Yes, you can be good, help everyone and still romance Astarion (Act 1) | Baldur's Gate 3 

I was so surprised when people said they found this difficult. I was a bleeding heart goody two shoes my whole playthrough and his approval is exceptional and he and my character are basically married lol

Astarion called me a goody-goody and I still managed to get exceptional approval, you just have to make your character sarcastic

people talk about Astarion being hard to impress if you don't RP as a bad person, but if you just remember his motivations for why he's so prickly and take relatively harmless options he'll think are funny every so often you can still play at least by neutral or chaotic good rules and still have Astarion warm up to you easily (and the disapprovals you get for doing good stuff are usually more than evened out by being kind to him when you get the chance)

my paladin: legit helping absolutely anyone, always nice, never asks for reward(zevlor tried to give him money and my guy just went "nah its cool" and refused it) astarion: is this the love of my life?

I've seen a lot of Astarion-haters who positively brag how they "always kill Astarion" in every playthrough the moment they meet him "because he is evil".[1] And then they usually add they'll be taking Astarion as companion for their "evil run". But that means they are reducing Astarion to exactly the thing he _doesn't_ want to be seen as or be: a monster. Astarion says it several times: He simply wants to survive. And up to now, he had never experienced kindness from anyone in his life, so he can't imagine anyone helping him without ulterior motives. Even when we do help him he thinks he needs to repay us with sex so we won't leave him behind, because his body is all he has left and he's so used to being used for sex and nothing but. In Act 1, both Astarion and Gale desperately try to convince us that they're powerful and thus _useful_ and we should keep them around for that reason... hence why Astarion fears being seen as "weak" or showing vulnerability we might exploit. Astarion and Gale both seek more power because both have low self-esteem hidden behind a facade of sarcastic flamboyancy (Astarion) and bragging about his intellectual prowess and magic talent (Gale); they need to learn that they have worth beyond their skills. [1] (So their character kills a random stranger who was calling for help? Wow, what a hero! /sarcasm But even if they wait until Astairon pulls his knife to threaten Tav, he does it for the same reason Lae'zel threatened to kill us with her sword on the Nautiloid when we first met her: Because both Lae'zel and Astarion saw us walking about on the ship and mistakenly but sensibly assumed we were a thrall of the Mindflayers! But you never see anyone bitching about Lae'zel! What hypocrisy.)

Me, making my character: "you know what? This is my first playthrough. I'm just gonna play my boy the way I want. If I want pursue any romance, I'll just go with whoever I click with the most." Astarion, watching me be a chaotic little gremlin thats a sweetheart to innocents and a menace to villains: "this better not awaken anything in me."

I find it so approppriate that one of the possible ways to romance Astarion (and, actually the easiest imo) is just... Being kind and treating him like an equal/his own person. Which is pretty much all he wanted his entire existence. Extra points if you are witty and don't let others step on you/take advantage too much, of course, because he absolutely wouldn't. The points you gain w/ him by simply doing that **FAR** outweight amount you lose when he feels when you are being "too nice" all the time, which is pretty telling about where his actual priorities are. It's just his trauma making him snappy when he feels that you are being too open/vulnerable/nice with others... Because, from his own experience, that's dangerous if you are trying to survive. Which is understandable. Just keep things steady until he starts digesting the idea that being "good" doesn't make you naive or have less control of your life and by act 3, depending on how you play your cards, he even starts being openly supportive of your selflessness and returning it in kind, even if he struggles to understand it at times.

Oh, I'm playing for the Bard too, and damn it, the interaction of the bard and the rogue is just a nuclear mix. It was really amazing

I love the Gur encounter because I see a lot of people being so immersed in the game that even if they have a petting-bunnies-good playthrough, they often kill him purely out of fear he can hurt Astarion. I even did that during my first playthrough even though I always do everything to avoid violance if I can and I imagined my character being like "we just killed a man because we were scared. Because we let our vampre weirdo's paranoia affect us. Huh. What a development."

