Woman's friend and husband object to her having a baby in her 40s | What Would You Do? | WWYD 

Maddy Gowers my mother had me at 32 and she’s 50 now and I’m 18

Maddy Gowers it’s about the potential health risks. By age 49 the Down syndrome percentage is 10% (which is very high).

My mom had me at 18 now she is 30 and im 11

My mom had me at 20 years old now she’s 32 I’m 12

@beerus sama Are you saying that the original commentor is lying about how old their mother was when pregnant or the entire subject on it being a lie? Either way, you sound very ignorant.

Ko Um that actress has blue eyes, wow

same

So?

Omg same Omg Omg

Ko Um Same

Your pretty

@@tonysolorio6127 ITS YOU'RE jk I am just bored

Correction, MY mother is the best.

My mom had me at 24.

Zant why is 40 really that old

@@ivanchambers5264 yes... Because when her daughter/son is 20 years old, the mother would be at 80 years old.

+Meow :3 no 60

@@fashionlifemarie2537 Whoops sorry

+-めぐみん we are talking about someone who is theoretically 40, not the age of the actress

Gasper Kosmac once I heard a woman and her husband discuss divorce in a doctors office, people discuss all kinds of things in public.

Some people bring up things in public to prevent screaming and overreacting

Gasper Kosmac some people don’t care what others think

Some people just don't give a damn about other people's lives okay..

lol true

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

@@citizencan4444 Her body, her rules. He doesn't like it? Then he can leave. 😊✌🏼

@@moonsigil He should definitely leave her if she can't respect the mutual agreement they had at the start of their marriage (of not wanting children)...

@@citizencan4444 I agree, he should leave!

Maybe not to be a parent but you can be too old to be a ACTIVE parent which is just as important

RyanA who?

Because she can relate...

French fries He’s talking about the main actress which whom was crying

Traci is better actress. idiot

Idiot for having a different opinion?

Zoë Parker agreed. Also, it would’ve been better to have that conversation in a private place. lol

I agree with both sides but the way he went about it was insensitive. If you love someone you need to be gentle in how you address such an issue. If this was real they would have probably divorced more for the blatant disregard for her feelings and not for the fact that he doesn't want one.

Zoë Parker that's a Fair point

Exactly..How the hell they are going to tell her go ahead and have it anyway..

@@londiwehlongwe8842 No its not he telling to ve realistic sometimes that is needed snap outta it because if you tip toe around then the issue will linger. He wasn't rude he was stern.

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

@@citizencan4444 The woman wants a child but the man doesn't. Equality is letting the woman get the baby in a different manner without her husband being the father.

@@ekales_ that makes sense... as long as both party signs a pre-natal (similar to prenup) agreeing that the child (whome only one party wants) shall not have any claim to the husband's family name, property, inheritance or legacy in any way. Also, not entitled to any maintenance or child support from the husband. And make it clear that any financial and time cost relating to the child, is solely the responsibility of the wife. If they can agree on those terms, then it seems fair...

@@citizencan4444 I agree

anonymous mental breakdown in public ? Lol

Անի trust me it happens

who tf cuts themselves in public??? shut up

someone whos depressed obviously

Vina They probably meant someone with self harm scars, not cutting themselves in public.

My mother was also 42 (or 43 I forgot) when she gave birth to my sister and gave birth to my brother and I at 37 and 38. When I turn 18 she’ll be 56, 57 for my brother, and 60 or 61 with my sister, but she’s still caring =)

A man's ability to have children doesn't reach a grinding halt in his 40's. It is a steady decline.

@@carultch he could be 75 and a dad to a preschooler.

@@carultch What point in their 40's? Approx. 40% of women between the ages of 40-45 will have fertility struggles. But that means 60% won't have any problem having kids. My aunt had her last baby 43 years old in the 2000's. My grandmother had her last baby at 46 years old in the 1970's. Neither of them were actively trying for a baby. A bigger issue is that so many doctors perform hysterectomy's as soon as a woman has any issues. I don't see them doing penectomy and orchidectomy on men when they have issues but hysterectomy's are the most common surgery women have. When men have issues with their penis or testicles doctors investigate and try to resolve. When women have issues with the uterus, ovaries or fallopian tubes, doctors decide it's easier to just remove the whole kit and caboodle.

