Yog Koj Ntxov Hlub Kuv Tseem Kuv Twb Tsis Nrauj. 7/27/23 

I'm glad she was able to turn her life around. However, let us not champion these stories. But let us teach and encourage healthy practices before marriage. Teach our daughters what to look for in marriage candidate(s) and our sons proper man/husband/father etiquette. Their story was on shaky grounds from the start. And she was in fantasy land crying to be with him before marriage. Props to the sister for her will to succeed but it could have been avoided from the beginning.

Kwv tij txoj kev ntshaws nyiaj neejtsa txoj kev tsav hwjchim yog kev cai ruam xwb tsi muaj qabhau dabtsi li vim yog kevcai quab yuam xwb yuav tsum tau hloov nawb kwvtij hmoob.

So proud of you! You had a bitter life with that heartless man, but so happy your life is happier now! Live a good life...

Koj hais yog lawm Hmoob Ruam22 Hmoob txoj Cai ces yog Dev Npua Cai xwb oS.

As a husband I honestly dislike the Hmong system. It’s does not provide justice to majority of the women.

Ho ! Zaj dabneeg no tusiab kawg thaum pib tabsis thaum kawg kuj rog koj zoo siab heev. Sibsib hlub nawb mog. Niam no ces koj niag qub txiv twb yog homless lawm os.

Yes, Yog Tus Lawm Tsis Hlub Mas Ua Neeg Tu2 Siab Os!! 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

Thank you for sharing your life story ; thanks God , you are finally free from the cages….

Koj niam pog lawv tsev hmoob ko ntsej muag tuab thiam lis nplua koj xwb os lwm tsev hmoob tsi ua lis kos

I'm so glad you found the strength to leave that loveless marriage and found happiness.

Hmoob lub siab yeej tsi ncaj ncees os. Zoo qhov Vajtswv coj peb tuaj nyob rau lub teb chaw no. Peb thiaj dim Hmoob txoj niag kev caj tsuj pojniam lawm..

Me ntxhais aw twb kawm ntawv siab2 li koj es txhob mus hais ntawm hmoob os hmoob ces hais kom lawv zoo xwb yog tsis sib haum sib yuav tsis tau lawm ces mus rau txoj cai Nyob teb chaws no xwb koj thiaj tsis poob nyiaj rau cov ntsej muag ntshaw nyiaj naw thiab thiaj ncaj rau peb cov poj niam ua lawv tsis hlub na!

Best advice to everyone is, if your marriage isn't working and you have tried and given your all into it, it's time to walk away from it. Especially if it's toxic and full of abuse. Doesn't matter if you have children or not. Remember, your life doesn't end there. Your self-worth is more than that. Love yourself, respect yourself.

In the Hmong community, you can have the purest heart and tried for years and sacrifice your feelings to try to make it work and his family will never see it. Like they can’t just wait for the nyab to choose herself to pin their sons fault on the nyab. So glad she got out!

Hmoob li cai ces yog dev npua cai xwb mas xav hais li cas ces los hais xav ua li cas los ua ib leeg hais ib zag ib tug hais ib zaj.

You are an amazing woman, your husband deserves every thing he gets. Be happy now.

Im proud of you for standing up for yourself and your son. He doesn't deserve you. I don't like Hmong culture way of handling marriage issues. Its ok for him to have niam yau and he doesn't have to take responsibility for you and the family, but if you have a bf, it's suddenly all your fault and you have to take responsibility. This is how Hmong culture encourages Hmong men to have more rights and more egoes. I'm glad you teach him a lesson that you will never accept those behaviors.

Wow txaus tu siab kawg os txiv neej siab phem na….

Sister, if your story is true, you should not have to pay your in - laws, kwv tij and neej tsa to get divorced. Just walk out. You don’t owe these people anything!

Zaj no tu siab tiag tiag li

You go girl!! So proud of you!! Have a happy life. ❤❤

Nws quaj vim nws yuav plam koj mus xwb, tus muam yeej ua tsis raws kev cai Hmoob lawm, ua neej nyob yuav tsum tuav cai mas, koj twb tsis tuav cai koj thiaj tau kho lawv, dhau ntawd koj tig rov los rhuav Hmoob kab lig kev cai, vim koj nyob mekas koj thiaj ua tau xwb, yog koj nyob peb teb chaws koj yuav raug coj mus kawm nawb.

Cov tsa nees ko twb tuag yuav tag lawm. Peb cov hluas no los coj ces yuav coj txawv lawm.

Me niam hluas aw yus hmoov phem2 ces yus thiaj raug neeg tsim txom os koj thiab kuv wb rau ib sab khau xwb os thaum kuv quaj txaus kua muag tu tsis los lawm ces kawg yus ua tus nrauj nws li ko xwb tiag zoo siab rau koj lub neej tshiab os

All the Hmong women that have bad married should be using this lady story for example and leaned.

You finished school and he saw his big fish swimming away, so hes crying, that’s it.

Mee koj ntxim hlub tiag li yuav hlub yuav hlub tsis dhuav noj tsis nntxaus li. Koij ma

He only wants u now bc you're successful and have money, not bc he loves u. He knows if he chooses u, he will be financially better off than with his 2nd wife. I'm glad u didn't fall for his lies again.