I was a mostly goody-two shoes and had just leveled up my party and had finished Asterion's stats. When I went back to the game before switching the characters POV to someone else in my party, the Tiefling child pit pocket tried to steal from Asterion since I was still playing his character. The interaction was interesting, and oddly sweet in Asterion's own sassy way. He even gives the kid a couple of pointers too on how to be a better thief. I chose to pretend I didn't see anything lol

I literally played a character who was in between. I chose things my girl would say and not for the sake of him. She was a "If I benefit more from deceit, I'll do it but if I benefit more from being truthful, so be it" kinda girl to get to where she wanted. Any means necessary. That led to a lot of goody, goody options and I saved a ton and set everyone free(as many as I could in several situations) and he still fell for my girl. He really is neither good or bad, just like Niel described him. It honestly annoys me to no end that everyone keeps saying you have to be an ahole to romance him. Even my best friend had that same thought and I'm like bruhh.. *Proceeds to tell him all about my character*. It's hard to change someone's opinion when all they see is one thing and then their mind is set, no changing it.

Of course we can, my paladin with lightning armor and sword saviour of all innocent has 80 approval at the end of first act. And even rejected him with 40 approvals because there was such an obvious manipulative lines, and his reaction is priceless - “no? After everything you sad, all right” 😂😂

Neil said he based his performance of Astarion on a stray cat that comes by his house that took 3 years before it would allow him to pick it up. Put like that yea you can see it. Astarion is like a stray cat that just wants to be loved and affectionate but is too scared you have to be cautious but once you get his trust he’s very loving

Me: is an all out goody two shoes Light/Life domaine human cleric who helps everyone, plays the hero, gives to the poor, preaches about Selune whenever she can, generally annoys Astarion with her by the book selflessness. Astarion: (by Act 2) is this the love of my life?

Thank you! I always RP as a precious idiot cinnamon roll and Astarion would absolutely die for me lol. I have more trouble when I'm mean, honestly. He's never turned me down once, and usually propositions me before the party. He's a cinnamon roll on the inside.

It really goes the same way for every character: Protect them, respect their problems, don't ignore them, and they will like you. There are very few times on which you can do something that doesn't directly harm them and still cause them to actually hate you (like, lose a lot of approval at once or even leave), and none of these times is "making a morally good choice". I always end Act 1 with Astarion at over 60, and that's without him ever leaving my party, so he is present for every good choice I make. I bet his approval could go much higher if I strategically left him at camp when I knew I had to pick something he would disapprove, but it is not necessary at all.

I'm playing CG and I'm already at high approval in Act 1. It hasn't been difficult at all! Haven't had to demand payment or be a jerk. Just giving him snark right back at him and being accepting of his vampirism was enough for him to proposition me and then after that it's been cake.

