Women Flirting For Attention, Best Ways To Approach & More! 

Only in the most general terms. The danger is that if you over commit too early...before she is ready...then she may drop you. I think it is best not to say ILY before she does, or invite commitment before she asks "where are we going?"

@@chitownbob9714 I disagree with you in terms of who dares to say I love you first. Being a former counter-puncher and always waiting for others to initiate is not a good habit of self- or other- leadership, nes pas?

Marriage is for suckers. Love (the romantic "in love" kind) is a myth. Everyone should grow up and stop buying into these fantasies perpetuated by social constructs rooted in the many oppressions of religion.

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Thats true. But we can make an unimportant job sound important, or the other way around. My advice is to never lead with your wallet.. Be vague, especially about a job. Show up to coffee date in a used but clean car. Dress well, but not trendy or expensive.. It gives mixed signals. She will have to spend time to make a judgment, as you will.

And So what? I ask the same thing to the woman I am dating, what kind of job she is doing is equally important for me. There's a reason why Asian communities are so successful in western countries it is because both partners are in high profile careers.

@@rahulbhardwaj6552 The point is they're saying most women don't ask, when in fact they do.

exactly that was hypocritical part in this video, cuz accountability is so rare these days, dont date a grown ass child, men and women, plzz

When I ask that question, I am genuinely interested in what they do because it gives me clues as to who they are. For example, if they're an executive at a corporation, more than likely I would not fit into their lives, but if they're a caregiver and they love their job, that's a big green flag for me. Someone who works fast food only and lives at home isn't appealing because of a lack of motivation. Someone who works two jobs isn't going to have time for me. The money, over and above taking care of their own needs, is irrelevant.

50 yard line proposals are the stupidest thing ever.

Don’t get married unless she is a virgin boys. With her body count of one it cuts your marriage success rate in half 👈

Agreed!

@@ccpj0eyb319 bro you forgot the /s

I recommend really figuring out what you want, so you know what to look for. If it’s easier, figure out what you don’t want and avoid these. Also, identify the qualities that are strengths for you for LTRs so you can showcase those.

Guy: "The table will decide your fate". Thot: "I am the table".

You get the girl, while putting in half assed effort. What do you bring to the table? I'll give you a hint. It's not paying for stuff or doing what she says. If you don't feel entitled to women as your birth right, then unfortunately you are stuck having to earn women. And if you think marriage or ltr is not good thing, than why on earth would you do it. Sounds pretty stupid imo.

@@burtonarrieta5671 I should feel entitled to women and put in a half assed effort? I’m asking what the modern woman’s pitch is for marriage. I’m trying to be open minded about the concept. At this point the better option seems to be just dating people causally. I’m not exactly sure wtf any of the other stuff you said had to do with my question.

Also that's sort of his job. Same reason waitresses flirt. I'm not saying I think it should be someone's main way they add value to their product, but yes if you are a personal trainer for women, generally you're probably going to have to give them positive praise and maybe flirt depending on if you're ok with that. Again same as a waitress.

I agree but think it should be done subtly. Asking flat out is in poor taste, just as it would be to ask a friend "what would I get out of being friends with you?"

This year I’m gonna make it my resolution to hit on as many girls at the gym that I can to expose Karen’s. I’ll put the videos on my channel.

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@@VeritasIncrebresco 😉

Creepy because men following women can easily be some rapist. 🤔

It's a sad double standard. Also, attractive people are not creepy.

It's a double standard most of the time because women in general (there are exceptions) are not a physical threat, and most of them are socialized to only give hints and be coy and present themselves to be pursued. Very few will come up and directly express their interest. But creepy is subjective.

I would tend to say when women behave this way it is creepy, but we constantly enforce the idea on men that men simply have to deal with that kind of behavior.

If you really think you want a "relationship" with the majority of females, all you need to do is find out what their relationship with their father is, and if they avoid that one, just ask them: "what makes for a great father". If she cannot answer that single SIMPLE question, you probably just want to keep things in the "fun" category at best.

Insecure people who lack confidence and self worth will always feel threatened when they see someone who has those things. Even if it's just on a subconscious, unacknowledged level, they will find themselves doing more and more to sabotage that relationship. That's why the manipulation tactics and shaming start to come out when you stand up for yourself. It's a good way to test if she's a confident woman or not, because quality women want to see you stick up for you.

You could say that about anything lol some of the most confident people I know have tattoos

Lol

@@CourtneyRyan project confidence not actually being comfortable with their inner self. I agree the more tattoos the lower the self esteem.

Just approach her when she is with her friends, this will show a lot of confidence, it would be huge to be polite with her friends as well, but not flirty, and if it doesn't work it is a win win, as you will know your answer, and you would also gain experience, for putting yourself in such situation.

