Here is her TikTok handle: @damnmindy. I don’t put creators name on my videos because of the type of content I create some topics can be sensitive and people can start going to the creator’s page to hate on them and that’s not what am trying to doing. This page is for use to have conversations. I have be reported before for sending hate to a creator. I can’t control how people react to a story. Please 🙏🏾 bear with me. I didn’t crop out the name it was downloaded with no watermark.
He definitely put spyware on her phone, I figured it was spyware once he kept knowing certain things. Never give anyone access to your home,phone, or car.
Its crazy how people on here judging her! 😕 But dont act as if when yall was young you didn't do questionable things!! As a mother I would never ever turn against none of my daughters just because what some man said or showed me.
Exactly If anything talk about it ! And why it upsets you. I think she was upset at her conduct as a women though Not exactly cause the man turned her. He exposed the “salacious” behavior the girl to her mom but it wasn’t cause of him per-say
@Sunny-tc3ul faxxx she goofy AF 🤪 either too dumb to kno betta or secretly likes drama are my top thoughts while reading this 🤦🏾♀️ she gonna keep paying the price until she change 😅
Her hair is soooo pretty. And her mistake is giving that man way too much trust and access. She should have learned the first time and knew how much he hated her. This sounds like a lack of having s good example of a man in her life. Her dad should have raked some sense into her. Her story is juicy, but in no way funny. He could not have had access to me after the first time we broke up and he stayed in the other apartment she moved out of. She will forever be looking over her shoulder.
This just shows there need to be more women in the tech space; sharing ways to digitally protect themselves, on all platforms, from the past present and the future.
This is why black women don’t go to police about their nutcases significant others. We are Not deemed as being human, we don’t need restraining orders. We need to start learning how to defend ourselves, by any means necessary. We are always the ones who are unalived by the “ loved” one. I pray for her continued safety, because if he is walking freely, she is not safe. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽😢😢😢😮😮😮
Stalking is a horrible crime to be a victim of. You have to be your own crime scene investigator and detective before the cops will even lift a finger for you. And even if you get an RO the cops might not even do anything because of the very reason the judge stated. And then women end up dead and then the same law enforcement officials that told you to get over it shrug their shoulders and say they wish they could’ve done more to help her. I hope the woman in the video is doing better.
At this point, law enforcement need to be sued when women end up harmed or unalived for the refusal of a RO being granted and/or an RO not being enforced.
Omg I’m praying for this woman’s safety. Make no mistake, she is in danger. A person like that does not usually just stop this kind of dangerous behavior. Pray for her for real
True. The only thing that stopped my stalker was the fact that he got sentenced to prison and literally wasn't able to contact me because he was behind bars involuntarily 😂😂
@@enmodeliferight?! there's something very dark about her energy...it seems like she actually enjoys re living the drama...like how is she even up here explaining with such glee? it's weird af!!!!
What I’m trying to understand is the judge, he’s only giving out restraining orders in life or death situations. Ladies if the laws in your state make it a life or death situation, get you a nice pocket rocket and make it a life or death situation for the person tryna make it one for you.
That's so unfortunate bc it does depend on the judge and the jurisdiction. And what's worse is that having the piece of paper doesn't even help all that much. Ask me how I know
It's really crazy how as women we have no sympathy for each other. We know how petty and vindictive we can be when we're hurt but some of y'all be acting holier than thou calling her a bird. Dhe said that she tried everything to get away from this man; moved 2 times, changed her phone number, deleted her ig, made a new email, moved on with her life and HE STILL MANAGED TO STALK HER. But God forbid something would've happened to her, y'all hypocrites would be the first ones saying "protect black women" 🙄🙄
I think people are getting tired because she didn't learn her lesson. The danger wasn't just that man but men in general. After all she went through, she goes and dates another man who she met online and knew nothing about. So yeah, no one is going to have sympathy for a woman who continues to put herself in danger.
@@biblethumper8088 she couldve met another man at the grocery store she still wouldn't know anything about him. She's allowed to move on with her life but it's not enough for y'all. She even tried to get a restraining order against her ex but she didn't get it. At this point what more do y'all want from her 🙄
@@kennyav25 again, if women choose to date men which are known to be dangerous then what happens to you happens to you. It doesn't matter where she met the guy, she still knew nothing about him and she just left another relationship with a MAN who tried to delete her. What people expect is for her to stay away from men and focus on bettering her life.
I am breathing just EXASPERATED. Like My Gawd🙄 Man if I was her mamma I don't think I'd be mentally stable. She'd stress me the eff out. From her last video, after she had left him because she overheard him talking smack about her to his friends, I was so upset when she said she let him back into her life, AND he cost her, her apartment. I would have to leave, because I'm not sticking around to watch or hear that you was taken out. A friend like her would run me to the grave right along with her. I'm already in a battle with my own demons, I can't take on everyone else's.
They're BOTH toxic! She's dumb and he's dangerous and abusive! In part 1 of the video, in the beginning, she said she was talking crap about him behind his back in a group chat and then got mad at him for butt dialing her and talking crap about her to his friends! THAT should've been the end of the relationship right then and there!