THANK YOU!!!! I just had a semi-argument with someone about this. (spoiler warning) Imo, the game is purposely deceptive, just like Astarion himself. Astarion may seem evil, especially when you first meet him. He seems to like violence and he often disapproves when you help people. But imo, there's a lot more to Astarion than that. While I can't say that Astarion is a good person, I wouldn't call him evil either. In my opinion, Astarion is a multi-layered morally grey character done in a very creative way in which YOU as the player ultimately get to decide which path he goes down. He may never truly be a good guy, but he can become a much better person with your help, just as much as he can become a villain with your help. Ultimately, I think Astarion is neutral, but YOU are the one who gets to decide whether he will be "good" or evil in the end. Yes, it's true that he tends to lean a little more evil because when you first meet Astarion he doesn't trust anyone. All he's known for hundreds of years is abuse under Cazador. I feel like anyone who was abused for that long would probably have some major trust issues, and also might develop a pretty cynical view of humanity. I think that Astarion kinda has the "die a hero or survive long enough to become a villain" mindset. He sees most people as a threat and he believes that the only way to survive is to become threatening himself. He hopes to take Cazador's place because he wants to escape the abuse he's had to suffer for a long time. While trauma doesn't justify being cruel, I still think it's important to realize where Astarion is coming from. I don't think he enjoys hurting people even if it sometimes may seem like he does and I think that's what stops him from being TRULY evil. Honestly, Astarion reminds me A LOT of Loki, especially in the Loki TV series. "I don't like hurting people. I do it because I have to...because I've had to. Because it's part of the illusion. It's the cruel elaborate trick conjured by the weak to inspire fear" "A desperate plea for control. You do know yourself" "A villain" "I don't see you that way". That's Astarion. Literally one of the first lines in the game about him is that he is fearful. When your worm connects with his, one of the things you experience is his fear. Astarion is simply desperate for control because he feels that's the only way to rise above those who want to hurt him and make him feel weak and powerless. But deep down he knows he's just scared and lashing out. He doesn't like being a villain. He wants to be a better person than Cazador was, and you CAN help him to become that better person if you're patient with him and you're kind to him. I do get why some people may be pissed when even at the end of the game he's not a full on goody-two-shoes. But to that, I say this: Have you considered you are only seeing the beginning of Astarion's redemption arc and not the end? He may not be an entirely good person by the end of the game, but who's to say he won't continue to improve with time? To me, just saying Astarion is evil and killing him off early or refusing to have him in your party feels a little bit like you just don't get his character. If you genuinely dislike him that's valid. If you're a very no nonsense person who can't tolerate someone like him, good on you. You're probably really good at kicking toxic people out of your life. But personally, I feel like Astarion is a really well written character. His story is ultimately about what trauma can do to someone and how important having support is. If you show him enough love and kindness and understanding, he will heal and become good(ish). If you don't, he won't heal, and he'll become a villain. You may not be able to "fix" him, but you can help him. And personally, my thought is always "why not?". Unless I'm doing a villain run I always want to help Astarion. It's heartwarming as hell to see him slowly start to trust people again, genuinely fall in love, start doing more good, and regain some of his hope in humanity. Shit's adorable. I personally like him a lot and I think he's worth giving a chance.

The secret to romancing Astarion is when you're about to do something nice, turn to him and say, "Darling you look so tired you should go rest at camp." Just avoid disapproval, send him to camp, give him that spooky book he likes and don't objectify him or force him to so something he doesn't want to do.

This is a fantastic resource, thank you! I never had issues romancing him on a good-aligned character (to be fair, I do love my deception checks and I don't play doormats) but now I've got something awesome to point people at :)

I played it the same, but at the party, when he said "I'm talking about sex", he then said "but not with you, that would be disgusting, ugh". Everyone else was thirsty though. I had several of those scenes with him after the party though, like the mirror one, so maybe i didn't get a high enough approval before the party happened.

I feel like a lot of people that say this never rly tried to understand astarion as a character they see him as this chaotic evil manipulator of a vampire and dont try to learn what actually makes him tick chaotic? Absoluteoy, evil? Far from it

I annoyed him with my bleeding heart but he still thinks I am exceptional lmao

Playing as a mostly good but sometimes chaotic druid and the romance has been going smoothly! It kind of started out accidentally, too. But I’m here for it! While I was still getting the hang of in-game tone, I think I made some inadvertent choices that helped boost things. Telling the tiefling children to bathe the battlefield in blood and then having them all cry springs to mind. But yes, you gotta be true to your character and you can still make the boy happy. Side note, Volo rocking out at the end of this clip is everything.

Nice video, great job! 50 minutes of Astarion )))

I got some approval for defending him after the bite, though I do not know how much and I had to pick the meanest option (If you don't like it, you can leave.). Also I didn't loose approval in the encounter with Gandrel, when I left the conversation early. It seems that he is mostly annoyed about leading him on with all the in-joke vampire banter and then not letting him have the kill.

Funny that rogue asks bard to kill a few brains. When we meet him first time I like to fail all the checks, there are lots of fun lines, like you’re little wriggling wretch, Fine effort but I saw them all, I walked on this ground when your ancestors learned to crawl. Plus we see his thoughts that he hides in the shadows and afraid of the sun, and he tries to hide these thoughts. And if we invite him to join us he says that he wanted to go alone, but if we first say that we are our own road, he is shocked ))) And he also tells us please be careful when we approach a dying mind flyer, and when we hear goblins shooting at a grove says the same. I was surprised, before didn’t notice.

That's a really nice guide. Thank you!