Her friend is a flirt. She competes with friend. Like a game. Do they flirt with others or just you? If its with others too, then its probably just for the game. Otherwise, she might be shy when by herself. If you like her, take charge. When she is between sets, talk to her.

Leave her be

@@grit1679That's what I was thinking, thanks.

@@mrdad-zl9zl Agreed!

Thank you so much!

The only way I could have fun with this video is if her and her friend had a pillow fight. Other than that I learn more about human interaction by witness two flies fcking.

@@Filthy_Larry is that right

@@Filthy_Larry and yet your here.. And you've been here before so you must be watching her...

@@dakotafrantz4179 that’s right.

@@Filthy_Larry then why the fuck are you here!??&@#$%\€*£

I agree! One topic that most women these days don't want to address falls into the current existential crisis that has led to moral bankruptcy. I can only hypothesize that it's because women want to keep their options open at all times. They sort of want the relationship many employers want with employees - a one way street where the employee is seemingly 100% committed, while the employer reserves the right to 'promote the employee to customer' at any point, with or without cause, and it's purely non negotiable, and you rarely will even get an explanation. From what I've seen out in the field, is that, women can just get "bored" - and the funny thing is on one hand they want "security" but on the other hand, they can become bored of it. As you've mentioned, if there isn't some moral higher calling or something that acts as a moral foundation to the relationship, then the relationship is purely at the whims of the economy, social status, material status, etc. The economy in most developed nations is purely manipulated by influences completely out of people's control, so that "security" she may find attractive can easily disappear overnight. This inevitably rewards the men that don't care, but have a good physic/game, as they'll be able to attract the women that want some excitement, knowing they'll be another beta male to latch onto later on, and that's sort of the cycle these women are going through, bouncing from one guy to another. I live by 2 national parks that I regularly visit to photograph, and while waiting for the light to change and searching for photos, I observe women in relationships, married, single, etc... I've seen it all. I watch them, and I see how they behave, and let me tell you: Things are not good.

@@07wrxtr1 Very well said thank you so much for your valuable input.

and the truth will set you free, free to be your true self by being real.

@@grit1679 that’s no saying. That’s a slogan for a shoe store you dummy.

That says more about women then it does about men.

@@aslan4196 I’m just point this out cause guys use this as a scapegoat “well if your short bald ugly or ethnic just get money and status bro max your social circle bro etc” when in this case it will be no different than prostitution and the girl will treat you bad resent you and cheat etc never ends good

Tattoos should actually mean something, like honoring your military service or dedication to someone or some lifestyle. Just getting a tattoo for "Whatever" is very stupid. And please, ladies, don't tattoo your face or neck...that's just weird.

Dont take advice from a man who just values women just by their looks instead by their intellectual and perspective.

@@sirro4362 SIMP

@@sirro4362 Never ask a fly how to catch a fly. Ask the spider.

@@garrettlake4181blah blah blha yeah thats what men like you call guys like me when you get the taste of your own medicine. Bitter behaviour nothing else.

Are german women militant feminists like swedish women?

@@gustavusadolphus1915 They are not, I would say they are normal from my experiences. But the tiktok girls are, most of the time, the same bad as probably all over the world:)

Yeah, like a rollercoaster.

Wuss

Hope this helps :)

@@CourtneyRyan ☺️ Much appreciated!

Thank you for the recommendation, I’ll check it out 🥰

I can’t agree more. I’m in the middle of my bipolar anger right now as memories of the past just surfaced. I’ll be cool soon though.

I only own 1 pair of shoes. Half the time I'm wearing my work boots. They expect us to be like women and own 15 pairs of shoes.

Wrong my friend. If you were getting married would you still be wearing the same pair of shoes as you would when going to the gym? If you were taking your lady to a high class restaurant would you wear the one pair of shoes for the gym as for the restaurant? Owning one pair of shoes says you are prepared for only one event with the lady. I own 6 - 7 pairs of shoes and I would like another 6 - 7 more pairs because I have different styles and looks I enjoy presenting myself in. There are also different events I go to where I enjoy being well presented for. I aim to be well presented at all times from head to foot. I learned this from a pastor. He taught be well presented at all times. We will fail to inspire respect from the lady we are meant to have when we fail to present ourselves in a manner deserving respect. Men and women are like diamonds. If they are not cut and polished to express its highest values they will always be underestimated and undervalued. We are responsible, we must present it too.

@@returningtoperfection these dudes are must be lazy

seriously wtf ?

to me it is like "if she has more than 10 pairs of shoes, RED FLAGS and 3 purses, that's all huge red flags"!

