and would constantly say stuff to try to get my sister mad at me. That was really rough when I was like 13 years old. 20 yrs later and my sister finally sees what kind of person she is. It’s weird.

The friend Ash went to the little sister completely at the direction of the older sister. She was suspicious and wanted confirmation of her theory. And instead of confronting her sister after the party she made a choice probably because she is hurting. I know that this information was not in the letter, I am using something very similar that I myself went through. Grief can be ugly in normal situations, loosing a child is a very different beast. You’re mourning someone you love and you don’t have any kind of closure. You don’t get to see or hold your child. She will wonder what that child would be, especially if she has children in the future. I know that I do on every “birthday” due date, and when my kids hit milestones. Her actions were still wrong and I hope that she realizes that and apologizes. She will hopefully find joy for her little sister and I hope that she’ll get a rainbow baby of her own.

HAPPY APPLE PICKING DAY! I look forward to Tuesdays now because I get to have an apple picking video to look forward to help me get through my Monday and Tuesday. Thanks a lot Mrs Rogers

Apparently all the moms in the chat group talking about 4yo bday party drama have nothing better to do with their day lol they need to meditate - find their centers 😊

Not a parent, but I relate to your cat story visiting your inlaws. My dog has stomach issues and we don't feed him table scraps really at all, but anytime my partner and I went to visit my family with our dog he would always puke in the middle of the night because people never listened to us about not feeding him under the table. And of course they never had to deal with the cleanup because they were all asleep and never heard the commotion. It wasn't until one visit was so bad he had the worst liquid rancid poops on carpet in a house with no doggy door for him to retreat through. After recruiting my grandmother to help with the mess because we didn't know how to actually clean the mess it was that bad, my family finally took the hint to not feed our dog table scraps because someone else could now voice the same thing we had been spouting for over a year now. Thankfully, we can now visit my family, take the dog along, and haven't had an accident since. Moral of the story, pet owners know their pets and shouldn't be second guessed by those who don't live with the pet. I'm sure the same lesson can be applied to parents and their babies, too.

The fact that this was edited to reflect your continuous forgetting to do predictions for stories 2, 3, & 4 was so funny to me.

Story 4: its even easier than that! She can photoshop the dress to be blue, without any ai or other fancy software. And it would be accurate as Araura's dress is pink and blue and different parts of the movie. Literally the best Disney princess costume if you have twin girls.

Story 3. When i had my first, he came 3 weeks early. His lungs were developed enough that he wasn't delayed leaving the hospital. We were lucky. I didn't take him out for 3 months. I was waiting until his immune system built up a bit. My husband was great doing all the shopping. Family respected that and came over only if they were totally healthy and for a few minutes. I held him the whole time. It helped that one of my sisters was a nurse in a NICU ❤

I was a dishwasher when I was in high school. I fail to get the connection between hearing and hot dishes. Due to how how the dishes came out of the machine I build up a good tolerance for higher temperatures on my hands. It was rare to get a hot dish to wash that wasn't the typical end of day stuff. Then it's just knowing the routine. But that was back in the 1990s so maybe there are aspects I don't remember

Nothing like apple picking after Thanksgiving

Tuesdays are great because I can stop worrying about my own problems and worry about other peoples problems

Story 2, it sucks but your pregnancy isn’t about your sister. Definitely not the bad apple. Pregnancy loss is super difficult and I totally understand how sister feels (I’ve had many losses myself) BUT someone else’s pregnancy is completely unrelated to one’s own pregnancy or loss or fertility issues. Sounds like OP was trying not to share that news at that time.

“Why aren’t you drinking at this party to lift up my friend? Are you getting the thing that my friend just lost? I’m going to make you answer in earshot of my friend that lost the thing you have.”