I managed to romance him with my bard, who was kind to everyone who was innocent, like the Teiflings and such. and while he didn't like me at first, he called me naïve, I won him over with quick wit and clever responses to things. Like using persuasion and deception to take down bad guys rather then fighting them. In the 3rd act after his personal quest he even admits he didn't like my bard at first but then she grew on him as they adventured more together. they are really sweet together now.

I play as a chaotic good character and it was really easy to romance Astarion lol. Moreover, I ended up having high approval with all of my companions by act 1. It's not that hard if you can predict what they'll like and what they won't.

I also found that if you want to do/say somenthing that a companion would dissaprove, you can just ungroup the party and leave them out of earshot in many cases 🙃

Yeah, you totally can be good and romance him, especially when You're playing a chaotic good character, as this one or simply chaotic neutral is the most compatible with him. During my original playthrough I based my character on my first chaotic good rogue from D&D campaign I played years ago. She basically had a very similar story to Astarion, doing previously a pretty atrocious jobs(assassinations included) for someone she owed her wellbeing and life. Difference was she could and had guts to change her life and when she came to fear for herself and saw through that person, she flew and was on the run from them from that time, always having to be wary of others. I felt like this was the perfect pick for roleplaying with Astarion romance in mind and his redemption, as I admit - I'm a sucker for redemption arcs. And mind You when I picked this character, all I knew was based on my knowledge of tropes that I concluded Astarion's questline included and all the "he is so evil, he wants to kill you in his introduction" comments. Then I got his introduction scene and I was like: really?! How can someone says that he want to kill you?! It says here, boldly, that he is just scared! That his entire motivation at the start is fear! He just want to be in control of the situation, that's the reason for the dagger! Then I had a nice conversation with him about how cornered animals are desperate and it was obvious he was refering to himself. Knowing this, I just never cornered him with anything and my character, believing in second chances, but not third ones, gave him her trust and it was the best decision ever. If You are lucky and do good, you can actually see how he likes children in first act in the grove. For real I played by totally chaotic good standards. Spared the goblin Frezzerk when he begged for life during the fight, saved Mayrina, saved Arabella and also never in any of my playthroughts did I killed the Gur. My character reasons for sparing Gandrel were that he felt harmless and she saw Astarion feels cornered(and is terrified), and that if they killed anyone they fear might be on them, soon they will have a mountain of bodies. That wasn't right and you can actually see that Astarion himself is confused about this encounter also as he later admits killing the Gur is nonsense because there will come more anyway and moments later he gets emotional and says he should kill anyone that seems like danger. It is obvious that at this point You're his moral compass, a guide, and he is confused about his situation. But I admit I'm guilty of killing Kagha as my character felt that she had weak will and would not change that easily, probably in future she would try to kill another child and felt like lawful/neutral evil character, especially after reading her mind. But nonenthless she often did good things and rescued whoever she could even if she did not admit or liked to promise anything. Astarion asked her about sleeping together for the first time in that Thayan necromancer's basement just after giving him the book and I was like "whoa, my friend, You're too fast... or are You liking me that much?" I remember I had already medium/high approval there and by the start of act 2 I was basically almost at 100 points. It's also worth mentioning rhat he is probably the only companion who sees destroying both camps on the same level morally. Life of a tiefling having the same weight as the life of a goblin for him. That's probably because he does not want to see others as monsters and don't want to be seen as one. Plus goblins are more chaotic so interacting with them means more fun, but overall at the party we can see that he is calmer and more content with tieflings(but a bit confused in new hero situation) and at the goblin party he swoons into his cooping mechanisms and seems to be a bit drunk like in the scene after he eats a bear. You can only guess that he want to have fun to not think about other things... To be truthfull all the romances are easy if You really try to understand characters. Right now I'm on a lawful evil run with a healthy reasoning character(meaning I'm helping the grove, because it have more sense for my Tav). Lae'zel come onto him like five seconds after I met Wyll for the first time and one second after I talked with Arabella's parents. I was pretty shocked, because I felt like I just started the game and they were standing near Volo at the grove with her like "I want You in my bed! Now!" Now I'm scared to think that I'm too good at being lawful evil. 😂

Sarcasm and chaotic fun seems to be the way to go with the pretty elf boy.which is honestly my default anyway. I usually help where I can when I play, but people that are jackasses or villains get the chaotic gremlin that takes great glee out of pissing people like them off.

