You’re NOT Stupid, It’s Your Academic Flop Era | How to Get Better Grades in 2023 

Today, I reached a low. Im just tired physically and mentally. On top of that, im tired of feeling tired. I don't know what to do so i'm coming here. I find comfort in knowing I'm not alone. Good luck to anyone who is also struggling.

1. make tough choices 2. think strategically 3. develop a growth mindset

When I was a kid…no one and I mean NO ONE loved learning mor then me. Covid hit and that all went downhill. Family drama didn’t help. I am disappointing younger me. I DESPERATELY need to take it seriously. I LOVE school so much and it makes me sad to see I’m just throwing time away instead of lifting myself up. Today on my 16th birthday I am ADAMANT to fix all this bullshit and get on with my life PROPERLY.

gosh that "It was easier to handle emotionally if I failed because I wasn't trying than to fail despite trying" spoke to my soul... been there! I had to resit my entrance exams and I am now a 4th year med student in my home town in Athens, Greece! Never give up!!

When she said " ITS OUR EDUCATION SYSTEM THAT MADE US BELIEVE THAT WE ARE NATURALLY SMART " it hit home cause I think we all made it a part of our identity to be academically gifted and then suddenly the reality hits like a truck when we all enter uni because we see that everyone is the " THE SO CALLED SMART STUDENT WHICH U WERE TOLD THAT YOU ARE AND SUDDENLY THERE ARE SO MANY OF THEM LIKE YOU OR BETTER THAN YOU" and we suddenly go into a whole identity crisis because our "SMART" isn't enough to pass the exams like in scl ... Oh man this video was seriously eye-opening

I really related to your “smart kid but when you failed, you thought that you had already reached your peak so everything goes downhill from there” experience. Took a leave of absence from uni for 3 semesters because of burn out and fear of my last year at school, thinking that I hadn’t really learned anything at all. I was always scared of people finding out i’m a fraud and that the smart girl they knew is actually just really average. Got impostor syndrome bc i got into my country’s top uni, then realized how big the world is and how naturally smart some people are. Then i didn’t even know how to study because i never needed to in high school, so i got shit grades in uni. Now, i can’t say that i’m not afraid anymore or that i’ve turned into a more driven person, but i’m trying to implement this growth mindset now that i’m going back to uni. Instead of focusing on the fact that I failed, I need to focus on why I did and what I could do better. I need to actually make use of the consultation hours of my professors. Instead of memorizing, i need to understand why. Loved the video! Thanks for sharing

Your video popped up to me at the best time. I was a straight A student in secondary school and now that I'm in A-levels I can't seem to get it. It's like I've lost my "magic" and I feel as though I'll never make it and that everyone who ever doubted me was right. You showed me that it isn't the end and I can still get up again, thank you so much and I wish you well on your journey through medicine. My dream is to one day become an Emergency Room doctor.

I am currently in freshman year and literally in my flop era, I needed this right now, thank you

"you're not stupid, it’s your academic flop era ", the title couldn't have been more resounding for me. As someone who was also labelled as a smart child since primary schools it has always been inbuilt for me to perform academically better. The first 2 years of my college year went really nice then starting 3rd year i failed both my 5th and 6th semester and it was such a blow that i found it really hard to accept that fact. The worst fact was that I actually worked very hard for them. I had studied the hardest in my life an still getting such results it felt just like how you explained, that i had already peaked academically and there's only downfall from now on, from being annoyed seeing a C on my mark-sheet to straight up seeing Ds and Fs have been a terrible experience. It wasn't that i gave up but I stopped trying for a while and let go because working hard didn't seem to have meaning anymore. It just felt unlucky to experience that, cause i clearly worked hard . Right? But thankfully I've started to get out of the slump. and watching this video and reading all the comments of people experiencing the same thing have made me feel a bit more understood and relieved a part of my worries. So huge thank you to you and also to every other comments on here. i just want to say all of you that you all will surely get over the slump you are currently facing. No matter the amount of odds you are facing, you got this and you will definitely rise up victorious. Everyone, we are bound to be successful💪💪❤‍🩹❤‍🔥