They only want you because they see others want you and they have competition.. Once that competition stops they won't want you.. Its like the "cat and the string" anology.... Dangle the string in front of the cat and it will chase it because it thinks it wants it but as soon as you drop the string on the ground and the cat doesn't have to "chase" the string it looses all interest in it and does NOT want it.

Yeah, been there. Once you become attractive to other women expect for those that never gave you the time of the day to suddenly grow an interest in you.

This is why cheaters always win in the dating market. The table is tilted folks

Been there, also with the worse situation when women talk to you to angle you towards another woman in their group. It was worse when I was young and didn’t feel comfortable turning women down. A woman you have a crush on introduces you to a friend that you have nothing in common with other than you are “so nice” to that mutual friend. Now when they introduce that friend. I can say “oh is she really into x types of fitness and healthy living, innovation/DIY/Skoolie living/ green technology, or a medical/military professional (my general topics of conversation, I know I suck at small talk, that's why I learned how to dance...)” also view if she's attractive. If yes cool. If not, “I think I’d prefer getting to know you, let's get dinner on Monday.”

RIDICULOUS

👏👏👏👏👏👏👏. Exactly well said and spot on. You nailed it.

Comments like this make me so proud. A year ago I’d see no talk of hypergamy and things like this. Now more and more men are waking up and preaching to the boys so they don’t repeat our mistakes. Cannot express how proud it makes me

@@lordofgingers as Gerry Anderson would say "Thunderbirds are Go".

I agree. These are great questions. Consider a date like the discovery phase. If you ask a woman a straight question, you won't get a straight answer. The trick is to bring up a subject like cooking, and she will tell on her self. Then see if you can get it confirmed later by a friend or relative.

That's exactly right, for the RESPECTABLE woman, not just the sexually attractive woman, looks are important sure but she doesn't have to be a perfect "10". I'd rather take a "7" ANY DAY who has good character and skills than a "10" like a conceited kardashian without money, and the decision wouldn't even be close. In fact, I'd take that aforementioned "7" before a conceited kardashian WITH money!

Pretty rude on her part.

Seems he dodged a bullet, she was nuts man.

and any guy who sees that won't want to approach a girl in the gym either 🙃.

Yikes

Wearing bright clothing? He thinks that's some kind of signal? She's not a bird, she's just wearing gym clothes.

Agreed!

Your shoes are so important when it comes to making first impression - and I agree, women do take notice! And sometimes it’s the first thing they look for - even before they pay attention to your other features. They’re looking to see if you’re wearing the right shoes for the particular occasion, if they’re clean, if they’re not, she’ll immediately think that you’re careless and sloppy - and therefore forming a negative impression of you. Anyway, that’s my two cents. -Carlos Verde - Dating Tips

@@carlosverde-datingtips7001 Be sure to wear nice shoes that are clean, I got it.

Exactly, everyone has their own flow too.

She will spend hundreds on hair, makeup, nails, clothes, jewelry spray tan… and spend hours putting herself together for that “effortless” attraction to happen.

Agreed. Especially if it's a woman that is taken (especially married), it's just extremely uncomfortable. If you're not interested in me, don't flirt with me. It isn't fun, it's stupid.

​​​@@whitemakesright2177 only western (and some not western) girls could learn this ( i am not saying all western girls are the same obviously)

Whenever anyone flirts, its because they are trying to get some emotional need met. S9 when some in a commited relationship flits, its probably because they arent getting their needs met trough their relationship, but that doesnt mean theyre willing to abandon the investment their relationship represents, theyre basically outsourcing. You can do some flirting back, but just know thats all it is.

I am a man.. And I have to say that I flirt every single day with random or known women.. With absolutely no intention!

yeah seriously haha imagine being invisible for months or even years and then a cute girl starts flirting with you but she doesn't actually think you're attractive and is just talking to you because she's bored. that would crush me.

I agree. Why over-complicate things? It is supposed to be fun. Take care of your appearance. Get some cool clothes that fit you well. Get a proper haircut which suits your face. Eat well and in the right amount, keep in shape and maintain top hygiene, both for yourself and your home. No drugs, no tobacco. If you are going to drink alcohol, keep this to an absolute minimum.

Tv and movies have glamorized these games. Its hard to play along when they keep changing the rules and language. They want guys to be brazen then be feminine so they can be men and lead

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Spot on! We are all severely guilty of making dating way more complicated than it needs to be. It should be about having fun meeting someone new, exploring interests, then you work your way to actually wanting a partner. Cheers! 🍻

We? I think you mean women.