So I saw someone comment on an Astarion video that they wouldn't mind dying my strangulation and thought it was the funniest thing. Didn't think it would actually be in scene, LMAO.

I was surprised to learn that the internet say that it's hard to be friends with Astarion when you're playing a good character. Honestly, I had no problem with it, even without knowing his history I didn't immediately assume that he is evil. And he's not evil, his own safety is just important to him and he would like to have it first before he rushes to help others, and that is wise, normal and human. Moreover, his story explains well why he is the way he is, 200 years of horror in Cazador's palace must have influenced his behavior and the way he sees the world. This also explains these "Astarion dissaproves" moments especially in act 1 when he is just starting to understand that not everyone he meets wants to hurt him or something like that. He begins to learn to trust. Yes, I left him at the camp a few times when I had to make a few big good decisions, but now I know it wasn't really necessary. I just let him bite me, and I was nice to him, I was there for him without judging him for what he is like and without shouting at him just because he's a vampire. Thanks to this he started opening and my character became friends with him already in act 1, and yet there is still act 2 and 3 and quests in it to rise this friendship. Now I'm at the beginning of act 3 and my friendship with him has been maximum, I don't know, in the middle of act 2 or after halfway through act 2, and as I said, I play a good character who helps everyone around, makes good decisions, in my opinion. And I also often go with Astarion in a group because his dialogues, behavior and party banter are great. So yeah, I really don't know where the problems are in making friends in him. I would probably have to specially keep my friendship bar with him low and I would have to make sure he didn't like my character, particularly. I think the evil character has a harder time make freindship with him because he's afraid of the bad guys😅

I heard romancing him was hard but when i got the game it was so easy and i was confused at what people were talking about. I think the issue is people play with the intent to romance him (which is fine) but then they choose options they think hed like instead of just playing how they normally would. Just my opinion though. I went into the game interested in astarion but i was going to play how id play if it really was me and whoever i end up with due to that was who id be with if that makes sense. Meaning if astarion didnt like who i naturally was then id end up not being with him. Just so happened he approved of most of my decisions so it worked out. 😂 (I am currently still playing havent beaten it yet. Im in beginning of act 2)

Saving this for later to listen while I'm sewing my kid's Halloween costume. I already knew this, but I like listening to a good video while I sew, so thanks.

every time i try to comment i get an error.. no idea what the heck that's about, but after seeing this, i can't believe ppl have trouble romancing him. you got way way more disapprovals than i ever did & still managed to get the romance to work (he likes me so much in my still non -evil playthroughs that the romance triggered way before the party)

Being the exact opposite of his sire on every possible level works wonders; who knew?

Thabks for this, love these kind of videos.

I’m so saving this video for when I can continue playing this again! Been focused on P3P because of P3R being out. Thanks!

wow thank you so much I needed this 🥰🥰

Yup, I'm currently playing a generally good character and I am romancing Astarion. I admit it *seemed* slightly harder at the beginning, because he kept disapproving my random good deeds of the day, but things started to change once I kept playing. It helps that I'm playing a bard who uses deception and persuasion like it's nothing, and who is dramatically silly every once in a while. Of course he still disapproves this and that on ocassions, but all the other instances when he approves keep the balance. I guess you simply need to be slightly more patient with him, beside listening to his story, being supportive and treating him like his own person. And probably don't jump to conclusions too soon, because these characters are so incredibly complex, which means you need to put more effort into getting to know and understand them, regardless of the nature of your relationship with them. Hell, I thought Lae'zel was gonna get out of my party without thinking twice for example, judging by the way she was reacting to my Tav's decisions at first... yet she was the second one to warm up to me, right after Gale. Now I have her on High Approval, same with Astarion, while Gale is on Exceptional. I feel like this is the type of game you need to approach with a very open mindset, as well as an open heart, and treat its characters like real humans if you want to understand them on a deeper level. Placing them in "good" or "evil" boxes is not gonna do it, because they're far more than just that.