As a disabled worked who's ;among other things; deaf, first story is not a good apple, she's a GREAT GOLDEN APPLE !! ♥♥♥

Story 1. I had deaf grandparents (they passed away when I was I highschool) and the thought that there are people like Sally... That sickens me. Good Apple. Mad props to the boss. I want to go to her restaurant just to thank her! Story 2. She is a good Apple, but when it comes to situations around death and mourning I ALWAYS need to say, you need to communicate EVERYTHING with them before any events like this. You DO NOT want to hit them with ANY surprises while they are in such an emotionally vulnerable state. I feel like she should have talked to her sister before the party, alone (maybe with sisters best friend or something for support) and explain that you were pregnant and ask if she wanted to to go to the party or not. Granted, there is no right answer here. No matter what you do your sister is going to be heartbroken, but you did nothing wrong. Good Apple. Story 3. Pretty easy. Overly entitled grandparent who doesn't recognize the health risk. Good Apple. Story 4. I'm a guy. This reminds me growing up one of my buddies had a soldier party where every kid is dressed up in camo. In the group photo noone can tell who is who anymore and we all laugh about it now. So I am not the right guy to ask about this. But considering the little girl was not upset at all, if anything she was even more excited. Good Apple.

the second mom should have let people know what her daughter was going to be dressed up in. if she did not want someone dressed up like her. the first mom was right she did nothing wrong!

When I got pregnant for the 3rd time I immediately told my family because already having 2 little boys (1 and 3) I figured I could need help if I would get severe morningsickness or something. My brother reacted rather cold to the news but I did not think much of it. Turns out my SIL was also pregnant (their first child) but they wanted to wait before telling people. I found out she was pregnant after she got her 1st scan at 11 weeks, when they found out the baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks and she was having a miscarriage. I was very sad for them! Then, 2 weeks later I got my first scan. I was also 11 weeks by then (I was supposed to have it a week before but I had to reschedule because of our grandmother passing away). I found out I was expecting twins! I was in total shock! First thing I told my mother after I told her the news was : how am I going to tell my brother. It was so hard to call him but I figured it would be better if I told him personally as soon as possible rather than him finding out via someone else. So I did, and t was the hardest thing I have ever done. I really felt horrible. I could not really enjoy my pregnancy and I tried to avoid them as much as possible, not to rub it in to their face. But we do have the same friends so when our friends found out I was having twins, at every gathering they would ask me a lot of questions about it. I got accused by them for talking to much about it when I was just answering the questions. They made me feel like a “bad apple”. But seriously: if God himself had come to me personally and had given me a choice: you have twins or your brother have a healthy baby, I would have picked my brother. I meen, I already had 2 healthy kids and I never wanted to have 4 (our house was not big enough and we also needed a bigger car and buy so much extra stuff because the baby stuff we already had was not enough). Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my twins and I am glad I did not know beforehand that my 3rd pregnancy would be twins because than I would not have gotten pregnant in the first place. But I felt so bad the entire pregnancy.

I had two miscarriages in the time my best friend has her first baby. I was happy for her and heartbroken for me. I had to at times process privately or to my husband, but I made sure to love on her and my nephew. I didn’t take my pain out on her pregnancy and I’m glad I didn’t. I have three kids and she was two, and we are still there for each other. Also congrats to the expectant mother. Your sister’s love for you should give her the grace and maturity to do the right thing.

Story 4. Good Apple. No question. Side note... Forever photo? I'd be the typ of mom to put photos everywhere. On every wall. Especially birthday photos.

I so respect you Rebecca! I was telling my fiance how I appreciate how you mention on every video that we all come from different branches of the apple tree. That we have different opinions but that we don't be ugly With each other. You are the only creator that says that. And my fiance also said he likes that you make sure, in dealing with children, that you are not a parent, and that parents may have different point of views. We both respect your thoughts and Ideas. And you admitting you are not a know it all about certain subjects. I am a grandma of 3 boys. And yes I'm straight down the line same train of thinking as you. I am NOT my grandsons mom, I am their Mothers mom. I give my opinion On something I may not agree with my daughter on. I WON'T say anything in front of My grandsons. I speak in private with my daughter. In finishing I end what I'm saying with this line. They are your children, not mine. I told you how I feel about the subject, and I am going to trust you to do the best for your children. I firmly believe in supporting my daughter in the eyes in her children. No I will not go against her and spoil the grandsons but allowing then to get away with things they aren't allowed to do at home. For me that is very disrespectful to my daughter. So to all those Mee Need, gi gi, granny, grammy,nana ect. Don't over step your children because you want to parent your grandchildren. Its wrong!