@@runningfromabear8354 what dr are you going to? Who are these women having all these hysterectomy surgeries? My dr gave me meds when they found abnormal cells in my uterine lining.

men dont have a time limit on fertility unless hes medically sick . men can have kids till they die women can not thats half the reason y men date younger women cuz we men biologically know this and we dont want the kids to have a disability . men and women are not made the same women might hate this truth but o well

Lillyiiii that’s good!

I hope they see your idea and use it

that would be a good idea considering how many kids are like this these days

Lillyiiii yes they should definitely do that it would be really interesting to see

Agreed.

here is the logistics of how becoming a mom at all costs works, she points a gun at her husband and says either you shoot me or I shoot you.

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

Hityshi 11 yes that would be rlly interesting

Music’s Odyssey why not?

*scoff* mine

Ok but like... WHY DOES THIS COMMENT NOT HAVE MORE LIKES *This idea ain't bad y'all*

dunno I think it might have the other ideas in the same comment section but this one is not bad too

Ray Mak marriage is a social construct and is not anywhere near the same as biology.

Health care is expensive

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@@neverbackdown1918 I think the greater issue is how the baby's chances of developing health risks increases with the mother's age. We do not accept incest for the sole reason of the baby being at risk, I do not see why this should be accepted either.

Rothschild make sure , you and your generations to come keep paying high for taxes and helathcare

but unfortunately you grew up to be a kpop fangirl

Mikhail Merkulov LMFAO SO TRUE

@@deemah3602 I don't like kpop but there's need to be rude.

I could be your father. We can play catch. I could teach you to drive. I'll even give you "the talk". I would love you and support you even if you are a kpop fangirl.

I wish i had a father like that too.

Neoatrai lololololol

He IS King Goodness though 😂

That was a funny typo looool

🤣

Accurate

Me too.

@Lon Hixson Not all Christians are KKK dumbass

The last guy piss me off how do you as men talk to someone else wife and advice to do something that will bring discord in household. That goes vice versa he is nosey cowardly sob

The man at the end of the video was dumb asf 😑. He said “ if you want a baby, just have one” if her husband doesn’t agree , that marriage isn’t going to last long . A marriage is about compromising, you can’t have everything you want . He’s telling her to use someone else’s sperm, that so disrespectful, would even be his child, that would cause even more tension. I don’t think he was giving her good advice other than adopting , but he should have told her since your married you can’t make life changing decisions like that on your own.

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

I rather support that kind of woman than those reckless stupid teen moms

100% agree with this. Also my thought is simply always: if there are people who want to be parents and are passionate about that and not just going through the motions of a conventional life, if they really want a child that bad that they'll have one even when they're a bit older or have been trying for years, then that's always gonna be better than kids who have parents who mistreat them. Just having a parent who loves you and cares for you is the most important thing.

Thank you. As a woman who just had a baby at 42, those comments are fair but hurtful. I worry about that all the time. I'll be 62 when she's 20. Will I live to meet my grandbabies. Will I be there to see her get married? These things worry me, but I love her so much. I know I'm a better mom at 42 then her big brother and sister got when I was in my 20s. So, thank you for your comment❤

Garrett Brando lmao💀

Garrett Brando LOL! Brenda wouldn't let that lady in next booth talk to her like that. Loved Brenda talking in movie theater watching *Shakespeare In Love*

José Arturo don’t you mean Shake-AH-peer in Love? Lol

Yess 😂😂

Dennis Q. Ly she’s about to get it AWNNN with shake-a-spear

same

Help

Damn that crazy

Damn me and my brother are barley 11 years apart

older THAN....

@@sabin97 your point?

@@angeldoemer8263 than is for comparison. for example my eldest child is taller than my youngest child. then is for linear progression. for example. first you take a left ,and then you take a right.

She can trick him. Just poke a hole in the condom, it's what I did. Child support for life now :P

1978tenpack why are you assuming she is gonna use her husband? Sperm donation exists

What married couple uses condoms? Most likely, the woman is the one using the birth control. She could .... oopsie forget a pill or two... forget to put a patch on or whatever method she uses

Mimi YuYu and then oopsie, *DIVORCE*

Potatoe life you completely missed the point

johnnyXXX the husband was the worst

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I think she was genuinely touched

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Well.. it means you’ve been around for a long while and that you’re more susceptible to medical conditions, chronic pain and diseases. Oh and much less energy MOST of the time, but heeyyy nah old is just a word welp grandma it’s time to go bungee jumping and I don’t give a fuck about your fibromyalgia.

Amen

The only thing that would suck about having old parents is that they're gonna be elderly when your in your 20s

Old is definitely not just a word

no old isn't just a word lol.