I have been in my flop era for 2 years and I'm not used to it... it's a continuous cycle of academic depression...u seem to get better but then u fall back again... u call yourself unworthy and undeserving of love because of your grade, u loose ur motivation...it's a rough time but hey!! If you're reading this, don't stop moving on, constantly appear for ur exams even if your feeling down, prepare as much as you can and at the end of the day be proud of being so strong...I swear many give up before attempting and even if u did bad, you should be proud that you did it...ur suchha strong babie and ur gonna be ok!! Everything will fall into place and u will see it all assembling itself into its place, everything will make sense....u my love, just have to keep pushing through, keep going!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️✨️

I actually went looking for this video coz honestly I'm starting to doubt whether I'll make it to my graduation😭 All throughout primary and secondary school i was one of the 'smart' kids who didn't need to put in too much effort but uni is seriously humbling me. I'm in my 3rd yr and the smart girl exterior is slowly but surely cracking and despite trying my best it just isn't cutting it anymore. This coming year I'm hoping to really turn things around for myself coz i am done letting myself down! Clearly I'm not the pull-an-all-nighter girlie so disciplining myself into studying throughout the semester it is🙃 Success and well wishes to anyone in the same boat as me we got this!!

I never cry while watching videos or movies. But i bawled while watching this. Thank you so much Faye. You have no idea how grateful i am to you for this video. YOURE SO SLAY LOVE YOU

I literally cannot believe I failed in physics (it's so embarrassing to even say it here, its my first time ever failing) and just got marks in chemistry and I got zero (I asked for a recheck i'm so frickin nervous) I really don't wanna cry and actually do smth about it and then I see this. lets hope I do it right this time edit. the teacher said the answer was correct but there was some silly mistake and strict checking so still zero :/ but there's like another test next week and guess who's gonna try her best to ace? I will make 2023 my academic year. i just will. UPDATEEE : i got 20/20 in listening skills (me being the only one from my class B]) ANDDD I THINK I'LL GET ABOVE 4 IN CHEM THIS TIME LIKE I LITERALLY DIDNT SLEEP BUT WHATEVER (I got a 5.5!!! now i swear I'll work harder and get full in chemistry on this week's test) GUYS UPDATE!!!! I GOT 8.5 OUT OF 9 IN THE RECENT CHEMISTRY TEST AND 6.5/10 IN PHYSICS!!! (I know not the best but we getting thereee^^) update pt. 2 : so like i've always loved math and well, in the last two tests i got full score. my math final is the day after tomorrow (overmorrow i suppose?) and idk why i'm just not studying i think i am getting overconfident? idk my friend called me and was like you'll get good marks you always have even in the last tests you did great...but idk i feel like i'm getting some kind og god complex and i need help to change it and actually study idk how edit. physics exam in a few hours and i'm so scared i really hope it goes well UPDATE!! OH MY GOD ITS FINALLY THE RESULTS OF THIS ACADEMIC SESSION TOMORROW I'D BE LYING IF I SAID I'M NOT SCARED. I'M TERRIFIED ACTUALLY, ESPECIALLY FOR MY MUM I REALLY HOPE IT ALL GOES ALRIGHT LIKE I DO THINK (WANT) I'LL GET ABOVE 80 PERCENTAGE BUT AAARGGGHH I'M SCARED LETS HOPE FOR THE BEST so probably the last update,, but i got 82.16% in this grade. and i wouldve been happy like atleast my sleepless nights paid off but you know what? i got a freakin 18/30 in english practical (which includes the listening skills i was talking about + speaking skills) like i was so happy but for what?! to be disappointed? idk i'm really pissed and not very proud of myself i just...i just feel like i couldve been better if i tried harder but honestly, i'm not so sure anymore i really am not i thought i'd be happy but argh nevermind i got 18/20 💀💀 i'm just stupid LAST FR I SWEAR IM SO SORRY BUT I THINK ITS THE 2ND HIGHEST IN MY FREAKIN' CLASS ARGDKXHDKD also,,, 12th grade is hard it's the second day and I'm having a breakdown (tho it's for a completely different reason but connected :,]) well no one asked but since i saw this again today i'm gonna update again until the finals hehe (i'm super nervous and this makes me feel accountable for some reason) and since a super kind person replied here which made me realise i had commented smth like this ajahsksj anyways. so i saw my marks today (the coincidence) and to say i need to work hard again in physics is an understatement but i will. i frickin' will. i got 34/70 (i know bad bad bad) it's not like i got really good marks in other subjects but still better than this so imma have to work hard this time