Kv nrog kj zoo siab vim kj mus tau lub neej tshiab lawm o

There is no justice for Hmong women because Hmong people function in a patriarchal culture that gives Hmong men to the power to abuse women physically, emotionally or psychologically. I am so proud of this sister for advocating for her happiness and needs. She deserved someone who truly loves her. It was his loss for not being a responsible man/husband.

So sorry for your suffocating life. So happy that our Hmong ladies start fighting the animal rules. In this country we have good laws. Do not compromise to our tradition. It doesn't work. let's the laws fix our cultures. So our Hmong ladies can live a happy life.

Yep!! If you don’t appreciate what you have. When they change their mind. There’s no turning back.

Nej puas paub tias hmoob cai ces yog dev npua cai xwb na tsis muaj qab haus lis os

Yes, you did a good job very good. Hmong peoples need to learn about this story, Hmong law do not use any more.

Your ex husband could have gone to jail because you were under age and he was 24. Txiv neej siab phem li Koj niag txiv no nyuam qhuav ntxim tsis tau zog noj. Qhov zoo ces twb vim muaj nws tsim koj thiab Koj thiaj tu siab raws koj txoj kev npau suav mus kawm college. Yog nws hlub koj heev ntshe Koj ib sij ib tug me nyuam Koj twb tsis xaiv kev kawm. Be happy for what you e accomplished. I’m very proud of you.

Txiv dev Mas tsis sawv zoo thaum yus hlub tsis hlub thaum yus tsis aus Mas ua dev leg xwb.

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Peb hmoob ..mas ua tsis fares..rau peb cov ua ntxhais li o

Hmoob kev cai, yog kev cai ruam xwb na. Yeej Tsis muaj leej yuam tau koj ib sim neej na. Tus yuam tau koj ces yog tu taw phom ntshis rau koj xwb na.

ตอนอยู่ไม่เห็นค่า พอไปแล้วดันเห็นว่ามีค่า ผช.เห็นแก่ตัวจริงๆไม่เคยรักใครนอกจากตัวมันเอง

WOW! I'm so proud of you for making the sacrifice to stay when you needed to & pursued your education! You're an amazing person! I agree with you that Hmong's stupid rule of you paying to save their face is a bunch of BS! You're a good woman to pay them off, I would have resort to the law.

😭😭😭😭 Los Los kua muag li od me koj niam aw….

I absolutely love stories like this one because it gives us divorce/single mom to encourage ourselves to move forward to new beginnings instead of staying the this old lazy fast only chasing Low scums like himself. Thank you sister, you are a inspiration to the world.

He and his parents just wants that Masters degree money. Lol. Good for u sis! Came up from a horrible situation.

Sister, I’m so proud of you. I’m glad you moved on. Have a happy life!

"thov txim yav tas los kuv yuam kev", what an excuse. Intentional act is never a mistake. Mistake is when you don't plan, don't know, don't intend to do but it accidentally happened. This guy intended to screw around, abandon this lady, and married another wife. How can that be a mistake "yuam kev". Lady, this guy cried not because he loved you. Faked cry can be so believable. Any liar can cry and beg for forgiveness. Never believe the cry and beg of a an evil person.

Your ex-husband is an indecisive child. He only stops you because you have some education degrees and better than his 2nd wife. His family is wrong to ask for a refund, and so is yours. Glad you found love greater and moved on. You deserve better!!

Hmongs rules is just a mess up injustice rules just for men made up by men.

Zoo li koj kos ces mu rau dev dub aim qhov quav xwb ma lov yog thuam hmoob npaum kos na lov

Hmong law will never work for women because it’s kwv Tig (men) and neej Cha (men). Men support men. In situations like this I wish there were “Women representation” but instead help give fair trial for women, wives are afraid to talk because wives bring shame to our husband or neej Cha. So sad….😢

You did good I am so proud of you

Koj ua Yog dhau lawm. Be strong

Zoo siab os niam laus. I’m so happy for u for standing up for urself. Nobody knows the pain expect for u. So glad for u.

Hnubno peb nyob muaj nom muaj tswv es uacas nej pheej yuav hais ntawm hmoob ua tus dabtsi? Hahahaha

Xaiv tus hlub yus yeej zoo tshaj... tus hlub yus thiaj paub yus sab, yus mob, yus nkees, thiab yus chim...

Me niam hluas kuv twb nias lub tswb rau koj lwm es thov koj pab nias raukuv thiab nawb

Dev liam ces yog dev liam.

Wow! Absolutely satisfying story to listen to. It's worth every minute of it. So proud of you, sister! I wish every miserable marriage out there has a happy ending like yours!

Great story!!!