Im not sure how personal the conversation was if they were yelling across the room haha

I just wonder how they keep finding the most emptiest restaurants to do these videos.

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

Poop i completly agree, no one is being abused, or no one is stealing, there is no reason to get involved

Bianca Bernstein I mean if that poor lady is crying, I would definitely try to console her.

yup

I fucking hate when people jump in other peoples buisness , like eat your damn food and go home .. who are you to give advice to them

It’s more of a support your friend WWYD.

You can adopt sperm bank you can have a baby without...

@@darkknight4407 true. They could adopt if she wanted to.

@@darkknight4407 If you get a sperm donor, then the husband would obviously divorce.

Huffster actually you’re wrong. Married couples are meant to make decisions that affect them both together. One person doesn’t get to make a final decision without the other person having a say. If it’s that way then there is no point in being a married couple.

Having unwanted children is the cause of many divorces. It just depends on where your values lie. If this baby is a dealbreaker for you, that’s just how it is.

Aga Faryś about the risk of a pregnancy complication is actually quite low still even if you are over 40, it increases like what 0.7 percent. But i do angree with you about the mother dead thing, it could affect your child life.

Aga Faryś lue i

Aga Faryś a 70 year old is more qualified for a child than 15 year olds getting pregnant

Spotted Predator Oh, I didn't know about that! I just heard that there's a higher risk of miscarriage and higher blood pressure of the mother that can lead to complications.

Aga Faryś , NO! political correctness supercedes nature!

@Lon Hixson That isn't always the case. That's just a phrase anyone can use without believing in it.

@Lon Hixson what ? I dont get it ??! Someone explain to me please..

No he he isn't he is a nosey man who cowardly waited to her husband left and try to bring discord within their household.

Awww thank you for your beautiful comment 🥰

U r so right. I think it's terrible that the people in this scenario said nothing about how the husband was feeling. Both partners should be okay with having a child.

I was thinking how to put this.. but then i found your comment . Plus she IS too old to have a baby. It is a risk for her and the baby. High chances the baby will be born with disabilities.

Akshaya Sakthivel there can be high risks with any woman though 😑. Getting tests done and meeting with doctors will help make sure everything is safe. And I don’t think she’s too old. She still has 50 years left to live. Plus, any parent can die at any moment, or become disabled, what difference does it make if she’s 48 years old??

Preach!

@@PlumpnDreamyWalrus no, the wife can’t make him take care of the baby

Thats america for you, we talk to strangers like we know them especially in the south. were very noisy people

@@thexvault nosy sounds bad all these people are being really nice

@@sargon0141 Maybe that's on you and the people you call friends. I'm British and have lots of foreign friends.

Americans are the best, we lead the world in everything

I think you're exaggerating. Up north people are very friendly

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Same! Im the youngest child(I'm 17), and we're only 2 kids(1 brother),my parents are ~45 years old and they always wanted a daughter. If my parents wanted to give it a try,I'd fully support them(In my country,it's considered shameful if you give birth in 35+s),but the main problem is at the health side, and so they cant even try, because as others mentioned, miscarriages or child health problems as well.

It’s her right to have a baby at whatever age she wants. That being said, the health risks increase dramatically in your 40s, so it’s a valid conversation

What Not To Do At a Stoplight. it's fact. There are women who have had babies past there forties with no health implications. Illogical is forgetting that women in some cases have and will continue to give birth in bad conditions with no medical aid as well as well be over age in some cases. Have you also forgot that before all the tech we have and medical assistance that as a race we have survived without. Or the human race would not have survived this long. In other words women are stronger than you can fathom.

What Not To Do At a Stoplight. There is no argument. Because my comment is no messing. And if you're struggling to understand the last part of my last comment it's because you didn't factor it into this topic at all. People like yourself say age or medical implications are a reality. I never said they wasn't just that they in the scheme of having a child don't come into it unless you actually have problems conceiving. In other words you don't ask the doctor can you have a baby? No you just do the act. You are not going to check your health unless you have had issues in the past. Nvm age. So as I said women are stronger than you can fathom. Popping out kids since the dawn of our race with no medical aid. What was that? Lived til thirty you say yes great stuff still popped out them kids. The edwardian, the victorian even back in the times of vikings and cathergians(misspelled) women stilled popped em out, no medical aid and still reaching past forty again in some cases. What's not to accept????? What more can you add? Because everything I've said is out there and researchable. Only true thing that's a factor if woman has had no problems as such medically is the menopause. That's it. It's illogical to think a woman must follow medical science when we have done without it before and some do as I stated earlier. All that matters when having a child at any age appropriate that both parents handle the responsibility of raising the child. So again what's your problem??? Seriously. How many women miss smears?? How many continue to have children? How many people actually go regular to get sti checked? Are they all going to practice any medical check up or procedures before trying for conception? Because a lot of women don't because it's not really necessary unless they actually feel it is of concern or a bad medical history. What are you advocating that all women should be checked medically because thats never going to work. It's there body and there choice. And no man can tell a woman what to do with there body. Established since how long.