Love the performance at the end lol

I’m playing a relatively neutral character, not intentionally evil by any means just self serving. But definitely doesn’t leave people for dead or un-necessarily hurt others for the most part unless he feels it would benefit him. So far…things are moving along quite well with Astarion and I couldn’t be happier lol

Thank you! I've been searching for this guide forever. Astarion is the only companion I couldn't crack. I now feel sorry that I didn't let him drink my blood (because man, we don't know each other. Boundaries). I couldn't stand him because he would disapprovers any damn good thing I did (and I always play lawful good characters, heroic with good heart) but now I want to try a run where I play a good character and still romance him (or get his approval maxed out). I know I can be brought to love him. I only need to see his good side, like with Lae'zel (she disapproved a lot of what I did at first, but when I stood up for her in the Crèche it completely changed her attitude towards me. Astarion didn't approved me once even when I helped him with his entire quest at Cazador's)

Sometime I'll do a bard playthrough, they seem to have really fun responses. I just love the unpredictable chaos of playing as a Wild Magic sorcerer.

I asked the question to many people... no one could answer me... thanks to have done it :D

ThATS WHAT I NEEDEDDDDD

I think I get it now. Basically, you have to save the grove. I didn't do that with my first run through. He was my main character that I used. He used me as a juice box and I played through his whole story arc. I didn't even get to romance him as an option. I though it was my folk hero playthrough but apparently it wasn't.

It's my first playtrough and I've deciced my warlock character to be good, but realistic and pragmatic when it comes to the choices between achieving goals with as little fights as possible or play bold goodie. My Tav's basically the diplomat and silvertongue of our party. She helps guys in need, of what Astarion is not a fan, but she's also here for persuasing, cheating, opening many doors and even slaying enemies like orthon with her words (in my headcanon she herself was surprised about the last one, and in the game Astarion was very impressed). Fortunately, Astarion likes that in her as, apparently, he has it in himself too. The relationship and approval grew slowly, but staedily between my Tav and him and now they're perfectly happy together. P.S. When the party came in the orthons place and my Tav started questioning the scary demon about his reasons and motives like a proper investigator she is, Astarion was so impatient and went yelling to the whole cave something like "Will we kill that bastard or not?" I laughed so hard and instantly imagined the 🙂 look on my Tav's face while she covered his mouth with her hand and said something like "You're right of course but just keep you voice a bitling lower, okay?" and some excuse for the orthon that they came not for him but for Balthazar and it's Balthazar my companion wants to slay so much he can't keep quiet about it.😂

Playing for the first time as a goody two shoes (but very sarcastic) paladin and I just about finished saving the druids in act 1 with high approval for him. The thing that really sent it up was meeting the hunter down at the swamp and just playing along with Astarion (also letting him bite you and just being generally sarcastic)

I definitely wasn't a super goody two shoes during my run but I still saved a lot of people just because I wanted to, and while my Tav was a little rough around the edges and did kill a lot of people, it was only the bad people and I still had Astarion fall for me. I didn't even have to wait until the party for Tav and him to get "intimate."

This mf was my BFF by the end. And my Tav is chaotic good. But im ussd to "sketchy" rogue types who have more to their character. It seems a lot of ppl cant handle complex characters despite the demand for it.

Astarion isn't evil. He approves of good/noble things (especially as the game progresses) you just gotta be sassy af like him 😂

In ma good noodle run (wizard/sorceress). He didn't like me at first because of ma bleeding heart. He even rejected me and I was petty, so kicked him off the squad and left him in camp. He then came around and started putting the moves on me and I did sleep with him. We made plans to take control of the worms but theeeen Wyll snatched me in Act 2. Ended things amicably with Astarion. Left it open for a sordid affair lol. Haven't finished the game yet but so far. Wyll has me making plans for a lavish, flush life as Duchess of Baldur's Gate 👑

I missed several camp scenes before the bite (2) and outside (3) damn, still I have some what good relationship with him, I already started his romance but I still try to be good and well, asking for compensation here and then wont hurt anyone, the npc give u stuff anyway even if u dont ask for it

