I could write an essay on this but i won't. Long story short: 1. Ray and Dom were on to something. You can't be standing in the way of two grown ups saying they can't be together because one is your friend and the other you smashed; you are not in control of people's lives and can never be. You'll have a much better and peaceful life once you get this. 2. There's the ideal and then there's reality. Just like the ideal is sex is for marriage but in reality people are doing it outside of marriage, so it is that people SHOULD NOT date who you've smashed but the reality is different. 3. We (humans) are messy. We can be two different and opposing things at the same time. They can love you as a friend and love someone you smashed at the same time. It'll take maturity to wrap your head around this and make peace with it. It will be painful and feel like betrayal but it is life. 4. Not everyone who is in your life right now will be there to the end. Your friend and the person you smashed (should they decide to date) will either leave your life or stay depending on what you want them to do. Make peace with both. 5. Finally, life changes all the time. What you cannot wrap your head around now will be easier to understand as you grow older because life will happen to you and nothing you can do about that either.
I don’t feel like a true friend can hinder you from dating someone you feel is worth committing to because your pal had a past with that person. But at the same time, be warned because your relationship with your friend can be affected in a negative way.
Haha Bobby mauchungu,I felt that.Ray🙆honesty kila kitu na he said what he said.I agree with Sasha & Laura,madame we'll act like it's all good but deep down,it's not all good.
I looooove EastMeetsWest soo much! I'm a big fan! I love the content and the positive energy that you guys have. Much love😍😍 However, the noise is too much! Please make sure that one person talks at a time so that we may get whatever it is that you are saying! I'm correcting with love guys!! Waiting for the next episode like 😌😌😌😌.. xo
I love how some comments are like "Too much noise, you guys should take turns while talking" and I'm just here enjoying the video cause my family and friends prepared me for this😂😂😂
RAY WE BOMOA 100% lakini in the spirit of gurl power Gurls stay woke. Wizen op! They don't care about you, they just wanna smash & after that they'll just say you wasn't worth it. Don't do it sis
Maaan Bobby I always knew Bobby respects women,its about two guys being comfortable talking shit and laughing at a girl just cause they've both smashed her you get,imagine if the tables were turned,,,y'all egos would be down the drain I swear.Respect goes both ways👏👏👏
😂😂😂😂wuueeeeh this a hot one I sort of agree with ray I can smash but not date either a girl that my boyz has dated or smashed😂😂😂its a wrap!!!! why are we acting like this things are not happening?? 😂😂😂for me its on the basis of tenda wema nenda zako😂😂😂
Laura, let me sidebar you cause you brought up the issue of values and the way we were brought up. Wakenya tuambiane ukweli. In certain cultures right here in Kenya there is wife inheritance. Amongst our Muslim brothers they marry up to 4 wives. I also know of a polygamous family where the mzee has married sisters. So this is part and parcel of our culture and religion. 🤷♂️
Aiii ziii me sioni venye religion huingililia huku, juu hata the Muslims when allowed to marry 4 its not allowed they marry sisters and the whole thing of marrying more than one comes with conditions and rules. Ndio maana utaona majority wamestick with one.
I don’t feel like a true friend can hinder you from dating someone you feel is worth committing to because your pal had a past with that person. But at the same time, be warned because your relationship with your friend will be affected
On a discussion like this most answers are valid but as a genuine friend I would tell my friend that their guy/ex is hitting on me or trying to get with me cause I generally value my friendship with that person more than that guy. I understand where Laura and Sasha are coming from cause with girls it's worse. Such an occurrence happen about 2/3 years ago with my friends and it was baaaaaddd. But you never know, that guy maybe the "one" but just don't date/smash anyone that looks like they are somewhat interested in one of your friends. Great topic though. It needed to be discussed on for sure.
I agree with laura, its all about morals our parents raised us right but I don't know where we went wrong, for me it would be a big NO there so many men and women out here needing love
I don't care how someone looks like, or what he has, but I can't smash/date someone my friend has been with. There are so many other people out there!! Why someone your friend has been with?🤷🏽♀️ Issa noo!
BRO CODE MUHIMU ..... If not i'd rather hide my gal from my friends existence .... Hata wai jua ... ... Besides whats the best way to ensure ...Usitendwe ..don't make the introduction in the first place
Plus saying nobody around you can be with someone you've been with is just plain selfish. Nobody told you to go out there sleeping with all those many people that aren't part of you life anymore..
Oh hell naw.Truth be told,itakuwa the weirdest triangle plus ni kudanganyana ati you're all cool but deep inside inauma.Plus some people smash,no strings attached but who's to say feelings can't ensue later on alafu sa unaachwa hapo playing second fiddle.
Not cool,i agree with bobby,i cannot date any of my ex’s friends. At the end of the day hizo scenarios uwa fucked up.Aki kuna watu wengi huku nje wakudate ..