Crybaby!

@@aspiknf No he's not. He's just a bad cook who doesn't know how to cut onions correctly. I'm standing in the Middle of a Fire with lots of smoke my eyes and tearing like mad. TRANSMIT A THIRD ALARM!

Sending a third alarm to your door! :-)

Also, my grandmother had a child at 42 and my mom at 43. Both are in great health (my nana is 91), and so are their children.

Dead Prince Cosplay true

In a way that’s pretty rude. Basically saying I shouldn’t have existed because it’s “hard”.

Dead Prince Cosplay um and also think about the risks of the child having a disorder and having to live with that... (don't say that this is offensive or some crap like that because I went through that growing up)

ProgrammerMalcolm um what? Look who's talking? What're you even talking about 😂 LOL

ProgrammerMalcolm girl no I didn't or boy lol I guess people agree with me 😂 there isn't 2 of me, and don't worry about my comment liking even if I actually did

I scrolled many comments before finding one like yours. Maybe people commenting are too young not to know what aging parents are like. Being totally honest too, yes 48 is too old to get pregnant. There's no denying her energy levels are not gonna be the same and the mentality: generational gap is real. My friend is adopted, mum was 50 when she was born and man oh man we've been friends since our early teens and I've seen first hand how difficult things are because the mum has always been too old to understands, too old and needing medical care etc. It's just not that easy, people really need to stop fluffing reality to "you can do anything you want".

Completely agree, you have to plan and prioritize things in your life better before some things are too late, especially when it comes to women having kids. Nooo way I would ever even think about having a child at that age, if I got over the age of 35 with no children I would just accept that and do other things in life. It's sad but important for women to understand they dont have all of the time in the world.

Sheva Khaimov Thats a great point. That’s the exact reason why I disagree with the idea of someone having kids in their 40’s.

Sone Foreva So True. Preparing for your future is extremely important. I agree with you on that 100%.

Yeah, I have a friend who’s mom is 48 I believe. Before she had my friend, she had another daughter in her 20s. And my friends sister recently had her second child, so it’s weird to know that my friends grandma already has 2 great granddaughters. This sounds so confusing haha I just felt like I had to share.

As someone whose parents were in their early 40s when I was born, the love and legacy won't mean much if you get hit with caregiving once you grow up and you're forced to delay your independence, career, marriage, and parenthood. It is a big deal.

It all depends on who the parent is and how they parent a child.

@@Ghost-qk1kt For me, I've had to take care of my mom in some capacity since I graduated high school. She hurt her ankle and the recovery was a lot longer than expected and she hasn't been fully mobile since then. Other things popped up with her and the caregiving duties have been high for over 4 and a half years. She's been immobile for over 3 yrs after having a 2nd ankle injury. I've had to hit the pause button on basically everything. I'm 29 and I'm well behind my peers when it comes to independence, a career, marriage, and having kids as a result of caregiving. It's all I've known since graduating college and it has been nothing but misery. I'm thankful it isn't worse, but this ain't Disneyland. I hope Covid is gone sooner rather than later so she can get physical therapy, be able to do normal things by herself, and I can move on with my life.

My grandfather had a daughter at around the age of 65 .

HammyGuy :D R.I.P.

Wut is dat suppose to mean people in the uk normally live to 85 ?

HammyGuy :D That's the average. People die before then, even then the daughter would only be 20

Frosty Games - Life goes on .

Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

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U can have a baby at 65 now because of science so still isn't always the right thing

Also as long as you know you are going to be healthy and strong enough to take care of the child

Blue Dayz, how do you know that you can handle having a baby? When I got pregnant at 39, I thought I'd be fine, yet I had a horrible pregnancy and my baby boy was born autistic and had jaundice for a whole first year of his life. He almost died when he was in the womb. I would not recommend anyone to have a baby after 37.

@@Junboex3 think about the future of the child. But nah we are going to completely disregard that?

Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

Tread Knought that truly is sad

yeah, too right and doesn't he only think of himself hear?

@G G Well i mean i think he has a right to not want to have a kid. Are you saying that if a woman wants a kid she should be able to force her husband to do so?

@Tread Knought I mean they were together, it's not like she is single or something, she is probably with him in that age because she loves him so yeah, he is kinda involved in the convo, I mean he can at least express his concerns and be listened. And that is definetly not a single conversation to find the right solution situation

@@lea6385 It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid. Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

If the father doesn't want to be a part of the child's life, then the child doesn't need him. Single moms and single dads are doing amazing work. And I would've especially loved for my mom to leave *my* dad. It would've been better for all of us plus being around him made me mom and I feel terrible. It's completely fair. They have a loving mom/dad to take care of them. Family is family no matter how big or small. It doesn't matter if you have one dad, two dads, one mom, two moms or a dad *and* a mom. It's still family, hun.

@@plutoisaplanet1020 right, because as long as you have somebody to take care of you, who gives one that the other parent(s) is neglectful and doesn't love their kid, am i right?

I'm 42 with a 2 year old son and I can't imagine living my life without him😍

My mom had my baby sister at 62 and she's 72 and she's perfectly fine my mom runs around with she is happy and I couldn't imagine my life without my baby sister

@@ladiiblue2u634 wow thats great 🙂

Clapback MDS there is less complications when you already had multiple kids and give birth old than when one gives there first child at age 45.

i smoke crack and drink beer when i was pregnant. and my baby is perfectly okay

Hugo QP not all teens are moody

Soufian 27 But a lot are. Y'know, hormones and such.

no.

Hugo QP maybe not but at least encourage people to be open minded and then make the decision

Hugo QP stfu they did bot have "difficulties" in their thirties wtf, thats when everyone has kids

I was looking for this comment Lolll 😂 - she actually spoke first then the other man haha

some people just don't want to be interviewed or are but it doesn't make the cut.

Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤

It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid. Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

Thank you for your kind words. ❤ Nicholas just turned 6 and he is a true gift ❤

Yes ik but there is a possibility if someone dying at 50 or 60

I know this comment is old, but the risk for both the child and mother is probably way less tess thanks to modern health care, than if she was in her prime age without access to health care so I don't see the big deal. There are sooo many parents in this world that mistreat their children due to being unmotivated, narcissistic, sick, alcoholics etc being a few years older is the least problem..

Donna C Are You an only child? Because I think many people like myself are thinking about this if a woman that old wanted to have a child for the first time.

Jonathan Williams I mesn there's nothing wrong with being an only child either lol. Let people do what they want

asseater007 I am not against having only 1 child. I am against someone that old having a child especially for the first time.

asseater007 Having Kids That Much Later in life is very stupid.

when ur young its easier cuz he have more energy and you'll get to have grand kids if you have a baby later you may never be a grand parent.

Shady Boy I don’t think any of that matters though. An older parent could do everything a younger parent can. Also, lots of grandparents babysit or care for their grandchildren, and they are perfectly fine. Also, being a grandparent doesn’t matter??? A young parent may also never become a grandparent if their kid decides to not have any kids.

True

@@shadyboy5090 that's dumb

There's more risks to the baby and mom the longer you wait.

I agree, he is looking after the kid too. Maybe they could adopt an older child instead ?

@@bonniestar4707 agreed

Asdf 12403 I totally agree with this comment!

People wouldn't have reacted that way if Jason hadn't been such a jerk.

Vits Vicente Torres in the first scene with the husband he wasn’t that bad

My mom was shamed for having me so late…. But she was so much more mentally stable and ready to deal with me. Sometimes it’s not a bad thing to wait.

I think he was actually lightly applauding the guy who stepped in....

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@Sadia Sharmeen Exactly, I agree with you 100%. My mom had me when she was 33, so she's 50 now. (I'm 18) I feel like that was the cut off age for her to have kids tbh. She had her first kid at 17, so my siblings and I are really far apart, lol. (My siblings are 32 and 30 I think) No one should be having kids naturally in their 40's.

@Sadia Sharmeen Yep, it's just better all around to have kids when you're younger.

Thank you 💖💖

It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid. Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...

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I wish they did a reverse on this

Did your dad agree to inseminate your mom? That's the difference. It is also important that both partners agree to the decision. Not forced or guilt into having a kid. Are these people telling her to just have a baby, despite her husband clearly saying no? I thought no means no. Apparently, gender equality doesn't go both ways...