Please tell me your doing an act 2 play through! I loved watching this

I’m glad to know romancing Astarion is possible without being an asshole or Dark Urge because, like me, my character would never do or say things that would hurt other races unless they attack her first.

i've literally never had an issue with his approval. i've played a goody two shoes since i started playing back in 2021 and have never romanced anyone else lol

3:03 The very first thing I did after discovering dyes was to re'color Astarion's chalk colored ruffle shirt to bright RED. It seemed so appropo. I used colors to accentuate/reflect the personality and/or alignment of all my follower's armor and camp attire - Red for Astarion, Black & red for karlach & wyll, black & white for Laezel, black & azure for dark shadowheart, blue & gold or white for light shadowheart, purple for gale, Brown & green for halsin, etc. I heep all my dyes in a single pouch inside the traveller chest in camp.

I threw mud at a guy and he found it funny i think me and the vamp will get along

Hi, this is a great and useful video, may I ask what are your character's class, attributes and skills? I specially liked the percepcion success at 0:30

i missed so many conversations early in game because i didn't realise how important taking a rest was even if you didn't need it. But even then, I still managed to get him while being nice. I just lied a lot to npc to get information/not be a pushover, and didn't shut him down when he was mad power scheming while never agreeing to them. Certainly had no qualms taking a few disapproves when what he wanted was morally reprehensible. I also happily punched him in the face when he killed me.

Another thing that gives Astarion approval of in the Goblin Camp is convincing Crusher to kiss your feet.

If you’re not mean to him it’s not hard to romance him in what I’ve seen and experienced myself

i havent even touched the underdark yet in act 1 and I have almost 70 approval and I have been a goody goody the WHOLE way. Saved the grove and everything and didnt even give him the Necromany of thay yet xD

Astarion disapproves forgiving the horned child? Buddy, if it weren't for Tav's pretty little heart, you'd already be dead at this point.

Dang your Tav is so pretty!

Yeah I definitely needed to realise how the dialogues were triggered and that long resting doesnt mean less time to save the tieflings a lot sooner because I missed out on a LOT of dialogue 😂

Right now in my play through everyone wants to bed me except Astarion, lol. He will soon enough

Storytelling-wise, I think Spawn Astarion works best with a good character.

how do you get all of these??? in my playthroughs i somehow seem to always miss all of these and only get the bite scene

Yes, I didn’t manage to romance astarion in my first run. It turned out i had a bug that cut out one of the most important conversation with him and I didn’t know it back then. So I waited and waited and almost nothing change bc I was good so in the act of deperation and zero hope i end up having sex with mind flayer lol

I don't think you should even have to choose certain choices to get him to like you. These people are just one more person manipulating him if they choose things not natural to them just to get his approval. When I play I'm going to do what I want and see who ends up liking the actions the most! 😖

When does the drunk bear cutscene trigger? Is it random or is it after a certain point? I'm very behind in the main story but I've somehow already managed to romance Astarion (it happened before fighting Ethel, and I haven't been to the goblin camp yet), I just don't wanna miss anything. I did miss the stargazing scene though :/

I just have a question. Is this video in order of your actual play through. Like did you rest first then go to the grove? And did you get Karlach before you went to the Goblin camp? Just wondering.

If you are an asshole to him, he will be an asshole back. Simple as that really.

That was not difficult at all! I was helping everybody, he didn't like it, but oh well, never used ilithid powers, allowed him to bite me 2 or 3 times, was nice to him (as I am nice to everyone on my team)... Maybe I had it easier, because as a fellow rouge I saw often using persuasion and deception? Anyways, then the tiefling party at the camp happened and the romance proceeded smoothly. Doing the same thing now as the dark urge.

It's me, the annoying commenter :) Could'nt find my comment, but just wanted to say that I found my mistake, will have to go back a couple saves, but it's all right, your videos have been so helpful, I saved them for futures PT's!

I'm still on my first playthrough. I'm a mostly good but selfish bard. I was surprised when his affection for my firs Tav was high in Act 3. As the fights got more crowded I would make him bite any humanoid asap for the buff. I wonder if that helped? Lol

I think i’ve been doing somenthing wrong. Its my first play and i didnt get romance with ANYONE help. there are things that i’ve missed on camp?