Because you have a degree that’s why he wants you to stay tuvivncaus….cold heart man….so proud of you..Hmong people is all about faces

Cov kwv tij quav dev xwb tsis tas mloog2 li os ua li yus ua tau xwb txhob kk lawv lawv tsis yog tus khwv yus noj tsis tau k kiag

Don't lump the rest of us in with your ex b/c you chose to be in an abusive relationship

There’s no justice in the Hmong system. Don’t fall for it!

niam laus kuv mloog kj cov dab neeg thov kuv quaj quaj li xwb es pua kam tham kuv neej rau kuv mloog thiab o

No need to deal with Hmong people. Divorce him and his family and move on to find someone who will love you…glade that you did. I support your decision and lecturing the 2 clans what they said to you, sister. Bad culture practices 👎! Wish you the best…!

IHMOGOB PHALAVej

👍👍👍👍👍zoo heev li.

Sister, you don’t meditate through Hmong people, there’s no justice in the Hmong system. If you are a woman, you lose no matter the situation. We seek justice in western court!

Tus txivneej ko siab phem limhiam dhau es npam nws kom txhob tau zoo neej xwb. Yog nws tsis hloov ces thaum tuag los tsis muaj pojniam ua ntees.

What NOT corrupt about Hmong kev cai? You’re expecting justice and rightnesses from a group that allowed him to have two wives? Everyone all of a sudden have something to say when they can get some money lol

You should of said your leaving to love yourself not to find someone to love you. But I’m so proud of you for finally leaving him and love yourself.

He crying because he gonna lose a good wife with high education plus all those $$$$😂😂😂

Tau mloog thib ib lawm lau cov phooj ywg aw.

Never be reborn as a Hmong woman.

Sister you doing good job. But you let the old g push you to the edge. Their is not law you have to reimbursement to your mother and father inlaw , that bushey stupidly forces you.

Koj niag txiv qub ces ua li tej laus hais os suav cwj ntas ob tog plam li tej lau nej hniaj hais dab neeg ntag laub yom nyuam qhuav cua kom nws Txhob muaj ib lub neej kom tag tiam no mas

Nws khuv xim koj Daimler degree

So happy for you sister, your ex doesn't deserve you

You put yourself in that situation

Wow . good story

Mloog tib ob lawm o

WOW! This is karma for real table does turn around.

Omg hmong law gives me a headache. Smh

Bravo !!!!!

Your in law know they going to loose someone like you. So they have to put a act to see if you can come back.

Good job sister

🎉nrog koj tusiab kawg uas koj yuav tau ib tug txiv dev txiv aub neeg siab tsiaj xwb es ntshe koj yog neeg npam pob kavtsij nrauj kiag xwb mas we are in the usa not in laos anymore girl.

👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

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Ib peb yog kuv nawb

So glad you found your worth and all that you deserve in a blessed life. All the rest don't matter. His gift box he gave to you as a wedding gift was a reflection of his own failure as a husband and hopefully, a closure to his guilty conscience. Turns out his guilty conscience is still lingering like a bad taste in his mouth that he can't rid of. And here you are, moved on in life. Doesn't matter who you are, always stand up for yourself and what feels right for you so that you can live a life worth living. You owe it to yourself.

Wow!!! What a sad 11 years life with your ex. But happy for you found a happiness life.

Usually and normally, in our Hmong culture only the person at fault would pay something to settle a problem. The fact that both your husband's clan and your clan agreed for you to pay was something. Sounds like there was something hidden on your part - I'm not saying you are totally at fault but it's more like "zoo sib xws". You paid because you wanted to get out and probably not enough cause for you to leave. In real life if we are totally innocent we and our clan wouldn't settle for what is not right.

tu me ntxhai aw txoj cai ko nw tsi yog hmoob txoj cái os yog koj cov niag neej tsa npua ruam noj xua txoj cai xwb os hmoob txoj cai tiag2 tsi coj li ko lawv hai tia koj tham hlua nraug es lawv muab koj nplua lo kho neej tsa thiab kho kwv tij no es lawv pua muab tau tu hlua nraug koj tham ntawd maj koj cov niag neej tsa ruam noj quav ko thiaj li cia koj niag txiv dev ntawd cov niag kwv tij nplua koj xwb os ! cov niam txiv neej liam li koj niag qub txiv dev ntawd ce ua li koj ua ko rau xwb thiaj yog hauj lwm xwb ntag qhov nw tig lo khuv xim koj ce twb yog koj kawm ntawv tag koj tau hauj lawm zoo nw paub tia nw rov lo yuav ce nw yuav tau nyiaj siv thiab nw yuav tau nqaij tau mov qab2 lo tawg plab tsau no es thiab ủa txuj quaj nw cov niag kua muag cuav thiaj lo li ko xwb mua koj txiav txim siab yog lawm nrog koj zoo siab rau koj lub neej tshiab 👍👍👍👍👍

If i were u i would never pay them. You married him for 10+ years, gave him a child, lived with them, cooked and cleaned for them. The dowry money was worth the time u lived and suffered for them already. But i know u only did it to ua twm them too.

Your ex-husband is harassing you. Stay away from him as far as you can.

Example of NAS

Ua neeg nyob tsis txhob khaus2 ces thiaj tsis yuam kev.

What a waste of 10 years of your life to live with a husband that holds someone else in their bed every night, I feel so bad for you. It must of been so lonely and sad. I’m glad you have moved on and found someone who deserves your love.

Glad you stand-up for yourself😂😂😂😂