been bawling my eyes out because for years I haven't been able to regain my academic drive when all I want in life is to succeed and further my education and become a lawyer but I've just been feeling so lost and unmotivated and I really needed to hear this. I hope I can improve and make myself proud in time for my GCSEs. every time I've applied to sixth forms I constantly get the horrible thought that I will never succeed and it's just tiring. I just want to prove to myself that I'm not wasted potential but it's so hard to do that when it's been all I've been feeling and all I've been told for the past 2 years. I just want to better myself but it's so hard sometimes. I honestly needed this and I genuinely bawled like a child at the end

Thanks for sharing ❤ It is so easy to doubt ourselves, but that should never stop us 👍🏻

Honestly, the positivity in this video is amazing, emotional detachment from failures so key!!!

this video literally popped on my feed on the day I needed it the most. I am so grateful to you, Faye

Ohmygod , this video made me feel so seen and it's so helpful . The growth mindset part made me cry because I finally stopped feeling so alone and feeling like there's no way out of this rut . Thank you so much for this 🥺❤️

This video truly came at the most perfect time.. thank you for sharing your experiences with us, Faye. I've felt so alone for long and I've found it difficult to open up about this. Your video has allowed others to share their experiences and I realize that there are so many of us that resonate and have felt this way. Thank you for being the older sister we all need.. providing us with comfort, inspiration and encouragement. So proud of you for pushing through and for making it as far as you have! Much love, Faye

This was so comforting and motivating. Thank you!

Watching this after failing my med school entrance exam really helped me got through it emotionally, thank youuu!! I hope this year i could be like you

thank you for this video, I really needed it. im in year 13 and my grandma just passed away leaving me clueless about absolutely everything. I am determined to do well because I NEED the academic validation and this video made me feel like getting the grades I need is still possible

Thank you for this video ❤ The timing of it , could not have been any better♥️

Hey girl you are next level motivation ❤ thanks for existing . I m in third year med school and I relate a lot to you

This video came to me as a miracle. I needed to hear it so bad because i am struggeling with my grades and my motivation and i feel like i am not good enough. I already knew these tips but hearing it from your point is what gehts me trough it. Thank you so much Faye

My phone is most definitely listening in on my convos lol. I was talking to a friend earlier today about not doing well in school and not getting the grades I needed for medicine. I also have to retake the entrance exam soo many times. Glad your vid was recommended to me by the YT algorithm. I’m trying to get into graduate entry med and that GAMSAT is kicking my ass lol. I keep trying, because trying is the only thing I can do. Thankfully, I did a lot better in my undergrad and got the grades I needed. Got diagnosed with ADHD midway through and that cleared a bunch of things up. Stopped comparing myself to others, and questioning why I couldn’t be like them, or do as much as they seem to do in a day, etc.

currently doing my mocks and what you said at the end really got to me, about giving up and feeling overwhelmed by everything. I chose this fate, I'm doing four and I did an EPQ last year. too much work that I feel has 'ruined me' in a way, but I am determined to persevere and get the grades I want.

This video literally came at the time where I most needed it .This made me feel more motivated because I was literally so stressed and anxious about my grades that I felt worthless .But after watching I realised that it wasn't me who was wrong it was my study methods and tactics .Thank you so much Faye.