Last story: mom definitely a good apple. She did nothing wrong. The other parent is being an entitled brat and the only one having issues with someone matching her child at her child’s birthday party. If my daughter was excited that another child came to her party in the same dress then I’m going to be hyping that excitement and not exclude that child. This other parent is risking teaching her child to bully others and become a mean girl. So good on OP for standing up for her child

For question 4 if the mom of birthday girl did not make prior communication on what princess dress her daughter was wearing and specifically state that no one else should wear that then she has zero leg to stand on asking for change.

I look forward every week for these videos ngl. Love your content queen ❤❤

For the last story she was upset because the pictures weren't instagramable

I just wanna say something about the fourth story. Im 14 have childhood photos of my best friend and I in matching princess dresses and it’s one of my favorite photos ever. And I promise you if Aurora had changed, birthday girl would have been upset that she didn’t have a twin anymore, then we would have had two sad kids. Matching when you’re that little is so fun! Why is mom trying to take that away?🤔

Thank you for brightening up my day!!!!! I have to take the HSPT tmrw and im so stressed from reviewing thx for giving me a break 💜☺️

🍎 #1- Good apple, they aren’t adding any value to your team bye-bye!! 🍎 #2- Good apple, I feel bad for OP actually, no one can celebrate your happy moment cause someone else is going through a hard moment, nope sorry!!! And she didn’t even rub it in her sisters face! 🙄 🍎#3- Good apple, if my in laws had already not followed my rules, I wouldn’t have even gone and visited them to be honest with you. Idc if the rules were the stupidest rules in the world, your baby your rules!!! 🍎#4- Good apple, totally agree… if it had been the little girl freaking out that would have been one thing… bday girls mom crazy pants!! And if she didn’t want anyone else wearing that same costume should have told ppl beforehand.. you didn’t ruin the party!!!

I agree with you on the Aurora little girl. If mom already knew that that child was named that, what would she assume she would dress as?!? And IF her daughter thought it was cool, then no one ruined the party but that mom trying to bee a witch about the b photography!! How Pathedic can you be?! I wonder if there were more then one snow whites or. Cinderella's? And IF she wanted her daughter to be the only sleeping beauty, then she should have made that known on the invitations standard mom 101!! She shouldn't like she has nothing to complain about so she has to find something to "KAREN" ABOUT!!

another thing about the aurora story, the mother says your girl has the same name as her favourite princess, which means the birthday girls mother knew that aurora's fave princess was aurora, and therefore knew that aurora would most likely dress up as aurora, so why would the mother not put her kid in another costume or contact the parents before the party to not dress aurora up as sleeping beauty

Story #3... my mom was a smoker when i had my eldest daughter. This was way back when not much was known about 2nd hand and 3rd hand smoke. My only request was for my mom to NOT smoke while holding my literal newborn. I was 16 at the time for context. Well not only did she light up with my baby on her chest SHE BLEW THE SMOKE ONTO MY BABYs HEAD! It was the 1st time I had the courage to scold MY mom. Of course IIII didnt know whats right & wrong since i was a child myself 🙄

My Thanksgiving was not exactly anything special or fun. My family left me at home alone to take care of things while they went to spend time with my sister and her family in another state. A brother came to get me because he said it was mandatory that I go to Thanksgiving with him to an aunt's house. My aunt and I do not like each other and do not get along unless there are other people around. She's the passive aggressive talk behind your back type. It was an ok day... I've got a lot of good, bad or crab apple stories... I'm mostly just tired of always being left home alone, forgotten or just outright ignored...

Fourth story: if you don’t want kids dressed as the same thing as your kid, maybe say that on the invite 😂 and also, listen to your kid ? Like if the kid is happy, then stop trying to micromanage everything.