The saddest part of this story is it's not over for her... she didn't get the restraining order, she got new phones snd he was STILL able to get all of her information, so getting a new phone and new place to live didnt stop him and the judge just granted him and all the pther crazy stalkers the freedom to continue. Its a game for this dude and all he has to do is turn on his narcissistic behaviour to fool others. She looks crazy because she keeps having to scramble to prove she is being harassed so she can get help and it's all futile because she thinks its over. He might go quiet gor a bit.... but that might just be because he has a new victim in his sights or he is regrouping to really plan her demise. She needs to protect herself and not become complacent
Sis, I am a 52 year old woman. I wish parents warned girls all about devious, deceptive and dangerous men. That man hated her and even her mother fell for the bs. Most men hate women, especially black men. She was 20 years old when this happened, so I will give her some grace. However, this is exactly how narcissists work. These relationships were all facades. Nothing was ever happy or nice. It was just a lead up the torment he was about to unleash.
Understand that her mother or any mother can teach their daughters all the tricks men pull but here’s the secret fathers or all male figures needs to start teaching sons to treat women like ppl n not things to use at will, we will all remain in a victim society until there are no more victimizer why not start at the root of the problem we’ll I’ll answer that question, because it’s always been easier to blame the women the mothers sisters ie the women for their victimization
@@marethahoneyb1541I think her point was that since women can’t control men They must teach their daughters to protect themselves Or atleast what to avoid But I agree the shift js on the men Healthy emotionality stable men must be the a standard enforced by men but this is a womens space so the conversation is geared to women teaching their daughters . . .
@@marethahoneyb1541 You MISSED the point. The men will NEVER teach their sons to be better men. Never. It benefits all degenerate males to keep women depressed, dazed and confused. Teach your daughters the tips and tricks for surviving these males. If they choose to engage males, this is eventually going to happen.
I really don’t know how to feel about the story. What happened to her is crazy and dangerous. I feel like she had so many chances to avoid all that dangerous drama and she chose to keep that demon in her life.
Sounds like he is a class A narcissist and he definitely knows how to "crazy make" her. He pulls her strings and triggers anytime and any way he wants. And she doesn't know what she's dealing with.
As someone who grew up in the 90s, I watched too many true crime documentaries that started just like this. Usually they end with one person dead and the other in prison. I hope she stays safe.
He pulled her back in with the sad story about his sick mother. She should have changed her number and BLOCKED every unknown number. This young lady was in a deep trauma bond with her ex. Also, her friends don't seem like they were really helpful to her. Like this is ridiculous. At no point did she consider moving to another state, contacting a dv shelter, connecting to advocates to help women in these situations 🤔
When you date someone for 7 years though, they can get so much personal information on you that they can basically pretend to be your if they want to. That's the thing about dating these crazy stalker narcissists.
the mom open the door by not reading the room and being this guy friend and inviting him to bible study. I thought that parents are more intuitive especially since they have more life experience 🤦♀
She was definitely part of the problem cause who keep answering and interacting with someone who keep showing you red flags...I think she liked the drama this how women get killed playing with people and their games
She said she moved 2 times, changed her phone number, deleted her ig, made a new one, made a new email and HE STILL MANAGED TO STALK HER!!! As a woman we know how petty and vindictive we can get when we're mad. It's messed up how another woman is so quick to judge 🙄 you must be a pick me
@@kennyav25 There are many of women in these comments going in on this woman as if she never mentioned all the things you listed to protect herself smh I do believe her beauty plays a role {Jealousy}
@@kennyav25 did you listen to the first half of this story...she keep entertaining this man bs and games because she was in love with him..both part of the problem like I said. Pick me has nothing to do with stupidity she didn't have to do have the things she did. Women fall for ish like this and than say they scared instead of locking him up for stalking.
@@shaypope4732 Yea you’re right, it would had taken a car, plane or train for them to reach her, too bad we live in the time before those things were invented if only we could fast forward to the future😒
So because you think she is pretty, then that's the reason she dumb? I don't know if you are a troll man or a man center 🤔 woman. But when you are young, you do crazy stuff. Someone one ones said the greatest weapon is another woman. You are no different than her mother. If it was my daughter, I promise you the gates of hell would open wide for his ass. How 🤔 can a woman turn on her own daughter because of a man?
@@marethahoneyb1541 come off it! She has been laughing through the telling of her story. She herself has said over and over how not wise she wasn’t! No one is laughing here.
She saved her life not going to him when he said that his mom was dying. I watch ALL the true crime on RU-vid. The girl lights up a room and the ex always lures them in with one last meeting.
My apologies. After reading a bunch of these comments, i now see why you didn't want to leave her info. It's easy to judge someone for making poor choices, but even so, no one deserves to but stalked and hunted down like an animal. Psychopaths are no joke. They're worse than a narcissists.
Thank you for putting this video up. I now realize the similarities between this woman's story and my own. Gang stalking is real, ladies. Men team up with each other to do this ish. Be careful of any men you date that know each other before they met you. It can turn into a real sh*t show.