Get well soon faye love youuu💗

i found this video at the perfect time, i used to be really good at school but rn i'm struggling a lot, it makes me feel like a failure and i'm convinced that i'm stupid, even though i study hard. you made my day and now i have a little more hope. thank you for this, i will try your method

You're a kind hearted person its so cute. I wish you all the best and hope everything goes your way !

I rarely sit through studying videos like this because they always seem so perfect, like they’ve never struggled or flopped even once. Your video really resonates with me. I am also doing A Levels, and despite doing well for my GCSEs, I’m struggling a lot right now. Everything feels like a total mess and I can’t keep anything together. I can’t help but keep comparing my current self to my younger self: have I became more stupid or more lazy? Am I worse than I was before? This video really got me to jump out of that thinking and to accept that despite flopping, this is still a part of me and part of growth and eventually, everything will be ok. You really made me feel hopeful for the future despite the mess I’m in right now. Thank you.

In my flop era, I failed two papers despite having pitting more effort than I did before and it's really been getting to me where I'm starting to think thoughts like, no matter how much I grovel I will never get there. I think detaching myself from my failures has been the best piece of advice fron this. I have a huge wave of exams coming up October onwards and I don't want to be overwhelmed and stuck anymore. Here's to revisiting this comment with a different standpoint. Thank you Faye ❤

you have no idea how much this video helped me. I have been feeling like a failure for quite sometime now, and hearing this from you that it's not me but it's my ways that are making it hard for me to achieve what I want to and I just need to change my habits and my ways of studying. Thank you so much. This is the first video of yours that I'm watching but I intend to be your active follower! Keep it up Dr. Faye!

i failed a midterm last semester and barely passed two of my classes after my finals. now i'm in my second semester and i realized that my fear of the soul-crushing disappointment i felt after failing DESPITE studying last semester has kept me from reaching my academic goals :( i'm struggling with a few classes and i've been putting off work/not trying hard enough because i felt so hopeless and stupid. this video could not have come at a better time gosh. hearing advice from someone who has hit a low point in their life and visibly worked so damn hard to turn their life around is incredibly special to witness and i am forever changed. i am sobbing so hard right now lmao but i can't thank you enough for this faye ily !!! :')

"It was easier to handle emotionally if I failed because I wasn't trying than to fail despite trying". Unfortunately, I still subconsciously do this all the time. I tried to get into medical school twice and didn't make it. Now I'm in pharmacy school because I thought it was close enough, but apparently the universe wanted me to see this video and call me out. Thank you for sharing your story in such an honest way.

Year 2 of uni, 2nd round of exams in biological sciences and I am living in the peak flop era. Burnout is at its max as i barely got to rest over Xmas and I have never been so unmotivated in my life. Exams are less than two weeks away and apart from feeling like I don’t know anything, I also don’t know how to revise anymore. However, this seems to happen at all my exams and somehow I get through okay. So I’m on a mission to watch a few more of your vids to motivate me for the final push (over the next 2 weeks) to stop being so scared and get on with it. So thanks for your vids, they really do help people 💗💗

thx u! as a first time watcher (i’m american), i’m glad i’m not alone. I’m currently in my flop era and feeling very burnt out. i spent the better half of my 1st yr in college finding a way to study and i still couldn’t get it. I keep falling into procrastination and negativity habits. Starting my second yr in a few weeks and i’m glad i stumbled onto this video❤

I was so caught of guard when you ended the video with saying “I’m sorry” it actually made me tear up, its hard to relate to people and it felt like you know exactly what i am going through. Makes me feel not as alone as i thought i was. Thanks Faye, I appreciate this sm

Thank you so much for this video queen. I myself am currently in an academic slump didn’t do so well in my first semester in medical school classes and also got out of a toxic 4 year relationship. Your video gave me the motivation to push forward and know that I am not alone and it will get better. Sending you lots of love from Miami ❤