I played through too fast and i missed the first few cutscenes and now im debating starting all over 😭

This. I always play good characters and Astarion is always trying to knock heels lmao. I had to beat him back with a stick on my Gale romance PT

So I’m super confused bcuz I did everything right where he was concerned, got all the proper camp scenes, did his Orthon quest, etc… but upon entering Baldur’s Gate at the start of Act3 he randomly dumped me. It genuinely caught me so off guard that I stopped playing for a while. The only thing I didn’t do was meet Araj in Act2 but many others told me they did a complete romance with Astarion without her so I don’t know what to think. All I can do is go back hours of gameplay and redo all of Act2 to make sure I get the Araj interaction. (sighs)

Also, if you free Lae'zel *after* recruiting Astarion, and you tell her to say 'please', Astarion approves, so that's one more approval from him.

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aw shoot... This makes me think its too late for me now

Ok but why does the demon look like Kevin Nealon

Started a new playthrough and got to romance him in 7 hours, wirse thing i did was kill Timber and he approves of that. Its pretty easy ngl

I truly don't understand how there are so many people saying "you can't romance Astarion when you play a good character, he's a soulless murderer"... I've had hundreds of hours and dozens of EA runs as well as two full game runs, and NONE of them have been evil. Regardless of whether I've romanced him in a given run, he's ALWAYS been above 50% approval before I even get into the Underdark. I haven't gone into the the Mountain pass or the Shadow Cursed Lands with less than 75% approval. You don't have to be an evil doormat, you just have to be pragmatic and actually treat him like he's a person rather than a punching bag... 😒

Oh. So I didn’t need to headbutt him after he held a dagger to my throat in the beginning? 😐 Damn lol

Like many others here, I had no idea so many people had a hard time getting approval from Astarion as an overall good person. The stat of 10,000 being rejected by him made me genuinely guffaw. I haven't done anything purely evil nor good in my current playthrough, with him practically a staple in my party, and ended act 1 with him at around good/great approval. In my current and previously unfinished playthrough I still had him at good enough approval that he would proposition me for sex at the party, though I did reject him during one of them. And even then he would ask me again while in the underdark because my approval was still pretty good. Honestly, with all of the disappovals I do get from him, I still think I would be at like 90 or more by act 3 (finished act 2 at 100, with natural confession triggered at 79). Astarion is chaotic neutral at best the majority of the game, with him being chaotic good by the end of his quest line if you continue that route, and that's kinda how you have to approach him in turn. He doesn't want you to be a paragon of good, nor an emissary of evil. He wants someone who embraces the unfairness of life, but unlike him for the majority of the game, continues to do what they believe is right in spite of it. Basically, I suggest approaching him like one would this question: If the world has hurt you, how would you respond? Would you say "The world hurt me, so I'm going to hurt it back" (Astarions view the majority of the game)? Or "The world hurt me, but I'm going to do my best to make sure it hurts no one else"?. I chose the latter, and it's worked for me quite well.

He told me he has standards 😭

Nope, didn't get the initial scenes, he was disapproving of any good action I took, he was scowling at me until the biting scene. I let him do whatever he wants there just to keep him neutral. Now I try to keep him outside of earshot when I talk to people.

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I was too good and astarion couldn’t stand me 😭. Gale loves me tho, it’s not him who I had in mind.

You can have him leave the party too, if you know an option will give him disapproval, and them bring him back afterwards too. A little cheap, but every little bit helps

I don't want to romance him, I'd just like for him not to bitch every time I do something nice for someone.

The guys (and it IS men, isn’t it? And a few pick-mes) who bash on Astarion are all remnants of the old toxic gaming crew that wanted to garekeep anything that wasn't pro straight white male oriented. Not only has Astarion been through the trauma that that segment has been dishing out, but he's trying to reclaim his space in ways they don’t approve of. He isn’t *nice*. He isn't *polite*. He isn't *quiet*. Everything they want us to be. Of course he fantasizes about power. Of course he breaks rules. Of course he laughs when its not always appropriate. The nem are losing their minds and i am laughing with Astarion.