I got all good apples too! As long as the kids are happy at the party, there's no issue. Parents can be the worst, I can say that being one😂

Second story: there wasn’t any good plan for OP to do. People would look at her weird for not coming and people would look weird for coming but not drinking. But OP did nothing wrong.

For story 4, I agree completely that she was a good apple. It’s especially odd that the other mom didn’t let people know what her daughter would wear since it was a princess party. There are only 11 official Disney princesses, plus Anna and Elsa; so unless it was a really small party it was guaranteed some girls would be dressed as the same character.

Kitchens are dangerous I worked in many in my younger years. People go stupid when it comes to the dishpit. I had the tips of all my fingers sliced at once several times because people would lay knives in a hidden spot. Servers do have a hard job because they deal directly with the customer, but when they do stuff to piss off the back of house it hurts every one. That boss was fine though my best restaurant boss was crazy he got in fist fights with dumb workers and would toss bad customers out but invite the rest of the party to stay. Most did and their trouble makers would lose it in the parking lot. Also I’m deaf in my right ear and people would try to slide dishes and glasses in to my right and deaf side. I elbowed untold numbers in the face, head, just about anywhere because they would not listen.

Last Tuesday I did a am I the bad Apple and I know I’m just a child, but it would be so cool to see my favorite RU-vidr share my story. The title is, am I the bad Apple for lying to my teacher. I hope you read it. Even if you don’t post a RU-vid video about it it would still be amazing to know that you read it.

You said it right other people’s lives don’t stop

I was in a similar situation to the second story. I was 3 months pregnant when my brother-in-law and his girlfriend had a baby die from complications at birth. The whole family was mourning the death of the baby shortly after the traumatic birth and whenever someone suggested to me that they hope my baby is healthy, I just said, "Today is not the day to focus on my baby. It's not about me. Let's focus on you and your baby." And I stuck with that the whole summer. I also understood that my brother-in-law didn't come to the hospital to visit us when my child was born. But I was actually glad that he didn't come because my baby was almost the exact same size and weight as his and strongly resembles that side of the family. I knew it would be triggering for them. I am so glad my baby was ok, but I also know, that the family still sometimes struggles with knowing that she doesn't have a cousin 6 months older. But I think OP handled it as best she could. She was forced to talk about it.

Thankyou for being such a ray of sunshine!

Miscarriage is rough. We lost our first child at the same time my sister got pregnant. Love my niece but she is a constant reminder of our little girl that could have been… no judgement, my heart just breaks for both of the siblings. (Judging the friend, bad apple kid) Its a tough situation for the girl that lost but its also hard for the baby that survives. My sister didn’t share near as much with me during that period of our lives than she normally does because of the mixed emotions. My wife and I have had a handsome baby boy since then and that helps. Most of the family has moved on. But to be honest its still hard, one doesn’t replace the other.

Story 3- I understand. I didn't get to hold my daughter til she was 2 days old bc she was on oxygen. Then for the next week, it was limited time AND i had complications. So I understand how that mom feels

Number 2, just to add, when someone turns down drinks for whatever reason, regardless if they are usually a drinker or not, it’s toxic to try and pressure someone into drinking.

I agree. All 4 are good apples in my opinion too. I have no reason to argue otherwise. The villain of the stories were other people not the OPs.

I had a dog that got murdered by our next door neighbor. We have another dog and I always make decisions based on what is best for her. I had to move out to college, but I visit her every weekend and just lie there with her and cuddle her. Like I give her so much love and attention that people make fun of me for it. When I moved out my mom told me i could only visit once a month and I told her that's not gonna work out for me and my dog. Also my dog only likes me but for the longest time I had trouble separating her from me. Anytime I wasn't home that would be an issue (it still is sometimes, because she's really picky). And people will be trying to pet my dog without asking. And I can't let that happen because she has a panick attack anytime someone that isn't me tries to pet her. And then they usually mock me for getting so defensive over it.