Thanks Faye! The confidence is everything... I'm also writing utme exams. Fingers crossed!

the last point is exactly how i feel. I took bio, chem and history alevels and chem is crazy, my teacher told me that if i don’t start getting As soon then i have no chance in going to med school (i’m currently on Cs) i felt totally defeated but i’m improving and the hope is coming back😭thanks faye❤️

I love you, I was you before and I had to move cities due to family reasons and I lost my spark for a year, I WANT TO BE LIKE THIS AGAIN! I literally feel like you made me remember who I was and changed my life in such a good way, THANK YOU VERY MUCH !!! Today has been SO SO IMPORTANT FOR ME OH MY GOSH :)) Let me update daily what’s going on in my life from now on here, I feel like since I don’t have any support system this’ll be very helpful :))

Thank you so so much Faye❤I used to be first in my class before the pandemic. Fast forward into the future, I am still recovering from a period of depression and the trauma I got from bad grades because of "friends" who made fun of me. This year I am studying Law in Pretoria, SA thanks to listening to amazing people like you.

Thank you Fay, im from the U.S and trying to get into the a nursing Program, I will take this advice. I dropped out of uni because i basically flopped first semester. I’m definitely usining these techniques.

This video came at the perfect time, I’ve been particularly struggling with maths and it’s been my dream for ages to go to Cambridge uni and that dream felt so far away but this video has really helped me! Thank you so much for that ❤️

thanks for this faye! definitely needed this as a boost to keep me going study-wise :)

And your video actually related to what im experiencing at the moment. Thanks so much for the encouragement.😊

You’re so inspirational and loving ❤

I really thought I was alone when it came to this and currently at the verge of tears this helped so much thank you

faye thank you so much, was definetely close to tears in chemistry today and this is what i needed - every word in point number 3 really resonated with me xoxxo

I literally cried when you started talking about how your academic flop area impacted you mentally. I could not relate more to your situation, thank you for your kind words.

Thank you so much for sharing this Faye 💕 You are so right with this! Growth Mindset is the Way to turn things around💯 Throughout secondary school, I was an A student and I got straight As in my Diploma exams but then got my first F ever in my 1st year in university. I was so deflated and felt like I wasn't so smart after all...My only regret is I stayed in that place too long. But I know better now and I am working with a Growth Mindset and I am seeing the results🌟💫😁

Thankyou…your last lines in the video were very comforting

You really helped me alot with this video. I just finished crying my eyes out not understanding why I’m falling school so much this term. Thanks a lot💗

I donno I just needed this. How did this popped up at the most perfect time? I did pass the whole day thinking about giving it all up. I have my board exam in 3 months and my head was about to explode overthinking that I’m not good enough to get a good result .I was feeling like the people who ever doubted me was right probably. I was literally crying the shitt out of me and a lot more. Thanks for this though

I feel like you're an older sister guiding me, love youuu

omg thank u so much! this video literally has changed the way I view a lot of things now. I was crying so much like a few days ago with struggling with one of my courses.

Buddy, you are a warrior...keep moving and all the best for future endeavours.

Your voice is so healing❤️

This video really made me cry, thank you for this incredible video!

currently in my flop era and really needed this, thank you so much

Thank you Faye! your videos always come up at times I reallly need them :)

Thank you, this was reassuring to hear. So great to see how all your work paid off ❤

After watching this video, it was like it was made for me. Thank you so much for making this video I realized i just wasnt trying after all my past failures, and that there is still hope

The timing of the video is impeccable🤌🏾 I NEEDED THIS‼️

thank you for this video sm

Have had this video saved in my "Watch later" folder for a while now. It came onto my feed when I was at my lowest and had no willpower to leave my slump. I'm 17 in 11th year now, my results will get me into uni so playtime is f*ed up.😅 It is currently 01:35 AM and never have I ever been so grateful to whatever force that FORCED me to watch this video today. You helped me realize that my study method is the problem. Luckily, we are on break so I have about 3 weeks to research, improve and practice these new methods. We relate so much- especially on the "smart kid" label. God bless your gracious heart, Faye. So grateful for you! xoxo 💗

i really really needed this i resonate with your story so much, thank you for this video faye, your'e amazing!!