And most important of all, be yourself.

yea, these girls are telling us how to act and what to wear. big red flagggg

Dont forget the good ol advice: Just be yourself man!!! (Sarcasm)

@@davidm9442 don't ask a fish how to catch a fish

It's a fine line there's no science to this. What you said is exactly what a girl would rationally say you to as what thy would prefer but then a guy comes out of nowhere with the opposite qualities and he is unique and that gives him a lot more character than her previous "rational" description of her type.

If a guy rejects a woman because of shoes that guy is not a man, he is still a boy that hasn’t developed.

@mike smith don’t think you know what beta is. Beta males probably you, judge people based on the shoes they wear. Grow up.

Ikr? Like a man’s shoes is an indicator of him being a good future mate or something. Smh 🤦🏽‍♂️

Yeah it's shallow as s**t but there's weirdo weeaboos out there who reject women (in their minds anyway, not that they'd ever have a chance with any normal women) who don't look like a frickin living anime dolls. We all have shallow stupid reasons for being attracted to people or Not

If a woman wore crocks on a first date, I’m sure you’ll question wtf is going on in her head lol Women are detailed oriented and we notice things. Have you looked into nature and notice the males species are almost always looking brilliant in their appearance bc they have to impress and attract their female counterparts? It’s kind of similar.

I agree. Human nature rules most of the time.

Exactly lol 😆

Lol 😂 that’s the truth

The question in and of itself exists as a reaction to the checklists that, let's say some, women tend to make for you to be considered attractive to them. So it's sort of a: Ok, you want a guy who's this, this, this , this, this and that, are you the type of woman that such a guy would consider for marriage or LTR? PD: this is a description, not a tacit approval of it's use.

People who are of good character always show, don't tell. If you have to ask, she's probably not able to bring the stuff to the table that you're looking for.

What do you mean with gatekeep the relationships?

@@Leopar525 What I said. Men control access to relationships. We are the ones that stand the most to lose in a marriage. So that is where we get to be choosy. There's a reason that, traditionally, the man proposes marriage. We don't get to choose when we have sex, but we damned well get to choose if we stand before an altar and make vows or even allow a woman to move in with us. It becomes a question of "What does she bring to my life that I wouldn't have otherwise?" That's the deal.

I would never ask directly (it's just not good etiquette to treat things so transactionally), but whenever I'm getting to know a woman I'm trying to find that out.

It's a red Flag if she propose first. She's in a hurry....

Like men do all sorts of things that they don't want to. Zero sum. Someone is always having to compromise.

@@mindhunter8772 depends. What’s the timescale? If two weeks, yes. If two years, no. If you are still together 27 years later and she’s followed you all around the world for your work, you’ve put babies in her that are now well adjusted young women studying at top US universities, and she’s still giving you everything you need in the bedroom, then I’d say that you were her Alpha option and have remained so. But maybe her red flags are still to be unearthed……? You tell me, you’re the expert with women clearly.

@@burtonarrieta5671 some men, yes. Most men probably. But then again smart men know that what a woman “likes”, and what turns her on can be two very different things and the worst thing you can do as a guy is worry too much about making a girl “happy”.

Beta

I had no idea shoes were so important, no wonder I've been single all my life.

My Jimmie is too big. Women don’t like big jimmies.

Carrots always work better than sticks.

@@chitownbob9714 The carrot is the incentive, the stick is the insurance policy.

The problem is women are children generally when taking on feedback. A big red flag.@@chitownbob9714

What's even the point of marriage in our society now?

…a vampire may only enter a home if invited, then it’s all you’re own fault if you’re bled dry 😉

It's also human nature for genders to employ something called confirmation bias.

Maybe don’t listen to women at all... this video is about “female” opinion on

Yup!

@@raularmas317 simp

I'd also add that if they flirt for "fun", then do they also do that with guys they are not attracted to?

@@FleetAdmiral833 exactly. In the end it's the guys who suver all the consequences. One cute girl flirts with you, you try to approach but she didnt want to. No wonder guys are frustrated and confused. Imagine driving a car, someone uses their right turn sign but suddenly turn left. Where is this appropriate behavior?

@@SquallSZ from my experience some do, some dont. Depends on the situation. Getting the attention of a hot/good looking guy is better than an unattractive guy. The attention of an unattractive guy is better than no attention at all

You’re over thinking things. If a girl flirts with you, just take it for the opportunity it is and have fun with it. Maybe she’s into you, maybe she’s just looking for attention and validation but there is SOME attraction there. Girls don’t flirt with guys they are truly unattracted to. Those guys are invisible to them. So just be ready to engage and see what you can build. What would you prefer? She just ignores you?