Okay let’s make something clear. Kissing babies, especially when they’re this young is UNACCEPTABLE. I was 5 when my little sister was born, and when I first held her for the first time, I was so happy that I kissed her. She began crying and would not stop for hours, and her cheek turned a bright red. You see, because they are babies, their skin has not fully DEVELOPED. Soon enough, this didn’t take me long to figure out, and it shocks me that GROWN adults don’t even know that. Also, whether or not it’s harmful to the baby, RESPECT YOUR CHILDS BOUNDARIES! Like, they’re trying to protect THEIR CHILD, so let them be! On top of that, shouldn’t you be worried? The child had complications for goodness sake, and the least you could do is put forth a little effort, to make sure nothing goes wrong! Like, where is your respect?! The mother is 100% a good apple for protecting her child, and as for her family, please learn some respect.

In response to the first story, as a Dishwasher, I say the manager isn’t a bad apple. We dishwashers have a system that we stick to that maximizes our productivity and balances our safety. The Manager clearly liked the guy they had, even if he was deaf, so the attempt to accommodate him was there, and I applaud the manager for that. Sally didn’t care enough to do her job in a way that would keep the dishwasher safe. We get accustomed to burns within six months, but that’s for heat still below 200 Fahrenheit. If a plate is sizzling, it’s more like 300 Fahrenheit, and that can still cause 1st degree burns. Looking at it with hindsight, the manager firing her was the best way to go, because a write up wouldn’t be enough harsh incentive to do the job right. The threat of losing a job is more powerful

I just had an observation here, I’m not a dad so this is all second hand but from what I hear, mom group chats all seem to have all this toxic bickering deal while dad group chats are typically about the best, football or lawn mower brands. Maybe some some diy tips or ideas lol.

24:00 NTA! If the mom had such an issue with another girl dressing as that Princess, she should have noted it on the Invite when stating “This is a Princess Theme Party! Please have your daughter/child dressed as their favorite Disney Princess to join in on the fun! Lilly will be dressing as Aura from Sleeping Beauty. We only ask that no one repeats the costume of the Birthday Girl. Have fun & can’t wait to see what you come as!” There is only so many Disney Princess options to pick. Chances are there are gonna be ones who overlap & with the name of Aura, there’s a good chance that’s the princess your daughter was gonna go as. Just bc that’s her name, doesn’t mean that’s what she had to go as but as a non biased 3rd party & seeing her name as Aura, I would assume that’s what she automatically would be unless you said something else. That other mom is NUTS.

Story 2: My sister and I were pregnant at the same time, she was a couple of months ahead of me. Now, we live an ocean apart, me here, her in Germany. I ended up having an incomplete miscarriage at 9 weeks. I was hurting big time, having to have a D&C. But I couldn't fault my sister of giving me updates on her pregnancy. She had her own complications. She's got Rh- blood, her daughter has Rh+ blood, so her body saw her baby as a foreign object that needs to be destroyed. My sister was on constant meds to prevent that from happening and she had a healthy daughter that turns 20 in February.

When my mom gave birth to me, it was traumatic as well. The nurse turned up her potosin because I was a week over due, and she was induced. I came out blue because my imbulic cord was wrapped around my neck. My aunt just had my little cousin via the emergency c-section at 41 because of complications, and she is currently in the hospital.

The second story. I dont like how the ' friend ' and sister took the op's opportunity to announce her pregnancy when she was ready.

wow after listening to the second story, I really don't like Ash, these kinds of people who are just selfish and meddling are really annoying. Yeah, Leah does deserve best friends

Story 1- good apple story 2- good apple story 3- good apple story 4- good apple

Story #3: I also don’t have kids yet, but we have a dog and a cat. We sometimes leave my dog at my in-laws when we go to a vacation. I set some rules for him: put the dog bowls on the floor, not elevated; feed 2 times a day; pick up the poop when you walk him (I provided bags). NOTHING is followed. They elevate the bowls cause they think it’s more comfortable (it’s not), they feed him 3 times a day and they don’t pick up the poop (they return full rolls of dog bags to me). Those are not really big things but still. They are not following simple rules for OUR dog. So we don’t leave our cat with them due to his special needs. He is in diapers and needs to have his meds every day. I do not trust them to care for him and prefer driving 4 hours to my mom’s house and leave him there. My in-laws just laugh at us for that 🤷

Am I the only one who loves when she says, “ we all come from different branches of the apple tree” or is it just me Who agrees? ⬇️

Oh yes these were all Good Apples for me!! I really enjoyed these stories this week!