you comforted me so much, thank you 🥺

Best video I’ve seen in a while, needed this girl thank you🙏

This is exactly what I needed at the moment, perfect timing

Thank You!! Really needed this.

i`ve never felt more held heartwarming motivational and raw ❤

I'm at lost for words....I thought it couldn't be fixed, thank you so so much Faye ♥♥

I'm so happy I saw this in my youtube homepage cause I'm struggling currently with the fact that I need to improve in school in a less than a year at school so I can get to the school I wanna go. I think this gave me some motivation to do it since I'm not even that far away from my goals. Even tho it is hard I want to do it because it will affect in the future rest of my life. Thank you for making this video and helping others.

That’s my current situation ,i’ve been feeling like shit in every possible way and this really helped me thank you so much

Absolutely needed this video. Thank you so so much. This came at the perfect time and you have motivated me so much. ❤️❤️

thank you so much for this video! i needed that so much right now - i'm in my 2nd year of med school and really feel like a reached my potential and can't do more... please more videos on how you study in med school! i could really use them:))

Thank you so much! ❤ I am currently at the beginning stages of my nursing school journey.

this video helped me get 3 a’s and 2 b’s so thank you so much for helping me out

This had been the story of my life. Thank you so much💗

Really great video Faye, seriously I've watched a lot of study videos and I think this is the best.

Thank you for this video. I just got my first 4/8 on a test. As someone used to getting top marks, it really hurts. Adopting a growth mindset is essential for when you hit a roadblock, don’t give up just because of a few failures, you can do this ❤

Thank u Faye!!! This is extremely helpful💛🙏

Ty for this video and sharing your story. This video hit me close to home, because I went through a very troubling period during A levels, but just knowing that someone out there in the world went through the same struggles I did, and came out stronger than ever is really motivating. I am taking my A levels again this year, and I loved all your advice!! To everybody else reading, you got this!! 💪

I just wanna say THANK YOU! This was the video i needed.

I literally have my physics final exam coming next week and I’m stressing so much. Thank you!

It feels good to know I am not alone. I struggled a lot academically my second semester of college (this past spring), Fall Semester grades were decent and I expected improvement but I fell short of those Expectations. Coming out of spring semester I still carried those negative thoughts and feelings. Hoping to take classes In Summer (now today the summer semester has ended) to hopefully fix some of the past damage and I feel somewhat better, The two online classes I had taken, resulted in One passing mark and the other failing mark. The failing mark sucks especially because It was history, a subject that I was familiar and fond of. Another hit to my gpa, But Now I understand What I did Wrong, What works for me, How I can be more strategic in planning.... etc. Learning is a process with its fair share of accomplishments and setbacks. But let's keep trying, I know I will! Failure can make us feel as if we are unworthy but We aren't. It is going to be okay, slowly but surely. :) -updates in fall semester possibly

Girl i really needed this ! THxxx 😭

Thank you for sharing! I need a growth mindset!

Thank you sm for this, I really need all the help I can get since my GCSES are in a couple of months 😭😭

I needed this I be been depressed crying almost every day Feeling like a failure 😞 Thanks I see light at the end of the tunnel now😊

I'll only say that I love you Faye, you inspire me so much ❤️

I really needed this, i am going through a lot and all the things that you said in this video just made me feel a lot better, you just gave me a hope that i can do better and i should keep pushing through, i hope one day i will achieve all my goals and dreams, thank you a lot.

you are absolutely amazing!!! thank you!!! 💗💗

This is everything. Thank you for this. Faye, you have saved my life more than once ❤

this was recommended at exactly the right time, thank you

Thank you for this video. I needed it

Thank you so much Faye, this really gave me a new insight on my educational journey😘😘Hope I follow through