@@DestinyUteh I'm okay. I live in an apartment building that is heavily monitored with plenty of video cameras. I'm actually very safe where I live, and therefore, there isn't much they can do, except to try and catch glimpses of me as I go about my business. They've tried to get others involved, but have learnt the hard way that if the flying monkeys talk to me, they end up losing those "friendships". I just ignore the rest who name call as they pass and the creepy guys who try to get my attention. I can't trust that the next person I meet doesn't know them. I've learnt to live with it though. It's a bit easier for me as I've been a hermit basically my whole life. Thank you for your concern.
He sounds just like my dad. Narcissist and sociopathic. The only way my mom got rid of him was by being with another man. So long as he knew she was single he would spend all his time trying to harass her and get back into her life. Even now when I am a grown woman in my late 20s my mom calls me saying my dad is trying to run away from his wife and wants to make things work with her again. I told my mom if she ever gets back with my dad, even so much as friends that I will never talk to her again for as long as she lives. I told her to let him suffer. Him being in a miserable relationship with a woman he tried to use and abuse who's as much of a narcissist as he is and as controlling and crazy is his karma. His wife has his life on lock down. She doesn't have his name on their home, she has adult kids who would fight for her, she doesn't let him drive, she monitors his phone, the only bank acc he has is one they share. He met her when he came out of jail and so he accidentally allowed himself to be controlled and manipulated by her not knowing the hell he was in for. He thought he would get out of it and that he would just have an ugly wife with a house she owned but....man he's miserable and they have the worst roach infestation I've ever seen. Sleeping like the trash they are.
I've been stalked and harassed online before (thank god it wasn't in real life), but there were times when I genuinely feared for my life. I went silent on social medias for a while, months even, and then I received an email from him where he told me he had been diagnosed with bipolarity and other issues. And then he went on telling me he loves me but we can't be together and that I should leave him alone???? Like dude, you're the one who keeps messaging me while I ignore you and try to avoid you. I REALLY wanted to reply to his email because it made me furious but I decided not to. Pretty sure he was trying to appeal to my empathy and trying to get me to reconnect. If his delusional mind told him I was the one chasing him there was no point in starting to argue with him that I wasn't. I had been trying to cut ties and he would always try to slide back in my life. He wanted the last word, so be it. I don't care. I have my peace now.
This is why you really gotta take the toxicity seriously at the FIRST signs of it. It only escalates and gets more complex the longer you let it go on, particularly with men because they will continue to do exactly what you let them get away with.
The police refused to intervene. This is why men like that pursue women who are young or submissive, and then try to move them away from their families.
I'm so sorry sis, you had to go through all this violence and harassment. Please take all the precautions, call the police, get a lawyer. It's so scary. You know this psycho is capable of everything. I hope you're well ❤️🩹
I sincerely apologize to this woman.I judged her in part 2 unfairly.I pray you find peace and true love.PLEASE young lady,pour into yourself first and live your life without centering males.Also consider men of other races.you have nothing to lose.Good luck and be safe.
I don't care what she says.. she loved every minute of the drama and chaos that man brought into her life. In my opinion she did the bare minimum to block him from her life, mind, body and soul
If all you ever see is toxicity, how are going to know better? Reality tv has saturated tv, streaming networks & social media.. Everyone glorifies ppl like Chrisean Rock & Blue Face.. Exactly what example do we even have out here that ppl her age can see that is t toxic.. Give her grace…
She put the friend brebre in danger by saying her name too, like girl, she tried to help you and you know how this guy is, take the help, do your storytime and leave her out of it.
I give the young woman grace and the reason why is because often other women who have similar experiences either think it is normal because of the other relationships they saw around them or they are still traumatized by the situation. When I was dating my ex, I would ask my mom what she thought of him and she would say, what do you think of him. At the time, I was in my early twenties and had never dated before. I now realize a lot of us become conditioned to how we are treated in a relationship because many of us don't know what a healthy relationship looks like. We may have some ideas of what we don't want in a partner, but somehow still end up in bad relationships. I have learned that sometimes you will do whatever to maintain the relationship or try to get back to how it was in the beginning, but the hard truth is we put our best face forward but find it hard to be genuine because we don't want to get rejected. I also realize that it is best to work on yourself before you get into a relationship, so when you see the red flags you run.
Some of yall loved ones is highly predatory n it shows. Go hug a puupy n keep the evil within ur bloodline cause only yall mommas b deserving some of the mean things u guys say. Flat out...... run tell that.
I’m sorry but my heart would have only sent condolences 💐 because that would have been all the f’s I could give. He would have drained my soul, spirit, mind, heart, to pure Ice. No cares would have came to me.
Why? Abusive men usually target very young women, and the frontal lobe of the brain (the part responsible for decision making) doesn't finish developing until 25. Much older if you have autism or ADHD.
The story is so complicated here is the link - Woman Shares Her Crazy Ex Story Time - Must Watch Part 2 ru-vid.com/video/%D0%B2%D0%B8%D0%B4%D0%B5%D0%BE-gv7wN25qK0Y.html