Tuesdays have become my favorite day of the week because of this series and I love seeing a new video come out! Are we going to be seeing our friendly neighborhood lawyer man join us again soon?

Somewhat similar I work at a gym ( as in weight room) and there's a member who's blind and he got used to equipment being in certain places and at one point the gym closed for a week and when I came back the same day he did and he had to relearn where everything was and I didn't help make it feel more roomy wich was the intention you just made somebody have to find everything in the gym again and obviously he did not see the sign ( not in brail) all you did was mentally screw with somebody. Respect to him I'd be pretty frustrated if I was in his situation

2nd story I know this isn't the same situation but my Uncle passed away from cancer in 2015, and right before the funeral my cousin and his wife found out they were having their 2nd child. It would have been my uncles 4th grandchild. They made the decision not to tell anybody including my aunt (my cousins Mother) until after the funeral and the dust had settled a little bit. They actually found out the day before the funeral, but they decided it was not the appropriate time to tell all of us that. They didn't want the announcement of their 2nd and last child to also be remembered as the day we buried my uncle. The funeral was in early September and they told us all on Thanksgiving, because she was starting to show enough that they didn't have a choice.

Choosing to breastfeed. That woman took the least abrasive approach to making sure that she got the time she and baby needed with each other during their visit. As a mom of a two year old with a failed breastfeeding and long painful journey of pumping to feed him right after a traumatic pregnancy, labor, and delivery, followed by a several day hospital and NICU stay. She was gentle. I had fears that someone might try this kind of BS with my son but thankfully no one did. Everyone was extremely supportive of what I needed when I needed it in regards to my recovery and care of my child. I would not have been as kind as she was when the in laws visited if this is what they did. Thankfully I have amazing in laws and family. My second and last child also brought about an expected difficult pregnancy and delivery, but she thankfully is exclusively breastfeed (well now she's on solid foods at 8m).

This is the 89 of the bad Apple, Siri

For the birthday party story, if you are inviting a little girl named after a princess more then likely thats who she is going to dress up as. If you dont want anyone else to dress the same as the birthday girl add that on the invitation

Fourth story: I may have been bittered due to life experiences, but photos for memories sake and social media should never, NEVER be an inconvience, especially to other people. They're kids at a birthday party! They're having fun! And the Mom is worried about how they look for a photo? That disgusts me. Lady, its your daughters birthday party, not your photoshoot.

When I was six, I threw a “fancy” tea party, and all my friends were supposed to wear pretty dresses. My best friend showed up late, in a t-shirt and cutoffs. Looking back I realize her mom probably just forgot the theme, but at the time I was mad at *her*. This same girl and I dressed alike deliberately at a number of other occasions-I know I would not have minded if she showed up in the same dress as me (which was a possibility as we had a few matching dresses) so long as she was wearing a dress. So I have to say, I would guess that the birthday girl in story four probably would have felt the same way-she would have wanted her guests to be dressed as princesses in the photos, even if she and someone else were in the same costume. And if she’s petty like me, she might even have gotten mad at Aurora for not being in costume. Just more reasons why OP is not the bad apple-she considered the wishes of the birthday girl more than her own mother did!

I dont understand why whenever a woman is not drinking it is automatically: OMG your pregnant! 1. Alcohol does not equal a good time 2. mind your business. Sheesh!!

Its very important for newborn babies to be close to their motheres at all times. I dont know that much about it but I'm pretty sure that it is extremely important to babies development to be close to mom. It makes baby feel secure and safe. There is evidence that children tend to develop better as they grow up when they are close to mom as a little baby. It can be really scary for babies to be far away from mom. Also kissing babies when they are that young can be so so dangerous! They dont have a developed immune system and can not fight off and recover properly from literally anything!!