@@jleano609 Apart from the opportunity to date her, flirting has no intrinsic value for most men. If a women is going to flirt 'for fun' then she better level up her flirt-radar and make some decent attempt to avoid men who don't like it. Otherwise she's wasting his time and and screwing it for other women as well. But as @Chris Townsend said, just ask and it'll save everyone's time.

Marriage is definitely something that requires discussion! Lol I’d hope nobody was going off of hints or winks 😂 flirting before dating and marriage are very different

Ah ok fair play. My comment is re women proposing marriage first in the relationship. Not about flirting or dating stages.

Spot on! Specially in this day and age. Great video nonetheless.

I pray for the universe grant your heart desires, Hey friend I got my relationship fixed with the help of a great spiritualist who brought my ex after 3 year of separation ⏭️⏭️

Was she giving you looks?

@@chirantanraut Nah but she came over to work out in my area a couple times beside me

I think the idea is that if you've been dating for a while you should be able to figure it out. She should be talking 50 to 80% of the time. She will tell on her self if you are listening.

@@chitownbob9714 If ur dating for a while, her actions will tell you what she does for you and then u decide on what to do. If she is not putting any effort into adding some value to your life and only takes from you, then that says she brings nothing to the table. But I'm talking about when you first get together and u go on a few dates.

that should be the case for us guys as well.

@@chepesantacruz777 i partly agree. A man should have life goals to earn enough to provide for that family

I like working out at home precisely because there's no one to bother me. I used to go to the gym and the women there were an annoying distraction at best.

I've never known a classy intelligent woman with tattoos, it's one of the biggest red flags for any bloke.

Im a man with tattoos but a girl can only have a few or none at all.

I agree! Courtney and a bunch of her friends providing female insights on anything is great!

Also your a simp

I agree with you on that one, I'm only 19, so my experience is near to none. But I've learnt that from the past generation, there wasn't a real chance to date 50-100 of people, it was very much restricted to villages in most cases, in which there would be much more limited options; I find this kinda better in a way, from what I've learnt, nobody is perfect, and with your eventual partner, you're both still learning. Yes there's incompatibility, but I feel like people are much more likely to be compatible if there were less options.

People should not stress out for what is ""suposed to be"" most times when a girl want a guy she herself will be the one asking. That happens to me and my brother (he is a charming person, im a mystery myself). I known everyone want to be happy and on a relationship, everyone is on the same story line. Let me be clear, no "one-thing" is special, nor everything is magical. What works for me is that i already love myself so much to the point of narcissist, so if it comes to dating, a girl is a plus, not a whole life. You people just have to work on yourselves to create a whole world and then invite people in (like girls for example).

@@carlosemiralonso7997 I'm not stressing over "what it's supposed to be" I'm taking it for what it is. It would make things a whole lot easier on both parties to take initiative if interested. It doesn't even have to be asking one out, walk up and talk. Make a conversation. That's all. I meant it more as encouragement.

Girls making the first move is fine, proposing for marriage is a totally different story lol I would never do that but to each their own!

@@CourtneyRyan Agreed; but few women these days can pass longterm relationship vetting questions. It's become sort of a one way street, when really, you want to weed out the women whom have some self destructive tendencies early on. Sadly, that's the majority out there, as few have the motivation to posses any introspection and work on any/all attachment issues, family upbringing issues. Invariably they then try to resolve those problems through relationships, and that's where all the problems come up. Now, merely just bringing up questions like: "what makes a strong father?" or "How's your relationship with your father or parents?" = a personal attack, or they ask why you're asking, or they avoid and have no answers. A womans first relationship is with her father, and if that was broken, or non existent, or wasn't a healthy one, and if she's not worked on it, chances are she's proceeded with unhealthy relationships in the past, and she'll sabotage either knowingly or unknowingly a present relationship with a guy who actually may be a great fit for her, but it's "new" and "uncomfortable". I wish this topic was brought up more often. Courtney! There's a great book you should get at the Li Berry (that's the place where they hide all the books!) - "When the past is present" by David Richo. It talks about why people choose the relationships that they do.

Agree. Men's time should be valuable too

I hope 2022 is the last year I have to see any of her videos. She needs to be in prison.

Sounds like a transaction… very strange thing to ask

You mean, like girls ask for your education, your job, your car and your home?

@@Kashban There’s a big difference between “so what do you do for a living?” or “did you go to school around here?” and “what do you bring to the table”

@@AnlStarDestroyer agreed. Those questions are “getting to know someone 101”

Girls like that aproach me, but then run away xDDD Like I do work out for real, so they turn-off by the smell.

So what would be the right answer here with the goal of a long-term relationship?

Haha thanks for being here! ❤️